We prefer a restaurant. We can get a booth for a little privacy so we can talk about what ever we want. We are not really drinkers so a bar is not our first choice. Besides, they seem to be noisy and make it hard to talk. By the time an hour has gone by, we have eaten and know a little about each other and are ready to decide if we are going to have fun or go our separate ways.
We have a particular sports bar with lots of pool tables (20?) that we like. It's rarely crowded early evening, it's open, airy, and the lighting is just right. We can pick our own table in the dining area or from the available pool tables and have enough privacy to talk freely. Remember, one advantage of having to be a bit discreet is you tend to lean closer when you're talking about sex...
When it starts to get crowded, that's an excellent reason to retire to the hot tub :D
We have met at a lot of different places ranging from an adult boutique, mini-golf, hotel lobbies, coffee shops, the mall, restaurants, parties, to even a playground. We like to go wherever the people are meeting feel comfortable.
We still meet at regular bars, but it can be frustrating when you can’t have a completely open and frank conversation because there are to many vanillas nearby. We often don’t get around to any sex talk until we are walking out to the parking lot.
We, since moving to AZ in '05, use a variety of places/venues/locations, basically whatever everyone is comfortable with. We typically will meet at a restaurant/bar that is convenient to both couples or the single guy we are meeting, but we have met at the open nude area of a local natural hot springs, met at biker events and agreed to meeting at a monthly scheduled Meet & Greet. Basically, we take what comes along and go with the flow, we always ask the other parties what their preference is and what they consider convenient and we "negotiate" from there.
As for what happens after the meeting, we never play on the first meeting and we dont play at our home because of having kids in the house. will play at the other person/couples home, split hotel room costs, rented bungalow at our (swinger friendly) hot springs and even played with others outdoors in the desert.
I didn’t want to hijack a similar thread in this forum, so I’ve decided to ask his as a separate question: what places do you prefer for a first public meeting?
I love hotels. But not just any hotel. I love hotels with a large pool area. People our age tend to have afternoons, or happy hour midweek available. I find that midday meetings for coffee or a beer are perfect. We can meet in the lobby, or hotel bar, and then take the conversation out to the pool area. Midday, there is usually nobody else out there so we can talk more freely than we would be able to at the local Starbucks.
(Hmmm. We just moved to KY from Fla. Not sure how this strategy will work in the dead of winter)
Mr.H
