We share the reasons why a planned short break became an extended pause from the podcast and from the Lifestyle overall. There are a bunch of reasons why people might take a break (health, family changes, finances, or even unauthorized naughtiness). We chat about a few of them and share our reasons for the break.So, COME for the discussion, but STAY for the sexy story at the end!As always, thanks for listening!Be sure to SUBSCRIBE, RATE, REVIEW! We appreciate any and all feedback!Check out our show and MANY others on FullSwapRadio!How to stay in-touch with us:Email: [email protected] us here for info on upcoming LIVE episodes:Instagram: @thesuitelifepodcastTwitter: @suitelifepodFacebook: Livin the Suite Life (Tryst Loq Suitelife)Don t forget to SUBSCRIBE to the Livin the Suite Life Podcast YouTube Channel!
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Living the Sweet Life is a podcast intended for mature audiences only. We'll be using sexually explicit language while discussing many different adult themes. So if you're under the age of 18, please stop listening. Also, please know that our thoughts and opinions should not be taken as professional advice. We're here to answer your questions about the swinger lifestyle. From newbies to longtime swingers, or if you're just curious, we hope to engage you all and to encourage a sex-positive discussion.
Now that we've got that out of the way, make yourself comfortable and join us in this episode of living the sweet life she is my beautiful sexy co-host and wife the lovely trist and he is my sexy chocolate husband lock yep oh yes i am are you you know because this is an emotional return you know we've been gone for quite some time but uh we back again we back again and tonight we definitely will be uh letting you all know where the hell we've been why we've been gone what we've been up to during that time, and what are our plans for the future?
So we got a lot happening, a lot happening, and we appreciate everybody for pressing play. We appreciate everybody who's joining us live in the suite tonight. And again, it's been too long, but we are back and we're ready to have some fun. We're ready to tell some stories. And we're ready to create some new stories with you guys. But first, y'all know what it is. We got to knock out all this housekeeping stuff. Follow us on Instagram at The Sweet Life Podcast. And follow us on Twitter at Sweet Life Pod. If you're so inclined, you can always email us at The Sweet Life Podcast at gmail.com.
Slip up. You want to try it gmail.com it's been a while but y'all know what it is y'all know where y'all can find us um thank you so much to the people who are listening on all your major podcast catchers and if you would love to join us in the suite we would love to have you hear all your questions and all your answers and all your opinions on things. Y'all can check us out on YouTube and follow us there. Hit the little subscribe button, hit the notification bell and you can check us out anytime. Jump in the suite and, you know, keep it keep it lively. Have some fun with us.
So I think that's about it really for all of our media, our social media. But you can always please listen. I want to make sure you guys know that you can check us out on Full Swap Radio. Thank you to people who are listening to us there.
But for the people who are checking us out on YouTube or anywhere else, check out Full Swap Radio, not just for our podcast, but for many others like those folks are rocking and rolling man that platform is doing nothing but getting bigger pulling in more shows they're having a great time over there so check them out don't miss the bus man i'm telling you you do not want to miss that um what else do we have coming up tris we got some good shit happening in 2022 yes we do so we have the sneaker ball if you're here in the maryland virginia d. So we have the sneaker ball.
If you're here in the Maryland, Virginia, D.C. area, we have the sneaker ball that we are actually co-hosting at Taboo Social Club. It's going to be our first one. The dates are September the 17th at 9 p.m. So please come out. Say hello.
And we definitely look forward to seeing people dressed up in their sneakers and your sexy sexy outfits i'm telling you this is their first sneaker ball and if we pull this off people this is going to be an annual event and we want it to be that we want to celebrate every year with taboo and not only that our our good good beautiful sexy friends paradise and mr deep that's right paradise and mr dependable are going to be celebrating their 17 year anniversary on the same night congrats so if y'all want to meet them our sexy ass friends come on through come through kick it with us have a great time we are going to party yes they are going to be looking fly you know tris is going to be you know a one i'm still trying to figure out what i'm wearing but yes but i'm building you up though babe because i know it's gonna be fly you know so figure it out so right that's right get your plane tickets get your train tickets whatever you need catch the bus come on through come to this dmv and hang out at taboo social club on september 17th absolutely 9 p.m because it's going to be on and popping so what else we got going on at the end of this year tris we're going to be catching some plane tickets yes so guys we've actually just got off of a trip um we were gone for a while on a trip to Europe, and we'll get into that.
Europe. We'll get into that later. But our last trip this year, our last big trip, let's say, this year will be to Temptations. Grand Meaches. Grand Meaches, and that's going to be in the DR. So it opens officially up in October, guys, but we are going to be going for New Year's. So we will be there from December the 28th through the January 2nd. So we would love for you to come out, join us, say hello.
We have a few friends that are also coming to joining us uh we also have another podcast coming actually to join us as well that's why we're calling this sweet bliss yes room bliss so they're going to be coming out to join us as well so it'd be great to have some people there and to come meet you guys listen that one i'm looking forward to that and Like Trish said, we're coming off of a euro vacation but we are going to keep rolling we're going to keep the party going for the rest of 22 and we want y'all to join us um it's going to be a blast man we're going to have a really good time the resort is brand new brand new check this is brand spanking new it's going to be open like trish said in october october 1st i think i think that's the date right the first yes whatever it is going to be open yeah it should be october we're giving ourselves a little bit of a buffer because you know we wanted to go day one yeah giving them some time to work the kinks out so hopefully we'll be able to get down there in december and party our asses off for new years because we we did the regular Temptations last year, right?
