We re back!! Fresh for 2020!!In this episode, we introduce our new motto for 2020 - #SwingerFit! It s all about the Lifestyle within the Lifestyle:How are you at communicating your expectations?How do you prepare for a night out?How do you discuss issues?How do you define your sexiness?The bottom line is: #SwingerFit will be defined differently for EVERYONE! It s all about what makes you comfortable enough to achieve your lifestyle goals.Sit back, relax, and listen to what our Suite-talkers think!As always, thanks so much for listening!Enjoy!Be sure to SUBSCRIBE, RATE, REVIEW! We appreciate any and all feedback!How to stay in-touch with us:Email: [email protected] us here for info on upcoming LIVE episodes:Instagram: @thesuitelifepodcastTwitter: @suitelifepodFacebook: Livin the Suite Life (Tryst Loq Suitelife)Don t forget to subscribe to the Livin the Suite Life Podcast YouTube Channel!
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We're here to help answer your questions about the swinger lifestyle, from newbies to longtime swingers unicorns and poly triads we hope to engage you all and encourage sex positive discussions now that we got that out of the way make yourself comfortable and join us in living the sweet life Hello and welcome to the next episode of living the sweet life to my right is my beautiful sexy co-host and wife the lovely trist he's my wonderful sexy chocolate husband lock and ladies and gentlemen thank you so much for joining us in this episode of living the sweet life we just want to say happy new year welcome to 2020 and let's get this thing going on right tonight we are going to be discussing hashtag swinger fit we're also going to bring back for the first time in 2020 uh tris sexy toy chest did i nail it see that's that's a shame that's how long it's been since we've done that and we've been doing a disservice to y'all we're going to get back to that but first ladies and gentlemen let's go ahead and knock out this housekeeping so we can get down to business so always feel free to email us at the sweet life podcast at gmail.com you can also follow us on instagram at the sweet life podcast and follow us on twitter at sweet life pod and for those uh people that want to shout us out on facebook go ahead and hit us up and give us a little friend request um at trist lock sweet life we also have a little community page or a fan page or whatever so go ahead and click like on that and you'll get all of our little updates from that uh and also man for everybody who can't join us live in the suite tonight feel free to uh check out the podcast hit us up uh find us on itunes stitcher uh what is it spotify google play all of the above man uh and uh iheart right yes i think you've got it that's right that's right and while you're there absolutely positively feel free to subscribe rate review um all of that stuff is helpful and big shout out to all of our folks who have uh before the new year hit us up with some uh ratings and reviews our numbers went up a little bit so we really appreciate that push man let's uh get the sweet life going man let's let's let people know that we here uh so we can get our get our community up and uh get some more sweet talkers in there we love to get some more opinions and uh get some more laughs going so yeah it's gonna be it's gonna be good folks so really appreciate y'all so y'all know how it is man uh with my beautiful wife always gotta check in with her lovely self and see how you feeling tonight baby it's 2020 how you feeling well as you guys can hear my voice I kind of lost my voice this weekend.
I was yelling, our kids had an event and I've been yelling all weekend. So now I sound like this. You paid the price. I did. I paid the terrible price. It's okay. Yeah. Almost losing my entire voice, but we're going to work it out tonight. Yeah. So how am I feeling?
I'm feeling good, actually i i'm feeling great um i think that everyone is probably kind of feeling some type of way actually tonight i'm going to go ahead and just address we're just going to do it yep i was wondering if we're going to do it okay let's go ahead and let's let's get it so as a lot of people probably already know uh but today uh one of the greats of basketball um passed away um colby bryant and also um his 13 year old daughter along with um what seven i'm not sure i think it's where it's seven other people and and there was another family that was on board as well.
And there's such a tragedy. Like, literally, since I've heard about it, like, all day, I've just kind of been in a summer mood because, you know, you try to not think about it so much, but we also have kids in the family. So it is a tragic thing that happened today. And my deepest condolences go out to his friends, family, and fans, just everyone. Yeah, yeah. I couldn't agree more, man. It was a hard day. It was a hard story to hear.
Uh, but you know, let's, you know, let's, let's this and acknowledge the greatness that was Kobe Bryant and everything that he's done for the game and for the community of basketball. And let's let's look at this as, you know, we're here to live our best lives. Right.
