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Living the Sweet Life is a podcast intended for mature audiences only. We'll be using sexually explicit language while discussing many different adult themes. So if you're under the age of 18, please stop listening. Also, please know that our thoughts and opinions should not be taken as professional advice. We're here to answer your questions about the swinger lifestyle from newbies to longtime swingers. Or if you're just curious, we hope to engage you all and to encourage a sex positive discussion.
Now that we've got that out of the way, make yourself us in this episode of living the sweet life she is my beautiful sexy co-host and wife the lovely tris and he is my sexy chocolate husband i try to be baby but now look ladies and gentlemen thank you so much for joining us for episode 107 I think i got that right 107 107 that's crazy uh let me again start this episode by saying happy new year right trist happy new year hope everybody had a safe and enjoyable holiday season um listen man you know i'm gonna take it down a notch for all the people that you know suffered all the craziness and chaos and you know the tragedy in new orleans we got some friends down there some really near and dear to our heart and we are so grateful to hear that their friends and family are all okay but to everybody whose friends and family are not from us to you we wish y'all the best um but let's pick it back up man listen I'll see This is crazy.
It is. This is crazy.
But I crazy but i'm excited man i'm excited because another year is another opportunity to do it all right it is another opportunity to learn and do more things yeah you know and have more experiences more experiences make some mistakes correct those things have some great times and we got some great times in store uh so speaking of those future great times let's talk about some housekeeping you know knock out some of this stuff where y'all might be able to find living a sweet life and just where y'all might be able to support the people who support us uh first and foremost we are going to be at taboo social club uh for their heaven and hell party co-hosted uh with casual swinger whoa i know y'all heard us talk about it before the new uh before the holiday before the new year man listen we are super pumped up like i said in one of our little promotionals uh we've all been through the holidays now we've been on our best behavior some of us some of us we've been around grandmas we've been around our mamas and cousins and aunts and them we tired of all that sweet potato pie yes you know i'm saying we tired all that it's time for us to cut loose and what better way to start your 2025 debauchery campaign than joining us in catonsville baltimore uh catonsville baltimore check me out catonsville maryland cities hey but i was hey listen i was i was spitting though i was spitting though but listen man look catonsville maryland on saturday january 18th with casual swinger they are going to be in the building they might get down on the dj booth i think i think mickey is going to do a little dj set it's set yep um we got gifts uh or at least gift cards coming through listen it's going to be it's going to be a party man it's going to be a party and you need to be there with us we cannot wait yep and we have people coming in town for this event as well so if you are there and you're at the club just stop by say hello hang out um this was going to be a little bit different we're not doing a meet and greet before we're just going to go straight to the club and we will see you there and we're going party yeah so come through if you're in the area come through have a drink with us say what's up and uh yeah we always appreciate saying hi to some sweet talkers or just uh general party goers and don't forget we also have the sneaker ball that's coming back this year as well but that's not until september so i think that's going to be september the 24th we'll do another event at uh tapu social club for the sneaker ball so sneaker ball is coming back for 2025 yeah buddy put it on your calendars uh so some other little things well you might be able to find no well you will be able to find us if you just so happen to be in the area of uh riviera maya mexico next month we're going to be at desire hanging out with some of our dope ass canadian friends the canadian uh contingent uh from february 11th to the 14th come through if you're there just come through and say what's up man we hope to see y'all um but look put this one on your calendars uh you got the casual swinger week that's It's March 29th through April 5th.
We won't be there this year, but that don't mean you can't. Yes. That don't mean you can't. Listen. He's going to have all his FOMO. Go ahead. Send him all the pictures, all the things. I think you're talking about me. I am. You're right. We have friends going on a trip. Yeah. Send him all the pictures. Just like that damn cruise, man. I know.
all these friends going on a trip yeah send him all the pictures just like that damn cruise man i know all these friends going on these wonderful trips and vacations yes and leave your boy lock home because we got to be adults hmm fine gotta pay the bills we gotta be adults and take care of little people yes we do whatever that's cool hey what's up everybody on ig how y'all doing hey your boy arms and everything looking nice oh my gosh but no uh let's see what else we got libertine events yeah again supporting the people that support us kate uh and daryl have been fantastic supporters of living the sweet life podcast for years man like legit giving us tips we was like babies yeah we was little guppies out here no like they're seriously she was the one that was talking to you about equipment before we was doing he was you you ran some stuff past her as well like yeah yeah for sure so check them out man libertine events they're doing an event called garden of heeding yeah oh yeah down in miami this is gonna sound so good yeah it's gonna be fun she puts on such a great event man um check them out that's gonna be from may 16th through the 19th may 19th and that's if they still have room so i i doubt that they do but you know listen i don't i will never stop anyone from checking yeah and getting on the um wait list the wait list because you know some people book these things way in advance and then they just you know just because they're pulling the trigger really quickly trying to get up on a room but then something happens happens family stuff happens at the last minute so you might be able to get in there yeah so holla at kate man stay on her newsletter stay on the casual newsletter stay up on these things and uh hopefully we'll catch y'all at one of these events in the future because we definitely want to get back to both of those at some point yes for sure for sure all right tris i think that's all i got for housekeeping listen for anybody who wants to join us live in the suite jump over to our youtube channel hit the subscribe button hit the like button hit the notification bell do all the things and every time we go live you will be notified and then you can jump in leave your thoughts answer a couple of questions let the sweet talker community know that you are feeling what we got going on and we always appreciate the support right Tris yes we do I love it when she's multitasking and uh not paying attention and then I just throw her the ball that's my it's my one of my favorite things to do it is so so all right my people I think that clears that all up so yeah I know what it is before we get into the shenanigans all the crazy stuff i always gotta check in with my boo my queen my better half so my dear how you feeling you know i'm feeling like 2025 let's go yeah that's the only words i root oh really right there i didn't even make that up off the top of my head just now i just said that you know 2025 let's go so what about it and what that means it's just like whatever you have set right that you wanted to do something or that you you really wanted to i don't know if it's a promotion that you've been going after if it's um you know applying to school like let's go buying a home you know uh getting that sought after pair sneakers what yeah you know yeah making big changes going on a trip going to a libertine event for the first time let's go let's do the things getting that passport stamped yes and going on a uh what's my people call sapio tours something right if it's a thing that you've been putting off is what i'm saying this is where i'm at with 2025 there's something that you've been putting off that you've been wanting to do um that's been on your mind um let's go let's go let's do the thing yeah because it's time it's time um and that reminds me of that instagram post or that little reel that i sent you a couple days ago where the couple took maybe five yes i like that five champagne bottles and they took each champagne bottle and labeled it with an index card of a goal so every time that they reach a goal they're gonna pop that champagne bottle to celebrate those wins i love that and we're gonna go get our champagne bottles and we're gonna label those fuckers probably next week we're gonna do it sometime soon before before all these things get kicked uh the whole year gets kicking off we're gonna do those things so i'm excited about that i am too i like that they did that i don't know how we would do it that was trying to figure it out i know but there's a lot of champagne you know i don't really like champagne like that but we'll figure it out oh so you you're just gonna be crushing like 30 40 goals this year then you just label them for the big ones so you only drink champagne a few times in the year not just you know i got an a on my test i bought a new pair shoes i made it to work on time pop that bottle we be lit every week every week no so so lock how you feeling me boo i am snowbound but super excited for next week yeah so we live in the dc maryland area man and we just got our asses handed to us by mama nature look she's owed us an ass whooping for a couple years now and uh yeah the rent done came due yes for those of you that don't know we should be getting snow every year right like when we were younger we would get snow every year we have not gotten a snowstorm in eight years something like something like that here right so we were we were past due yeah yeah and they came in for for all of it got us today got man so we spent the morning shoveling ourselves out you know getting the uh you know getting getting the house clear whatever the cars dug out and of course after you dig out the cars you gotta dig out the hot tub it's just a b you know it's one plus one is two out this motherfucker, man.