Right, we did. So this resort, the new one, is going to kind of be a joint. So they're going to have, like, one side is going to be, like, the regular Temptations that you see down in Mexico. And the other side is going to be kind of Temptations, like, slight, like, desire. So what's the difference there? The difference is that the regular side of Temptations is you can only be topless. Basically, the other resort that you can choose to be clothing optional, which gives you that feel that you can do as you will. Let's say that. As you will. That's right. Yep.
So you'll have the clothing optional situation. You got playroom situation.
You got the whole whole thing the whole kit and caboodle um in one resort and it's brand new brand new so we get to see the firework show for the first time yes we get to break it in get to get the buffet for the first time yes your new year's dinner the new year's celebration the first new year's celebration so it's definitely something to uh be a part of right right and mind you we're not getting paid for this promotion here we just want some people to come and kick yes absolutely yeah there's no no no no deal here no it's not like oh because you come and then you know the more people that we get to come it's not that uh we just think that it'll be a great opportunity oh one of the sweet talkers long time sweet talker hey hey what's happening lady she says hola buenos noches hey good evening that's right hey there hey yourself thank you so much for joining us dutchess is back hi dutchess dutchess oh my people coming in dutchess excuse me y'all know what it is that's dutchess cashmere of the cashmere room podcast y'all better believe this sister's kicking ass and our time away i still been paying attention to you sis and she is out there making moves she was down at uh new orleans yes uh yeah she's down at their big event down there man and she is rolling she's giving like talks and doing uh uh stand up like presentations or not presentations but performances all your all your performances yeah man y'all better pay attention to dutchess because she is kicking ass and kudos to you dutchess keep all that good work rolling man you got excellent excellent content um so i think that's all of the housekeeping trish yes but we're gonna keep y'all posted on all the dates and uh all that good stuff y'all better get up on them plane tickets though because them things ain't no joke yes no joke yes i know we gotta get ours right yes we still have to get our planes to go we just know we're going yeah we i mean you know that's that's first first things first all right so like i said we're gonna catch y'all up on all the shit that we've been up to everything that's kind of been swirling around in our heads and mind you this stuff is still in flux like we're still working on some things like there's still things that y'all gonna see a conversation happen that you know it is live it's real this is this shit is raw duchess says loving the braid says thank you thank you you know apparently they love them in york too um yeah so again y'all hang in there and we're gonna get to this to all the good stuff but y'all know what it is before we get into all the shenanigans, all the funny business, all the serious stuff, too.
I got to check in with my queen. So, baby, it's been a long time, but how are you feeling? I feel energized and ready. You know, sometimes it's OK to take a break. Right. That's the title of this show. That's exactly the title of this show. Oh, I didn't know that. So, guys, we wrote our notes kind of separate. So I didn't know that, actually. But, yeah, sometimes it's OK to take a break and kind of reflect and figure out, like, where you want to go. So during that time, I have a funny story that happened.
So the other – this just happened a couple of days ago, actually, because we're degenerates like that, and our friends are, too. Take them down with us, huh? Take them down i'm calling like it is so we all decide that we're um we just got back from our trip everybody's excited you know kind of want to see us we've been gone for a little bit and we're excited to see them yeah we got stories to tell we got gifts to give out yeah we were excited to see them as well give them their gifts and things of that nature sweet talker says welcome back guys back, guys. Thank you.
So they decided to say, OK, so cool. You guys are back. That's great. Hey, let's play hooky and let's go to a nude resort on a Friday. And I said, OK, do they have what time do we have to be back home trying to calculate? OK, do they have Wi-Fi is the next question. Priority. Right. Because that's the priority. I have to work.
We have both have to work, but we have to be back home trying to calculate okay do they have wi-fi is the next question priority right because that's the priority i have to work we have both have to work but we have a little bit of wi-fi then you know we're good to go so just in case somebody pop a meeting on you exactly they're like check check yes all of that works and i was like okay we're in we're in so we go we drop the kid off and we make the trip. It's like almost a two-hour drive or so. It's in Virginia, and the place is called the Grotto? Yeah, the Grotto. Yeah.
It's called Zebulon's Grotto. It's in Virginia. It's actually a pretty cute nudist resort, I will call it that. I will give you guys more details on the next show about it.
But we we get there and we're like okay we're going to hang out with our friends and we're going to be naked and we're going to work naked and it's going to be great so we have a really good time hanging out with our friends we get home at a decent time uh and i say decent time i mean our normal time we would be home anyway and i run into the adult child as we're coming in we're you know just getting settled in no big deal and she's like looks at me up and down where are you coming from i was like what do you mean where am i coming from with all the guilt and shame on your face yeah i was like what do you mean like where am i coming from she looks at me again she's like where are you coming from dressed like that you know I just had on like a tube dress it was a tight fitting tube dress but I guess because it's Friday in the middle of the day she's like where are you coming from you got that golden tan exactly so she asked the second time and the only thing I could come up with it was like I felt like the kid right in that moment i was like i was at my friend's house and i just like kept on walking away from her to kind of like yeah you ran away with your tail tucked between your ass cheeks yeah i was at my friend's house and yeah and i was sitting here like yeah and it was at that moment we realized that who was actually in control of the household right the children yes yes it it was it seems like i'm grown that's what i thought about afterwards right but during yeah you talk all tough later i know yeah afterwards i'm like i'm grown yeah you talk all your what i want to do but during i was sitting there like um i don't know like i was at my friend's house why are you asking so many questions so that's how i'm feeling like my dear how are you feeling me okay um you know trist during all this time got to do some reflecting but we'll get into that as well but um i'm feeling like i have an even better understanding of who i am and why i am the way that i am you know why do you know why tris because uh maybe about a week ago now um was on the phone oh no yeah it was uh earlier this week right we week ago.
