New Year’s Eve Unfiltered: Tears, Tension & Turning It Around

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If you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and TikTok, head on over to swingersociety.net. Can't wait to see you there. Hey there, pineapple people, and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast. We are your hosts, Northern Guy and Southern Girl, and we are back with another full-length episode of the Swing Nation podcast. Yes, and we're back at it. We are back at it. Yeah, no more. Boy, are we back at it. Yeah. Today's been a day. Oh, today? Yeah. Yeah, you've been busy all day. Been busy. Just, you know, just when you think, you couldn't possibly put any more things on your plate. That's you, babe. Not me. That's who you think. What was on your plate today? I did some crafts. I made some. Yeah, I did. Like, I'm being serious. We have electric pleasures coming up next week. And the rave community is a little different than the swinger community. And I've been bracing it. So I've been arts and crafts. And actually, it's been, it's kind of good to keep my hands busy, less scrolling, more like doing things. Well, I could keep your hands busy. You did this morning. That's all you needed. You did this morning. Yeah, just ask me. I got you, babe. Okay, so this episode, we are going to talk all about New Year's. New Year's Eve. Yeah. And this year, for New Year's Eve, for the first time ever, we went to a swingers party. Yeah, so we always have reserved that week because your kids live in a different state than my kid. So like the traveling schedule, we've usually just traveled that week. and did like a late Christmas with your kids. Um, but they're all, they're all grown up now and they have jobs and boyfriends and girlfriends and lives. And so we, we planned it later this year. So we, we went up North this past week. Um, when you're hearing this, we were there last week. So if you saw in our TikToks, you saw the snow and stuff. So because of that, we got to actually go to a New Year's Eve party for the first time. We, you and I have only ever like sat at home and watched the ball drop. Well, we went to Niagara Falls last This is our first Swingers New Year's Eve. What we did is we went to Open Instincts, which is a hotel takeover party in Atlanta. This year, we actually co-sponsored it with Electric Pleasures. Not only did we go, but we brought all of our nice new equipment, all the lights and the DJ equipment and LED wall. We brought it to Open Instincts their New Year's Eve party. Yeah. And I got to DJ a little bit and it was a good time. Yeah. It ended up being a lot of work for you. It was a lot of work. Yeah. Which I mean I hated that for you. I kind of felt bad because there wasn't a lot I could do to help you. But I got some work done too. You did get some work done. So we kind of used it as a trial run to kind of test out some of our equipment for Gulf Breeze. Yeah. And I think that it went pretty good. Yeah. It went really good. Okay. So we want to hop into it. Let's get into it. Okay. So we left. Sunday night. And I'm going to try to keep the days correct. Because the whole week, Dan called it Friday and Saturday. Because most swinger parties are Friday and Saturday. But this was actually like Tuesday and Wednesday. So I'm going to try to keep you on track. Because the whole week. I kept saying Friday and Saturday. Everybody did. I was thinking of this also. I don't know if we've ever done a swinger event on a Tuesday and a Wednesday. No. It might be our first time ever doing that as well. Yeah, true. I mean, we've been to like Secrets. Probably Airbnb. and stuff like that. But yeah. And like bliss cruise. Um, okay. So we left Sunday night with our goal is just getting to the hotel. Like we didn't need, we weren't doing anything. We weren't going anywhere. We just wanted to get there. So I don't think we left home until like six o'clock, which this party is in Roswell, Georgia, which is right outside of Atlanta. So it's actually, it's kind of closer to our, so it wasn't, it wasn't a bad, we got there. A three hour drive. Yeah. Not too bad. We got there, you know, about 10 o'clock or so. Cause there's a time difference. Um, Literally, we just kind of got in, got our stuff unloaded, and pretty much just went to bed or laid down and, you know. Kind of like figured out a game plan for the next day. Yeah, yeah. So we went to bed, and then the next morning, we got up, and you were right early. I think it was like 10 a.m. You were gone to start setting up. Yes. And I'll let you kind of chime in there, because I don't know what the hell you were doing down there. So this is Monday, right? Yes, this is your setup day. So basically, we had a whole day to set up. And we went and we unloaded the trailer. And then from my perspective, it was basically just getting all the equipment set up. Yeah. And so we have an LED wall that goes in front of the DJ. And our LED wall is actually five 50 or four 55 inch TVs. And then there's obviously the DJ booth. And then we have some trussing and some lighting. All the trussing and lighting needs power. And then we actually we've invested in an AI controller. that controls all the lights via what they call DMX. So it's basically like a computer box that runs all the lights. But because of that, you have to link them all together and hook them to the system. And then once I got them hooked to the system, there was a lot of like programming them and dialing them. Yeah. You were down there for like eight hours. At some point, I was like, well, you have to have dinner. Like you were down there all day. I knew that you pretty much and there's something I can do. I am not a technical person. I can't hook up speakers. That's just not my forte. I would have been in your way. So I pretty much stayed in the room. I would come down and kind of check in with you and see how I was going. Just because I kind of felt bad that you were down there. But for the most part, I was in my room. And because I knew I had like a whole day in a hotel room with like nothing to do, we planned it and I ran like an OnlyFans Custom. special, which I don't make a lot of custom videos. I will. Um, but I just, I don't know. It's just, we make more just videos and put them out. Not so much custom. So what is a, so if somebody is listening and then maybe they're not somebody that subscribe, subscribes to only fans and they don't know what you're talking about. What do you mean? What is an only fans custom? So like you can request a video from me with almost whatever you want within reason. Like I obviously am going to tell you, if you're ridiculous, and there are people out there that are completely fucking ridiculous, but not to kink shame anybody, but for the most part, it's a lot of like you're saying the guy's name or, you know, or they have special requests. Like they want you to be topless or they want you to do or say, you know, certain like whatever they're into. Yeah, some of them get very specific. I think down to like nail polish color. No, I don't know about that because I'm not getting, I mean, they could pay for me to get my nails done, but it's not like that. It's more of like, you know, and they, the videos can range anywhere between like two and five minutes. And because we ran a special and I knew I was going to be doing quite a few of them, we did them like for half off. I mean, they were still $75 each or something like that, but still pretty good. I mean, I think they're normally like $150. So we had like told everybody, hey, I'm going to be in a hotel room for the day if you want this. So it ended up, I think I made like like six or seven videos. So you, while I was downstairs working, um, putting together all the sound and light and audio equipment, you were upstairs playing with yourself. Yeah. I squirted. Um, yeah, yeah. I, I basically, I feel like I got the raw end of the stick here. And honestly, I had a blast. Why don't I get paid to like jerk off? Well, it's funny. Oh, you could probably, you got a good dick, but like it's one guy wanted me to wear, you know, have a, somebody, somebody order a custom from me. I bet you'll get it um somebody wanted me to have like a butt plug-in and stuff so you know like I'd make a one or two and honestly it because they're only like two and five minutes I did them all in like an hour and a half so like honestly for the amount of work it was doesn't require a lot of editing you know it was so anyway I did that I've also one of my