Disappointing 3-somes??

Does masturbating with both hands count as a 3-some?

Asking for a friend...

I think if you spend enough time in the lifestyle, disappointment will occur. I’ve joined a couple as the extra guy for mfm and we weren’t a good mix or what we envisioned during pre-meeting chatting. Same with mfm for us as a couple. Some times it’s no more than first time meeting jitters. Other times it’s attitude or even behavior. As a LS couple, we aren’t afraid of disappointment. Sometimes, we’ll even give a not so eventful first meeting a do over. However, if we can’t get it right the second time, we move on.

Yes quite a few of them.. MF4F I was the single female. I was at a house party started talking to a young couple in their early 30s she was straight but her husband wanted her to have a threesome and she refused telling him out loudly. I am not bisexual!! Husband kept on and on don't you want to lick her pussy?? He said to her she said no. I am just standing there with my mouth open watching them go back and forth actually fighting at this point they had to be escorted out the door.. it was very ugly one of the reasons why I do not meet couples too much drama.

We have had a number of good and bad 3 somes. My wife says she always has me to satisfy her regardless of the good or the bad performance of the other guy. She can deal with a smaller cock but of course prefers a bigger one. What really will piss her off even after we have told a guy numerous times leading up to us getting together is if the guy doesn't talk dirty to her during sex. No dirty talk no return visit!

No really bad experiences yet.... vetting out the prospectives is an important job...either you do it with your BRAIN to sucess.... or fail using your cock hype.

We’ve done a lot of threesomes and most have been great but we have had some duds, some cum after about three strokes and they’re done, some have had very small dicks (once she even mouthed to me “is he in yet?)” Some haven’t even been able to get it up but that’s the chance you take and when it happens you just know he’ll never be a repeat.

We’ve done a lot of threesomes and most have been great but we have had some duds, some cum after about three strokes and they’re done, some have had very small dicks (once she even mouthed to me “is he in yet?” Some haven’t even been able to get it up but that’s the chance you take and when it happens you just know he’ll never be a repeat.

Amazing how reading through previous posts & very surprised that we're not the only ones that have these horrible experiences. Wife has been disappointed & turned off to this idea as of late, from all the BULLSHITTERS!

kandsinle - In this day and age, there is no reason that guys can't get some Viagra or Cialis. Generic Viagra can be found for under $1/pill, and if we're going to play with others, I'll take half of a 100 mg one as cheap insurance that everyone has a good time.

They are so cheap, I have offered one to a few select SMs when we've had them over the house so that they can see if and how well they work for them. They don't work for everyone though and a common side-effect is a headache. I'm fortunate in that they work really well for me with no noticeable side-effects. About 30 mins after taking a pill I'm easily good for 2+ hours of play, and almost always wake up with morning wood the day after taking one.

I think the worst is having a guy over for mfm that can't get it up.

vstar - "...claim their average or above average and try whipping out 3” cock ."

I'm assuming this was their hard size? Otherwise, a soft 3" cock can easily be average or above average size when hard. It's the old "growers vs show-ers" thing.

We had a few, wife starts sucking on guy , blows load in thirty seconds and he’s done. Or the guys that claim their average or above average and try whipping out 3” cock .

@James - We've been pretty successful (or lucky) in good vetting before any actual meet, but nonetheless things can and do happen occasionally where you don't really "click" in person as well as you thought you would. Good job recognizing the situation and having the willingness to walk away.

My most disappointing 3-somes didn't even progress to actual play fun and it happened twice. Even though, we chatting extensively and they both assured me they were both interested, It was clear one of the two wasn't. I politely declined and left in both cases as I don't want to participate unless both are really into it. In one case, the one spouse even thanked me for bringing it up.

Its funny how many are 3sum no shows, or can't get it up and or now that the wife/GF is fucking a new cock they get upset. They wanted it to start but watching the act upsets them.
I have never had a problem getting hard, and Viagra, like my doc said when he gave me samples, "Think of it as a recreation drug" makes the hole fucking time longer or fast recovery is all. Never even been a no show, why would you when someone is offering fucking fun.
But even those facts don't stop the fakes, He wants to share her she knows nothing about it, or the date and switch by bi guys, Oh she can't meet this time or ever. LOL

We have had a number of disappointing 3 somes. Mostly where a guy who believes he wants to be involved in one but can't get hard because of Ed problems that you find out in the middle of play, or he can't handle another guy there. Then you have the females that will have to much to drink or just lay there like a dead fish. Not fun!

Yes 3 or 4 sums we have had jealous husbands and wifes a couple times in 30 years swinging.. it does not end well, if we see it we cut it off and now ask all when we meet what there experiences swinging are, how long, what do they like , are you jealous etc etc.. if they hesitate we do not go back to our bed!

Some in swinging think they want to the see wife having sex with someone else, some guys think this will get them laid more, some have no clue why they are swinging and some think it will fix broken marriage.. some are even cheating on wife or husband..fix your marriage first!

If one does not have a solid marriage with plenty of open communication about all.. then work on that first... its a great hobby and we both enjoy it with fun sexy classy people who get it !

I once met up with a professional couple in their 50s (I was a mid 20s college student) and the email chain conversation was fun and stimulating, so by the time we met in person at a restaurant with an ocean view, we had already planned out the date over the two previous weeks.

Everything was going well until dessert was ordered. At that point the husband suggested I slip my hand under the table to caress his wife's inner thighs and vagina. When she quietly protested, he became irritated and the atmosphere changed slightly from enjoyable to a little more reserved. I did my best to lighten the mood, and for a while it worked!

Once we got to the hotel, things sped up and we all got undressed and began playing on the bed. Long story short, the wife mentioned at least 3 times how much she loves my cock, which was very flattered a major turn on. Unfortunately, hubby got jealous to the point he shut down all sexual activities before I could orgasm. They ended up leaving abruptly, but before they left he went to use the bathroom, and that's when she whispered in my ear he was a jealous person and she knew it would make him angry to compliment my cock, but did it anyway because in the moment she lost herself and didn't care.

As a single gentleman in the lifestyle, I take into consideration couples may have underlying issues they won't share with me, but I wish they did because I would have politely refused to meet them in person. It's tough enough as a single male to get invited to play with a sexy couple, and I honestly don't mind as long as jealousy is not involved, because that always leads to super uncomfortable scenarios.

Geez where do I begin lol. Honestly probably like 1 out of every 4 or so is, umm, not so great lol

I,m sure alot of first encounters w another can be tense...

It usually takes a second time ir mire to loosen up and feel really comfortable and let go..

My wife's g-spot is so close to her opening that, when she cums hard, it is actually visible. Provided the guy with the 4" penis didn't have a big belly that prevented him getting all the way in, the Mrs can and has had fun with guys that small.

Then there are women that take a man's fist, so for them it would be like a drop in the bucket.

we met a cpls where the hubby had less than 4" hard, but he knew how to use it and his tongue. sometimes size can be made up for

Years ago we met a guy who we invited over for a threesome and my wife was very disappointed because he had a cock the size of a Vienna sausage

We've had some disappointments when our male friend had problems but you need to be understanding and don't give up on him. One guy told me afterwards that he found my wife to be extremely attractive and he got stimulated too early and couldn't maintain his erection that long. Now, we try to relax a bit beforehand and get everyone feeling comfortable. When she dresses sexy, it sometimes is too much to expect of a SM to maintain an erection for an hour during long foreplay of dancing, etc.

steve_vme good luck with that. Oh and generic Viagra is available from many pharmacies without insurance for like $30 a bottle last I heard although other meds can be pricey. Of course it does not work for everyone and for some no meds work.