Tuesday Talks: When the Camera’s Off — What Our Sex Life Really Looks Like

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If you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and TikTok, head on over to swingersociety.net. Can't wait to see you there. Hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your hosts northern guy and southern girl and we are back with another episode of Tuesday Talks. Yeah. Talking Tuesday. Are you going to do it? No, I thought you were going to do it. I'm not doing it. You do it. You don't say my name right. You do it. With Dan and Lacey. Dan and Wacey. It's Lacey. Wacey with a W. Okay, let's get into it. She's like, I don't got time for your shit today. Let's just talk. Let's just do this. All right, let's go to the phone lines and listen to this week's Tuesday Talk. Hey, guys, this is Nicky and Randy from Missouri. We have a question for both of you. We've been in the lifestyle for 22 years and have been extremely successful on both ends and have managed to maintain a wonderful relationship both in the lifestyle with many friends as well as at home and both sexually and just as soulmates. We're big time gym people and we've been in the lifestyle with many friends as well as at home and both sexually and just as soulmates. We're big time gym people and we've been in the lifestyle with many, We love our second home there, but we also love our home and our friends and the lifestyle. Our question to you would be, how do you make the shift from so much social media attention, i.e. the OnlyFans and all the other social media, the podcast and everything, how do you make that change and so much attention for that part of your sex life? How do you then maintain a healthy sex life at home? Just curious. Love to hear the answer. We're looking forward to hearing from you. Thanks, guys. All right. Great question. I feel like we maybe got asked similar questions to this before. But I also love that question because he kind of highlights the thing, right? He said they've been happily married and in the lifestyle for over 20 years. I know. That's what I'm thinking. Like, they need to give us advice. Right. They have a happy relationship at home. They have a bunch of lifestyle friends. So, yeah, I don't know. Part of me feels it should be. The other way around. Like they should be guests on the podcast and telling us how to do it? I guess they're just curious what our answer is. It's kind of like they've got it figured out, but they just kind of want to know what our answer is. Right. It's like when somebody already knows the answer, you know, like when a teacher already knows the answer and you're asking you the question. Yeah. So it's kind of a test. Yeah. Which is a really good question. And, you know, it's not something that I think that we like really even talk about or kind of do on purpose. Would you say like you and I, as far as like how, We don't really swing at home, like, ever. Have we before? Yes, but it's honestly been years since we've, you know, and occasionally we'll have somebody, like, come from out of town, like, but, like, maybe once ever, you know, and that was, like, years ago when I had surgery. Very, very rarely do we do anything at home, so that means all of our swinging and stuff is really just done when we travel, so that can be one or maybe two times a month, which, if you talk to, like, All of our friends, that's not that much. Some of them are swinging every weekend or during the week. I don't feel like we do that much. And then our OnlyFans, we do that even less. For instance, when we go out of town, I try to get one video or maybe two if we're lucky. Or sometimes we'll plan things that has nothing to do with our swinger events or anything like that, just trips. And then we'll go and we'll get a couple. For instance, we just went to Nashville just for one night. like two or two weeks ago. And we just went to a hotel room with some friends and we made three videos for OnlyFans. So I think people think that it's a lot more than it actually is. Yeah. So for the podcast and for our events, we generally do stuff about once a month. Yeah. And now like through the holidays and stuff like that, it was a little less. I think we only did one or two events in like three months. Yeah. And then, you know, this summer is gonna be more might be where we go to like two events a month or something like that. I think you're right we know quite a few people who don't have a podcast and don't have an OnlyFans but they're in the lifestyle and maybe they have a club or something like that that's local to them and they might go to that club two or three times a month yeah or even like a local couple that they like hang out with quite often we don't have any of that so it's really very our home life and our swinging life are very very separate when we're home there's not other than you and I engaging there's not really anything else like we're We're not going to clubs. We're not going out and meeting friends. None of that. Yeah. And then I think the other part about that is the OnlyFans