new year's resolutions which obviously this is before new year's this is new you know right is to start reading well I'm listening to audiobooks. So call it what you want. But I've been trying to read more, scroll less. Obviously, I was talking about the crafts earlier, too. So I was reading. I was finishing up my first book. So I was reading or listening to my book and making customs. And I did like an everything shower. So I really, I had a great day. Yeah. You, not so much. It wasn't bad. Yeah. I don't mind. You know, the thing about sound and lighting, it's just, Meticulous. You know what I mean? Like it's put one light up, run all your cables, try not to get everything, you know, tied up. And because it was the first time kind of using some of this stuff, you know, it just took a little longer than it probably will like the next time I do it. A lot of like trial and error kind of stuff to make sure, you know, to dial everything in the way I wanted it. But none of it was like hard work or, you know, it wasn't like terrible or anything. Yeah. Well, like the week before you were like, hey, we're going to be in Atlanta on Monday night. Do you want to go? on like a special little date or something. And I was like, oh my God, you're not the most romantic. You can, you can. I'm super romantic. You can fuck me like nobody's business. But romance is not your big thing, which, you know, I. Take what you get. I'll take what I can get, you know. Sure. So you were like, you almost, you wanted to do like an activity. Like you kept saying, go find a Groupon. And I'm like, I don't think it works that way. But we did look at Groupon. And there was. They have lots of good date night ideas. They did. If you, if you looked a few hours, like a few days before or even a week before. It was on a Monday night. A lot of things were weekends. They had like, you know, wine tasting and like, I don't know, pottery painting. Yeah, but this was like, we were looking like three hours before. I'm like, one of your breaks, we were looking. And so at some point you were down there and it was like past five o'clock. I was hungry and I went down there and I'm like, we gotta eat. I'm, you know, I had looked up, I had asked friends that live in the area. I was like, you know what? Forget a thing, like a, an activity. Let's just go get like a really good steak or something. I know you love that. So I had like figured it all out. And then I get down there and I realize that your truck has the trailer hooked up to it. And I'm like, and at this point you have been down there all day and I'm starving and there's just a lot going on. And like at this point, a lot of people have started starting to arrive, even though it doesn't start to the next day, especially like the vendors and stuff. And we had been, we had been down there for chit chatting. So finally, I was like, just take me to Olive Garden. It's in the parking lot at the hotel. Yeah. But one of the best experiences I've ever had at Olive Garden, we sat down and were out in like 30 minutes. Yeah, easy. I mean, it was amazing. So anyway, we ended up eating at Olive Garden like multiple times. Which is your kind of date night though, honestly. I actually really loved it. I did. I mean, I wouldn't mind a nice steak. I just kind of liked the idea to go somewhere new, but it was fine. I mean, I wasn't disappointed or anything. I was like, breadsticks, pasta, I'm good. It's the way to your heart. Yeah, it was good. So yeah, we walked to the Olive Garden and had dinner. And then we came back and we went to bed. It was pretty much it. It was pretty low-key. Pretty low-key Thursday. Yeah. All right. Okay. And then now it's party time. It's Tuesday. That's right. Not Friday. It's Tuesday. Which you consider Friday. Okay. So we slept in and all of our friends were kind of trickling in. throughout the day. You know, we get a lot of shit about making OnlyFans content at Swinger events. But honestly, this one, and we don't a lot because I think it's probably about 50-50, would you guess? Yeah. This one, because it wasn't, even though you were doing the like sound and lighting and stuff, it wasn't our event. You know, we weren't in charge of anything. We just kind of were there for fun. So I was like, shit, we need to at least do something, you know, to make it kind of like worth our while. Not that it wouldn't have been. It just kind of... You get to have a lot of fun, but you also have to do work, too. So it was kind of like a way to balance it out. So I had messaged Alexa Lee. Is that her new name? Yes. That is a venture couple. Yeah. So venture... From the podcast, if you listen. I had messaged her and was like, hey, how do you feel about just knocking out one video? Let's just do something quick. Me and Her and You. Because we had recently done a video. No, it was me and Daphne and the Horseman guy. So we had recently done a threesome video and it was really, really hot. So I was like, let's just do that. It'll be easy. It'll be quick. It won't be like a big deal. Well, I think we've been on this kick of MFM. So guy, girl, guy. We've done a bunch of those lately. So we were trying to get something different. Yeah. I like fucking her. It was like a great thing. And then I was like, oh, and then her husband can film it. It'll be, you know, it'll be awesome. Right. So anyway, so we woke up and that was kind of like our plan for the day. So I got ready. You kind of got ready. What are you smiling about? No, I'm just, I was just thinking about all this. Yeah. Okay. Um, and some of our other friends, which Beauty and the Beast, you've heard us talk about them. They actually flew up from, I'm not gonna say where they live. They flew from where they live, which we were kind of surprised. Not to take away from Open Instincts, but I wouldn't fly there. Well, I would say Open Instincts is like a local hotel takeover. Yeah. And there's several like this vibe. Even a lot of the friction parties are all over, but they're kind of local parties. LSC. LSC. Yeah. Gems in Birmingham. There's just several parties where they're kind of like the local party. Yeah. And they're good. They're good parties for that, but they're not like something most people like travel. across the country to go to, which is kind of a local scene. And they were, which I think they were just coming for friends. You know, it was more about the friends and the actual party. And them and a venture couple have really seemed to hit it off in the last few months, which I love and support. So anyway, so a venture couple and Beauty and the Beast, our people are starting to arrive. And so we all somehow like end up in our room and then it's time to make the content. And so Beauty and the Beast stayed in there. But sat and watched. And sat and watched our content. Yeah, I was like a tad bit embarrassed. Uh-huh. But I don't know why because like we fucked them a hundred times. So it's not like they'd have seen me. I think it's just like a mental thing, you know? Yeah, yeah. But they sat in there and watched. I will be honest with you. I was feeling pretty insecure. During the making of the video? Yeah, I wore my... I feel like I'm a little... I put on a little weight during Christmas, which is okay. I'm not... I'm not talking bad about myself. Our last episode was... The Body Positivity episode. And I'm working on it. We've got things in motion to, you know, more so for me. But I just wasn't feeling like the most confident. And also Beauty and the Beast, she is like a rail. She's so tiny. She is adorable. And a venture couple, she's not a big girl. She's a little girl. And so I just felt like, I don't know, like just a big girl. In the room? Yeah. And also I recently cut my hair short, which I love. It's not short. It's actually pretty long, but it's I feel like a mom. I do. I feel a little bit frumpy. I don't hate it. I actually love it. But like when I make when I take like bikini pictures or when I'm when I'm being sexy, I feel more sexy with long hair. That is a that's a that's a mind. All of that. That your size, the hair, that's all in your head. For sure. And I'm aware of that. It's almost like my long extensions are like my security. Well, because here's the truth. like you feel probably insecure because you feel like you're more curvy than them they probably feel insecure because for sure because they want your you're more curvy than them you know like so like for sure yeah for sure um but and i had my hair like straight which i never did it's which is out of my