A girls trip to Las Vegas! A sexy swinger Meet Greet! Yup - time for a quick recap! In this episode, we note a few of the fun details from our weekend apart. Tryst let s you in on her time at a rooftop pool party, sex toy store, and her first time at a male strip club! Loq tells you all about his time making new sexy friends and meeting other podcasters!Also, we pull back the curtain on what we think you should consider prior to exploring the swinger lifestyle. Every couple does it differently - has their own fantasies, their own preferences, and their own rules of engagement. We throw out a few topics to discuss that we hope will help you figure out what you want to get out of the lifestyle.Lastly, this jam-packed episode concludes with our Keys to the Suite! It s time for us to prepare for the audience-driven portion of our show. So, in this segment, we describe our version of the ground rules for participating in the Suite .Respect each otherLet s have fun!Keep it Sexy!Ask questions and engageNo names, bro!Enjoy!Podcasts Mentioned:Black n Kinky LifestyleThat Couple Next DoorOur Unicorn DiariesAlso checkout:PLAYGRND PartiesHow to contact us:Email us at: [email protected] us on:Instagram: @thesuitelifepodcastTwitter: @suitelifepod
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Speaker1: Living the Sweet Life is a podcast intended for mature audiences only. We'll be using sexually explicit language while discussing many different adult themes. So if you're under the age of 18, please stop listening. Also, please know that our thoughts and opinions should not be taken as professional advice. We're here to help answer your questions about the swinger lifestyle from newbies to longtime swingers unicorns and poly triads we hope to engage you all and encourage sex positive discussions now that we got that out of the way make yourself comfortable and join us in living the sweet life Thank you. welcome to living the sweet life she is my beautiful sexy sassy right hand co-host and wife the lovely trist and he is the yin to my yang chocolate husband luck and ladies and gentlemen we would like to welcome you to episode three of living the sweet life today we're going to talk about uh we're going to do a little vegas and meet and greet recap now we're going to do a little bit of pulling back the curtain and at the end of the episode we're going to talk about the keys to the suite right before we open it up but first we're going to do a little something new today We'll be right back. the curtain and at the end of the episode we're going to talk about the keys to the suite right before we open it up but first we're going to do a little something new today we're going to do a little something called how you feeling before Tristan and I go to any lifestyle event we like to do a check-in right and I think this is good practice for any swingers or any lifestyle people um when before you're going out right you you do a little check-in make sure everything's on on you make sure you're on the same page make sure everything is good so tris how you feeling tonight i'm feeling great tonight actually i'm excited about this episode um i think we got some key points to hit for the vegas trip and and i can't wait till we get to pull back the curtain. And how are you feeling tonight, Locke? I'm feeling good, man. I think we had a great day today. Today I'm feeling really productive. We got a lot of stuff done, man. A lot of family stuff. A lot of podcast work. So I'm feeling great, man. I'm ready to get right into it. Speaker2: All right. Speaker1: So let's get it started. Let's get into it. All right, so first we're going to start off with the lovely Tris. I want her to catch everybody up on her Vegas trip. Now, I heard some of this stuff, but I want to hear what she got for y'all. So, guys, I recently recently went to vegas on the girls trip there are about a ton of us and i did a good mix i mixed together my friends that i've had for a very long time i've mixed people that i've met throughout the years people from college and people from lifestyle so everybody and also family so everybody was on this trip together and only a few people know that we're in the lifestyle um and only maybe one or two actually knew that um some of my friends were in the lifestyle as well so it was a good test testing the waters of a combination of people that you didn't know how it's going to turn out. But it turned out to be great. Everybody had a good time. And a sexy bunch of ladies, man. I'll tell you that. And an extremely sexy bunch of ladies in Vegas wasn't ready. They weren't ready for y'all, man. Every now and then you was able to send over a little hot picture of yourself or uh we got to check out your your personal instagram and you was looking all delicious getting all caramel that dark caramel out there getting that sun yes thank you babe you know i i've been i've been getting ready for this vegas trip um just because i i'm a post pregnancy and i knew my trip was coming up so i tried to lose as much weight as i could um i'm still a little curvy you better stay curvy just sexy ass but um you look great man but uh i worked it out in vegas worked it all the way out um so the most exciting things we did, we went to a rooftop beach party. That was amazing. It looked like it was going to