Episode 118 - Suite Talker Topic: A 2026 Refresher on Group Play Etiquette!

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Speaker1: Living the Suite Life is a podcast intended for mature audiences only. We'll be using sexually explicit language while discussing many different adult themes. So if you're under the age of 18, please stop listening. Also, please know that our thoughts and opinions should not be taken as professional advice. We're here to answer your questions about the swinger lifestyle. From newbies totime swingers, or if you're just curious, we hope to engage you all and to encourage a sex-positive discussion. Now that we've got that out of the way, make yourself comfortable for joining us in this episode of Living the Sweet Life. She is my beautiful, sexy co-host and wife, the lovely Trist. He is my sexy chocolate husband a lot. Happy New Year, y'all. It is 2026. We are going into, I think, the seventh year of living the sweet life. Yeah. That's crazy. Seven years. Seven year itch. Seven years of good luck. How you want to look at it, Trish? Seven years of luck, hopefully. Yeah, all the good, good vibes because we're in the 2026. Listen, I know we left y'all hanging in 2025. We so sorry. We really are, man. Things have been crazy. Life has been up and down, but we miss y'all, man. We miss y'all. We miss getting behind these microphones. We miss turning on these lights and disappearing from the family and having these wonderful discussions about this amazing lifestyle that we found. Oh long ago, huh Tris? Yeah. I was just waving to sweet talkers online too, sorry. Tell them what's up. Tell them to join us in the sweet, sweet. You know, we miss y'all. We need y'all to come on over here because we got a good topic tonight, people. Yeah, again, you know, it's 2026. We're going to start off the way that we used to do this thing, Trish, with a little bit of edutainment, lots of opinion. But, you know, some, you know, this is a sweet talker topic. Let me go ahead and out there on the outset and say this is a sweet talker topic that we got from one of y'all wonderful people on Instagram. And we appreciate it. We love all sweet talker topics. And this is going to be a good one. We're talking about orgy etiquette. Ain't that right, Trish? Yeah. What is orgy etiquette, if you have any? What is it? And it's basically, you know, courtesy, how you behave. You know what I'm saying? Being a nice guest. But we're going to get there, y'all. Let's get to, if y'all can't tell, we're just a little rusty here. At least I'm feeling a little rusty. We're going to get to a little bit of housekeeping. As it stands today, we are counting down to casual swinger week 2026. Ain't that right, Trish? Yep, 2026 coming up in March. March. That's right. March 14th through the 21st. A lot of y'all have heard us talking about this one. I mean, I think we've done, we've been talking about it a lot in 2025 towards the end. And we're excited that we're going to be co-hosting in just today. As of today, 54 days. But by the time this episode posts, it's going to be only 49 days, Trist. 49. Isn't that crazy? Like before we knew it, this trip done jumped up on our back and we got to get ready for theme nights. No, no. I might be recycling. We'll see. Oh, the recycle button is going to certainly be in effect. I'm about to go digging through all the bags, all the old clothes. We're going to see what we got. Still, my recycle is probably better than someone's original, but we'll see. I think that's a shade towards the strangers. Why are you sitting in strangers? It's not shading strangers. It's just that, you know, I mean, most of these things you put a lot of thought into then you only wear it like one time so it's in a vault somewhere it's not a shade to anyone it's just yeah what it is it is what i'm just dope that's all i've just been to a lot of stuff you have we have we've done you know again i don't even know how many years this is, but we got years of costumes and little artifacts and accessories. And that's really what I made is that we have years of costumes. Yeah, we do. We got years stored up and we're going to dust them off and polish them up and oil them down. And yeah, we're going to pack them in that bag and hopefully they get through security. I hope so. Yeah. Yeah. But no, listen, this is going to be epic. Like, again, it's a great group of people led by our wonderful hosts, Mickey and Mallory of the Casual Swinger podcast. They've been doing this thing for a few years now. And the people that are in this chat group, they're they, man. Like, they're really close friends. I don't want to say family because that's creepy. Yeah. But, like, it's a really tight-knit group of people. And they're super welcoming. They're super excited to have many more people join. And we're excited and appreciative to be co-hosting again. Yeah. I really hope that the weather cooperates. So we're going to see. Yeah. Somebody mentioned that. Because it's going to be in March. Yeah. They mentioned the catamaran cruise. So that option is live. So if you join the group, you have the option to purchase your ticket for the boat. And the boat is where it's at. The boat is where it's at. Except for when it rains. Except for when it rains. But we're going to be out there regardless, you know, with some galoshes on and a raincoat if necessary. But it's going to be a party, man. You know, the rain don't stop these folks, man. And if it's anything that we learned, the Caribbean party don't stop when it rains. Because it rains. Like when we went to Barbados. Yes. That rain ain't stopped. Stop the party. So, yeah, man. Oh, you didn't give the dates? I did. March 14th to the 21st. Okay. Yeah, March 14th to the 21st. Y'all can still get in there, if I'm not mistaken. But yeah, I'm sure they'll find a room for you. Come on. That's right. That's right. All right. So that's the big thing that's on the calendar right now. Y'all know that's where we're going to be. I hope we get to see y'all. We would love it if some sweet talkers came out there. That's always a blast. We