comfort zone and i just i don't know i just didn't feel i didn't feel myself i felt a little off no i don't think i realized that yeah but it's okay i mean like I noticed it more so in the evening because I was messing with my outfit. Remember, I was changing a couple of times. We haven't got to that part yet. But anyway, I was feeling a little self-conscious. But it was fine. I mean, I was okay. We took pictures. We made the content. I'm going to be honest with you. I hate the pictures. And I don't watch any of my content, so it's fine. Yeah, I want to scrub all those pictures off of your phone so you don't share them. But I don't do that. I used to do that. I don't do that anymore. Sometimes if he continues to share something, I'm like, babe, it's not my favorite. So post all those more, is that what you're saying? No, it's fine. It's not a big deal. Well, I don't, we went out in the hallway to make, to take the pictures because there's, they actually, the hallways at Open Instinct were amazing. But I don't know, the light, the lighting out there wasn't the best. Well, I thought they would look good with the lighting. But I think it, yeah, it just, it didn't, they didn't hit the way that I wanted them to. But that's okay. It's okay. It's totally fine. You're not going to hit every photo thing out of the park and that's okay. Well, it wasn't the most photogenic space anyway. Yeah. You know what I mean? It's a nice, it's a decent, like, you know, four-star hotel. Yeah. But it's not, you know, it's not as nice as having, like, some of the, like, legit photo backdrops. For sure. Or, like, you know, a cute Airbnb or something like that. Yeah. Yeah, taking pictures in, like, a normal kind of average hotel is a little bit more difficult. Yeah. So, we made a content, Feeding the Beast 1. It was free. I mean, you seem like you had a good time. Yeah. I mean, I mean, when I say content, we were fucking on camera. Yeah. So it was me, you and her. I don't know. I'm trying to think, you know, it's been a while now since we did all this. It's like two weeks ago. But I do specifically remember at one point you she was laying on the bed. You were on top of her and I was fucking you from behind. Or no, she was on top of you. Yeah. So I say I was laying on my back. She was like straddled on me and you were fucking her. And then I pulled out and she squirted basically on your pussy. Yes. Which we kind of planned that. Uh, and I was okay with it. So we, we had put her there. It was really hot. So, I mean, I'm sure the video is great and I'm just being ridiculous. I am fully aware that I'm being ridiculous. I'm just, which I don't think, I don't know. Have you, I don't think you've ever been like purposely squirted on and especially not like somebody else squirting on your, like your pussy. Yeah. I, I, as long as you're not, it's not my hair. I'm usually pretty good. But, you know, it happens, and this is always the funny thing, right? You see something in porn, you're like, oh, my God, that's so hot. Porn stars must be, like, super flexible. Like, it never goes the way it looked in the porn. That went pretty damn well. I mean, I bet it's hot. It was a little more difficult than I think I thought it would be. I just laid there. It was pretty easy for me. It was the same. We just did a DVP with some of our friends, and we tried to do something, and it was a little awkward. Yeah. You know what I mean? We did it though. They always do it in the porn and it looks so perfect. This is where the night took a turn. I'm going to be super sensitive when I talk about this because I don't want to throw anybody under the bus. I don't want to speak for anybody and I don't want to... I don't know. I guess I'm protective. Is that a good thing? I'm just listening to what you're saying. I'm not sure where exactly you're going. I know where you're going but I'm not exactly... or how you are choosing to word this. Okay. So after we got done, everybody was pretty hungry. At this point, it's like 4.30, like pushing five. And everybody is like wanting to go eat. And my understanding was the activities for the night started at six. That's what I was told. The pre-meet and greet. That's true. Yeah. But then at some point, it was changed that maybe it started at eight. I don't know. Both are true. Okay. So what it was is the pre-party meet and greet was happening in the bar area that started at six gotcha the music in the club area started at eight gotcha so like if it started at six i'm thinking okay well we probably need to go eat so that way we can get back and then i mean obviously we wouldn't have made it back before six but like we would be down there by like seven you know like and honestly seven was probably like a good meal way if we wanted to do both but everybody was ready to go so i am at the same time i am texting and she's like, hey, what are the plans? Because she had to work. So her and Daddy Mike had to work. She didn't get off until like 530. They don't live super far, but still it's Atlanta traffic. It's five o'clock. You know, it's just a lot. So she couldn't, she couldn't leave until after 530. And so there was some talk and she's like, hey, will you wait for us for dinner? And I'm like, well, I think everybody's wanting to go. And so I was feeling, very torn. Because obviously, I love my best friend. And I want to wait and go have dinner with her. You know, like 100%. I never see, I mean, I don't never see. I don't get to see her every, you know, couple months, once a month. So I 100% was down to wait on her. And I was like trying to mention it to you and everybody else. And nobody seemed to give a shit. And I don't want to throw any of the other people under the bus. She's my best friend. I wanted to wait because she was my best friend. It's not their jobs to wait. And even you. No, I said, fuck that. Well, and listen, it's not because I don't love Daphne. I love Daphne more than anything. But one, I was hungry. Yeah, I was too. Two, I was wanting to get back because I wanted to be back before the music started because it was our equipment and our stuff. And so I wanted to make sure the DJ had everything they needed to start, right? And I know Daphne. And this is where it gets a little confusing, but there was a text said about she needed to get ready before we went out. Yeah, so one of the things she said was, well, I have to get completely ready when I get there. I'm not ready. And so I was like, okay. And there was a miscommunication. I actually went back. I didn't type it correctly. I think I misworded it. But what I was trying to say was, can you get here and then we go eat before you get ready? And then you can come back and get ready and go down. And I don't think, I think I scrambled a few, probably because we were like, we're like trying to walk out the door while I'm like pleading to them. We might've been in the truck almost. No, we, we, yeah. And I'm like, we weren't in the truck yet, but I'm like, can you get ready? Because then I was like, okay, well, I'll stall. I'll get everybody to stall. And I think she maybe misunderstood or maybe she said that she would do that. I don't know. And I think that's where the miscommunication came in. Right. Because I was basically like, there's no way we can wait for her to get here and then wait for her to get ready and still go eat and get back in time. Yeah, because at this point. So I was probably the leader of fuck that. Yeah, at this point it's like 5.15. Right. You know, so we're thinking if she doesn't get here until let's say it takes her 30, 40, five minutes at 6.15. Then we go and eat. Well, she had to get ready. It had been another. Yeah. So we're like, so anyway, I'm voting. Let's stay. Let's stay. Everybody else is like, we're going. So we ended up going and I'm like, okay, well, everybody wanted to go. So we're going. I'm sorry. You want me to bring you back? I was like, I was trying to overcompensate because I knew, listen, I am the queen of getting my feelings heard. Let me make that super clear. I do not like feeling left out. I don't like feeling like people are talking about me. I want everybody to be my friend. So I and I'm not trying to say that this is how she felt because I don't know. But if I was her, I would have felt left out. You know, I'm working. Everybody else is fucking and having fun. We've been in that situation. Yes, we've been. You know, so I've got that. I get that. And it's there's been many a times throughout our years that I like, especially when we had to work