Episode 117 - A Midsummer Night's Nightmare?! Not Exactly!

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Speaker1: Living the Sweet Life is a podcast intended for mature audiences only. We'll be using sexually explicit language while discussing many different adult themes. So if you're under the age of 18, please stop listening. Also, please know that our thoughts and opinions should not be taken as professional advice. We're here to answer your questions about the swinger lifestyle from newbies to longtime swingers. Or if you're just curious, we hope to engage you all and to encourage a sex positive discussion. Now that we've got that out of the way, make yourself much for joining us in this episode of living the sweet life she is my beautiful sexy co-host and wife the lovely trist and tonight we are on episode 117 we're gonna be telling a little bit of sexy stories from a wonderful play party that we went to over the summer with a twist it was not all sunshine and rainbows people but we make the best of these situations don't we baby yeah we try how about you make the best of that microphone there i said we try i'm trying to adjust to do something different so that i can just be great i know you should be great before we hit the live button all the time you are baby all the time so ladies and gentlemen before we get into all the craziness all the wild stories and all the good stuff bad stuff y'all know how i go we got like a little bit of housekeeping so baby where we going in the springtime this spring where we going we're sorry i'm just kidding i'm just kidding i know we're going we are hosting this year's 2026 hito trip with the casual group we are co-hosting this year and we are super excited casual swing a week that's right that's right uh i guess y'all heard it here first they we still owe them like uh an intro because uh i don't think they've announced it yet so that's just between us okay y'all so don't tell nobody we would we will get that to you right after the show actually so don't tell nobody y'all know we're going. But, yeah, we're going. We're co-hosting, and we cannot wait. The dates are March 14th through March 21st. And hopefully we're going to get a lot of sunshine, a lot of rainbows. And we keep hearing that, you know, Hedo is back in action right now. That's what we hear. That's what we hear. You know, if anybody is going or in the next, I guess, couple of weeks or so, let us know. Yeah, I spoke to a friend today, Trist, and they say that they're going in December and they're getting, you know, updates and all that good stuff from Hedo, telling them that their things are rolling and should be good, man. You know, it's just the transportation part that everybody's a little bit worried about, you know, the flights and, you know, driving through the countryside to get to that beautiful resort. Yes. What if our sweet stalkers just said in a laugh that they're going to be there, too, with us, that we're going to keep them out of trouble? No, that's not my intentions at all. I don no keep you out of trouble and then i like i'm gonna put you in trouble that's what i'm talking about the trouble that's the job baby that's the name of the game what's up people on instagram how y'all be listen we're about to keep it rolling so we can ask y'all opinions on some stuff yeah so again before we get into all the shenanigans all the crazy stuff my people on instagram come on jump over to um youtube man hit the live button come on in kick it with us give us some opinions give us your ideas and answer some of these crazy questions that we got coming your way but anyway trist y'all know what it is before we get into all the shenanigans i want to make sure that the queen is on the up and up so baby how you, how are you feeling tonight? You know, I'm feeling great. I'm feeling like, you know, apparently I was dropping some gems last night. We're going to talk about that in another episode. But I feel like when people say all the time, right, this is kind of like cliche. Oh, I've changed since the beginning of, beginning of you know when i started my lifestyle journey but literally i could pinpoint and we walked through this a little bit last night when how we move and how we talk and how we build relationship changed and i'm excited actually to talk through that and do the show because i was just spit you know off the top of my head like kind of like what i thought and my thoughts about like the things and kind of how it makes a difference so i'm excited to do that we got to hang out uh yesterday with some friends that we haven't hung out with uh in a few months right yeah in a few months it's been maybe once a quarter with these folks yes yes god bless them for hanging in there with i know i swear because it's just like our schedule yeah mostly our schedule right then their schedule so it's been it's been a journey yeah and i appreciate you hanging in there with us because most people would probably thought we was crazy right you're right and written us off man exactly like uh i really want to hang out with you it's just things it's been good it was a it was a great time and we can't wait to catch y'all up on some of that stuff if we're given permission to yeah but uh sweet talker checking it says so good to see you so good to see you too beautiful all the lovings all the lovings yeah but no it was good date like that part was good if you have never done uh this before it was it's actually pretty cool we went to what is it called a mentalist a mentalist performance and i didn't know what to expect right it was great i was highly entertained i'm not gonna give away all of the goods of it that's gonna be it for another it was really good blew my motherfucking mind but i get it to y'all but yeah so that's how i'm feeling the lock how are you me baby i am curious today i am curious sweet talkers all my people who are on instagram who are on the youtube listen and all the people who push play today I have a question I actually have a series of questions that's going I need your feedback for a future episode I want to know does playing with content creators or knowing that content creators are in a play situation with you does that matter how to how does the presence of a content creator affect the play situation are you nervous are you a little apprehensive about what kind of stories they may tell later do you feel like you have to live up to the expectations of a content creator who has had all these quote-unquote i'm doing air quotes people experiences all these experiences There these crazy stories does that shit matter i only have five experiences you are such a sweet little sexy lifestyle virgin and i'm here for it but no so uh anybody who is checking this out anybody on instagram give us some feedback man uh drop a comment um send us an email let us know and by the way uh shout out to the sweet talker who gave us this idea man that's a great great question it's going to be a sweet talker topic coming up so but we want to throw out the question see if we get some kind of responses to uh to to answer you know it doesn't matter if a content creator is involved in the play situations and what if you have multiple content creators involved in the situation does that matter oh man tris don't worry we're gonna write down these questions we're gonna send them out to to we're gonna blast them out to some of our friends and we might post them on uh on the grams and all that all the grams yeah yeah but that's how i'm feeling i'm feeling curious i want y'all to help me out let's let's build this episode together we'll keep telling y'all man this is y'all show we just the voices that's all but listen so again i think that about wraps it up for my how you feeling that's how i'm feeling tonight so my beautiful queen my wonderful sweet talkers are y'all ready to get into tonight's episode let's do it let's go all right folks thanks so much for hanging in there all right listen we got a thought experiment for you we got a little thought experiment we're going to do it with a little sweet life twist i want y'all to recall back in the was it the 90s tris, early 2000s when the movie A Time to Kill came out. You remember that, Joy?