Okay. It was early this week when we got back from our trip You know talking to my dear old daddy. Hmm. Dear old dad catching up, you know, how you guys doing? Yeah, man. Yeah, yeah Catching up how you guys are doing. How's everything? You know, how was your trip?
Oh, it was great You know, the Portugal was amazing It was hot and hills and all this and Canary Islands was wonderful I was, you know, just giving him the high-level overview so we can get the conversation moving right and let him know all the rest yeah skip them all you know he'll need to know everything we'll tell y'all everything but anyway so just giving him the high level so and then he says he pauses and says so um did you guys stay on the nude side or the prude side? To which my mouth drops. Dear father, what do you mean? Right. People ask me questions. I'm grown.
Oh, dear father, what do you mean by nude or prude? Well, son, a prude is when you don't like being naked. Okay. Right. Go on. You don't say.
so he goes on and and says uh there's this place down in jamaica um named uh he the hedonism guys you cannot write this like go on dad please please do continue no way paul When you said that to me me i was i looked at you like no he did not say that he's like yes he did 100 there's this place called hedonism i'm like okay what and obviously i want to eject off the conversation as quickly as possible before he starts telling me some wild shit and then it got a little crazy but you know nothing too scary but he he go he continues on to say um yeah because yeah man back in the day i went down there with your stepmother and i went with my sister we we stumbled upon it on accident and your sister uh my sister she felt right at home it's like oh shit don't tell me anything about dear sweet auntie i said i know exactly which aunt you're talking about too yeah yeah she's the wild one but hey look y'all i'm just saying i got it honest i got this shit honest man it's my dad like straight up if he's a apple don't fall far from the tree man it does not and and you know i'm even more comfortable with the story that trish divulged a couple of months ago talking about my mama with her vibrator hey listen i'm realizing that she got blood pumping through her veins she need to get it where she need to get it yeah whatever works for all these freaky people yes because if it wasn't for these freaky people i wouldn't be here being just as freaky as i am so that's what that is absolutely we got another sweet talking to say welcome back guys hey welcome back to y'all man we appreciate y'all taking some time out on this sunday sunday night yes because if y'all live where we live man it was hot as shit it was hot jesus christ it's been crazy ridiculous out here all right so trist my wonderful sweet talkers my beautiful wife are y'all ready to get into tonight's episode?
Let's go. No. Let's do it. Let's do it. Okay. Are y'all ready to get into tonight's episode? Let's do it. Let's go. Take two. I took your line.
I was like, why are you hitting me me y'all can't see that he's like hit me it was a gentle knee bump like I said what I said a little slam on your knee a little thump you stole my line yeah man you jump in my line thanks for hanging in there everyone again we really appreciate everybody joining us tonight in this episode and everybody who is listening out there in podcast world man this thing really does mean a lot to us right we have such a good time when we're down here podcasting when we're talking this stuff when i'm looking at my wife looking all wonderful golden delicious over there y'all see those boobies i worked on my tan you did you did and you killed it except for that one spot where's the one spot that you feel like you missed?
Under my boobs. So, guys, really quick before we get into the topic. So we spent all this time getting tan on on these nude beaches, going to multiple beaches, and we will tell you all about that. But then I go in the mirror, and I was brushing my teeth or something or fixing my hair, and I lift my arms up, and it's real light skin still like underneath. So I'm all caramel, but the underboob is light skin. I was like, oh, sorry, babe. It's just some places you might not be able to tan. I mean, you could always go outside and just like dangle upside down. That's what you said.
You can do like a handstand. I'll hold your feet up for like 30 minutes maybe that'll get the under boob for you i know i gotta figure it out though yeah it'll work out we'll figure it out all right y'all we're gonna switch gears we're gonna take it back a notch and we are gonna answer some questions all right we're gonna you you might be wondering where the hell y'all been and like trish said at the top sometimes you have to take a break. And we did. So first, let me ask my wonderful sweet talkers folks, have y'all ever had to pull back from the lifestyle?
Have you had to, had to, uh, had a moment with you and your partner where, um, you just kind of had to shift gears a little bit and say, hold up, wait, we need to pause on this for a little bit, settle back down.
And then we'll pick this back up a little bit and say hold up wait we need to pause on this for a little bit settle back down and then we'll pick this back up a little bit later has it ever happened to y'all and then second question what are some of the reasons that y'all ever had that you had to pull back i wrote down a few um tristan and i spoke about so number one trist could be sickness now what do you mean by that like a partner could like just got sick you know that's something that they need to take care of um so you just really don't have the time right yeah you just don't have the time or the interest because you know your health or whatever it is something more important you gotta you know your your maybe uh your arm is broken or some shit or a leg or whatever it is or like you said like a major sickness um and you gotta pull back from it all um the second one that we wrote down was like maybe you had to prioritize family events you know kids getting older graduations proms and middle school shit and you know science fair projects and all that shit just starts getting in the way of uh you know taking up your your weekends we know a lot of parents um who are heavy into uh sports their kids are heavy into sports so it's almost like you got to catch them in the off season you know in the off season they on it they're like you want to hang out they make that hang out this weekend next weekend they make it count like it's off season for sure yeah definitely um let's see someone says what's up with these masks y'all on some eyes wide shut type stuff well first of all welcome to the suite life hi sound like you might be a little new here how you doing this is the way we do things in the suite this is how i do yeah we keep a little bit of a anonymity at least we like to think so yes on the show so but if you went to one of our events yeah you know exactly who we were but this is our kind of our calling card yes it's how the show has started that's right that's right we appreciate you hanging out with us let us know if you have any other questions welcome welcome and tell your friends come through uh let's see another one uh change in work you know like a change in work schedule yeah um maybe you have to relocate for work maybe you are military maybe your spouse is military and you gotta relocate or something you know they also said said that the Batman mask is pretty sick.