and set up and everybody else is going and doing things. So I was like, I felt that. I felt like she probably feels left out, you know, and I get it. And so, yeah, I'm like trying to overcompensate via text. I'm like, you want me to bring you food bag? Do you, what are you wearing tonight? Like, I'm just trying to like make friends. You know, we're trying to like butter her up. It's not going well. She's not being mean to me by any means, but she's just like, we're going to get something. Don't worry about us. You know, you could tell she was a little frustrated. Or at least I felt like she was a little fresher at him. Which might be you. Because you're worried that. Could be you overthinking it. Analyzing it as well. I overthink everything. So that makes perfect sense. So we go. We go and have Hooters. Which ends up being awful. It's terrible. The waitress was the worst waitress I think I've ever experienced. At a restaurant. Yeah. In my life. Yeah. I mean like. Which at Hooters. That's. They're supposed to be nice and friendly and flirty. The exact opposite. And if you don't know this about me. I worked for Hooters. For. Like, it was awful. Like, it was all we could do not to say something. It was that bad. Or walk out. And there was only two waitresses in the entire place. And this is New Year's Eve? Mm-hmm. Yeah? But there was only, like, three customers in the entire place. This is the day before New Year's Eve. Sorry. Yeah. So anyway, it ends up being, like, I would have rather have, like... Ate McDonald's. Yeah. It was awful. So we get back in the car, and we get back, and we walk in, and we're like, Hey, we're back. You know, we're talking to people when we're checking in. And as we're waiting for the elevator, it opens. And all of a sudden, Daphne and Mike dart out. And I'm like, hey. And she's like, hey. And it was just awkward. Could have been me. I could have made it awkward. I could have been reading into it. I felt awkward. I can't speak for her. I felt awkward. I was like, what are y'all doing? We're going to get off guard. And I was like, oh, hey, I'm jealous. Our hoodress was terrible. I had gotten there. She also hadn't gotten ready. It was a shit show. It was a shit show. Okay. I went and got the DJ set up. Yes. Party starting. So we go upstairs and I'm pretty much ready, but us girls are getting ready. This is where I struggled with. Your outfit. Yeah, I just didn't really have a good outfit. And it was like, is this formal night? Is it informal? There was some questions. You kept saying it's a jeans vibe. was in dresses and stuff. So what was the vibe? I feel like it was pretty dressy. Yeah. Yeah. Well, this is the thing is most, especially open instincts, they usually don't even do a, what would be the equivalent of a Friday night party. They usually just do the meet and greet in the bar. Yeah. And then several hotel takeovers we go to Friday night for a hotel takeover usually is the more casual chill night. If it's one of these local two day type of events. Yeah, but this was also New Year's. It was New Year's, yeah. So anyway, so we got ready. with him, Mike, get back. She gets ready. Again, I felt like the vibe was off in the room. I don't know if it was me, if it was her, if it was him. At some point, I even asked Mike, I'm like, is she upset with me? And he was like, kind of gave me a look. And I was like, Mike, I tried to wait on her. You know, I'm like. It's Dan's fault. I'm like, I'm the one that was trying. And he, you know, he's like, and of course, he's like picking with me. And, you know, we just tried to like make it weird. I think all of us girls were trying to turn it around. You know, we were like chatting with her and getting drinks and just trying to make the best, trying to turn it around, you know, because we've all been there. We've all had our feelings hurt and you're trying to like pull it back together. And so that's what I felt like the situation was. Not going to put words in her mouth because I don't know. Okay. Okay. So it's time to go to the party. We go to the party. We are literally out there for 10 minutes. And what did you do, Dan? I started picking on Daphne. Yeah. But not in a... I could tell... I could feel this uncomfortableness. Yeah. This vibe killer, this like everybody's not okay thing, right? It wasn't like we were all vibing and having fun. There was clearly some tension in the air of whatever it was. And I actually think I said... I think I told her, I wanted to wait for you, but Lacey said, fuck that, let's go eat. Which I was joking. I was just being sarcastic. and trying to make light of the situation. And maybe this is a bad thing. You ever like, this is awkward to just make a joke about it kind of thing? That's what I thought I was doing. But when I said that, she was then like, no, that's not what I said. And I think that's when we figured out that maybe there was a miscommunication. And so I got my phone out and I was trying to show her where I asked, which was... On the dance floor. On the dance floor, which was not a good look. And then she was like, see right there. And so I just finally was like... I just put my phone up and I was like, I think I need to walk away. So I was like, come on down, let's walk away. So I just kind of like removed myself from the situation. One, because we do have like a public persona. Is that the right term? I didn't want anybody to see me fighting with my best friend over if we went to dinner or not. You know, like that was stupid. So I didn't want anybody to see that. I was a little frustrated because of all the people that wanted to wait, it was me. And somehow I felt like the bad guy. Which is probably my fault. Because I was making a bad joke. Yeah. So I walked off. It was anybody's fault. It's probably my fault. So we tried to walk off. And literally, as soon as we walked off the dance floor, all these people started talking to us. Like everybody we walked past. Everybody. They're like, hey, come here. And this one guy's like, my wife, she loves you. It's our first party ever. And we're like, and like. Will you say hi to her? I just got in a fight on the dance floor with my best friend. But I'm like trying to pretend like I'm not. You know, I'm like, yeah. to see your wife. To be fair, you were pretty upset. I was. I think you were ready to cry. Yeah. And not just you were overwhelmed. Yeah. It was just a combination of the, you know. So I'm like, yeah, let's go meet your wife. So we like met his wife and then like somebody else came up. And so it's just. And so because of this, I think, and I don't know, again, I don't know what their perception was, but we went out of the ballroom. And then what ended up happening is we got pulled back into the ballroom. To the back. But through a different door. So we ended up in the back of the ballroom. So I don't think anybody in our friend group I think they probably assumed we went to a room or left or did something. Which I saw them like dancing and having fun. So I was like, okay, well. They're okay. They're okay. Well, then the next thing I know, I see her leave. And then I feel my phone, like my watch go off. And she says, where are you? And so I text her. I said, hey, we got pulled back into the ballroom. And then about that time, the DJ comes up and says, something's wrong with the speakers. Yeah. Yeah. So Dan is like, what were you doing? So it's not the DJ that was DJing. It was DJ Reverberate was DJing that night. But DJ Sunshine was there. Yeah. And so if you don't know who DJ Sunshine is, he's a pretty big DJ, at least for the lifestyle world. He does festivals and things like that. He was like a real DJ, like a legit, like not a Dan DJ. He's like, he does this for a profession. Like he's a professional DJ. So what he had done is pulled out. He has like a decibel reader on his app, like a phone on his phone. And he was trying to tell me, um, if we just move the speakers a little bit, it would be more ideal for the sound on the dance floor, which was great information. And I, you know, I was like, Oh, show me what app you got. I want to download that. But this is still in the middle of all this. So Dan goes to try to like adjust the speakers and I somehow get left with the other DJ. And then one of the other, she owns a lifestyle business. So some pretty like important, Not more important than my best friend. Let me make that clear. But important people that I don't want to look like I'm fighting like a girl at a swinger party. You know, like, so at some point Daphne