Tuesday Talks: First Time Hotwife - Clubs or Connection First?

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And Southern Girl. And we are back with another Tuesday Talk episode. Yeah. Talking Tuesday. It's Anne and Lacey. Lacey, the Wacinator. Oh, God. The Wacinator. Oh, my God. She's like the Terminator, but she with dicks. Okay. The Dickinator. The Wacinator. Okay. Yeah, because you're like, destroy the dicks. I do like some dicks. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, let's just move along. Wacinator. Combs via text. Via text. Because Lacey left the phone at the house. Yes. And we're trying. And we're trying to get these done. We have a busy mind. Secrets is like maybe this week if you're listening to this. I don't know when this is going to get posted. And then we've got Bliskers right behind it. So we've got to start racking up, saving some files. Yes. So we can get these out. Yeah. You know, because you guys don't want to miss an episode. No. You don't want an episode where you go on YouTube and you're expecting to listen to Dan and Lacey and see our beautiful faces on your TV. while you're drinking your morning coffee and have us not be there. They freak out if it doesn't. It's not there. I know. So here we go. Yes. Okay. So today's question says, hey, hi, Lacey. My name is Michelle. My husband and I are 59 and very fit. We have been married. Hi, Lacey. Hi, Lacey. No, there's no Dan there. Nope. All right. Next question. Okay. No, we have been married. I don't even get it. I don't even get it dressed. You pick. Not even. I'm not even part of this conversation. Sorry. Go sit down somewhere else. I'm going to get up and leave. That's fine. All right. We have been married 35 years together, 40 plus, and he has always wanted to see me sleep with another man. And I'm finally on board. We tried to go to a club in D.C. last year there on business, but we left because it was in a very bad area. We live in Florida on the West Coast and have looked into Miami Fort Lauderdale clubs, but they are very Spanish and we don't speak that. Do you know of any other good clubs in Florida? We have never been with anyone since we've been married. I don't think we would hook up with anyone that night. I like to get to know them, but it's a sexy start. Thanks for your help. Just listen to another podcast of yours. Love them. Okay. So it's a lot to unpack there. Few things. So let's go through it. Married 35 going on 40 years. Yeah. And her husband has always wanted to see her sleep with another man. Yeah. Which is congratulations on him for being consistent. Yeah. Well, and that's not uncommon. get in the lifestyle because the husbands express they want to see. Yeah, I think it's the top one, right? It's either the girl is curious about being with other girls. Yeah, that's probably number one. But number two is husbands want to see their wives get dicked down by other guys. Yeah. You know, lots of husbands do like it's more common than you think. So before we deep dive into the next part, let's kind of talk about that for a second. We obviously don't have a ton of time, but I think it's worth bringing up because this is something that so many men are into. I think a lot of men, say they want to see their wives get fucked by another man. I don't think they really think about what that means. So to her husband, let's talk about that. Let's have a talk with your husband. You need to be prepared that your wife is going to come in ways that you've never made her come. And you're going to have to be okay with that. Because nine times out of ten, she's going to fucking love it. She's going to... Well, just think about this. All right. They've been married 35, going on 40 years or whatever. He knows all of her noises. She probably hasn't had another man touch her for those 35 years, right? So even if this guy doesn't know what the fuck he's doing, just the excitement of a new guy touching her is going to put her in a different place where she hasn't been in 35 years, right? And so she might make noises that you've never heard her make. She might squirt. She might, I don't know, she might come in ways that you've never seen her. And so before you engage in this, you need to make sure that your manhood can handle that. Because a lot of times we've seen this happen and the man is not okay. Because he didn't, in his mind, it's porn, right? In his mind, it's going to look so different. But in reality, it can be a little bit harder to digest. Yeah, I think that's true. I think we, you don't know what type of jealousy or insecurity you could experience until it gets triggered, right? So it's kind of, you know, this is an emotional state that you're going to be in. And sometimes you get triggered and maybe you don't think it, right? Maybe you watch all this hot wife porn and you think it's hot, but then seeing your wife actually experience it, it could trigger something with inside of you. So just be