had a sweet talker and a sweet talker couple saying that they were coming out. Unfortunately, they're not going to be able to make it. Y'all know who y'all are. If y'all listen to our voice, we hope that everything is OK. And we'll catch y'all next time. In the meantime, in between time, I know I got to check in with this lovely tipsy woman over to my right my beautiful queen how you feeling so i'm feeling you know i'm feeling like a lot of things so first this i i created this lip color today because i i'm in love with like glitter and nudes and all the things so I created this lip color and guess what I named it? Insert nude joke here. Trist. Did you name it Trist? I named it Lip Trist. Lip Trist. You are so pleased with yourself. Yes. Yes. I very much so. And guess what? I'm going to bring it with me when I come on a casual trip. And maybe I'll put some of these lips on you. I know. I love that. And you can see Lip Trist in action. I got Lip Trist. But no, the other thing is how I'm feeling. I'm feeling like I want to, if I could have like one day, literally like one day, like right now as an adult, do a Freaky Friday flip with my adult child and myself. I want to do that. Just give me 24 hours. Okay. Explain. Give me 24 hours. Like the movie Freaky Friday. Yeah, like the movie Freaky Friday. Give me 24 hours. When you could be 24 again. Yes. Just be her. Not any 24-year-old. Okay. Her. Give me 24 hours and I could just be her. Wow, because you got some issues that you could solve for her. Because here's the thing. Oh, boy. Yes. I be feeling like these little things she was telling me in the car like, oh, you know. Uh-oh. This boy and that boy doing this, doing that. I'm like, I can fix that in a minute. Like, tell them, oh, this, that, the third. Change their whole different world. Okay, now moving on to the next. Turn them upside down. Upside down. Moving on to the next. And not even to be nasty about it. It's just like. How you know she can't turn them upside down? No, because she too... She too stressed out about it? Yeah, she too stressed out all up in the... Oh, no. Because... But he's a really good guy. Don't sound like it. It sounds like he's doing way too much. You know? And you just need to be busy. Busy. Booked and busy. Booked and busy. And all the things. That's what it is. And not paying him no mind and moving on to the next like I even told her about hanging out right maybe it's where you hanging out at because and as we talk is please let me know if I'm just thinking of this in my you know older brain but how you keep meeting the same people that know the same people from high school that is literally not possible possible unless you live in a small town. And we do not live in a small town. So if you keep dating the same guys that know somebody from high school or crew from high school that you still friends with, then you hanging out in the wrong spots is what I'm trying to say. You need to change some things in your life. So I just need 24 hours. 24 hours and you get her you set her straight. I set you all the way straight. But she would fuck your shit up. She would. My friend she'd be like you say. Think about the other side of the coin. Who you say? That shit. Your friend said you a new pitcher. Uh-huh. Yeah. Yeah. Why your friend seen you that? She know why. She ain't ready for that shit. They fine. Yeah, she ain't. Your friend not fine. You married. I understand. You might be ready for 24 hours in her shoes, but she ain't ready for 24 hours in your heels mama Yeah Now she say it that way
Speaker2: Oh yeah Yeah
Speaker1: So basically what you want I would have a great time You want Your soul to be in her body And your body just to be sleep
Speaker3: Sleep
Speaker2: Sleep
Speaker1: She ain't got to do nothing And her soul just kind of Floats around in the ether All they got to do is sleep Yes
Speaker2: Exactly And that makes perfect sense It't. Do not mess up my stuff. That doesn't make a good movie. That's not a good feature film. No green light. She could be Sleeping Beauty. No. Like sleep. Succeed. False. So that's how I'm feeling. How are you feeling? Like, I want to stay in my body. I think that's a good way to go. That's a good way to start. I think so. But no, speaking of my body, I want to get my body right. Like, I'm feeling like I want to get back in the gym. Like, listen. You've been in the gym. Side note. I know since we've been back, I've been trying to get get right you know what I mean I got I got some some competition out here that they might not even know they competition but you know Mr. Playfully Artsy hey listen y'all listen cuz has been hitting it right he is ready to go you know what I'm saying he's my hero my hero. Yeah, yeah. He's fighting. He's killing it right now. Don't let the guitar fool you. You know what I'm saying? And then I got... The guitar and the smile and the eyes. Yeah. If you ain't seen him, you seen the smile and his eyes, you be like, oh. Yeah, and then you got Mr. Red and Ready. Me and him, we've been texting back and forth, nutrition and motivation and stuff like that. We trying to get ourselves right. You know what I mean? So I feel, I'm feeling the heat of competition to bring my best self to Hedo. I'm trying to bring my best self too. You bring your best self every day, babe. All the best selves and my lip tris, all the selves. Bring them lips, tris. And you see what I did there? But anyway, but that's how I'm feeling, man. I'm feeling excited. I'm counting down. I'm ready. Like the chat groups are starting to blow up. Like the friends are starting to wake up from the winter hibernation. We back from, you know, vacation and everything. And, you know, we got, we got our feet on the ground. Now we got the sitters all situated. Most importantly. Yeah. And we ready to get to it. Oh, you ain't going nowhere. And we are ready to get to it. You think you're going outside the plate? No, you're not. My beautiful Trist. Yes. My wonderful Sweet Talkers. Are y'all ready to get into tonight's episode? Let's do it. Let's go. All right, ladies and gentlemen, thank you