Episode 114 - Suite Life Special: Summertime Recap Teaser | Barbados Love Letter!

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Speaker1: Living the Sweet Life is a podcast intended for mature audiences only. We'll be using sexually explicit language while discussing many different adult themes. So if you're under the age of 18, please stop listening. Also, please know that our thoughts and opinions should not be taken as professional advice. We're here to answer your questions about the swinger lifestyle from newbies to longtime swingers. Or if you're just curious, we hope to engage you all and to encourage a sex positive discussion. Now that we've got that out of the way, make yourself comfortable for joining us in this episode of living the sweet life she is my beautiful sexy co-host and wife the lovely trist he is my sexy chocolate husband luck and baby you are correct we do look a little big the camera might be a little bit out of focus but babe you know what i'm focused enough for all of us we just gotta sit real close together it looks like we are in like like we just have big bodies like a big old head we put on a couple pounds this summer huh yeah we done squished up uh took up more space in the room but ladies and gentlemen look man we are back in action we i feel like we saying that a lot these days tris but i mean it and i'm grateful for it i'm grateful for another opportunity to sit in front of this microphone and talk some shit with my people with my favorite kind of people they are my sweet talkers what's happening people yes i'm excited to see the sweet talkers today i really hear i know man we need some sweet talkers to jump in there so if y'all over there on ig and y'all waving and y'all checking in and y'all sending salutes and love and all that come on over to the youtube man join us in the youtube let us know what y'all thinking uh you know give us some feedback on some of this craziness that y'all about to hear because we love y'all opinions we love everything that y'all got to say about what we got going on and we just miss you yeah we miss you we miss you we love you we here for you i'm gonna try to be here for us y'all see i'm sporting the kind of red the burgundy y'all know what it is man y'all know who who playing tonight oh my goodness i'm saying like pry him away from the thing like we we have a show tonight we got a show we got a show and y'all know y'all come first kind of anyway so y'all know what it is man before we get into all the shenanigans i usually usually like to get into some housekeeping but we're gonna switch things up a little bit since the housekeeping kind of relates to exactly what's coming up for us we're gonna hold that off we're gonna hold off on the housekeeping because we want y'all to stay tuned and we want y'all to follow us to these places of importance and they are going to be a blast so it's going to totally be worth the wait hang in there let's get going we call that a teaser babe yes so with that being said my beautiful queen you know i gotta check in on you honey before things really let loose beautiful how you feeling so here's the thing here's what happened oh jesus exactly he he he always you never know where things about to go exactly he always says that and i know what i'm talking about um so any fact sometimes you just get a little bit comfortable in conversations um and it was a general conversation so this particular conversation because i mean it happens right it happens to all of us not just me it happens right we're in a regular vanilla setting there is no type of lifestyle there is nothing no flirting there's nothing hugely vanilla huge vanilla situation right minding my own business let me just clarify my business my business right so i'm sitting there and and then someone i know they do uh what is it a video not uh small like uh movies i don't know what you call it but uh like short films that's what it is okay yeah short films um and i was like oh cool that's that's cool you know chit-chatting and then the person goes and it's a young lady and she goes yeah because you know there's a market out there for horror porn and i said huh because i wasn't expecting i tell you i was not expecting to hear this at all in this conversation so she's like oh there's a market for horror porn so i was like what do you mean do tell right instead of me not saying anything else i was just like so what does that mean exactly right so she goes on to explain that um that there's a market to film people who would like to be chased and hunted hunted down so basically the person would be chased you would um hunt them down hunt them down like pray right and then you would have sex with them and do the deed and do the deed right and i was like you know what i know some people that'd be interested in that see see y'all see no but it gets a little bit no no that's bad enough my other friend my actual other friend looked at me and was like hmm i'm surprised you know about that i was like what do you mean oh oh oh now you want to play the what do you mean card huh after you let your little freaky flag not even your freaky flag i wasn't even talking about okay so here's not even your freaky flag hold on no i wasn't even talking about me i know you weren't you let other people freaky flag fly and then you talk about some oh i don't know what i do declare no i don't know what you know i was just like no i just i know some people that made me interested in that uh-huh you know and then so we leave the 280 fact we leave and and lock is like really no i didn't nope nope you told me this later i told you the conversation later that's what i'm saying so when we left and I told you about the conversation and you were like so you just couldn't just let it go not say just let it slide and I was like well I do know people that are interested that he said but do you know that it sounds like you're the person that's interested you were like oh not me but I said but it really wasn't me but i really do know so to a vanilla person i understand how it would look like i am talking about myself interested in it but i wasn't i was literally talking about someone else not good enough so it wasn't me i wasn't there my my initial thoughts when you were telling me this story was like one you're you you just had to flex that you knew somebody who did these crazy things right these fun freaky things i know i know hold on hold on it was just like you know oh oh yahtzee i know this one i got the answer to this one right uh yeah i know people who do that okay that's a flag that's first right fine cool all right but then when you try to backtrack it be like no now you're automatically their number one candidate for this shit right you know you're now a resource for any freaky questions coming forward so make sure you check in like your messages and all that because you got to get all the freaky questions and then when lock said i was like really is that the way it sounds yeah because i was really just thinking out loud like hey i know some people that be interested in that uh-huh see look somebody said oh somebody checking in what's up my beautiful people thank you for checking in they said uh tris is getting ideas but it's so like and no in reality it's i am not that's not something i am interested in that's fair that that's a very true thing that's not something i'm interested in but however i am not going to yuck somebody's jump would i watch somebody else that's exactly what i was about to say one of my friends yes i always watch it but it's not something i am interested in yeah yeah i and no bullshit like i i believe you're not one and it's no shame again you know and y'all can nobody's jump i just believe that you know you would definitely watch it yes and i'll be right there i'll be right there on the side watching that shit with my little chair like okay right you ready let me know that's funny so that's how i'm feeling i guess i gotta watch all conversations even when i'm not expecting uh it to go that way at all watch your little potty mouth man look i was at a real neutral ground and you forgot neutral let your freaky plan so alak how you feeling i don't even know anymore i forgot i forgot my answer oh don't forget we got people over there on the ig um me i'm feeling recovered i'm finally feeling recovered even though you and i we kind of slept in a little bit this morning i did i missed a whole but i'm finally feeling recovered and y'all gonna find out why man when we get to our sweet life special the non-lifestyle edition we're gonna talk about our trip to barbados and you know it just deserves air time it's just one of them things where you just gotta to share. I need somebody to talk to about it. So guess what? Y'all going to be here for the ride, man. So, yeah, we finally recovered from that. I'm feeling fantastic. It was an amazing trip, an amazing adventure. You guys are going to hear all about it. I'm excited for the next few weeks, even though, you know, things were crazy in July, July was bananas.