comes back in there and she kind of like, I think she goes like grab my arm or do something. I kind of like. Shook her off. I basically was like, I can't do this right here. You know, I was like, I can't, you know, because she was like, are you mad at me? And I was like, yeah. And so I was just like, I can't. We cannot have this conversation right now. Not in this ballroom, not in in front of all of these people watching me, I can't show my ass, is basically what I was trying to say. I think it may have came across a little harsh than I intended. And I will own that. Because I was just trying, it was almost like I was just trying to shut it down real quick. So the lady that I was talking to didn't hear me. So I was just like, no, we're not doing this right here. You know, I think, I think that came across very like cold and hard, probably to her, which I can totally respect that. And she just kind of gave me a look and walked off. Immediately I knew, oh gosh, here we go. So I got my phone out. Because like we were kind of like having a call, me and this lady were having a call, but also not. So like it wasn't inappropriate for me to like send a quick text. So I text and I was like, hey, I'm sorry. I just cannot have this conversation in this ballroom with these people around me. I, you know, like we can talk, but I just can't do it. this right here. Well, by the time you could get back to me, and then we got up to the room, they had completely packed all of their stuff, and they were leaving. And it was not very good. No, it wasn't good. No. Immediately, her and I had a screaming match. Like, and I'm gonna, she was to blame, I was to blame, you were to blame because you started some shit. I was really probably the most to blame. Because one, I didn't want to wait for her. Just out of pure I was hungry and needed to get back for the DJ thing. So really, out of everybody, I was the one that was pushing the most not to wait. And then two, I had started the shit talking on the dance floor. Not to be mean, but just because I was like, can we just get over this? Like, let's just clear the air and let's move on from this. That's what I was trying to do. That's what my intention was. Maybe it didn't land the best, but clearly it didn't land the best. But that's what I was trying to do is like, let's just get over this. so we can have a good night. Like, let's joke, laugh about this, let's move the fuck on. Yeah. It was not. And that just snowballed. And I'm not going to, like, replay the fight because it wasn't very good. I didn't cry until she left. But, I mean, it was very apparent that they were leaving. And I don't really feel like anything I could have said would have worked to keep them there. I think they were pretty much to the point where they were leaving. And I think, really, it was, is how I reacted to it, how I shut it down. And in hindsight, I wish, because obviously my best friend is way more important than the person that I was talking to. I wish I would have just said, excuse me, you know, let me step away for a minute. That would have been the better thing to do. I just did not expect it to go the way that it did. So they left. Um, and I was a hot mess. I boohooed like a baby. And I can't even remember the last time I I've cried. You were ready to pack your shit up and go. You wanted to leave. You were mad at me. It was all my fault for starting the fight and not waiting on her. Yeah, I was. My initial reaction was to blame you. Which is your initial reaction. Yeah. Anytime you get stressed. Well, you're my person. And, you know, her and I actually, we talked a few days later. And one of the things that she said was she was going through some stuff and she took it out on the person that she loved. You know, somebody that's been a constant. And I actually said, to be honest with you, I do the same thing. Whenever I'm upset or mad, I take it out on Dan. And I actually did after you left. So I think that she kind of did the same thing. So I think that's not uncommon for us to do. But I was pretty much done, though. I never left the room after she left. I pulled my lashes off. I was crying. I threw my dress off. I got in the bed. Adventure Couple and Beauty and the Beast did come back up and check on us just to make sure. And honestly, I think that's what saved you. Yeah, they helped me. I was glad they came. I mean, like, they wanted me to go back out. They wanted that orgy. And I was like, guys, I can't. I can't do that. I actually, like, said, no, I'm going to fuck Dan tonight. You know, they actually made me feel better, but. Yeah, which then we got in another fight. Yeah, because honestly. Because you told them, no, we're good. I just want to have sex with my husband tonight. Then they leave and I'm like, all right, baby, come here. And you're like, I'm not fucking you tonight. Yeah, I think. I was like, baby, you told them. I had good intentions. But honestly, my mind was really fucked up. I get that. I was like, I have lost my best friend. And honestly, if you've been around like our social media and like all the shit we've been through, I don't trust or let anyone really close. And Daphne is like that one person for me. And so in my eyes, our friendship was ruined over something so stupid. And I was devastated. And honestly, I couldn't even sleep. So little like, I knew that if I we fucked, I wouldn't be what you needed for me to do. My mind would have been somewhere else and I just didn't think that was a good thing for me to do. So I ended up finally taking sleeping medicine to go to bed because I just could not cut my brain off from the situation. And they left and you sent a nice text just saying that we love them and that we hate that this happened and hopefully we can chat about it. And then that was it. That was our night. Mm-hmm. All right. I think now's the perfect time to take a little break and hear from the partners and sponsors of the Swing Nation podcast. And then when we get back, we'll find out what happens next. Yeah. Is the entire weekend ruined? Do we leave? Do we pack up and go home? Stay tuned. Lacey, one thing I don't leave home with when going to a swinger event is my ED medication. That is correct. Performance anxiety is 100% a real thing. Having sex in an orgy room with 100 people in there is way different than having sex at home in your bedroom. It is. I like to have what we call a little insurance policy and have some of that ED medication in my pocket. Shameless Care is who I use for that. They actually just came out with a new product called the Shameless Duo, which is a combination medicine that has Viagra and Cialis in it. So that one, you can be ready whenever, but also it's got that dose that you can take as you're getting ready to go to the playroom and you need that to kick in. So I love it. I mean, I used Hedo for the first time and that combination. You've kind of pretty much switched to that, haven't you? That's basically what I use all the time now. 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You just go to the website, you fill out some forms, the doctor reviews it, approves you, disapproves you, and you move on from there. So if you would like to get some medication, you can go to the swing nation dot info, click on a little recommended apps and products, scroll down to the shameless care. That's going to take you over there. There's some discount codes there for you so you can get a discount off your first order. But I highly recommend if you're going to some events or parties, go get you some lifestyle insurance. All right, guys. Check it out. Lacey, the question we get asked on social media and TikTok more than any other question is how do I find lifestyle people, lifestyle events, lifestyle parties, lifestyle cruises? Yeah. Lifestyle People? I think I already said that. Yeah. In my area. Basically anything lifestyle you need. How do I find it? You need to get on a Swinger website. And SDC is one of our favorites. It's really big here in the Southeast U.S. for sure. 