This makes me think of the time we were barely into the obligatory chitchat, and the female just says “So do you want to fuck?” Really caught me off guard. When I finally recovered, all I could say was “shouldn’t we take off our clothes first?”
It usually doesn't take much socializing if my horny wife is ready to go. She will usually excuse herself to the bathroom and come out either wearing something sexy or naked. Then maybe a kiss and on her knees.
We have. " foreplay dice"... roll the dice and play w your own... the eventually switch..
Buy them at any sex shop.
Reminds me of my first MFM with a , thankfully, much more experienced couple. I invited them back to my room after having a drink in the bar. I finally worked up the nerve to ask if I could kiss her, to which she responded: "Sure. You can take my clothes off if you like."
I agree that the direct approach is not likely to offend the single male. I particularly like Jessie's approach. The shower idea is a good one too, though it might cause a guy to look worried and sniff his armpits. I'm pretty adamant about showing up to any date clean and smelling good. Perhaps leading with "It's getting a bit warm in here, I think I'll rinse off. Would you mind washing my back?" would work...
We usually socialize a bit more when we get to the room. When she wants it to start, she approaches him and starts undressing him, offering access to her body etc. It's not long before she is sucking his cock because that's how she likes starting.
I think I got this confused with the "Picking the guy up in a bar" topic. If you are meeting a guy specifically for an MFM at a hotel, he "should" be arriving "play ready" clean. Hopping in the shower to start play could still be fun though either way.
Once again... great advice from HB and YES we too were burned with a NO show ... but we had fun dancing and enjoying each other. Way too many Flakes , fakes, voyeurs on SLS!
Just last week we had a SLS guy ask US to meet , so we agreed, set up a meet at his liking and yep crickets.. we looked back and now see he had changed his profile name 2 x since on SLS and we had a problem years ago with same guy.. shame on us... we thought he looked familiar and now know why.. we now keep detailed notes on people like him! .. guess he gets his jollies doing this!
Nova, not sure from the post. However, never plan to meet in the hotel room to socialize first. Unless you're traveling and already have a room don't book the room until playing is a done deal and you're looking at the whites of his eyes. While it may sound better and more discrete to meet in a room and converse and if the chemistry is right then play, there are too many things can go wrong. The least of your worries would be the sm just not showing up- which will happen. A completely different guy from the one in the pictures could stroll in the door, he could be 20 years older than his pictures, he could be a complete asshat, he could have terrible hygiene, etc.... If you pick a hotel with a large lobby, bar, or restaurant in it or within walking distance that would work too for talking ahead of play. The other factor is that you will put a lot of pressure on yourself if you meet in the room. Also, there is nothing wrong with grabbing a drink and saying, "Thanks for meeting but I don't think we are a good match." or "Thanks for the drink. I enjoyed talking with you and hope you have a good ending to your evening. We will discuss things and get in touch with you."
You have gotten some great suggestions already. However you initiate play once in the room needs to be what you are comfortable with. All of us are different and it's best just to be yourself in that situation. Good luck.
A shower is probably not a bad idea anyway. If we know we're going to play, we always shower beforehand. In this situation, the guy in the MFM will likely not know that he was going to play. There is clean, then there is "play ready" clean.
Passkey yes, a shower is great!
One of my favorites is to lightly touch her hand, drawing my fingers along the back of her hand and then her palm etc, while we're talking. The really fun part is if the conversation is on vanilla subjects, where I try to break her train of thought with those light touches. >:)
When we meet A guy for drinks , If my wife wants it . she has in her hand under the table before I no what's going on. I just follow her lead.
It is extremely rare that a woman touching a guy is going to be a problem. It is even rarer that a guy touching back after that happens will be a problem. I am not shy, but I also need to be pretty sure that a girl is into me before I will touch her.
Of course, bringing a guy up to a hotel room is already a pretty good indication of where things are going. In that situation, a woman could grab a guy's hand and put it on her breast and that's more like starting a fire with a propane torch than a match ;-) This would likely work anywhere.
Kissing is also a great way to start, assuming the couple doesn't have a no kissing rule, but if they're meeting guys at a hotel for MFMs, that's probably not the case.
Phoebert has been known to tell a single gentleman that I like having both my tits sucked at the same time - and then he'll ask if they want to help him make me a happy girl. ;-)
A shower is always a great ice breaker. And it also ensures that he is clean and smells good....lol
I went to Catholic school too and even so, would totally fall for that line. ;-)
I either ask if I can kiss them or just say first times can be awkward, so I'm going to take my clothes off.
I’m all about having things happen organically, but I’m not the least bit opposed to Jessy’s tactic for fire starting ;-)
When all else fails, a simple, “Can I kiss you?” has worked wonders... or, as someone who was raised Roman Catholic with 7 years of Catholic school, I’ve actually said, “Can I show you what the nuns taught me in Catholic school?”
BT
When meeting couple-to-couple things tend to progress naturally from touching, kissing, to clothes falling off.
In a group setting, if things stagnate, my wife and I will start playing by ourselves. Almost immediately after everyone else will jump into action.
Nova.. this is what we do and have done for 20 plus years. We meet, grab a light dinner and some drinks, let the conversation flow naturally with lots of eye contact..then rubbing ones back or leg , then after some flirting we all head to the room usually with the words like "lets do this" or "Lets move this to our room".. we are going to San Antonio Riverwalk in Sept and already have plans to do same at various bars nearby!
3 times last year in different cities.. Panama City Beach, Charleston SC and outside of Tampa.. we do this with swingers we meet and even pick up some guys or gals who are single this way.
Wife usually will start kissing the guy and before you know it she is on her knees servicing a hard cock.
I live in Rochester ny, never have done a MMF situation like joining a couple but have wanted to, anyone in the area interested feel free to message me!
For me it usually depends on the guy(s). Sometimes they are assertive and they get things going. But if I'm with a new guy and he's shy, sometimes ill go like sit real close to him and make it easy for him to touch me. And then sometimes I just take my top off lol
What is the best to initiate the encounter when you all are socializing in a hotel room before playing. What do u all do?