You can't be messing around. You clear off the cars. Okay. Priorities. Yup. And then you clear off the hot tub for the naked hot tub pictures. Second priority. Bingo. As long as we got that straight, that's what everything else is good. And that's exactly our day. Yes. So we did do that.
We got ourselves in the hot tub after we put the kid down for a nap and that that was the the perfect little nightcap and if i'm being honest with y'all oh it made me sleepy now yes but i'm gonna push through because i love y'all you know also this is so this is our second snowstorm that we've been through um we reminisced today on the first snowstorm and then some of you guys you may not even you might not know this but it's from one of the other episodes too we talked about how we got snowed in at our house and the cars were inside the garage not down driveway but the point of it is that we were about to go to hedo and we were listening to like reggae music pretending we were outside like in the hot sun as we shoveled our asses out the driveway with over a foot and a half of snow all the way down so this time we didn't have that reggae music but we had a hot tub right to look forward to afterwards it definitely healed the wounds but i'm excited the second part was i'm excited for next week because again like tris mentioned uh we got friends coming in town i'm super i love hosting i love hosting my friends i love when friends meet friends and all of this gets to happen friday saturday thursday thursday friday saturday yes it's gonna be a blast super excited cannot wait um yeah and i don't know man i'm just sure we're gonna have a really good time and it's gonna be and i plan better this time and i think i'm gonna plan this way probably every time planned better i plan better i took a day off the pre and i took and i have a day off post on the back end.
Yes. On the back end. So pre off post, I get the rest. Nice. Good. It's really good. That's smart. You're smart. I'm just going to be struggling at my computer. Yes. I'll make it though. All right, people. I think that about covers it. How I'm feeling. So my beautiful queen, my lovely sweet talkers, thank y'all for joining. Are y'all ready to get into tonight's episode? Let's do it. Let's go. Thank you so much for hanging in there, folks. This entire episode is a tough conversation.
It's a tough conversation about having tough conversations and you know what some of y'all might need to hear this conversation on tough conversations so that makes this a tough conversation i do that right yeah that was a lot back and forth but i was i was following you follow me yes that's all that matter so listen we always talk about in the lifestyle we always talking about communication but mostly people are talking about communicating with whom tris partner with the partner right most of the time right and we talk about like it's like inward facing. It's internal.
It's you've become a much better communicator with your partner. I share my feelings. I share this and I'm not afraid to ask that. I tell her what I want. We sit down and we have meetings and we talk, you know, all the good things that improve us as communicators or improve us as partners. Yes.
But what about the other way what about external facing towards other people now who are the others who are some of the others it could be your friends right and it could be friends lifestyle friends or or not right but it definitely could be uh friends it could be your play partners it could be friends, lifestyle friends, or not, right? But it definitely could be friends. It could be your play partners. It could be potential play partners. And it could just simply be people who might approach you in a club or at an event. That's what I was going to say.
Or on the beach, you know, when you're kicking it at Casual Swinger Week this year. You know what I'm saying?
You like I did you like i did that you did that was slick that was a plug i'm slick out here no my gosh please continue yes ma'am yes ma'am all right but what about those people right what about the people that do you think let me ask you this tris and my sweet talkers do you think that the communication skills that you uh sharpen with your partner make you a better communicator externally when it comes to all these other people that we name partners but okay why not what do you think what's like what might be like the barrier there like is it emotions that might yeah because I think that it is it's about you don't want to offend somebody so a lot of times you're not having a conversation or saying certain things because you don't want to offend the other person not to say with your partner that you're you're and not to say with your partner that you don't care if you offend them right but you're you're you attend to be a little bit more open to telling your partner, Hey, look, this and that or i have though about whatever it is when we talk about communicating it is about your partner right so you become more open to having difficult conversations with your partner not to say that you have all the conversations with your partner because sometimes you sure may not because again because you're afraid they're going to get offended uh-huh right um but i think mostly in sweet talkers you can correct me on this that sometimes you don't have those external conversations it's just because of the uncomfortableness of it or somebody may get offended.
I agree with that. I agree that just because I sharpen my skills with you does not mean that those skills always translate externally because just like you said of like, for lack of a better word, fear.
Like sometimes you just get you're afraid of making those awkward conversations so what i think happens or what could potentially happen is i'm comfortable here with you so i'll tell you how i feel about xyz that's happening externally you give me that comfort of that validation it's a safe space it's a safe space and then we bounce that And then I feel like in my head, I'm empowered to make the decision without sharing the information. Right. Without actually having the conversation with the other people. I feel like enabled, maybe.
