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Living the Sweet Life is a podcast intended for mature audiences only. We'll be using sexually explicit language while discussing many different adult themes. So if you're under the age of 18, please stop listening. Also, please know that our thoughts and opinions should not be taken as professional advice. We're here to answer your questions about the swinger lifestyle. From newbies to longtime swingers, or if you're just curious, we hope to engage you all and to encourage a sex-positive discussion.
Now that we've got that out of the way, make yourself comfortable and join us in this episode of living the sweet life she is my beautiful sexy co-host and wife the lovely trist and he is my sexy chocolate husband lock and trist can you believe that this is episode 76 76 you know what that what that means? What that means? That means we are OGs out here, right? OGs. We're original OGs. You know what the G stands for in OGs? Gangsters. Okay, I'm just making sure. It sounds like you kind of skipped that beat on that one. I got it. Original gangsters.
We're the original gangsters in this whole podcast thing of lifestyle yeah i mean if i was like jumping around on twitter a couple days ago and i realized that there are a lot of lifestyle podcasts out there now i mean they've always been and when we first started there was still quite a few but there are just so many it's like a revolving door in and out and you know for us to have been doing this for now three years are we creeping up on three years or four years i don't even know you weren't listening you said three years i was waving to our friends hey guys i know you you're waving to everybody on instagram instagram live what's up everybody jump on everybody?
Jump on over to the suite in YouTube. We'll be glad to have you. But I'm just saying, for the amount of years that we've been doing this, you know, people can actually go back through a nice, healthy catalog of episodes that we have. I'm pretty proud of that. Finally.
Yeah, this was just a little hobby of ours and it turned into something that you know we kind of need yes you know therapeutic it is therapeutic therapeutic to get out there and tell about all your orgy stories oh boy and we got some we got some with your bad self but again thank you everybody for joining us live in the suite for episode 76 we appreciate the support and before we get into all tonight's stuff go ahead and knock out some of this housekeeping make sure you follow us on instagram at the sweet life podcast and follow us on twitter at sweet life pod you can always email us at the sweet life podcast at gmail.com and for for all of my sweet talkers who would like to join us live in the suite, make sure you check us out on YouTube at living the sweet life podcast.
And while you're there, hit the notification bell, hit subscribe and you can be a sweet talker, too. You know, you'll be able to get all the notifications of when we're going live and jump in the conversation and have a good time with us. We always appreciate that. And speaking of appreciation, I really, we, we, especially Trist, Trist, we would really appreciate a couple of, what are they called? Reviews on iTunes. Oh, yes. That would be so nice. That'd be great.
if a couple sweet talkers just took a minute or two and jumped over there and dropped a couple of nice little lines for us, hit us with a little five-star rating. That'd be dope. That'd be so dope. So Sweet Talker Online says that they want us to come to Australia. This is the second proposition I've gotten today. First, it was Amsterdam. Someone sent the message earlier today. It was talking about Amsterdam. It was like, oh, we got to come out there and check it out. But it's like in the summertime, not, you know. Okay. Not now. And then Australia. And then now it's Australia. Hi, Australia.
How you doing? What up? Aussie. Yeah. That's on our list too, though, to come to one day. It's on our list of places to go. We just haven't gotten there yet. For sure. For sure. I'm down.
Uh i'm down oh hello there sweet talking number one checking in saying hey sexy people happy black history month oh yeah happy black history month to you beautiful history month to you and sweet talking says australia has great clubs especially in melbourne you know isn't that where um if they don't live in melbourne i remember them going to the clubs out there yes yes oss our secret spot yes because i'm like this sounds familiar to me and i knew i knew that from somewhere someone else says hey from florida see you know,o hey that's in a few months i cannot wait do you see how pale i am right now speaking of speaking of hito in florida check us out um we'll be down in hito for casual swinger week and that is the week of april 1st to the 8th we'll be there when are we going to be there tris we're going we're coming the third through the eighthth.
3rd through the 8th. Yeah, so Monday to Saturday. So we will see y'all there, Floridian sweet talker. Yes, we will see you there. So don't be shy. Come and say hello. Where else are we going? Where else are we going? Let's run that back. Where else are we going to be? We're also going to be in Oregon, in Portland, like for Fantasy Portland.
portland that's going to be in may so it's the end of may it's going to be the 19th through the 22nd so it's a friday the event itself it's a friday to monday um we're looking forward to that uh hanging out with some friends some friends we haven't gotten to hang out with yet um so i'm looking forward to and i've never been to portland yeah so oh and the club i was really excited about seeing this club that they're going to have up there too club privada yeah yeah man we have a full slate of activities yep um shibari classes twerk classes um twerk oh yoni and uh lingam massages man i really can't wait to just put my hands on you i mean mean, we haven't done a massage class like that since, yeah, baby, since Desire, right?
Yes, that's true. Yeah, yeah. Yes, when Room 77. Yeah, that's right. That was the last time we did it, yep. And that was fun. That was sexy. That was a lot of fun. So, yeah, I'm looking forward to this. And this is going to be a full hotel takeover. No. It's not? Wait, oh, yes, Portland, yes. Yeah, yeah. Sorry, I was thinking April, yes.
Oh, you got me messed up portland is going to be a full takeover it's gonna be really really dope and and they always do really good events uh the hotels are really nice so i mean looking forward to that's right hosted by libertine events um aka podcast the palooza and i believe they have a few rooms still left um you may want to check out the site but i I believe they have a couple of rooms that they still have left. Yeah, last I saw, we were at 90%. Yes. Let's go. Then that's 10%. So, yeah, check out the link in our bio on Instagram, folks.
