Tuesday Talks: Bush, Bare, or Somewhere in Between? Grooming in the Lifestyle

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If you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and TikTok, head on over to swingersociety.net. Can't wait to see you there. Hey there, pineapple people, and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast. We are your hosts, Northern Guy and Southern Girl, and we are back with another episode of Tuesday. We are. Talking Tuesday. Yeah. We're dating WC. WC. Why is it always a W? WC with a W. We are home from all of our Christmas festivities. We had like a delayed one. We did. We went up north the first week of January. So I feel like it's like our now it's truly the first of the year for us. It's time to get ready to go full event mode. Yes. So if you don't know Electric Pleasures is like two weeks away. A little under two weeks. Yeah. Um, it's on the January 23rd, 24th in Gulf Breeze, Florida. Uh, so we're prepping. We're in big prep mode for that. And, uh, speaking of, we actually had some rooms come open. Yeah. A few people canceled. So we had some cancellations and then we also hold like staff rooms and stuff like that. And so now that we're kind of getting close to getting all finalized, we had a few extra rooms we were able to release. So I think there's like, like five rooms or something. Uh, so you can go to swear society.net and book those. If you've already bought a day pass and you would like a you can email admin at swinger society and uh well because we have to do some math to make sure you don't get overcharged so go ahead and email us or book the room and we'll refund you the difference back whatever whatever the case may be but uh we've got like five rooms so go check that out i'm getting excited yeah i am i got an email today that said somebody canceled the groove cruise that's to come to ep yeah um i don't know if i would do that well i got a message that somebody canceled ep to go to the So, you know, it all washes out. It all washes out. We can't win them all. That's true. It's okay. There's a lot of stuff going on that weekend. And honestly, when we picked that weekend, we did not know, which is this has happened to us quite a few times over the years. And sometimes we've like panicked and been like, oh, shit, we shouldn't. We've kind of learned to just kind of go with it. And the truth is, there's there's enough there's enough lifestyle people for everybody. Yeah. Well, especially now that EP is really more of a music festival slash lifestyle friendly. There's more More than enough music festival people for everybody. So yeah. Yeah. Definitely space for everybody. But yeah. If you are available, five rooms. And then there's also day passes. There's another hotel right next door. So we've got all kinds of room. Yeah. So come party with us. We're excited. Okay. Let's get into this week's Tuesday Talk question. Okay. So it's a text message. And it says, Hello, Dan and Lacey. My wife and I are 38, have been listening to you for the past year. We have our first Lifestyle Takeover in November of 2026. We are very fresh in the lifestyle and have a Tuesday Talk question. I was listening to another pod and as a side, the man host was talking about getting a Brazilian wax to prepare for his keto trip. I honestly hadn't given this much thought. I keep myself trim, but this triggered a lot of thoughts for me regarding male grooming in the lifestyle. Maybe Dan can share what he does, what is most common, and maybe Lacey, could share her thoughts on what she's looking for in male grooming. We love your pod. You've done so much for expanding our mindset. Hope to see you on Bliss 2027. And they're the sexy scientist. And we should be there. I don't know that we've officially booked it, but the plan is to go on. If somebody was asking us the other day about 2027 Bliss Cruises. February. We're like, we have not even thought that far ahead. But we have for the last like three years now booked every single Bliss Cruise there is. Yeah, we skipped one. And I don't see that changing unless for some reason it falls on, you know, if we have somebody getting married or a funeral or, you know, something life important comes up, we might not be able to make it. But for the most part, I think we attend or intend on being on all bliss cruises. Yes. Okay. Male grooming. Male grooming, specifically talking about male grooming, but we can talk a little bit, I think, about grooming in general. This is a subject that seems to keep coming up here lately. We've had many conversations about how the Bush's back here lately. Yeah, we have. And I think the more, we've seen more and more of that, I think, in the last year or so. I think hair comes and goes with trends, you know? And so I think that's kind of part of it. I also think there's going to be people that like certain things regardless of what the trends are. So I think just do what makes you happy. I agree. But we can get into it. So Dan, his first question was, what do you do to groom? Right. So I have kept my myself shaved really since I got divorced. You know what I mean? So once I started getting