so much for hanging in there. Listen, man, this is episode 118. I cannot believe that. I'm just excited to be here. I'm excited to turn these mics on, man. Dust these things off. I think there was literally dust on them when we came back into the suite tonight. But that's okay, you know. You show, you know, you're neglecting your obligations here, Tris. You know what I'm saying? You're supposed to be putting your mouth on the mic every now and then. You're supposed to wrap your lip trist around it. Countries to go see. Slowly. And surely. And things to go do. And people to go do. Things. And people. You talk a lot of shit on this microphone. You talk a lot of shit. But that's why I like doing this. Real talk. We're going to take a pause for that. I do enjoy that. I love getting on this mic because you talk shit. And sometimes you got to back it up. I back up my things. I know you do. Especially when it's out in the atmosphere. In the ether. Yeah. Hey, I can't help that this, you know, allows me to have. The alter ego. No suitors that take me up on my offers. Yeah, yeah, they do. They do. And you cannot you cannot hate on me for that. I can't. I appreciate that. I appreciate when you throw shit out there and people be like, I volunteer as tribute. That's right. And you'd be like, okay. You shy up. But let's get to it, y'all. Topic number one. Topic number one. Listen, again, this is a sweet talker topic. Caveat, y'all. This is a caveat to this entire discussion. Uh-oh. Trista, are you yawning? Are you sleepy over there? Nobody can see that but you. Am I bored? And you're trying to like rat me out. I can hear it. Your tipsy ass. I'm not. Y'all listen. Tired. Take her ass tonight with a great assault. We don't know what the fuck we gonna get tonight. I'm a professional. Listen to her all fat-tongued. Here we go. Tonight is a sweet-talking topic, y'all. When it comes to orgies or group play, what kind of etiquette is there involved? And the question that they ask specifically is, how do you decide who to start with? We're gonna get to that We're going to get to that one, right? Because I think it's a very easy answer. And here's the caveat. The caveat is, you know, the man Trish discussed as we were planning the episode, orgies ain't really this structured. Right, Trish? No. It's not really this structured as we're going to lay it out. But we had to make this digestible for y'all. So bear with us. No, it's not that these things don't happen. Of course. That's not what it is. It's just that it's not like a structure. Okay, so first you're going to do this and then it should do this and then now it should do that. Like it's just not what happens. No, those are actually the kind of parties that we try to stray away from we kind of we enjoy free-flowing organic stuff but the only way that we conversation you have to so of course it has to be conversation but there is okay sorry no go ahead there is some conversation to that i don't want to say that there is nothing, right? Like nobody just jumps into it and be like, all right, let's go. That is not possible to do that unless you absolutely know. And even if when you know everyone that's a part of it, right? You still, there is still some type of conversation or decorum to even that, right? Even when it's in smaller groups, like meaning the bare minimum that you need for an orgy, right? For that, and we've had this discussion of episodes before, you know, what qualifies as an orgy, you can listen to those. But the thing is, is that I don't want to go down that part of rabbit hole, but even when you have smaller groups, right? Of an orgy. I don't know if they can hear us. Oh. Go ahead. Then, yeah. Then, what happened? I don't know if our people can't even hear us out there. All right. Now let's start again. Let's continue where we left off, beautiful Trish. So you were saying, let's get back into the mojo, right? Yeah. Let's get back into the feeling. And this is what happens when you do a live show. Yeah. And you take a break from doing live shows. So this is what happened. Like, no, let's get back into the feeling of sweet talker topic. How do you decide who to start with? Again, that's something we're going to get to. Yes. But again, and the caveat was that not all play parties or situations or orgies are like structured, not structured. We don't do structure. We like organic free flow. Even if it's people that we've been with, if it's people that are kind of new to us, we got to be able to, like, get our vibe on. I know my thought was. Go for it. We're going to pick right back up. Go ahead. Okay. See, and this is also, guys, what happens with not everything in this show. We don't script it out. No. So it's not like a thought is a thought at the time. So it's not like, ah, I just remember. So what I was saying was, was that even when you're in a situation with the people that you know, that you are already acquainted with, and you're in a group session, I think there still should be some type of the quorum or conversation that actually still happens with that. It may not be as elaborate as if with like a whole bunch like our new people, but you should have some type of discussion because you can't assume that the group session, you know, you know exactly what that person wants today or in this moment or whatever the case. Agreed. That's what I was saying. And I think you actually said that. No. But that's a good way to pick it back up and get me back into the mojo of responding. So. Yes. And. But in order for us to make this conversation kind of digestible, we had to break it up into three different pieces.? An orgy or a party into three different pieces, which is like the beginning, the early part, the, you know, like the middle or like the during, and then the after, the after of the party, right? So how do you show etiquette, proper etiquette? Well, what some would say is proper etiquette. Of course is all subjective so if you got different opinion hit us up let me know uh after after the party is all said and done so here we're going to set the scenario plain and simple let's