rain and it ended up clearing up. It was a beautiful day. We got to sit poolside and we rocked it. I tell you, you know, lifestyle people, they just know how to go to a party and just have fun regardless of what's going on we have people looking at us like what is going on in that corner over there like we were just having your own time in our own little bubble of girls um so we got the party started um as far as i think we actually tweeted out a picture of that one you sit in poolside with the the leopard yes locked it um the other thing is a funny story um as i mentioned that some of my friends was also lifestyle so of course that complicated question comes up well how do you know tris oh yeah when you got see that's that's like the problem too when you bring lifestyle friends around vanilla friends you kind of want to separate them but they always find a way to talk to each other and it becomes like so how do you know them so how do you know tris so how do you know her and yeah that question comes up. And one of my friends was like, oh, I know her through her. And then it left my other friend kind of on the ledge by herself to answer the question. But yeah, that question comes up a lot. You got to kind of think on your toes. Like, how do you know this person? yeah that is a tough one man like um i think some of my go-to's might be like i know them from work or i met them at a uh at a at a sporting event or i met him at a club or yeah like we met him at a party or something like that yeah and it usually doesn't go any deeper like yeah we usually don't ask more questions right you met him at a party like it's very simple just keep it to some type of general straight point that it's probably true you met them at a party you just didn't clear up what type of party it was my dick was hanging out when i did me right that your boobs was out right you're doing something but you met them at a party right the other adventurous thing that we did was that um we went to a adult sex store. I mean, you can't take a group of girls on a trip to Vegas and not go to a sex store. I mean, it's just like. What kind of world are we living in if they don't go? Right. If you don't go. Right. Mandatory shit. Mandatory. So we went and we actually went to this place called the love store. It was great. it was female ran store um the store itself was kind of spacious but it looked like a girl's store there were so many girl costumes so what was it kind of like dainty or kind of like put together what do you mean by girl store it was dainty it was put together like a woman put that store together and it smell nice it smelled nice it was neat it looked like a woman's store okay um but it was great uh the women that that were working that day they were very helpful and and all the girls just about bought something even the ones that are vanilla friends so yeah their lifestyle friends helped them vanilla friends like come on yeah let me show you how to use this double-sided dildo let me show you how to use this right so um the other thing we did was we went to a strip club so, wait. You're going too fast. What did you get from the sexy store? What did I get from the sexy store? So I bought weighted kettlebells.
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Yes.
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I also bought a sexy. Kettlebells.
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Hold on.
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Kegel. Kegel. I don't know how you say it.
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Kegel.
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Kettle. Kegel. Kbells are what you use at the gym kegel kegel you're right kegel bells right i bought a sexy outfit and i bought a flogger because it was cute and it felt amazing on your skin yeah that flogger was dope man we actually got to uh tickle around with that bad boy a couple days ago we did that was fun that was fun so i'm not gonna go into too many details i don't want to make you blush too late too late the other thing that we got to do is we went to a strip club so i haven't been to strip clubs that many um strip clubs in my whole entire life actually but this time was the first time i've ever been to a male strip club so i always pictured in my head that oh it's going to be like some strange guy's penis sweaty flopping around in my face grinding on my face i don't want no parts of it but that wasn't the case they did a whole show and some of it was kind of cheesy but we went to the set fire but yes the set fire and the thing was was that they actually enjoyed a lot of the show i did did. And the one is special. The one part I really, really loved. It is a crush. That the guy had a water bottle, ladies and gentlemen, that had holes in the water bottle. And he was dressed up as a like a bike rider. He had like a leather gloves on the chains and everything. And he took that water bottle and drenched his chest down and he's chocolate like I said you can have it right there on the spot huh right there you can have it you can have it when you like whispering in your ear or something oh yes and he came off the stage and his set was over and he started whispering in my ear. He told me I was making him have a Woody. I said, you have no idea, young man, what I could