sexually. Did you have a full bush like before that? We never talked about that. There was at times during my marriage where I had a full bush. I think I tried to keep it somewhat trimmed. It wasn't like the wild, wild west. You know, I'm a pretty, I take, you know, I take hygiene pretty well. You do. So I think I always kept it somewhat trimmed. But then once I got divorced and started getting back out, There, I started shaving. And I have done that since then. And that was, I don't know, 10 years ago, 12 years ago. But I have to say, you're not a super hairy guy. Some guys are very hairy. Like your chest area, you're not like one of those guys that are covered with hair. Right. So for you to keep kind of your chest and everything kind of, it doesn't take much. Right. Basically, when I shower, and not even every time I shower, every two or three days, if I take, I like using a I like using your the soap razor so Lacey has this razor she uses to shape her legs yeah I don't know what it is called an intuition it's it's kind of a bigger razor which I don't like that part but it comes the cartridges that you change out have actually soap built in around them and so I usually just buy those I'm actually lasered basically everywhere at this point but I still like to do that every so often because even though I'm lasered I'll get a wild hair here or there so especially before an I'll try to like go over everything so that and I've used that since I was a teenager and so I guess you've you've taken you had it in the shower and I've actually like now I have to stay on to you I'm be like hey you need to put a new razor head on that razor and the reason I like it is that soap there that's around that razor head is very like slippery yeah and so you don't need like shaving cream like I can just use just the razor and that soap and it it I can shave but again I am not a very hairy person so if you were had thick hair on your body or on your private parts. Maybe that wouldn't work for you. You'd have to do something else. Okay, so Ben shaved since I got divorced, but then you are lasered, and you talked me into going and getting lasered. Well, okay, so hold on. I didn't just talk you into it. You were like, can I go? I don't think I said that. I think you mentioned it. So, okay, let me just tell like a little bit backstory of my laser. I had my underarms lasered probably 15 years ago. No joke, I think I got a Groupon. It was $99. And it was the best thing I've done ever because I've literally not had to shave my underarms really since then. Occasionally I'll do it just because it, I don't know, I feel like I need to, but there's really not a whole lot of reason to. And so once we got in the lifestyle and stuff, I was like, you know, I really would love to have my bikini done. So I got another group on and started going to a place. And honestly, it was not, it wasn't a great experience. The lady was kind of a bitch. She would always accuse me of tanning and a tan in bed, even though I was. But I didn't want to admit it. So it was just like this is back and forth. So eventually I said, fuck it. Screw the group on. Especially once the OnlyFans money started coming in and things were a little bit more comfortable. I just decided, I found like a med spa in town and went. And I ended up getting my whole bikini and then my legs done, upper or lower. And around that time, and I was going every six weeks. And you, and so me and you started talking about it. And so I asked my laser girl, I'm like, hey, you know, my husband, My husband would love to have his, you know, like so he doesn't have to shave his like dick. Brazilian. Yeah, his dick basically. A male Brazilian. Is that what they call it? I don't know. A Brazilian is everything. Like, you know, but I guess you did do your butthole and stuff. I did, yeah. So anyway, I went to her and she was like, yeah, she's like, we have a couple of males. It's not super uncommon. And so you went and you basically, you were, so first of all, it wasn't, it didn't hurt, right? You were worried it was going to hurt. No, it's less than a tattoo, I would say. tattoos before, you know that feeling. I'd say getting lasered is probably like half of that. Yeah. And you don't, and you didn't get numbed or anything. You can, if you, if you're really worried about pain, you can get numbed. Um, but it's kind of like reminds me of a, like a rubber band pop. But as soon as the laser comes off, it's no longer. Now I will say, so I've, I went, I don't know how many times, 10 times or something like that and got treatments. I still have hair. I still have a little hair too on my bikini. I don't have a little hair. I have a decent amount. But what I will say, and I've heard this before, is my hair is light. So I am a Scottish person. So in my beard and in my private parts, the hair on my body is like a strawberry blonde reddish color. And so my hair is lighter. It's like a darker red. It's not like blonde blonde, you know what I mean? But I've heard the lighter the hair, the harder it is for the lasers. So you have dark hair. I do. And I don't have... I've never seen your bush, but