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Not every family doctor fully understands how you should be getting tested. That is correct. What one doctor thinks is a full panel, another doctor may have a completely different version of that. And being somebody in the lifestyle and engaging with multiple partners, Right. So if you are going to participate in the lifestyle, you probably need to get tested from people that are meant to do this. Yes. So we use I Know My Status. It's the same people behind Talent Testing. It's a company that tests all the porn stars. So they're used to testing people that engage with multiple partners. They know all the latest on what STIs are coming up and spreading. And they track all the stats. I mean, they know how to test. people for STIs. They're the experts. They are. And if someone that you engage with, you know, if they have used I Know My Status, they can actually give you a QR code and you can scan it and you can see their results right on your phone so you can confirm everything that they're telling you. Yeah, 100%. So please, if you're getting tested, get tested the right way. We recommend using I Know My Status. You can go to theswingnation.info, recommended apps and products. Scroll down to the I Know My Status icon. and you can get a discount off your first test. But please, if you're swinging, if you're engaging with people in the community, please be safe about it. Go get tested. Yeah, because we want you to fuck like a porn star. For sure. All right. Welcome back. Welcome back. Thank you for listening to our sponsors. We love our sponsors. We do. All right. So when we had left, we just had a fight between close friends. Honestly, I've never fought with Daphne, ever. Not even like. And we've been friends with them for before the podcast. Yeah. We met them before social media, before the podcast and everything. And I'm going to, I want to like give like a, like a little, I want to insert something here. I consider not telling this story. And if we had recorded this podcast right after, I don't know that I would have, but it has been two weeks. So we've had some time to like let things set. and let some things work itself out. But I chose to talk about this because I think a lot of lifestyle content creators get shit on because they say we glorify it and we make it out like nothing ever happens, like all the dicks get hard, everything's great. And unfortunately, this is part of it. It's not all, you know, sometimes friends can get in an argument or sometimes people disagree. If you have a best friend that you've had for more than a couple of years and you haven't gotten a disagreement with them, that seems weird to me. Well, and like luckily this fight is the stupidest thing ever. So it's kind of funny to tell it now. I will say just to kind of like end that, we did go basically the whole week without talking to them. I think this was like Tuesday night. So we went until, no, I take that back. Like, on the way home from the party, I sent her a text and said, just me and her, and was like, hey, I love you, and I think that you are going through some stuff, which is, again, not my place to talk about here on this podcast, but I said, I think you're going through some stuff, and I think that that kind of got me, we both just fucked up, you know, and I'm sorry for my part that I played in it, and I love you, and I know, like, emotions are still really high, and hopefully, in a a few days we can chat and she like responded back very sweetly very similar to what i said to her you know that she loved me and that she was sorry and yes let's chat in a few days and let kind of things settle and yeah so a couple days later that sunday she ended up reaching out i kind of just wanted to let her handle it because i felt like i sent the first text i mean obviously had been too long i probably would have but but she ended up sending the text and was just like hey i miss you and i love you and i'm sorry And I'm going through stuff. And I took it out on you. And I was like, hey, listen. I yelled. And I snapped. And I'm very, very sorry. And so things are fine. Things are right back into where they are now. And I love her dearly. And I hate that this happened. But it's just part of having friends. Yeah. That's true. Yeah. So I didn't want to, like, I wanted to be able to, like, end that. I'm still mad at her, though. Oh, shit. You are not. Well, I didn't get to fuck her, so I'm pissed off. You'll be okay, babe. You fucked her up. We'll see next week what happens. Yeah. So, yeah. Everything's fine. Don't worry. We're all good. But, you know, it did suck. Put a little damper on it. Yeah, it did. It did. So, we got up. So, Saturday. Yeah, we got up Saturday. And I'm going to be honest, I was not really okay. But Beauty and the Beast and Adventure Couple were like knocking on our door at 10 a.m. And they were like, we're going to eat. And honestly, I'm glad they did. Yeah. to kind of like get out of my... Pulled out of your phone. Yeah. I mean, the whole day, it was definitely something in the back of my mind. I asked you to check your phone about every 30 minutes to see if they had texted us. You're like a high school kid like with a girlfriend or something. Hey, hey, check your phone. Dan, did they text? Dan, did Mike text you? Dan, did Daphne text you? Yeah. Did they text in the group because you left the group chat when you were mad? I left the group chat. They said anything in the group? Yeah. Yeah, all weekend. But so I was glad that they got me out of the... We went to a nice brunch place. Yeah, we ended up having lunch. We really didn't have brunch because by the time everybody got ready, it was like 12 by the time we got there. But it was actually a really good little place, like a local place compared to Hooters the night before. Oh my gosh. The people were so nice. So nice. The waitstaff was amazing. The food was great. So we came back and honestly, it was like 245-3 by the time we like did all that and everything. We didn't rush or anything. The cool thing is we didn't really have a lot to do, which we didn't have a lot to do. We don't really go to events that we don't have a lot to do. And because you have like... All the work had been done the day before. Normally we're like running around and you have like a crazy schedule for me and stuff. But we didn't have that. So we actually got to like hang out and stuff, which I loved. And so yeah, we just kind of like... I'll lay down to kind of like decompress. I ended up going back and hanging out with everybody. It was really low-key. A big group of people from the hotel were going to dinner at like four or five. But because we had had almost a late lunch, we ended up not doing that. And we got Olive Garden to go again, which it was fabulous again, and had it in the hotel room. I went and got it. And I think you went down and turned on the music about that time, right? Yeah. Yeah. So after that, it was just time to get ready. Tara, you know Tara from TikTok, and she's been on the podcast. She is a unicorn now. And so she came to this. And so we all kind of got ready and hung out. I was kind of already on edge. And I felt a little anxious because I felt like everybody was waiting on me to get ready. Yes. I remember this specifically. Yeah. And I think that was just like residual from the night. A little anxiety. Yeah, a little anxiety. I felt like everybody was ready. because like and for some reason nothing was going my way and I just like it was just it took me longer than it normally does usually I'm like the first one to get ready and I like that so I'm like hurrying and then adventure couple Alexa Lee that girl takes forever to get ready she's always the last one oh my god here's the thing you were stressing out about getting ready and I'm like you know adventure couple is going to Alexa is going to be the last I didn't know I didn't know like you know she always is in her you know even her husband always and it's like it's fine it's not a big deal yeah no it's fine it's just a thing within the friend group where she's always the last one to get ready. We didn't have to be there anytime. This was a completely me situation. You were all rushing. I was rushing. And then we ended up waiting on that. That wasn't just her. I think it was a couple of the other girls were taking a while. I ended up, I didn't come on and start DJing I think till 10, 9, 9. I had to start DJing at 9. So the party. We didn't get down there till like 10 minutes before because I was taking pictures and I was like, I got to get in there before he starts. So anyway, everybody finally gets ready. We make some TikToks. It was fine. You made a few Like, the night before, normally we do TikToks and pictures and everything. I didn't do any of that. Like, completely lost the night before just with everything. So we did, you know, a lot of that. And then, yeah, and then it was party time. Took some pictures. They had some backdrops. And then, like you said, by the time