It might be on Twitter also, but, yeah, check out the link in our bio and let them know the Suite Life sent you. All right. I think that's all we got for housekeeping, right? Yes. And, guys, I'm going to let you go on ig because i actually have to work i have to do my job get back over here all right guys see you later on ig if you want to jump into the live chat just check out the link in the bayou all right see you later all right now before we get into all tonight's shenanigans and all the heavy discussion i gotta check to check in with the queen. So beautiful. How are you feeling tonight?
You know, I'm feeling wise. Wiser, let's say that. I'm feeling wiser. It's just like I know my limits on most things now. It's like when you reach a certain age. Oh, because I just had a birthday, guys. It's like you hit that other peak. You're like, oh, it's like one of those things just go off on top of your head. Now, I feel like I'm a little bit wiser in just knowing my limits and limits all around, not just limits like in a lifestyle, just all around of being able to, you know, like say, OK, I've reached my limit in this and be able to be OK with that decision.
So I feel like I'm getting wiser in recognizing that a lot quicker these days. So that's how I'm kind of feeling. And, you know, if you today we are in casual clothes because we were out all day.
So we are in our clothes, my favorite bands, one of them wearing their shirt so that's how we're dressed today yeah how are you feeling you want me to ask you that'd be nice i know i mean that's part of the script i was going to get you to i was making sure you were done to be honest i was i was done i was admiring my shirt and then i paused but yes how do you feel me um it kind of relates to um how you feeling actually i'm feeling very well balanced these days um today excuse me oh i'm all over the microphone today uh today we had a nice little vanilla trip down to a museum with some lifestyle friends but we took our kids it was chill it was a very it was like representative of how we've been lately which is like vanilla and lifestyle like we've been doing a really good job of balancing things ever since new years uh we've kind of oh yes i wouldn't even say we slowed down i just think we we've been balanced like we do like some vanilla stuff um hang out with the kids um make it priority too and making vanilla friends and situations a priority as well baby showers and you know little in-home cookouts in the middle of the week taco tuesdays yes fun things like that making vanilla friends we haven't had made like actual vanilla friends in a long time we really haven't so i'm like straight straight laced yeah like yeah like don't pull a titty out situation like we have not we haven't done that in a long time so this is all new to us we're pretty excited about it pretty excited to have like neighbors that we can go kick it with like regular people that's right regular people so um yeah so but then on the other side we've done some really raunchy too so i think we're finding that we're finding that really cool little sweet spot of you know that perfect harmony of yin and yang, of naughty and vanilla, naughty and nice.
And also spending time with each other, too. Facts. Yeah, because sometimes we get so caught up and we're running to this event or running to somebody else's party and all of those things. Then we have to do things with our family. And it's kind of like, oh, and then the weeks go by. And we're like, oh, crap, we got to figure to figure out time for ourselves so we've been doing a lot but we've been doing a really good job yeah about making that balance between all of it so right excuse me now we what is up with my voice you I'm going through puberty again. Ha. Ha. Cute. That's all that is.
You want some of my water? No, not yet. Not yet. But no.
cute that's all that is you want some of my water no not yet not yet but no um speaking of like balance again like uh as a matter of fact we have a trip coming up in a couple of days where we're going to go visit some lifestyle friends but on some vanilla shit like we're just going to go kick it we're going to go hang out see their uh part of town we're going to florida go hang out play some golf and um work work yeah we're taking work with us and we're taking the kid with us and we're just going to hang out and and uh just chill and just be away from home and get a little sunlight i because i'm telling y'all i am if i can get any lighter right now it's ridiculous here you go no i need some sun seriously i'm not gonna argue that but you even said my feet are light i know baby everything you mentioned on the last podcast i must have really hurt your feelings it's really light okay i was about to call you your government you see come on man no okay it's my last thing about it it's like you know when you can't match up any of your makeup no i don't like mix all of this stuff together because you're like super outside of the realm of where you're supposed to be that's kind of where i am right now so you know what it became crystal clear to me now thank Thank you.
You're the worst. Anywho. No, it means that we haven't been out in the sun in a while. I know, Trist. I know. We'll get there. We're supposed to be on vacation by now. Okay. Now that you got that off your chest. I did. My beautiful sweet talkers and my wonderful wife. Oh, look at that. See? Sweet talker number one. Come on, man. Says that I feel your pain. See? Telling you. My beautiful wife. My wonderful Sweet Talkers. Are y'all ready to get into tonight's episode? Let's do it. Let's go.
Thank y'all for hanging in there with us and again welcome back to episode 76 of living the sweet life tonight see speaking of balance right i think i'm gonna go with this theme for tonight okay we like to make sure that we have a balanced show sometimes you're gonna get that naughty that naughty shit, right? We're going, we just feel like telling stories. We're going to tie it into something. We're going to, you know, give you all the gory details, not gory, but all the naughty little saucy details of a sexual escapade. And sometimes we just have a topic tonight. It's a topic tonight.
We're going to have a conversation tonight. We want to see how y'all feel about something because it's in our minds it's on our it's on our hearts yeah every year we get older this specific topic and that is does age does your age help or hurt you in the lifestyle so recently as trish trist mentioned a few minutes ago she recently celebrated a birthday and i have one right on the horizon it's coming up and you know trist what's special about these recent birthdays is that we've crossed a milestone right we've hit another decade thankfully we're in our 40s now tell Tell my knees about it.