Thank you. Appreciate it. Let's see. Yep. And it's the same thing. Like relocated to get your bearings. You go to a new area. You got to find a whole new circle of friends. You got to find the clubs. You got to find the way people do things.
Could you imagine Trish leaving the DMV to live like somewhere in bumfuck kansas no offense to anybody who lives in bumfuck kansas i'm just saying because they probably do things very very differently yeah right it's probably it would be an adjustment yeah because it's probably not a ton of clubs it's probably mostly uh like house parties we've heard that we've heard people that some areas and cities that is just mostly like house parties not clubs right so you probably gotta take a break to kind of figure shit out another one is like your money get funny you know you know lifestyle costs money it does cost money it take a little money to get in the game you know travel and go to uh events and some parties you can you know you can work your way but sometimes depending on how involved you want to be it's gonna cost a little money your your whole profile setups and all that stuff if your money started getting crazy you might have to take a little break a sweet talker says that bruh i'm from candace are you really hi how about that well tell them folks we say what up hi and uh yeah let us know what that let us know what the lifestyle is like down there let me know if i'm wrong please give me give me some background there um so this is more in line of what we had to do all right so here's the next one you kind of had to re-establish your boundaries and then define or redefine what do you want out of this okay so that's where we ended up is that where we began trish no not at all no so we began mostly uh we just had some one of them from the list actually we had some job changes and also Locke had some other things that he needed to work on for his job so that he can move to the next level.
So we had those kind of like new things that was happening that would mean we need to take time away from the show to kind of really focus on that. Right. Because that is the priority.
I mean, I like you guys and everything, but I also like making my money we got to get this we got to keep these fancy microphones exactly so we had to kind of focus on those things this is how it all started no for sure and you know guys we told y'all a couple months ago that we did not intend for it to be this long no right we wanted to kind of Thr things back to maybe once a month and see how that worked out but it turned into you know we just we got consumed uh we got consumed with um like Trish said everything with our work situations um all good things but just very excuse me very time consuming yes um but that's okay you okay you know because again you know it was all for a good cause um and uh we're working through that stuff so a part of that a requirement of what we were going through was a lot of self-reflection personally me personally i had to do a lot of self-reflecting uh for this and for this process but the thing for me was i couldn't turn that off um it was reflecting uh it required me to do reflecting as far as like the career stuff but i couldn't turn it off and it became i was reflecting on like home life like my relationship with tryst and again started reflecting more on the show what's the purpose of the show um and finding out you know what are we doing with this lifestyle stuff so it was all just going it was it was a lot of conversations that we had because you guys got to understand we do this show the reason for the show is that so that we can put information out there so that we can share our experiences and also learn from you guys um in return right so we had to kind of reflect on that like where is it are we actually sending out the right messages um what are we saying and and those types of things about the show as well so it was a part of also kind of like that reflection was that Locke really wanted to take the time to kind of like figure out who are we yeah what does that mean and those types of things so right I mean you're 100% right and and not even I mean yes who are we and then for me again I'm reflecting here I'm doing a lot of like thinking about it and finding out, are we valuable?
Am I helping anyone? You know, because it's like you could you can open up your podcast catcher and see a million different, you know, lifestyle podcasts.
And then I became I had a little bout with like that imposter syndrome, you know, like, why are people listening to me know there's nothing i'm not adding anything different here and am i being like condescending in a way telling people how to live their their lifestyle journey and it became like a point where i'm within conversations with tris of like no just chill just chill you're having fun you're have at the very very least you're able to sit down uh every two weeks for an hour with your best friend and talking shit oh yeah and that's what it became for me right and if somebody can get something out of that get something out of you know me and you just talking and laughing and Thank you.
Oh, yeah. And that's what it became for me. Right. And if somebody can get something out of that, get something out of, you know, me and you just talking and laughing and, you know, reflecting on stories and even, you know, listening to you, you guys, the sweet talkers and having you guys chime in and give feedback. i mean we all together are helping people you know what i mean your questions someone might have that question and we give some kind of answer. Maybe it's the right answer or wrong answer, but it gives them something to, to go off of. Right. And that became, became valuable to me.
That helps me, um, help put me back down and put me in a space to say, okay, let's turn the lights back on, you know? Yeah, absolutely. So we took that time to kind of like really understand what we do in this show. And I think that that's good, right, to do that every now and then when you're doing the show in general. Because everybody doesn't have like a live podcast, right?
But even if you're doing the show and your people are listening to you, they're listening to what you're saying and they're holding on to those words you we understand that um and we are what in year three this is our third year doing this and we have an understanding that your words hold weight and what you're saying even though you're saying it in a way like i'm just telling you my own perspective on it that it can help someone else so we wanted to make sure that the messages that we're putting out there are something that we want someone else to kind of maybe take that and learn from that's right and also we learn from you guys when we get emails or messages and say hey this really helped me with this what about the what about doing a topic on this what do you think about that?
Sometimes it may not always align with our show as well because we do not do everything. It has to align with who we are as well. But we're trying. We're trying. Everybody's there, progress. Sweet Talker says, I watch a lot of podcasts. I've never seen two people with masks on talking about the life this is different yeah well thanks thanks i hope that's a compliment and he says that he's he's not from candace he's from missouri ah cool good stuff good stuff so um okay uh let's see another sweet talker says that not true. You guys are extremely valuable.