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: That's how we couldn't do a show. August and September, right. August and September, things are kind of slowing down. Kind of September going to pick back up. But we rolling. We're good. And, you know, I finally got my feet under me. And here we go, man. We back in action. So, my beautiful queen, my wonderful, wonderful sweet talkers. I miss miss y'all so much y'all ready to get into tonight's episode let's do it let's go we're not as chunky now good i'm glad to be back to normal size i'm a little extended right now if you know what i'm talking about no kidding thank you so much for hanging in there my people again we are back episode 114 maybe 115 i'm not quite sure you'll see it in the title uh but look man we've had a pretty intense summer chuck full of family stuff and uh some personal fun stuff work stuff all the things so what we're going to do is give you a little bit of a recap little teasers if you will for some future planned episodes that we're gonna um we're gonna build out these topics very soon yes and uh y'all gonna hear all the nitty-gritty details but we're just gonna give y'all a little teasers right now so hopefully y'all are good with that hopefully y'all y'all good with a little edging you know what i'm saying tris you gonna let your dom side out baby edge them a little bit oh my goodness yeah i don't be trying to do anything i told you i'm an innocent bystander horseshit i mind my business horseshit all the time nonsense my business but also if you guys have any recommendations if you have any questions that you want the Suite Life opinion on, please feel free to drop them in the chat. Send us an email at the Suite Life podcast at gmail.com. We would love to have another Suite Talker topic. We haven't had one in a while. Oh, yeah. And, you know, we want to get to some deep shit, too. You know, we haven't had like a thought provoking, emotion inspiring or you know uh conversational episode in a little bit because we've been having some story time yeah you know so we want to get back get to the nitty-gritty of what it means to be a swinger means to be a lifestyle participant someone who is ethically non-monogamous go ahead honey and i was going to say just anything that you're you've learned over your journey right because sweet talkers have started with us uh well how long it's been four years now how long we've been doing the show try six oh my gosh it seems like yesterday so six years so sweet talkers have been with us for six years, right? And I'm sure that you've learned a lot on your lifestyle journey. So I would like to know more currently, is there anything that you've learned along the way? Things like that that we can talk through, too, on the show. I know, I mean, we have friends and we talk through just different things with them. But it'd be nice to have subjects around that, too, just to see how, if anything progressed or you maybe reverted back or whatever. Right. Yeah. Any hiccups, anything like that, man. And yeah, we'll definitely put the pad to paper and pad to paper. Check me out. Pen to paper and come up with some ideas for y'all man we're gonna get back to it but I guess kind of in that vein in that kind of thought-provoking idea right we've seen something recently at a party that kind of disturbed us and it's been a recurring kind of thing, right? We want to see if anybody else has hit this one. Again, this is a topic. This is number one on our list. Uh, and we want to get the downer out of the way. And then, uh, we're going to build this one out a lot deeper and we're going to have a big, meaningful discussion on it. So to a house party a few maybe a couple of months ago now right trist summertime is a blur summertime is a blur i don't even know what day it is i don't even know when that i think it was in july i don't know i don't know dude but yeah man right so we went to a house party and it was a great a great setup right it's usually a nice party um it's a regular one that's in the area nice uh sexy people it's a lot of fun um pool hot tub playrooms all the things all the fixings right but the problem the problem this one time one time was there was a predator on deck right what go ahead go ahead i said that very heavy i said it very heavy strong it was that was that was strong we i'm gonna take that back it wasn't a predator right now i was kind of being facetious but at the wrong time bad timing okay, it was a very aggressive woman. It was a very aggressive woman who, and there's nothing wrong with, I want to make sure I'm clear. There's nothing wrong with asserting yourself and saying what you want. No, this was not that. This wasn't that. This was more on the verge of, if it was a male that did the same thing, it would be a problem. Yeah. You're getting kicked out. Mm-hmm. And or beat up. One of the two. That's how bad it was a male that did the same thing it would be a problem yeah you're getting kicked out or and or beat up one of the two that's how bad it was just to give context around it yeah it was a lot it was a lot and it got to the point of almost you gotta like um had to use your no like strongly right i mean we're kind of beating around the bush intentionally but yeah because we want to talk about it because here's the thing at first i thought i was gonna i had mentioned to lock that won't we just you know do like a half a half show um but he's like no that's a i don't think that we would do it justice because if it was a male we would be talking about it and it'll be like all the things right um i think that it's important Thank you. So I don't think that we would do it justice because if it was a male, we would be talking about it and it would be like all the things. Right. I think that it's important to also bring up that females can be just as bad. Right. The point of it is to talk through it. That is not OK for anyone, regardless of sex. Right. To be aggressive or when someone tells you no the answer is no yeah right they don't have to tell you no three four five six times they just need to tell you no one time and then that's it the way i recently heard it is that no is a full sentence you don't need any more explanation after that if you just say no that's a hard stop that's it move on um and the reason why we want to do a whole show on it because there seems there is kind of a double standard when it comes to women right they're giving a little bit more uh leeway a little bit more forgiveness a little bit more forgiveness a little bit more leeway. And again, when we get into this particular subject, you understand like why this discussion had to be had and like in the first place. Right. And whether you agree or not, but I'm pretty sure you understand why, you know, we were choosing to talk about it in the first place. And there was a lot of sexiness at this party. There was a lot of sexiness. it was a lot of hot stuff that went down we talking about uh multi how many hands was on this person it was like an eight handed massage on one person it was you know i wasn't sex on but i was the massage you were orchestrating though i was i was you were definitely coordinating and facilitating the hot oil and all the things and And it was fantastic. You're always a great wing woman. The reason why I coordinated, just the way you bring this point up, and I know we're going to talk about it a whole bunch more, but is that because I wasn't a part of the conversation of the consent. I'm not going to just jump in because, ooh, I see, you know, a bunch of people that I know giving someone a massage. Now I'm going to participate in the massage. No, because I wasn't a part of that conversation at all. And I'm not going to be like, pause. Hey, do you mind if I massage you, too, while everybody's in the zone?
Speaker2: Right. Right.
Speaker1: So I just chose a different role, which was great. And that was awesome.
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: And it was respectful.
Speaker2: And it was respectful and
Speaker1: there was it was a perfect vibe until dun but we'll get into that right but no i mean it's basically a story of read the room you know read people body language hear the no and respect the boundaries and we'll get to that so that's number one again We'll be right back. you know read people body language hear the no and respect the boundaries and we'll get to that so that's number one again all the while a beautiful wonderful party house party was ensuing yeah not without his sexy stories so those will be coming number two number two and again these are not in uh any real particular order and just one more thing oh go ahead please i want to remind the sweet talkers just in general um and especially if you were if you're ever at an event or even the same facility as us let's just say that it don't even have to be an event always know that the stories that we tell are from my perspective and our perspective and our understanding of how we viewed what happened right it's never going to be uh from a to z exact about what someone says or exact oh this happened xyz i just want to be clear on that because sometimes people get lost in that and they think that oh but i remember this this part or it wasn't exactly it's our perspective it's my perspective of how i took whatever it was that was happening and how i'm relaying it back just want to be clear on that oh we'll say it we'll say it good stuff number two single male adventure now this one a little scandalous you want to give a little preamble give a little so you know so so here's the thing you know when you you got people who you you friends with right they come up with these requests these requests and suggestions recommendations recommendations up with these requests these requests and suggestions recommendations recommendations and then you know they submit their requests we got an inbox inbox requests i i take requests and then it's like what you think it's kind of how this goes right uh but no in this situation uh that were requests made and and i you know i didn't mind so you're giving a little so lock old lock here had a trip right i had a guy's trip i was going on a guy's trip regular guy's regular old guy's trip playing a little golf and i'm going to a location where some friends live sure some very close beautiful sexy intimate friends right yes so um with that being out in the uh in the atmosphere our friends you know i can't say that they had the idea i think it was just came up with it too he kind of you know threw a little a little something out there like a i'm talking about you yeah oh right he yeah me yeah he mean you yeah the person sitting beside me this one touche yeah fair enough yeah um you know kind of chit-chatted about some what ifs we played some what ifs right what if you know lock got the what is it called the hall pass yes that our friend got when they came to our area correct and we had the mfm situation with with our friend so what if I played single male for these friends? Sure. And we kind of mulled it around, and then Trish was like, enjoy yourself. Send pictures. Yes, send all the pictures. Send all the pictures and the videos. And we did both. Yes, you did. It was wonderful. It was great. It was amazing. Yeah yeah it was wonderful it was it was super hot super sexy they're fantastic hosts a lot of fun um adventurous and just you know and it was okay i'm not gonna again not gonna go into a whole bunch of detail but being one on two with them was a very different feeling right it was a very very different feeling and i don't know if they could tell this i was a little nervous right i was a little nervous why because i wasn't with trist you know i didn't have my trist you did say that you know um it was still very comfortable because these are people that i i care about right we know we've known them for a while i care about them genuinely right um so that made it that much easier it's not like i was playing single male like to a couple out in the street you know people that i don't know that i would have been extremely nervous but you know uh nerves were settled and things happened that i cannot wait to share it's a lot of fun a lot of fun again sent trish pictures and all the good stuff and i heard all the details when you got there a little late night dinner to a classy the classiest of classy joints classy Classy joints. Taco Bell. I was like, what?