call it orgy season it's orgy season tris it's cold outside everybody in the house in the cold. You do know that, right? Nah, man, the whole world is cold. Cold. It's flat, right? I'm joking, y'all. That's a goddamn joke. He's joking. Anyway. Because if he wasn't, I would be sitting here like, okay. Sign them divorce papers. I'd be like, come on, we gotta talk. Anyway, so here's the scenario, all right? We are walking in the door at a house party, to a house party. We're going into a house party, Trish. Put your mind there. Like, we've already done our in the car, how you feeling? Sure. We're already on the same page. We've already had our discussions of what we might be open to tonight, who we're excited about seeing, who we're excited about meeting. Right. So we're going to this party with a mix of familiar play partners, people who we've bounced around with and some fun. Right. And then some familiar faces who we know, but, you know, we've never played with them. We never crossed those boundaries. And then perfect mix of a few new faces. Another thing is, we've done the group chat thing. These are all like the assumptions when we're walking in this door. We've done the group chat intros, but the group chat. Nice. For listeners of the show, y'all know she don't do shit in the chats. Anyway. I say, hi. Yeah. I'm looking forward to see you. Uh-huh. And be like, but who is that? What's their name again? Right. And we've done the group chat intros, but all in all, the group chat has been pretty quiet. Yeah. But now it's party time. So there we go, y'all. The scene is set. Scene is set. So now back to the question. What are some points of etiquette or courtesy that, you know, you can show before shit gets crazy, before it gets started? One thing that I think, Trish, let's bounce this around, is that you just, when you're walking in the door, you say hi. You say hi to people. Yes. Yes, I agree with you. I think that's a very simple show of courtesy, of etiquette, is that you say hi. You don't just go in the joint. I understand anxiety, right? I understand nerves. I understand you might be a newbie. You might be the first time, but I think a very helpful thing to do is to at least say hi make sure you say hi to the people that you know you go in yeah you're like what's up man hey you know who my heart is beating out of my chest tris you know where's the where's the uh the drinks where's the liquid courage that is that way you at no oh Oh, you're not talking about yourself. Okay, got it. Got it. Okay, okay. I was about to say, I don't know who you're talking about. But okay, we're just saying, you know, we're giving a general, got it. That's what we do. General guidance. I understand. Because I feel the shade and judgment laced. I was trying to make sure. In that third old fashion that you had. I didn't have any old fashions. I told you that. Margaritas. Go ahead. Not even those. Have none of those. But you didn't tell me what you had. It was just two glasses of wine. That was it. Uh-huh. And the espresso martini. Ah. To make it through the show. To help you make it through the show. It wasn't even strong honestly but. I'm just saying espresso martini keeps you going. I wouldn't think so. So yes. Take the shade out your voice and then we can get back to saying hi. No I was just trying to make sure that you weren't trying to push a perception that is not you. Of course but I get it. We're talking about a general. Thank you for keeping me grounded. Now, that's what I'm here for. No, it is not. Go continue. Go. Oh, you asked me a question. OK, got it. I'm so sorry. Saying hi to people. I mean, that's just courtesy to say hi to especially to the people you already know. What does right? Sweet Talkers, people out there in the chat. Does saying hello put you at some kind of, not disadvantage, but does that make you feel vulnerable? Does that make you feel like, you know, maybe you're giving an indication of, I'm saying hi, that means I want to play with you. How do you feel about that, Tris? How do you feel when somebody new says hello to you? Or even when you say, are you cautious with your hellos? That's a lot of questions I ask. Not anymore. You ask a lot. Not anymore. I used to be. I'm not going to put that out there. I mean, you can hear it in other episodes, right? I used to feel like if you had a conversation with somebody or you were at, you know, to a person that they would assume that, hey, that's their end to make an advance, right? Not so much anymore. Like if I want to talk or, you know, if I say, how do you or we're having a conversation or, you know, I don't, it's not that I just don't care. I don't put too much cadence on what you're looking for in that moment or not. Because I know that I own the no. Like, I can still just walk away, disengage the conversation. I'm famous for that one. So, disengage the conversation when I just do not, you know, want to advance something in that moment. And my disengagement is not disrespectful. Like, I don't just openly, like, I have a great way to fade. Let's just call it that. I fade out. And then I disappear in a moment because I know that it's getting to something that I don't want it to be. Right. Before you even can ask a question about it. Yeah. But it's not that I think that some people also believe. I believe that you also should be able to shoot your shot. So that's the difference. Right. I think that people should shoot a shot, you know, and say, hey, look, I mean, I don't mean like, hey, my name is Tim. And hey, I saw you from across the room. So what's up? That's not what I mean. Right. You just met like five minutes ago. Yeah. But I think that you should shoot your shot. And the only thing a person can do is say no. Right. I mean, it's been times we've said this too on shows that Locke has shot a shot and, you know, attractive women have told them no. Yep. Or not today or whatever the case. That's the best phrase ever. Like, not tonight. No, thank you. Not tonight. Yeah. Something like that. And that's and that's perfectly fine. Like, we all have to be OK with accepting