Maybe sometimes, you know, I bounce stuff off of you so much and you just tell me, oh, yeah, you're right. You're right. And then I just feel empowered. Like, shit, my shit don't stink. I'm good out here in these streets. So I don't communicate well externally. You know what I mean? Right. Thank you.
oh yeah you're right you're right and then i just feel empowered like shit i'm my shit don't stink i'm good out here in these streets so i don't communicate well externally you know what i mean right we got a sweet talker chimed in uh sweet talker says the skills are there but you still have to choose to have that conversation that's where it breaks down for a variety of reasons yeah oh we got another one playfully artsy hello there i got it you know i gotta put my face all up in the screen you want me to try all right i'll try no i got it i got it i politely disagree if you are completely open with your partner and your partner is completely open with you i absolutely believe you have the skills to do it with others you might need to be brave i think that's exactly what we're all trying to say is that yeah no i agree with that um mrs playfully artsy is that you do you have the skills but it's going to take another level of courage or um like she said bravery to cross that line to have that external conversation without your partner you know without feeling like you know yeah i've shared it with my partner this is my safe space you gotta cross that line yeah that's the scary part that's the part we're gonna work on tonight together let's work on it people because this is a community man we are my we y'all my folks we're gonna work on this thing together if i got some uh shortcomings i expect i expect i know i do i expect my friends my real friends to be like hey tighten up let me holler at you yeah um so why is this important tris why should we even care about external right because we're always told to keep your partner first and that your partner is the only person that really matters right in this in this world it's us against the world it's lock and trust against everybody else but but no because you end up having these all these different facets of relationships right even the relationships in which you haven't built the relationship yet, but you have started communicating, let's say that, right?
Then the communication needs to be clear. Has to be.
And it doesn't have to be clear in a way where, in a very direct, like, you know, like, it could be could be tactful right in a tactful way where it's not like i said no did you not hear me say x y and z i was very clear like it doesn't have to be that right but i think that it needs to be it still needs to be clear if that makes sense it makes 100 uh sense yeah you know um as you'll see very shortly we're going to come up with some examples we came up with a few examples of tough conversations that you're going to have and i'm sure as we discuss those things you're going to find the benefits of being crystal clear in each and every one of them because it makes sense to be clear in in a lot of this stuff um yeah so here we go all right why are they important these things why why is important to be a good communicator externally so it's important because good communication one leaves room leaves little room little room for misunderstandings do you like butt play no i do not right so saying stuff saying being clear about what you like and don't like is you leave little room for misunderstandings little room for miscues and um like being misled if i'm if i'm making sense here like uh if if i'm like rubbing you on your, that's a physical indication that I'm into you, but I verbally say, you know, Hey Tris, I'm not really kind of, I'm not kind of not really feeling you.
Right. So if I'm clear on that, then we have very little room for that misunderstanding. I'm going to make it sense. I feel like I'm kind of spinning my wheels here my wheels here no i mean i think you make sense as far as it being leaving room for little room for misunderstandings but i think misunderstandings still happen that's true but we try to minimize them as much as possible so i think being a good communicator minimizes that it happens and there's's no way to prevent it all the way.
But trying to be clear about my intentions and what I'm into and not into, I think it helps to alleviate that as much as possible. What does Sweet Talker say? That was for before. It says that you're willing to be vulnerable with your partner, but you're not willing to be vulnerable with others. Yeah. But so I disagree with that a little bit. Sometimes. Because I don't feel like I need to be vulnerable with a complete stranger that I don't want to give you that. I'm not going to give it to you. It's very simple. OK, speak on it. Because I still have to feel a certain, what is it? Comfort.
Comfort to be vulnerable with you, right? So for me, I'm talking about me, not speaking from everybody else. For me, vulnerability is not, oh, I need to be vulnerable to have this conversation with you. You're not going to get that. You're right.
Unless I'm comfortable with you enough to have those type of conversations with you i you just will not get that that's not my personality as tris or as my real personality right so um to be vulnerable would mean that i you know i care about intentionally what you're saying and your opinion matters um about damn so like if you don't care hold on all right what i mean by that is that a stranger can say something but if i just disagree uh with it i don't i mean i don't your opinion about it is not something that is going to impact me at all okay that's what i mean by not caring right i'm not saying that someone says something i'd be like oh you're i don't care about you so i'm not gonna listen that's not what i'm saying what i'm getting at is that you don't have an impact to how i feel about something or how i react to anything in that way is what i'm getting at okay i think we might be getting a little lost in the weeds just a little bit about this but i know and i'm about to get on that no i want to get that's what i'm talking about i'm talking about the word vulnerability you don't like that you don't like that word because that is me knowing you that is like a special place that someone gets to for you to be vulnerable and I think Me knowing you, that is like a special place that someone gets to for you to be vulnerable.
And I think what the sweet talker may have meant, sweet talker, if you're there, please, please correct me if I'm wrong. I do not want to speak out of turn, especially with y'all people. I love y'all. But I think what they meant by that was just in the context of this conversation, which is, you know, how do you avoid some of these things? Yeah. You know, and being vulnerable means just being honest. Okay. Yeah. Just being honest. Yeah.
And being willing to hear, like, like I said, saying some of this stuff might be scary for me to say it right okay um but being vulnerable means letting that guard down and being willing to say the scary thing and take whatever comes back from it oh sure i think that's what vulnerable means in that context okay yes then that that's correct they said correct okay then i can do that okay all right yes right okay so let's rock him let's keep on going i thought we were saying like i'm about to tell you my no no not that to tell you my interpersonal my trauma no no no it just means being willing to accept the the repercussions or the consequences okay yes i can do that all right and that is scary for people though it is scary because you feel like if you're going to say when we get down to this stuff when you get when you say some of this some of these things you feel like you the friendship might be in jeopardy that somebody might judge you they might look at you a certain kind of way or you know you might make somebody cry sure that is kind of that is scary it's a tightrope you got to walk but i feel like it's worth it it's worth the exercise it's worth the putting in the mental work to get good at that you know what i mean yes um i rather oh sweet talker says uh yeah i'd rather be honest than i'd rather honesty than ignorance yes and then the sweet talker says that uh that i think you're talking about me i'm choosing not to be vulnerable which is fine oh right yeah so go ahead um mr playfully artsy says even though i'm always very direct and open i find myself weighing the values of the words that I have to say, that I have to say, and if they will have any kind of positive impact or versus possible negative impact.
Yeah. But here's the thing, right? Even if it does, let's just play on that.