part. And really, like you said, that coincides. The way we do OnlyFans most often is, you know, we engage with our friends either right before or right after an event or sometimes during if we're pressed on time, especially when we're, you know, when your dad was living with us and we had, you know, it was harder for us to get away there for a while. We almost did all of it with events. Because we had to. Now we have, you know, your mom's healthy again and your dad has passed so that we have a little more free time to go. So we've done some stuff like during the week when we don't have your son and stuff like that. So I don't think it's as much as you think. So to answer the balance is because we only do events about once a month, our sex life at home is very normal. It is. Now I will say, if you want a little update, if you've been following our journey for the last six months or a year or so, you know, when Lacey's parents did move in and her dad got sick and her, you know, and then passed and her mom was real sick there for a while, That had a pretty huge effect on our sex life. Prior to that, I would say we had sex about once a day. Maybe five times a week would be a good way of saying it. Well, and I really have found that the more sex we have, the better our relationship is. We're happier. We're better parents. We're better bosses. We're better employees. We're better just towards each other. And then, yeah, you're right. When my parents moved in, all of a sudden, now we're like caretakers to these adults. Yeah, it was like, holy shit. And you and I were looking at each other like, oh, my God. And we definitely went through like some growing pains with that. And it's kind of come full circle now. And we're definitely back to normal. But even now, I mean, we had sex twice yesterday. Well, I was going to say, so through that journey, you know, obviously dealing with your parents and stuff, that has an effect on your sex life because now there's adults in your house. And, you know, your dad was at a point where, you know, he needed a wheelchair to go to the bathroom and stuff. So like we were very hands on in his care. Between your mom and your dad, you know, we were doing one, two, three appointments a day almost it felt like sometimes. So, you know, then it was like get home and work till midnight to just catch up on our stuff. So that definitely had a huge effect on our sex life. But yeah, now that we're in a more balanced place as far as your, you know, caretaking goes, we have a lot more time. And then the second part of that is you've really worked on one, I think your mental health and then two, your hormones. And Lacey started pellets, what, how long ago? First week in December. Right. And those, I think, have kicked in. Lacey's been trying to fuck me like three or four times a day now. So it used to be we had sex before all this. It was like once a day. It was pretty normal, probably five times a week. Now Lacey wants to have sex three or four times a day. Last night, she almost like got mad at me because I was working and it was like she was trying to fuck me for, I don't know, the second or third time of the day. Who is the second? And I was like, baby, I got stuff I got to do. We cannot just fuck all day. As far as that sounds, there's work to be done. No, what you said was, I'm a 40-year-old man. I'm not 18. I did say that also. I'm not 18 anymore. I can't fuck. And then what happened? We fucked. I got my way. She tricked me. But yeah, we have a pretty active and healthy sex life that really doesn't have anything to do with swinging. I mean, occasionally we'll dirty talk about things that swingers would dirty talk about, but it's pretty normal. to each other. We love each other. He's my favorite dick to fuck. It kind of worked out. We have no real desire, I think, to increase our swinging. We listen to other podcasts and we have friends and stuff. Some of them are meeting people, like you said, every single week. I don't feel a need to do that. There's no desire for us, I think, to increase the amount that we swing. If anything, maybe what I do wish is our struggles now, I think are most of the swinger events we go to we're working at so it's really the like do we get time to actually have fun and swing while we're at swinger parties because we're working so much if there was anything I want would you know maybe look at adjusting would be that yeah or maybe you know not swing at our parties and like try to find other time to actually do that so we're not cramming it all in there but as far as swinging sex versus home life sex I think we're I mean we're very heavy on the home life sex yeah we have a lot more sex with each other than we do anybody else yeah and is not what people think. Yeah, I think, and probably not this couple, because they're in the lifestyle, so they kind of get it, but the people that are, like, truly vanilla, and they see us on social media, or maybe they listen, they probably think, oh, my gosh, you know, they're, just even fucking somebody once is a big deal for them, so I kind of get