Watching

Its all erotic!!!

"For us, we won't go to a club on nights that allow single males in. When we do play with another couple at a club, we're not there to put on a show for total strangers, so we go to a private room where what goes on is only between us & them. A good number of people, couples included, do just seem to want to watch what others are doing & don't play. If that's their thing as well as those who want to be watched that's fine. There are many flavors in the Lifestyle."

As a matter of principle, I believe in everyone doing whatever they want that makes them happy and doesn't harm anyone else, in all matters and topics. But watchers at clubs have this fucking annoying habit of not TELLING you that's what they're there for until you make the play suggestion after an hour or two of conversation. The fuckin bastards.

We are definitely a cpl that go to clubs to watch other and have sex with ourselves

My GF and I love to watch and be watched at clubs. Some lifestyle friendships started with eye contact made that way. We have even tastefully complimented other couples if the moment seemed appropriate. Just the other night we did so while we were all dressing and exchanged a few laughs. The best came after we introduced ourselves and we figured out we knew the couple we had been mutually perving but hadn't recognized them in the low light.

The same night we had a fully clothed couple come in and sit down next to the bed where we, and another couple we didn't know were playing. They later left for a bit, only to return - as if we were the best show around I guess. I have to say I find that a bit irritating. If you want to be voyeurs in a room where everyone else is naked and playing, and you're not just poking your head in for a quick look, then at least take your friggin' clothes off so you're somewhat at the same level of openness. I mean it's not a porn show. To say I give that much of a damn is a bit of an overstatement, but to the extent that I notice, it's a distraction.

We go to Hedo Orlando every time we are in the USA, we like to watch and be watched, Angi find it spooky when you get single males standing there looking. She say it gives here the hebi gebys. Would like to meet up and chat with people also. being new to this its hard. xx

For us, we won't go to a club on nights that allow single males in. When we do play with another couple at a club, we're not there to put on a show for total strangers, so we go to a private room where what goes on is only between us & them. A good number of people, couples included, do just seem to want to watch what others are doing & don't play. If that's their thing as well as those who want to be watched that's fine. There are many flavors in the Lifestyle.

My point.......way back, is that "couples only" may not mean that to a club owner that makes most of his money off of voyeurs
and allows the rules to slide. We never went back to that club and now we try to get a feel for a place before we play.
For anyone new to this, please understand swinging is not a free for all and the rules have a very important purpose of
making everyone, especially the ladies, feel safe. We all play within our own comfort zone, no means no and mutual respect
is not only mandatory........, it's hot.

Current,

Sorry. The image just popped into my head. That happens more often than you might think. Then again, maybe not.

Friday nights are like that at our local club. If you play to an audience, It's typically a smattering of single males and a few couples, with the men looking like zombies with boners; "Those aren't the brains were thinking with."

BT

BT,

Thanks for that image. Nothing sufficient Windex and Clorox won't remove from my retina though.

Is that like the church scene from the Graduate, where Dustin Hoffman is in the choir loft, banging on the glass??

Squeegie, Aisle 9, Stat!!

I enjoy being watched. Having company helps though.

BT

Good point. In our local club, couples only areas are just that. Security will not let a man in there without a female with him. If she leaves, he has to leave. There are other areas where a man can wander around and watch, but not the couples area.

@playful,

"Beware of clubs that have couples only areas. It may be a sausage fest."

That makes no sense to me. Can you explain? Also earlier in the same post you mentioned and "open couples only area." I don't understand the concept of that either. Couples only to me implies no single men, and possibly no single women.

One club my GF and I have attended has what they call a voyeur's room. Its a bunch of couches arranged around a mattress area. Though single men are not allowed in all areas of the club (on the nights they are allowed at all) they are allowed in this area. We actually enjoy watching and being watched quite a bit - as long as the watchers are participants as well. The vibe of this particular space was not sexy to either of us at all. Aside from the various watchers masturbating or making out with each other, virtually all of them had their clothes on.

I just personally don't get the appeal.

We enjoy watching and being watched. We eased into swinging gradually that way.
We did have an experience at a club where we were playing in an "open couples only area" and looked up to see 5-6 dudes watching and wacking off. They were close enough to "put an eye out or something."
That ended the fun for two real swinging couples.
Beware of clubs that have couples only areas, it may be a sausage fest.

backdoorman, It depends on the club and its rules.

Is it just couples or can anyone wstch?

Is it just couples or can anyone watch?

"And woe unto you if you dare go try to talk to the tourists after they watch you fuck. They act like you have the plague and are deviants since you are ruining their little live porn fantasy by actually wanting to strike up a conversation."

LOL I'll have to take your word for it on that. I don't think I've ever done that AFTER I've been watched. I can see that though, "OMG! This is real! They're talking to us!"

And woe unto you if you dare go try to talk to the tourists after they watch you fuck. They act like you have the plague and are deviants since you are ruining their little live porn fantasy by actually wanting to strike up a conversation.

"Any couples simply to go a club to watch others....? We find this very erotic."

Yes. They do. Many many people do. In the more "upscale" clubs, voyeurs have become a fucking plague. There's such a huge mob of them at the club that it makes it difficult for the real swingers to find each other. Ya'll have a habit of not mentioning what you're there for until well into a conversation. Real swingers call you "zoo watchers", and "tourists". Those words are spoken with great derision. I've been in many such conversations with many other swingers over the 9 years we've been doing this. I'm not an outlier with this opinion.

We don't get to watch alot.

Mrs aU

We are more the "watchees" :D Love it when Tink gets a wild hair to go "fuck in public"!

We don't do clubs as much as we do (house) parties. We find it OK (for us) to watch, but we do not stare. We prefer to BE watched. And there are always more than a few couples watching the open room.

Any couples simply to go a club to watch others....?
We find this very erotic.