Tell my knees how old I am. You know what I'm saying? I still feel great. I still feel young. And you look great. Thank you, babe. And you look young. Thank you. All of those things. And I try. But I wonder, you know, this makes us wonder, does it matter? You know, once we hit that 4-0, because let our kid tell it, we're old as shit. We ain't shit. We got dust coming out. Let her tell it. You know what I'm saying? The microphone's sounding glitchy. Uh-oh. How about now?
Now that we're in our 40s and, you know, we got the youth, we got our young'uns telling us that we're old and we're dusty and, you know, our legs and knees work i mean there's some truth to that yeah but we wonder if it matters when it comes to like the lifestyle are we looked at differently now uh now that we have that number you know they don't know how old we are you don't you don't until you ask yeah but i mean that's that's what we're we're posing tonight right so trish let's take a let's take a trip back in the way back machine how old were we when we first started we were in our uh 31 we were 31 we were 31 to be exact to be exact we were 31 years old fresh out of our 20s fresh out of it you know what i'm saying you couldn't tell us shit like we was nothing we was grown we were still running in marathons or uh spartan races heavy right i think no i don't think we know we had done our first one later yeah but we were still uh considered little spry young chickens yes so what about you sweet talkers how old were you when you first started how many years have you been in this um i want to i want to try to gauge that so what i did a little research quick little search and um shout out to swinger help swingerhelp.com those are our friends they're awesome people they did a really intensive survey um last year, I think it was.
And my question was, what's the average age of people in the lifestyle? So they had a bar graph on their on their site that showed, you know, the demographics.
But the average, the highest or the most the most represented group was ages 40 to 49 of which we're right in that sweet spot we just made it we're right in that middle ground of you know the average swingers so what do you think um let's see what were some of the the pros and cons of when we first got in of being in that younger demographic how did how did the lifestyle look at us when we were in that younger when we weren't in this average age group yep so we mentioned this a few podcasts of well well ago though but uh we were we were young we weren't married we had just started dating.
So we weren't even dating that long again. And when we first decided to get into the lifestyles, couples that we were running into were married. Married couples or had been together for a long time. So they would look at us and say that, oh, you know, you guys have been together. You're not married, and you've only been together for less than a year at that point. And some people wouldn't even talk to us anymore, like really take us serious, because they said that we didn't have nothing to lose. We didn't have stake in the game.
Did you think that was something that was required of us being young? Like that people, like it was a requirement to be married or engaged. I don't know if it was a requirement necessarily, but I think that with our relationship being so short also and on top of that, we weren't married. I think that that was those two things to combine is what what was the issue. I had a question on that coming up. I think some of, okay, so let me go back to my question. My original question was, what are some of the pros?
What were some of the benefits of being young, younger, you know, skewing on that younger side of the demographic, right? You basically had your pick of whatever you want it to be, whatever you want Uh-huh. Okay. Okay. Yeah. I thought I agree with that. Like, my first one was we were kind of the fresh fish, right? Yeah. You was the new kid in school. Everybody kind of wanted to check you out and see what you had going on. You know what I'm saying?
When you're brand new in there, people, you know, ooh youngins let me let me teach these little tenderoni something yes yeah you know i thought that that could be looked at as like a pro but then like you said on the other hand it was like oh rookies do you look at people that way you know i don't think i look at people as rookies or anything like that only time i look at anyone as a rookie when you if you do something stupid that just don't make sense like what are you doing then i'm like okay are you new to this like did you just come into this like recently or something but it has to be something they actually did that kind of was like, okay, look.
You don't get it yet. Yeah, you don't get it. And that's not how this works. Paradise chimes in and says, ha, that didn't bother us, our age. Oh, no, it did not. Or being like newbies. Right. I think another pro was, I got it written down as what's balance like we were in yes like once we were in you we couldn't be stopped no we didn't have no balance we was everywhere we're everywhere it was like once a month that we had to go to the club it was literally once we got our first club membership we just just went every single month. Recovery times were quick.
You know, we would party our asses off all night long and drive all the way the fuck back home. Yep. Didn't give a shit about it. No. You know, I think, you know, wisdom comes a little later after all that stuff. Yes. Let's see. Paradise says that, yeah, even vets make Ricky mistakes. True. Facts. They do they they do right yeah yeah they can it's when talking number one says true yeah absolutely um so what were some of the cons you mentioned in sweet talkers please tell us also what do you think some of the, what was the perception of young unmarried couples? That we were just unreliable.
Flaky. Yeah. We can be flaky, you know, and people's time is valuable. You don't want to waste people's time, and that's what they thought, you know, you could be doing.
