Couples embarrassed they like MFM?

How’s the saying go, if you are on a first meet and it is dinner or dinner and a club for dancing and fun……. Dress to impress

Joroman

Well said

RonKathy,
You seem like a caring couple so don’t know why you’d scare away anyone. Maybe it’s because you are direct and honest so as not to waste time in search of fun.

Enjoy your comments. Learn a lot from them. Sure you attract many good couples and individuals while scaring away the fakes, flakes and weirdos.

Thanks for sharing your insight.

RonKathy,
You seem like a caring couple so don’t know why you’d scare away anyone. Maybe it’s because you are direct and honest so as not to waste time in search of fun.

Enjoy your comments. Learn a lot from them. Sure you attract many good couples and individuals while scaring away the fakes, flakes and weirdos.

Thanks for sharing your insight.

R&K

Bye bye birdie, I do not think you will hear from him.

So after chatting with a local new SLS guy.. we are meeting in one hour and hopefully he can bring what we look for as described prior.. .if not its all good.. we went dancing with 8 friends last night to our favorite band and restaurant speak easy 20's place.. and well the rest was history .. so either way its going to be a great weekend!

Stay tuned!

pittscouple - "I myself don’t really care what other couples think,..."

If you think like that, why would you expect other couples to care what you think?

Not embarrassed at all. Love it!

Exactly Fran.. and going strong both of us for over 30 years! Happy wife is truly a happy life!

It is what keeps us young!

Pitt - and at the end of the day, isn't that what it is about...her being the center of attention :)

I myself don’t really care what other couples think, I only like my wife to be the center of attention and make sure she is satisfied.

We hadn't looked at our certs for a long time. It appears that we have five certs that we accepted between 2005 and 2010. Wow, that was a long time ago. Maybe we should delete them as people may think we have left the lifestyle. We haven't.

Exactly DTH and RTC.. and for some singles we get it.. but for us..long time swingers way before SLS and other sites its just no ones business.

Some feel they need to Boast or brag about what they do and yes we get it but not us.. lets say this when we first came on SLS we were talking with many couples still on today.. they wanted to give us "Certs" just because we emailed and talked with them.. it was and is still a joke to "us"! We also know couples in GA who meet for lunch or dinner never ever play and give out CERTS.. yes people we are real too breathing, living, and playing and have xxx photos for our own FWB ... LOL !

We feel DTH said it best. Our private adult life should stay private. We love all LS activities as long as the chemistry is right. And we tend to cycle in and out of mfm, cpls, and fmf meets depending on our mood. We’ve never accepted or posted cents and don’t feel we’ve missed out on any fun over the years.

We don't openly discuss it with anyone that will listen, but if people found out we'd probably shrug it off because the people that are questioning it are not on our list.

R&K

Totally agree on the certs. I don’t give them and i don’t post them.

What I do and with who I do it is no one’s business. I may not get the offers because I don’t have any certs, but that is my choice. Suffice to say I have a few regulars and I am good with that!

Early on, We gave certs for single males we met with since we know how difficult it can be for couples to find legit guys. But after posting them we always got a few single guys asking why we never met with them. We stopped afterwards from posting and accepting them, just not worth the drama

And thats why for "us" its no ones business who we play with.. going on 30 years .. never had a CERT except the NOLA Fiasco.. and its a joke !

All our FWB all over USA and beyond know who we are and what we do!

I actually enjoy watching Mrs pleasure another gentleman. We actually did that with our last get together with our friends. We spit roasted her and she loved every second of him in her mouth and me inside her.

@jfg - At first, the Mrs had a similar issue. There was always this fear that I'd no longer love her if she admitted she enjoyed sex as much as she did with someone other than me. There was also the fear of what others would think if she gave into the urges that I imagine most women have, but after realizing that I'm perfectly OK with it, she just loved me all that much more for it.

It can take a while to realize that you can seperate love from sex, and that recreational sex is a lot of fun when you don't have to worry about it having a negative impact on your relationship.

In a way, I think this is something that at least initially allows women to enjoy the LS all that much more. A lot of people find things that are considered taboo to be even more erotic. Just having sex with someone other than her husband probably pushes that taboo line more for her than her hubby. Seeing his wife act slutty likely pushes that taboo line for him, so it's a win/win.

We have a slightly different "embarrassment" situation. My wife loves MFM but is embarrassed that she enjoys it so much. I think her background and the way she was raised made her feel that sex was taboo and only for reproduction, not enjoyment. She discovered at an early age that sex is also fun and she wanted to learn about it. Her first husband also made her feel that her sexual desires were "dirty" and not acceptable to him. We've enjoyed exploring her sexual side but she is still embarrassed by her needs, especially in front of other women.

Right on jaju

As someone already mentioned, some couples see SMs as more promiscuous than couples, even though that may not necessarily be true. There are couples that are looking for a very limited group of players, usually somehow tied to STD concerns, so it has nothing to do with being "embarrassed". They feel that, if you as a couple are engaging with SMs, you are too much of a risk to them. The same can be seen by people shunning others that aren't Covid vaccinated.

I recently had a dialog with a couple that did not do oral or even kissing due to STD concerns. They know that they were limiting themselves to a much smaller audience, and they are OK with that. They may be on the extreme end of safety, but everyone is welcome to impose whatever restrictions they want.

Judy,

I agree, it is very satisfying for the men as well. Nothing like having a woman being the center of attention and pleasuring her in so many ways!!! Hot, sensual and very erotic!!!

Hi this is Judy. We never have a problem with SM they are really one of the most exciting parts for a woman. knowing I’m going to be the center of attention for my husband and another guy always makes be very excited the whole day of the date