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: Yo, it was such a deep, deep movie. You remember the ending?
Speaker2: No.
Speaker1: You know how long ago that was? We just talked about that. And you can at least say yeah, because we just talked about it. Well, oh, yes. That's just true.
Speaker2: That's true.
Speaker1: It's not like I didn't know that.
Speaker2: Right.
Speaker1: Dude, you know the answer to the question.
Speaker2: So the ending of the movie, man, Matthewew mcconaughey he played a lawyer um to samuel jackson he did like a thought experiment uh for the jerk the jury right he gave him this big old scenario and told them to close your eyes and then imagine you know this this crazy shit happens and then imagine it's a white girl, you know, that kind of thing. It was like a whoa, mind blowing kind of thing.
Speaker1: So we're going to do that today, but not white. Y'all follow me. Ready, Trish? Yes. Imagine this, sweet talkers. there's a house party full of all your sexiest friends and associates and people you maybe are interested in. You haven't had the opportunity to kick it with them, but all shit, they here. I seen them. They here. Everybody's fresh and sexy and people walking around naked. They socialize. And you know how it is at the party, babe, when you got your little drinks in your cup and you got people with you and everybody's having a fun time and making. Now you see people making out there and somebody getting a blowjob in the glory hole over there. You know what I'm saying? You might even hear some spanking going on upstairs. It's just the energy, right? It's the energy of the sex party is just going on. People in the hot tub, chilling, having conversations, drinking their drinking they drinks right and you got people in the pool and you got maybe somebody having sex in the bushes whatever it is it's everybody's fantasies coming true right but then you notice that someone's kind of approaching people for sex right that ain't nothing strange that happens at sex parties people go around and say hey what's good you know what's happening yeah hey how about you know now how about a little bit later you shoot your fucking shot people shooting these shots right so you notice somebody's shooting this shot but then they get that no right they get a no or maybe even like a you know not right now Maybe later. No, not right now. No. They leave, they know, not right now. Maybe later. No, not right now. No. They leave. They disappear. They go back, you know, making their rounds, I guess, you know, finishing, checking out the party, doing the thing. Then they come back, you know, and do it again. Hey, what's up? You know, it's about that time. You know, you said later later is now you know it's later and then they uh sorry no not i'm good i'm good not right now not right now you know what i mean they leave again then they come back again same cycle but getting a little bit more assertive a little bit more touchy popping in on scenarios that they ain't got no business popping up in. You know what I'm talking about, Trish? Mm-hmm. You know what I'm saying? A little bit more direct, propositioning more people kind of more frequently, right? Now, it's a little bit of a buzz going on in the party. It's a little bit of a, hey, you peeping the game over there over there you seeing what's good and people starting to get a little bit uncomfortable now right personalities big big personalities are starting to shrink you know they're getting a little quiet they're getting a little like yo i don't know about this shit this is crazy you know something's up something's up discomfort is evident it's in the room now i want you to imagine that this person is a woman We'll be right back. up something's up discomfort is evident it's in the room now i want you to imagine that this person is a woman now that experiment for me you know when when you think about it sometimes i i wonder sweet talkers let me know how y'all what y'all experienced there was that was the person that you imagined a dude at first or could it have been anyone any sweet talkers that are out there please don't leave me hanging but Trish you know the end of the story yes right you know that this was a woman who was guilty, I guess, who was the person who kind of maneuvered their way through this party in a way that made a lot of people uncomfortable. And tonight I kind of want to talk about the naughty, the bad shit, and then we're going to get to the sexy shit. But I want to understand or we're going to have the discussion again about gender roles and consent. Sweet Talker says, what did they say? Yep, definitely biased. I thought of a male. Yeah, thank you. Thank you for that. And most people probably would, right? Think that it was a man. Right. So then why? Why does, or let me ask you, yeah. Why do you think that a man was the first thing that came to your head that's the first question now um uh to the sweet talker but why do you think that someone trist uh would think that a man came to their head first uh hold on second another sweet talker says 100 both me and and their partner their partner thought it was a male. Yeah, because it's stereotypes is the answer. Yeah, sweet talker says stereotypes, yep. And I believe that to be true because we don't talk about as much in lifestyle as women being more of the offenders of the no, right? When they're being told no they don't take it well let me let me give another word the aggressors the aggressors yeah okay um so yeah we got stereotypes right we all believe that men are the ones who um are more assertive are more aggressive are more prone to not taking no for an answer and i'm not saying that men are absolvent of any you know yeah of this right but we gotta we're trying to acknowledge and understand and help people understand that women are too