The information you guys share is help to a lot of people. We greatly appreciate that. Really do appreciate that. We wasn't really looking for. No. Right. Yeah. But no, we appreciate that. Thank you. In all humility. We really do appreciate that. Thank you so much. And again, you know, you have been a common sweet talker. I remember saying your name. So you have posed good questions and you've posed good answers. So you're just as valuable and helpful as we are. So thank you. Someone else says, I like the vibe of this podcast. It's nice. Well, cool. Thank you. Thank you. Appreciate that.
What else happened? That was, that's the show. As it relates to us and our lifestyle journey, we had some difficult conversations. We did. Okay. Now, let's be clear.
We kind of took an unofficial, quote unquote, unofficial break from the lifestyle without us saying what we were doing we just kind of felt like things needed to slow down and what i mean by that is is quite frankly play we didn't play for a while yes we didn't play for a while we did go out exactly we went to a few parties and things like that but um we didn't play for a while like with people and it wasn't intentional it just kind of happened yeah it just kind of happened but the thing was you know when we ended up in another environment where there was a sub layer of possible play undefined um and that was part of the problem that it was undefined no one really had a conversation about play um it kind of our tensions built up to the surface and it forced us into a place where we had to have a discussion i know i'm being vague and i apologize for that but here's what i can give more information about what that is so what happened was and and some of it's on me and i will take uh responsibility for this part so in that moment of and i'm going to explain exactly what what happened right um yeah i used a word that i shouldn't have used that kind of um triggered triggered this whole situation that we're talking about.
I used the word thirsty. And I don't even say that word, actually, like at all. That's not something I just go around, you know, telling people, oh, you're thirsty. You're being thirsty. But it was a word that came out in that moment because that is truly how I felt.
And I don't even know why the word came out in that moment because that is truly how I felt and I don't even know why the word came out as thirsty but that's what came out all right so and here nope okay go ahead and here's what it was for me right is that I am a I'm a firm believer and I and I will preach this until whenever we decide not to be in a lifestyle anymore, is that you learn from situations, you learn from every situation that you go into, right? So for me, going into any type of lifestyle party or situation, there needs to be conversations that need to be had.
That circle of consent needs to happen. And the circle of consent means that we all have a conversation about here's what I'm comfortable with. Here's what you're comfortable with. And you kind of get that what those boundaries are kind of out the way. That doesn't mean that during the situation of play or during the weekend or whatever the event is that something can't change but you initially have that conversation of some type of layer of what the expectation is in that circle of consent and kind of where the lines are going to be drawn what i'm not comfortable.
Because if no conversation is had at all, then that's where you have a whole lot of problems and confusion. Okay, so I'm going to give, I'm going to tell a story. You're giving scenarios, you're giving like feelings and thoughts on what should happen. I'm going to tell a story. So here's the thing, guys. First of all, let me get to this sweet talker topic. I appreciate seeing other people of color in the lifestyle because we're a black couple. And I want to hear of the good times and struggles in the lifestyle from another black couple. That's us.
and since you uh said that actual comment it fits exactly on what this is right we had some struggles so here's the situation we found ourselves at an event with people that we have never been in a situation with before okay there's about three four couples or whatever we found ourselves with these folks people we have seen we've met but we played with before. What Trish was alluding to was that there was no conversation about consent. There was no conversation about play. There was no conversation about you're into this and you're into that.
It actually, when the conversation came up, it seemed a little awkward. So we had to kind of bypass it, right? We just let it fell flat. And then we start talking about toys and work and fun and vacations. And we just completely went past the whole opportunities or possibilities of play. Right. Gone. Okay. So the event is almost over. Trish was ready to go. I wasn't ready to necessarily call it a night yet. I continued to party.
Trish thought that I was partying in a way that she did not approve of she did not give me the green light to to party in this in a way she thought that i was misbehaving right she thought i was misbehaving um when we got back together um tris let me have it right she gave she unloaded on me uh she did use the word thirsty she thought i was being thirsty but i had the truth on my side so here's the thing because it was the it was the ninth hour okay almost there almost there where the truth was on my side which was the fact that i gotta say this and then you can go there that nothing happened like i didn't do anything the night continued as very innocently as possible people just killed chicken chicken kicking it and chilling it was chicken it with music and smoking and drinking and chilling.
Right. But then Trish was already gone. But now you can tell me your perspective on it. Because here's the thing. You had all this time to have a conversation. And when you say you, you mean everyone. Everyone. Okay. I mean, we were together all day. You've had all this time, days to have a conversation about whatever. Right. About what do you do? You know, I'm into you. I'm feeling you. Whatever you want to call that. And I would have would have immediately said, okay, we need to have a circle of consent. Like we need to have we need to sit down and have a discussion. There was none of that.
There was no type of indications that this was going to kind of go in a way of a lifestyle. Right. You cannot assume. And here's where I also think that the misconception is you cannot assume because we're all lifestyle that anything goes, anything goes whenever it goes when that's I don't know you and I've never done anything in a situation with you. You can't assume because I'm lifestyle and you are too that, oh, well, if I just decide that I want to maybe push it a little bit further an hour or two before someone departs is about to leave, then that's cool. And I'm not cool with that.
And that's where I feel like that is being now you're being thirsty because you've had a well enough time to have these discussions in a way that would make sure that there is nobody's boundaries getting crossed that you're not going you know just pushing beyond anything right and making sure that consent is there you want to wait until an hour or two before when people are drunk and doing you know basically you're you're incapacitated not incapacitated in a way you can't make clear decisions but come on if you're drinking things like that then you're just like oh we're just yeah whatever happens and right and that is not where i am in the lifestyle at all no because i feel like that there's no need for that when we can have these conversations prior to anybody getting to that level, especially when we have been together for an extended block of time.