it, but, yeah, it's not, it's not as much as I think people realize. I personally love the community. I love all the parties. I love dressing up. I love the friendships, so when we go to Swinger parties and stuff. If we have sex, great. But I'm really there for my friends and having fun. I don't know. I'm not there looking to have my socks blown off or somebody to rock my world. You're doing that at home. If we engage and have fun, great. If we don't, that's okay, too. He didn't ask this question, but I think it's relevant to the topic. What about just this micro-celebrity? I'm using this very loosely. And please don't like we don't I don't think we think we are bigger or more popular. You know, I'm not trying to like say, oh, we are like huge celebrities. Right. But there is a when you go to events, you get recognized and people want to talk to you and people want to say hi. And I would say, you know, we've been doing this podcast for almost five years now. Yeah. That has is continuing to snowball. It seems like every time we go on a bliss cruise or every time we go to an event, it's you see more. It seems like there's it feels like there's more and more of that. Would you agree? Yeah. And I mean, when it is our event that we're throwing, it's almost expected. But when we go to places like Liz or like Naughty New Orleans where we're not like we are an affiliate, but we're not like we're not involved in any of the like decision making around it. Though when we when we are recognized and and people are coming up to us so much at those. Right. It's not people that we directed from the podcast to our party. Yeah. So that makes sense. It's like, OK, there's three thousand people. How many people here really know who we are? Yeah. That's when it kind of surprises me. Stuff like that. Yeah. And so is there a balance there, I guess, as far as... Do you notice that in your home life? Or is it just when you go to swingers events? No. At home, I'm very... We're just normal. I mean, everybody knows we're swingers. Everybody knows we have social media, but nobody says anything. Right. You're not really treated any different other than, oh, those are those. People probably whisper that, oh, that's that swingers. That's the swingers. I mean, the mailman calls me the pineapple girl. So, you know, I mean, yeah, I mean, I'm sure people know, but nobody like gives a shit, you know? I mean, have we ran into a few people in our hometown or my hometown that did not realize that we lived here? Yes. Yeah. We've met somebody at Sam's Club. I met somebody at a sex shop one time. I met a couple at the nail salon before. They're usually like pretty shocked that I'm, they're like, why are you here? And I'm like, I live here. And they're like, oh my gosh. And I'm like, yeah. So we definitely have, but it's few and far between. Like one time though, I met like, two people in one day. And I was like, what is going on in the world? But definitely it's mainly like when we travel. So it's which is kind of, in my opinion, the best way to be. I get to be like just normal at home. And then, you know, then when we travel, you do see more of that. So it's kind of like the best of best worlds. Yeah. I thought about that. You know, we went to a breakaway. You know, that podcast was, I don't know, probably a couple months ago now. Shaq was there. He's a DJ now. And, you know, he had security. that was following him around everywhere and having to keep him from getting swarmed. I mean, obviously, we're never going to get on the level of Shaq. But what I'm saying is for people like that, just general life must be hard. Oh, I can't imagine. Yeah, that would be insane. Yeah. And I think it's like everybody wants to, you know, I think in their head they think they want that life. But I bet once you get with life like that, you're like, fuck, I wish I could just go somewhere where nobody knew who the hell I was. Oh, I'm sure they all do. But it's like a double-edged sword because that's why you're successful. Right, you're rich and famous. Yeah, you've got nice houses and nice stuff. But yeah, you can't go anywhere without people swarming you. So it definitely is a double-edged thing. I'm interested to see where all this goes. We have a couple projects in the works for this year that could elevate our brand even more, which could make it interesting. Is there a point where you think it maybe would be too much and you'd want to pull back a little? Are we already there? You hesitated, so I'm like, oh shit. No, no. I guess I'm thinking as far as OnlyFans, maybe someday. I mean, the problem is, is that OnlyFans like pays for our life. I know people think we make like money off of swinger events. We don't really, very little compared to the OnlyFans money, at least. I could see as I get older, like paring down the OnlyFans and hopefully replacing that income with something else. But I don't want the podcast to go anywhere. The podcast is like probably the thing we make the least amount of money. money on. But the thing that probably brings... You're the most joy. Yeah, the most