Tuesday Talks: Grower, Not a Shower — Cock Confidence in the Lifestyle

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Speaker1: This podcast is intended for adult audiences. Over the age of 18, it contains adult language and situations. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to us, and not of any employer, organization, committee, or other group or individuals. This podcast is not intended to be taken as professional advice. Welcome to the Swing Nation Podcast, a podcast by swingers for swingers, where we look to educate others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle. Come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe. Interview the experts, learn and grow together. Join the nation. So Lacey, people are asking, how do they get to go to a party or an event with us? They check out swingersociety.net, you create a profile, you sign up for an event, and you come hang out with us. Super easy. That's right. If you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and TikTok, head on over to swingersociety.net. Can't wait to see you there. Hey there, pineapple people, and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast. We are your hosts, Northern Guy and Southern Girl, and we are back with another rendition of Tuesday. Talks. We are. Talking Tuesday. With Dan and Wednesday. Fresh off Christmas too. So it's like two days after Christmas. Merry Christmas everybody. Hope everybody had a good holiday. I got lots of good gifts. You did. Lots of things to wear to swing your parties. Yeah. You got lots of good gifts. I picked them all out very special for you. You did not. I did a lot of shopping. You did not. I really put a lot of thought and effort. Listen. This is our therapy. Dan's love language is definitely not giving gifts. Like he. is not the greatest at that. But, you know, I knew that when I married you and I'm okay with it. Our compromises, I just picked out everything I wanted. Yeah. Luckily, you do shopping enough for a small country. But I love giving gifts. I also love receiving them. I thought I did pretty good on your Christmas. Did I surprise you? You did very good. Good. I had a few surprises in there. All the kids are happy. We still have one more Christmas left. up north after New Year's that will be gone for a week. So we have that left. So it's not quite over. We still got some gifts to deliver. Yeah, but we still have one last one. But yeah. All right. Are you ready for this week's question? I am. This one, you've already heard. I did. And you're a little excited about it. Well, I was like arguing back to the phone with this guy as I heard it. Because I happened to be sitting here when I was listening. I was like, we're doing that one. We didn't even listen to any others. I don't think we finished it. No, I was like, we're doing that one. All right, here we go. Let's go to the phone lines. Hi, guys. This is a for Tuesday Talks. Long-time listener, first-time caller. I'm having a hard time finding females to interact with when at a club or a resort. I'm very much a grower, not a shower. And I feel like when women see the size of it, not erect, they feel like it's not going to be any fun or pleasurable for them. But when fully erect, it's no slouch. It's seven inches and girthy, but not erect. Very small. I would like to hear your guys' input. Thank you. All right. So his question, he seems to, he didn't say his name, I don't think. He also didn't say if he was married or single. He also didn't say if he was married or single. I would assume single. So if he is a single male, that's going to bring in a bunch of different things. But for this Tuesday Talk question, let's focus on what his actual question is and not wander off too much into the difficulties of being a single male and the lifestyle and connecting with couples. That's a whole other podcast, I think. But for this particular podcast, he states that he, when he goes to different events, and I'm assuming these are clothing optional events, and he walks around in the nude, he's saying he's a grower, not a shower, and he feels like what he is showing is maybe turning people off to engaging with him later in the night. And so he wants to know what our take is on that subject. Well, first of all, the only place that you have to be, like, nude that I can think of is, like, Hedo. So you don't have to rock around with a soft dick. Now, if you want to, go for it. But, like, you, Dan, you are a grower and a shower. And you very rarely, like, are completely nude. You tend to like wearing your favorite suit. Yeah, and I don't even know why that is. I don't know. So I'm uncircumcised. So I think maybe there might be some insecurity. about that. I also feel like I am, you're saying I'm a grower. I think we did a whole dick measuring podcast. We googled it. And we talked about what growing and showing meant. So there's a whole episode on that. So if you want to listen to a live recording of Lacey measuring my dick, and I was talking about dick size and grower and shower and condoms and all that, go back and listen to that. It's actually probably a pretty good episode for this guy to go listen to. But I say all that to say, I feel like I am more a grower than a shower. You are. And don't feel like I'm very impressive walking around normally either. I'm going to be honest. I don't think most men feel that they are very impressive walking around with a soft dick. I don't know very many men that's like, oh, I'm proud of this soft dick. I will say, you know, just coming from the male perspective, there's been times where we're at Secrets or Hedo, and I feel like guys are walking around with like half hard-ons most of the day. Yeah. And I don't know if they're like taking, I don't know if it's just their own Viagra. I don't know if they're beating their dick and then coming and walking