Speaker2: That's right. That's right. We sure did.
Speaker1: Goddamn, that shit was bomb.
Speaker2: It was delicious.
Speaker1: I was like, you went where?
Speaker2: Oh, unforgettable. Unforgettable. Taco Bell. Spot. All right. Came through in a clutch. It came through.
Speaker1: Yo, it came through yo it always came through you wouldn't have done it no the way my stomach set up hey listen late night you know it calls duty calls and then we have number three third listen nothing is to be outdone le taco bell exactly sweet talker says le taco bell that's right they know what's up that's right put the little napkin in your shirt and everything for the sauce yeah all right so now number three we got a we went north of the border people yes again for uh the second year in a row thank goodness man they to get that invite again was phenomenal you know we was gonna make that drive up to our friends uh kate and liam of the monogamous podcast monogamous marriage podcast excuse me and sapio tours shout out sapio tours cannot wait to go on one of their trips god damn they man they just do it and it seemed like they always gone they always on the move they got some sexy sophisticated mofos on these trips and damn they just do a good job and the more we meet people i'm like yeah i would love to be in fucking portugal with you and some villa some sexy ass villa but i digress yes shout out sapio tours check them out they had uh another pool party this is the second one that we've gone to and this one again i mean look last year was amazing this time was just like extremely fun because they set up a few different things again high level we had a meet and greet kind of dinner thing right and then we did the x club uh that was friday night and then we had the actual house pool party on saturday yes so many details we got so many details to go through we cannot mind my business listen y'all hey y'all listen minding my business i ain't never i've known trist i was like this looking up at 20 25 years 26 years right i ain't never seen her run the dick before i did not i seen it's a lie your ass was sprinting to get that condom or to get that lube or whatever the fuck it was your little ass was sprinting and i'm like no because you're not even going no no you're not gonna you not gonna put that on me because here's what no no no no because again before that happened i was literally minding my business just trying to be cool in my little corner in the dance party in the dance party i was literally minding my business and who comes in and it's the the people in the background your hype man yeah and his wife exactly two hype men go now y'all just go i was like look see i was see look we're gonna get to the details all i know is high level i saw your ass sprint i don't know it was no sprint you were overly like it was not it's color babe it's color commentary you was definitely on the good foot though don't bullshit me I know you had ants in your pants Trish the thing was I didn't know where the bag was and I where I thought it was was like oh it wasn't there and i'm like oh shit so now i'm like freaking out trying to figure out where there was it upstairs downstairs where's the bag at oh that's what happened because i went i looked like one corner then you like gone. And then I saw you come through the other one. And I was like, damn, okay. But to give some just some structure around what happened. I didn't know where it was. You found that shit too. All right, I'm sorry. I'll put you on the spot. But I'm going to tear your ass up when we get on this topic though. Because this is funny. That is funny to me. Anyway, so the X Club. this is our first time going to the x club yeah they uh they put together a great night there like we had our own situation like a loft yeah in the x club it was like 30 of us that was a game changer yeah we came with 30 people we came with 30 but having that loft was a game changer like that i agree we'll go into details as to why but that was the that was that made the night mvp was the game was the was the fucking loft yes yeah and um there's a lot of fucking bodies up there and a lot of bodies fucking a lot of fucking bodies and a lot of bodies fucking but all the things beautiful anyway then you had the actual party on saturday and we got to see some people we hadn't seen in so long oh my goodness it was so good to see people that we didn't get to connect with last year that was fun and just again like like i said some friends um that we hadn't seen in years, in a long, long time. It was so good to see their faces and kiss their mouths and all the wonderful things.
Speaker2: Mr. Sparkles.
Speaker1: And Mr. Sparkles. You mean Mr. Sparkles? Yeah, we got to see them again. They hit us with an Irish goodbye, man. They dipped out. We didn't get to say bye. Because I was running around looking for that damn bag. And then you went your ass to sleep. But'm gonna go to sleep and woke up at one o'clock like hey hey babe hey i want to talk hi I'm ready to talk and do all of the things he's like
Speaker3: night night
Speaker1: he literally hit me with that he's like, mm-mm. Night, night. He literally hit me with that. He's like, mm-mm. Mm-mm. I said, ah. And wagging your tail in the middle of the night. I said, come on. He's like, no. That ain't true. I hit it. We rolled around for a little bit. A little bit. Anyway, yeah. So, those are the three. If you got any opinions on which one of the three that you would like to hear drop it in the comments let us know number one go first was the house party malfeasance number two single male adventure or number three canadian pool party action let us know in the comments all right so what else we have coming up soon here is a back. You heard that? She's moving something. Oh, this is a circling back to the housekeeping people. Number one. Sneaker ball 2025. Yeah, we have the sneaker ball is coming up on September the 20th. Again, reserve your hotel. I believe there is no cost to reserve the hotel room.
Speaker2: That's right.
Speaker1: It should be the Holiday Inn that is basically up the street from the club in Cantonment.
Speaker2: Catonsville.
Speaker1: Catonsville, sorry. Cantonment is in Florida. That is all, you'll be in the wrong fucking state. Not Cantonment, y'all. Don't go to Florida. Mm-mm.
Speaker2: Don't.
Speaker1: That's not where we're going. That's not where we're at. We are in Maryland, okay? Ha to you okay it's one more time we are in maryland tell them tris catonsville catonsville maryland all right so in catonsville maryland uh holiday in quiet i'm trying to talk so the holiday in uh yes so you reserve your room now it is not a cost to actually reserve the room so the pre-game if you're not staying at the hotel that's completely fine um but the pre-game
Speaker2: And we'll see you next time. From now, it is not a cost to actually reserve the room. So the pregame, if you're not staying at the hotel, that's completely fine.
