Slide, why do you think it is necessary to defend a guy who sends a very lame message. It seems like you think you know how sm's govern themselves. How many send you messages? How many men have you dated? It is not direct or to the point. It is lazy and out of touch with how ladies wish to be communicated with.
"Why does one have to be effective when what we all want is right on the table?"
I'm not sure why I have to explain something that should be self evident, but okay, I can do that. It's not enough to want something in order to get it. There actually has to be some sort of matching up if what you want requires one or more additional people. If you're ineffective in your approach, it doesn't matter what's on the table, because you aren't invited to the buffet.
Slide, meet kettle. You did more than your fair share of ridiculing DNLB and others. Quite the hypocrite. Congrats.
Right! So, keep sending emails like that, and add a dick pic is what you’re saying then?
BT
Well, any adult who finds entertainment in ridiculing people publicly, mocking them and encourages “game playing “ certainly Deserves more dumbass emails.
In hindsight, I probably should have waited for my photos to upload before sending that note ;-)
BT
He is certainly allowed to send a message like this and we are we equally permitted to ridicule and mock him.
The smart guys actually have some game and get positive replies.
You do you. And more often than not, "you" are the only one you will be "doing".
~Scamp
Are people successful when they send messages like that? Yes, we all know why we're here, but I don't think most women like being approached like that initially.
We get messages like that quite often. Everybody has their own way of getting their point across. We don’t get offended, we actually have fun with it. 99 out of 100 times when a message is written with such candor, it’s also written with awful grammar. Somebody tells us they’re full of hot cum, we tell them we’re not interested in bi men. They come back with some alpha nonsense about being super straight and they’ll show her how straight. Our next reply would be asking who’s hot cum they’re full of? Did they get filled orally or anally? They get very confused and the grammar gets worse. By the end of the day they’re blocking you and you get a few laughs out of it. Life’s too short to be offended by some dude that’s trying to get laid on a swinger site.
Why does one have to be effective when what we all want is right on the table? Why are many still so afraid to accept the vulnerability of the lifestyle? The guy got straight to the point, which i feel, is pretty effective. This is not a dating site, per se. This site represents what most dating sites like to hide and act like they’re not. How about we embrace this lifestyle for what it is and stop expecting sonnets and resumes. Lol.
It's not about guilt, it's about effectiveness. That particular approach will work even less well than most others.
Here's an ineffective one I got this morning from a couple:
"Tell us more. Open galleries?"
I used a fair number of words to say no, so I guess if you're measuring, it was slightly more effective than what was sent to the OP, because I'd just roll my eyes and move on with no response to that one.
Perhaps he’s only guilty of getting straight to the point. I’ve seen Hot Dates posted by couples who far more rude and ignorant.