around the pool a couple times. But you do see that where guys are clearly peacocking or whatever. They're walking around the pool with their dick, which is usually if they're doing that, it's somewhat impressive. So I can kind of see where maybe this guy is seeing those guys and being like, that's not me. And maybe getting a little insecurity about that. I'm going to be honest. From a female perspective, I have never looked at a soft penis and thought, never mind. You know, I mean, like, and I've seen some almost innies, like, you know, like, especially like heavy, I've seen quite a few heavier guys that you can barely see like the tip of it. Right. And even then, I don't judge that, you know, because like, I know how science works. I know how like a dick works. And it's, it's supposed to be little when it's soft, you know, and, and I guess I've been around enough guys to know that that really doesn't correlate to like, what it's gonna be. Yeah, what you're going to get in a play session. Also know that you could have a hard dick and then we could get into a play session and it could not work. So it goes both ways, you know. So from a female perspective, I'm really like, I wonder if this is in his head or if this is something that he's actually seeing. Are people actually telling him, oh, I didn't want to fuck you because your dick looked small? Because I do feel like, and women do it too, but men particularly do it about penis size. They compare, they want what you're going to get in a play session. what they don't have. And I don't think that women care that much. And I'll be honest, a seven inch girthy cock, dude, you're, you've got what all the other men want. You know, like that's a good cock. That's honestly probably like the ideal size. Yeah. Like that. I mean, much more big, much bigger than that is too much, you know, smaller than that can sometimes not be enough, you know, let's be honest. So like, I think he needs to like, he needs to stand tall. He needs to have a little confidence that he's rocking what half the guys there wish they had. Does that, I mean, I think it's a confidence thing. No, I 100% agree. I think, you know, we talk a lot about body positivity and we talk a lot about insecurities in the lifestyle. And when we talk about those things, we're usually talking about females or about, you know, you or, you know, talking about your insecurities and things like that. But I think, you know, what a lot of people don't talk about in this lifestyle is that I think males have probably, as many insecurities, they just maybe aren't, I think males in general aren't as good about feeling, you know, sharing their feelings. Yeah, like communicating. You know, talking about their insecurities or feeling, you know, talking about how they may be feeling comfortable. Because, you know, I think guys are always supposed to be, you know, these tough guys that, you know, are never, you know, never feel insecure or never, you know, never feel, you know, they're supposed to always feel masculine and confident and all these things. So I think that's something that doesn't get talked about a lot. But, you know, from now being in the Lifestyle for four years and having this podcast, also seeing some of the traffic that you get on OnlyFans and the things that guys are asking you and wanting you to talk about. Dick size and dick confidence and big dick energy or whatever you want to call it is a huge thing in the lifestyle. And I think just in the male perspective, I think it's huge for males. I think it's across the board. Lifestyle or not, I think the lifestyle just magnifies it because we are openly sharing our your penises. Like, we're taking pictures. You know, we're like, when you're married to the same girl for 20 years and you're not actively sleeping with anybody else, it's fine. You know, it is. Yeah, you get what you get. You don't pitch a fit. But I guess, like, the best way I can think to describe it is, imagine, like, the hottest girl at the party, right? Everybody wants her. But, like, there's only a few people that will get her. Like, but there's a lot of other people that might be a little skinnier, a little heavier. But, like, we're still going to enjoy all the other, all the girls, right? It's the same with penis size. Like, do you want the like, like he has a seven inch girthy penis? Yeah, that would be ideal. But like, some a little bigger is okay sometimes and some a little smaller are okay sometimes. You just kind of, we love them all. You know, it's not like, you know, you have to have be this certain, like certain diameter, girth, all that. I think I've had guys with small penises completely rock my world. And I've had guys with big penises have no idea what they're doing. Yeah, we've talked about this a few times, you know, and it's the whole does dick size matter, right? And everybody wants to say, well, no, you know, the size of your dick doesn't matter. It's all about your confidence. And I think that is all true. But I don't think you can say dick size does not matter, right? I think what dick size is, is one part of the equation, right? So if you're doing a math problem, right, and you're trying to get to the answer, well, the dick size, of course, is part of that equation, right? A plus B plus C equals D, right? And if D is your And I think that's the truth. So if you're doing the math equation to get to orgasm, dick size is part of that equation. But even if that's one inch or one, you can still make up for that math in the other parts of that equation, right? So really, does it matter? Yes. But does it matter to get to where you're trying to get? No, because there's, you know, if the first part of the equation is a very small number, well, you can make up for that in the other parts of the equation to still get to the solution that you're looking for, which