Tuesday Talks: How To Make Friends on a Lifestyle Vacation?

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If you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and TikTok, head on over to swingersociety.net. Can't wait to see you there. Hey there, pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast. We are your hosts. Northern guy and southern girl. Uh, I almost forgot my name. I know. I was throwing it to you before it was your turn. Yeah. Usually I try to sell your name instead of, yeah. All right. Glad you're here with us, babe. Glad you're here. We are back with another Tuesday Talk episode. Yeah. So this question is actually not really a Tuesday Talk question. She just emailed us in response to last week's Bliss Cruise. But I read it and I was like, and we were driving down the road the other day and I was like, you know, I really think that would be a Great Tuesday Talk question, because we are currently in the middle of going through our Bliss recap. And this has to do with Bliss. And I just kind of felt like it fit in perfectly. Okay. So Rachel, I'm stealing your question and using it for Tuesday Talks. I hope that's okay. All right, let's hear it. Okay. So it says, Hello, I'm currently listening to your current podcast about Bliss Cruise. I love the stories of the orgies you get to be a part of due to your established friend group. My partner and I are considering a Bliss Cruise or Hedo trip, but this will be our first lifestyle vacation. I'm concerned we could go the whole trip without these opportunities because we are new and don't have established friends. What are your thoughts on being new and finding groups to play with? You also mentioned people are intimidated to approach you. How would you suggest people approach you if they want to play? Again, I don't know, but it seems to me like we're all there to play, so why not just be up front and ask people if they want to meet up later to play. Thank you, Rachel. Rachel. I thought that was a great question. Those are great questions, especially Bliss Cruise related questions. Because I think that's a very valid question, especially if you're new in the lifestyle or never been on like a lifestyle vacation. You don't want to spend all this money and then go and then not have experience. Not that like you should have those experience because you spend a lot of money, but I also kind of get it. You know, you want to have fun. Yeah. So this is kind of a double-edged sword, right? Because let's be honest, if we listen to our podcast, right, we always say, oh, you need to go into no expectations, right? You go into a party, you go into a club, you go to Hedo or Bliss Cruise, and what you don't want to do is go in and saying, I expect that we are going to do A, B, and C, right? You have to go in with an open mind and then make genuine connections and then follow through with them. That is 100% the true, and that is 100% I would give. The advice to anybody going to an event or on a cruise. But at the same time, you're spending like upwards of $5,000 on a trip. And by God, I want to get laid. Right. You know, I mean. Right. So those two things can be true at the same time. You can say, hey, you should go into a trip or into a club or into a experience with zero expectations. That's true. But at the same time, it is not. We all go into those things hoping that we're going to have an experience, or at least most of it. and aren't quite ready. So they're hoping to go and not have an experience. But for the most part, I think most of us, the whole reason we're going to a swimmer's club, the whole reason we're going on a swimmer vacation is because we want to have naughty experiences. That's why we're going on a bliss cruise and not a vanilla cruise or something like that. So I think it's completely normal to want to have those experiences. So I think let's like break down her question. So the first part of it is she's asking that if you're newer and you like, for instance, we're going to say, well, I mean, we can do Hedo. and Bliss, because they're kind of different. But let's say you're going on the Bliss groups and you do not know a single couple on that ship. That can be a little scary, but it also can be a lot of fun. You know, so my advice to you is there are a lot of different ways to connect with people prior to boarding. So Bliss has like an actual Bliss app that you can like, for instance, there's a February cruise. People are already messaging each other on there now and you can do that. that. They also have Facebook groups. They have Telegram groups. And you can make connections and start chatting with people and kind of like pre-making those friendships. As well as we have our Discord server. Yeah. And we have chat groups for all events that we do. We start a chat group for. So there are, yeah. So it doesn't actually, it really doesn't matter if you're going to Hedo, if you're going on a Bliss Cruise, even if you're going to a club. Most of these places have communities. pages, whether that's on Facebook, whether it's on Reddit, whether it's on Discord, whether they have their own app and ways to connect with people ahead of time. Basically, any lifestyle thing you're going to do, there's probably a way to connect with people ahead of time and start having conversations. It could be as simple as an RSVP list and then you go down that RSVP list and see if anybody sparks your fancy. So that is definitely a good place to start. You can start building those friendships, making connections, sending naughty pictures, whatever you need to do to feel more comfortable going in. And it can even be like, hey, I'm going to the topless travel pre-party. What hotel are y'all staying at? Do y'all want to just like go ahead and plan to meet there so we can like introduce ourselves? We can have dinner. You can do all of that. You can also do none of that. And that's fine too. You could just show up on that day and just find people that you're interested in. whether it be for friendship, for potentially hooking up, and just introduce yourself. You know, to be honest, we don't do a lot of the pre-chatting and meetup because it's just, it's very hard to kind of turn that into something. So a lot of times we'll just wait until we get on the ship or get on the resort and like go up and just introduce ourselves to people. I feel like for us that works better. So I mean, I think that depends