Profile viewing

Sometimes people just want to be friendly and complimentary. Most are nice and polite, with just few pushing for a meeting.

I would assume they do not get many views and are just getting bored waiting.
Also, only people who I am not even close to what they are looking for view my profile. I have no idea what they are looking at when I do not meet the age, race, location, etc. of what they are looking for. I have never been viewed by a real person who I would ever have a chance with. So I would never contact someone just because they viewed me.

I don't mind who views my profile. We all want our profiles seen. I also look back. But I don't message anyone unless they message first

We get lots of views from folks that over 1000 miles away. On another site we get a lot of views from Belgium, Denmark, and Britain. Realistically, none of these folks are viable play contacts. But occasionally we have interesting conversations.

I use a phone for most of my perusing. Many times I'll "fat-finger" a selection that takes me to a profile I didn't intend to view. This isn't an excuse, just reality.

All that said, there are several profiles that have looked us over multiple times. A subset of those have been sent a "hello" message. Some multiple times. No response. A small few even lament they aren't getting any traffic.

Life is too short to spend a lot of time pondering why folks don't respond.

There’s an easy fix:

Turn off the “Who Viewed Me” feature.

People won’t see that you looked at their profile, and you won’t see that they’ve looked at yours.

Problem solved.

The whole point of this site is for people to communicate with each other.

We're always happy to get a message... even if that person or couple is not a match.

We think that some people are so desperate that when they see a profile, any profile, on their WVM, they send a message.

FWIW, we've discovered that by hitting the back button on the mouse, if the cursor is on or near a profile, instead of going back it opens their profile. If their WVM is on, we show up as having viewed their profile. It may have popped up, but we don't actually read/look at the profile. We did the eye roll thing when people sent us messages when we showed up on their WVM. Depending on their message, we might respond explaining whey we showed up but have no interest in them. We ignore the inappropriate messages. We've tried to be more careful about where the cursor is when using this site.

If it bothers you that people message you when you appear on their WVM, you can turn the WVM feature off.

And that is one reason we leave it off.. for us we dont care who looks and they should not either!

We look at some for the content , some for the wording, and some just make good comedy!

If we want to meet we will reach out... that simple!

We enjoy reading people’s profiles to see what their interests are and if we have commonality. Basically we then view pics they may have opened. It is pointless for us to view pics if we have nothing in common with the couple.
Based on that we may or may not leave a message. If we notice how far away they are it will influence our decision to contact. We might just do a hello or something longer.
It’s never the same thing for each profile.

When people view my profile I send them a thank you for viewing my profile. Depending on their profile (If it aligns with mine) I may try to strike up a conversation or leave it as a thank you

I can think of several reasons:

1. Maybe they think that you’re too shy to make the first contact.
2. Maybe they think that you got distracted and forgot about it.
3. Maybe THEY think that YOU think that they couldn’t possibly be interested in you, and you didn’t wanna waste your time or have to deal with the rejection.

Personally, I’m at least a little flattered whenever someone asks if we’d like to meet whether I’ve looked at them previously or not. So why does this — apparently — bother you?

Why do some people on this site assume just because someone else views their profile that their interested in meeting them. In the past I would look at a couple or single girl profile and NOT send them a message and than a few minutes later I would get a message from them sayin "Hey thanks for viewing my profile would you be interested in meeting me (or us)?" Just because someone looks at your profile doesnt automatically mean their interested. If someone actually sends me a message saying their interested than I would take them seriously.