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8inchcable, I’ve been in the lifestyle 7yrs I’ve been on SLS 5 yrs total. This is my third stint. Played in multiple states. Different countries. I have yet to come across profile belonging to a couple/single female, that states BBC of any…
EroticAmazon, When a profile says “No BBC”. Are they saying no to black men or no to black men with large penises? When a profile says “No BWC”. Are they saying no to white men or no to white men with large penises. I am not lumping things…
Queen of Spades Does denote a preference for black men. However, using “King/Queen of (insert derogatory term of the ppl you’re trying associate with)” praises you (King/Queen) and degrades them. Many of the terms used in swinging are from…
That “Queen of Spades” mess is equally stupid. In my opinion.
Vabeachcouple, Initially I was responding to CopNKitten. It seems they mistook my statement and stated the following: "If black men are BBC, then all black men have large dicks." not true in my experience. also not true that white men don'…
Vabeachcouple, No one’s arguing. Do you feel that way?
Let’s make it more clear. If a profile says no BWC. Are they saying no to white men or no to white men with large penises?
CopNKitten.... that’s the point I was trying to make. If you label, call or refer to black men as simply BBC, which is the stereotype, then you’re implying that all black men have large dicks. BBC just stands for big black cock, an appenda…
“Wife wants a _______(well endowed/hung/above average) black man.” Any of those terms would fit and are suitable. Or you can go the numbers route. “Wife is interested in black men, with 8 or more inches.” Using the term BBC just solidifies…
Yes it was a blunder. He could have propositioned the question better, but it is a valid and interesting question. From my experiences, people have their preferences. There’s nothing you can do to change that. If someone chooses not to edu…
Looking at their actions, the site is the least of their concerns. The company that owns this website has more interest in the app and it’s functionality. As long people keep signing up for these travel and cruise vacations, they will cont…
Can anyone update their location of their profiles? I’ve been trying for the past two days with no outcome.
To all of you, SLS is not the lifestyle. So don’t judge it as such. It’s just a site used to connect like minded ppl. There are other sites that may be more to your liking that are lifestyle oriented. SLS is more conservative than the othe…
To Cuddle, I hope you weren’t paying thinking it was going be an orgy and open legs at every turn???? But if you work it right, you could find yourself in the thick and thin of those types of scenarios/events. The site is all about present…
To MegaCab, It would be nice to get a reply but even in our daily lives we don’t respond to every email that comes in our inbox. I personally know a female that has over 200 messages in her inbox (SLS) right now and she’ll tell you it’s ov…
To Papi, SLS isn’t primarily a hook up site. P*F or T^nd4r would be better options for that. However “hooking up” does happen in the lifestyle, considering that the lifestyle encompasses many aspects of sexual interaction. But it is not wh…
To YoungBully, That “button” would be of some use. Other sites, I use, have what they call standard letters or generic messages that are created or can be created to answer emails. Many of them have the “not interested” message in their li…
Went to add some info to my profile in the “about you” section. Went to hit finish and wound up with a blank screen that only refreshed to a blank screen. The statement about waiting 24 to 48hrs was nowhere in sight. Neither was an earlier…
As a single male, I find that there’s no need to put yourself into a “couple’s situation”. You’re better off sinking or drowning by yourself than to add a date to the mix. These are just some ways a date can negatively impact you when conn…
Mayhem8 for most parties, as a single male, you have to be escorted by a couple or have a date. Others allow males to enter at higher price of entry. In the first scenario, it may come off as disrespectful if an escorted male interacts wit…
Playing as a single male is a dynamic but here are few things I’ve learned. 1. When going to swinger clubs ALONE, dance. Most men don’t. Don’t be pushy. Be courteous and respectful. 2. Couples want Couples. The phrase “SM need/must bring a…
TTV, the note about my play partner doesn’t do anything much lol. But direct traffic. From what my play partner and I have discovered is that if a couple views my profile, sees that blip, and then views her profile; they are more than like…
I'm pretty sure I disagree. I have people in my life that I've known through swinging since 2002 and generally tend to form some tight bonds, albeit with boundaries, with regular playmates. -GGMM I think we’re agreeing. I do believe in bei…
