Tuesday Talks: What to Wear and How to Prepare for Your First Club

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Two days before we leave for the Bliss Cruise. Wacey and Dan. Hush. Trying to knock out all of these podcasts so we can... Wacey and Dan. I might kill my husband. Wacey's gonna kill me. Please don't kill me, Wacey. All right, let's go to the phone line and hear this week's Tuesday Talk question. Thank God. We are really excited for our very first ever Swinger event to be your club takeover at the sanctuary in Salt Lake City coming up in May. My wife and I are brand new to this, and we have two questions. to your Tuesday talks, each of them a little different. First, my wife wants to know, if you're trying to dress super sexy for the event, what do you wear from the hotel to the event to cover up what may not be appropriate in the hotel or the walkover or the Uber ride, etc.? And then I was wondering, since it's our first time, how do you recommend we approach this with our mindset as far as what we're what we're comfortable doing, not doing. Should we night one have certain boundaries? Oh. Did you? The phone just, okay, here we go. Sorry, sorry. And then maybe move them for night two after a discussion. How would you approach this for your very first time, but for two people who are wildly happily married and incredibly sexual? Let us know. Thanks. questions? Did they give names? I didn't remember. No, he did not. All right. So no names. So anonymous couple. I'm going to assume we're going to call them Salt Lake couple because they I'm assuming they're somewhere in that area. Right. And so what they're talking about is we are doing a takeover of the sanctuary, which is a new club that I just opened late last year, I believe. And it's right there in Salt Lake City, Utah. I've heard it's a beautiful club. It's like three stories in this old building downtown. Very swanky, very upscale. You know, I don't know, but I would guess they've invested significant money into said club. We've actually had several meetings with the owners. We've actually met the owners. The management staff there, super nice people, really seem to care about the community, seem to be very like consent forward, very female positive, making sure it's a safe place for females and kind of letting them take the lead. So super. I could not say enough good things about the sanctuary and the experiences that we've interactions we've had with them thus far. Yeah. Okay. So we are going there in May. It's May 15th and 16th. Yeah. For a takeover. And that Friday we're doing Little Black Dress. Yes. And Saturday we're going to do a glow party. Yes. And we're actually I'll be DJing and we're actually bringing Sophie. Yes. With us. So Sophie Vore which if you don't know her she's a female DJ. Yes. She DJs for us with On a personal level, I love her because she plays all the music that I love. She has a girly pop vibe. Guys, don't worry. She definitely plays a little bit of everything, but if she were to lean a certain way, it's definitely the girls. She's a full-time college club DJ. She knows how to... She DJs several nights a week. She's always doing this. moving, bumping, grinding, all of the things. So super. I think this is me and her. I think it's going to be. Yeah, I'm excited. Never like done a like a back to back with her. So I'm excited to see how this goes. But should be a good time. So looking forward to that. OK, so your questions are this is apparently going to be your first lifestyle. Great questions, by the way. Event ever. And so you have a few concerns. One is your wife getting to the club in her sexy outfit. Yeah. Lacey. knows exactly how to do this because she does it about once a month yeah so for me i bought a relatively inexpensive trench coat from amazon literally like five years ago and i still use i use the same trench coat every single time so you know outward facing i just look like i have like a trench coat on in my heels underneath there sometimes i am nude sometimes i have a dress sometimes i have a lingerie but the cool thing is nobody It gives a little like Kerman San Diego vibe. You can get all different types of, you know, whatever you want. But that's what I have done in the past. Now, some girls will, like, especially like, I guess not girls, women. Like, if they have children, they will, like, they don't want their kids. They'll change. You know, they'll bring, they'll have their hair and makeup done and then they'll get to the club and then usually there's some sort of dressing. Or locker room. area rooms, you can do that as well. Always a bathroom. Usually there is some kind of changing locker room area. So you're going to see a combo of being covered as you enter versus you changing or, you know. So it really depends on where you're coming from. And some theme outfits just look like Halloween type outfits and you could probably get away with walking through a hotel lobby. Yeah. Now, for example, little black dress, the dress that I'm wearing, I bought three because I need. Oh, really? You bought three, did you? Is this going to become a trend? Because I think this is the second event in a row where you've bought three dresses. Well, little black dresses, I always buy more than one. Because when we do tour videos, I always wear little black dresses. So what you're saying is you already had some. And you bought three. Yes, that's exactly what I'm