we got down there, you were DJing. I basically had, like, 15 minutes before I came on or something. Yeah, yeah. By the time we actually got into the room there, which was nice. How was DJing? It was good. I had a good time. Yeah. Yeah. I actually had fun. So I had the nine, I think it was nine to 11 or something like that. Right. And so when I started DJing, there wasn't really anybody on the dance floor. So when I got in there, it was pretty packed. I filled it in. Yeah. And that was pretty quick. Cause I think we got in there right about time. So it must not. Well, I hit him with the wobble. You know what I mean? You're right. I went immediately out there. I did the wobble. That was, that was a smart move. DJ trick. If you're a swinger DJ and the DJ, the dance floor, If it's empty, especially if it's the first hour or two, that's always the meet and mingle time. So don't worry about that. But if it's starting to get 9, 10 o'clock and nobody's out there yet, hit them with a wobble. Got it. Works every time. Yeah. So that was it. We danced and partied. Somebody brought me Fireball. Oh, yeah. And I'm going to be honest. I drank a little bit too much. But I wasn't trashed. I didn't. and throw up or anything like that. I had a great time. It kind of reminds me of like Hito Lacey. You were, I think somebody even said like I've never seen this Lacey before. And this is kind of pre-podcast or at least pre, you know, whatever you want to call this, this pre-micro celebrity thing. I feel like I have to be on point a lot of times. I don't allow myself to get in situations like this. I think the stress of everything overruled everything. And I was like, fireball, yeah! You know, let's... So, yeah. At some point, I even had people taking fireball shots out of, like, my lingerie. You did, yeah. Yeah. So, another thing, while I was DJing, I had a girl come up and ask me to play a country song. Mm-hmm. Which is not something... I play mostly EDM-type music, house-type music. So, I was like, oh, yeah, I'll see if I got something. And I'm like, I'm not playing a country song like that. Yeah. That would go over terrible. Yeah. And then, like, 30 minutes later, a different girl comes in. And she says, can you play a country song? Yeah. And I was like, okay, maybe, you know. And then I think like a third girl came up and said, will you play a country song? And I was like, well, fuck it. I'm going to play a country song. So I just so happened because we did the boot scoot and rodeo in Nashville. I had downloaded like EDM remixes. Naughty in New Orleans, not Nashville. Oh, yeah. Yeah, you're right. At Naughty in New Orleans, we host at the boot scoot and rodeo and actually ended up not DJing. But just in case I had to DJ, I had downloaded some EDM edm remixes of country songs so i was like you know what let me just play this and see how it goes people freaking loved it i did not expect atlanta i thought that was like hip-hop central right like hip-hop type music so i'm playing like a lot of hip-hop remix type music and i thought maybe that would man country songs man so i started just laying them on the country but they were good they were not like they were fun like kid rock and stuff like that fun country and you had like edm like mixed into it so i actually had a lot of fun and what's the owner's wife, I guess she's the owner too, she came up and she was like, oh my god, when he first started playing this, I was like, what the fuck is he doing? She was like, but everybody loves it. I'm like, I don't know. I actually loved it. I had a blast. At one point, one of the girls was like, has Dan ever got a blowjob while he's TJ? And I was like. One of the girls, it was Alexa. Yeah, I was like, I don't know. I was like, I don't know if he can. I don't know. I don't, I didn't know if the owner of Open Instincts would like, care, even though we're good friends with him. I was like, I don't think he'll care. So go for it. And so her and somebody else went up there and gave you a little bit of a blowjob. Yeah. Which was fun. Yeah. Well, you've never got a blowjob. But if you are listening, if you've ever gotten a blowjob while driving down the road, it kind of felt like that, right? Because you're DJing, so you're trying to, and even DJing is probably paying a little bit more attention than driving down the road. pressing buttons. Right. And so she's like trying to suck my dick. I don't think I got fully hard. I got like a little bit hard because, you know, there's a lot of pressure there, right? You're trying to DJ. You're trying to get a hard dick and fuck this girl's mouth and throat. Let's try it again. I think that's I was a fan. Now, because we have the LED wall there, nobody could. Nobody could see it. And what's funny is that I told the owner, I was like, Dan got a blowjob. He's like, hell yeah. So I was like, OK, we're good. We're good. No worries. But yeah, it was a great night. And then at some point you came off and then Sunday, DJ Sunshine came on which like damn saying he's like a legit DJ and I wasn't sure how he's a legit DJ you're saying I'm not a legit you literally said the same thing I'm just repeating he's good yeah he's really well and he has all you know he's not a DJ and producer so he has like a lot of his own remixes yeah the funny thing is I asked him like before I went on it's like I'm like is there any songs you don't want me to play he's like just please don't play any of my songs and I was like do people do that he's like it's happened to me before I'm like that's kind of a yeah it's kind of a dick move to play a DJ song before he DJs I was I was curious how he was going to come over because you were like everybody was really loving the country and I did not get that that was his vibe but he did great everybody loved it it was a hit and Open Instinct is kind of known for like being an it's a little bit older a little bit earlier crowd right but I think because it was New Year's people were a little bit down to they even stayed well after oh one o'clock yeah so we've been at Open Instinct parties before and they are like the classic like old school swingers even maybe even more so than us like normally we leave the dance floor around midnight to go fuck there they've left the dance floor like 10 30 11 yeah to go fuck and there's like almost nobody on the dance floor because they're all going to go fuck yeah uh so yeah they were the fact that the dance floor was basically pat till about 1 a.m it's pretty that's a pretty good opening felt like we brought a little ep a little swinger society open it it was a good like uh no i loved it mesh crowd i loved it um And so they did like a balloon drop, which was pretty cool. With the countdown. With the countdown and stuff. Yeah. And we got to have our first Swinger New Year. Right. So the question before Swingers New Year is on New Year's. Do you kiss your partner? Do you kiss other people? I kissed everybody. I was going to say there was people making out with everybody. I think everybody. I kiss people. I don't even know who they were. I kissed Beauty and the Beast her. I kissed her twice. I came back and she's like, we already kissed. Okay, let's do it again. But it was a lot of fun. There were several like, or I'd kiss you in like, I think I kissed you in like two or three girl, other girls at the same time, like a four way kiss, which I don't know. Like an amazing New Year's, right? So after probably like 30 minutes or so, it was like, okay, let's go fuck. And I was ready because like, we didn't fuck the night before. And I was Red Bull Lacey. So I was like, whoo, fireball, not Red Bull. I was like, whoo, let's do it. And so it's okay. Okay. So if you follow our Instagram, Dan posted a picture of me with this purse that I made and I like put letters on it and it said hoe bag. Purse, yeah. Yeah. At some point between getting from downstairs to upstairs, my purse disappeared and I was bleeding. Like somebody had scratched me on the back. So I am like tipsy. I'm running around trying to find my purse and like my watch. I think I have a video of that somewhere. Then I'm like So I think somebody stole my purse But I had my watch So I could like track it to my I think I took my watch off and put it in the purse So I was like tracking my watch to find the purse And I'm like Somebody stole my purse Come to find out it was in an intercouple Alexa's room I don't know how she ended up with it She didn't steal it But somehow it was in her room And then I'm like And then everybody's like Why