Speaker1: But the pregame will be at the hotel. DM us for information. We don't know our actual room numbers and how that part is going to work just yet. We normally post something the day of, like once we find out. But that will be at 730. So what we normally do is the pregame at 730. Sweet greet baby we'll have the sweet and greet pregame where uh we'll have light snacks and and a few drinks and mingle uh things like that and the microphone i'm gonna have a microphone if anybody want to check in tell us what sneakers you wearing tell us about your fit tell us what where you came from. All that good stuff. That's always a blast. Yes. And then we'll also have a few things going on at the club as well. So it'll be the photographer will be there again, I'm sure. We'll plan on giving out a prize at some point either at the club, most likely at the club, then the sweet and greet, because sweet and greet gets kind of hectic. Gets busy, yeah. But probably give out a prize at the club as well. For a participant, haven't decided just yet how I'm going to do the prize. Yeah, we're thinking a dance contest. We don't know yet. We're thinking a dance contest. I don't know yet, but I'm trying to figure it out on the top of my head. But I wanted to give out a prize this year to someone that's coming's coming of course with our group and don't forget it's going to be mr dependable and mr deep pendable yes and paradise's 20th anniversary as well so we'll be celebrating their 20th wedding anniversary uh that weekend so it's going to be a lot of fun this one will be it's like every year we try to like up the ante yeah something else you know do something else different but yes if you're not able to make it that's fine make sure you tell a friend tell uh some other sweet talkers but yeah yeah man this is gonna be a crazy schedule for us y'all because we are double booked like a motherfucker right so we got a rock concert that uh festival four-day festival so we're gonna be in kentucky hopefully getting into some shenanigans again yeah that was a lot of fun last year so we're gonna do uh thursday friday kentucky yeah we're gonna fly our asses back home sneaker ball it up with y'all beautiful people and then we're gonna fly our asses back to kentucky to finish out the concert yes crazy yes and we cannot wait to do it sweet talker checks in and says i'm curious about canada now yeah y'all want to hear that story all right so that might be the next one up then um but yeah man we are so excited for the sneaker ball we can't wait to have y'all there um yeah just kind of set an expectation that we're gonna be in there and then we're gonna be the fuck out yes we rocking out all weekend coming to party with y'all and then we're going to rock again yes next up this is the big one this is the big one and i just got access back last casual swinger week 2026 we are officially officially back in the fray people we are rolling we are co-hosting we need y'all to show up let them know that sweet talkers know how to party come through come through We need y'all to show up. Let them know that sweet talkers know how to party. Come through. Come through. This party is March 14th to the 21st or the 20th, I think. Either way, you can't go wrong. It's during St. Patrick's. Yeah, it crosses over St. Patrick's Day. Let's go get it. What's happening now is that the chat the chat group so once you book and all that you holler at mickey you holler at mallory you get access to the casual chat and that's where you're meeting all your newest friends and family well all the new friends family's gross but you're new your new friends and you do not want to miss these people they are hot they are fun they are smart they are open like just super friendly like these people embody the idea of opening up the circle right without any hesitation there's no like no judgment man like people going in they chilling like i i jumped around in the uh bisexual chat and i saw people commenting like i'm so glad that this is a safe space for everyone who's bisexual the men included something like that i saw something right and it's just like that's what i'm talking about man like these people are all open and all about being inclusive um to anybody no matter where you're from we just need y'all to show up yes it's like um well i'm i'm excited because we have some some other friends that may be coming as well um hopefully some of our canada friends also can make it as well it's kind of like it'd be like a reunion for some of us, but also bringing in some new people that have never been to Hedo as well. But when I hear people say, oh, there wasn't, you know, enough, there wasn't enough melon, black folk, people of color or just in general minorities, you know, at this or that trip. Well, you can't be afraid to show up. You you got to be able to show up you can't say those things and then you don't show up and also when you show up you got to open your circle and you got to be open too as well right you can't just say that it's not this or it's not that and you don't come yeah no these partners it's open to us right like i i i'm there i want you to be there i want you to know that this i feel safe here i want you to feel safe here and if you don't feel safe here you talk to me i got you like we are a network we are a we're a group of people who absolutely love and take care of each other so we got you you know i'm saying and for everyone it's for everyone it is for everyone man but i do i want like you said right we will get you know we'll get comments and we get feedback from folks like it ain't enough black people like i get that i get that because we're still a minority in this lifestyle game right and that's why we're on these microphones you know a part of it a part of it is to let you know that you're not alone we're speaking out here into the atmosphere letting you know that you're not by yourself and when you hear our voices and we're telling you like we got you when we go to one of these places we're endorsing it i'm endorsing i'm putting my my name on it i'm putting my blackness on it that you are going to have a good time to have a good time And you're gonna have a good time and these people are going to take care of you they do not make you feel othered and join us in that join us you know what i mean and show them that we here too we here too and this show is you're just open right it's going to be different and on all of the things. But I definitely do not support anything that I don't believe in. Like, I just don't. I wouldn't tell you that, oh, you can go to this or you go to this event or go support so-and-so. And then they're not, they're going to treat you like shit. I would never do that. Right. So, and if somebody does, please let me know, because that's never that's not been my experience. But let me know so that we can have those talks on on the side if they need to happen. You know? Yeah. If I could, I would. If I could do a trip, start a trip. If I could, I would. We can't. We can't do that right now. No. Sweet Life ain't in that position. This is the next best thing. The people who trust us to represent their name is as good as it being a sweet life ain't in that position this is the next best thing the people who trust us to represent their name is as good as it being a sweet life trip you know what i'm saying under mickey and mallory under the casual swinger umbrella they don't see us as employees they see us as partners and i really believe him in that you know what i'm saying so we're rolling with them like we roll with them y'all can roll with us and we all roll together man we have a great fucking time and we cannot wait because this party is lit like i said the chat group is fun I don't miss that shit like that's cool that's always a good look and now trist is back in there i finally fixed it i was not in there for a long time a pretty like almost a year i don't know what happened i couldn't figure that out i was like oh my gosh we're about to do this event and i still can't figure this out you gave up on it for a while i was like i don't know what's happening with it we breathe life back into you and now we in there and we want y'all to be in there too man so yeah um if you are inquiring about the trip you can go directly to um hedo to book your trip and then i'm sure they'll give you the contact and all that good stuff and they'll get you included in chat and we can chat and we can you know let us know we can have a drink together down in uh jamaica yes we talking all this shit we gotta find us a babysitter tris oh myish. Oh, my gosh. I know. And it's during the school year. Oh, it's going to be so tight. People are going to be cussing us out.
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: We're not up for mom and dad of the year this time. Speaking of taking time off, we took some time off, y'all. We transitioning now to the Sweet Life special.
Speaker2: Yes.
Speaker1: This is a Sweet Life special right here. Y'all can jump out if you want but yeah i mean this is our love letter to one to our friends mr mrs wanderlust and to the beautiful country and island of barbados yes okay like we were able to spend eight days in Barbados for what they call their crop over celebration. It's their carnival unbelievable it's an experience the whole goddamn thing it's an experience that's all like it really is what were the vibes like like just if you had to put a label over the entire week what would like the vibes like it was very adults team okay in a in a very bougie way i would say that we got the bougie side is that the men and i've said this to multiple people when we spoke about it right the men and the women came to slay yeah every day everybody bought it wherever we went or wherever event we had to go to dressed they bought it they smelled nice the men's letting no you know normally people be like oh you know looking at the women got the i can't the women did you looking at the women and oh she got a big old butt no there was so many good looking men them dudes jack they had your boy like shit i gotta get back in the gym pronto out there yeah i was like my head was like i should have been getting like what place i was like the man's out here is, oh, yeah. I don't know where they got all these men from. The Caribbean, babe. They down there. But no, man. Yeah, like if I had to label the vibes of the entire time, I just would say joy.
Speaker2: Joyous.