do. Right. Right. Yeah. From from the witnesses standpoint, you know, that I interviewed after this, this particular incident, you know, you was smiling ear to ear. Yes, I had no idea what to do with this information that he was giving me. That's hot. So, yeah, that was basically Vegas in a nutshell, just a whole bunch of sexy girls and tearing it up. That's pretty dope, man. I definitely wish I was a fly on the wall to see a little bit of that action. I'm glad you had a good time like i said before you know you definitely deserved it right like you you the mother of my child man like you've been working hard this past uh what is she seven months now you've been working hard you know so i'm glad you got to go out there and just kick it leave it all behind and just uh you know balls to the wall man and i and i absolutely did it yeah you did you just now recuperating i sure am a whole week later guys a whole week later i'm just feeling like myself again but how was your meet and greet hey man listen i definitely want to give another shout out to uh the hosts and everybody that put on the playground group meet and greet because it was legit the best one that i've been to right like and i'm so sad that you weren't there to to experience it with me yeah i'm sorry guys i couldn't make it yeah it's all good i mean it's just the way that the calendar fell uh but hopefully we we will be able to go to another one um and it was such a weird experience being by myself as a single male. But anyway, I'm going to get to it, right? Like the crowd, first and foremost, beautiful, beautiful people, man. Like I just really wish that you were able to see like it was hot couples. Like sometimes you, you know, sometimes we've been to a few meet and greets or parties or whatever and these things can be like hit or miss right but this one was definitely a hit like it was a lot of dope people and they were very welcoming and very inviting uh like uh when we got there when i got there i got to uh link up with our friends uh mr and mrs smooth i'm just gonna call them smooth man because they like the smoothest people we know, like they both are charming people, right? So just to keep that simple, they were home base for me, like usually your home base and not, you know, where I can go off and, and maybe make a friend and come back to you. But Mr. and Mrs. Smooth was like my home base. And they, they introduced me to their friends and their friends introduced me to their friends and it was just like a steady motion of just like meeting new people and everybody was cool uh so i appreciate that you know and i appreciate uh good old nate and live uh for being uh part of the host host group uh shout out to them you know you you might hear Nate and live speak on, uh, that couple of next door podcast, uh, dope people, man. And speaking of podcasts, I got to, uh, go in as a podcaster. See, they, they had a system where you wear different beads. If you're like, um, new, or if you're a returning person to, uh, their meet and greet, or if you're a podcaster right so i got to wear the podcast to be uh and i got to link up with uh another um that couple next door got to finally meet them j and k dope people man super dope and i appreciate everything that they've done um and i got to kick it with black and kinky again bomber and bell shout outope people, man. Like we got to really sit back and just kick it and talk about this podcast game and talk about the ideas that we have, man. Really, really cool people. Got to meet the Unicorn Diary, our Unicorn Diaries. Shout out to them. Also very cool people, man. Beautiful couple, man. Just full of energy and love. And you can see the love in the room man and you can see these podcasters just like their brains working it was just so cool to just pick their brains for a couple minutes but uh yeah i mean it was just a great experience man i felt like i was there on some on some business stuff but um again nobody made me feel weird being by myself being a single man and i did have the preconceived notion that it was going to be more difficult being a single male. But everybody was very welcoming. You know, that's that's good. Yeah. This is basically your first time really doing something like this. Normally we go together. Yeah. You actually gave me permission. You gave me straight up clearance to go and to have fun. And absolutely. If some shit went down, you allowed me to do that. But, but yeah, you know, so, but it stayed in a little situation for me for the most part. Towards the end of the night, you know, some drinks had gotten flowing and got a little touchy feely with old Mrs. Smooth. You know, we go back, her and I and Mr. Smooth you know uh so we we shared a little bit of a little makeout session but you know she's just a beautiful woman and they're just a beautiful beautiful couple man and we look forward to hanging out with them again in the future absolutely yeah so all in all hey thanks again to all of the hosts for the uh playground meet and greet thank you guys for making Locke feeling welcome and and comfortable I appreciate it absolutely and we hope to kick it with y'all again all right so now it's time to get to the meat and potatoes of the episode Are you ready? I am ready.
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Let's go.