joy. It's the most authentic version, I guess, of us. You know, like when I'm making videos like being cute and sexy, you know, like for TikTok and stuff like that. I mean, yeah, it's fine. But it's that you're not really seeing like the true us, you know. Your vlog posts, I think, are pretty... Well, yeah, those are. Yeah, I'm talking about like... If you don't know what I'm talking about, Lacey started doing like these vlog posts and she's posting on TikTok and she just recently started posting on Instagram as well. And it really is like a day in life type stuff. And Lacey making bread or doing whatever she does. So those are pretty authentic. But yeah. I meant like more of like the swinger videos. Yeah. The swinger cute like sounds and stuff where I'm like lip syncing. Well, it's interesting. I never would have guessed we would be in the situation we're at today. No, we actually went head date night Friday night. And that was something that we talked about while we were driving home. I was like, when we met each other, would you have like if somebody said, In so many years, this is what your life's going to be like. You're going to be retired. Would you have believed them? Well, it's almost like a series of events that happened that we didn't plan that made it to get to this point. And had one or two of those not happened, we wouldn't be here. But here we are. Yeah. Like if you hadn't been deployed, if you hadn't retired right when you did, if I hadn't gotten fired, A couple of viral videos hadn't gone viral. Yeah. Yeah. All the things. Yeah. We're going on a tangent. Yeah, we did. Okay. But I hope that answers your question. Our sex life is actually very normal. Yeah. I think we balance it pretty well. We probably don't have as much swinger sex as you think we do, although we enjoy it. Yeah. I am excited. You know, we're getting ready to go to Electric Pleasures and see some of our friends we haven't seen for a while. Yeah. This is probably really the first time Lacey's been in full hormone mode in a while, so she might be a little ratchet. I'm ready. At this party. Do you want to tell them what you got? What I got? Yeah. I don't think we have time. Okay. We'll have to do that in a different podcast. We'll talk when we do electric pleasures. You'll hear about it. You will hear about it there. Yeah. Okay. Anything else for the swing nation listeners? That's it. All right, guys, we could definitely use some of your questions. So if you have a Tuesday talk question, there's a few different ways you can get ahold of us. You can email us your questions at the swing nation at Gmail. So just type out an email and send it to us that way. We've had more and more people sending us audio files through email. So that's a good way to get a hold of us. Or you can call or text. And that phone number is? 972-302-7716. One more time. 972-302-7716. You can also send audio files, recordings to the text messages. That's actually how this listener got theirs through. And that's a good way to do it if you want to practice a few times or something. I saw somebody got mad at us because we didn't respond. They were like, I guess not. Guys, this is not our personal cell phone number. My phone very rarely gets touched until we sit down to do Tuesday Talks. Sometimes if we have a few extra time, we'll look at them and sometimes we don't. So if you are reaching out to us, like wanting a quick response or even a response, I would say 95% of the texts and messages we get there do not get a response. Yeah, maybe. Lately. When's the last time you were on vacation? Somebody was supposed to do it when we were on vacation and she's like, I will get the phone and I will respond to everybody. said that about me, not me. But anyway, yeah. So to be honest, we check the phone messages about once a week. Yeah. And then sometimes if we're traveling, you know, we'll, you know, we'll stack up episodes. We might go two or three weeks without actually looking at the phone. So it is not the most timely way to get a hold of us. And it doesn't mean we don't like you either. It's just, it just is what it is. It's just a lot of messages. We get a lot of messages. Not all Tuesday talk questions that we need to use though. Yeah. So we need more, of those. Yeah. All right. Anything else for the swing nation listeners? That's it. All right, guys. I think with that in a world full of apples, be the pineapple, be the pineapple guys. Bye. Bye. If you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us, we have a five star review wherever you're listening. If you want to see more of our content, you can find links to Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, OnlyFans and more in the show notes. Come join the conversation with us and other Swinger content creators on our Swing your society discord server if you have questions or feedback email them to us at the swing nation at gmail.com make sure you head on over to the swing nation dot net and keep up to date on all things swing nation we thank you so much for joining us and we'll see you next time goodbye That's so hot.