and that women got to be held accountable for some of this as well i'm not trying to bash we're not bashing but we're trying to create you're trying to have the conversation so that people can be more aware and women can be more aware of how they're acting at you know parties and such right yeah so what would have been the likely outcome had this been a man now to the credit of the party organizers right after after the party was over everybody kind of not everybody but quite a few people logged quote-unquote logged complaints right we let them know what was going on how people felt what it looked exactly who did what and whatever. And they evidently took care of it. Right. They were they made us they let us know that they were aware of the situation and that all that shit was going to be under control. And I haven't heard anything, you know, to the contrary since, you know, from other people. They've heard that this thing has been taken care of. So kudos to them. And we appreciate that. So let's say that let's put that out in the front um that you know i feel safer at this event but we won't even name that but go ahead trust so um what would have been the likely outcome if a dude was like running around like hey what's up yeah you know what you got going on no all right i'll be back i would challenge the sweet talk says online to this if it was a man that went up to multiple women during a party event it could be any event right and went up to multiple different women more than one time asking for a shot like to have some type of sexual encounter with that woman what do you think would have happened to that man so while we wait for them we got to answer the question i think he got his ass bounced up out of there pronto asap asap if not it would have been you know okay being escorted out would have been probably the best outcome the best possible outcome being escorted out being asked to leave the outcome that probably could have happened it'd been some fisticuffs it'd been a little kerfuffle a little scuffle you know what i'm talking about especially if I felt like you were in danger and that's another thing like do okay men men come with the idea of an element of danger do women tris i think they should that was a question for me i thought it was a question for everybody yeah i think that it should i don't think it should play one one of the other right um and and to be honest uh well sweet talker hold on says that uh he probably would have been kicked out or at least pulled to the side for a one-on-one conversation with the host right yeah i here's the thing because it was a woman like with this situation i think that a lot of people gave it a pass including myself right um with the behavior i didn't think it was acceptable behavior but also it you know at some points in the party you know it becomes like it early on it became like funny like haha exactly like oh this person is is being ridiculous but it went from funny to now this is like annoying you you did it right like you made it you brought it to the forefront of everybody's consciousness at least of mine anyway that okay we're making jokes we're making jokes but then you literally said what if it was a dude yes and it's like oh fuck light bulb moment so then it wouldn't have been funny it wouldn't have been funny at all right wouldn't have been funny at all like if it was a dude that did the exact same thing. Yeah. Yeah. So, yeah, again, so a guy comes, I believe, with an element of danger of like, you know, we associate men with like with taking of sex. And anyway. Right. So, yes. So even though women are totally capable of that. Right. But right but so again that that humor would be would have been gone completely right and what made it unfair was like i mentioned before big fun personalities got shrunk you know into small like hiding kind of from fun, from being themselves. And I thought that was totally unfair. And, you know, it needs to be addressed. So let's get through some more of the questions. I don't even know how to transition without just saying we're going to transition. So what are, you mentioned we mentioned this too so what are some of the things that women can kind of get away with or have gotten away with and some things that i may have even let slide right um i let some things slide like you know ha ha ha ha lock and then they touch and i like that listen ladies you're listening to my voice i like that i like it when you're laughing and you're touching me i'm i am good with that right i am good with a lot of like touch and you know rubbing or whatever i'm not saying grab my dick or nothing like that definitely no i'm uh you know and of women, to their credit, do ask, you know, can I kiss you? They ask, is that OK? Is this OK? I love that. I love that. Consent is very sexy and women are good at it. Right. It's I think. And I mean, you and I, you wrote this down before the show. It's not about, you know, it is about consent, but it's more about the being accepting the denial yeah this is not like this is this is not about consenting at all but this is you wouldn't say at all i wouldn't say no what i'm saying i'm talking about this situation is not about consent it that's not what happened it's not the consent of i'm not saying you shouldn't have a consent conversation that's not what i'm saying at all what i'm saying is the the issue of what what it is has to do with the no once you are told no yeah the answer is no even if it's did not right now it's still not to re-approach that person and say that you said not right now so what about now right it is did not right now it's still a no and i'm gonna tell you why because it's a no for you as the person that did the proposition right it only that not right now only changes when the person that says not right now approaches you. Yes. To say