saying. Anyway, so like my dresses are, they're sexy, but they're appropriate. Like I could wear them through the lobby with some heels and it not be inappropriate. Now, like my glow out, I, the glow outfit for the next night. Because this is a club, and it's kind of neat that you bring this up, because we actually, on our Discord channel, we had this conversation yesterday. Somebody was asking, somebody said, well, I was thinking about just wearing just straight glow lingerie. And I said, well, because it is a club, and usually clubs skew more traditional, you know, like men. They do, yeah. Men in pants, men in a collared shirt, no backwards. to like a secret that's more like ravy um so because of that I just got a glow dress and Dan has a glow the matching glow shirt so even the glow dress it is like a bodycon dress and it's pretty sexy other than like why is this girl wearing a glow dress in the middle of May you know like I could still really walk through a lobby in that you know so both of them I can but I still will probably cover up just because I am a mom first and foremost always and when I stay in a hotel that's not a lifestyle or like swinger takeover I want to make sure that I'm respectful of the other parents in the club in the not the club in the hotel right so I always cover even if I even if I'm pretty appropriate I still cover yeah now I will say that the particular trench coat that you have is very thin yeah so it's not overly hot no and I don't know if we can do like an Amazon link in our show notes, but if we can, I'll be more than happy to drop that. And we can do that. And so if you just want the exact way, you'll have to give it to. Yeah. Um, it's, it's very thin. I've, I've wore it 40 pounds heavier and 20 pounds lighter. So it fits a, it fits me no matter what size I am. I can wear it in the summer and I can wear it in the winter and it's fine. So it's a good, like, if I forget it, if we go to a club and I forget it, I'm like, fuck, I forgot my code. It just makes me feel, As a mom, it makes me feel a little bit more respectful of the hotel and the staff and the people, even though I'm usually pretty. Now, if you're just wearing lingerie, you could probably, you know, throw shorts and a t-shirt over it or something like, you know, there's other ways to do a similar thing, right? Yeah, you 100% can. And then you get there and you just take that off. Yeah, 100%. So it's just whatever. I think the coat is a little bit like fancier way. It makes me feel a little fancier than having sweatpants. And you're not like pulling stuff over your hair and messing all that. Correct. Yeah, correct. So yeah, that would be my advice to the first half of your question. The second half is, I think this is a great question and one we've gotten quite often, especially when there's two nights. And do you want to take the lead on it? Because I just answered the other part, or do you want me to go? Remind me of what the second part of the question was. I'll just do it then. What was the second part of the question? I forgot already. Okay, so they're brand new. How should they navigate it? Oh, setting the rules, right. Setting the rules. So the first night, they only do certain things, and then, you know, The second night. So exactly kind of where he was leaning is where I would tell you to go. If you've never seen your wife or vice versa, you've never seen your husband with anyone, walking into a sex club and like fully swapping with someone can be a lot. That's a huge, that's your jumping into the deep end. So in my opinion, if it wasn't, and listen, have a lot of people jumped into the deep end and swam? Yes, they have. It's not worth the risk. Right. In my opinion. Yeah, when we talk to couples about at what pace they should enter the lifestyle, we do talk about it kind of like swimming, right? Like there are absolutely you can paddle out into the middle of the frigging ocean and jump off the boat and learn to swim that way. And you may or may not drown, right? And the lifestyle is kind of the same way. Like you could go to somewhere for the very first time and you could participate in an orgy or a gangbang or swap full swap with a couple. And you might experience that and be like, oh my gosh, that was the best thing ever. And I love it. Or you might end up divorced, right? Like those are the two options. And to me, it's too risky. The fact that the divorce is even a possibility in that situation means you maybe probably shouldn't do that, right? And only you know your relationship, right? So maybe you guys were like, no, we're the, we need to rip the bandaid off kind of people. And this is, you know, it's not going to, we can't slow roll this. We just need to go all in or else we're never going to do it. And so that's what we're doing. And we, we've talked about it. We've talked about it. all the what ifs and what happens and the best case scenario worst case scenarios and we've decided we're going to rip the band-aid off and if that's the conversation that you guys have had and this is the way you want to approach it me and lacy are don't understand your relationship enough to tell you to do it any other way yes now if you're asking us just for generic advice that we give to most people we recommend the weighed in from the shallow end right so if it was me and and dan going for the first time and we know all that we know now and we're not just like jumping in I would