Speaker1: Like everybody was just filled with a joy. Everybody was just happy. It was like a week-long Christmas celebration. Like everybody was just nice and happy and they took care of everybody it took care of us as like you know new people foreigners foreigners yeah outsiders yeah uh they took good care of us and just the vibes were just beautiful like it was just the weather was phenomenal except for like one day yes but we'll get there so this party schedule was unlike anything you have ever experienced i'm talking about even a lifestyle i guarantee nobody's experienced no shit like this right so the first day we get there was on a wednesday we kind of got in a little late um I had a tee time to play some golf. My first time playing international golf in the morning, right? So, go to bed. Kind of late, like midnight, one-ish, two-ish, something like that. Get up, play some golf, knock that shit out. The rest of this day, Thursday, was spent picking up stuff, right? We had to go pick up Trishis costume yes y'all know what carnival looks like the big feathers and the wings don't worry we're gonna we're gonna post something we're gonna post something like anonymous we gotta you know scrub it faces and all that stuff but we're gonna post it because it's totally totally worth it this woman killed it thank you right no thank you Thank you for contributing To the Spank Bank The Spank Bank But no so that was thursday we picked up a couple of items your costume the guy's outfits and all that stuff even for the uh one of my favorite parties called uh four day morning but we'll get there so then we go to bed right we had to go to bed because why trist who does this what party starts at 7 30 8 o'clock in the morning oh that was the first party that's correct very first very first party started at 8 a.m i was going to just say that so when you are picking up um your items they make that to be like kind of like an event an event yeah they'll give you those drinks there's uh other free stuff popsicles giving you stuff like popsicles they call them lollies and i mean this is a whole event like to just pick up your stuff because it's so competitive they say that you know being with particular groups for these events is so competitive they want to make their event the best one so they're going to give you rum punch and they're going to give you popsicles and they're going to give you wristbands and and you know personal fans that you you know you fang yourself in bags and cups and i will say it reminds you of like a lifestyle event right where they give you uh like bags we got this actually really nice bag both of us got one individually that just had a whole bunch of swag in it you know i like swag they gave me vegetables they gave me mixed vegetables there's a whole bunch of just swag stuff in these bags it was amazing they gave you like a 32 ounce bottle of shampoo it's crazy i left that because i was like that's too much weight but yeah but it's like it's amazing that the thought they gave condoms they just went in hot sauce yeah they sure did it was pretty random but still kind of thoughtful and clever at the same time i think they were kind of catering to their sponsors as well so you know if they had a had a sponsorship with, you know, Trojan condoms. They threw some condoms in there. Yeah. But it wasn't like all, I just also want to be clear. It wasn't like junk. No, it wasn't junk. It was all useful. It was useful stuff. It was a selfie stick. Selfie stick. That's what I'm using now. Eye patches. That's the one? Yeah. No shit. That's it. That's the one we got right there. Damn. That I used for the show's pretty nice that's pretty fun that's what i'm saying yeah um so that's this that's thursday so we wake up friday now the schedule starts friday morning we got a i think we had a driver for this one yes driver pick us up driver and we were dressed to the nines you got 8 a.m this one wasn't like we didn't go overboard and how dressy you were but you wanted to look nice right everybody looked nice and we knew that was they were talking about some rain coming down but we were like fuck it you know we're here and the way uh mr wonderlust our host was like you know what i don't y'all know what y'all gonna do but if it rain we keep partying they keep partying because he's from there um and he's like you know we just gonna keep on partying i bet let's go one of the beautiful things that he did for us him and his wife they did for us was they sent us music right they sent us a song a day leading up to the trip uh of soca music i haven't been a big soca fan in my life was not a soca fan wasn't now i am i love the music i love the message in the music it's about partying it's about fellowship it's about having a good time it's about looking good it's about dancing and whining and walking up on having your drinks and having your drinks and getting drunk and party having a good good time and i love every single song that he sent um but what he didn't well i guess what he knew what he was doing was was getting us ready for these parties so when you go into the party and now the dj's playing the music and you got a bunch of basins bouncing and partying and singing the songs i can look them in the eye and sing the song with them now we're friends we're friends now we homies yeah they look at you like oh you know this oh now you know this yes and that was like low-key one of the best things they did for us to make us feel comfortable so now and what we didn't realize was that these same songs was going to get played at every at every single event these same songs right so here's what we didn't we didn't know which we know now so the songs are released in like sometime in like march of that year right yeah and the reason for season is so season right because they're competing for to be the song of the year which is picked at after we do um the actual parade itself which is the condoomit for barbados so once the condoomit happens that day whoever's crowned king or queen song of that year so these all these songs are leading to the be the popular song yeah Yeah, for that particular carnival. So, I mean, like I said, just going above and beyond to make us feel, like, comfortable. And that made us feel comfortable. So now, boom, the rain comes down, pouring on us. And I'm talking about the sky opened up. The sky opened up. And it was cold rain, too. I don't know why, but God, it was like in the your neck yeah it was like it but the thing was the event um actually was prepared for it right what they did was they gave out sponsored like umbrellas they had umbrellas that they gave out to you to help with the rain because literally it's like we crossed over into the party and it just started raining immediately right but they gave you umbrellas that you got to keep um and then uh you just had to sit and wait and see if it stopped raining and it did we dried and then it rained it rained kind of off and on but not like it was when we first got there but you know what that party did not stop it didn't stop we was dancing. It was mud. It was like walking in cake batter and chocolate ass cake batter. Your foot gets stuck and you saw some women in heels, bro. I was like, girl, you might as well just take them off. And you can see like people foot, their foot gets stuck in it. And you got to like, you know, you got to clench your toes to like, make sure your shoes stay on yeah yeah it was a lot of that shit it was a lot of that shit but you know what it was like everybody was in the same it's it's almost like going to an actual lifestyle result uh resort right where there is no clothes because everybody's in the same position yeah everybody's right now at this event right everybody's muddy all the things you know we are all in the same boat i like that yeah you're either we're gonna still do this or you're gonna go home or you're gonna be miserable and have to go home right yeah yeah so it was unfortunate that i saw people posting about the rain like the like the event had something to do with the rain like they could have done anything sure they could have put down hay or straw some shit like that but i mean look i don't know where the hell they're gonna get that from right and it didn't stop us anyway no just donate the shoes when you're done man chuck them chuck them to the wind it rained and we were still out there just giving it giving it our all because now this is the first time we've actually got to hear these songs live and played live and seeing how the people party to them and seeing some of the dance moves you got the one eyeball you know i got it i got it anyway so that and and another side note i want y'all to keep this in mind throughout the rest of the story our Our friends don't fuck around with the time of these parties, okay? No. There's no go, show your face, and leave. Nah. These motherfuckers go in, punch in, okay? Like, they're getting paid, and stay till the motherfucking end. Yeah. Every party. Every party. So your feet got to be right. Yes, you ain't, don't come with no, you you know cutesy heels on and all that because you're gonna be standing up the whole time walking around you'll be sleepy you'll be fucking sleepy yeah so we did this part this party was called mimosa i don't know we should have said that on the front end it's called mimosa and it was awesome and by the way food and drinks are included in all of them all of it's included once you buy your ticket that's it you can get as drunk as you want if you got a driver or whatever oh sure you got a reliable way to get home but yeah just keep on keep the drinks coming keep the drinks coming you're gonna be warm real soon so then after that right this is just friday okay friday morning now we we're done there we maybe get some something to eat for like lunch or somewhere or some shit like that no we we ended up just getting one of those like rap things because we couldn't find that though because it was late yeah all right oh no the uh the power went out or something that was when yeah yeah okay yeah cool so right but the thing was now this party ended at maybe one-ish, two-ish. No, it didn't end. It ended around one-ish, two-ish. But we had to go to bed at six. That's correct. You know why? Because Barbados doesn't make sense with time. It exists beyond time.
Speaker2: Yeah.
Speaker1: Because the next party that we had to go to starts at 2 a.m.
Speaker2: 2 a.m.