EroticAmazon has a very strong point. This is just sex. Pure, fun, unadulterated, consensual sex. When you begin looking to make those strong connections and find yourself vulnerable, you open yourself up to myriad of consequences. You’re…
From my standpoint, I go into a couple’s situation keeping one thing in mind: I’m not there to change or replace. It’s that simple. Neither am I there to be counselor to their issues. Personal problems are not my concern in that regard. I…
RonKathy I don’t see how he’s so miserable. He has his lovely starfish to blow smoke at and and he has a cool dirt bike. That’s living the life. I wouldn’t say the guy is miserable, he’s challenged. Let’s not make it sound worse than it re…
Bridgetender that’s a peculiar situation, that sounds eerily familiar with my run in with 888eatme888 when my screen name was “HungVet” and I would sign my post “HV”. Allen got into a tiff and insinuated that I used my perceived size and m…
If it’s a must that you play in every sexual encounter, someone may take objection to that and say that you never give your wife the opportunity to explore on her own without you and vice verse. - original Vs There was an objectionable ass…
I am so glad my wife isn’t one of those self serving females. -888eatme888 You call them “self serving females” but that’s only your perspective in regards to you and your wife’s preference of playing. Someone else can say the same for hus…
“ Having a female with you in that situation, actually hurts you because the husband is only interested in her fun, not his own.” -Allen Vs Having a female with you in that situation, actually hurts you because the wife is only interested…
With an SF, they can both play, but that also doesn't seem fair. Would seem obvious that the female half likes dick, seeing as how they married one (myself included ;-) - mayhem8 That’s assuming the SF is bicurious/bisexual, if she’s not,…
The remedy to being successful as a “single guy” is to be a “couple” essentially, is what’s being said. And I can back TheVeteranTraveler, I have heard that as a single male, I should bring a female to exchange. However that thinking does…
“ they're looking to borrow someone's woman with nothing to give in return.” He actually went there. Wow. It looks like it’s a major problem if hubby doesn’t get any, when a single male is involved. But is it a problem if hubby gets and th…
And we’re not solely speaking on her, we’re speaking on them as a couple. “those of African American descent” is what’s mentioned in their profile. Not just black men, but a entire group of ppl, females included. So if they’re complaining…
Do you feel entitled to an equal opportunity to fuck a woman regardless of her preferences? No
I have a playmate but I still play as a single male. Her and I attend parties and play together when we can. To clarify, I added a piece about that in my profile so others will know. However playing as a couple is not my first option, cons…
888eatme888, Your question is a damned one. Damned if you say yes, and damned if you say no. Which explains why you only wanted a yes or no, trying to corner a response. In regards to their profile what do you think would happen in these s…
888eatme888, TheTravelVeteran summed it up. If the color of my skin disqualifies me from being seen as a person first, then it is racist. If I were to create two identical profiles, and labeled one as Caucasian and the other African Americ…
Lacey, How do you dislike ppl that like to be in shape? Like how? Is that a reflection of your view of health and fitness? And again another profile showing signs of prejudices, racism and bigotry masked in personal preferences. Sexy is se…
Honestly there is zero reason for a single female not looking for encounters with other women (or a couple) to be in the lifestyle.- RusticMagic This statement floored me. Soooo.......You’re saying if a single woman is in the lifestyle, he…
RonKathy I get your point. The online presence is just an extension of the lifestyle. But unlike you and many others, many were brought on board through this extension and are now here. You rarely have those true organic connections anymor…
It’s largely due to greater societal norms, as well some hard wired differences between men and women.- Hotluvrs Most of those seem to fade away as the women get older. After dealing with life, careers, marriage, divorce, and who knows wha…
The flip side of that trainer is that a lot of guys identify solely as a dick. -Scamp Very true. But that’s also how some cpls and females view single men. That’s why you see size preferences in many of their profiles. For the most part, i…
I don’t think he was referring to dry spells in general. I think he was referring to dry spells in the LS of not meeting and playing with new ppl. Well at least i hope so.