the no. But just because back to your point, someone says hello or held a conversation with you does not mean that they are trying to make an advance or anything like that. And I think also one more thing, a change for us in that is just because we know that it's not all about like getting the draws or whatever y'all call it, you know, and just trying to sleep with someone. That came with time, you know, for us. You're talking about just understanding that? Yeah. Yeah. That came with time. It did. It came with time. You would be surprised. Now, think about it. It's like the light bulb just went off, like literally. That the things you learn over time with being in a lifestyle, you think it's like one way in the States, but it doesn't. Right. No. Yeah. Um, we definitely learned that, you know, it's not linear. It's not step A, B, C in order that you, you learn things when you learn them. Right. And you know, that's what this whole show is about. We're sharing our experiences, sharing the stuff that we learned. So I'm gonna to bring us back to the high, just to the simple hello. Saying hi to the people that you know, saying hi to the people that you don't know is common etiquette. It's a beautiful thing. Does hello mean that I want to play? No, it doesn't. It just means I'm trying to show you that I am respectful and that I'm cool, that I'm not a threat, that, you know, I'm just somebody that you can talk to now or maybe later on. Maybe I will like to find out some more about you. Maybe I will like to plant the seed that maybe we can connect at another event. You know, like you said, it's not all about hitting a home run day one. Stuff like that does happen, but that's not like always the intention. Yeah. doesn't have to be what's that term it's um uh marathon it's a marathon not a sprint there you go thank you yeah um yeah and plus saying hi sometimes you can learn a lot about somebody just by saying hi and how they respond so like how what's the old misnomer or whatever it is about like women know that they're gonna sleep with you within the first five seconds i don't know that but i'm just saying but what i'm saying is is that you can learn a lot about a person in the first oh absolutely how they respond if they look at you crazy if they if they're guarded or if they're very open and friendly learn, okay, this could be a friend or this is somebody you need to watch out for. So I think saying hi will give you a nice little feel for the room and what kind of night you might have. You know what I mean? You know what? Okay. So, okay. Okay. You may have something. I know I do. I had a similar experience. It was no orgy. There was no orgy happening. Right. But there was many of lifestyle people involved. Oh, at the same place. Not involved. Sure. At all. And you're right. So by me saying hello to this gentleman, we were all like party was not lifestyle people, not lifestyle things happening. But by me saying hello in this small interaction with that individual, let me to just think like, oh, yeah, me, you were not. Yeah, we are not. We're not compatible. And it's not he didn't do anything to me like at all. Right. He didn't do anything to me. It's just that his reaction to just a friendly conversation which was just like some friendly banter like back and forth i was like yeah this is your lot yeah for me like i said you could tell that sometimes one uh your eyes are matching your mask and i am getting mesmerized um i just caught that and you're looking great over there. This is what happens when you go outside. Have your wine and shit. I like it when you come back tipsy sometimes. Oh my gosh, I'm not tipsy for the life of me. I keep saying that to you. No, but I like it when, no, listen. That's what tipsy people say. But anyway, I like it when you do come home, tipsy, from your little cookie party. We can have some nasty sex when you drunk. Oh, my gosh. I like that shit. Anyway, I think that another before is participate in the icebreaker. Like, if there's an icebreaker, if somebody went through the trouble of putting together an icebreaker game or a little chit-chat before everybody starts getting naked, participate. It's not going to hurt you. No, I like the icebreakers more than I do group chats. Fair. Why is that? Go ahead. Expand. Because I think that, so this is just in my real life experience and like my long-term friends know that and now my lifestyle friends that are friends with me know that too. I am not like a texter all the time and do all that. I would rather do something in person. We can do all the things. We can games or you want to do an icebreaker. I am all about participation in person. When you want to talk to me chats and do and participate and send these pictures and this and that. And I'm like, okay, I try, but I'm not like, I'm not the best, the best person when it comes to like current events in a group chat. You've done better. You're doing better. I'm doing better. But I'm just, I'm still, am not, like, it's not just a group chat. This is, like, even with my friends tell you that. Uh-huh. I'm just not a texter, do all this. No, and that's fine, and that's cool. You know, where are we going with this? Icebreaker. So, yeah, no, but when we're talking about Icebreaker games, somebody had to go through the effort of putting this thing together. Good ideas. Yeah, I like those. You know, our good friends, Mr. and Mrs. Monogamish, man. They do a really good job of getting people chatting, like legit conversations about who you are and your thought process. And, you know, so shout out to Sapio Tours, man. Give them a give them a listen. Yeah the show, one, Monogamous Marriage Podcast, and check out their trips because they put some really thoughtful people into their vacations. But they do a really good job at their parties of getting people to talk and find out what they have in common and, you know, get the juices flowing. It's real fun. So, I really the icebreakers for that reason, right? So you can end up finding that, finding out something cool about somebody. And it helps to reduce your anxiety if you're