Speaker1: It starts at 2 a.m., y'all. So we had to go to bed at 2 a.m 2 a.m it starts at 2 a.m y'all so we had to go to bed at 6 wake up at midnight to get ready midnight 12 30 some shit like that it's dark okay it's just dark dark outside dark so we had to take like sleepy gummies to uh to chew on the melatonin to knock you out and wake up in the middle of the night to get ready yeah wow indeed wow indeed to the sweet talkers to go to this party another sweet talker said share the playlist and we will do that i'm gonna take some screenshots i'm gonna do that i'm put that on the instagram we're gonna maybe uh do another little countdowns and give give y'all little teases how about that but anyway um yeah yeah so the next party is called four day morning not number four like four like f-o-r-e yeah like before before day morning um our friend or juve j-o-u-v-e-t juve and i forget all the ceremonial there's like a celebration you know reasoning in it. But the way Mr. Wanderlust described it, it it definitely has a purpose. And I should have done my homework before this, but I'm not going to mess it up. Y'all look it up. J-O-U-V-E-T. And I'll look it up as well. Anyway, this party is probably my favorite. OK, next to the actual parade this party was insane um so you get there middle of the night butt crack not even dawn it's just dark it's just just dark okay and they gave us t-shirts um this is one of the pickups so we got t-shirts to pick up and trist and mrs. Wanderlust, they spent some time cutting them up, making them nice and cool. Yes, because people were doing it. They made bathing suits out of a shirt. They made a two-piece. It was insane. It was awesome. Like what they did with some of the shirts. It was really cool. Everybody got really, really creative with their shirts. The ladies especially. Then the guys too. The guys was like, you know, showing off the six-packs, showing off the chest. Yes. You know, making headbands making arm arm scarves or whatever you want to call them i don't know armbands yeah um everybody got creative so you gotta you gotta bring your a-game so we out there and what this party is it's like you're on basically like a racetrack like um not a circular racetrack imagine like a indie car or a f1 track like that goes in like left turn right turn all sorts of turns it's a track um but it's a parade on the track so the the leader of the parade is a giant truck with speakers and music blasted i'm talking about like it's huge imagine a tractor tray like a semi with just speakers and like a makeshift like stage on the top of it you got guys on stilts with fire blowing fire blowing fire you got the cars on they got these uh like trucks pickup trucks on the side that's just blowing out like it could be blowing out foam yeah paint water it was like paint uh paint coming out because okay the idea behind this party is is that you get little bottles like little water bottles um you know like dasani or whatever whatever that pink filled with paint uh pink it was like different colors it was like different colors of paint you grab as many as you want as many as you can hold while you're marching while you're walking and dancing to the music and somebody gets you hyping y'all y'all hit they hear your song you spraying paint you you're squeezing it and you're flinging paint in the crowd you're flinging it on some shorty's ass there's like yes if somebody's like bouncing the butts you just start swinging if somebody's dancing on you you pouring paint on her butt or you know or the ladies they spraying it on the dude behind them and the walk up and the whine listen i learned the difference oh when they be whining y'all they be it's all hips y'all y'all gotta have loose hips now you can't be all rigid in the back you gotta be whining on it you know what i'm saying like i wish i could do it justice i wish i could see it but it was phenomenal yes so it is like from my perspective the guys would so i can tell you what one thing that happened for me so i'm five three and i didn't i can't i didn't see how how tall the guy was until the end he was like six four he was like six four right so we we're doing the thing and i'm i'm pushing the fence back on them pushing it back and we getting it we getting it so i think i'm i'm doing something i i dropped down drop it drop it low he said oh you want to drop it he laid you down on all fours yes facing forward and he was on all fours over top over top of you like an umbrella yeah and still was still whining and pouncing giving it to you give you everything you need everything you're looking for wow he provided he's a big boy yes he was skinny but he was a big boy yes yeah and then it'll be like you'll do your little dance and then you'll be like see you later and then you that's it they they tell you the the etiquette is like you get 10 seconds and then that's it you know and that's literally how it goes you go and it's nothing better right but i've learned it's nothing better than walking up on a young and right and she's dancing dancing. You walk up and you kind of let her know you there. So, you know, you're getting permission. And then she looked back over her shoulder and then she started dancing because she know you did. And that's that's her consent. And she's like, OK, boom, da. And then she walk off and that's it. And that's your exchange. That's your interaction. And it's awesome. Yes, because now she's gone and then you can walk off to the next one and she go find another one meanwhile your wife is giving it up like right there and it's all happening in the dark you got drinks so there's another truck oh god describe the atmosphere so you have this big huge truck that's in front of you that's playing music and you got live performers that sing those songs that are actually performing on top of this truck, right, as well. Then you have the trucks behind you where the drinks, they have alcohol, and they're just serving it. So all of that's included if you want to drink alcohol, again, it is 2 a.m., guys. It starts at 2 a.m. I want to try to describe this truck. No, we got there at 2. So it started at 3. No, it started at 2. I think i want to try to describe it no we got there too so it started at three now it started at two i think we got there like around 130 started it yeah okay but i want to describe that truck that that drinks truck so imagine another semi tractor trailer that you're walking alongside and it's like a long strip of like it's an open window of maybe eight bartenders in a window long window of this truck handing you drinks and they have a full bar behind them full bar so you can get your whiskey tonic or your tequila and whatever the fuck you just reach all the way the hell up while the truck is moving at a very slow pace it's probably like two miles an hour sure but everybody's like hands up you get your little drink and then you're back to the party yes and all of this is happening in the dark so it's going on for miles it feels like a long time and it gets long and it gets tiring and you're like damn it you know and i'm sitting here just i would think like oh i can't wait until the sun come up the sun come up i made it right like how many hours left like dang like oh we are we are done when the sun come up that's right we got to that point where it was like damn how many hours left shit you know because this one goes from like two to like eight two to nine something like that it was it was a long morning right next thing you know oh the sun starts coming up. And I was like cheering, like, yes, I made it. And you know what happened? I made it. When the sun came up. Oh, no, these people, great. We got more energy. The energy came back. And now it's like, now I can see who I'm dancing with. Oh, shit. You know, and now there's more paint flying and more booties popping. They just got like a second wind out of nowhere. Everybody got a second wind. And it was like, and then it got more performers coming and just hyping you up. It was crazy. And you're like, oh, oh, new shots to the head. You're like, ooh, ooh. I'm like, oh. And they got confetti blowing. I said, I cannot. It was confetti. It was so fucking magical. It was crazy. They don't tell you we partied from 2 a.m. until 8 a.m. And then we had to leave. We got breakfast. We was very muddy and dirty. We went to breakfast in our paint. In our paint. Which was hilarious. They eat all the things. But I was like, that's fine. I'm hungry. Because they know. It's their country. They know where we came from. You know what I mean? So we go, we eat, and we have to go to sleep to sleep again now we got to go to bed because we have another party the same day that starts at six yeah it starts at actually started at five we got there at six yeah so you had to go to bed or take a nap power up change up you know wash and clean and power up and get ready for the next one and this one was the sexy what do we call it sexy easter the sexy easter party yeah yeah this one was called bliss and this is yeah this is a swanky one right another party where food and drinks are all included yes but this is the one that they say you dress to the nines for this one to the nine nines you dress to the nines for this one so i broke out my best short set i had on my little pretty dress i was yeah you did and you was like flowing with it i love how you did that and our friends look amazing you know it's a serious business when you break out the white pants yes you break out the white pants ain't nobody fucking around no you look great so that's what that one was that one was like the who's who uh it's either this one or you go to like the prime minister's party like these are the two of the who's who parties and we were fortunate enough to be able to to get into this one and it was amazing another huge like it was in like in like a field yes but it was like very well done well manicured a whole bunch of spots where you just get all your pictures all your pictures the pictures props that's right all the things they did such a great job of just laying it all out it was it was a whole bunch of opportunity to get a lot of social pictures yeah and come to find out there were a lot of local um chefs
