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There is a lot in the poly lifestyle to digest. The reading and podcast recommendations are a good start, as is joining FetLife and finding munches. (FL can be a bit 'wild-west' with a lot of horny dudes treating it like a meat-market. Do…
Old thread but felt like chiming in. Re: "The Tough Guy Look" - yeah, don't like it. Neither of us. Maybe someone else does. But we could already tell the dude's going to be putting on an act all night and be absolutely no fun to chat with…
I am required by the Mrs. to have facial hair. Hehe. It started as just a goatee but graduated to full beard after the pandemic. But all my pics have facial hair so I would assume that if it were a turn-off, that would be the end of conver…
We usually tend to ask questions that give them the opportunity to open up: "So how long have you been in the LS?", "When did you decide the LS was right for you?", "Has there been any experience in the LS you liked?" Stuff like that. As f…
Old thread but I'll add: No, we don't "shave". We trim and clean up with an electric clipper if we know we're playing. But we're not waxed and not bald. While it might be sexy to many, the upkeep is a nightmare and leads to more problems (…
Maybe under 10 on my block list but it's typically all the same reason: profiles that completely out themselves as clearly inauthentic. Typically we just ignore any messages that are no-effort. But anytime someone just makes blind "pic req…
Attractive Couple is exactly what it says on the tin. They're both easy on the eyes. Cute couples are whatever they look like, but are generally very much a partnership, share the same quirks and seem to be a cohesive unit rather than just…
I just noticed that and I love it. It's also a good reminder we have to keep our pictures fresh. While it definitely won't stop people from just uploading old pics as "recent", it is a step in the right direction.
Everyone uses certs differently. But we pay almost no mind the number someone has or what has been said. To us, meeting in a public place for a vanilla date is the true and only indication if a couple is legit. It's really no bother to dri…
There's also an in-between step: open marriage. To me, swinging is something you do with your spouse/significant other only - even if you retire to separate rooms. When it's open, you may have a separate play partners, but there's no emoti…
Yeah, I do not get the “friend request” feature. Or, at least, I don’t get how people are using it. I know the only time I would ever entertaining accepting a friend request if it’s from someone we got to know in the real world for some ti…
On any of these sites, you have to accept that no answer is an answer. Granted, if someone sends a long, thought-out message you should definitely at least thank them and say why they'd be incompatible if there's no interest. But I get why…
I know we're like 8 pages and several years deep but I wanted to add my own personal turn-offs (male half, speaking for myself). I want to preface I don't think any of these are "wrong" per se. They're not straight-up deal-breakers (for th…
Several reasons: 1. What 3sacharm said. I had "bi" or "bi-curious" for a bit and can confirm a rise in unwanted messages of just dudes jerking off. 2. Prejudgment from others couples. There are plenty of men, just judging from personal exp…
Hasn't happened, but I wouldn't be opposed to either of our ex's joining us in bed. Depending on the circumstances of the break-up obviously.
For us "Friends In and Out of the bedroom" means people with whom we can do 'couples' things with that aren't necessarily sex. It's like activity partners who share the same interests and whose company we'd enjoy on a normal basis. And, as…
I love watching and hearing about the Mrs. getting pleasured by other men. I find it a huge turn-on. Sometimes, during sexy time, I'll ask her to give me details of a past sexual encounter or of a dirty getaway with an old FWB of hers or s…
Maybe it seems that way, but I don't think it's dying. I think a lot of couples who are worth investing time in are likely flexible to your needs. We've play with a couple who were okay with it. Another who wasn't. Whatever. We love focusi…
I (male half) may be in the minority lately, but I actually prefer pubic hair. Granted, neat/trimmed and not unkempt but I preferred the look over completely bare. It's how it was when I was growing up. I think the "bare" look is a relativ…
We're going through this now. Made a major update to the profile and had to wait. Okay, no big deal. But then I noted I made an error with formatting. Fixing one character kicks in another 24-48 hour wait. Then I noticed another error. (I'…
What Tramp and Goodgollymissmolly said. To us, if the profile is just 15 pictures of the mrs.' T&A and zero indication there's a mister, it's almost always a warning sign. After seeing walls of them, we finally put a plea in our profile ab…
Okay, coming from a "part-time free member", I'm okay with the changes. We both don't always have time to check out the site, read profiles, etc. and so we just don't renew for a few months. (Yes, I know we're probably spending more ultima…
To the OP: It's possible whenever you have a more precise definition of what you're looking for, you're going to narrow your field a bit. But that is a good thing because if you start settling, you're not going to fully enjoy the experienc…
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