You know what i mean that that is true yeah people thought that you know young couples could they were like goldfish like their memory was was quickly you know moved to the next thing or moving off to the other thing um you know they would change their minds they would no show on dinners or ghosts or whatever it is that was a terrible perception has that ever happened to us or did we ever do that to anyone when we were a little bit younger i don't think so i don't think we have done that but i i do know i've heard stories about that happening to people i don't think that we've personally experienced it i don't think i mean i think we have experienced people just trying to make plans and then they go ghosts or something like that and we just be like after a couple of times of trying to make a plan then we're like all right that's not working it's not that deep and then we'll just move on uh some sweet talker says that we choose to spend time with the people based on their actions and attitude not the number of years in right that's just true because i mean the number of years in doesn't make you a great person it doesn't mean you know what you're doing right right yeah um because that goes into another topic i want to talk about later but that goes into the thing we were saying yesterday is that these people continue to do kind of like a one trick pony right i've been doing this thing and this is this is how it works and yeah i'd be you know and people have this reaction so it must work but you could have been doing it wrong the whole entire time just nobody just told you you were does age play a factor in that like a little young buck uh trying his uh his little abc tongue technique on on your hoo-ha i guess so it could work yeah and if it works you know he says oh shit i'll try this on the next and work on everybody uh-huh you know like it doesn't work that way next thing you know he's 40 still doing that shit right exactly yeah yeah so no sweet talker says some folks think you're swinging oh some too soon in the relationship soon in the relationship right how soon is too soon that's a good question that's a good part of this topic like how soon is too soon in a relationship like if you're unmarried which we were uh we were in our 30s right um we're just over 30 31 yeah right we were were just over 30.
31. Yeah, right. We were just over 30. We had just started living together. Yes. And we come in into a lifestyle club and we explain this or we tell this to people. Yeah, we do. We do. Straight up. Some people could have had some reservations about that, right? You know, and I was just thinking about a situation.
We did have have this one time and i can't remember exactly when or how many years ago but it was one time that it was a younger couple that you and i were speaking with and that the conversation made me they made me feel like they're not ready for this like it was just felt like it was too soon for them yes it was too soon for them and you're not really ready for this who are we to tell people that like if somebody conversation it just felt like when we're talking in the conversation it just it did not feel like they were in a place that you're ready to have this type not with me you can have it with other people so right okay not with me all right all right so who are we to determine that for someone else that's my point it's like i can't tell you if you ready or not like if you but your relationship gotta be solid for you but if you're if you're if we're solid and they are not kind of sounds like a you issue yeah but then that's drama maybe maybe it depends on how you know how you uh navigate your circle like if you can keep your circle if you can disconnect from that nonsense that's your issue that's not our issue if y'all wasn't ready y'all told us y'all was ready and you messed up you know what i'm saying well yeah but i still think that that's all just because they're young in the game no it's on us for to to determine that for them no to determine it for myself that i don't want to be involved in this in any potential drama in any potential drama in this because it doesn't sound sound okay in this conversation is what i'm saying so i think that's another thing that happens when you you're dealing with a younger couple or a perception of a younger couple is that drama follows and here's one that i had written down that they're promiscuous and they're unsafe if they're not married you're assuming or you could assume um some would assume that you know they're sleeping around they're not committed to each other you know so they're not committed to each other.
You know, so they're not committed to each other. So they might, there's a potential of being unsafe. Yeah. What's the argument there? Is that true? No. We don't know that to be true. I don't know that to be true. To say that you're being promiscuous and unsafe. I can't say that to be true. My main thing is I just don't want, I don't want no drama in my footstep. Exactly.
I don't, you know, and I don't think this pertains to now and I'm thinking about it it does not pertain to a younger couple it will pertain to any couple that I'm having a conversation with and I feel like the ground is not sound in your relationship like at the very base of it I feel like it's a little shaky between your relationship in general that that I'm seeing some red flags with that. Then I don't want to be involved in that. I think that's a personal preference, though. That is a personal. That's just my personal preference. Because on Unicorn Diaries, I think I told you this.
I listened to one of their episodes where, you know, they dabble in single men, right? And they pulled in a single guy.
And and I think they went to dinner with him I can't remember if it led to anything I think they did I think they might have party with him and you know they had their their fun with them right and then one way or another they found out that he was married or he had a girlfriend and it was like you know I think it was like a confrontational phone call or an email it was some kind of yep outing of this guy right and all they did was like well sorry like there's nothing we could do because he lied and he messed up your relationship it didn't have anything to do with them i understand they only played off of what he told them but you can say that for any couple you can't play that but i'm talking to you and this is before anything is going down i'm talking to the both of you i feel like that there is just something not sound about your relationship and what you're saying i'm out i got you i'm just saying that's your preference that's a personal preference because another couple would be like still I'll hit some wood that's your problem yeah exactly they don't care about the drama because it ain't their drama it's like okay yeah y'all gotta y'all got an issue but y'all still have let's catch up on some of the sweet talkers we got some activity going on here someone says we still got to get you a name we didn't do that uh another loyal sweet talker says um i agree we don't care about age because people our age can do dumb dumb things yep true 100 so we talking number one says younger unmarried couples can seem to not care about quality of the people they play with just a free for all that's interesting i think that think that's a mentality too i don't even know if it's like an age thing right i'm sure there are a lot of like seasoned um swingers or lifestylers out here who just don't give a fuck nope they don't even care and i wouldn't even class i don't even know if i classify that as like swingers you know i'm saying like i think those are just like just down fuck just yeah dtf yeah uh let's see she also says i pay attention to emotional maturity behavior communication style regardless of age facts yeah those are good uh sweet talker response says my partner and i were together five months not married and got into the lifestyle but we were mature enough because we knew what we wanted out of it yeah that's kind of how we were yes and what was our clap back i guess you could say to anyone who kind of doubted um doubted us in our early stages of lifestyle then you're not for me yeah i don't gotta prove to you that i'm that i'm okay with this but that's not what we said in our pre pre our um pre-game here oh remember what was our our retort was oh was that i know okay so how the how but it wasn't like because i was we were saying that's true get around it but it was a part of the deal yeah so i think that what made some people comfortable was that like and i felt like we did kind of kept explaining it this way at the beginning we were like oh we've only been together for like a year let's say or a little less than a year and um and we're not married however we've known each other since high school and then some people would still be like oh okay so y'all do y'all y'all have you know some type of foundation y'all been together yeah y'all known each other for a long time but y'all have only been together for this then it would be more discussion but i think that if i just left the door at or we just left the door at hey we're not married and we've only been together for a few months it probably would have been an issue for a lot of people it probably wouldn't have went well is it was our defense mechanism you know without even realizing what it was it was we were fighting a fight you know we were trying to portray ourselves as more stable yes you know exactly it was an insecurity that we had yeah you know it was a shared insecurity that honestly we never talked about until just now no we only talked about it like earlier today yeah and i didn't realize that's what we were doing actually we were just trying to build ourselves up to have you know a better a better representation of who we were, who we were so that it like people didn't just disregard us because we've only been together less than a year and we were married and we were young.