now to say, hey, do you have some time now? That's when you can reengage that conversation or let's say you two down the line, you know, yards getting hot and heavy or whatever it is about something else. And it comes up but i feel like as the person that approached the conversation first deny right now is like a no it's like it's still a no what they say is that anything other than a yes is a no is a no and that's how you got to see it you know and then move on and you move on you can't in in the same setting ask multiple times for to the same person yes do you want to do this thing we can just do it now that right there is the problem that's what i'm saying it's it is it is it's just tasteful it's like all of the things yeah uh someone checks in and says 100 percent agree yeah anything that's not a yes it's no it's very simple it's very simple um yeah people have a tough time with that people have a tough time with no and okay controversial question do you think that is mostly not mostly do you think that's a woman thing? Yeah, that's a controversial question. And I know I might get skewered for it. And you may. But here's the thing. Like, I've been approached by women before. I mean, multiple times, but, you know, different women. Right. That believe that they can just walk up to you because you're a woman and they can just touch your boob or you know touch your grab your ass or something like that and it's supposed to be and you're not supposed to look at them crazy and say like don't you know don't grab my ass or don't you know touch my boob and they look at you literally like why do you have a problem with that yeah so i have a problem with it because you just walked up to me and started groping me yeah without asking me right that's why it don't matter if you're a man woman or what it is yeah that that it doesn't matter right but i do think that some and that means we talk as you can correct me if i'm wrong on that that women get a pass for doing things like that is what i'm saying and they're not corrected let's catch up with the sweet talkers are saying we've said uh someone says i've had to say hard nose to two women and uh says actually three times lock soil one at the club i do recall that and i have that i have that in my notes that um you know i've seen women correct other women and i've seen men and i've been one correct women for women you know like hey you've done that for me too plenty of times you're like no did you ask my wife to touch her you know what i mean and and then they but they look they look at you crazy first right like oh why like we got the same genitalia i can touch her titties if i like touch her she didn't ask she you didn't ask her to touch her right right man so uh um you know when it comes to like the reasserting how you mentioned right it's not about it is about consent but it's more about like accepting the denial and moving on you know what i mean like i i personally have been shot down and when you know i take it as like i'm one i'm proud of you for saying no i'm proud of you for using your words and saying no like you know that's great uh and then two i take it as like i ain't never going back for that again you know what i'm saying like that that it you know it's like i don't want to get shut down again i'm not going to re-approach or re-engage it is totally on you to come and get me if you ever change your mind you know i'm saying i feel like you know it takes enough courage to do it just once but the moxie to continuously cycle back i don't know that it goes back to your question that's right here go for it do and this is sweet talk for sweet talkers too do you think that the that in this scenario especially that women continuously to ask men um hey let me do this thing with you or on you is because they believe that men are easy like they're known to be easy and you're not going to tell me no because i have a vagina yeah oh what do we think what do you think trish are men easy are we suckers for love i think i don't think so i think that you know just like men can also use their nose right and should be allowed to use their no i don't this is my viewpoint i can't say for everyone sure my viewpoint is that a man can always say no yeah not that he can but will will say no and or not right now whatever it is i expect you to say that and it should not just be yes because i am tris and i asked you to come over here that's not how this works but do you think a man would say no that's the question i would hope not He said he can. Yeah, we know we can. But you think he would? Like, I would hope so. Tristan, say no that's the question i would hope not that he can yeah we know we can but you think he would like i would hope so trish look i'm gonna answer the question i'm kind of easy and i don't want all men to be held to that but i'm kind of easy like i am very susceptible to flattery i'm very susceptible to touch somebody touched me i'm like oh she want to have my baby you know my gosh i'm kidding of course i'm kidding of course i'm kidding but i am i i am uh more open than you right just me and you not the world but then me and you i am more open like when i go to a party and somebody you know if she's showing interest and she's attractive and we get a couple yucks it's like huh maybe maybe this could happen um but you've also said no but i have also said no and i have said no recently or not even said no but i've kind of gotten myself out of situations that i saw was kind of moving towards a direction that i didn't want to be in so i kind of disengage so yeah no i am totally capable of it but do you think most men would or did are most men like opportunists yeah okay sweet turkeys i've seen my husband saying no respectfully yeah, and then another sweet Tucker says that if the chemistry isn't there, it's a no. There you go.