on the couple and your And if you enjoyed chatting beforehand, all of those things you have to take into account. Well, I think a lot of reasons we don't do the chatting ahead of time is we just don't have a lot of time, a free time to do it as well. Yeah. So that is one good thing or a couple of good things. Yeah, those are good things. Okay. So ahead of time, right before, for an event, ahead of time connecting on the apps and social media pages and community pages is one way. So then once you actually get there, most of these events will host meet and greets. And again, it doesn't matter if you're talking about Hedo, if you're talking about Bliss Cruise, if you're talking about even lifestyle clubs or, you know, hotel takeovers. Most of the time for a hotel takeover, if it's like a Saturday only, the Friday night will be like the meet and greet. You know, I know when we do club takeovers, a lot of times either the day before that during the day, we'll have a meet and greet at a certain restaurant or something like that. On Bliss Cruise, they have all kinds of different meet and greets. Yeah, I mean, it could be like under 45, over 45, hall pass. I mean, you name it, they're going to have a meet and greet for it, basically. Right. Now, Hedo, the meet and greet is kind of the pool party every day. Well, Hedo is, I think Hedo and like a typical hotel takeover that's smaller in size, they're a little different because it's not 3,000 people. It's like 200 people. So you kind of have to introduce yourself and kind of get to know people that way or more organically than I would say. the larger style. Right. But even Hedo and some of the hotel takeovers, that pool party during the day really kind of serves as the time to meet people and talk to them and get to know them. Yeah, for sure. So I think it's, you know, like, so to go back on what she said, what are your thoughts on being new and finding groups to play with? I don't think you need to have a group, to be honest with you. I think sometimes when we don't have a group, it kind of forces us. to meet new friends, to kind of get out of our shell. And I think that's a lot of fun. Yeah, I think it's fun, but it also is. It's daunting even for us. I think, you know, there's been times here where we've gone to events in the last year or two when we didn't have our built-in friend group come with us. It was just basically me and you and we basically didn't know anybody. We've kind of had got a little reality check and saying, wait a minute, we need to actually go walk around the pool and start talking to people and not just sit in our corner and be quiet. You know, we need to put ourselves out there. And so really the answer is how do you meet people and how do you connect with people is you have to put yourself out there. Yes, you do. And I think that's like the overarching like answer to your question is you're going to have to put yourself out there. You're going to have to walk up to somebody and be like, I love your vibe. What's or how are you? Do I want to go to dinner? What's that? You know, I love your hat. I love your swimsuit. I love your dress. I love your nails. You know, whatever the thing is. You're super attractive. Let's chat. You know, I mean, you have to put yourself out there. And I will say that is much higher. than you think it is. I struggle with it, even with the platform that we've built and all of the thing in the years that we've been in the lifestyle. I'll still clam up and struggle with it. So usually in a couple, not both, both of you are not great at this. Usually it's one or the other. So you kind of have to, you have to work together to kind of get through all of these feelings. But you definitely, you've got to put yourself out there and you've got to mingle. You've got to chat. You've got to do all the things. Now, I will say, as daunting as it is to walk up to somebody and approach them like that, everybody wants you to do that. You know what I mean? Like, the secret is everybody in that room wants somebody to come up and talk to them. Well, that's what she said. Everybody, they all wants to be approached. So, like, when you see those couples and they're sitting in the chairs against the wall or you're at a pool and you see that couple that's over there in the corner of the pool by themselves, know that even though it's hard to go up to them and approach them, they want you to do that. Yeah, that's why we're all there. That's why they're there. Yeah, that's why, like she said, in the email, we're all there to hopefully fuck somebody. I mean, give or take a few, but we're all there to hopefully find a connection and be swingers with. So I think we have to remember that. Okay. So the next part of our question is it, you also mentioned maybe people are intimidated to approach you. How should people approach you if they want to play? I think being upfront and honest is in like kind of laying it out there. Yeah. I think for us, So, if we're talking us specifically, so I think I have no problem with if you are a person that is down to fuck on the first, you know, as soon as you meet people, if you want to go up to people and be like, oh, I think you're really hot, you know, we're getting ready to hit a playroom, do you want to come with us? If that is your play style and that works for you, good luck, go out, do that, and if it works, great, and if it doesn't, you know, then try again. For us, I don't think we are the type of couple that if you just come up to us out of the blue and say, hey, you know, me and my husband think you two are hot. Do you want to go fuck? I don't think we're going to say yes to that very often. Correct. But if you come up to us and say, hey, me and my husband think you're hot and we'd love to get to know you over the next couple of days and maybe like, maybe something. See if there's a connection. Yeah, see if there's more there that would, we would probably pick that up. Yeah. Especially if there was a mutual connection there. We would definitely, we're just not ones that are like, hey, let's go fuck. Right. That's just not, not that, that there's anything wrong with that. We have some good friends. That is 100% their play style and we 100% love that for them. And to be honest with you, there might be times where that's our play style. But for the most part... Yeah, if you drop that at midnight on a Saturday and we're kind of like... We're feeling