This is not like we're at a resort where you're kind of like, you know, it's kind of you may see this person, they may go home tomorrow. Whatever that is, this wasn't that. So I feel like that because those conversations weren't had and now at this point, you know, we've been out drinking and this and that is a closed door to having any type of lifestyle. Got you. Okay, so reel it in just a little bit. You got emotional there. This is where I got emotional there. I am very strong about consent. Okay, I get it.
Hold on on hold on before you go again right you are 100% right that the bar I think the bottom line there is no last second shots especially without having those consent conversations yes because people can wake up and make a really and they like to make a bad decision that's just not how we would do that's not how we do it some people can do that and that's fine okay tris some people can do that someone even says here um uh last week talking says i ain't been there before you know the hand slap emoji and i think they're talking about when when i was talking earlier about the whole how the misconception or the perception of that i did something wrong without it happening here's where the perception was it's because that okay i felt like just because even if the person's throwing it out there and it's literally like maybe two hours before we're supposed to leave you don't have to accept it that's true because they're throwing it out there i don't care if she or he was like i'm just butt naked here i am like no that's exactly right and no again the wonderful part is nothing happened right but that wasn't what i thought i know that and that's the time and again okay so now we're going to get to the meat and potatoes of this thing now that we've laid out what happened the idea the perception was the problem yes i just thought the perception was that just because somebody's throwing it at you no you say no that's not what i'm talking about trist the perception that i would have and that I did do something is the problem.
That was the problem. And that's why I called you thirsty. I understand that. And that was the hurtful part. Because the truth was that nothing happened. Was that my intentions of even asking you about the situation. Hey, what do you think of this? I'll see you next time.
happened was that my intentions of even asking you about the situation hey what do you think of this was you know poorly timed and executed but i knew better because i knew the response from my wife was like don't you better not right so everybody knows those cues got those physical cues, those little subtle cues from your partner. You know what you should and shouldn't do. And I knew I should not do nothing. But the irony was I got in trouble for that shit anyway. I got in trouble with that shit anyway.
But the thing was, it was such a calm discussion from my perspective, because, again, I just knew, like, this is just going to take a second to really clarify that, you know, we are good. But the problem, the problem for me was the perception. Yes. I didn't like how I was being perceived by my wife, by my partner.
If you think that I turn into this you know reckless penis wherever we go i need to do something about that because there must be some truth to it that's how i saw it and you know we had a long conversation on the way home um we had a long conversation you know actually it was kind of quiet on the plane ride home but then on the ride home in the car we were able to talk and you know i think you came to some kind of understanding of where i was coming from really and i definitely understood where you were coming from i understood you know the the problems that you had with the entire situation yes um and um but i think you gathered and you were able to absorb my perspective and I really appreciated that.
And it became for me, like, I don't want to have to do this anymore. I don't, I will put all of this shit away because you come first, like your perception of me, nobody else's opinion of me matters as much as yours.
And if yours is of being thirsty damn that hurt he kept sticking with the word out of all the stuff that i said because that's like the lamest of lame like to be labeled that i felt like such a eddie man if you're from the area you heard that you heard that term before i felt like such an eddie or maybe some people call him a herb or whatever it is yeah but i felt like such a lame period and and you know i i just hold your opinion in such high regard and from where you just stabbed me with that was like damn it all right fuck all this and i could have used a better word guys no you couldn't have no no the effect was there you know what i'm saying but i wasn't i and i wasn't trying to cut you deep it that wasn't my intent at all it just that was the first word that just came and but i shouldn't have used that because we went no wait we went more in those in that conversation i literally said it like one time i think um in the conversation and then there's a way to still articulate how you feel and and after i kept hearing him say the word i just i i just started explaining myself differently i was saying the same things but just without using the word thirsty because that wasn't my intent wasn't to get like an effect from you or to cut you deep or to hurt your feelings or that wasn't it at all i was really just trying to get you to understand that these experiences are going to come and we've had a not a ton but we've had multiple experiences right and again i've said this on the show before you don't have to be a part of every experience all the time just because it unfolds itself.
Like, hey, here's the experience. Cool. Sometimes it's okay to say I'm good and keep it pushing and not be a part of that experience. And I've said that before, but in that moment, I should have said it in that way. Thirsty wasn't the right word to really use for what my intent was, was just that you don't have to be a part of this experience because you know just as well as I do, these things did not happen and this is going to be in a disaster. It could be a disaster and we don't need to do that.
And again, you know, like y'all this is still raw like not really raw like we we've worked through a lot of this but this is still like a genuine conversation that y'all are witnessing and and it's like to me tris you know everything that you said i exemplified you know i did do those things i i did realize fuck it you, and just maintain for the rest of that night. But I walked into a buzzsaw anyway. That was the fucked up thing. It was like, God damn. Well, then I should have at least rubbed her ass or something. I kid. But you know what I'm saying? Like, if I'm getting in trouble, shit, man.
But, I mean, again, it worked out because we did need to go ahead and just kind of recalibrate had to recalibrate because again i didn't like the perception of me i and i felt like i needed to work on myself if that's the thing like if that's the problem like i'm gonna cut this narcotic off i'm gonna chill and uh i'm just gonna hang tight like don't i just don't want to do anything anymore you know it just didn't seem sexy to me it seemed like too much work and i and and guys i didn't let him do that easily right because i felt like it was a cop-out and we've had that discussion as well i said that i felt like you just saying like well i just don't want to be in a lifestyle anymore i'm taking a break as a cop-out because i said that there's no point of taking a break if you're not going to have discussions about what you know are we still going to be in a lifestyle if that's the case here's you know let's have these other conversations why do you feel that way kind of really do a more of a discussion of what's going to be comfortable for both of us to have those discussions than just say I'm taking a break or I'm just not going to do it anymore because you're you come first which is great so true for you to say that so trust you you're you're telling one part of what I said because I said we need to stop and talk you did but I'm just telling you what I said I know what you said okay I know and i want to make sure that it's clear that that was the plan that was to stop and talk you did say that you kept trying to drag me back in and i'm like don't you don't take an alcoholic to a bar yeah you don't do that and i was like you don't get me a bar a fifth of tequila for my birthday yes if i'm trying to kick the boo.