So that type of thing. Yeah.
So with all this being said, thinking about what a young couple could bring to the table, what is like your age limit cut off or your age difference cut off you know what i'm saying like would you would we date or hang out or play with anyone 10 years younger than us 20 years younger than us i think that it's a little bit we've talked you and i spoke about this a little bit before it is uh or older um old i don't really think i have i don't know about the older part but younger i think it's weird when it's someone our kids age i knew you was gonna say that i knew you was gonna say that but the kid is just gonna keep getting older i know but no but it's not that like in that point that's different but when they're in like 20 21 i, I'm like, you know, some of our friends, they they dibble and dabble with this little youngins that's like 20 and 21.
I don't I'm just not here for it. I am not here for it. Sign me up.
I mean, look, if again, I'm in a position to say, like, who am I to judge to judge you know if you feel like you got your shit together young lady and you want to hang out with us and you know we can kind of guide you along maybe 21 is a little young maybe it's a little young right but i mean that's grown grown i mean that's grown it's grown i understand the age that it's grown but no i'm good oh i feel I like a dirty old man i don't know i'm good we've spoke about this before you can get yourself a little jackrabbit little young little young boy no keep on going no no i'm i'm good now as far as older you know i've never really thought about it it depends you know captain america was really fit to be older do you remember the guy that we used to call captain america we when we went to uh young swingers a few years ago right oh yeah slim yeah slim was really fit yeah yeah so fit and he was an older guy was he older yes he was older babe we was in our 30s at that time I mean, he had to be almost like in his late 40s or something.
Like, he was older. But he was older, babe. We was in our 30s at that time. And he had to be almost like in his late 40s or something. Like, he was older. Huh. But he was, I mean. Okay. He was fit. And he was, he looked nice. Not just that he was fit. He looked good, too. Paradise. I'm sorry. I don't know what the age cutoff is, as long as you look great. Paradise says, I don't care.
I'm just hitting for the evening that's what i'm saying right drama only comes if you continue communication yeah that's what i'm saying cut cut bye-bye you know true that's what i'm saying um let's see paradise also says we still see folks with drama that have been together and married for years yeah exactly exactly it comes it what does age have to do with that that's why i don't play with them either i keep my toys to myself oh man keep your toys to yourself i like your toys too keep my toys to myself um let's see red and ready says hello red and ready um as consensual non-monogamy becomes more mainstream uh more young or new couples will be in this space that's true if they already have an understanding of the rules safety respect consent they are welcome that's it that's all i want that's all i want age doesn't really matter like we can hang out you're cutting off a whole generation of beautiful people some 21 year old man but i don't think you got anything to worry about like the majority of based on the statistics that we saw and i would love to get swinger help on the show to maybe talk about some of these statistics um is that you know again the majority we're right in that sweet spot yeah you know and then right behind us i think it's the uh 50 to 59 group and then right after them it's the 30 to 39 group so something like that and i know some outliers were i think they had a couple outliers who were all the way up in their 80s yeah you know what i mean um i haven't met a lot I don't met a lot of 20-something-year-old people in the lifestyle.
Only a few here and there. Yeah. And that's what we were when we first started. We were right on those outskirts. So do you think, let me see, here's the question. Okay.
So now that we're in this sweet spot um how do you think things will change do you think we're going to get more play partners or less do you think the the potential play partners increases or decreases as you get older i mean it seems like it keeps increasing for some reason i agree because again you go to those statistics the majority are right in our age bracket you know what i'm saying just keep me we got a lot more people to choose from you know but if you're looking uh here's a little note that i put like if you're in your 30s and you only want to play with people in their 30s it's slim pickings yeah you're gonna have a tough time you know so you gotta like open up to us and i'm not just saying that for selfish reasons he like open i'm just saying like you do have to have an open mind you know you gotta have an open mind when it comes to age i i agree with that you shouldn't be stuck on how old somebody actually i agree it should be based on like the energy you Do you do you vibe and is there a vibe there that type of thing like that um and are you attracted to the person it doesn't need to be like how old are you and no and all of these things because except for if you say somebody's 21 i don't know that's bullshit i can look at you and tell if you're young i don't need to know you don't even need to tell me that part um damn it you're supposed to keep talking so i can get back on track i'm so sorry let's see sweet talker says that we don't look we don't look our age so we wouldn't know there you go so you wouldn't know we both still get carded shout out to you yes i had the lady i didn't tell you a story so a lady at Walmart I was buying Sudafit my allergies are like terrible right now but I've buying Sudafit and uh she was like okay do you have your ID and I'm trying to hunt for this dad going ID I'm like lady it's Sudafit trying to buy some medicine right and then she's like and she had to tell me she was like well I don't well she's looking like squinting her ass she was like pull your mask down okay and she was like okay you good i was like yeah i'm over 18 man like yeah look by little ways yes i know what i was gonna say um when you were saying uh it really doesn't matter as long as they're good people and yes and for me it was age didn't matter because it was someone that i could learn something from that was that was the key i really liked being in the lifestyle early um and young and learning from older people but we'll go get there too um oh well here we go what did we think of older couples when we first started you know shout out to the people we met at the beginning because we avoided a lot of pitfalls and we spoke about this before in previous episodes as well we really did and it was because we ran into not only older couples we ran into the right older couples that's early on that kind of gave us.