frisky. We're feeling frisky and wanting something to do. We might be like, hell yeah, let's go. But for the most part, we want to have dinner with you. We want to get to know you. We want to dance with you. We want to do the whole foreplay thing. Yeah. But I think being open because I think the reason she's saying this is she asked this because in the last week's episode I talked about so many people come up to us and they're like hey we love the podcast and then they walk off and I don't know if that means they like love the podcast or does that mean like hey we're interested and I think that's where this question is coming from so I guess like just putting it out there but not in a let's go fuck way let's go fuck right I think if you said it came up and you said hey we listen to your podcast you know we really like your guys vibe and your energy we'd like to get to know you better. Do you guys want to hang out a little bit this weekend, this week, today? Then we would know where you were going with that. Yes. As opposed to if you're just saying, hey, we like your podcast. Yes. To us, that's, well, you like our podcast. Cool. Yeah, thank you. Yeah, we really appreciate that. We've also got questions of like how to get in our friend group. And we kind of, Dan and I were talking about this when we were driving the other day. We were chatting about it. And honestly, a lot of the people that have made, we've became friends with kind of just inserted themselves. in the best possible way. They've just kind of been like, we're going to be friends and we're going to hang out. But it's that same way. If you came up to us and said, hey, we listen to you on the podcast. We see you guys on social media. You know, we really like your vibe, right? Because you guys have, you know, you guys, we don't see you, but you see us, right? So if you come up to us and say, hey, we listen to you guys. We really like your vibe, your energy. We'd like to hang out. We're like, yeah, come hang out with us. Let's get to know each other. And then what probably was going to happen is you're going to be hanging out with us and our four or five other couple friends are going to be there too. And we're going to say, oh, hey, this is. Yeah, because we're probably going to get pulled away, but we're going to introduce you to our friends. And it just kind of, you have to be almost like an independent, you have to be like, kind of hold your own. You have to be fine with us walking off and coming back. And I think that's, a lot of our friends are very, what's the word I'm looking for? They know that we're busy. They know that we might not be able to hang out all night, but then at midnight we'll really want to go fuck and hopefully they're okay with, you know, a lot of our friends know that we might not text you every single day. but we're going to text you and be like hey what's up we miss y'all but that doesn't mean that we just are too busy to talk it just means like we are very very busy and we have really good intentions but we just we are there's just too much going on you know so i think the friendships that have really worked for us and the connections have been more of like understanding people that kind of get it that know we're being pulled in a million different directions right yeah so if you came up to us and said you know you like our vibe and you want to get to know us we would introduce you to our friends and it might be that 10 minutes later we had to peace out and go do an interview or go do a club tour video. But we're coming back. Right. But then we'd come back and pick back up where we left off. And then hopefully, you know, in that time in between, as we got to know you, maybe by the end of the night, you know, hey, we're going to Orgy. You guys want to come with us? Yeah. Like hopefully you've made friends within the friend group. And a lot of times friends get brought into our friend groups from friends. So they'll be like, hey, we've got this couple and they're so cool. And we know that everyone would hit it off with them. And then they'll bring them in. If we bring them to dinner tonight. Yeah, bring them. For sure. Everyone's welcome. And so I think that's kind of how it works. But I think what, you know, overall what your question is, is how do you make connections? How do you, you just got to put yourself out there. Yeah. I mean, if it's to us, if it's to someone else, whoever it is, and it can be awkward and uncomfortable even for us. But unfortunately, if you want to be in the lifestyle and you want to be successful at it, you kind of have to do it. Yeah. I mean, it's basically dating, like all those awkward uncomfortableness of, you know, that you, had to go through dating as a monogamous person it's like that but then a little more complicated because there's more people involved but the good thing is you have your partner to rely on you know so like if you're not great at being making that first move or walking up and saying hello maybe they are and then you can like once they say that first few things then you can hop in and you kind of work together you know on it and so i think you'll find your way yeah yeah it's dating with a buddy yeah dating with a buddy that's great but you know honestly If you're thinking about going on a lifestyle vacation like Hedo, Bliss, any of the big events, you're going to have a blast. I hope more people will do it because we are so blessed to be able to get to go on these amazing trips. We don't take it for granted. We know that they're so much fun. When swingers come up to us, what should we do? Should we do Hedo? Should we do Bliss? Should we do Naughty? I'm like, you need to do them all. I get that you probably can't do them all. at one time. So maybe pick one a year and kind of go through them and you'll figure out what your favorite is. Yeah. I mean, really, some of them are like life-changing. Yeah, they are. Yeah. And we're just like super fortunate that we get to go on all of them for the most part and get to come here and get to tell y'all about it and y'all get to listen and write in and tell us what, you know. So it's kind of amazing. So thank y'all for that. Yeah. Thank you. Definitely. So thank you, Rachel, for your question. I hope we answered it. Yeah. I think the bottom line is you got to put yourself out there. Yeah. And then go from there. Yeah. 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