nervous about the party, right? And I do think it's just like a good etiquette piece to participate. Go with a smile, open mind, you know what I mean? You hear show that you're here for more than just the titties. You know, we all like boobs and penises. Sure. Right. We all like this stuff. But like show that you're here for more than that, man. I hope that I hope that you are. I hope that you're genuinely there for more than all of that stuff. Yeah. It is fun. It's about making the connections, too, man. Making the connections with the people. You know what I mean? Somebody invited you to their house. It is real. Unless it's like one of them big old giant house parties. You know what I'm saying? Okay. You're going to get to that. I don't want to speak too soon. Okay. Try me. All right. Try it. Try it on for size and we'll see if we got to come back to it. What I'm just saying is that just because you get invited to ORT that also doesn't mean you have to participate. That's what I'm going to get at. Bingo. It does not mean that you're right. There needs to be participation on your part. Yep. But I do think that you need to be open to saying that if you're having a group discussion. And that takes us smoothly. Not if you should have a group discussion, but yeah. That takes us smoothly into the third one for the pregame. And we're going to keep on. We're going to go a little quickly on the other side. Participate in the consent circle. People are being vulnerable sometimes in these things. Like, you know, letting their guard down, saying what they're into, what they're not into. A lot of people do find that to be very helpful to kind of set open boundaries with everybody in the outset. Sometimes people are going to say that they don't know. They don't know what they're feeling tonight. I'm not sure. Just ask. And that's fair. That's a phenomenal response, too. Yeah, I think that that's a that's a good response. We debated this before the show. Right. I think that it's fair for someone to say that they don't know. Yeah. Because I am that person at times. You know, sometimes I just I don't just i don't know right like exactly it may i may see something that may inspire me in that moment or just somebody may you know i don't know touch me a certain way and i'm feeling you know frisky with it i sometimes i don't know like i don't know exactly how i'm going to feel or what i exactly want to happen in that moment. But I do like the response of just ask, right? I don't know, you know, what I'm doing, but just ask. But also if there's no's to certain things, it doesn't have to be a laundry list of like what you don't want to happen. Like a hard no's is fine. Like a hard no like, I don't, you know, want somebody to come on me or inside of me or whatever the heck you, you know, the things. Or I don't, you know, I don't do oral sex or kiss people in the mouth. Right. If those are things that are hard nose, okay, hard nose, fine. But it doesn't have to be like, oh, my Ten Commandments of things that I don't like. Because you'll be there all night trying to figure it out. So I think the bottom line there is participate in it. You know, again, it's a moment of vulnerability because you might be sharing, you know, intimate places that you like to be touched. Or like Trish said, some vulnerabilities and things that you don't like that might be controversial or that you might seem that might seem controversial to you that, you know, I don't kiss girls, right? Women who say, I don't, you know, I don't kiss girls and they might feel anxious about that because they think it's a part of the lifestyle. Yes. Fuck that. You do what you want and you share what you want. You share what you're not comfortable with so people can know. Yeah. And I think that's just I think it's helpful. And of course, I don't know is an appropriate answer, but I think it's helpful to at least give it your best shot. Give it your best shot. And you never know because sometimes the consent circle can be kind of sexy. And the circle also can let you know what somebody else is entered into sorry yeah that may also align with something that you was like oh yeah i had that i had that thought before me and you should probably we should we should talk let's talk and talk through that or whatever the case because sometimes it does it inspires a thought well, right? To something that you may want to try. Exactly. Exactly. You know, I've raised my hands for exotic combinations. And, you know, I have been called upon to exercise. That theory. Yeah. We'll get to that. That's going to be a great story one day. And sometimes also, you know, still have a friend and we were pondering a thought on something. I think the two things I think the two friends that want to try just the same thing, but I have not done the thing because I just don't, I'm not sure yet if I'm in a place that I want to try the thing or what am I going to get out of the thing? Power. It's a thought that I need to figure out at some point. But it's just not on my top of the list. But I'm sure it's going to come back. For sure. So what about during? All right. We've gotten past all the nitty gritty. And we've rubbed elbows. We're making our way around. Somebody done got naked. And things are moving. Right? And now you're feeling kind of froggy. And maybe, you know, game time. Sure. Now, we're going to get to that sweet talker question. How do you decide who to start with? I think that's a tough question. Yeah. But I also think you better choose wisely. Because in my opinion, if you've come with a partner, that's the caveat. If you've come with a partner, you only got two choices in that question. Your partner. Yeah. Or somebody else. Those are your options. How do you choose who to start with? That depends solely, you know, with those two options. That depends on what you agreed on with your partner. You know, you got to you have to be keenly aware of what is happening with your partner. Yeah. And what your partner needs and what their desires are. Again, this is if you bought somebody with you. If you bought some, you