was your bush dark? Yeah, it was dark hair. Yeah, I'm never... So maybe the laser is more effective on your hair than it was on my hair. Yeah. But I still get hair. Now, what I will say is I shave extremely, a lot less. Where it used to be like every couple days, I might be able to go like a week or so in between having to kind of trim it up. Oh, see, I can go like a month. And even then, I have like maybe three hairs. I don't have much hair at all. But I will say, though, in the lifestyle, it is very common to see not a lot of hair. That is sort of the general overall thing. Now, do I think men should go and have their entire bodies waxed for a lifestyle thing? No, I don't. I've played with guys that have hair down there. I just think if you keep it trimmed up, that's okay. But I will say there is a space for men who have hair. And I think, for instance, I'm very much attracted to a manly man. So if you have a little hair or, you know, a little bit more than a little, I'm okay with that. I just don't want to go down and suck your dick. And I'm having to like. Spread the force. Yeah. I just I don't really want to do that. And I don't even mind like chest hair and stuff like that. It's just really like the bush on the dick is the only thing that really kind of bothers me. Yeah. I have hair on my head and I have a little bit of a beard and a little bit of arm hair. But most of my body is pretty hairless. Your legs are hairy. Yeah. A little hairy on my legs. But yeah. I keep all that pretty trimmed. But I will say. So to your point of you don't mind a little hair, I don't mind a little hair either. I do think, you know, we're talking about female hair. I do feel like female bushes and things are starting to come back around. Not so much like the full bush, but like these happy trail kind of thing, landing strips, things like that kind of thing is coming back around. If you go back and listen to our last Hedo episode, we actually had friends that were there. She's an OnlyFans creator and her whole niche is to be a full bush. So she has, I mean, a full bush, like a bushy bush. And I played with her and I didn't mind it. Yeah. And part of the lifestyle I will say is that's kind of fun though. Yeah. When somebody has something different that you don't really have, you know, haven't really experienced before. I was kind of looking forward to playing with her because I was like, haven't had a bush in a while. Yeah. I haven't really experienced that in a while. I think my preference would still be to not have that. Yeah. You know, but it was fun and I enjoyed it. So I do think you're right. I think the most important thing out of all this, I think, you know, body hair is preference. but hygiene is not right so if you do have body hair keeping it clean you know washing more you know if you have a full bush you might have to you know but same with a beard a little more to have hygiene same with a beard right i think you enjoy beards and you think beards are sexy but if you have a wild crazy beard that's dirty like that's not attractive either right yeah i think i guess what i take away from this is he seemed pretty stressed out about the hair situation for something like a year and a half from now nothing in the is that serious? Right. I mean, really? Because truthfully, you could go with every single piece of hair that you currently have on your body, and somebody's going to be into that. You could also shave everything off or wax everything off, and somebody's also into that. Or you could find something in the middle, and there's going to be somebody that's attracted to that. So I really would, like, if I could, like, reassure you in any way, whatever you decide will be okay. Right. We'll be completely fine. feel confident in your skin and you walk out with your head held high. I mean, you're going to be okay. So I really hate that you are worried like that. Well, I think it's when you're new to lifestyle, I think you worry about it. Well, I mean, honestly, we all worry about it. If you want me to be honest, I'm in a girls group chat right now and we're about to go to EP, you know, next week. And we talked about that in the beginning. And everybody's like freaking out about their offense, including me. I'm not even going to lie. But then when I sit back and think about it, I'm like, nobody gives a shit. You know, like nobody cares. what you have on. I mean, as long as you're clean, you're having fun, you're a good time, that's really what's important. And honestly, we're probably going to change outfits five times. You know, like, so I'm really trying, like, especially maybe going, do you remember we went to trapeze a few weeks ago and I completely wore the wrong outfit? And I had so much fun and it didn't even matter. I think, like, I've been thinking about that a lot lately and how, like, little things that in the past I've let completely derail a situation. I've really been focusing on it's not that big of a deal. Nobody really gives a shit. And the same goes for this guy. You know, as long as you're clean and you're having fun and you're a good time, that's the one thing people care about. No, 