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All right, man. In this segment we're gonna call this pulling back the curtain and it's so aptly named by my beautiful co-host and wife the lovely trist right so we're going to talk a little bit about a few of the different aspects to consider when you're getting into the lifestyle, right? Because there's a lot of stuff that goes into this thing that a lot of people not really you might not consider in the beginning. So we just want to kind of give you a little bit about a look at the things that we've gone through and things that you might want to think about when you're trying to get in. So every couple does it differently, right? Uh, every couple has their own reasons for getting into the lifestyle and trying this new thing. And, uh, of course every couple decides their own rules of engagement. There are no couples that do this thing the same, right? Absolutely. Nobody does it the same. Yeah, no. Yeah. Right. Right. Nobody does it the same. Everybody, uh right nobody does it the same everybody uh you know you might play play different uh than your your friends or you might meet people differently or you might give different names or whatever but we don't get into that so so here's a look behind the curtain at what you can expect, right? So let's see. The first thing on my list here is when you're considering a lifestyle, I think that you should have a conversation with your partner about why you're considering. Absolutely. Because as we discussed, if you listen to our bonus episode, we discussed the term crash and burn. the reason why you want to avoid crash and burn is that at the beginning you want to kind of have a conversation with your partner to understand why you are considering doing the lifestyle so what would be some common reasons that people consider opening up their marriage what do you think some people want to have the option of having what is called open marriages or they just want the ability to experience different sexual things with their partner I agree with that right do you think that um that opening up your marriage or opening up your relationship is a way to fix it like if you're having issues at home and you're like okay well hell nothing else has worked maybe we should start just sleeping around together what do you think of that absolutely not let me just be kind of a matter of fact if you are already having a problem in your relationship the lifestyle is not going to make it better actually it's going to magnify it make it worse i 100 agree with that definition i love the word that you used magnify right like it will definitely expose you and then make that problem bigger, whether it's like insecurities or jealousy or um you know whatever your whatever your communication right because in a lifestyle honestly you have to communicate first and foremost your communication has to be on point so there are things that you should discuss going in like why are we doing this and are we ready to do this is our relationship foundation strong enough for us to do this right like whose idea was it whose idea was it for us to get into it so i think it was kind of like a wee thing but it was a wee thing lock uh bought it up to me and I was on board all the way. Right, right. It was like I exposed you to the idea and you were not afraid to run with it. Absolutely not. I just think that I wanted to see what it was all about. I wanted to pull back that curtain and see what was behind it always uh more curious than cautious right yep yeah yeah but i mean that's that's what made it fun and that's why we get along so well like we we're always trying to have some fun when i was trying to push the envelope a little bit so that's us man so um okay so yeah definitely number one would be and again let me let me clear, like the list that I have here is not like exhaustive and nor is it like in order. So just keep that in mind. All right. So, yeah. So the second one I got is like, what are your fantasies? What are your fantasies when you're talking about trying to get into the lifestyle? It kind of, you know, pertains to number one, like what are you in it for? But like, what are fantasies when you're, when you're thinking about getting into it? Right. What do you want to do that you haven't done before or that you may have imagined that you could do? You have those discussions with your partner. Like, what do you, what do you want to do? Yeah. I think those are some things that you could be, you know, your fantasies are usually kind of are kind of things that you discuss early on in your relationship. If you're not too timid, right? Like sometimes people are a little too timid to talk about their fantasies. Absolutely. Maybe sometimes you just don't know what you want. No, you don't know. That's a good one. You don't know what you want until you actually start a lifestyle and you're presented with all these different things. Right. You're. Yeah, I agree with that. A hundred. Like, yeah, sometimes you don't know what you want until it's like laid out in front of you until you're like at the buffet. And oh, shit. Garlic shrimp. Right. I wouldn't like some garlic shrimp. Thank you very much. Absolutely. Absolutely. You don't even know what you want until it's laid out until you have the option until you have the option to actually do it and i