During the time, he's right. He was trying to chill. And there were things coming up. I mean, of course, and our friends and things that were coming up. And I was like, oh, we should do it. He's like, no. Yep. And we still go and party. And then people bouncing their asses on me. And then I got my hands up in the air.
Trish is laughing at me because I'm trying to chill yeah he's like literally trying to hold his hands together like i'm just not i'm not gonna walk away beautiful beautiful women throwing themselves at you yes so he's like he just keeps putting me back in so he we literally did take a break from going out yeah so are we going to talk about uh when we came back from break so yeah so we took a little break and like i said things just kept calling us back just keep calling me back and then he's like just keep calling me back in the game literally literally just like a text message first of all let me get to this uh sweet talk before we get into that story sweet talker says we've missed you guys things have been born as hell without you two oh man thank y'all man appreciate that promise we ain't gonna leave y'all again like that no no so we we we figured out and we it's still some of it's still like a work in progress like just to figure out how like the caliber of like what we're going to do and things like that when it comes in the lifestyle, like when we're in our moments of play.
But I think we figured out mostly, and you can correct me if I'm wrong, like what each other, like how to figure out like what each other wants. Like what do I need and things?
We still probably need to have more conversations about that we do but we do we've had some yeah we've had some and and you know it's tough when we got to do it live like in the moment of on or off like go no go but now we got to stop and have a discussion about it you know stop and have a discussion about the go or no go because we weren't clear before we got there you know what i'm saying and no that's the shit we got to clean up yes you know we got to clean up the pre-game the how you feeling y'all um so but we're working it we're getting working on it anyway so yeah we took this little break right and then we started getting these fucking text messages from our beautiful, beautiful friend, Hallie.
Y'all remember her? She liked to be a third participant in the bedroom with us every now and again. She is such a beautiful, beautiful woman. She texts us. And then she says, hey, y'all going out of town? Well, I'm going out of town.
Do y'all want to hook up before we all leave and i just ex-lock like not even a few days before that to see if he was if we can go to lifestyle clubs and i said no and he said no he's like no i don't think i want to go to any lifestyle clubs i'll let you know and then holly text and then forehead slap tris looks at me like yeah i'm like what in the fuck do you automatically say yeah it's always i have to ask him and are you sure is you good i gotta smooth this shit over she's like let's do it and then our other two friends wanted to hang out uh we they just wanted to hang out but so we were like yeah we can hang out with you i don't remember that one yeah we hung out with them the next day did we do something no oh okay damn it don't make no goddamn sense so anyway holly uh fast forward to that night um she comes over and um i don't remember how that night began i think i just know she just came in and we were just chilling did we we were drinking yeah a little wine um oh fire pit we had the fire pit that's right we hung out at the fire pit that was a sexy sexy night man we just uh sat out there and caught up and drank some wine and then um you know when the mood struck we took off all our clothes and jumped in the hot tub all our clothes were in the patio that's important listen to part of the story hot tubs are just an essential y'all whatever you gotta do just get your hands on one because for me i don't know the sexiest part about it is just like being wet and maybe it has something to do with me being a pisces i like being in the water i like being all wet and slippery and slippery women i just it's i like it i like the people i like the water um and that's kind of what it what it was right we were just in there kind of slipping and sliding around and chit-chatting and then next thing you know uh hallie and i kissed and then you you jumped over and you kissed her.
And I was like, who is this Trist? Who is this? What was going through your mind at that moment? It was a good night. It was a fun night. I thought it was hot, you know. The juices was flowing. Everybody had discussions before. So we kind of, you know, knew it was anything night that could happen. Yeah, man.
so we kind of you know knew it was a uh anything night that could happen yeah man so we kind of played around in the hot tub and then i think it got a little too hot it did like quite literally like oh my god i need water you're about to pass out get the fuck out of here it's a crazy summer night so uh we jumped up out of there and we went down to um our bed to the basement yeah to the man cave that's right to the man cave where i have the eight foot bean bag yes big giant bean bag and the room is still kind of set up um with like a not arabian nights kind of like a what is it called tryst yeah it's like a rabia nice like moroccan yeah with the kind of curtain to share curtains are still up on the ceiling and the lights on the wall the little uh christmas light kind of thing the white lights on the wall and we kind of just hung down there with some music we lay down on the uh on the big bean bag and yeah that shit was hot man i think i started off um oh that's what we did we played a.
We did a little bit of a BDSM kind of, I don't even know, not switcheroo, but we did like a thing. I was in a mood to kind of be a sub, right? Yes, that's what you said. And I think Hallie was still in the mood to be a sub too, but she can put a little switcheroo, right?
