Couples embarrassed they like MFM?

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LOL good point, always a good sight to see indeed.

“ The only ring I've seen on a cock, is a cock ring”

I saw a sexy pair of lips giving a cock a full body massage once.

~Allen

Pusher

LOL The only ring I've seen on a cock, is a cock ring :)

It is however a matter of preference. Some couples prefer just a mfm or multiple guys, but are not into couples. To each there own. In this lifestyle I judge no one based on their sexual preference.....

Seems ridiculous to me to discriminate couples that like MFM as long as your profile says looking for singles and couples.....I guess I just see swinging as swinging. My wife isn't into women so we just played with single guys. If we did want to play with a couple what is the big deal if the cock is with a single guy or a married guy it's still a cock LOL!!

We enjoy mfm and I enjoy her enjoying herself as much as we enjoy couples.

Before we shrunk our certs down to a singular, we had about a dozen cert; SM certs were 3/1 and it never kept couples from reaching out; it may have had something to do with the certs we gave and received were more along the line of two good paragraphs about the person(s) and not the play.

What turns us away from another is short certs about their genitals while telling nothing about their interactions.

~Allen

I don’t like certain it’s makes you look like a numbers collector. If you hit it off with a couple who care if anyone else knows about it but them

What Rustic said made a lot of sense. It is (or probably should be) a goal to set up a profile to appeal to the largest possible audience that you'd find acceptable.

While it sucks that a couple may look down on a another couple for doing MFMs (for whatever reason/s), it's likely those same two couples could have a lot of fun together, so I can see why someone would omit this info if it caused an issue in the past.

No doubt a person's opportunities affect this. Someone with ample opportunity may just look at this like, "Fuck 'em if they don't like couples that do MFM". Especially when your talking about 1 couple out of 50+ ones that you can play with. When that ratio is 1 of only 3 - 4 couples, it is likely to make more of a difference.

“ So you are saying a cert from him would be like a badge of honor or something”

Not exactly where I was going, but sure, why not?

BT

And y'all know about the puppet.

As far as being weird... I decline to answer on the grounds that I may incriminate myself.

Some of us are not into certs. I don’t reject them, but don’t view them as important. Many just say “they showed up” some view them as “damned lucky to play with me” Just quietly enjoy and play.

Hey, dammit. I'm NOT old.

BT: "Sorillo is the weird old guy with the puppet"

So you are saying a cert from him would be like a badge of honor or something?

So we would agree with what has been stated.. now for "us" we have been active swingers well over 28 years and never ever accept Certs as its no ones business who "we" play with.

We are very active all over USA but very select. Many of our swingers are from a variety of sites, parties and events.. or from friends who have introduced us.. we just dont depend on Certs but YES we do see both sides.

Travelers, Sorillo is the weird old guy with the puppet. I don’t have a puppet, as far as anyone knows… ;-)

BT

It's not embarrassment but rather them not limiting their options due to other's perceptions. Many in the lifestyle see those who enjoy MFM as more promiscuous or even have it confused with MMF. There is also the perception that having sex with single males offers a greater risk for an STD. There is a stigma that single males are somehow "less clean" than a couple. It has to do with how some think that a single male in the lifestyle has had many more partners than say a couple has thus they have had more potential to be exposed to something. Now the fact is none of this is true but it is still the perception. Of course there is one other thing we have been told by more than one couple. Apparently they see the couple that frequently do the MFM thing as someone who will want to add one or more males into it.

Basically the couple you sent the cert to has experienced some negativity from other couples who see the MFM interaction in a bad light. As such they have chosen not to accept or allow those certs. There is nothing wrong with that because we ourselves to do accept or give out certs and see no point in them. Even if we did to be honest we see no "value" in a cert from a single male as it would offer no benefit for another couple to see it and truthfully we have yet to be contacted by a single male where a cert or not would have made a difference. In fact at this point while we may enjoy one from time to time we have them blocked here.

If a profile had numerous SM certs, but none (or nearly none) from couples, to me that might indicate that SMs are their preference and cause us hesitation to reach out. Similarly, if all their certs were from couples in their thirties or some other "flavor" that leaned heavily away from ourselves.

Seeing a mix of people in someone's certs however would certainly not cause us any concern, but of course that is just IMHO and not the opinion of your friends under discussion. As Sorrillo stated, I would let it go without further thought and enjoy your time with them when you can.

Oman, yes, it’s a thing. By choosing the word “embarrassed” in your subject header, it certainly looks like you might be taking it personally. Don’t. As you said, you’ve met with them numerous times. Obviously, things are working out. I’d simply let it go and not worry about it.

If you’re someone who believes that certs are important to give and receive, I can see that might be a potential challenge, but again, my advice is to let it go.

In my opinion, it’s not about any embarrassment. It’s about the limitations, perceived and real, that accepting your cert might place on their couple’s play.

Have fun,

BT

There’s a wonderful couple I’ve been playing with for years as a SM. Early on, I tried to give them a cert and they called me to say, “You know we love getting together with you, but we discovered that many couples who don’t see SMs turn down couples that do. They look at our certs and if they see any from SMs, they turn us down. Is this a thing? We’ve hooked up numerous times since, so I can’t take it as a personal insult. Thoughts?