We're here to maximize every single day that we have to make the best of every opportunity that we got and you know let we owe that to ourselves and we owe that to our loved ones to just to put our best foot forward every day and let's let's go out here let's be great and let's have a good time doing it let's take as many people with us let's smile let's be happy you know and let's let's keep it rocking right yeah let's try to keep it rocking yeah um and just to go on that um and a few of our sweet talkers is talking about the same thing you know just about it being heartbreaking um regarding this news but um otherwise to kind of lighten the mood i was feeling excited today um so this month um i've been able to just do some kind of reflecting um for those of you that don't know us just yet personally um our birthdays are literally less than 30 days apart from each other so this month she's older a month if y'all didn't know yeah he calls me his um that's my sugar mama the thing is is that our birthdays are like less than 30 days apart and it's really easy to remember when people ask like how old is your spouse because we're literally the exact same age just 30 days less than not even 30 less than 30 days apart from each other but you're older it it doesn't matter it doesn doesn't matter.
So back to my reflection. You're trying to throw me off. Go ahead. I'm sorry. Back to my reflection. So I just started to think about that, you know, we're actually closer to 40. I'm actually excited about turning 40, which is weird, right? But we've been like planning this whole 40 thing for a while.
Like what we want to we're still trying to figure that out but it's kind of a big thing because we're going to be the same exact age and we hit a milestone at the same time at the same time in our life so it's it's great to have that but while i was thinking about that um we're closer to 40 is that in my 30s I turned 30 around about the same time that you and I kind of got back together um again it's our act two back together again yeah yeah blah I broke up with him we know we know I wasn't even going to do that right yes broke up with him we got it we got back together many years later.
Um, but when we got back together, I was just recently, you know, turned 30. And, um, the thing is, is that I had no plans like for my thirties, like no idea what I wanted to do in life, like just no plans at all.
And to see where we've come, um, in the last few've literally built like not like our you know like every moment of our life but we've built so much of our relationship literally brick by brick and we've done that together through this transition of going into what i call our third what dirty 30s is what people call it i guess yeah but when I look back on it I'm like look how much we've grown and we've done it together right we have babe that I didn't expect you to go that deep but I guess I guess I understand yeah you went you went real deep with how you feeling today and I and I love it and I appreciate it yeah I mean we we literally have like grown up together in a sense you know what I'm saying like you don't really know shit until you hit your 30s that's what they say anyway right right and then uh we to go through our 30s together and like um you know just like you said you know just basically like making mistakes and just building this thing building the family you know driving the train forward together um you know and hitting some snags the way.
It has been an adventure and nothing I would change at all. Absolutely. I mean, every argument, every memory, every accomplishment that we've done in our 30s, we've literally done together. Big time. And I'm looking forward to what's to come.
Like, what else can we do going forward into our 40s tons and you know and what else can we do like within this lifestyle so i'm just excited about that yeah man well good good so how are you feeling like well i got nothing to compare to that babe i'm just excited for 2020 you know uh this is our first episode of the new year uh so again thanks for joining us and welcome and happy new year all that good stuff um i'm excited to you know um to to try out some new stuff um with it with the show um and to hang out with some other podcasters like i said right before the new year i'm just ready to to make happen man let's let's get into um into the summertime when we start traveling again and getting some crazy actually you know summertime i was about to say yeah we got we got some shit going on uh in a couple of weeks uh so yeah man i'm just excited uh and let's let's take 2020 by storm absolutely absolutely all right so great so you ready to get into tonight's episode honey let's do it I'll be right back.
let's take 2020 by storm. Absolutely. Absolutely. All right. So great. So you ready to get into tonight's episode, honey? Let's do it. All right, let's go. all right ladies and gentlemen tonight we're going to be talking about a little idea that's been coming to our heads. You know, we kind of want to do something for the whole community in general, for the lifestyle community. So we're going to talk about something that we've been bouncing around called hashtag swinger fit.
Now, when you hear that, we don't want to think that, you you know it means that you're fit to be a swinger no not at all but it's just um we wouldn't be that conceited how fit are you to be in here yeah exactly right right no this is not some kind of exclusive club i mean i'm sure there are some exclusive clubs out there but we don't know none of them hey right right but not so this is more of like a i guess it's kind of like taking the temperature of your swinger um mentality right like just are you are you mentally and physically where you want to be in the lifestyle are you are you um putting your best foot forward to be uh to achieve the goals that you set forward to maximize your opportunities are you fit for that are you ready are you in there are you game you know for what it takes absolutely and what it just takes to be in a lifestyle like all together because um sometimes people aren't ready.