prepared for that, right? Have a safe word, have, you know, something, right? And this is not to discourage you from doing this. It's fucking amazing, you know? But just emotionally, just to protect you and your heart. Have a plan for that going into it. Talk about, hey, if I get triggered by this experience, what are we going to do? Is there a word I can say? Maybe even talk to the guy about it. Like, hey, we've never done this before. I really want to see it. I'm really excited. But if for some reason I get triggered by it, then we're going to say this word and we'll just all stop. And most guys, especially if they're an experienced bull, have been doing this for a while, totally will understand that. Yeah. And if they don't, then they're not the guy. Then it's the wrong guy. Find a better guy. to go to clubs. They tried to go to one in D.C. It was in a bad area. Honestly, that's pretty common. Yeah. If you just get through the doors, it usually will be much like, for instance, we're going to talk about Trapeze Fort Lauderdale here. It's in a shopping mall. It's next door to a pawn shop. If you pulled into Trapeze Fort Lauderdale parking lot and left, I would not be surprised. Yeah. It is an amazing club. Yeah. Yeah. You just got to get through the doors. So let me. Miami Velvet, kind of similar. It's kind of a little bit of a sketch area, but great, great. Most clubs that we have been to from the outside don't look like much. And that's kind of on purpose. Right. You know, they also have to kind of put them in these spots because it's very hard to put a swingers club, you know, in the middle of. They don't get the best retail property for some for some reason. Yeah. If you go to, you know, somebody that owns property and say, I want to start a swingers club here, you know, not the most premier real estate rental companies rent to you. So if you're wanting to go to a slinger club, just know that going in, you know, don't. Judge, a book by its cover, walk through the doors. I mean, I have been to lots of clubs and know this. And when we pulled into Trapeze Fort Lauderdale, I was like, what the fuck? What is this? But get inside. Trapeze Fort Lauderdale. We have a tour video on YouTube. Go check it out. Beautiful club. Honestly, if you're in that area, that neck of the woods, that would be the one I would recommend. Yeah, so that's her next part of the question is they live in Florida. Where's the best place? So yeah, you are correct. South Florida, there is a very like heaven Latin, Spanish, Well, welcome to South Florida, though. Trapeze is a mixed crowd, though. It is. They do have Latin night. They do have. So you obviously are going to want to find. You go on like a Saturday night. You're going to have a good crowd. Yeah. But I'm going to say this. You sound like you need to get to know the person first. So I don't know if going to a club and just meeting someone and hooking up is your vibe. To me, you seem like you need to get to know somebody and have a good conversation. And, you know, and I'm assuming your husband probably does, too. I mean, like if I, and I can't speak for your husband, but I know if I had been married to somebody for 35 years, I would have a hard time just like throwing them out to the wall. Not that that's what he's doing, but like, I'd want to like have a conversation when the music's not too loud and where you can talk and you can talk about boundaries and you can talk about protection. When was he last tested? That's kind of the vibe I get from her from reading this. You kind of agree? No, I agree. Yeah. And so as somebody that's kind of did this bull thing for a while, And, you know, hot wives were kind of my specialty for there for a year or two. My suggestion to you, if you're trying to have your first hot wife experience, which is that's what we call it when a female engages with a single male, the way I've seen it work the best is have your husband get on STC, SLS, Cassidy. You're in Florida. I think that's STC, maybe SLS country, SLS or STC, theswingnation.net, free links or theswingnation.net. info, free links to all the lifestyle websites for free trial. Uh, so get on SLS, get on Cassidy, um, or I'm sorry, get on SLS, get on STC, try Cassidy too if you want. It's free. Um, and then reach out to a few guys, right? There's all kinds of single males on those websites. Just scroll, hit, you know, filter, male, single male, scroll, find some hot pictures, uh, look for guys that have good ratings, right? So there were two or three, you know, a couple other couples have been like, this guy's the shit. He showed, up, had a hard dick, he was awesome. Find a couple of those guys that you're attracted to, message them. What you're going to want to do, what I would ask to do if I was you, is have your husband meet him for a drink. Just the husband, right? You're not even involved, right? So just have the husband, and I've done this several times. Well, he needs to vibe