They their time they introduced us to people they you know explained things to us and they were in a very nice way like i didn't even play with these people like like and it was just in a very nice way they took their time and really like explained things and made it you know a point to say, there's no pressure for you to do anything with us. There's no pressure for this and that. But here's this and that. And I appreciate that because without that, we would have ran into a lot more trouble along the way in drama.
Yeah, we met a lot of people that embody these three aspects that were mentioned by Ready and Ready. Safety, respect and consent. I mean, we really did. Like we got kind of lucky. We got really lucky early on. I mean, there wasn't podcasts and all of that to kind of like get you through. It's really just word of mouth if you met the right people that kind of like explained it to you and how how it was going to work and got us ready for like the resorts.
When we first started going to Desire, we went to Hedo, those types of things, giving us tips, you know, how to handle those resorts and get ready for them. Because that was our first time. We had no idea. We just went to the same club. I know what I'm a caller. Sweet Tea.
Sweet Tea says, from our experience, we've had better experiences with younger couples because they have less insecurities no drama everything just flowed with the date and sexy time hey i want to meet that young couple yo i've not seen one so what do you think makes a young couple um less insecure oh she says she liked that yeah sweet tea i like it um i mean you know because young couple they really don't have nothing to lose they're not thinking too serious they're not taking it so serious is what i think yeah that that makes it different right they're they don't really care like it's just like oh oh, we're here.
We're here to have a good time. You down. Down. OK, cool. Let's go. That's how we kind of was. I can see that benefit. Yeah. We was just hopping around, making friends, man. Yeah. I think, though, for us in the beginning, when we were younger, we were pretty nervous about doing things, though. Right.
We had our misconceptions of the lifestyle in general, which we're going to talk about in another episode but um you know so we kind of took things slow yeah i don't think that was too off-putting for people yeah um so i don't know again like i said we'll get to that kind of stuff in another episode uh red and ready says i keep thinking people are going to be less interested as we get closer to 50 but it hasn't made a difference yet hell no i know hell no not with y'all too please yeah no not with y'all and not with some other sexy friends that we know man we so we're one thing okay you're gonna say the same thing go ahead i was gonna say we're using our friends as examples i'm like if they can look that way at that age me too that's exactly what i was gonna say i could do it too like they still looking at me too i mean looking hot getting action all sorts of craziness like we're gonna be just fine i'm gonna be okay we're gonna be just fine especially like red and ready they are beautiful people man and uh other friends that I ain't smoking hot.
actually like red and ready they are beautiful people man and uh other friends that we're gonna have on i'm telling you like everybody i'm like yeah no we we're we're good i think we're gonna be good um so yeah uh i think something that we thought about um for older couples as when we were first getting into the thing is that they got their shit together that's what it seemed like it seemed like older couples had their shit together they was meeting and greeting and moving around the way they was moving and talking to other people they just seemed so confident yeah but i don't know if that's just if a if that's a um if that's age or if it's just experience or just those personalities you know i think it's just the personalities because we've seen a lot of those couples they're not couples anymore so um so it's just uh i think it's personality also seems so wise it seemed like you know and again i think we just surrounded ourselves we got lucky to meet people who who did know what the hell they were talking about and they were very helpful um and then you know paving the way for us letting us know the things to look out for and and without wanting anything from us like it was just like i'm just telling you this information you know do do what you want with it and kind of that so how do you pay it forward as we get older that's a good question or do we i'd like to take a couple of young couples and mentor i think you mentor now You mentor to all the wonderful listeners yeah that we we talk about our show too and kind of go through these you know sessions of this is what we ran into these are the things we do so i think that this is kind of your pay it forward right because you're doing a show where people are listening to your stories that you have like that have happened.
These aren't made up things that, you know, these are actual experiences that we've been through or kind of questions that we've posed for ourselves that we may have come up with and talked about in the car. And then we pose them to you, to you. Right. And kind of get your opinions on them. And I think that this show is paying for it. Right.
And it's also when you meet people in person it's not being a jerk like when we meet people in person i'm generally excited like to talk to you about you know if you want to say you know i listen to your show i really appreciate those things because we put the time out to to do this to pay it forward to helping somebody else not maybe fall into some of the things that we went through or maybe to just help in general like with something that somebody else may be thinking yeah um when it comes to like young couples or newbie couples i think i wouldn't say they're one in the same but i do i do like sharing insight and thoughts with newbies yeah you know what i mean with newbies whether they be young or old i do like sharing i do i do enjoy like when people ask questions or how we feel about things and what do you think of this place or that place i do i really enjoy uh giving feedback and input on stuff like that uh sweet talker says paying it forward is setting the example based off of positive and negative experiences younger people do listen i like it yeah for sure i guess that's true right like just the way you move is paying it forward setting that example example.