Yeah. Sometimes you kind of jump in the deep end and you're not quite, you know, you kind of kind of figure it out as you go along. And to a certain extent, we all kind of figure it out. And of course, like anything that we discuss tonight is not necessarily gospel. It's not gospel at all.
It's more just like just like our opinions our thoughts and um and as we all know like this whole lifestyle thing is fluid right so we're going to talk about like the um the mental aspect of hashtag swinger fit and the physical aspect of hashtag swinger fit you checked me throwing a hashtag out there yes you like that he keeps like that hashtag hashtag swinger fit hashtag swinger fit all right guys so just keep in mind you know keep your thoughts going and sweet um that we'll just read them out as we go but sweet's open yeah so just keep them rolling in and we're gonna get started yeah man uh yeah let's let's rap about it so all right baby so what do you think uh are some of like the mental aspects of being swinger fit of being like mentally strong to uh make your way through this whole lifestyle thing oh goodness so mental can be a lot of different things for different people just depends on how they see it um for me it's just that when you say that you have to be mentally ready for it um it's just that i think it takes a matter of like where are you as a person also like um do you think that you're okay with dealing with you know seeing your partner in a different type of light or are you even okay with being with other people like I think it's a lot of self-conversation okay yeah I think in your notes you you said it was not only communication with your partner but uh communicating with yourself essentially right yes asking yourself those hard questions right um yeah so yeah exactly so i think just having though having that type of that dialogue um that honest open dialogue with with yourself and with your partner about uh some of the things that you want to get out of it in the first place right so when we came in what were some of the things that we wanted to get out of it in the beginning do you remember anything I'll see you next time.
uh some of the things that you want to get out of it in the first place right so when we came in what were some of the things that we wanted to get out of it in the beginning do you remember anything we just wanted to have fun so i mean that's how it all started but that's dangerous though right like it's very dangerous because that's a really have a goal yeah i was about to say yeah that's really really broad and i think uh if it's just like if you have like a really broad idea of what you want to do there's a lot of room for errors it was but for us we just got lucky because we had people that we could actually go to and ask questions so we didn't make as many mistakes as we could have um actually but our foundation of our relationship was there before we started um the process of being in ls yeah it was before we dipped our toe in i guess yeah i mean right we we were fortunate to know each other for a very long time before we decided to go into this but i mean like for those couples that you know maybe just want to try it out they may not have been together for what the 13 years that we've been together or known each other Thank you.
to go into this but i mean like for those couples that you know maybe just want to try it out they may not have been together for what the 13 years that we've been together or known each other um so they want to try it out so how do they prepare themselves for that well i think like again it goes back to doing a self-check right because you don't want to sit there like if you know that you're a very jealous person right um and you know you get highly jealous by anybody just looking at your partner then this may not be for you yeah i mean we did an episode on jealousy and how to try to like overcome those things um but it's there's never really like a guarantee until you're in that situation no i think some people know if they're a really jealous person or not i'm not saying saying as far as, oh, you discovered that you have this thing that you're, you know, have a jealous tendency about.
I'm saying that even in your regular relationship before you were even in lifestyle, you are a jealous person in general. Like you don't even like people to look at your partner.
It's not OK with them to dance with with other people it's not okay for anybody just rub them on their back in a certain way like if you know all of that irks you then this may not you may not be swinger fit what i'm saying yeah you may not you may not so are there any ways to overcome that or are there ways to like improve yeah improve that while you're in a lifestyle would you recommend that i don't even know if i recommend people like that to be in a lifestyle idea because i have no idea how do you overcome that how do you overcome being overly jealous right overly jealous how do you overcome that um i don't know man it's like okay i just think like if you're having those types of issues you get you need to maybe have the conversation and we always say that it's always about communication communication i know it's like you know what is it uh beating a dead horse or whatever but um having those conversations about what do you want And, you know, before you get get in there we'll help to alleviate some of that trouble yeah but again when we're saying if you're fit to be in a lifestyle i'm saying no no see that's that's the thing i wanted to be clear we're not saying that you're not fit to be in we We're just saying how strong is your lifestyle game?