say the first night, go and have certain things that you're comfortable with. Like, for example, dance with somebody. Maybe even make out with somebody. Whatever you're comfortable with. And then you go home Friday night and you talk about it. I wouldn't even say, okay, so this is like a good, like you said, we're going to go. Lacey, if you want to dance with another guy, I'm perfectly okay with that. Lacey, if you want to make out with another guy, perfectly okay with that. I would assume it would be a reciprocal rule allow me to do those same things. And then maybe we'll even say, hey, at the end of the night, and it depends on your comfort level, let's go to the playroom and me and you fuck. Or let's just, hey, at the end of the night, let's walk through the playroom. Maybe we're not going to fuck. Maybe we won't be comfortable fucking, but let's just take a lap and walk through there and see what's going on. And then when we get back to the hotel, we'll fuck. To me, that's a great. That is a perfect first night. Because what you're going to go home, you're going to go to your hotel room or your house or wherever, and you're going to talk about those experiences. If you saw your husband, kissing someone and you were wanting to like choke a bitch. Yeah. Okay. You don't need to go the next night and fuck someone. You know, like that doesn't mean the lifestyle is not for you. That just means we need to do some work. We need to work on those, not even issues, but you need to figure out why, why those emotions are happening. Why do I feel like I need to choke a bitch? Yeah. So instead of choking the bitch, you, you learned, right? You now know that that is something. And so, but if you, if you watch him kiss a girl and you get, your pussy gets wet and you're turned on, Then the next night, you go home and you're like, babe, when you were kissing her, I was so fucking turned on. And you're probably going to fuck each other and you're going to talk about it and you're going to be like, did that make you hard? Oh, yeah. Or it could be a little bit of both. Like, you know, it turned me on. And that's probably like what most peers. Yeah, it turned me on, but I'm also very confused by it because I love you and I know you love me, but I don't know how to process these emotions, you know? So you're going to have some level of that. And then, you know, the next night, So you just take these little baby sets. And you might, you know, maybe the next night you've like soft swap with somebody. You're not ready for a full swap. Whatever you're comfortable with. My advice would be to set those boundaries before you walk in the door and don't veer from them. For example, let's say we decide we're just going to kiss somebody. Right, we're going to do what we said. We're going to, okay with dancing, okay with kissing. Our plan is to walk through the playground at the end of the night and see everybody fucking and then go back to our room and So Dan kisses this girl and he is churned. He is. He is. And I had a couple, you know, because I was a little nervous about kissing this girl. So I had like three shots of fireball. I've been drinking high noons all night. He is ready. And I'm like, this is really fun. Yeah. And I kissed the guy. And I mean, he's OK. You know, he's not my favorite. He's not ugly, but he's not like I'm not like my pussy's not dripping wet, you know. And then so then Dan pulls me to the side. He's like, you like him. And I'm like, I think we should fuck them. Really? Are you sure? And I'm like, what? And so then, now he's been drinking, I feel pressure, and I've been drinking, so my inhibitions might be a little down, so then we do it, and it's decent. And that couple seems like they're into you, so you don't want to disappoint them, you don't want to disappoint your husband. So you do it, and it's not terrible, it's maybe not the greatest thing, it's not the worst, but then the next morning you're like, fuck, did I, I don't think I would have fucked that guy. And you pressured me into doing it. And you told me we weren't going to do this, and you pressured me into doing it. And this is all your fault. You are the one, that wanted to do this, and now I fucked some random dude. That I didn't want to fuck. That's what's going to happen. So that's why you don't change your boundaries. Now, what could happen, let's do that scenario again, but let's do it as we went home. So we go home, and Dan's like, man, I was ready. I was down. It was hot watching you with that girl, but I just didn't like that guy. I wasn't into him, and I'm down for it. That's a whole different conversation. Now we know we really need to find somebody that you're equally attracted to. We need to check in, right? Maybe after, you know, like, hey, check in. Like, hey, are you into him? And listen, that you've not both being equally into the couple. That's going to be an ongoing issue. That's always going to happen, right? So then you're going to be like, well, even if you're not into them, like, do you have to be that into them to be able to want to have a swap? Like, maybe just go in and have fun. And who cares that, like, he's not like a 9 out of 10 or a 10 out of 10 for you. You know, sometimes you can have a lot of fun. with a five out of ten. Like, but talking through all that is the process here. Yes. And not even though you don't think you're putting pressure on someone, you may still be. They