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: I think, yeah, I think that you should be able to say no. You should be able to. I don't know about the whole you're easy thing. I think that I always mess with you to say, oh, my gosh, you're so easy. But I think it still takes some type of. You call me a slut. It's like, I i did not call you no you never did um but i get it it's just that what i did say was that it's easier and quicker for you to engage with people than me because i need a little bit more than just oh you cute i you know a little flirt here and there so but you don't need all of that that's totally different right no yeah like i don't need you know um the cosmic you know the the cosmos to align for me to drop my draws i don't let's just be honest i do not need that it makes it better it does make it so so much better I do prefer that but I'm capable of you know yeah the other thing so how do we fix this issue what are we thinking people how do we make this known how do we check this You know what I'm saying for everybody's comfort for women's comfort men's comfort uh how do we check it what do you think i think you should treat both parties equal that's the thing right like women if there's a woman that's doing it doesn't matter if it's a woman or a man if you're doing something that is out of bounds then it should be brought up and talked about the same way regardless of gender yeah but i do know that it's hard for people sometimes because they see it as oh that's a woman you know we should approach it differently no but it doesn't matter you're doing something that's out of bounds and disrespectful at times too so you should be just talked to about it i agree yeah i think um that you have to call it out Let's do it. that's out of bounds and disrespectful at times too so you should be just talked to about it i agree yeah i think um that you have to call it out pretty immediately right um if not immediately maybe you know very shortly after the the issue and it doesn't have to be mean doesn't have to be nasty you know but just let people know it's the same way with uh you know microaggressions of people touching tris hair without uh consent you know it's like hey you know easy that's that's not really cool i don't really appreciate that but here's how you can you know even offer up like recommendations here's how you can possibly get what you want you want to touch my hair maybe just ask and you know i'll gladly let you touch my hair or you want to you know have some sex later yeah let's talk about it give me yeah let's how about a name first you know what i mean let's exchange names first and then maybe we could do that later not now not now means no right we've discussed that but um maybe we could talk about it you know what i'm'm saying? So I don't know. It just is very subjective, but I think it is like something that we have to keep doing, keep talking about, keep addressing. We have a platform to share our thoughts on it. So hopefully somebody is hearing and saying, oh, shit, maybe I can do a little bit better or I can help share the message that, you know, maybe women can tighten it up a little bit yeah and i just wish that um i mean like going forward like hindsight 2020 right is always the thing but the thing is is that going forward in the future like if that type of situation were to happen i would address it in the situation yeah so it wasn't addressed in a situation because I'm not, I think in my conscious mind is what I'm saying that it's like,
Speaker2: oh,
Speaker1: you know, but you know, he's a male. Like if you do, if it's not, if maybe you don't feel like it's uncomfortable for this person to keep asking you for this proposition, I feel uncomfortable, but maybe because you're not saying anything, you're not not uncomfortable but your body language is telling me you're uncomfortable but you're not saying anything so i was kind of like but if it was my friend that was a woman and i felt like your body language is is saying something different i would have addressed it then right so it's that's what made me go back and really like like assess it right because we also talked to some other friends about it like right after it happened um and it was kind of like during that conversation it was like if it was a man what would you do yeah and i'm like you wait like i wouldn't be here contemplating like should i say something we would have done or not or you know should i say something to the host about what i experienced or not so i went back and forth about it but it wasn't until it was like that brief like if it was a man what would you do that and then unless when a light bulb went off and when it went immediate like reaction yeah that we got to say something that we got and that's what we did we did do that we um we sent the message to the organizers and again uh kudos to them they they handled it swiftly and discreetly and um yeah this is actually probably the first time this thing's been talked about but yeah um good stuff trist uh i think we nailed that hammered it to bed and um we're going to awkwardly transition to some sexy shit. Is that your word tonight? Awkwardly transition. Awkwardly transition. Yeah, I hear it on my podcast that I listen to all the time, so I'm adopting it. So thank you for pointing that out. Sorry. We'll be right back in a second. Ready? Yeah. I stay ready. All right, ladies and gentlemen. Thanks for hanging in there. All right. Now, there was a party that happened. Yeah. There was a lot of sexy shit that went down. And we about to talk about that part. You ready, Trist? Yes. So we got to the party a little bit late this night right and this is like a summertime party so it's nighttime it's pool party it's hot tubs it's people walking around and there's nothing i tell you nothing like when you get to the party it's already jumping uh and it's already warmed up it's already warmed up man and we walk through the back door because we always have to go through the back door for some reason at this party we never get there on time i don't think did we go to the back door no i'm getting confused just side door doesn't matter yeah but when we got there and when you get to the party it's nothing like seeing that first set of boobies for me like you see that first set and you know it's just like we here yeah like we here like okay we're in some adult shit you know like it's real now like yes comfort excitement and euphoria it just all just like boom it's like a dopamine hit you get a little dopamine hit it's like okay now we're cooking great so we wander around uh saying hi to the people on the first floor catching up hey what's good what's good good to see good to see all the things right yes doing all the things and then we take our little asses upstairs right still got our little uh our casual bag casual swag bag the stay ready bag with the condoms and lube and all the good stuff in it over my shoulder right over my chest and we we fully clothed walking upstairs we go to the main bedroom and what do we see dress what we see in there it's just bodies getting it in everywhere in corners on the bed on the