People are watching. You don't even realize it. Yeah. Because we were watching. We were watching. And, you know, again, I keep going back to the show. But I think that it's also we don't ever say things on our show that that we don't actually do in person, like in life, like in our actual real life. Right. So you want to also not make sure you're putting one example out on your show, but then you actually move a different way.
like in life like in our actual real life right so you want to also not make sure you're putting one example out on your show but then you actually move a different way like in a lifestyle because you want to be able to show that person like in person if you were ever to meet us and and we was just on the regular let's kick it or whatever the case that you're not getting a whole different a whole whole different person that's presenting at that time or whatever the case, right?
So you want to be consistent in that, I think, on the show and in person when you're trying to close the deal or whatever, if it's just going out for drinks, you know? I think that that's important.
So in the lifestyle then, is age simply a state of mind i think so okay would you mind elaborating i was reading something else sorry checking in here well i can't hope it popped up on the screen is age a state of mind in the lifestyle you're only as old as you feel i think so okay i think so i think it is i think you know we turned 40 last year i don't feel it i'm like i still feel fine like i feel fine my body is great still i'm like yeah it is you know i was like when it starts having problems then maybe but right now I'm still feeling great yeah I I'm with you like I don't feel like I'm staring down you know the back nine of life no just because I turn 40 you know what I'm saying like well like I need to go hang up my swinger card yeah put the swinger bag away no no no um i do i agree like i think it's just a state of mind man i think you know we got again uh using our friends as references we got friends who are in their 50s or creeping up on 50 or you know whatever um who are still smoking hot and um still just as active and they're my heroes and fun and still getting it done, still hanging out at parties and clubs and doing things, man.
They go out more than me. And that's what, you know, again, I think that's just because of their mentality. But then I'm sure we all have those friends who are in their 50s and don't give a fuck.
They like wearing sweatpants everywhere and know house slippers and you know just straight chilling and let themselves go and don't give a shit you know they work and live around their children yeah well we know people like that in their 40s that's what i'm saying exactly we know people like that who've kind of given i hate to say given up but like who just take it as it is you know they don't want to be young they don't want to hang out and do these crazy things i'm not saying you gotta be a swinger to be young i'm just saying people who just say yeah i'm 40 now i don't i don't want to hang out i want to go out to a club i'ma drink and chill right here i'm not there that ain't me not yet i'm still down for adventure i'm still down to like cause mischief and hang out and push boundaries and learn about you know uh push our sexual limits yes together and you know find out those little kinky quirks i know we still got some out there you know that we're still trying to figure out my favorite one right now is my goddamn electro zapper oh my gosh so let me tell y'all that shit is thank you to our friends but he is in love with this electro wand thank you friends you know who you are to zap me please he is all about it he's like just anybody that wants to zap me yeah just yes just let me know i'm here for the zaps but yes um let's see let's see now he's fantasizing about being zapped all right let's see oh go ahead uh they better work around this wheelchair and get this and get this loving hell yeah i will your sexy ass around god damn it with the pasty on and everything i got you you still here god drag your little oxygen tank yeah yeah whatever it takes whatever it takes sweet t says age is a state of mind i am a kid at heart um and i adult when i have to yes motherfucking right i'm gonna get that tatted on my back she also says that we are going out every weekend yes i know i wish we could i know i wish too our child thinks that we go out all the time she's just like you know when why you guys won't sit down i was like well i'm'm only in my forties.
I don't know exactly what you want me to do right now. So how do you stay young? How do you stay quote unquote young? You know, again, keeping in mind that it's a state of mind, right? How do you maintain that? I think part of it is fitness, right? For me, for me, for you, I know we agree on that. That's one thing that you and I agree on. We like to try to work out. We like to try to sweat every now and then, you know, and try to stay fit to feel like we can keep up, to keep busy. Yeah, I just think it's staying active, sweet teas, right?
I think it's just staying active in general, whatever that looks like for you. Some people, it may be sailing a boat, whatever that thing is that you were doing to stay active. That's the thing that you should keep up doing. Yeah. Let's see. Sweet Talker says that with so much new information about food, exercise, and improved medicine, maintaining youth is doable. Boom. It is. Uh-huh. So many social media silver hairs. Uh-huh. 50 plus that prove they can get it. That it can be done. That they can get it. Oh, that they can get it. Oh, no. Yeah. Yes. Man, it's some badass grandmas out there.
Man, look. Mm-hmm. I think you was trying to get Hot Nana at one point, but I ain't going to put you out there, you know what I'm saying? Hot Nana could get it.