100%. It's hygiene over whether or not you actually have body hair. And like the only, really the only reason I stay to being clean shave as opposed to having a little, a little bit down there is, I think a little bit's annoying to me. Like when I, you know what I mean? When I just have that little short bit of hair. Like where it's like scratchy. Yeah, kind of scratchy. And I don't enjoy that. I think you even don't like it. It starts to scratch you when we fuck and stuff. You're like, it's like, man, it's a little sandpapery down there. Well, it's kind of like when a guy has like that five o'clock shadow, a little, you know, where it's kind of prickly and you're making out. That kind of hurts too. So it's either you have to have it like kind of smooth or long enough to where it's not that sandpapery feeling, you know? And just like another like pro tip, before I was lasered, what I would do is I can't, you know how Dan said he shows with the razor. I cannot shave my pubic hair with a razor like that. I will have ingrown hairs. like nobody's business. So what I would do is I have, and I still do it when I have my three hairs, I get like a man's razor, like the electric ones. And I just cut it as close to the skin as I can. So it's not completely gone, but it's. Right. It keeps you from getting ingrown hair. It's pretty much gone, you know, and it's, it's usually I can get it close enough that it's not rough or anything. And that was what I was able to do without like taking an actual blade to my skin and then, and then having ingrown hairs. So that's what I was able to do. that's what I would always do. Yeah. Uh, okay. Well, I hope that helps answer your Tuesday talk question. I think, uh, at the end of the day, it's just all about hygiene and personal personal preference and really what makes you feel the most comfortable and sexy, uh, going to events and parties. And we can't, hopefully we see you on the blisters. It's going to be a good time. Bliss cruise is always a good time. Speaking of bliss cruise, February is basically sold out. We were able to get somebody in last week. So, I mean, really, if you want to go to February, e-mail us at admin at Swinger Society or find a way to message us. We can help you get a room. But April, if you're thinking about going, there is still a decent amount of room on the April cruise. I think a lot of people did the February one because it was new and different. But we'll still be on the April one and there's still plenty of spots left. So if you see us going, you see us prepping for it in the next few weeks and you're like, damn, I wish I could go, you can go to Swinger Society.net and look up rooms and all of that. Yeah, that is a good pro tip. So, you know, these bliss cruises do sell out like a year plus in advance. But there's always cancellations. And those cancellations generally happen in that last 30 days, right? When people actually sit down, look at their calendar, figure out if they can or can't make it, and then they'll cancel. And so we can get people often on some last minute cancellation bliss cruises. And I think they've kind of, it's almost like bliss cruises figured out that we usually have people that. Yeah. So it seems like they message us first a lot of times. They're like, hey, we have a room available. Can you get that sold? We were on vacation last week. We were ice skating and I was literally helping someone get in touch with someone so they could book one of the last rooms. So we'll do everything that we can to help you. But for some reason, like he said, they're usually sold out. April's not sold out, which is very unusual. I think it is because it's the first time they put them back to back. Yeah, I think because they did the ad of that February one in this year, it kind of threw things off a little bit. So either way or come to November 2027 like this guy. We'll be there too. We will be there too. All right. Anything else for the Swing Nation listeners? That's it. All right. If you have a Tuesday talk question, we would love to hear from you. A few different ways you can get a hold of us. You can email us at theswingnation at gmail.com, theswingnation at gmail.com, or you can call or text. And that phone number is? 727716. One more time? 972-302-7716. And we've also, we've had more and more people sending voice notes via email, but they've also been doing them via text, which is something I didn't really think about, is you could record a voice note and then send it to us via text message. And that way it kind of gives you more opportunity maybe to rehearse what you say a couple times or whatever, which you don't need to do that, but I totally understand if that's something you do want to do. But we could use some more questions. So please text us, call us, email us. We'd love to hear your question. And I think that's about it. Yep. All right. We hope to see you at Electric Pleasures. We look forward to seeing everybody else on Bliss Cruise. We got events all 2026. Head over to swingerside.net. Check it out. We hope to see you at a party soon. Yep. All right. 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