Even if it does have a negative impact, right right did it had to be said it's what is the like weighing the option of does it have to be said i think it's something i actually go through too like do i have to say this to this person um then i weigh the option then if i have to say it and it comes like yes i need to tell you this then i say it regardless of what's the if it's gonna be positive or negative right right because ultimately i felt like i had to say it had to be said i gotta walk through this fire listen i'm married to this one y'all conversations ain't so easy sometimes man it's not and not.
And, you know, she married to me. Like, sometimes she knows. And I can tell when she's kind of trying to tread lightly because she's not sure how I'm going to take this medicine. You know what I mean? Yeah. But it's medicine I got to take. And she got to force it to me. And we're going to duke it out or whatever it is. But we come out better on the other side of it. And I know we're going to get into this, too, because but also having conversations, tough conversations that we've had internally that we need to have with friends. We're talking to each other.
That's what I'm saying about a situation that we both are saying that we kind of, you know, have some type of angst about.
But to have it with our friends we we do we've had conversations like that before like with our actual friends we're gonna get there i think i think we're gonna get to one of them anyway um i didn't mean anyway but yes yes just moving forward um potentially saves feelings this is another good one another reason for good communication it potentially saves feelings increases the likelihood for a good time ding ding if you're paying attention to what people are telling you you can increase your pleasure or theirs we're gonna get to that it saves a lot of fucking time yeah just let me know because if you don't like me and we if we not babbing tell me let me know because that's that's how i used to be like in high school i'm not look look all right we're gonna go deep into lock now okay a little bit of deep into lock and how i became he done moved the microphone the problem child than i am no because i used to get my heart broke right you know what i'm saying especially with this one back in high school you know what i'm saying you put all your eggs in that basket no you talking about you love them all that and then you know i'm saying you're chasing them around i got lucky she threw that thing on me you know what i'm saying you get all twitterpated you knowated you know saying you all up in it and then they don't be answering the phone no more or they don't be responding to your beeper you'll be when you beep them y'all remember that oh yes she'll be responding to my pages so you start loot you drive yourself crazy for a certain amount of time that was me i legit like had to detox myself from girls back in the day like don't call them for three days and then you know you give yourself a certain amount of time if you if you avoid them for those days then typically it was out of my system i ain't worried about it no more and it became my armor you know what i mean it became armor for me like fine you ignore me whatever all right i get the message done done i ain't chasing no more and i'm i know you're that way too like if somebody show you they're not interested i am done yeah i'm that way in a lifestyle you don't understand like i'm that way in a lifestyle real life whatever you want to call it life i'm that way like if i get a vibe that there is not a vibe or you just giving me the run around and and all the things i'm done because of time it's a time like not it's a time issue but it can become a time thing like look man i'm 43 years old i ain't got much more time to be giving y'all i ain't got no time to be sparing out here worrying about shit you know so that's the thing saves time man uh and may increase your safety sure and again we'll get to that as well so what are some of the tough conversations that i just alluded to tris let's get going um sweet talkers let's jump in this thing let's talk about it on before we do that it says that a sweet talker playfully artsy says that a conversation with someone that doesn't have an open mind or defensive mindset could have a negative impact however it might be the best for all parts yeah yeah to just to just get it out i mean yeah one way or the other you're going to show me your true colors sure and what better way to show me your true colors than if i just you know lay how i feel out on the table whether it be a statement or a question or whatever and then you you know lay into me it's like all right well then that's who you really were from the the jump like you don't care about me if you're gonna you know take this question and spin it all sideways right cool again you see my last comment you just saved me some time yes you did you saved me time thank you for flipping out and you know making this uh real easy for me you know what i mean so in conversation around not my type you were saying that some of the tough conversations go ahead you want to speak on it i feel in in in some of the sweet talkers you can comment on this like not my type is a hard one yeah to have it is that that's the whole point of the episode these are tough conversations yes that one is a hard one to have and i would say it was hard it's hard for me too um i i used to tend to just walk away like i'll find a way to just like scary yeah and get lost somewhere else when i wasn't interested in someone i was not having the conversation i just would just not be around them you do not understand what it is like being ghosted by my wife in a conversation it's crazy just turn around but that was my way and you were gone okay in all fairness in all fairness like um i can't tell you what it was.
Let me ask you. Okay. Do you think that, you know, knowing how we operate, and I got so much more of a better understanding of who you are now. Because back then, I would have called you an extrovert. You're an extrovert, and you just don't like people. But do you think that some of your introvert might have played into some of those because we were thrust into like a new conversation and you were just like a defense mechanism? I'm out. That's like a defensive tactic to just disengage. No, I don't think it was the new conversation of it.
It's just that I'm not if I was not interested and i feel that the person is just overly doing it in the conversation because they're interested okay i would just disappear literally disappear casper like you would say bye from 20 feet away bye i'm gone but today i do do a better job at having that conversation especially if somebody is open enough to ask me, like, hey, you know, I'm interested in you. What do you think? Things like that. How do. What do I say? Yeah. I'm going to like, let's throw it out there. You know, I want to throw it out to the sweet talkers as well.
like, how let someone know that you're not my type or i'm not into you or you know uh yeah or whatever how do you do it a way that someone told us um she didn't necessarily say she wasn't into us but she said that she gave us like a stiff arm basically like you know hey uh it was it was the the dance card is full yes my dance card is full her dance card was full i thought that was a very clever and polite and cheeky kind of way to let us know that she wasn't into us um or at least not at that time and i was fine no feelings hurt i was actually impressed with the the way the statement flowed.
I liked it. My feelings weren't hurt. I personally, I really don't know how, you know, I don't know the words to say. Maybe it's something along the lines of I'm not really feeling our chemistry. I don't really feel chemistry here. We think you're very nice. You know, you be honest.
Like, I think you're nice because i'm sure they're probably nice people at some level um but uh i don't really feel the connection or we're not really feeling the connection hopefully you know that doesn't offend you but you gotta say something you gotta say something yes have we ever had to tell someone our dance card was full or you know that we weren't really into them you know i have but it was it was after another play session and i was actually um relaxing and in person it's like came up and sat beside me and said hey you know i don't know what they know what they said.
Let's just say that they were like, oh, you know, I find you very attractive. I was hoping maybe you and I can get some time together. And I just, you know, said, you know, thank you. Thank you for coming over and talking to me. But, you know, not tonight. This was at a play session? This is after a play session. After. Okay. Correct. Not with the person. I wasn't playing.