side table everywhere it was people making it work it was people making it work all of our friends like these are the people that we were coming to see and you know we were looking for we we found they asses yes everybody's like even like full throttle it's like hey yeah how you doing one friend was like going down on a woman popped his head up for a second was like like what, hey, boop, right back down in it. And there was like a huddle of some naked bodies. Yes. It was like fairy wings. Oh, it was. It was just sexy. It was sexy. So we get in and we're saying hi to people. Hey, oh, my God. These people I haven't seen in so long. Oh, it's so good to see you. Hey, okay, cool. You hmm yeah matter of fact i do you know it's been such a long time and you're excited to see me i'm excited to see you spoiler alert so i'm so excited to see okay great let's do uh is that good trust you you're good yeah go ahead all right cool naked mind you got my bag got to this still got the bag on my chest i don't even know i got the condom from like a bucket i think i had sex with her with the bag on my chest maybe very possible that's possible and then she left me uh-huh on to the next you was not special sir and then she left me on to the next you was not special sir and I said that to him I said oh you thought you was special you were not sir I wasn't I thought I was because we go way back and all the things and it's been a minute oh god it's so good to see oh my god how's every okay great uh huh nope gone no gone damn i feel so used you did you said that you said that that night i feel so used you was like man i really thought she missed me no so went to the bathroom showered up and uh you know got my got my confidence back like god damn that's fucked up you know what i'm saying and then um sweet talk is laughing at you and i deserve that yes because he mess so what was going through your mind like early on um just feeling the vibe and checking out i was just feeling the vibes you know i was talking to my friends in the bathroom because i didn't want to mess anyone up so as they were coming in cleaning off you know all of their goodness and glory It's a I did. So you see what I'm saying? I got warmed up. I ain't jumped all the way in, you know, 10 toes and all the things. Don't victim blame me. I thought I was missed. No, you were not. So, yeah. So, let me see. Oh, right. So, eventually, you know, we're working our way through the party. And I know I'm missing a bunch of of stuff this is what happens just when we don't take notes immediately right one of our parties that we just recently went to i was driving my car and i can't remember where i was going from but i know i was coming home and it was like a 30 minute drive so i just took the time to just record myself remembering that party so now whenever we decide to go to that party i got my nose you got your nose you ain't got nothing i i you got the memory still trapped i got the memories in my brain honey fair enough so um we had a new friend this was a new friend that we had been familiar with uh she's very nice her husband's very cool like great people i think this is our first time seeing them in a party together that's true we saw him at a party and i think we saw her at another event but this is our first time seeing them at a lifestyle party together then this part is actually important guys so i do want you to pay attention like pay attention to this because it this is this goes into you know what you should do you want to go no go ahead okay so explain because you gotta explain the first because i wasn't there copy fair yep so we're downstairs and everybody's kind of again you know making their way around and some friends of these new friends said hey lock the lady the lady partner would like you and me to give her a massage she wants our i think she just wanted men she wanted us and maybe one woman or no yeah it was just a dude or she wanted the one lady and then he she wanted his partner, his wife to. So she wanted six hands on her massage, oil massage upstairs pronto. I say, say less. Yes. Right. I'm reporting for duty. I got you. I'm here to make things happen. So we go upstairs with a very specific group of people to get this done because she wanted specific people hands on her body we lay her down and i'm telling you she is brown beautiful big old boobies right tris big old soft boobies and they are nice y'all right nice and she's laid down and i think i don't know if this is her first time experiencing this i don't know but whatever we was we was working her over right and you would think that we had done this shit like we were like we're getting paid for it because we we weren't bumping onto each other like we was smooth i had certain parts they had certain parts and it was trist was um trist happened to be in the room she saw what was going down yes and did not touch the woman yes so here's the thing she was getting a massage she was face down they were all when i came back up because i was i was talking to some friends and somewhere else so i was not a part of this consensual conversation i was nowhere in that conversation at all you were the wing woman i came up and i saw my friends and husband massaging the woman who i know however i was not a part of the conversation so i did not touch her at all because i did not get any type of consent from her to say that i should be massaging her because i wasn't there but i did however assist all the hands what was you doing babe how you help out your hands it wasn't a dry hand in the place because no i was given oil i was the oil girl making sure everybody had the oils to warm oils and put it on her was telling them where to put it make sure you put it down her butt like so she could feel it go down through her butt cheeks into like her vagina yes so i was directing yeah traffic and occasionally you know give people their little rubs and you was rubbing the massager yes the masseuse the masseuse yes so they left they they gave me those permissions but i had no permission to touch her so i did not touch her right right at all and you did a great job and you also played defense and i played defense because you are right you dope like that that's right so there were were other people who tried to get into the into the situation. And Trish was like, no. And we had we and I felt so bad. I feel so bad because this massage had her gone. Oh, yeah. She was out. Once she flipped over, she was on her back, and we're, over, all over those big old tickles. Right. And all the rest, excuse me, all the rest of her just going and massaging and rubbing. And she was gone. Subspace out of it. Right. Other people tried to get into this situation. Trish, you know, played a little defense, letting them know. And then I had to kind of break her out of her spell to see if she consented. And she was like, no. And then that was it. And Trish was like, get the fuck out of here. Get the fuck out of here. Yes. You are out. It was awesome. Not to be worried about no more. Sweet Talker sends a couple fire emojis. And what else they say? Oh, that was very nice of you, Triss. I try to help where I can.