Oh. You know what I'm saying? Like, if you're in it, are you fit? Are you ready? Are you good? Because if someone is in it and they're having these insecurity issues, their swing or fit level is probably kind of low. You know what I'm saying? They're not ready. They got to get their strength up. Exactly. I agree. I agree. They're not ready. They got to figure it out.
You know, and maybe that does come into, like does come into like having a conversation yep see that's what i was about to say that or going to a swinger therapist and they do and they do have those guys actually in case you didn't know they actually have swinger therapists like you could go to a therapist for your swinger relationship yeah man they have lifestyle friendly therapists i mean shit swingers need help too swingers need help too we need somebody to talk to you also about our swinger problems that's gonna actually be another episode so stay tuned on something something similar but yeah i i mean the other thing is is that i would go to i mean mentally okay yeah it's one thing right and then the other aspects that are you physically swinger fit oh we're not there yet i got some more mental still oh yeah yeah i got some more we gotta we gotta pick this bone babe he still wants to pick the bone we'll come back to the physical so when it comes to like um setting your boundaries that's another mental aspect you gotta be able to have those conversations about setting your boundaries and the things that you want to see and do do you think that's an easy conversation to have i don't know if it's easy conversation for a lot of people to have it should be an easy conversation to have but it can be an uncomfortable one because especially if you've been in a lot of vanilla relationships where um you kind of have that like tight rope like on you and you can't just be like free or you afraid let's say of how the other person will perceive you um if you said a certain thing then you can have a problem yeah?
I actually took that as a note. Like, um, are we always honest with each other? And I think the answer is no. I think that, you know, just to keep it real and funky, man, like sometimes you will kind of sugar coat your answer based on your partner's reactions. And I think that's a, you know, some kind of thin ice to kind of tread on sometimes, even though, you know, you're supposed to have these, you know, honest conversations straight up. Like, I'm just going to tell how it is. And you're supposed to take me as I am. And trust me, it don't quite work like that all the time. Not all the time.
It don't work like that all the time, man, because, you know, let's let's's be real like sometimes you know the triggers that that are going to make your partner a little upset so sometimes you got to kind of massage the things that you're going to say um or not say them at all uh so sweet talkers tell us have you guys ever had any issues with that have you ever had to kind of like smooth things over um or maybe sugarcoat something because you just because you had to watch your delivery of your message or your question? We actually have some sweet talkers chiming in.
Hey, shout out to Black and Kinky Lifestyle. Thanks for jumping in the suite, guys. What did they say? Hey, guys, it says swingers would definitely have to see a therapist that are familiar with the culture yeah correct and we have a new sweet talker um mister says that swingers need help too yes swingers need help to need help too yeah um that's right man um but yes i don't know if i would be able to like have a a conversation with a therapist about lifestyle shit if they weren't familiar, right? Yeah, right, right. Because all of the typical swinger insecurities would come into play.
Are they judging me? Are they looking at me like I'm crazy? Are they going to try to, you know, give me a pamphlet on saving my soul? You know what I'm saying? Right.
Saving your i don't i don't want that i want somebody that's gonna that understands what we're getting where we're getting down you know what i'm saying and most of it is where you're coming from you know and don't just think that oh my marriage needs saved because you're cheating on your wife and you or your husband you need to figure out how to fix it yeah no like i need you to like listen to what we're saying yeah exactly we have a black and kinky shouting out again they said what yes therapists may not be go ahead you know i can't be educated in it and make some terrible judgments right right yeah exactly they can make some judgments that they're just not you mean just like anybody else right um they're still vanilla therapists you know um and they will be the same as if your vanilla friend if you try to explain it to them they'll be looking at you like you're crazy uh-huh like oh shit their marriage is in trouble exactly yeah something's not right or yeah so you know need to go you cleansed and all of that.
But yeah, this is an interesting turn that we took. But yes, so your mental, you got to keep your mentals right. Like Marshawn Lynch said, you got to take care of your mentals and take care of your chicken, right? you remember that he did yes he did that was funny that's right you gotta take care of your mentals and you gotta take care of your money basically is what he's saying so that's another aspect of uh Swinger Fit, the financial aspect, man. Right? Yes. You got to pay to play sometimes, man. Pay to play.