We weren't playing with that sure sure right okay um so they were asking to hang out or they were asking to play to play oh i knew what it bet yes it was okay it was just myself and him all right yeah okay set up a you know a yeah session yeah yeah right right okay no and i had to say that you know i used it not tonight uh-huh because that's all i could think about right then on on the fly yeah but he was like but i'm talking about tomorrow night though and then if he would have came back tomorrow then i would have had to have other words to really have that conversation and he didn't but um if he did i would have just said that you know i find you to be interesting if and you know we have great you know conversations when i see you but i'm just i'm not i'm not interested so let's keep it real and funky also right i don't think we have that conversation very often because the people that may not be our type or the people who we might not be their type we don't continue to talk it's so it's that simple and it's not an offended offense hopefully it's not an offensive thing to anyone else but i think and i'm just saying i don't take it um i don't take any offense when you know it's almost like you you want to say survival of the fittest or cream of the crop whatever it is it's like the people that invest in the come the the communication invest the time and you get to know them it becomes um you know less superficial and it becomes if you get to get that little relationship kind of vibe and then you're like okay well let's set up a date maybe let's go ahead and have a chat yeah but if people are obviously just the DTF and they're obviously hitting on some other shit that we're not into it becomes evident and it's just like okay talk to you later and we just move on and and then they they get the hint because they're not reaching out anymore and we're not throwing any you know um any hint or any clues that we're into them by reaching out and it just kind of fizzles away so i think that's kind of how we've played it i don't think we've never we just haven't had to say that i don't know i've not had to say that you're not my type like that often that doesn't happen to me like at all for me to really have it that one time but i and i just i got around it because i wasn't uh i wasn't into the person i wasn't trying to play but i got around it and i didn't have to address it again so it's just like okay because i knew that if they came back the next day then we would have to have different discussion what about you sweet talkers please share do tell how do y'all feel about that like uh what are some of the words or keys that you guys use if you're not into someone because look back in the day when we first got started in this whole uh lifestyle thing there were like couple indicators right like if we go to dinner and i drop i'd spill the salt or some shit remember that that bullshit like you spill the salt and you have little indicators that you're not into we're we're not into this couple or i'm not into that person i tell you yes and then we get ourselves out of this situation correct but how do you let them know so you know i'm not right right i'm not attracted to you yeah somebody gotta we gotta write the book on that one babe yeah what about the next one not tonight oh i use that all the time you use it all the time so it's just dicks and no i mean you know not tonight is a good one not tonight is the one you can use with people that you have played with before people potentials the ones that you haven't break it down though break down what not tonight is in what situation so not tonight could be that let's let's say it's a familiar person that you have played with.
But however, tonight or today, I don't feel like playing with you. And I just say not tonight. So we use this in a play situation. I use it in a play situation. I use it in a potential play situation that hasn't happened yet. But I do use not tonight. Mrs.
Playfully Arcee says she uses I'm very flattered but i'm not interested and i can see man listen she could tell me oh your breath is the worst right like that big beautiful smile and i'll be like oh my bad you know what i'm saying like anything goes down like honey with that smile man anything she could tell me you know the sky is falling with her accent and her smile okay i just get a little umbrella oh my goodness this guy uh to say however my body language usually tells yeah my body language is ghost yeah it's your back the back of your head and not in a good way people yeah uh yeah her body language yeah and and um i've seen mrs playfully artsy's body language also it's it's pretty much the same it's that cut off it's a cut off you know what i'm saying and that speaks volumes if somebody gives me that side hug oh no that's it okay shit that is the cold shoulder you got it copy that i get it moving on you know what i mean i do the side step the side what do you mean what's the side so the side step is when somebody's trying to like come on we're going we're going to display for the youtube so the side step is somebody coming in and they're trying to give you and you do the front hug oh and then you back it all yeah oh that hurt my feelings it's like no i'm just playing but no yeah i mean you get to the pet damn the pet that's what girls used to do when they want to dance with you you try to uh you try to get up on them and and get right behind them and they pat on the pat that's what girls used to do when anyone dance with you try to uh you try to get up on them and get right behind them and they pat you on the leg like nope no thank you be like damn okay moving on yeah um let's see mr playfully rc said like a friend once said oh you're giving me the Christian lady hug.
Right. Right. Yeah. Highly recommended. Do not flirt if you do not want to play. You know, I agree with that, right? Because flirting to an extent.
So let's say, okay, you, you know, you know you flirting i'm gonna tear this one apart okay here's what i'm about to say i'm gonna get both y'all on this one i love y'all but i'm gonna get this one flirting to an extent okay is what i'm saying all right so let's say i you know made a flirty comment whatever the case right one flirty comment everybody's having a conversation i made a flirty comment maybe towards somebody right but that's that's what i mean to an extent if that was it then that doesn't mean like oh my gosh so she's really into me let's do all the things but to continually flirt with the person that to me is giving a mixed signal okay because that's giving the vibe that i am into you uh-huh right and that's going to give me the indicator for me to be to continue on to uh what is it pursue thank you to continue to pursue whatever the thing is i don't know okay but that that's to me, right flirty is levels to that it's not oh i just made like a comment or you know a tongue cheek whatever in a conversation no but a continuation of flirting um let me in with me yeah let me in let me in because me you go back and forth on this one.
We do. We do. We go back and forth on it. And I told you my take on it. Here's my permanent stance. You can flirt with me all you want. All you want. I'm talking about pull my whole junk out, play with it, and you still always have the right to say no and move on. You always. And I take I'm going to take it to another level. It's a little deep and dark, but I got daughters and I don't want nobody telling my daughters that they can't do that. Right. They can.
We can go as far as they want and then change their mind you can too and all these women out here change your mind it sucks it sucks there i've heard there's blue balls for men and blue balls for women everybody experiences that you can always change your mind i don't care how what you flirt so it's on me to stop going to the well it's on me to stop chasing that ass once you fool me like i just said in high school college or whatever chasing girls you know i'm driving myself up the wall driving myself crazy chasing i'm doing that shit to me it's on me to say that's enough of this shit you gotta get off that narcotic you know what i'm saying you gotta cut that shit loose you're driving yourself crazy and it ain't fair to put that pressure on anybody yes so and i agree with you because we've talked about this already bingo fool me twice shame on fucking me so and i I yeah on that part i'm not disagreeing with that yes everybody has a choice you can you can change your mind what i'm saying still is that you can't then look at the person like oh you know why why are they upset?