Speaker2: there yes
Speaker1: like whole bunch of opportunity to get a lot of social uh pictures yeah and come to find out there were a lot of local um uh chefs there yes like from their restaurants like we didn't know we were just in line getting food right but when i checked instagram later people were like oh chef whoever was here chef whoever was there and i couldn't wait to test their food you know so um yeah it was it was really cool that's just the food and beverage part like they had a hennessy uh spot yeah that ran out of hennessy they tore that up they had aperol spritz uh they had tequila station everything you need okay and then the performers and the performers then he had the main stage where it's just like performers and famous djs from barbados and from the caribbean just playing music and the people were just partying jamming rocking out i didn't see as much whining and you know but we didn't go to like the main dance floor either because again we were kind of tired yeah truth be told we was hanging on i was hanging in there we was hanging on i think we actually did leave early this one we left at 11 we left at 11 but that's early that's early but then it was still over they they said it wasn't it like ended not too long after that so it was fine but i know they like to stay to the end in my feats and all the things like. So, yeah, I just was not prepared. We were done, but it was it was fun. I had a great time at that event as well. And y'all looked amazing. The ladies. Oh, y'all always. Y'all did such a good job. I want to talk about one thing because they're going to have it at the actual parade as well. They have these bathrooms, right, that on as on a trailer where there are attendants in it so the attendants will go in and they clean it right after you come out like they have porta potties at that event they had porta potties but they also had these like really fancy like bathrooms and they'll have the same thing at the parade where it's on a truck and they just come in they clean it right after so it was never like a dirty uh disgusting like bathroom yeah no you mean you had to wait it was spectacular like as far as restrooms and mobile laboratories go it's not what you expect it was totally serviceable it was perfect it was great and it was a nice little respite uh when you're in a parade to like you know get off your feet that's correct yeah that thing it'll get you a couple feet you know before you come out um anyway what was i saying babe where were we um so we left that one we left that one oh they they did a firework show oh yes it was a drone show that was awesome beautiful i got some good videos of that and i was gonna say the same thing at this event they thought of everything they had fans they gave you all fans for free they also gave you the umbrellas yeah they had the the parasol yeah for the sun yeah so they they thought about a lot they put a lot of thought into this event yeah that one i would definitely want i would go back to every single party that we just mentioned like i would go back to all of them um let's see then now it's time to go to bed we're resting up because we got to get up again because now we don't want to miss the ship we gotta go on a camera now that's a boat basically now that's a goddamn boat now now we're going to be twerking now we done twerked in the mud okay we twerked at night we twerked in in easter clothes yes and now it's time to twerk on a boat yes on a boat you can't even call it twerk i feel i feel like bad calling it twerking yeah now you gotta whine whine on the boat whine on the boat so now we're going on what's called a line the limers cruise that's the that's the the company that's the group limers shit was amazing it was cool it was a nice little downtime it was a nice respite from being on our feet and moving and walking it was a great way to see the island from the water and it was a ton of people it was two ships okay two boats full of people the one was the big boat i think that was the orange and i think we were yellow yeah the yellow boat was a smaller one just as lit just as crazy it was so much fun it was it was a really cool time this is the first time actually that i wanted to get drunk other times i was like i'm not gonna drink like crazy because i want to survive these events yes i gotta survive these things i want to remember this shit so this is the one i was like you know what fuck it we're on the boat we chilling we're gonna make our way back i'm gonna have a few you know so i had some some beautiful young lady uh give you shots yeah she poured me a shot when i was sitting down i stuck my tongue again no because i wanted you to catch it on video turns out the um the limers people actually caught it on video you was on their site yeah but i put my tongue out i stuck my tongue out when she was pouring it and it made her kind of like shake her hand and she poured it like on my body out and i kind of bust her chops i was like uh-huh see soon that tongue i'm out you don't know how to handle it and she laughed and smacked me and all that stuff but not beautiful people having a good time on the boat everybody was getting like pictures taking uh taking of them and videos and it was partying on the boat yes got to see the island um and then they made the u-turn it remind me of the catamaran cruise with casual but different very different still very different still um let's see got back and this was finally our chill day we was able to like yeah chill out hang out we didn't have two parties we didn't have two parties this is a one party day yes even though it was early we still had enough time to Like, take naps, relax, chill, and get ourselves ready for the parade. Kadument. Uh-huh. Now we practice, right? So now, that's right. We even did, like, a... We did the route. We drove through the route a little bit. We did the drive. But I'm talking about the night before, we was liming at the villa. Oh, yes. We was chilling at the villa with the friends and all that and that was very very cool that made us feel at home we got to meet uh mr mrs wonderlust like their folks folks you know what i'm saying so but then tristan and i dipped out a little bit early because trish wanted to get yeah so here's the thing right tell them about the fit if you ever get a backpack that are there's that's what they call it it's wings right and it is a literally a harness like backpack that goes on top of you it is not fit to you have to fit all of this to you it's made out of wires it's all made out of wires your top also and with the top that we had for our costume it's all wires so you have to sit there and let me tell you we almost got divorced twice because i was getting so frustrated with this thing right i wasn't expecting that we got divorced twice you totally call me on guard with it yeah in one night right because here's they send you a video they do a video right about how to put it on you're like oh okay i could do this you go to try to do oh it was it was just like the thing about it right the thing about the video is that one it came out the night before they need to do at least two nights before to give people some time to really kind of figure this shit out I don't know. right the thing about the video is that one it came out the night before they need to do at least two nights before to give people some time to really kind of figure this shit out especially if it's your first time and secondly about the video is that they only gave the video that had the um the g-string part yeah it didn't do the wires it didn't go over the top right yeah and it didn't go over the top like the top of our actual costume when she put hers on it was already fitted so you really got to bend it if y'all know how to like bend a clothes hanger that's what you're like you're shaping really shape wire yeah shape it shape it and it had to be done multiple times i had to take it off put it back on mold it again then i ended up molding it around my actual one of my bras trying to adjust it it was just a nightmare at first right but got it done yeah we got it done we figured it out and then the next thing was we didn't know how to put on the actual backpack and we was and then a lady was like somebody i help you when you get to the things you'll find somebody i was like i hope so and i'd be goddamn if we didn't like in the morning we woke up we were super excited we got up really early too It was probably was like, I hope so. And I'd be goddamned if we didn't, like, in the morning, we woke up. We were super excited. We got up really early, too. It was probably like 6, something like that. Because we wanted to take pictures. Yeah, because we wanted to take pictures outside. So all you did was kind of front. You pretended. You put it on, but we didn't have it, like, attached to you. So we took all these sexy, beautiful pictures. I put together my little video of you transitioning. Oh, this shit's hot. We're doing it for the gram kind of thing. And then we find a way to jam all these fucking wings into the into a truck to get them over to the to the beginning of the because they were huge i was about to say the beginning of the race yes they were huge they couldn't fit in the car so we had to get a truck feet yeah six feet tall they were tall long and then we we by chance run into someone some wonderful magical fairy from trinidad yeah that knew how to put the wings on and she offered immediately she she must have just sort of panicked in everybody's eyes like i don't know what to do y'all need help and she came and she did the tightest little shibari ass like ropes on tris back i got videos i got pictures of that shit it was like yes thank you lady because my wife is going to lose her shit if we do not know how to tie these things we was gonna figure it out but she did it like professionally yes and and to be honest like as now right I feel like now I know right there it has to be on and someone has to tie it like to you and make sure that it's like everything is like tied because what it'll