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"Seems I've missed some interesting threads. "

You've obviously been reading my recent "book", great!

;-)

~Allen

@ Rustic: I am not disagreeing with you at all on anything, what you mentioned was pretty spot on. We have friends that don't get close to singles and even keep cautionary space between us couples; however, we like to know people, what makes them tick, their desires, favorite places of entertainment, food and travel, limits in and purpose of being in the lifestyle, what is pleasing to them and makes them smile and even laugh. Some of those that we really click with, let close to us even have our direct cell numbers, know each other's occupation, even workplace. We totally understand there are those that treat others as meat and we try not to be judgmental in their aspect as everyone has their own wants and needs, yet we treat the lifestyle differently and choose not to associate ourselves in that manner, after all, there is a human with real feelings, emotions, dedications and life obligations in the mix.

All in all, we do enjoy a well thought out email/message from anyone in the LS, but that is only the beginning or end, context-content-conclusion model dependent.

~Allen

This thread nicely went full circle in just two days - an excellent job, team. Seems I've missed some interesting threads.

I willingly admit, with my head hung low I only found this thread by following a nekid pic. In my defense, it overtook me to see a figure so richly depicting studies of the Renaissance period when the human anatomy was glorified.

nuff class ?

SLS has, subliminally or intentionally, encouraged short thoughtless communication. Mail was a way you could communicate with someone using real sentences, paragraphs, and thoughts. That is gone. In its place are short Messages that are broken up, and the Wall. When we had Mail and Messages, we could communicate most appropriately for the situation. Introducing yourself to a profile that caught your eye? A well thought out e-mail worked great. Seeing someone on-line that you want to communicate with immediately? Messages were there for that (and remember, you could choose to turn it off if you didn't want the intrusion).

If I type out an introductory Message to a couple now, or if we get one, there's an alert that there are 4 (or more) Messages.

888eatme888 I said most. Some (not thinking you) have pretty much said a single male needs to be like James Bond with fine dining, dancing, etc all while wearing a tuxedo. Others don't really want to know a name and will let a homeless guy take her on the car hood in the parking lot. The majority of couples who are looking for single males fall somewhere in-between. It takes some class and respect to get any attention even though everyone involved knows the point of the whole interaction is to get into a bedroom with clothing off and putting body parts together in agreed upon ways.

We attract what we are not what we want.

@Ocbj I couldn't agree more that it's about class. We've all seen the massive range that this little thing called class comes in when we are looking at profiles. Your suggested format for an initial greeting is what I'd personally prefer hands fucking down. To answer your question, "Would I send that to anyone I know?" The answer is HELL FUCKING NO. Not only do most people not know each other on here, but when it comes to responding to a particular profile, the best chances are when the response fits the profile requests. However, when it came to the OP and their profile, they made it clear what they were looking for and the SM responded directly based on that.

With all due respect, in this case, it's a lot more than that. I'm guessing you didn't take the time to read their profile. Your opinion was based on the initial message from the SM. Had you read the OP's profile you would have learned that they are looking for a casual hookup, likely on the first date, and requiring that he be "well hung with stamina" on two separate occasions. They even requested a picture to prove how big his dick was. These requests combined with their single profile pic of the wife, naked, on all fours, with her head cut off, is actually quite similar to your analogy of "It's like seeing a main profile pic of a SM in a maintenance closet posing in front of a mirror with brooms, mops, and a toilet in the background." The comment the SM posted directly addressed the requirements that were made on the OP's profile. Ask and you shall receive!

@sliderightin Thank You, I appreciate it. I'll be the first to call a spade a spade but in this case, I don't think that person is wrong based on what the OP requests in their profile. In this wonderful world of SLS, all we have to go on is each other's profiles, and they got what they asked for.

@really...it’s not shaming BS. It’s a matter of class. Try this for an approach. “Hi. I’m (insert name). I’ve read your profile and I have opened my photo gallery to you. Would you care to meet for some adult discussion or continue a chat ?...And let it materialize from there. That said, I haven’t read your profile, but here’s a rhetorical question for you. Would you have honestly sent any type of message Ike that to someone you didn’t know? It’s like seeing the main profile pic of a SM in a maintenance closet posing in front of a mirror with brooms, mops, and a toilet in the background. It says a lot about a person before a discussion occurs.

From the replies here: Plenty of people do get it, but they’re not like you believe they should be.

~Allen

@Reallygun

Finally someone gets it instead of blindly agreeing with more shaming BS!

“ Not giving out his name but who in their right mind would reply to a message like that.”

So, the answer would be “The OP”.

:-D

~Allen

Reallyfunx2 wins today’s forums. Very nicely done!

In most situations I would 300% agree.

However, in the OP's profile , they state that they want a "well hung male with good stamina," then it also said that they are very spontanious. Sometimes short notice meetings can be fun," "be well hung, clean and respectful." "Need to have pic proof of size since not all guys are honest about their size."