He was like, Hot Nana could get all of this hot nana could get it he's a hot nana she's still good i might text her see how they doing hey hot nana yeah see you and desire she can get that she can definitely get it yeah she could get it yeah somebody's grandma she's somebody little grandma she's cute she had a little dimple she had little hips shit how'd nothing could get it you're talking about all of it take all of it um but yeah what about like the way you dress and and um this is the homie right here too i ain't gonna put him out there but that's the that's the homie right there he's a definitely a loyal sweet talker also says that you know food exercise improved medicine for sure what about like your clothing like the way you dress you're trying to stay stylish you know what i'm saying i just stay stylish it makes you feel good exactly exactly and the way that makes you feel it projects you know what i'm saying that confidence projects makes you look a little bit more um approachable yes i mean i'm down or intimidating i love being a good yoga pants in a sports bra but that that's not my everyday that's not uh that's that's not the everyday that's not what's gonna bring me to like my sexiness no that's daycare drop off and pick up shit yeah but some people can find that hat i mean i never complain when you're wearing them okay you know what i'm saying so is there an age where you think we'll call it quits i'm not there yet i don't know we've talked about this before too like is there an age that we think that where you call it quits for the lifestyle i don't know because so i have to go based on so my friends don't know that they're in like my uh my my survey i'm doing my research on them like so as they get older let me see when you tap out let me see how this works so that i can gauge or when i think it may be done but so far they keep going so we don't have a way to understand that like when it's going to be and hot nana still going to desire so yes as far as we know she might be dragging her oxygen mask down there by now i don't care shit got little wheels on that bitch for a reason we gonna move that thing Oh, my anyway i'm only saying it because you laughing i just keep going you keep on laughing so i keep going so ready ready says um never listen to the articles that tell you what you can and can't wear after a certain age damn right yeah where what you feel good in yes no you know as long as i can i'm aware yeah me too you know because i mean sometimes we men can run a risk of trying to look too young oh you know what i'm saying i remember i had uh i had like a football hat backwards and the kid one of the our oldest was like what are you doing you're trying to look young it's like well i'm just i'm rocking a hat the way i want to rock the hat but she judged me immediately yeah she judges us all the time she's a little judgy she tries to make us feel old she does but then she wants to be you but then she wants to wear my clothes so how does it work i don't know that's crazy but i'm old so what does the lifestyle look like for us when we're in our 60s and 70s we we talked about this a little bit what do you think it's going to look like you were and i agree with you actually we're saying that you think that it may come to your circle being small like it'll be you're like you'll become like kind of like what we were in covet right when you create your own bubble a little bubble and y'all probably go to the clubs together y'all go on vacations together but that's kind of like y'all people yeah kind of like i've seen that on vacations like with some of the older people they'll have like that's their like crew right that's how we met high nan but they have like a crew that they go at a certain time or whatever the case and they all go and get naked they do and they go get naked and yeah that's it and i think that's what it'll be i think it'll be like you know kicking it with the same like circle uh or having like a travel group an older travel group and you're going to get naked at the same time every year or hitting up the nude beaches and little nude resorts and just kicking it.
And when it comes to like playtime, I don't know if you're going to find like new play partners. I don't know. Maybe that's like an insecurity of mine. You may find new play partners that's still in that same boat. Yeah, in that same age bracket. Right, right.
So I think it it still be the same because you're still lifestyle and i've seen them so i know that they're out there that age group they are god damn it and y'all gonna have to look at my sagging balls with the i've seen them at the beaches yeah with the big giant metal cock ring yeah i'm gonna get one of them things here for it yep i'm here for all the old man ball jewelry. All of them. Mm-hmm. That's going to be me. You think you're going to get your nipples pierced again by the time we get in our 60s? No. I'm thinking no. That's now. That ship is done and sailed. The ship is sailed. Yes.
God damn it. Yeah. Me, too. I'm out. I'm out of that. But, yeah, I think the future looks bright, Trist. And abs. And abs.
You want them abs he gonna have them abs until the day he goes under 80 years old with at least a two-pack yeah and we saw remember that older guy that we saw the the um the older guy that was walking around with all them abs it can be done again he had to be in his like 70s yeah as the sweet talker said here i've seen many of uh silver hairs 50 plus that proved they can get it yeah for sure we've seen old dudes and no woman was was after him because he had a big old a big old cock he said well big dick whatever, Big Nick, whatever it was, I was looking, too, because he did. And he was ripped.
He was an older guy. Look, life is good. I was like, dang. Life is good. That's called winning. Yep. Well, I think we took this one down, Trish. This was good. I think we did a good job.
I mean, we had some stories to tell but we was like you know let's not let's not give those stories yet let's do a little topic yeah we're gonna get some friends in here we're gonna have them share their perspective on some play stuff you know what I'm saying I think that'll make things very interesting yes because you never get to hear from the other side the other participants the other participants about like what they thought and kind of what happened in their perspective on how things kind of went down. So there's going to be some truth telling up in the suite. Yes. All right, then.
OK, wonderful. Sweet talkers. Thank you all so much for joining. We really appreciate the participation. Again, y'all know this is y'all show. We just the conduit. Right.
We just, y'all so much for joining uh we really appreciate the participation um again y'all know this is y'all show we just the the conduit right we just y'all work through us that's it man we we appreciate all the feedback we appreciate y'all jumping in here on a sunday night can't wait to watch that show tonight what's it called babe um the last of us oh yes if y'all haven't started watching that yeah i can't wait to catch it so don't tell don't spoil it yes and we're going to uh be back in two weeks so we're going to be back on schedule we're going to be back on schedule now so that we can talk to you and bring you guys to show i recommend that we don't even say that at the end of the show because what if something happens see what i'm saying i know i know but just just say we'll see y'all next time.
We will see you guys next time. He thinks I'm jinxing it. All right. All right, Sweet Talkers. Thank y'all again. We'll talk to y'all soon. All right, guys. Bye. Again, we'd like to thank you for living a sweet life with us. To everyone who couldn't join us live in the suite, check out our podcast on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify, Google Play, and iHeartRadio.
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