And what do you think it's like for a couple who maybe one partner wants to party every weekend and parties are not cheap not all the time parties are not cheap i don't know what parties you guys go to but they're not cheap yeah in the dmv area depending on where you go they can kind of run up on you like you said uh this life is pricey this life is pricey yeah this life is life is very very pricey Yeah, because once you start tallying up, like, you know, your Uber rides. Your outfit. Your BYOB. Once you bring your own liquor or whatever. Your outfits. Actually, that saves you money. Facts.
Facts. The BYOB. I don't mind that. It saves you a whole chunk of dollars in the DMV area. That is true. That's true. Word up. Yes, I'm okay with that part. But keep on tacking on stuff. Like, again, your Uber rides, your hotels, your outfits. Your outfit, your hair, you make everything got to be tightened right. It'll add up on you. So, and again, but that's just like attending like local things.
Take it out to where you want to go to resort outside parties right in resorts it'll tally up on you real quick hotel room child care yeah those are good ones too oh right bingo thanks black and kinky child care boom man um we gotta bribe a whole teenager yeah we do yeah we do and she expensive for one what couple of hours right a few hours a couple dollars and we got to order a pizza for you yes she's expensive expensive center so we got another sweet talker that said that's real talk the ls is not cheap and not for the broke not for the broke i'm telling you it's not we have another sweet talker what does what does she say right there babe says that um listening to priority society society and they had a couple that wanted to fuck in their car instead of getting a hotel but no no no that's a big no no what we look like yeah like we're not like no in high school or something high school no we they trying to treat us like we some pros out here some prostitutes on the corner like come on here bang in the car like some prostitutes man like a like a straight john no thank you no no thank you pass but i thing.
So, you got to make sure you're, like, financially fit for what you want to achieve. Yes, that's correct. This swinger fit thing is not a standard across all boards. It's all about what you and your partner want to achieve. So, hey, man, look, if they want to bang in their car, somebody out here might say, yeah. Somebody may. I don't know.
It just may not be your cup of your cup of tea it might not be yeah it might not be our cup of tea but it might it might work for them so hey good i mean we've had sex in the car with each other right i was about to say that i mean we've dibbled and dabbled with other people in their car but that was like uber rides where the driver is like fuck yeah the driver had a good night but we didn't have sex. No. But you know what I'm saying. Yeah. So, yeah. But, yeah, it's all about just being prepared for what you want to achieve. You know what I'm saying?
Especially when it comes to parties and resorts and plane tickets. When plane tickets get involved or you're trying to take a trip with a couple or something like that, it'll add up. It will. So you and your partner got to be on the same page about those things. And that goes into how fit are you? How strong is your swinger connection with each other and what y'all trying to get out? How do you think ours is right now, babe? Are we on the same page?
Am I pushing and tugging you all over the place oh no you're not but i have to keep him honest these days because he keeps booking up our calendar yeah and i'm like hello i love you but we gotta slow it down we've got to slow some of these dates down because we also need to have a date with each other. And that's the other thing. That's true. You know, within the Are You Swing or Fit is that sometimes you can get caught up and you're entertaining like all of these friends and these groups and things like that. You're having a good time and they're having a good time.
But also you have to take a step back and have a good time with each other yeah um and sometimes that can be missed when you're trying to catch up with so many different friends or just people in general and keep those relationships going and i mean we also have family things that we have to do so those are the things that I have to remind him occasionally about because he gets really excited. I like my friends. Really excited. No, I mean, you're absolutely right, though, right? You got to make sure you're keeping each other a priority because time will fly by.
And before you know it, you're booked two months in advance. And it's tough, like you said you said when you have kids when you got families and the kids are busy and they got like busy weekends and all of a sudden you know your friday goes to sunday night like just like that and um you know and you missed each other completely yep and this and you know and it's it's tough like during the week because you got work.
You got work and you got practices and you got, you know, whatever, recitals or you got, like, you know, shopping things that you got to take care of at the last minute because, you know, maybe a button came off of somebody's jacket. Now you got to go to a tailor or you got to do this and that, you know, and then you don't have that time with each other, man. And it will, time will fly. It sure will.