Not only does OP mention they wants a big dick twice, but they require a pic to prove the size. They also make it clear that they are DTF on the first date.

Sometimes in this little thing called life you get back what you put out there.

While I don't agree with this type of message, this is what the OP was asking for with the exception of the person replying adding in about their "thick creamy cum." Although they were waiting on pic approval, I have a hard time believing that he wouldn't happily have sent a picture using a different form of communication. Furthermore, I think it's a bit of a double standard to require multiple pictures when the OP has one and her head is cut off.

That's all.
xxx

“ Most couples are not looking out there looking to have a date night with an extra male and do indeed want to take it to the bedroom versus long nights dinner and dancing (or what ever).”

We are that couple that enjoys company of other singles and couples, the ability to flirt openly and teasingly touch privately, have excellent open conversations, and in no rush while desires build. It can really get to know others and their behaviors before inviting them into privately intimate escapades.

Peg met hole mentality is a sure turn off. When contacting us, emphasis on color, size and/or special abilities will not get an invite to even go further than the person mentioning such, it doesn’t matter that the endgame maybe be the same, it’s how one presents themselves and their “kid in the candy store” visit.

~Allen

Good point. Hit or miss in most cases.

Straight to the point, desperate, or simply way too horny? It all depends on your point of view. Most couples are not looking out there looking to have a date night with an extra male and do indeed want to take it to the bedroom versus long nights dinner and dancing (or what ever). That being said most also do not want to get involved with someone who makes it seem like all they want to do is come, cum, and go.

@Fun. Absolutely correct.

There are certainly MUCH better ways to communicate interest-like asking good questions, showing that you actually have a personality, showing that you have more to offer than a physical body part and the associated body fluids. I’m sure that his success rate probably hovers around 0% with that approach. Seems more like a canned copy and paste response that gets blasted to anyone in his vicinity to see if there are any bites or anyone who takes interest.

I have to weigh in after reading the comments. Regarding the subject of the original post...Totally agree. Too many ridiculous comments sent by single males. We have had our share of those that can’t read, write, or communicate. Usually deleted or some blocked. However, some of their comments make it to the Single Males/Gross thread as a matter of principle. I (the male half) view it like this. If your parents never raised you to be respectful, then you deserve to be made an example of. This may be a swinger’s site, but you don’t have carte blanche to act a fool. Especially, with people you don’t know you or who haven’t invited the conversation. Acting a fool on any of these sites, just means you generally are a fool outside of these sites. If you don’t want to be called out, then don’t make yourself the subject of conversation. If you were at a house party or club acting a fool, you would be told to leave (I’ve used the word fool several times). So, why not act responsible from the start? The SM in our lives have been vetted. Character is everything to us. Any single male defending the message received by the poster of this thread, save it. There’s no arguing and defending the ridiculous message. In addition, there is a big difference between someone posting a Hot Date and stating their meeting intention and someone sending an unsolicited message.

@ckmate

Oh, you mean the person who FIRST said all men suck in bed because of porn and used her experience to generalize? Seems like you pick and choose what outrages you.

@ HollyBlue

I don’t see my position as me defending the guy. I was being objective. His email got straight to the point and he even noted his pictures were pending. What it boils down to is desirability and no one is honest enough to say it. As if no one ever overlooked poor grammar, short emails, poor spelling when they found the other person attractive. Ha!

The internet community universally despises trolls, hence the use of moderators and forum guidelines. Even the most juvenile of discussion forums will troll trolls and get them banned. What you’re describing is a spirited conversation when two or more people are actively going back and forth until one finally quits. That’s not the same.

slide,

I'm an adult who finds publicly ridiculing people to be hilarious, it's an art form. I even appreciate when people do it to me, if there's some talent and flair to it, but maybe that's just me. I was one of the very early internet trolls, back when you paid by the minute for your dialup AOL connection. There were forums dedicated to arguing with and insulting everyone. Everyone did it, it was the point. In one thread you'd be on the same side as someone, then in another thread you'd be flaming them mercilessly, and all the combatants appreciated the skill and talent of their enemies. I miss that. Now everyone gets butthurt too easily.

I’ve received single male emails since 2007 on this site as a SF and then part of couple. Whenever any dumbass, profile ignoring, pictureless person messages our inbox, they can sit there unanswered til the cows come home or until we get tired of seeing them and hit delete . If anyone thinks its rude or impolite to ignore these type of unsolicited messages, they should get over it. This is only about mutual chemistry/attraction which is subjective anyway and a lack of interest on anyone’s part doesn’t have to be quantified with an explanation. (aka: no means no, no exception). A lack of response should be construed as a “not interested” and the sender should look elsewhere.

Normally if I won’t respond to the message, I certainly wouldn’t waste my time playing games or ridiculing him either. Once in awhile, though a real dumbass comes along and Mr Uriah enjoys answering those emails.

Ms Uriah