check, right? So he needs to have her look at the pictures. He knows the kind of guys you're into. He knows what you want. I disagree, Dan. But she needs to vibe check, you're saying? Yeah. Okay, either way. All right, so have your husband meet him, or you meet him together. No, he can meet him, but So look at the pictures, find a guy that she wants to fuck, then have your husband meet him for a drink. Or if you want to both go out and meet him for a drink, some more public, and then vibe check in person, right? So you go out, have a drink with this guy, or have your husband go out and have a drink with this guy, however you're comfortable, meet this guy, just have a drink, you know, it doesn't have to be long drawn out, just meet him for a quick 30 minutes, hour, do a little vibe check, make sure this guy is not an asshole, he doesn't come around, he's a dickhead, he's friendly, he's somebody you can trust and respect, right? And then, if that's green, then set the date, right? So that's whether he comes over your house and you and him make out in the hot tub for a while, then you go fuck, whether you want to meet him out at a hotel, whether you want him to pick you up and bring you to dinner and then bring you back to his place or hotel, whatever this like fantasy scenario is for the two of you. Maybe your husband's watching, maybe he's not watching, maybe he's on FaceTime, you know, whatever the scenario that this fantasy, this is your fantasy, this is your guys, right? And the guys are going to try, if there was a good bull, He wants to give you whatever experience you want, right? So talk about how do you want to do this? Why am I getting turned on? I don't know. This scenario is hot. You like the scenario? Yeah, I do. Like, yeah. This is my life. Oh, it is. Whatever it is, right? Well, it was my life. So whatever the scenario is, if he wants to be there, if he doesn't want to be there, if he wants to be in the other room, if he wants to be on FaceTime, right? Set all that up and then make it happen. And to me, that's going to be your best experience. Trying to meet some random dude at a club that you talk to, over music for five minutes. To me, that's not the ideal hot wife experience. I really think for the hot wife lifestyle, you do need that little bit of vibe check, a connection, and have a fantasy night. Especially when it's so new. After you've been doing it for a while, you probably can walk into a club. Right, sure. At a swing or a club, if you're like, he's hot, hey, bro, hey, guy, you want to fuck? And you take him back in the room and he fucks the shit out of you, awesome, right? But for your first time, I think you need to vibe check it. You need to walk your way into it. You need to have all the, you know, safe words and bug out plans and everything in place. So that's an option. I also want to bring up that you are in Florida and you're in South Florida, which I know Orlando is not really South Florida. It's more central. Not far. A weekend at Secrets. There's also Caliente, which we've never been to, but we know great things about, you know, any one of those. You're near Hallover Beach and, you know, or Miami, anything like that where you can go. Being in Florida, you are like Florida and Texas are like the two meccas for the lifestyle. Like you couldn't ask to be in a better place. So our favorite place in Florida is Secrets Hideaway. Yeah. Trapeze would probably be my second favorite. Caliente, we've never been there, but I've heard nothing but great things. And Miami Velvet really isn't a bad club either. So lots of great places. But yeah, if you want to come to Secrets, we do takeovers there. So you can go to these. I'm sorry, swingersociety.net. We're actually going to be there just coming up in like, I don't know if this podcast episode. This will probably come out after. Yeah. Yeah. But check it out. We're doing one in September. But the cool thing about Secrets is it's a lot, you know, it doesn't matter when you go. Very diverse crowd, especially for takeover holiday weekends. You can hang out in the pool all day with your tits out. You can get to know people. And I would even say, you know, if your husband just wants to see you get fucked, you don't even necessarily have to go find a single guy. Yeah. You could find a cool couple and just say, hey, I really want to see my wife. Right. If you met us in a pool and this was your fantasy and me and you were attracted to each other, Lacey would be like, Dan, go fuck her. I mean, I've done that with a lot of girls. So like, I'm not trying to like advertise myself, but other guys too. It's very common for that to happen where married couples will let you borrow their husband. And the cool thing about something like a secrets, and you know, this can be had for like, if you choose to go on a bliss cruise or Hedo or whatever, like during the day, it's a lot of like laying out in the sun and hanging out and like yes there's music