So those are the things that i'm sure we're not the only ones that go through um these obstacles we just got to make sure you keep that schedule yeah man so all right what about the physical aspect of swing or fit what do you think there so yes so the physical aspect i mean physical can be are we saying that physical like as far as how you look okay sure yeah i mean that's the thing it's completely subjective when you're talking about um about how you look it's more about like how you feel physically you know what i'm saying right how you feel physically not necessarily like are you physically physically fit right but that's gonna be some people's thing right that's our thing i mean that's a part of our yeah no it's a part of our lifestyle and we don't have to apologize for that like we like to go oh they're going my mic yeah we like to go to the gym we like to hang out um and we like we're physically we're active um so we like to do that and we like to bring that part of our lives into our lifestyle game as well but that's not to say that everybody should or has to has to be oh but again this uh hashtag swinger fit is all about your perception about what makes you comfortable to get what you want out of the lifestyle absolutely so physical fit also could just be like how do you feel like do you feel great when you go out and how when you go out to the parties or to the events do you look good how do you feel when you're there it's all about you're sexy not what everybody else thinks sexy is, because that could be different depending on how you look at it.
Yeah, so tell us, sweet talkers, what makes you guys feel sexy, period? What makes y'all feel sexy before you head to a resort or before you go to that meet and greet or before you go to that hotel takeover or Black and Kinky? I know you guys were at that awesome Pajama Jammy Jam.
We was watching y'all instagram i saw how y'all was getting down looking all hot in there man so what y'all do to feel to feel at your best before you went to that party right so while people are taking some time what what about you tris what do you do before you head out before we head out but to make sure that i feel at my best yeah um let's see what do i do i do like 100 squats and um a whole bunch of setups no i'm kidding no i don't actually um but i well before we go on vacation i kill it but yes right i mean we work out i'm not saying that we don't work out we do? We work out.
But when we're going on vacation or just going out of town, we do kick up our workouts. And it's not really to, oh, let me just get people or, you know, attention or anything like that. It's really for me.
I just want to feel my best self when I am presenting, presenting you know especially when you're in the buff and you're naked out to people I want to make sure that I'm feeling my best self so in in addition to that I like to dress sexy yeah man right yeah that's my favorite part about the lifestyle it's dressing up honestly um I love the themes and I love to dress up that's right that's my favorite part about the lifestyle is dressing up honestly um i love the themes and i love to dress up that's right that's right and and um you know we we work hard for it you know you work hard and i know a lot of people out here do so um you know like some people's uh swing or goal could be to get into that hot, sexy dress or to look great in that particular pair of heels or into that swimsuit that you've been eyeing for a long time.
It's all about just your confidence level. Absolutely. It's all about your confidence level and what you want it to be. Oh, here we go. So Black and Kiki says, what are Locke's favorite small goods? Yeah. What are Locke's favorite smell goods? Smell goods. Sorry. What's your favorite smell goods, Beck? I got you. I got you. I'm going to go ahead and tell y'all before y'all think I can't read. Listen. It's not that I can't read. I can't see.
I don't have my glasses on and I got this mask and you know you know how i go uh let's see my favorite smell goods like on on tryst it has to be that um anything in your mark jacobs collection and now you're your coach i love that coach uh perfume on you honey oh the new one yes i love that too the new um coach perfume is actually pretty good yeah i like that a lot because i normally actually like mark jacobs but he wanted me to try something new so he bought me that and i actually love it and black we actually missed another one what did they say right there yes it was fun oh the party yeah you mentioned the party i know but read the it says yes it was fun i think i was there wait i think i was there something about watching my woman oh it's something about watching my woman really sexy and knowing most of the folks in the party all want her yeah and knowing that she's mine that's awesome that and i definitely can feel that one um that's that's one of the best things that i get out of the lifestyle in general and just being with my wife man like walking around um at like school events like you know parents and teachers kind of eyeballing you it's just like the best thing in the world like yeah that's me that's me yeah yeah it doesn't hurt to have a little um arm candy he can be my arm candy too that's why I got to keep working out that's why you gotta do like all them damn push-ups yes you do I ain't trying to know no dad bod yeah man I'm not trying to have somebody swooping in and steal up my baby.
