Approached wife about sharing her with another man/men.

Ask her to go to a club or house party just to see what it’s all about, it may help her to realize that most women in the lifestyle aren’t super models and all have some kind of ( body issues) but most people at these parties don’t judge them and they all get plenty of action. After seeing this she may feel better about others seeing her naked and give it a try.

Ask her to go to a club or house party just to see what it’s all about, it may help her to realize that most women in the lifestyle aren’t super models and all have some kind of ( body issues) but most people at these parties don’t judge them and they all get plenty of action. After seeing this she may feel better about others seeing her naked and give it a try.

Seriously? The glasses and hair trope?

A very good topic & conversation every one. I had a very good experience a few weeks ago at a private club, I was sitting at the bar chatting with the bartender & having a beer. A nice young lady walked up & just began chatting, we continued just a few moments & her husband soon followed. They stepped slightly away & chatted between themselves & she returned to chatted with me & he can around & sat by me & chatted also. They both were very cool, I could tell she was shy, so I appreciated her stepping out to talk to me initially, along with her husband. To make a long pleasant story short, he asked me in front of her what I though about her, I told them, she was gorgeous & that she was hiding behind those glasses & to let her hair down later & he said to her, I told you so. I could literally see her inhibitions leave immediately, while we ran out of time that night, we had a great time with hugs & kisses & touches laterally & his wife said she wasso glad to have met someone like me & I said the same back to both. I appreciated them connecting with me & them inviting & sharing with me in their inner circle. Had a great time.

Hard disagree that men don't care what others think. They are just as prone to self-image issues and validation seeking. Many have been thoroughly fucked up by social media.

Women are really hard on themselves.
We guys have it easier, we don't care what others think.
Letting her show photos online and see if there is interest is a good idea, but check the photos. She will choose the photos from when she was 18. Explain she has to he more realistic.

I was like this at first (female) I had a child years ago and my body just isn’t the same. I said this to my man and what he responded with made sense and made me feel better about it! He said: you talk to someone on here open your pics. They see what you look like. If they weren’t interested they wouldn’t want to meet and play. If everyone looked the same and was attracted to the same it would be a pretty dual world! But I totally get where she is coming from/her thinking. It also helped me to see guys who were build who like thicker women or you see their pics w ladies who are much bigger than you …that made me feel better.

WHAT EVER I SAID IT WORKS SHE LOVES BEING FUCKED BY OTHER MEN,SHE GOT ALOT OF LICKING WITH THAT

I think you've done all you can. You've planted the seed. See if it grows.

Extremely well said Rabbit and you are perfectly correct?

Before my Scamp and I got together he said something in these forums that stuck with me.

“A woman looks in the mirror and sees every flaw. A man looks at a woman and sees every asset “

As was said there are few swingers that look like models. We all have our body issues. The sure fire way to make them go away is confidence. Your wife needs to learn that she is gorgeous. She needs to accept how you see her and project that. Believe me, if she does people will see her that way too.

I think it would be a good idea to have her come into the forums here and explain her doubts. We’ll have her strutting like a porn star in no time.

~rabbit~

Thanks for the input. I really appreciate it!

Thanks for the input. I really appreciate it!

try going to a meet & greet or club. she will see that not all swingers are like models. go with plans to just meet people but only play with each other.

Your wife's body is her body. Is she never going to do anything that displays it to the gaze of others for the rest of her life? What if, god forbid, something happened to you? Is sex over forever?

Anyway, you could ask her what would help her. If she's open to it, you could go to a swing club just to watch. It might be reassuring to see that people of all body types and ages are perfectly happy fucking others, sometimes in public. You could also make sure she knows you think she's hot and that is part of why you're excited about MFM/MMFM. But, really, she's the one with the answers.

I recently approached my wife with my fantasy of sharing her with another man or men, and I gave her a dozen or more articles about the psychological viewpoint of normal relationships bs swinging relationships, and a few articles from the woman’s standpoint of getting into something like this. She was open minded but said she has too many body issues after having twins 4 years ago and she is not sure if it is something she could do. However we have watched threesome and gangbang porn and role-played these scenarios in the bedroom with toys and dummies... and it really excites her. Any suggestions on things to do to help her feel it out? Or should I just leave it at that and see if she changes her mind on her own in the future?