Speaker2: That's right.
Speaker1: Yeah, you do. Yeah, you do. You don't fuck around. You do not fuck around, man. And so, yeah. So she enjoyed the hell out of that massage. And that was it, y'all. Nobody stuck no dicks and nothing. Nobody, you know, there was no sexual penetration or I don't think anybody went down on her. No. It was just she wanted a massage. Yeah. And it was awesome. And close people got to help her with that. Yes. And then it also helped, you know, my situation and we're watching you know all of you guys and helping you and now i'm like okay cool now you are with my massages so it's like you know then um it was you and our other friend i was just like oh i want to massage you i was like i'm down here for it. So then, you know, a lot of people had already like left the room. So it was really cool because it was not as many people like just hanging out. And then I started to get my hands massaged. Yeah. I think it was just us three. It was just us. Yeah. It was just us three. And I can't remember if you, you usually start down on your face right you usually start there and this guy he's been looking for you he's been checking for you man shooting the shots but understanding the not right now means i see you at the next party i'll see you next time you know what i'm saying totally respectful like totally telling me i'll see you next time i'm gonna ask you again okay but you know like yeah close close friend that understands the situation understands tris and how she moves and this was an opportunity that tris has given both of us to give her a massage and you're doing and like we're doing that and again man me and homie we we we know the routine we got the thing down so we we we working you over and and rubbing your booty i can't remember if you flipped over honestly i kind of tapped out i tapped out of it because i wanted to watch i wanted to watch a little bit so i stepped out and moved off to the side and just let y'all kind of enjoy that moment together and i watched it and then i just i took i took a little walk around the neighborhood so you go ahead and tell the people what happened while i was gone no before you took a walk around the neighborhood well. I did. But you had to play defense to make sure the same, right? That no randos just try to come up and interrupt the situation. Yeah, I literally had to say, yo, they've been waiting for this for a long time. Let's give them their space. You know what I'm saying? They've been waiting for this thing to happen a long time. Let's kind of back up, you know, and check on them again a little later. And we did that. That's right. So then, yeah, I played defense. I got both of us out of there, I think. I think I went one way and then the other person left as well. But, yeah. So what happened by the time I came back, it was some cool shit going on. so, you know, we do the things and we continue our massage. It's always very polite. You know, ask, is this okay? You know, those types of things. And I'm like, you know, let's just try to do the things. Let's try to do the things and see how this is going to work. Right? The stars are in the sky, all the things. I'm feeling froggy. I'm feeling froggy tonight. So let's go. Let's do the things. And you know what? It was perfect, right? Because it wasn't like, I don't even know if there was probably any, maybe one person, two people there, right? So it wasn't a lot of commotion going on all at the same time so we were just able to really just focus on the two of us it was a couple people though oh it was a few but that's a good thing it's a good thing that you don't remember that there was people around yeah y'all were on one side of the bed because and the only reason i know is because i was talking shit to him oh i was talking mad shit i said something like he got up inside you and his face was like oh i was like uh-huh you weren't ready for that pussy i was like uh-huh you wasn't he was like this motherfucker ain't shit yeah but i was like uh-huh uh-huh and you know i was kind of egging him on but it was exciting it was like sexy it was like yeah you weren't ready you know and just talking shit encouraging more than anything and it was real it was i found it to be sexy and i think he did too because you know we talked about it a little bit uh later but i say that to say y'all was on one side of the bed and there was another couple in between y'all and then at the end of the bed it was me and his wife oh okay we was kind of just like fucking around just like fiddle faddling around talking shit oh you know because she liked to talk shit and we was like you know fucking around looking at y'all talking some shit look at y'all look at them look at them that kind of thing and then she and i got uh entangled look at that word remember that word entangled entangled yeah we got entangled a little bit at the edge of the bed but it was uncomfortable uh it's like her i think she was on the the headboard like arms up on the headboard and it was a couple behind us and they gave us like consent to kind of mess around and like touch back and it was like a knee here or a thigh there and you know we was kind of moving as one but it was still uncomfortable for me i think i had one leg on the one knee on the bed one leg straight down and she was on the headboard so we moved over to the massage table and i think by this time you two were maybe done and kind of snuggling up on the couch together or something. I don't know. Yeah, we was we was watching somebody else get a massage. I don't remember the concept of time. Time is crazy right now. So she and I are on the massage table and we're like face to face and she's kind of straddling me. And I remember she, you know, she squirts, but she didn't want to. Right. And I think a lot of guys or people enjoy having someone squirt. It is sexy. Right. I'm not going to front. It is sexy. It is a fantasy. But the anguish on her face because she did not want to. She doesn't. I'm not going to say she doesn't enjoy. I'm not going to speak out of turn there. there but i know at some points she says i don't want to make a fucking mess it's not she wants to have sex she wants to enjoy herself but she don't want to make a mess all the fucking time so she was trying not to and this is the first time i looked and i was like i felt bad i was like okay don't do it you're good. You got it. And, you know, it's like when you see someone trying not to come, but you want them to come.