playing your husband's gonna get to see a bunch of titties like yeah there's music playing but that's a lot of opportunities to really get to know somebody and then like if you hit it off like later that night then you're like dancing in the club and you know then that's those energies are sparking and then you can move on to like a playroom or whatever i mean hell if you hit it off during the day you can say hey we really like you we don't have plans tonight we are going to go to the club for a while but after How do you feel? If you're vibing in the pool, you can say, hey, you want to go back to the room real quick? Whatever. I'm just saying, that's an easier way to kind of make that transition, especially when you're newer than it is just to walk into a dark club. Clubs are hard. Clubs are hard. You don't get there until 8 o'clock at night and you're out of there by 2 a.m. Most couples are fucking 11 midnight. That's a couple hours to make that connection and make something happen. It's hard. It's hard. Yeah, but it sounds like, because you've sent us a couple of Tuesday talks, it sounds It sounds like y'all are really trying to embrace the lifestyle and stuff. You are in such an amazing area and it looks like you also travel a lot. I would encourage you to go to all the clubs. Make them date nights. Check out Caliente. They seem like they're a little bit of an older couple. If club and loud music and EDM is not your thing, Caliente I think is more like chill vibes and stuff like that. Find wherever you fit in. Yes, especially because you are in South there is going to be, you know, definitely some of that Latin culture, but there's also going to be every other culture. That's what's so cool about it. And so you just kind of have to find who you're vibing with. And you can even, you know, find somebody online that you met and then maybe say, hey, we're going to be at Trapeze Fort Lauderdale. If I was her, I would check out Trapeze first. Yeah. Probably the closest. If that's not really your vibe, go check out Caliente. If that's not really your vibe, go check out Seagrass. Yeah. I guarantee one of those three places, you're gonna love yeah and probably multiple of them you're gonna love yeah i agree so yeah that's it so hope that helps um go have a hot wife experience right uh it's it's that time of year right sun's coming out and people are taking their clothes off it's feeling sexy um you know there's no time you guys have been married 30 you've been talking about this for almost 40 years now um you know yeah you're still get it get it in while you're still young yeah uh there's no don't wait you don't have to wait any longer right if you guys are on the If you're listening to the podcast, you got some good information, set a date on that calendar. Go check out a club. Go check out one of the resorts or set yourself up a date. Go check out SDC, SLS, Cassidy, theswingnation.net or swingnation.info has all the links that you need to get signed up on those and check them out. Anything else for the Swing Nation listeners? I think that's it. I think that's it. If you have a Tuesday talk question, I'd love, to hear from you. There's a few different ways to get a hold of us. You can email us at the swing nation at gmail.com. You can send us an email. You can send us a voice note or you can send us a video and we'll play your video on our TV in here and you can get featured on swing nation podcast YouTube channel with your question or you can call or text and that phone number is 972-302-7716. And I was looking through those text messages. There was a lot of dick pictures in there. Some of them were pretty impressive. I feel like I need to see there needs to be boob or vagina pictures. I feel like it's a little off balance now. You're getting too much attention. So send your boob and your vagina pictures to me. I'll actually look at it. Are you jealous a little? No. I want it to be an equal opportunity dirty pictures. I wanted you to be a little jealous. Maybe you have a hot wife and you want to send me pictures of her. Oh, do that. That's hot. it to me. For sure. Videos. I like videos. Little clips and stuff. All the things. Can you advertise like this? I don't know. But I think so. There's no rules here on the Swing Nation podcast. All right. I think that's it. Anything else? That's it. All right, guys. In a world full of apples. Be the pineapple. Be the pineapple, guys. Bye. Bye. If you want to see more of our content, you can find links to Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, OnlyFans and more in the show notes. Come join the conversation with us and other Swinger content creators on our Swinger Society Discord server. If you have questions or feedback, email them to us at theswingnation at gmail.com. Make sure you head on over to theswingnation.net and keep up to date on all things Swing Nation. We thank you so much for joining us and we'll see you next time. Goodbye. That's so hot.