think that you know i'm glad that we're talking about pull back the curtain because you know there is a um presumption out there that you know that everybody that's in swingers or use the term swinger or lifestyle that everybody's just out having sex with everybody and because i see you okay now we're going to just go and start humping like rabbits like automatic right automatically and that is far from the case right it could not be like it's a protocol to this yeah absolutely and i think the way you tie that together with the fantasy part is like we're not going to do anything that's not a part of our fantasy like i'm not just going to go into a room and just start making out with everybody because of course you have the big c word which is consent first and foremost right like you just can't go around grabbing ass and and filling on boobs or whatever without somebody's permission and and that's what Trish was kind of alluding to when you're talking about protocol. But we'll make sure we discuss that in further detail in another episode, because I'm not trying to go too deep right now. That's correct. I'm gonna get up on my soapbox and I'm not going to get down. No, you're not. Let's go to the next one. All right. So the next one you should definitely consider somewhere along the lines is who's the gas and who's the break so what do you think what do i beat him to it you did you did beat me to it all right so the gas let me just define it right i mean i guess it's pretty self-explanatory right the gas is the person that's like let's go and the other person's kind of like no let's take our time let's think about this right yeah okay all right fine yes i'm the gas god damn it guilty as charged yes i am i am definitely the gas i am the gas i am the one that says i'm the shoot first ask questions later type in in this particular situation he definitely is and i am the break like hold on wait yeah mean, that's because you're super picky. I am. I don't deny it. Yeah. But that's all right. I mean, you've gotten us into some good situations. But here's the thing. I am picky by nature. I'm not picky because we're in the lifestyle. Facts. Yeah, that's facts. Like, you're picky about everything. Absolutely. Like the damn paint on the walls. This is true. Got like 30 swatches of paint. This is true. Took forever to paint our bedroom. It took us three years to paint our bedroom. But we finally got there. We did. So, yeah. I mean, you know, that's just how my wife is man so um but that was kind of tough to learn in the beginning though like we we had to learn how to pace ourselves or i had to learn how to pace myself because walking in the door walking in like to a a sexy club or a sexy uh resort or whatever i would literally like turn into a walking talking penis like i would just transform into a giant penis walking around no brain just i wanted everything i wanted to do everything my i went into sensory overload and that was a lot of pressure on tris i didn't you know do anything crazy but i just wanted to do everything and she had to just kind of reel me back in like hold on we don't have to take the whole buffet tonight right hold your horses tiger we can wait we can take it in courses yeah absolutely absolutely so yeah um so yeah i'm definitely the gas and she's the break and absolutely i think it's worked out well for us thus far i think so yeah and you know i've gotten a little bit more comfortable in balancing it out And and let's not let's not front right like there are times where we will switch there are times oh yeah i'm pulling your card i'm pulling your card you will definitely uh become the gas pedal once the clock strikes a certain hour and you start getting sleepy and everybody's taking forever to get to my saying to get the play session going uh are we doing this or what absolutely are we gonna do this or what because i'm sleepy and that's absolutely that's pretty much when everybody says okay and drops they draws and we have some fun that's absolutely you become the boss i i do i feel like we're already in the room right we've already had some drinks yeah yeah what are we waiting for are we doing this or not because i've got to go to sleep and then i gotta get breakfast in the morning i gotta eat in the morning that's all right baby i will feed you yep i'm a creature of habit when it comes to this yeah so cool all right cool so the next one uh i think that's number four all right this is a this is another big one and this is this could be a huge topic what is your sexual preference now okay when we let me let me just take us back. Like when we first started in the lifestyle, right, there was literally on on the websites when we were Googling shit and looking up stuff on what is the lifestyle and what does everything mean? what the soft swap mean or whatever? We found definitions of like or like requirements on what your sexual preference should quote unquote should be. And it was like the male should be straight or whatever. Or actually there was no requirement there. It was like nothing said about the male, but the woman should be a bisexual. Like we legit saw that shit. Yeah, we did. And it was like that was a lot of pressure on on us and especially on you who had never defined yourself as bisexual in any kind of way.
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Absolutely. Yeah.
