Tuesday Talks: When You Run Into Someone You Know at a Swingers Party

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If you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and TikTok, head on over to swingersociety.net. Can't wait to see you there. Hey there, Pineapple people, and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast. We are your hosts, Northern Guy. And Southern Girl. And we are back with another rendition of Tuesday, We are. Talking Tuesday. Yeah. I thought we didn't do that anymore. That's why we have the jingle. We don't have a new jingle. We just have a new intro song. I guess I should listen to the podcast so I can see what people are talking about. So you just don't like blindly have no idea what you're talking about. I have no idea. You're like correcting me and you have no idea. What are you doing? Yeah. I'll report back next week. All right. Are you ready? I am. For this week's question. Let's go to the phone lines. Yeah. a kind of a niche question to ask. Not really, but we just got back from an event with you guys, and it was great. I had a great time, but we ended up running into some people from our everyday life, people that my husband grew up with and whose younger sibling was actually one of my students. I feel like maybe we didn't handle it the best way. We just kind of went over there and ripped the band-aid off. I think that kind of shocked them. So I was wondering if you had any advice on, hey, if you're at an event, like obviously we're there for the same thing, but what's the best way to approach that conversation instead of just ignoring it? Because our circles ended up So, yeah, that's the question. What's the best way to handle it? And, yeah, any advice you have would be great. Apparently, that's something we are going to run into more. Thanks. Have a great day. Okay. This is actually a really common question, but not one we've been asked on Tuesday Talk. Yeah, this is great. I actually love this question. People always, yeah, people always ask this of us. So, basically, her question is, How do you handle running into somebody that you know at a lifestyle event? Now, I don't know how her interaction went. It didn't seem like it went well, or at least she didn't feel. But in my opinion, what she did is exactly what I would suggest someone to do. I think ripping the mandate off, just going up and being like, hey, we're both here for the same reason, and that's okay. It's nice to see you. I hope all is well. I think for me that's the best way to handle it I think if you ignore each other and kind of like make it a theme that seems odder I mean let's be real it's going to be it's going to be a little uncomfortable for a few minutes it doesn't have to be I think it's okay that people you know are swingers it's okay that people they know are swingers I think it's just going to be okay I guess is the best way I can describe or explain it yeah I agree with you. I think a direct approach is probably the best approach. I will say, however, maybe you could probably be discreet about it. So maybe if like they're sitting and I don't know exactly what she did. She didn't really explain the nuances. You mean just like don't walk up to him like. So I'm saying it's like they're sitting with a bunch of other couples and they're like mid flirting with these other couples, maybe running up and saying like, hey, Uncle Johnny, I see you're at the swingers party, too. Yeah. Maybe that's like a want. Yeah, well, like kind of wait until they're walking off. Right, so maybe that's what happens. So strategically, I think approaching them directly and saying, hey, clearly I know you, you know me. Let's not make it weird. Let's not make it weird. You know, hey, we don't plan on being in the place. And I think depending on who they are and like how, you know, if they're family members or like how close you are, if you go to church together, I mean, maybe you want to try to then strategize the rest of your weekend so that you avoid Yeah, it depends on how you feel. I've seen people I've went to high school with at parties, and it's a little odd. I don't know that I want to swing with them just because I feel like we grew up together, so that would be odd. But it's okay to acknowledge each other. Right, but if they were in the other corner of a playroom, it wouldn't be weird, right? Yeah, you know. But if it was your sister or your mom, that would be weird, right? Or a cousin, yeah. You'd want to at least strategize with that person how to not. Yeah, or a co-worker. You know, I just think, and you don't even have to, I, you might think different. I don't think you even have to clarify it because, like, they may feel comfortable. You may not, and you may not want to tell them that. I just think, like, maybe it's, like, speaking to them, say, hey, when you're around them, but, like, if you see them fucking in the middle of the bed, maybe don't go lay next to them if you're not, if that's not something you're willing to do, you know? Again, I think on who it is and how, if it, I don't want to walk into my sister fucking in the middle of the bed, So I would say, hey, that's a completely different situation. We will not be in the playroom tonight. Or, hey, we plan on being in the playroom tonight. Yes. Do you plan on being there? If it was my sister. Now, if it was some random, this sounds like, would she say it was her husband's buddy? He went to high school with his younger sibling? No. Who she taught? No. Yeah. Her husband's friend, who their younger sibling, she taught in school. Oh, so it wasn't the younger sibling? No. It was her husband's friend. Yeah. Either way, it doesn't seem like it's not family. It's not like a direct relative. But I think how I would approach this situation is I would wait until they were somewhat alone and I would approach and say, hey, hi, Billy. Obviously, we know you. You know us. This is weird. But, you know, we have no issues, you know, no problems here. And we want to be respectful of whatever, you know, boundaries you're on. Right. Have a little conversation about it and then drive on with your weekend. Now, obviously, if it was somebody closer than that, that you had to kind of de-conflict, you would have to have conversations about who's where. And this sounds really weird and it sounds kind of crazy, but it's less we've seen mom-daughter, we've seen brother-brother, we've seen brother-sister, we've seen, you know, the thing about the lifestyle is it is a small community and there's usually only one or two parties per city, per town, right? So if you're a swinger and your family members are swingers, there's a pretty good chance you might end up at the same party. Yeah, and I think it's only as awkward as you make it. I think we are all grown-ups and we are all there to have sex or at least try to have sex with other people. And so I think we can approach it in a grown-up kind of situation and not make it any weirder than it has to be. So I think a lot of people do get freaked out and don't know how to handle it because they haven't like talked about it with their spouse. So like, if you see somebody across the room, maybe like step away with your spouse, be like, okay, that is my cousin, or that is my friend's