know, sand to the beach. If you, Yeah. And there have been parties where you like, hey, go on now. Do your thing. I see you when I see you. And those are rare. Those are rare. I'm just saying. Yeah. I'm just saying. No. You're right. It can happen. Right. So, but that's the thing. Like, so, okay. But I think what the person is asking. First, let me get your feedback on that. How do you feel about those two options? I think first is always to start with checking in with your partner first. It doesn't need to be like I'm going to play with my partner first, but also to kind of do that like check just to see, okay, are we going to, you know, let's, you know, start warming up each other and then get into something with someone else. It depends on the or you know again if it's a familiar group of people then you may kind of disperse because you've had conversations or things with people prior to the group session that you want to start with so yeah it can vary it could that's what i said yeah it could definitely vary um especially if it like you said, a group of people that you're very familiar with. But sometimes, still, it's just like, hey, Trish, you feeling what I'm feeling? Like, how you feel? Like, what's going on? You're looking good. Things are happening around us. And, you know, and I just grab on. You know what I mean? And then, let's go. I don't think've ever started with a person I didn't know. Like a new person. Okay. I have. I've been quiet. I've never started with a person that I didn't know. And that's just my preference. And that, you know, that's just been my preference in that moment because I'm a creature of habit. So I tend to want to start with something that I know that's going to get me aroused. Right. Or, you know, things like that. If I, if it's new and I kind of kind of figure it out in that moment of a group session. That could be a lot. Then I just, you know, I'm ready to start with that and then, you know, go to a new thing. Okay. That's fair. I'm kind of like, I want to get my frills to start. Yeah. That's a short thing. Yeah. It's going to get me up. And the rest of it is just like icing on the cake. Yeah. That's fair. And the short thing doesn't necessarily need to be like you in that moment, but it's going to be something. Something comfy. Someone. Yeah. Yeah. Word up. Sprinting for that thing. I'm just playing. You're not. I know exactly what you're trying to get at. And that's a whole nother topic for a different day. And that's not where we're going with this. See, because now every time you try to do that side shade, y'all don't know what the side shade is yet. They do. They've heard that story. They have not because we have not talked about it. Yes, we have. We have talked about that. We talked about that visit. Not here, but there, yeah. That party, yeah. Where you chase that thing down? Uh-huh. We talked about that. Look, you don't even know your own dirty laundry. I wasn't even talking about that. Oh, okay. I was talking about the solo visit, but I'm sure you're going to get into that later, but you're talking about the same person. Uh-huh. Yes. Next, yes, checking on your partner. I think that's good partner etiquette. Yeah. Right. Oh, and let's get back to the how do you choose? How do you choose? Like if there I think we just we kind of nailed this one down. How do you choose? Like if it's a new partner? OK, yeah, I think we kind of nailed that down. But if you got a bunch of new suitors, right, a bunch of new partners and your your partner is cool with you choosing somebody outside first, right? Y'all cool. Y'all just like, hey, look, let's go. Let's do the things. So how does someone decide which play partner to choose? I think I can't tell you. Whichever one you vibing with. Exactly. Whichever one you're vibing with. Whichever one you're vibing with. Now, do you think there is potential for things to get messy? No. Meaning, like, if I choose partner A, will partner B look at me sideways because I was flirting with them? Hey, look, as long as my partner's straight, you know what I rule. That's it. Because, I mean, I can't, I'm not, I can't, I cannot tend to everybody's emotions. I'm going to do the best I can to be nice and to be courteous and, you know, respectful. Yes. But, you know, if my friend over here and we were vibing, I don't owe you over here. You know what I'm saying? No. I don't owe you anything. You don't owe me anything. Yeah. Right. I'm not obligated. So messy isn't an option. I've never had that experience. Me neither. Me neither. I'm just trying to think about it. Maybe the way that the question was framed. I'm trying to cover every picture. Okay. Got it. Because I was like, I've never had that. Might be asking, right? So how do you choose between option A and option B and option C when you're at a party? You just go with whoever I'm vibing with right then and there. And the others have to be mature enough to say, okay, well, maybe I'll catch them later. And also it's like, it's not mean that you're vibing with them for the whole thing. Exactly. Like, you vibing, y'all may be doing the thing here, then boop. And then I'll see you, I'll see Option B later. You done, and then I'm going over so-and-so, and then we vibing. Yeah. I'll catch you in the hot tub, you know? Everybody's not vibrations on the same level at the same time. I like that, vibrations. Vibrations. So, um, I think again, a good etiquette is to check on your partner. Sure. Um, you know, is it during, like again, during, is that like passing out Gatorades? No. Like when people thirsty, here you go, I need a bottle of water. Are you a soccer mom? No. Orange slices? No. You know what I'm saying? Uh sure everybody got it. Nothing against soccer moms. I'm just saying. Like we at the game or something. You like passing out snacks. I got one. Okay. Confirm your consent. I think confirming consent is good etiquette. We're talking about etiquette. Courtesy, right? So before you interact, before you start, you know, bouncing around or you find a partner and you're checking in and you're vibing, you good with