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So actually would cringe at any type of aggressive female that tried to talk to me yeah yeah you would I mean I mean that's just because they were aggressive in the first place like I think aggressive people just was like you know they are a major turnoff to me to you whatever like even if it's an aggressive female coming at me that's a a turn off. Yeah. And just I think that at the beginning for me, I did not want to identify into being a bisexual woman because I'm not. And I felt that at the beginning that people that said that they were bisexual, that the women would be very aggressive and just try to um tattoo without your consent or asking for your consent because they just think that oh well you're bisexual then this goes anything goes anything goes you should be cool with this because i'm a woman no right yeah that's terribly unfair um yeah so even then it was just like i i don't that's not me right right so getting back to uh this bullet here when we're talking about maybe trying to understand your sexual preferences i guess it kind of ties into what are your fantasies right like if if you have the fantasy of, you know, um, being a woman and wanting to figure out if you are bisexual, if you have fantasies of playing with another woman or if you're a male and you have fantasies of playing with another male, you should definitely have that conversation prior to going into the lifestyle because you do not want to get into a situation where, you know, some shit just pop off and you're not ready for it like you know you have a woman that's you know okay it's you have two women in a room and then somebody's trying to figure out who's going to grab whose boob and you're not really really into that so you kind of got to figure out these things beforehand not saying you're not supposed to define yourself but kind of understand what you want out of this absolutely before you get into a situation and there are so many different like quote-unquote labels we don't really care for all the labels no bisexual or bi-curious or bi-playful all these crazy terms it's like how do you define this it's like we just do what we want to do in that moment yeah yeah whatever we are attracted to in that moment we do yeah right like whatever you want to do at that moment right so yeah um but yeah that's definitely a discussion to be had uh so yeah the next bullet would be um what are you attracted to what kind of couples are you attracted to what kind of people are you attracted to for me so lock says that i'm very picky in general like as a human i'm also very picky when it comes to what i'm exactly attracted to but i i don't feel like i am because i'm kind of attracted to the same type of sprinkles have to be there at the beginning do you agree they gotta be funny funny somehow not even just funny you gotta have swag and funny right yeah you have swag and funny you have my attention right away right and that you're you're attractive i'm all i'm all here yeah i'm listening but attraction for me it's not just because you you look great because you can look great and your personality doesn't go with my personality and then we just does we don't vibe together or you You just sit there and be quiet and cute and that doesn't go with my personality. And then we just does. We don't vibe together. Or you could just sit there and be quiet and cute. And that doesn't work for me. I need you to be. Have some swag and funny. Yeah. Same here. Like I like confidence. I like confidence. Of course, I'm not going to front. You know, I like a sexy body, man. Am I a breast man or an ass man what would you say what do you think i think you're an ass man i would concur absolutely yeah i think definitely an ass man and the only reason the just a side note to this is the first time i think it was no this first or second time i can't remember at this point that we went to hito and he was telling me i remember this conversation you were telling me i'm being too picky we're at this resort and you don't like anyone at this resort out of all of these young people that's here i was like well what about her she has a big booty like you like right buddy right at the buffet right at the birthday and he's exactly what he said he said he was like yeah buddy and i was like yeah her and then saw her guy and i was like yeah yeah i'm gonna like them as a matter of fact i think that was the first time we was at he though that was our second lifestyle trip okay so that was your first time that was the first time we was at he though yeah and it and it just worked itself out so see right just gotta be patient yeah nah you're right yeah she she big old booty and i yeah to this day probably the biggest booty that we've had moving on to the next you kill me how you get all shot but we got you gotta think purple devils he thinks purple devils all day 24 hours day yeah mrs smooth you heard that right the purple devils that's for you anyway um moving on to where we at, uh, number six, right? What are your rules? What are your rules for engagement? Like, um, this is like a doozy. It is. So we're, we're not gonna go too in depth on this episode about rules, but I think that we will pick this up, um, at some point later there are many rules to swinging that people don't understand. They didn't realize that it was this way. Like I said previously, swinging is not just showing up somewhere and everybody just takes their clothes off and say, hey, let's go. That's not what it is. It absolutely is a form of dating. Yeah. It is definitely like, um, it's a, it's protocol involved. It's a lot of chivalry and depending on the way that you do your thing, but that's why, you know, um, that's why you have your rules because some people like to play on the first night. Absolutely. That's not how we back in the day like when we went on dates i didn't necessarily have sex on the first night not all the time or whatever but uh for the most part you know you kind of just you waited for the right moment so that's kind of how we play together right we wait for that right moment we'll meet you we'll we'll like flirt or whatever might even get a little makeout session but nine times out of ten not gonna front nine times out of ten we're not gonna play on the first we will not on the first night no but that's a part of our rules and um what's our newest rule we have a new rule yeah all these years we've been in the lifestyle your rules evolve your rules do evolve do evolve. They don't stay the same from day one to now. Some rules do. Some rules are exactly the same because that's just a part of your protocol. But then you add rules or take rules away as you evolve. So our newest rule all these years later is what, babe? Don't change the rules during a situation. Right. You cannot change your rules as a situation is happening yeah yeah that that's too much pressure on your significant other that's like you know you know you're getting into a scene and you've agreed like this is a soft swap situation like these people are nobody's ready for you know for a full swap we're not you know mentally prepared to full swap with