Whatever the case, right? No, right. Because you're giving, and I'm not saying, oh, I'm not, I want to be correct on this. So I'm not saying it like in a way where, oh, because a woman or a man is flirting with me, then that means that they, you know, then they know what they're doing. We're going to have to sleep together. That's not what I'm saying, right? What I'm getting at, especially when it comes to lifestyle, we all know what it is when it comes to lifestyle. I'm not saying you have to sleep with every person because they flirt with you. That's not what I'm getting at. Right.
But what I'm saying is that when you continue to flirt with someone, right, and then I then try to cash in on these flirts, right? And then you're just like, oh, not tonight.
and then you didn't try to cash in on these flirts right and then you're just like oh not tonight and then you still build it up again and again yes i'm not done i agree with you on the part where that's that's on me to then say i'm done with this right i'm just saying also that you know i don't know like right just i don't want you to die on this No, i'm not gonna hold on what i'm saying is i i get it and yeah there are some bad actors out there right there are some people who have say you're not interested i get it i get it what i'm saying is i think that there are some bad actors some people who have intentions of like you know maybe manipulating or whatever it is but again it comes on me to say like uh mr playfully arcy said it's just that simple fool me twice shame on me you get me one time but then if i go down that rabbit hole again that's on me that's not on you because you are okay what's the the old fable right the the man walking down the road he picks up a snake and the snake bites him and he said why you bite me because i'm a snake you know you told me i told you you know uh long story short you know that the person is that thing they're going to act in that way so yes so then don't treat them that way right don't go for it don't pick up the snake no better after you see what they are fool me twice shame on me okay but then okay no because then how do you have it's not an oh boy how do you have the conversation with the person who is doing it how do you have a come okay no because you know that okay that's good you're making it one side by just saying oh that's a different twice that's a different conversation trish now we're talking about okay at first we're talking about um having the person shut down okay right well first we're talking about having a not tonight conversation right and then that person over you let's just call it overusing or not tonight they're not tonight they're yes they're over you but by whose standards right sure whatever okay but now we're talking about how do we get them to acknowledge that they're doing that is that my job that ain't my job my job is to it's my job is to hold on my job is to disengage it's not that it's your job and if enough people disengage from that they should learn what they might be doing right or wrong or yeah you're right you can have that tough conversation with them but when i mean by have the conversation i mean if the person then you disengage right let's say we at a resort i don't know let's call it that we at the resort for a week right you disengage but that person keeps trying to engage then there needs to be a conversation i agree is what i'm saying i agree with that so when we say oh well they're flirting fool me once fool me twice okay cool yeah if you're never going to see the person again but that doesn't work if you see the person all week no and then they just continue to want it to come around and flirt with you would you just walk away yeah yes but then that to me is having the conversation yeah it's not the same it's one in the same it's like avoiding them one in the same i agree with you you can have that conversation of hey look this hurts me not that it hurts but come on okay you're starting to get to that i'm gonna pick every word you say all right here we go what i'm saying is is that yes you can have that conversation and you probably should let that person know look hey you know you let's just to to save on words you have fooled me once you have fooled me twice but i'm not going down this road again something like that and let them know xyz of how we just don't have a vibe and then we don't have right so we don't have a vibe right right that's all the that's all i'm saying and um you know how did we even get here was is that person right or wrong in doing that no that's just who they are that's who they are and then if i feel the need to you know try to course correct them because maybe i even care about them as people care about the person as you know care about the person so here's what you did here's how it made me feel here's maybe a recommendation on how you don't do it later and they could take it how they want it it could hurt right sure or whatever but again like we said on the top of the show which was you know you bet you're better off saying the thing and getting the reaction and showing who they are at that point so now i got even more reason to cut bait or you know keep on investing in the relationship because you're genuinely apologetic and you aren't aware and blah or you don't give a fuck and fuck you you're what yes and now we move on all right so it says that let me just get to this lock you have a great point however in the ls context uh i cannot build sexual tension if i'm not interested so it's not fair for the other person i want to hold on let me dissect that i cannot build sexual tension if i'm not interested true it's not fair for the other person got it okay i understand that it's like um so i'm not going to like if i'm not interested in you why pretend that i'm interested in you because you are interested in me sure right but i can't yeah i i think i get what she's saying um what about mrs red or mr are you assuming bad intentions not everyone who flirts and changes their minds has bad intentions yeah i don't think right that it's yeah i agree with that that it's about bad intentions at all right that they can just be totally unaware i don't know uh-huh that that this is a thing right but i just know that i'm not going to keep going down this path you me neither and to go back to my earlier point saves time save me the time um and then uh looks like playfully artsy says that you are also right uh i've been in situations where i was interested until that person says something inappropriate or uncomfortable for me then i back up and let them know and let uh yes no if necessary yeah yeah and i think it's all about it when it's necessary is what i'm saying yes right it's not every time somebody's oh they're flirting with me and then they and then they say not tonight right it's it's the is the conversation necessary to a point and that's why i gave the example if i'm at heat off for a week exactly and we are in the same place for a week and and you keep doing the thing right yes i need to say that like that's a necessary conversation at that point if it's somebody i just met i don't know five minutes ago at a club that's not a necessary conversation to have right it just depends on the situation yeah i think we nailed that one down whoo right got a little warm that that shit got a little too familiar at home honey because we talk about it all the time we do that was a good one um let's see um the next one go ahead you want to do it uh says that uh oh having the tough conversation of i don't enjoy that or i'm not into that tonight or i don't know what i like yeah so i added that one because sometimes people feel like they have to know they have to know you know what they want and don't want what i like and i don't like but it's also okay to have that tough conversation to say i don't know what i like so it's like um this is kind of if i can put this into a play session right like a sample play session a template if you will this would probably occur during the circle of consent yes where you're it might be kind of tough to tell people i don't like giving you know i don't like receiving oral sex sure because trish you don't like that sometimes right you don't i don't prefer right and what i've heard you say let me say it this way what i've heard you say is i don't really care for but if you're down go for it because you it's for you to do it right so um but as far as like in more intimate play sessions um you know telling someone that you know i really don't like it when you do this i don't it like if we play with someone for the first time and you know maybe i slapped an ass or i pulled somebody's hair without having that that pre-discussion yeah they might find it a little difficult a little challenging to tell me that they don't like that stuff what do you think have you ever found it difficult to tell someone what you do not like yeah i mean for the first few years as far as oral sex right it's just not my jam yeah you know um and i would not tell people that because i felt like it was like that's that's the go-to for a lot of people so trying to explain it yeah would make it more um uncomfortable for the other person because then it becomes like awkward and i and then when i started saying it it was awkward it did become awkward in some of my play sessions so then i had to figure i had to figure out the verbiage right right to say it in that way that that you didn't spook anybody all right because i'm not saying that i'm just letting you know it's just not my preferred method method.