No, I think I'll tell you, go to the gym before that happens. Hey, babe, you want to come work out real quick? So, I mean, it's something I kind of got to disagree with you. You said we're doing this for ourselves, like when we work out and all that stuff before going out. I got to say no. Why not? Not all the time.
the time not me not me sometimes yeah i want to i want to look good but i also want to advertise me to like a hot couple i'm not gonna lie about it you know i feel better when i haven't eaten a bunch of carbs a few weeks before we go and you might be able to see a two or three full pack or something like a two or three or four pack yeah you can see one or two in there i like to feel good i like to feel confident about that i like to you know i guess present myself to the people that i want to attract you know what i'm saying i want to feel good about that um so yeah so i'll push myself a little bit um before we go.
Like, there's, I remember that couple next door, before they go on their big trip, I know that they do, like, a mean, like, group exercise challenge between them and some of the other participants that go on their Temptation Desire trip, and they all kind of, like, hold each other accountable. You know what I mean?
And that that's cool that's kind of cool i i like that i like that too so sweet talker black kinky says we may have mentioned it before but what are your grooming and shaving waxing etc before we actually go on a well out on adventure let's just say not even on like a trip right just any type of lifestyle event yeah um that's actually i think should go under like physical it does it definitely qualifies under physical swing or fit man so what is our regiment let's see for me i so i actually learned this from another um lifestyler um that we were on vacation and i was just sitting there like wondering like how the heck you get your vajay girl to be so daggone smooth and and clear and all of that what are you doing she's like oh i got lasered i said what you mean like how does it work and i started asking all of these questions and literally i think the next few months after that before because it was going into winter for us i sure did yep that spring for your sessions i signed up for that session yeah so i am lasered um completely um in the down under the down under to the rotunda yeah um so in it and actually i recommend it actually recommend it like there's it hurt oh it hurts it's not a walk in the park at all and it's not for the faint at heart but at the end of the day it is great like you don't have to do hardly any type of grooming or anything like that and your skin is smooth i recommend it to other girlfriends and lifestyle they're like oh what do you get wax no I don't get that it's like I am lasered they're like huh and then it always turns into like a conversation yeah man yeah but me I shave man I do the whole shaving thing takes me forever sometimes because I got to do the you know got to take care of the scalp there yep but uh yeah it's all worth it i mean one time before i think it was what before our first time going to desire and he though uh-huh i waxed him she waxed that ass and it hurt and i just got a crack i thought it was laugh i mean flaffable i laughed the whole entire time yeah it was terrible but um so yeah i don't understand how people can do that.
Like, I used to do waxing. I know. And I appreciate every minute of it now. And then, I mean, and I'm also considering lasering my underarms, too. Like, I'm just like, so like, just do it all. Yeah, just zap. Just make me bald everywhere. Take it all off. That's right. All right.
Now, Sweet Talker says that Ned's is the way to go bro that's right so so yeah so that is a part of our grooming the other things is just regular girl stuff like get your nails painted um or paint them yourself um eyebrows wax just little stuff like that little nuances about um those types of things yeah oh it's nair oh he meant nair oh nair yes it's on amazon it's the male version of nair called nats hmm huh google yes check that out gonna check that out look look the others we talked said thanks for the tip see that's why we're here guys we're here to help each other out those little secrets yeah no that's cool that is super cool so um yeah man let's go ahead and tie a nice little bow in this thing man and the other thing is oh sorry i'm sorry i always have my glitter your glitter yeah you gotta always have a little yeah i like the shimmer so i am that person that will like have like the glitter on and yeah you may get a little bit on you yeah that's right if you're lucky she gonna sprinkle you a little bit but go yeah no i was just saying like you know we're gonna go ahead and wrap this this segment up um we appreciated everybody uh participation in this um but yeah man so it's the the idea of just um of being swinger fitted is again it's not like to isolate people or kick people out of the group it's just like a measurement of how ready you are uh when you get in the game you know what i mean it's always something that you always want to lean back on and check in with your partner and see if you guys are still on the same page and ready to move forward um in your journey you know or step back right because sometimes sometimes you have to do that um i think that was a part of our advice in the in the jealousy episode like the very last tip was if everything's just not working and you can't you can't get on the same page it's okay to just take a step and take a break yeah take a little break refocus on your relationship and then and then try it again later after you figure out where the disconnection was so we still got to go back to communication because we talked about mental and physical and we didn't jump into the communication part so that's the third part of um what we're saying to be swinger fit um so communication communication you hear a lot of podcasts um podcasters say oh you know you have to communicate with each other you know blah as far as communication but they also forget and we do too that you you gotta have those internal and i mentioned this to lock tonight, this internal communications with yourself.