these people and then you get in a situation the alcohol is flowing and it's like well can i please have sex with her yeah don't change the rules that's way too much pressure under the moment it's a lot of pressure on the moment and we've gotten our hands slapped yeah and then you'll mess around and uh you know have to have some awkward conversations the next day when everybody's sobered up or have you know your little hangover headaches and all that so absolutely it's no fun so no change in the rules during a situation that's our newest rule that's our newest rule yep so um but we have other rules also but um i think, like I said, your rules evolve over time. Our other rule is that we don't play. Well, no, that rule has evolved too over time, is that we don't play without each other. True. Yeah, yeah. I mean, most of the time we are in situations together but it has to be a major like uh like we have to be really really comfortable with a particular couple to allow um to grant like the permission of each other to to play with that couple right um Right. Um, you've granted me permission, um, at the meet and greet, but, um, you know, circumstances, uh, didn't fall that way. Um, but the permission was there, which was extremely like erotic for me, right? Like it took me to a whole nother level of appreciation for you. And what we're saying is that for us, it takes time like we're talking about it took me to a whole nother level of appreciation for you and what we're saying is that for us it takes time like we're talking about it took it takes years yeah for us to actually develop that relationship with someone for me to just say hey yeah you can go play without them because um you know that they are also looking out for the best benefit of your relationship right yeah you You know, are they actually just they just genuinely care about you you know right um but yeah you're right yeah so for the most part we we play together but yeah there have been sexy instances where uh you know you've given me permission to like uh go ahead and uh get the party started without me. I'm on my way home. Absolutely. Yeah. But those are just examples of some of our rules that we have. And how rules change. And how rules change and they evolve over time. Okay. You have one more, right? Yeah, I got one more. One more. All right. We're going to bring this segment on home.
Speaker2:
So this is another big one.
Speaker3:
And again, it kind of ties in. So what do you want to get out of the lifestyle?
Speaker2:
You want to answer that or should I? You can answer that.
Speaker1:
All right, I'm going to go ahead and tell you. All right. So what I want to get out of it for you and I is I want us to be able to be old and gray in our 70s, 80s or whatever, and just look back and say, yo, we did some wild shit like we had fun. We lived. I never put constraints on you to not be who you are. Right. Like, I think I wrote that in my vows to you like I'll never douse your flame and I promised that to you then and I and I promised that to you now like I want us to keep going like I want you to know that you are free to be you and have fun and to be sexy you want to do some sexy shit you are you have my blessing like i want to see you be your best self and i want us to be able to look back and say you know what yeah you lived through it you did that you did that and have no regrets about it yep absolutely and that we can go on vacations and be nude and free yeah man and live our best whole life and not have anybody judging you absolutely man just to be the freest that you can be all right literally free when he comes back from vacation he wears nothing for weeks man we told them that thanks tell him again he likes to be free i do free balling in it. Free balls. All right. Well, cool. So, yeah, that's a little pull behind the curtain of the things that you can expect or the things that like swingers have gone through these conversations that have been had prior to getting into it or even during. So, yeah, that was a little look behind. So we're going to move on to the next next segment we're going to give you the keys to the suite we're talking about our future episode yes pretty exciting things that future episode four yes episode four and beyond babe episode four and beyond the game is about to be changed so this is the what we gave you we gave you the preview we gave you the idea we gave we laid down the groundwork on what we plan on doing with living the sweet life now the idea behind the sweet life is that we want this to be a an audience driven conversation about the lifestyle i'm sure you don't want to hear us ragging on and on and on episode after episode about you know shit that we've done or things that you know yeah like some ideas that we have or whatever um you know while that's all well and good we want to get your involvement directly yeah and we want to hear from other lifestylers yes get your opinion on how um things have went for you absolutely um or newbies that may be just interested in what this is yeah so it we're we can't wait to hear from you guys absolutely it's going to be an open forum right so the plan is to have an a youtube uh live stream and we're going to open it up we're going to call it opening up the suite and everybody's going to be able to chit chat with each other, ask us questions directly about a topic that we present. We're going to talk about the topic for a few minutes, uh, get everybody's juices flowing. And then we're going to, uh, start fielding some questions. We're going to talk back and forth to you. You don't have to wait. You don't have to just send us an email and wait, you know couple months for a response you just send us a a chat ping us on here or whatever so we're going to give you the keys to the suite right so we're going to tell let's just lay down some ground rules that's always a good thing when you're going to a lifestyle event right absolutely let's lay down the rules lay down some ground rules so rule number one is we're going to respect each other right like that's just should be first and foremost when we in the in the chat or when we in the suite. We want y'all to respect each other's opinions. We don't want anybody cussing each other out. You know, we don't want any any crazy, unnecessary, vulgar language. Sure, this is an adult podcast. It's going to be some fucks and shits and pussies and dicks. that rhyme but um yeah so it's gonna be some fucks and shits and pussies and dicks that rhyme but um yeah so it's gonna be some of that but nothing that's unnecessary towards one another let's just show some respect okay that's that's key number one absolutely and let's have fun that's key number two let's go and have fun let's have an amazing time and then have some amazing conversations yeah Yeah, absolutely. I'm loving that, man. We definitely want to have a good time. Let's everybody have a put a smile on their face. Log in. We're going to sit down and just chit chat and we're going to chop it up. And we're going to see if we're going to make some people laugh and answer some questions while we're at it. So number three, we're going to just keep it sexy, man.