That's what I'm trying to tell you. And that's it. So and I don't particularly enjoy that. Right. In that in the way that you may enjoy it. Well, look at you. You said the thing that was right there. I don't enjoy that. Yes. And that's it.
It's not that you can't you can't do the things or, you know, and I'm working on other verbiages these days for other things, because I feel you know people kind of hang on to words like what when you're in your circle of consent and it becomes a whole awkward thing later nothing it's just like especially when it comes to i have a few friends that are bi i have bi men and bi women friends at this point on both spectrums, right, on both sides. So the verbiage, right, it's not when I'm saying, yes, I'm heterosexual, you know, things like that.
I also am very fluid at moments where there's a vibe, if that makes sense. So it's not a thing. No, I'm not waking up and talking about, oh, you know, this woman is this and this woman is that. No, but I am also about a vibe. If I'm feeling a vibe or I feel like, you know, I want someone to feel a certain level of, you know, pleasure or things like that. It's just all about, like, asking, right, if that makes sense. Because I feel like a lot of my bi. By women, friends. Women. And, well, the men, they be about it. Right.
I think for me, the men was, I was the one that was hanging up about certain things in my head about it, right? But for the women, I feel like it's more of my friends.
friends right they're a little bit more in their heads and hung up on on things right and they're like oh i just want you know maybe sometimes i just want to you know touch you yeah so axe i think that's what happens very simple and i think you're right by you know fine-tuning your verbiage and all that stuff i think that's really cool and and it will be very helpful you know because people take the circle of cassette conversations seriously yes as they should and i appreciate the people that do that like when we say i'm into this or i'm not into that right people respect that you know what i'm saying so um even if something we've been very fortunate enough to be in circle conversations and sessions where even if we left something out, people don't make assumptions just because you did not say that.
Yes. You know what I mean? People are very careful. The friends and people that we've played with are very careful and cautious about not overstepping or not making any assumptions. And that's been very helpful. But I think you're going down the right track of like you know fine-tuning the verbiage so that you can say how you're feeling about it and you know not giving anybody like those red flags you know yeah especially when it comes to more of our closer yeah um friend groups right because i mean i want you to be comfortable and be able to be yourself and do the things, you know. But, yes.
So the other one was about, and I do want to talk about this because I know. We're going to skip this one for now. Let's go to this one because it's kind of like, it's kind of related. We're going to go to the next one of, so at first the question was, it wasn't a question.
It was a statement about, I don't enjoy this, this right so what about the conversation of asking a play partner do you like this do you enjoy this is this something that you like some people make assumptions um like a one size you know one size fits all one skill fits all you know uh you know i got this tongue move that i try that i do this thing and i stick a finger in your butt while i you know twist upside down on your clip you know all these things it's not one size fits all people yes and that's how i used to feel like a lot of especially with like oral play like guys get down in and get to do the work and all the things and they're like you know trying to make it happen and have this big old you know whoosh thing happen that's never happening it's just not but you know it's but instead of asking right which is why i put it in a circle of consent every time because it takes the guessing out we don't have to do that yeah here's the thing but um they never ask like do you like that they just do it that's a go-to and i was about to say that's why i do love the circle of consent conversation because one it's setting like boundaries and what people are open to and what people might not be into and then it gives you an opportunity to ask oh uh you mentioned no butt play but can i stick my tongue in there you know are you open to this I'll see you next time.
to and then it gives you an opportunity to ask oh uh you mentioned no butt play but can i stick my tongue in there you know are you open to this do you like that you know what i mean it does kind of give you an end to ask a question and i have been one to do that uh-huh and also it could be something new right do you like this yeah or are you willing to try it uh would be something too to be able to ask um during or before you know or after i don't know they get to know you conversations you know what i mean you kind of ask those questions like constructive feedback constructive feedback like did i do a good job when i was riding on your cock uh please fill out the survey you get uh bonus points for did you like it uh sweet life points yes did you like it when i when i rode you faster or slow i'm just saying i don't know because you want to know right you want to know feedback um feedback's important i think feedback is important oh we should that's the topic just be quiet all right all right okay all right then the last one i do want well let's to the last one because i know we're a little bit over i want to get to is testing yeah right i feel like testing is a tough conversation to have when you're having it with strangers is it i think it's where it becomes a little bit more tougher um because i don't have that safe space i feel to have a conversation about it it's not that i'm unwilling to have it i like for you to just have a conversation but you don't have any paperwork is kind of to me is it a relevant conversation to have about a play session because you could tell me anything i could tell you anything right but even if you're coming with like oh here's my results things like that i still feel like there's a decorum with that and i'm not as willing to just give that information out to people i don't know like that shout out to mrs honeyspoon because um you know she does not fuck around with like the testing and that whole group you know they they are um always up front about like hey this is the unsexy part people right the testing conversation you know if you are open and willing we're going to be testing and we if you want to share, please feel free to share.
And that's it can be tough to say that to people. It can be tough to post that in a group, in a group, in a chat or whatever it is. But I feel like it's a level of like care. It's self-care. It's self-care. It's care for me.
it's care for my partner it's care for you and the people that you know um that you are potentially playing with um so you know Tristan and I you know we're in our cycle of it's testing time you know what I mean so it's very important because especially you know with 2025 just getting kicked off we about to start doing some things and parties and all these things about to jump upon us we want to show the people that you know that we care about that you know we care about them and that you know first and foremost we're going to take your health and um take this this whole lifestyle stuff seriously you know what i mean yeah yeah so yeah I mean that's a tough one though so how do you recommend people have that conversation I don't think it should be blindsided and I think people gonna be blindsided no matter what what I mean by blindsided it's just like oh we're having a circle and it's like you know all of these people I don't i don't know anybody i got you you know but the one person and then it's like bam let's talk about you know our testing results and that's kind of not i i i feel blindsided by that at that point it's different going in knowing like like with the group in canada that hey this is what we're going to do um we talk about it and then you know you choose to share individually or however you want to do it right right that's different i'm expecting that even if somebody asks me you know let's say we're at the resort and like when the last time you test do you mind if i see whatever okay fine you know that's an individual conversation that we have in i think my hang-up is when it's a huge group and i'm unaware that this is about to come right and i don't know people mrs playfully rc says we always have our testing results handy to share especially before a big event yeah i also post them in more private groups and share periodically with my regular partners yeah bam.