this? You good? You straight? You happy? Is this okay if I do this? Is it okay if I do X, Y? Confirming consent, I think that's also really good etiquette. Yeah. You can't just go around slapping asses. No. You cannot go around slapping random asses that are just walking by. You cannot do that. I mean, you can. No, you cannot. That's not. I wouldn't advise it. No. Right. That part. Yeah. You got to make sure like you good there. Like we all covered our bases and you're good with a random ass slap. If somebody don't want no random ass slap from you or your queen, don't be sla no asses no and it's easy like so when you come up to somebody so you can do it in a sexy way like is this okay if i touch it that's the thing you got to say the words you know it's just okay you can't just be like you know do the things yeah but like hey because i get excited because i'm excited hey look i'm about to smack you on your ass are you good like you That's not sexy. That's not what I'm trying to say. Right, right. Let's see. Again, during, we talked about orange slices, Gatorades, and passing out condoms. Nobody does that. You're just saying that. I am literally just saying that. No, nobody does that. But I think, no, I mean I mean like the during what about like changing your sheets like or at least pulling the sheet off of something I think during is fine like for people to just say or you know to clean up that's gonna be my after you know take a break no I'm talking about like during like during a group session you take a to take a moment clean up a little bit before you get back into it that's just you you go grab your robe start no like a lot of the girls that I that I know you know we go white or something like at some point you know clean up and personal etiquette oh you talk things. Yes, yes. Back to gym pop. Yeah, yeah. No, for sure. No, that's a good one. Yeah. Hygiene. Hygiene. We're talking about hygiene, y'all. Clean your ass. Like, you know, you go have a little session situation. Ain't nothing wrong with running off to the bathroom, doing your thing, freshening that thing up, freshening up all your parts. That's great etiquette. That's beautiful. You and I, we've jumped in showers. Yeah, race off a little bit. Go back, do your things. Love it. Love it. Nothing wrong with that. That's phenomenal. We understand. It's group sessions. I ain't judging the people that get all sweaty and juicy and like it and bounce with their sweaty and juice. Do the things. Do your thing. juicy and Number one thing. Etiquette. Etiquette wise. Gentlemen. Throw your condoms away. Oh I was about to say where is it going? Throw your condoms away man. Like nobody wants to find that. No. And I've heard horror stories from people who help friends of ours clean up after a big party. And they find condoms in all sorts of random spots. Like, okay, a condom wrapper, we get that. Clothes? Clothes, of course. Find drawers, socks, masks, all sorts of kinky shit that you find. But don't nobody, nobody want to find a condom, y'all. Nah, I don't, no. You don't want to find that? Nope. All right, so what else? What about the after? What about some etiquette after? I got a good one. You know, I don't know. I got a good one. Say thank you to the host. Thanks to the host. Yeah, I'm talking about after. Oh, so after everybody. I'm like, you would walk over and be like, hey, thank you. What are you talking about? You're talking about after sex saying thank you? I mean, sometimes people do say thank you. But sometimes, but I'm saying, like, you're assuming everyone is done at the same time. No, no, I'm just saying, like, in the chat, maybe. Oh, okay, yes, okay, I get that. Like, in the chat, say thanks, you know, just a little courtesy there. I think that's good group play etiquette. You know, say thanks to the host. Thanks to the motherfuckers who opened up their giant ass hotel room. Their hotel room that you just laid your sweaty ass on and destroyed. Ran through their towels. Wiped off with your dude wipes and all that shit. Yeah, say thanks to them. Yes. You know what I'm saying? Quick little thank you ain't gonna hurt nothing. No, I agree with that. A little after etiquette. I don't know. And don't act like you don't you don't know them the next day. Be like, hey, that's good. How you doing? Ain't nothing wrong with saying hi. No. Yeah. And then until next time, you know what I'm saying? And then now you got something to look forward to. Because that person that you say hi to, maybe y'all didn't connect, but you know them now. Or you will at least have an end, a discussion. Or I done seen you bent in ways that you didn't even know that I saw you in. That part. That part. Because that's what you do. You be scoping. Huh. Noted. Uh-huh. I saw you. Whew. Well, this was a good one. This was a good one, Trish. Yeah. Thank y'all for dealing with all of our technical issues. Absolutely. Really appreciate that, man. Look, y'all, this has been fun. What we will promise you is that we will be back. That's funny. You can do that. That's fair. That's fair game. I deserve that. We will be back. Not sure when, but we'll be back, and we cannot wait to do it again. We're definitely going to talk to y'all again before this trip, so y'all can stamp that. We're going to talk again. We got some stories to tell. We got some buildup for this trip coming up. We want to make sure if y'all ever ready for the casual swinger week, we want y'all to be ready for that. So we'll do our best to get y'all prepared for that. I need to get ready too. Hell yeah, because we about to get it. But listen, folks, thanks so much for everybody who joined us in the chat. Thanks to everybody who is listening to this at home or while you're at work or mowing the lawn. We appreciate y'all. And we're going to talk to y'all next time. All righty. Bye. I had to pee so bad. You know why? Because you're drunk. I'm not drunk. I am not drunk. Stop saying that. Let the liquor tell it. There was no liquor. Again, we'd like to thank you for living a sweet life with us. 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