Speaker2:
Right.
Speaker1:
We're just going to try to keep it sexy. We're going to keep the conversation on topic. We don't necessarily want to get into a bunch of politics and, you know, all that shit. That's not the forum for this. Like we here to be sexy. We here to talk lifestyle. We here to make friends and answer some questions and get people get people's juices flowing on, uh, lifestyle stuff, answer some newbie questions or have some, some experienced, uh, swingers or podcasters, hopefully some podcasters jump in there and, uh, they can, you know, feel some questions or ask us some
Speaker2:
questions.
Speaker1:
Uh, so yeah, number four is that we're going to give you the chance to ask some questions and we're going to present a topic. We're going to go through that topic and then we're going to give you a chance to ask some questions that we may not have covered yet. We'll be right back. We're going to give you the chance to ask some questions and we're going to present a topic. We're going to go through that topic and then we're going to give you a chance to ask some questions that we may not have covered yet. Right, right. Yep. Ask questions, engage with each other. Don't necessarily have to ask us questions, ask each other questions. Y'all know how chat rooms work. And then the last one, no names, bro. Like, yeah, let's just, let's keep this anonymous, right? Like, you know, there's no need them busting each other out or whatever. And we we promise not to bust your names out there or whatever like that. We're just going to keep this anonymous and keep it sexy. We're going to keep it like a lifestyle event. Like when you go to a lifestyle event, they have the ground rules. If you do not follow those ground rules, you get kicked out of the suite. Boom. You get kicked out of the suite. So we're going to're gonna have a good time man we're looking forward to it like this is this is really exciting for me right like we done uh looked up a whole lot of we've done a lot of research on getting ready we're we're getting the suite ready um we still got a little bit of uh jazzing up to do in this joint we do we'll get there but yeah you guys are gonna uh join us on this ride of evolution uh for the sweet and the sweet life podcast um we appreciate y'all listening to us rant and rave do we have any uh things coming up any cool events i know we're planning um we're planning a new beach trip coming up soon oh yeah we're we just did that um a couple Thank you. up any cool events i know we're planning um we're planning a nude beach trip coming up soon oh yeah we're we just did that um a couple days ago yeah so we're planning a nude beach trip in the summer we're going with some friends yeah that should be a good look we'll see how it turns out yeah we'll keep y'all posted and again you know obviously the countdown continues to desire yes can't wait Can't wait to get negative wait we cannot wait to get to desire yeah man we were sitting out in the sun today and just got like tans tan lines wicked tan lines wicked that is some uncool stuff like i'm not about that tan line life i ain't about that tan line give Give me that full body. Full body glow with no lines. Can't wait for it. Can't wait for it. Well, we want to wrap this up, guys. We thank you for joining us for episode three. We so appreciate you guys so much. We are so excited for episode four. Yeah. It's going to be our first live episode and we can't wait yep thanks for joining us and living the sweet life thank you guys again we'd like to thank you for living the sweet life with us be sure to subscribe rate and review us on itunes spotify google play or wherever you listen to podcasts feel free to email us any questions comments or 90 thoughts at the sweet life podcast at gmail.com that is the sweet life t-h-e-s-u-i-t-e-l-i-f-e podcast at gmail.com you can also follow us on instagram at the sweet Life Podcast and on Twitter at Sweet Life Pod. So do you have anything else to say to our lovely guests? Until next time, keep living a sweet life. Bye. Thank you. We'll see you next time.