Like by yourself and try to understand what am I here for and what do I want out of the lifestyle so that you could do like a kind of a self check. To just understand, like making sure you're checking and if that if this is still what you want to do or if you have any other thoughts. Most of the time we just spend time talking to like your partner and sometimes you just need to do that self-reflection.
So I think that communication with yourself is also something that you should do every now and then just do like tap in yeah quit tap yeah yeah absolutely definitely um always check in man always check in so cool man you you good on that you ready to go ahead and get into Tris sexy toy chest yes let's get into Tris's sexy toy chest so we're gonna dig uh dig out her new toy that we're going to discuss right after this. All right, ladies and gentlemen, welcome back. We're ready to get down with Trish's sexy toy chest.
If you're watching us on YouTube Live, you just saw a sneak peek of it you ready to get into it I sure am all right go for it so this sweet little thing of a toy here is called the Satisfyer Pro 2 next generation and it's really cute it's rose gold it's perfectly girly and it's not too too big has a little it looks like it would be a uh like a shaver almost but it has like a little not like a little water hose handle oh yes that's what it looks like like a water hose handle yeah um so it has like a little nozzle at the end at the end of it it's so what it's for exactly what i was about to get into you're trying to read my mind tonight um yeah so what it is for is for suction supposed to suck on the click I'll see you next week.
it's so what it's for exactly what i was about to get into you're trying to read my mind tonight um yeah so what it is for is for suction supposed to suck on the click right and there are i don't even know how many levels it is actually but there are a few levels on this um the only thing that i can say about it so we we tried it and i tried it and i tried it again that same day and i just This is that we're going to talk about.
only thing that I can say about it so we tried it and I tried it and I tried it again that same day and I just was like okay so let me just make sure it wasn't just that moment but for me it didn't give me that much stimulation because it's more of a vibration than it is a sucker oh okay because even when I was playing with it like on my face and things like that right it doesn't suck is like i like a strong suck like i like for it to suck okay oh strong i hope y'all taking notes out i mean not like a oh what was that baby do it again not a god but a nice you know yeah a nice little firm um firm suction on your clitoris huh yes not not trying to bite me and and kill me no so it gave like a vibrating sensation yeah but not much suction of a suck right right okay so uh on a scale of let's say one to five let's just keep it simple where would they rank one being the worst five being the best i would say probably a two or three for me right in the middle okay and i'm an external yeah yeah so but it just wasn't enough it wasn't enough for me okay uh would you would you use it again definitely i'll try it again i mean we have it it's a toy okay i mean obviously yeah it's not gonna go and just sit and try it again?
Definitely. I'll try it again. I mean, we have it. It's a toy. Okay. I mean, obviously, yeah, it's not going to go and just sit and try it again. Cool. But it's just not my favorite. It wouldn't be my favorite go-to. That's all. Okay. Well, very cool. Very cool. You guys can try it out. What was the name of it again? It's the Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation. All right. Well, that's awesome, babe.
Thank you for sharing no problem so i tried no i tried to spread the the wealth so ladies and gentlemen thank you so much for joining us in episode 16 of living the sweet life it has been a pleasure we're gonna wrap up and we're gonna be talking to you guys again soon in 2020 yes thank you guys for joining tonight um we are getting really excited for um we're going to jamaica in a couple weeks actually we're getting closer now guys we're going to be going to jamaica and we're super excited and then the next thing is planning for naughty in new orleans and i can't wait to go you guys gonna hear all about it yes the prep yeah all about the prep and then the uh stories to come absolutely i can't wait i can't wait but thank you guys for joining thanks to all the sweet talkers we really appreciate it and looking forward to 2020 guys all right guys talk to you soon bye bye again we'd like to thank you for living the sweet life with us be sure to subscribe rate and review us on itunes spotify google play or wherever you listen to podcasts feel free to email us any questions comments or 90 thoughts at the sweet life podcast at gmail.com that is the sweet life t-h-e-s-u-i-t-e-l-i-f-e podcast at gmail.com you can also follow us on instagram at the sweet life podcast and on twitter at Sweet Life Pod.
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