Hotluvrs, That statement wasn’t aimed directly or partially at you. That was a general statement. I’ve personally ran into divorcées that were once married in the lifestyle, and their comments all echoed the same reaction. “It’s harder tha…
RonKathy I’ll explain. Because black men are fetishized as BBC, it becomes harder for them to break that stereotype to be seen as an individual. Many ppl in the lifestyle refer to black men as simply BBC. The connotation behind that name i…
So couples who call men of color BBC, are playing the race card as well I assume? Big Black Cock doesn’t equate to a man. I’ve had screen names such as HungVet and LongD before. Was I leading with my dick? I surely attracted ppl that were…
RusticMagic, The reason I would seek a single female, would be to appear non threatening. That’s why I have a play partner. Neither of us are into the bisexual women because it does nothing for us. She hates that many women in the lifestyl…
Hmm supply and demand. A social concept that affects what is needed or wanted, how it’s needed/wanted and who gets it. Economics at play. If we have as many husbands as we do wives, that being equal, why does the number of single males out…
RusticMagic, Why would a cpl seek a single female, especially at party, if there’s so much potential with a cpl?
Yes they are BUT....and it’s a big but,it’s a don’t call us we’ll call you. -ready2xxxperiment How many cpls meet the requirements they are seeking? Be honest. How many cpls truly standout? Both wife and husband. Single males must be: fit,…
It’s funny how this forum is falling in line with the other in the Better Websites. Single males are the scapegoats of the lifestyles. A single male with a female is baggage, but female without a male is a golden. A single male with iffy p…
If we’re talking about photos, can we figure out why the majority of cpls’ profiles have pics exclusively of the wife. If you’re suggesting that single males need to up their game, shouldn’t these couples up theirs and be more honest and u…
Friendlyandhorny, fair enough.
RonKathy you’re right. Selfies can give off those impressions. I don’t believe everyone can captivate like your photos do. I’m typically not the photogenic or picture taking type. Which I guess suits my character, bit hell who knows. I thi…
Friendlyandhorny, you can disagree fine by me. I have no quarrels, and you can see my profile pic is a selfie of me in my truck. lol Everyone has their preference of picture taking, some are better than others. Like your profile pic. An ob…
Another note on the four way dynamic. If it was as easy and great an many cpls profess, there wouldn’t be a need for singles. Cpls would connecting like wildflowers. But they aren’t. If you’re a cpl, do a search for cpls within a 50m radiu…
I think what Tops is trying to convey, is that women, in general, are the driving force in the lifestyle. Without women, single or married, the LS would be nothing. From what I can understand by his experiences, he’s come into contact with…
SJFun77, From what I’m reading and understanding, you’re getting these responses from the forum because you’re a contradiction. If “Its very obvious this isn't a priority right now for me neither.”, then why suggest, “All you have to do is…
I see that the events are up but the calendar doesn’t show all of the events happening on that particular day. For example, I’m attending a club party next Saturday, however that particular event is not shown on the calendar. Does anyone k…
They said they can add the events back on to the calendar. I don't know when they will get that done. -SLS Wayne It took 194 responses on this topic to get the one that mattered. I wonder how many responses is needed to get other changes d…
I remember K@sidie and S}C would send you notifications like that.
You do know that you’re trying to streamline the nuances of the lifestyle, Wayne, and not in a good way. A wife that plays separately, is considered a SF when she plays alone. The couple she plays with, views her as that. They aren’t inter…
Found it. Search event details: State Search for: NY Search in: Clubs Prime time Pendulum, NYC It’s the first to show. Hope that helps
If SLS is trying to be accurate, is it also going to prohibit profiles from seeing the profiles they’ve blocked? Wouldn’t that be accurate as well? If you block singles or couples from seeing your profile, you shouldn’t be able to see thei…
Wayne..... Who are the Developers??
This was mine... Hi, Thanks for your email, actually all upgrades are tested and work fine, but the testing was on the back end and worked properly, however when put into production there is a difference when millions are trying to use it,…
Ron&Kathy the posting issue is not on him. When submitting a posting, it loads a blank screen, while posting your post, unbeknownst to you. Before you know it you’ve submitted 4 posts with the same info
888, from what I’m seeing, I can only see through 10/24. However before this change, the calendar was practically full for my nearby area. Not being able to see any of those hotdates coincides with customers saying that their hotdates were…
It appears to me that the change to the HotDate calendar was a solution for the staff, in regards to policing hotdates that were being put up. HotDates will be reviewed by the staff. Just like photos and profiles are being done now. (a maj…
On top of that check your certs. There seems to be a change to that. Prior certs that were attached to your profile may not be now
I second the OP This site is horrendous and we have no one to direct the blame toward. I’m moving to SDC.