I think we all kind of got that little switch in us, but I think it out perfectly this night so i definitely wanted to get slapped around um and hallie so the thing was i was going to be this hallie sub uh and hallie was going to be your sub yes so it's kind of a long line and i was at the bottom yes and it was hot it was hot we were just experimenting with shit but it was so doming her yeah while she was doming me yeah oh what a night because one i love seeing you in that dom space i love seeing you in that dom space and you know but i felt i needed contact i needed physical contact i needed somebody to squeeze me grab me hit me i needed to feel that shit that night for some reason and um she provided she provided like she slapped my ass or nothing but she did slap my face yeah she did slap my face a few times and it was wonderful it was wonderful but she you know she she caressed and then pop and then a little caress and then pop um all while trist is behind her slapping her on the ass it was wonderful and i think she was going down on me at one point and you were behind her yes uh causing causing her hair up and down yeah that was hot that was hot and then um i think she made me go down on her until she came she just told told me to get down there.
And then I think you were kind of fondling her or kissing her while I was down there or something happened. And I don't know, man, just a bunch of beautiful configurations.
I know at some point I was behind you and she was and but you were between her legs facing her and going down on her boobs and kissing her while i'm fucking you from behind what a magical night it was a great night it was a great night and it was unforced and again you know this was coming stressful it wasn't stressful coming back and that's the big thing for me like that that's something that I'm going to always consider moving forward and always do, you know, but your anxiety, like every time we're about to go to an event, I consider what is going to be the trigger.
what's going to possibly trigger her what's going to be the thing that gets you the most anxious to change your mood to kind of swing you from left to right and i i can't figure it out all the time but it's always some stuff that i'm trying to consider but i say that to say this night was free of that this night was free flowing easy we just kind of moved around and, it was like riding a bike. You know, just familiar person. She's so sweet and comfortable. Had a great, great time. Not without any shenanigans, crazy shit. So, guys, here we go. So, we have this great, great experience.
And it's this night. All wrapping up. We're wrapping up and we're standing up and lock and i are just looking at each other we're just standing there nude and kind of drinking some water you were actually dancing oh i was dancing you were actually dancing by yourself while i was laid out with hallie yeah kind of finishing up and then she went off to the bathroom and i went over to you while you were kind of bobbing to the music. Yes. So we make a joke with each other. We're sitting there. It was like, oh, you know, wouldn't it be funny if our adult child came home and ha. So we're laughing.
We get alerts on our phones. So I looked at the phone immediately right after that just to look at my phone. And I was like, oh, we're laughing.
laughing it's not funny like she's like literally a street over from the house and he's like no you're lying i said no i'm for real like she's literally a street over from the house so we they hurried up and grabbed stuff from the basement lock runs up the steps and falls up because i mean we had clothes that our clothes were all still out by the hot they were scattered throughout the main floor of the house right right so i had to bolt upstairs with i don't even know if i had a towel on butt naked run upstairs and i slip over my goddamn foot you know how when you fall up the steps and shit you just miss one or something whatever it is it's just boom you know my shit, gather myself, run upstairs, grab the clothes, go back down to the basement.
And now we're trying to figure out what the fuck is the plan? Yes. You know, do we hurry up and run upstairs or do we hide Hallie down here? And Hallie came out of the bathroom just so sweet and had the towel wrapped around her like, oh, wow, this is wonderful.
And we say, hey, so don't't panic but our kid is coming home her eyes got bigger saucers like what do you mean like no like she's gonna be home in like three minutes yeah and she said do you want me to put my clothes on and just leave right now i'm like no because i actually i think the i think our oldest kid she was uh sitting out front at this point yes she was like parked in front of the house in front of the house yeah so he's like no you're not gonna run out you go scurrying out the front door that's gonna look really hot so instead we just said okay just put your clothes on everybody put their clothes on and just go upstairs or you know kind of let's ease our way upstairs like you know like we were showing you the basement yes you know so he's just kind of eased upstairs and we all kind of sat around in the kitchen and just kind of chilling drinking again and then the kid comes in and looks and what happened you you caught eyes with her first i can see her and she i caught eyes with her and she's like pointing like who is that and i was like oh yeah because holly's back is too yes i said oh this is our friend holly you know me holly and she's looking like oh so where the rest of your friends at yeah she came in and like you know scan the room side to side like looking around because she thought it was like a fucking party happening because who's this strange woman sitting here with you know mom and dad yeah and uh nope no one else nobody else it's just us three and she's like okay yep so she definitely knows something i mean i can't like yes but i mean but she didn't ask any questions she said hi okay good to meet you and then she scurried about went on her her own merry way.
Hallie stayed for maybe another 20, 30 minutes or so. And then the night was over. Yeah. But what a way to get back into action. Yes. Crazy. He was like, oh, so we're back. And what'd you say? I'm gambling again. I'm gambling again. He's like, he just keep pulling me back again. I'm gambling again. Yeah. So, y'all, listen. We really, really appreciate everybody who joined in tonight. We appreciate everybody who pressed play and who's listening and all the support. We appreciate all the emails. Folks were emailing us at PCAP saying, you know, we wish you guys were here.
We heard that event was awesome, by the way. It was great, yes. We'll be right back.
and uh all the support we appreciate all the emails folks were emailing us at pcap saying you know we wish you guys were here we heard that event was awesome yes we hope to we never miss another one um who else i mean i don't know all the emails and stuff and all the you know the support when it came to like our pictures and stuff on instagram all that stuff man it it will not be forgotten we really appreciate y'all and we're gonna we're gonna try to keep making y'all proud man we're just gonna keep on turning these lights on keep on turning these mics on and letting it letting the fun fly and we'll see what happens we'll see what sticks right babe yes read the last comment before we go you got it all right one more sweet talker says uh misperception of events seem to be the issue but you both recognized you needed to communicate to make sure y'all were on the same page great job round of applause emoji and i guess there's nothing left to be said on that no guys we really appreciate that we're going to be back on our regular schedule yep and we're going to catch y'all up on our international trip all the wild shit you ain't't going to believe that we saw out there and some crazy shit.
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