Bam. And I'm okay with that part. See, that's some savvy shit right there. You know what I mean? That's how I think it should go. You know, I think that's really classy. Yeah, I'm okay with that. And I expect nothing less from them. Like, they doing this thing as right as you can do it. You know what I mean? Like, that's pretty dope. Yep.
And the last one uh it's a big one to some people and to some people they don't even give a fuck like this one right next to me is not true okay um it's one of the toughest things that people can say i'm sorry right some people don't know how to apologize yes uh for crossing a boundary for hurting a feeling all of this stuff is you know well the hurting the feeling part can be like subjective i was about to say because i am not saying i'm sorry because your feelings is hurt it depends on why you're feeling hurt it okay slow down killer i know you don't give a fuck But I'm saying it depends on why your feelings hurt trist sometimes you can hurt a feeling and it's okay to say i'm sorry it depends on what it was it it it doesn't it does if somebody's feeling is hurt you can't you can't say it's not it's not worth it like that that's not worth an apology if they got their feelings hurt if you hurt their feelings you say sorry okay so let me give you a situation a scenario so you trying to say like when i was like i i kind of like i i wouldn't even call it i snapped on her.
But I clearly was irritated by someone one time or whatever the case when we were. Remember, we were standing at the table and the person was just being a whole a-hole or whatever the case. And then they came over to me and tried to make a snarky comment. And I gave her some attitude about it because she was being.
I need more specific like where we at we were at the table giving out glow stuff oh no and i'm not giving you her feelings was hurt and you do you think i gave her and i'm sorry no no she didn't deserve it that's what i'm trying to say okay all right here's what okay didn't deserve it but I understood say okay all right here's what okay didn't deserve it but i understand if you did want to but you didn't have to i felt like you didn't have to because that person did overstep they overstepped i'm just talking about like if you generally hurt somebody's feelings okay let's take the conversation with um the gentleman one of our really old friends early in the lifestyle you're sitting next to him and he's trying to figure out how to vibe with you and you say i'm sitting next to you ain't i right that might have hurt his feelings so then you say i'm sorry i'm sorry yes but i'm that's all i'm talking about what i'm saying is that i'm not talking about somebody that disrespected you and then you flip because that's what happened at the table the lady disrespected the situation and then you flip accordingly without like i ain't cuss her out right without yeah so yeah no i think the reaction that was a reaction to that and i I think you were you were fine there.
You know what I mean? Yeah. When I'm just saying that every time somebody's feelings is hurt, it's not. I'm sorry. Just OK, Tris. Add the word justifiably hurt. OK. Got it. God. Do you just need the word? Justified. Justifiably hurt.
You justifiably hurt somebody's feelings by saying they got a little dick or something or i'm just saying like you say it in a funny way but you hurt they feelings now sure you know i'm saying sure i'm sorry yeah or you say sorry for you know uh you know just no i stepped on your hurting their feelings or like you know um blowing off a date because whatever yeah i'm sorry that's all i'm saying okay well yes and i agree with saying i'm sorry i'm just saying that when we qualify it to say because somebody's feelings was hurt and i'm saying that that's subjective well stop hurting everybody damn feelings that's all you you pick and choose because you hurt so many feelings no i don't i'm just saying it's subjective because you know i'm gift that's not what i'm saying i'm saying it's subjective at times majority of the time yes you can say i'm sorry but sometimes people with their saying that it hurt their feelings you are not messing up the overall landing of this okay sure saying i'm sorry can be difficult it can be if you are if you've absolutely hurt somebody's feelings understandably so just humbling yourself finding uh or looking at yourself and saying doing the the self-work the self-reflection is saying you know i did hurt your feelings and i apologize that can be an exercise for some people naming no names here it's not true i'm just saying like i I will apologize.
Go ahead.
I-I-I- relationship gets maintained after the apology or not sometimes again just like we said at the top of the show sometimes it doesn't matter it's just best that you um you know leave it out there and you apologize you get no i'm just saying like if you just if the apology is warranted you apologize and like i'm just saying okay somebody says don't stick a finger in the butt hole and i stick a finger in the butt hole and they were really really mad about it right you know i rate and they're not talking to us and whatever and then i reach out and say you know i'm so sorry i did that now what happens after you know i hope i look at myself and i say i i fucked up i violated somebody's boundaries in the worst possible way i am so sorry i apologize and then that person now has the right to decide what they want to do next you know what i'm saying yeah that's all i'm saying is just like we said at the top of the show um once you leave it out there it's up to them to show you who they are and they can get pissed at you still or whatever, but they show them who you are, showing who they are and they're going to either move on or they're going to keep on rolling.
But they given, you know, they got the right to make that decision based on what that apology. And OK, so one one thing and because I know we got to wrap this up.
One thing was a hard apology and still give kudos to uh this this individual person okay we bought up on the show an incident that happened two years ago at this point two years ago that we we spoke about we didn't give any names or any type of face recognition no i'm just saying this that was the the person came back um a two lock right and they had the conversation again like after this is a year later and to have that conversation and to be able to like say that i you know apologize i didn't mean to whatever the case the conversation was that was a hard conversation for that person to have year later.
And I was glad that she did that because that didn't have to happen like at all. And that's just an example I'm giving of having I'm sorry moment where she could have just kept it moving. It was a whole year later. OK. All right. ladies and gentlemen i think that about wraps it up for episode number one of 2025 yeah yeah all right folks we thank y'all so much for joining us in this episode and we hope to see y'all at casual swinger uh not casual swinger. What am I talking about? Having a hell party with Casual Swinger next week on January 18th. We hope to see y'all there.
We'll talk to y'all soon. Bye. Again, we'd like to thank you for living a sweet life with us.
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