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: And you're like, go.
Speaker2: You can come. Come on.
Speaker1: And they're like, oh, you're holding it back. And it's sexy, you know. And that cat and mouse game ensues. I didn't want that. I didn't want her to. I didn't want to do that. It was one of that it was one of them situations like no you're saying you don't want to do that i'm gonna sit my ass still yeah and we're gonna chill until you come back down and that's what we did we sat we chilled until she came back down no muss no fuss no mess and i felt i was proud of myself. A little pat on the back, yeah. I guess that we didn't, that I didn't push her past where she wanted to be. But it was still a very, very sexy time. And every time I connect with her, you know, it's a great time. And I'm appreciative of her spending her time with me. With you. We'll be, I can't even speak. Boom boom goes the dynamite so then all right to wrap things up i know you you enjoyed your time with our friend that was very sexy to watch i just remember you like on your back legs up in the air all all the things somebody told us that a podcast should be called All the Things. Yeah. Because we say that a lot. They say it a lot. I was like, I do. Yes. Shout out to them, man. You know who you are. You sent us a message on IG. Appreciate y'all. So after everything was pretty much done, we was wrapping up, right? Night was wrapping up. It was time to get ready to go um some of our friends were already downstairs i went to do one more lap to go say goodnight to some people before we came back upstairs to go kind of get my shit that's right because you leave your clothes in a certain room yes so went to go get kind of gather up my shit and i walked past this area where there was a nice little group of people uh congregated on like a couch uh like a laying situation did you find yourself in an entanglement I got a little entangled I got my tongue I got my tongue entangled on the way out the door because some of our friends our new friends were sleeping I went to go say bye to them but they were like knocked out it was like okay they're sleeping but next to them it was like a group of maybe four or five other people kind of just like cuddle puddle it was a cute little cuddle puddle and then and i was no man listen hold on sexiest shit in the world happened cute little cuddle puddle and there's a hot woman another she's tall brown just sexy right i've seen her at a few different things but she and i had never connected we talk a little bit you know we flirt a little bit and you know i think we've even exchanged information at um a friend's birthday party remember that yes so i'm walking through and i'm looking i catch her eyes her eyes got all sexy and small you know how you know you you get a sexy little look you like come hither and shit and i look over my shoulder like me you know i'm saying like me and i point like me and she like yeah you know give me a little yeah a little head nod like yeah so i come back over and i'm like looking and she's playing with herself i mean people listen yeah who don't know that that is the sexiest shit in the world to me like a woman playing with herself like toys fingering touching herself is super over the moon sexy to me so she's doing that while these people are next to her everybody's kind of like now kind of like watching her and like just kind of again cuddle puddle touching and kissing and just laying being sexy and she's touching herself and i'm like holy fucking shit and then i kind of like kneel down while she's on the on the um on the couch i didn't i didn't touch i didn't i just asked could i watch and she said yeah she nodded yes and you know i looked over at her friends to make sure that they knew that she told me i could watch and everybody was like they looked at me they looked at her everybody got the nods and commenced to kind of like touching and she's touching herself and now somebody's pinching her nipples and now somebody's grabbing her throat and now somebody's she's rubbing on like a thigh with her open hand or the other hand and i'm just watching i'm on my knees just watching and she looks and she takes her finger out of her pussy and puts it to my mouth i lick her finger you supposed been leaving i suppose been leaving but i got entangled again Nuh-huh was like basically you know i asked can i taste you and she said yeah went down on her for just a few seconds actually you know it was like it wasn't very long it wasn't very long but it was a moment like everybody was kind of moving and you know and again it was other people helping her while i'm going down on it they're like pinching her nipples and she's getting excited i'm not going to say she sat there and came you know but it was like a release and everybody was just like oh good job because it was like teamwork everybody kind of came together as a team to do something sexy and fun and then we got shooed off the couch was like don't do that shit no more oh shit that's right and everybody was like oh we we all felt shame immediate shame over our over our bodies uh and then i scurried upstairs to uh you know catch up with the wife and you know gather our belongings and say our good nights to everyone and that's what we did everything good yeah oh yeah to uh gather our belongings and uh make our way out of this wonderful adventure of a party to which we hope to get another invite after all the crazy shenanigans and misdeeds on the couch sorry about that you've been invited actually after that we just couldn't go did we yes because it's the same time a sneaker roll oh nice that's right okay good okay great okay we didn't we didn't fuck up the invite no that's great to know well my people this has been a wild interesting night thank y'all so much for joining us thank y'all for all the comments all the questions all the feedback again man this has been like probably the most active uh episode we've had in a while so shout out to y'all shout out to all the sweet talkers again don't forget to uh leave us a comment send us an email at the sweet life podcast at gmail.com let us know if comment if content creators interrupt the flow of a party how y'all feel about content creators being at parties do you feel like anonymity might be in jeopardy what do y'all think about content creators at orgies and parties, man?
Speaker2: Let us know. All right.
Speaker1: With that, thank you again. We'll catch y'all next time.
Speaker2: Bye.
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