happen is if it's it'll get like because you're moving around in the parade and you're dancing it'll just start coming undone and it'll start flopping and going like up and down on you and yeah it's just it's a hot mess but yeah so anyways lessons learned from some stuff but lessons learned it was cool i once we got we got all the pictures let me tell you what there i didn't know the magnitude of the condoement i'm talking about they have people everywhere taking pictures of you. All ages. All photographers, professional photographers, people on their phones just walking up to you taking pictures. They got like real television cameras all up on you and your face. Because this is a holiday. Like this is people are not at work now. You know what I'm saying? Like and they we are participating in their annual celebration. celebration like the people there are little kids who are going to be watching us americans walking in their parade with eyes big as saucers like i want to do that one day and that meant something to me you know i'm saying that meant something more than you know um just bouncing up and down on some young and you know what i mean that it got very very special you know what i'm saying and being a part of this and being in the mix with all these people from everywhere and all these feathers and all this beauty and love and just like i said in the beginning like joy just people were so happy just to be there man i'm talking about i'm dancing with dudes and you know i'm saying partying with the guys and dancing with the ladies and again uh mr wonderlust friends we couldn't go two feet without running into somebody that he introduced us to already so we felt like we were we was good we was good like we were detached yeah we had to like figure out we'll just find each other again somewhere down the actual road they call it on the road on the road so once we find them again we were like okay cool but we would have ran into somebody else that they knew i'm like oh yeah we saw them there yeah they're right there i saw you know i saw them back there whatever the case so it was never felt like we were like lost or anything right but it's the same setup so what you learn is that all of the pre-events before leads you up to this big day this is the culmination thing huge truck with the big old speakers and performers just like driving you you got the stilts people you got people on bikes riding in between with more drinks to give you drinks and water you got guys with on the ropes keeping us keeping us into the parade line yeah um you got like food truck things behind you also could get out of the parade to go buy food they have food on the road on the side yeah for you to go buy like drinks or if you want to buy like like street vendors like people yeah like the people who live in the community know hey look it's a big day like let's set up and sell water you know i mean yes so and they sell like fish sandwiches and shit like that all the things and you got kids out there you got the little girls they they want you to give them give your wings to them and you put it on the kids i didn't do that because i had to bring it back for my kid you know i'm saying i think that was one of the best uh cultural moments right you got these kids um outside again they're not in school it's summertime anyway but you know you've got kids outside everybody's watching and then you got the women who are tired of wearing because at a certain point some women get tired of wearing their feathers so that you can either take them off and put them on the back of a truck it's like a pickup truck and you just lay them on there and have faith that you're going to get yours back at the end or you just or you just say they just say fuck it and just leave them in there or you got some women who take their wings off and give them to a little kid that's standing in the parade that's standing outside watching the parade that type of shit will bring a tear to your eye um so us guys we had like these little fake gold chains they're like plastic uh gaudy looking big giant gold chains that came with our outfits or whatever so you could what i did was i took mine off yes and gave it to some little maybe like six-year-old he has a little afro puff and he's standing with his mom and i kind of threw it over his neck and he's like oh wow you know so that's the type of shit that's just really really cool and that could be really impactful man so i love that i love that a lot and i and yes i was able to get my backpack home girl i had multiple people ask did you get it home yes i did how we get that home so you know because he had a golf bag nah nah you gotta rewind after the after the event y'all right so we had a truck drop us off at the event but we had a car coming to pick us up oh yeah and tris you know she was dedicated to these wings i'm dedicated just as much as her you know how dedicated i am after walking what my watch told me was 12 miles that day my watch told me i walked 12 miles for this parade i walked another two miles because her wings could not fit in that car now me and mrs wanderlust took our happy asses and walked from the end of the parade back to the crib two and a half miles maybe two and a quarter it was two and a quarter don't you don't do that hey we tried to come back whatever we did come back and it couldn't fit it couldn't fit it yeah and i was like oh i felt bad i said i could walk them back myself. Your feet were hurting too bad. I didn't want to hear that shit. My feet were hurting really bad. They were really bad. It was only one way to get them shits where they needed to be. I had to walk them. But I got them home. You're welcome. Thank you. I appreciate you so bad. And they got home in one piece. They did. They did. It was worth it. And I got to put them on our youngest. It was totally worth it. step but no man like the kadoomin parade was phenomenal and how could we not say or try to plan to go back next year it's just unbelievable unbelievable we ready for torture again no we're gonna be ready we'll be training training my ass i'm gonna be more prepared than i thought i was prepared this time i was not but i'll be because i now i know i know that what and i want the music i think i just need to i want to get ready for the music too i can't wait till soca season next year i cannot wait and then the last thing that we did um hopefully we did the parade justice there but the last thing that we did was one more little tiny party before it was time to go and what's that party's called it's called soca state of mind and what are the parties called that we that that's a part of soca state of mind oh it's just a fette that's a name for a party it's a fette so yeah soca state of mind was the name of the fette yes um so what that was it's a weekly party that they throw like outside of a cricket stadium um it's just like a little parking lot they got a dj that come in blast some soaker and just people kicking it you get your drinks and you put your drinks like on the floor in front of you there's no seats there's nothing fancy it's just nighttime kicking it straight kicking it listen to music with your homies and that's what we did one more night before it straight kicking it listen to music with your homies and that's what we did one more night before it was time to go man we just got to kick it one more time with um our our new friends our new family down there love them folks man it was just such a good time man and just really appreciative thank y'all for indulging us in this oh i just want to say one more no for sure go ahead just that like i really really want to just uh say to our friends like they were such good hosts yeah and i got to just really really get into his culture understand where you come from meet your actual family your daddy your auntie all the things that make him who he is right and really understanding and his friends that still live there in Barbados and all the things it's like now I feel like we friends you know right it just felt so great and so open and i'm forever yeah thankful that we were able to experience that with him right and for him for him to share that right because this is you know this is who this is your who you are yeah and all the things right so i i'm truly truly grateful well said man well said i got nothing else to add to that man i mean i echo every single thing that you said i mean all right if we want to take away from just the party part right this guy took us on a tour like a legit tour route of the island we set foot on every parish on barbados there are 11 parishes that is it took hours right he took hours out of this tired ass day after all this partying to drive us around and show us sights and give us the history is truly amazing man truly truly amazing and uh yeah like you said i just i can't thank them enough i can't thank them enough for being who they are and sharing this amazing life-changing experience with us yeah yeah and uh trissa and i had sex once that's it that's the lifestyle part you know we had to right you gotta you gotta do it once yes we mustered it up and it was like come here and that's it that's all the lifestyle stuff okay bye no kidding thank you guys so much for indulging us thanks for hanging in there for this story in this sweet talker special what we call it sweet life special yes um this has been fun but it looks like the votes are in for the canada story to come up next so stay tuned y'all we will see y'all next time thanks all right bye again we'd like to thank you for living a sweet life with us to everyone who couldn't join us live in the suite check out our podcast on itunes stitcher spotify google play and iheart radio I'll see you next time. in a sweet life with us to everyone who couldn't join us live in the suite check out our podcast on itunes stitcher spotify google play and iheart radio be sure to subscribe rate and review feel free to email us at living the sweet life podcast at gmail.com you can also follow us on instagram at the sweet life podcast and on Twitter at SweetLifePod. 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