friend's mom, you know, and kind of explain and then just kind of come up with a game plan. But I think at the end of the day, if everybody's respectful of each other, I think just like we say with every single scenario that we talk about here in the lifestyle, communicate. I think that's always like, that's the answer to everything that we do in the lifestyle. Just go up to them and say, guys, listen, we see you're here. We don't want to make it awkward. We love these parties. Is this your first time? We don't want to rain on y'all's parade, so we'll step back. I just think communicating and talking it through is always going to be the better way to handle it. To take that even a bit further, we've seen people negotiate this as awkward as you We had the twins on the podcast, right? And they're out in California. And twin sisters go to play parties together. They just don't go into the same spaces. And when they're in the public spaces, they keep their clothes on. And they said their rules and boundaries are they don't fuck the same people. So if one of them has sex with somebody, the other one doesn't. And that's not weird of them. They don't make it weird. They just, it is what it is. It's a fact. And they just, that's just how it is. And we've seen, We have friends that parents are in the lifestyle, and they all want to go on Blitz Cruise, so they talk to their parents. Hey, we're going to go this year. You go next year. Okay. Or what if we both go? We'll just not go to the playroom. When we're in the pool, we'll keep our clothes on. We'll fuck in our rooms. Hey, Monday, Wednesday, Friday, you get to go to the playroom. Tuesday, Thursday, we get to go. We have no siblings that have been in the lifestyle, and they are like, okay, we're going to go to the playroom in Orgy on Friday night, and you can go on Saturday night. And they kind of work it that way. So I know it's probably uncomfortable to see somebody that you've known for 20 years or a cousin or a friend of a friend of a friend. But the truth is, you've got people that have much closer relationships navigating this. And they're somehow managing it. So it's going to be OK. Well, and the truth is, you know, I think people are going to hear like, oh, going to a swinger party with your, you know, with your relatives. That's super fucking weird. And, you know, all that's some like, you know, you know, you guys are nasty or whatever. The truth is, think about when you were in high school, how many parties did you go to with your, you know, if you had siblings, right? Me and my brother went to the same party all the time. You don't think me and my brother ended up hooking up with chicks at the end of the night at some of these parties? We just didn't do it in the same bedroom or in the same spaces. You know what I mean? Like, it's really no different than that, right? Like, you just, you can go to a party, hang out with people and dance with people. And then if you're going to be intimate with somebody, just make sure you go to a private area. to be intimate, where your sibling or your family member is not going to see you. It's not really that far out when you really stop and think about it. I think it just sounds crazy when you first hear it. Yeah. So I hope that helps. It's just sex. It's not that serious. And just talk about it. Right. Yeah. That's 100%. And we're never going to handle it 100% perfect. We're human beings. And if it's a little awkward, that's okay too. Yeah. As long as we went into the conversation with good intentions and we were kind and sweet and respected other people. That's all we can do. Yeah. We actually have known family members that have gotten in fights before over who got to go to a party. Yeah. I'd like to say, I'd like to know that it was one of our parties. Thank you. Yeah, it was. It was a Swinger Society party that they were fighting over. It was a Swinger Society, yeah. So that goes to show you that it's not that abnormal. Now, another answer could be maybe don't go to Swinger Parties and you're close to you. Correct. Yeah. But then, I mean, honestly, like, let's say next year, Bliss Cruise is 6,000 people. That's, I mean, the odds are you going on that and maybe knowing somebody from, you know, I mean, it could possibly happen. So I think no matter how hard you try, it could happen. But yeah, if there's a community center in your small town, and it's all swing, and it's hosting a swing air party, you're going to run into someone. Yeah, right. It just is what it is. So if that's something, and we do hear that a lot, like, A lot of people are really nervous about going. I can think of like Tempted. I met a couple one time and Tempted was like 10 minutes from their house. They had never been because they just did not want to meet anybody. They finally came out to a swingerside event because they just couldn't take it. They just had to go because it was so close. They were like, this is the only time we come because we are so afraid to see someone we know. Yeah, I guess that is the good thing about when we do club takeovers. A lot of people do travel for those. So it probably is. But there's still a chance of you running into people. But there are a lot of people that come from out of town. The truth is, if they're there, they're there to do the same thing that you're doing. They're not just there to, like, catch the vibes. They're there. They're there for a swinger party. So we're all there for the same reason. Yeah, I agree. And I think the best thing to do is just, like you said, have the conversation. Okay. Anything else to answer that question? We knocked that one out. pretty quick. You're not alone. Well, and the truth is, if you're in this lifestyle long enough, you're going to run into somebody you know. So like you said, having the conversation with your partner ahead of time saying, okay, if we go to this party and we run into somebody that we know, what are we going to do? And kind of like almost game planning that out is smart. And my answer to that would be wait until they're alone and approach them, have a conversation. And then, if you need to, come up with a game plan to avoid making it any more awkward. And then continue about your weekend. Yeah. And have fun. Yeah. That's really the only thing you can do. Yeah. All right. Anything else for the Swing Nation listeners? I think that's it. All right. If you have a Tuesday Talk question, we would love to hear from you. We could use some more questions. We're starting to run a little, like one or two more, but we could use some more. So a few ways to get a hold of us. You can email your question to theswingnation at gmail.com. eSwingNation at gmail. You can also make a voice memo, a voice note, and you can attach that to your email. If you don't want to call in, you can send your voice that way. Or we have a phone line that you can call in. And that number is? 972-302-7716. One more time. 972-302-7716. And you can also text into that line if you'd rather text us. So ask away. We'd love to hear your questions. Yeah. All right. Anything else? I think that's it. Sorry. I started looking at ticks. That's okay. All right. I get sidetracked really easy. Yeah. All right. 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