may be putting pressure on themselves because they want you to have a good time, you know. So that's why just taking it off of the table, sleeping on it, having conversation the next morning at breakfast, you know, like letting that digest is very important. Yeah. And I could see even, you know, if you're coming Friday and Saturday night to our event in Salt Lake, I mean, you could do the just a lap through the playroom Friday. And maybe you end up with a soft swap on Saturday. You know what I mean? If you come back Friday. That's a very successful weekend in my opinion. If you come back Friday and you guys are all green lights and you're fucking the shit out of each other and talking about how hot it was. You know, maybe the next time, you know, on Saturday you want to come through and soft swap. So soft swap being non-penetrative sex. Like you're just kissing and touching on each other while you're fucking your spouse. Maybe you want to do that. Or maybe you just want to fuck each other in the playroom next to somebody or, you know, parallel play. Which I think a lot of people don't take into account that that's fucking hot. If you have been with the same partner for any amount of years, just fucking next to someone or flirting. People watching you while you fall. That in itself will enhance your sex life. Amazing. For the next three months. Almost enjoy that high while it's there. I think people skip to a full swap because they think that that's the end goal. I think swingers feel like That's what they're supposed to do. And the goal is to have hot, amazing sex. Now, whatever it takes to get there is fine. If walking, doing a lab through a playroom is enough to turn you on where you're pulling each other's clothes off on the drive home, then you are successful, my friend. I don't even know if the goal should be to have hot, amazing sex. I almost feel like the goal in the lifestyle. But I mean with your partner. But you know what I mean? I think it's more than that. I think the goal in the lifestyle is to like find your confidence. Yeah. Find your desires. find your fantasy. You know what I mean? Like, it's like so much, you know. I do think, though, what I mean by have hot, amazing sex, I mean, like, so many people put so much pressure on, like, swapping and the act of, like, fucking someone, not your spouse. Right. And the truth is, is that you should just be having a good time. You should be having good sex. Well, that's the, how many times have me and you had better sex in a playroom than the sex we've had in a full swap? Yeah, same. That's what I was trying to get at. Yeah. Yeah. Just the experience itself. enhances that area. So. Anywho, that that's that's it. That's what we got for you. Yeah. And I hope that I mean, I think that was I felt that was a pretty good conversation. Yeah. And I hope that helps. So, you know, you and your your wife or talk about all the scenarios, talk about the things you're comfortable with. Talk about what your goals are for the end of the weekend. You guys said that you're, you know, high sex drive, kinky kind of people. So, you know, figure out what what a successful weekend. looks like for you. I would say, though, err on the side of caution. For sure. Take it slow. Your marriage is worth a night of fun, in my opinion. It's not worth a night of fun, yeah. That's what I mean. Like, it's important to protect that at all costs. Agreed. And you can protect it as well as tiptoe into this lifestyle. Agreed. All right. So if you have a Tuesday talk, hopefully that answers your question. But if somebody else listening has a Tuesday talk question, we would love to hear you. You can email us at theswingnation at gmail.com You can send your question in the email or you can attach an audio file where you ask us a question via audio or you can attach a video file and if I can figure out how to get this TV to work again we'll put your video up on the TV and so people on YouTube can actually see you asking us the question which will be kind of fun Other than that, you can call or text. And that phone number is... 972-302-7716. One more time. 972-302-7716. And that phone line, you can also text or call and leave us a voice message. Send Lacey dick pictures. Dan got all... You haven't looked, but lots of women heard you and seen you. Why didn't you show me? I just didn't think about it. But you have lots of titty hair. You're probably replying to all the dick pictures and you're not even telling me that there's titty and vagina pictures. There is titty and vagina pictures. Well, I need to get that phone and I need to message some of these girls back. You should do that. Send them some dick pictures. Do it. I love it. So they know what's up. Yeah. Okay. That's it. Put that on my to-do list. I will. And then, you know, if you're listening, send some more titties and vagina pictures and Lacey needs all those dick pictures. She loves them. I do. I didn't know you were hoarding that from me, though. I think I mentioned it the other day. Okay. I think we got to secrets as last week's Tuesday talk was coming out and they were coming in as we were like setting. So there's still a lot going on. Boobies. Boobies. Awesome. I mean, these are good problems to have. Yeah. Okay. Yep. Anything else for the Swing Nation listeners? That's it. Yeah. All right, guys. I think with that in a world full of apples. 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