I agree with 888. It’s more than likely the guy buying the toy. Most women don’t like the feeling of being “open” so they stick to more efficient utilities. Toys with an ample size, efficient design for the job and added controls for varie…
Good catch on that Phoebert. Thank you
What goodgolly did was what I was eluding to earlier. She took something that was “relative” to her (her hands), and determined what 7in looked like. From her experiences, preferences and own perception 7in isn’t all that impressive. This…
hotluvrs, You’re probably right. I would be shaking my head in dismay if I take the time to read some of the male profiles. Yet we’ve established what that says about single males: uneducated about the lifestyle, tactless, crude, ignorant…
Personal experience: Most women don’t know size. Period. For the most part, size is relative. Depending on how she’s feeling, technique, preparation and a myriad of other variables, size for most women is a guess. I don’t know off too many…
As a single male you have to be a cut above the rest. You have to be someone intriguing and interesting to garner someone else’s time. I was coached by a couple when I started. One advice they told me is to “imagine every guy you see, in t…
I agree with @PhoebertandWife. One of the best ways to meet, is to attend the parties in your area and to get a feel of the people. Join a group if you have to. As a single male, the online route isn’t as friendly. People need to see the p…
Recently saw a discrepancy on my profile while using my mobile. So I decided to correct it on my laptop once I had the chance. When trying to update it on my laptop, the profile discrepancy didn't correct, yet when I tried on my mobile, it…
In the lifestyle, couples and females get a pass because the lifestyle is catered for them. You don’t necessarily have to have a well written profile or great pics to attract. If you’re a couple or female, it’s already game on. As a male,…
@hotluvrs So what’s said about the poorly created profiles of couples and single females? There seems to be a running theme of couples who only show the wife and not the husband, or profiles where the pictures either give a false represent…
@RonKathy I think that’s how it should be. Judge every individual as an individual. It’s only fair. What intrigues me is that I’ve had run ins with couples who push the same narratives, to get in good with others. I get the it. The lifesty…
I agree with MrTrainer, in that one bad apple spoils the bunch. But it seems as if that notion doesn’t affect other groups in the lifestyle. If a couple has a few bad experiences with other couples or females, they tend to relegate those b…
I agree with MrTrainer, in that one bad apple spoils the bunch. But it seems as if that notion doesn’t affect other groups in the lifestyle. If a couple has a few bad experiences with other couples or females, they tend to relegate those b…
That institution warning is quite a sad one. Once you upload your photos to the site, you lose that privilege because once uploaded, SLS owns the rights to those photos to do as they please. You’re at the mercy of the site and admin.
Good cues indeed
@catchynickname how I initially interpreted it, it seemed as if single males were still being able to send messages to you even though they were blocked. Hence my statement about admin and the desk oof the website. Thanks for clarification…
@catchynickname “Agreed, we block single males and still get buttload...” How is that possible if you block single males from viewing your profile? That falls on the admin and design of the site. You can’t just look up and email a profile…
Maximilian_Claire “single guys just don’t get it” Hell if I were to read off the types of emails I get from couples, it would sound as if “single guys” were emailing me. First emails “Wife likes what she sees. How big is your dick?” “Let m…
@Maximilian_Claire I have to disagree with that statement of “single guys just don’t get it”. @yeaokay pointed out two instances where she received poorly written emails. One from a single guy and one from a husband. What do they have in c…
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Goodgolly I don’t know what it is then. I assumed that having a glob for a profile was an issue but apparently it’s not the case on either phone or laptop. Thank you
PhoebertandWife Currently on my phone. I didn’t think about that to be honest. Thank you
PhoebertandWife Thank you for your suggestions. I’ve tried separating the info into paragraphs but SLS keeps putting them into one giant one. I’ll take a better look at those discrepancies.
RonandKathy Thank you for your input. My perception was to give a visual of what you would be expecting, with the clothes off, but adding a few photos of me in casual and dress attire wouldn’t hurt. And smiling photo wouldn’t hurt either,…
AndJinNNJ What awkward phrases did you find?
It’s that time again. I feel like my profile is good but it’s not garnering the attention I expected. I don’t know whether it’s too little or too much. Second to that, it could be the area. It’s not that open minded. Very conservative even…
-No close up of genitalia -No erections I’ll test your theory and see what SLS does
Is SLS allowing full nudity for men, in public galleries? Or is it just bad admin oversight? I’ve seen several profiles of couples that show the males bearing it all in the public gals. I know for the women, they can do as they please, but…