is ultimately her pleasure. And all those other things you can more than make up for your dick size to get to that solution. For sure. So I think it matters, but but there's other ways to compensate for it. Yeah. And I don't want to be hypocritical here. I love a good big dude. I want to be honest. But there is such thing as a too big of a dick. There is. You know, we've again, we've measured my dick on this podcast. I have an eight inch dick, right? most girls like that. There are some girls that don't want to fuck me. You know what I mean? Because it's too much for them. It's too much for me sometimes. Or if I do fuck them, I have to be very soft and very gentle, which isn't always the greatest for me. You know what I mean? So it's part of that equation. Nobody wants me to put my dick in their ass for some reason. So I very rarely, almost never get to have anal sex with anybody. So, I mean, again, there are pluses and minuses to everything. I can't imagine. I would not, you know, some of these guys that, you know, you've slept with recently that have like 10 inch, 12 inch, 13-inch dicks, there's probably, I'd say probably the majority of women probably don't want to fuck them, right? They're probably limited to fucking basically porn stars because nobody else, you know, because it's great on camera. But in reality, nobody else really wants to take that thing. Yeah. So I guess like just to summarize and kind of finish this, you know, if you're less confident in nude, don't be nude. Like for example, I am less confident when my belly shows. So when I pick my outfit, I try to find things that cover my belly because I want to feel more confident. Sometimes I still show it. If the outfit's cute enough or whatever, I'll still show it. But for the most part, I try to dress for my body. So if you're uncomfortable walking around completely nude and showing your soft dick, just don't do it. Unless you have to, obviously, like at Hedo or places like that. And then, too, you got to own what you have. I don't know how else to say it other than if what you're saying is true, a seven inch and girthy dick that is a very very good dick and i think you just need to i think you need to look yourself in the mirror and like do some words of affirmation do something because you got it going on you just got to know that and own it yeah no i 100 think it's you know it sounds to me like he has some insecurities about his dick um like you said i think if if what he's saying is accurate that's for most women the ideal dick size and so he should um feel confident in that And then I think thirdly, really to answer his question though, is are women walking around the pools looking at guys saying, yep, nope, yep, yes. I'm not, but I'm going to be honest with you. If a guy, I'm not looking at small ones, but I am looking at the big ones. Like if a guy walks by me and it's soft and it's huge, I'm like, fuck, you know, I'm going to look. But I personally don't walk by and see a small one and think, shucks, I'm not going to fuck him. You know? I can't speak for all women I can only give my opinion I know what I've talked to other women about and that's just not something that we're actively let's like judging somebody when they first wake up and they've got bed head and their mascara it's like you're not in your prime you know you're not ready for so I just I wouldn't I wouldn't even think that so all right and if women are being ugly to you about it then they you need to find new friends because that is kind of No, I agree. Don't you agree? Yeah, I wonder where that insecurity has come from. It makes me think maybe somebody said something. Somebody must have said something. Yeah. And I mean, I've probably said things and not mean it. And they might not have done it intentionally. But especially in the lifestyle, no one should make you feel less than because of that. So, you know, check your circle, I guess, is my my advice there. I think that's great advice. All right. So I think that sums up this week's Tuesday Talk question. If you have a Tuesday Talk question, we would love to hear from you. There's a few different ways you can get a hold of us. You can email us your questions or send us an audio file. We've had more people doing that recently, and that's a great way to get us your questions. And you can email that to theswingnation at gmail.com, or you can call or text. And that phone number is? 972-302-7716. One more time. 972-302-7716. 77716. And we've been getting a lot of text messages. We've been getting some pictures and stuff like that I need to go through. You didn't. You didn't respond to people. I didn't. I thought about that. I was like people are going to think oh wait I didn't get a response. He didn't like my picture but you haven't done it. I got busy and didn't do it so I'm going to try to make that a priority. Which we're about to leave tomorrow to go out of town for a week so I don't know. I'm going to try. I'm going to try to do that today. Maybe like we're going we're going up north to spend time with family. Bring the phone. Bring the phone. Yeah because there's going to be time that we'll just be We won't really be working, but we'll be hanging out. So while we're laying in bed at night or something, you can respond. Yeah, maybe. Or maybe you could do it. Oh, I would do that. Yeah. Yeah, I could do that. Yeah. All right. Anything else for the Swing Nation listeners? That's it. All right, guys. I think with that, in a world full of apples. Be the pineapple. Be the pineapple, guys. Bye. If you want to see more of our content, you can find links to Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, OnlyFans and more in the show notes. Come join the conversation with us and other Swinger content creators on our Swinger Society Discord server. 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