are you bleeding? And I'm like I have no idea And okay, hold on Oh, that's tomorrow. This will work, actually, because it's kind of fun. Guys, that is ridiculous. I'm so sorry. You're not supposed to hear me like that. You're supposed to hear me with my shit together. It was not together. Yeah. So that was eye candy had texted us and said, yeah, happy New Year. And I was trying to get you to film a video. You were butt ass naked. Butt ass naked. Running around the hotel room. Bleeding. Bleeding. I mean, it's actually a pretty good little scratch. I mean. Somebody caught you with a fingernail. Yeah. Yeah. And you're talking about how you were all worried about your bag and your phone. Yeah. And but yeah. Yeah, happy new year. We got the phone back. We still have no idea how I got scratched. But we had a pretty amazing orgy. Luckily, everybody in the room was people that I was comfortable with. I've previewed no new partners or anything like that. So I counted it was four couples and one unicorn. And yeah, so I was super comfortable with everybody, trusted everybody. Honestly, people are going to be like, you say this every time, Dan. One of the hottest, but because we were in a room with the door closed, there was no distractions. Yes, you could let go. I don't think I would have... Because I was tipsy, I'm not going to deny that. And there's a level of consent there. I would not have felt comfortable in that condition in a regular playroom. In this playroom, I knew everybody. I was comfortable. They had prior consent. Everything was great. So I felt comfortable, but in an open area, I don't know. But you're right. Even Tara had messaged me the next day and was like, one of my favorite orgies in a long time. Like it was really, really good. Everybody's dick got hard. Yeah, everybody's dick was hard. Basically everybody fucked everybody. You know, even there were several times where like you would take a break or I could think, you know, Beauty from Beauty and the Beast. She's one that likes to take breaks too. And then other people would keep fucking. And what's funny is we all, not every couple, But all but one had OnlyFans. And so Tara did film like a little bit of it, you know, which with consent of everybody. And the footage from that is fucking hilarious. I think she compiled it and put it on OnlyFans. So if you want to see it, I didn't watch it because I don't I don't want to see that. But because, you know, and obviously. Well, now you can talk about since her scene is getting ready to drop. You can talk about what dildo you're using. Oh, yeah. I forgot about that. So Alexa just And she had sex with, what's that guy's name? Dan Damage. Dan Damage. And her husband bought her, he has his own dildo like on the market. Right. And he bought her the dildo. It's like a replica of his dick. That thing is fucking huge. How big do you think it is? Like 11, 12 inches? I don't know. It's gotta be at least. It's thick too. It's thick, yeah. And so she fucked all of us girls with the strap on. She's like, here, this is, I want you to have an experience like I did. Yeah. She's fucking all the girls with the guys. that she fucked for her wifey scene. Which is getting ready to release like this week. Yeah. The trailer's out. The pictures are out. Yeah. She looks fucking gorgeous. I think it comes out on the 17th. What is today? I don't know. I don't know either. Today's the 14th. So y'all listen to this the 15th. So it'll come out in a couple days. So but she's really you know we're really good friends with her. So yeah. So she fucked all the girls with the dildo. At some point I had bought myself a vibrating butt plug and you tried to put it in my ass vibrating. Where did that go? You freaked the fuck out. I think you had turned it on. Or you couldn't figure out how to turn it on. So I think Alexa turned it on for you. And then you tried to put it in my ass. Well, yeah, because I didn't know how to turn the fucking thing on. So what else did you do? Listen, that thing was vibrating and entering me at the same time. You freaked the fuck out. I threw it. I threw it across the room. Luckily, it was just us in there. Luckily, it didn't hit somebody in the face with it. Golly, I think I might have hit beauty. Oh, did you? Oh, yeah. I wasn't going to say that. Way to go. Hitting people with your butt plug. It's a good thing it didn't go in me. Like it just kind of. Like just a tip. Yeah. Guys I promise we are not. This is fun. Listen. We are not degenerate. Right. And people you know again people are probably going to listen to this and be like oh they got they were too drunk to consent. Lacey was too drunk. Oh this is the example of what you shouldn't do in the lifestyle. You were not drunk. I was basically sober because I had DJed. So I mean I maybe had like one or two drinks after getting done DJing. But I was basically sober. You were drunk and tipsy and funny and fun, but not like stumbling, puking, like not. You were, I mean, definitely, you know, functioning, you know, but just being silly, you know. Yeah. It was like a laughy. The same, you know, Beauty and the Beast. I don't, he doesn't drink. Yeah. Does she even drink? I don't even know if she drinks. She drinks a little bit, but she wasn't like, she wasn't drunk. Alexa, you know, everybody was a little bit, you know. Wasn't anything crazy. The overall group was pretty solid. Yeah. Yeah. And we had all played in several times previously. So it was just like a really fun time. It was fun. Give me that type of night any day of the week. I'll take it every single time. I love that group of people. It was a good time. Yeah. So after we got done, we ended up, you and I went back downstairs because I think you had to turn off the music. And I don't know why I went with you. Normally, I pass the fuck out. But I guess because I was tipsy and having a great time. You were probably wanting to see DJ Sunshine again. No. Yeah. Probably. No, it wasn't that. So we went down there. And all I can remember is like talking to STD Hero. And I was telling them a story. And I probably was rambling. He probably thinks, what the fuck? I just remember talking and talking. Also great people. Also, yeah. Well, and that's the funny thing is I think the music is supposed to turn off at like 2. Yeah. I think we were down there like 2.45. Yeah. And Sunshine was still DJing. And like we're just hanging out at that point. It was just like fun. Yeah. That's the kind of vibe I want. It's not like, oh, it's 2 o'clock, shut off the music, and let's get out of here. It's people who are genuinely having fun, so we're just hanging out. Hell, I cleaned up. Do you remember? I cleaned, like, everybody had left because they did, like, champagne toast, so, like, everybody had sat their champagnes down on the tables or on the stage, so I cleaned all that up. I found my earring that I had lost, which was one of my favorites, so I was excited, but yeah. It makes me excited for EP, for Electric Pleasures here in just over a week. I think it's going to be that That kind of energy probably times 10. Yeah. So it definitely was a good weekend. A happy new year. It started off pretty rough. I still wish Daphne and Mike had stuck around and we were able to kind of enjoy that second day with them. Yeah. Stuff happens and I'm glad everything is good now. But an awesome weekend. Yeah. And I'm really looking forward. I think it got all of us excited for Gulf Breeze and Electric Pleasures. Yeah. I think it's going to be that type of energy. And they're coming. Daphne and Mike are coming. Yeah. We will, you know, we'll get to hug it out in person. I'll get the fucker. Yeah, that's what matters. Okay, thanks. Well, you fighting with my girlfriend, that's not ideal for me. Well, don't start fights. Listen, you, well, I did start it, but what I'm saying is you guys got in a fight. She left, so I couldn't fuck her, and then you wouldn't even fuck me. I got double. Shouldn't have started shit on the dance floor. That's all I can tell you. So anyway, that's pretty much it. That wraps up New Year's. All right. All right. So let's talk a little bit about Electric Pleasures. Okay. So it's next week. So if you heard, I think our last podcast, we said we released some of the hold rooms as well as we had some cancellations. Those sold within like less than 24 hours. Yeah. So the host hotel is sold out again. Stay tuned though. We might have some time. We still get some cancellations and stuff. But also the Overflow Hotel is literally in the same parking lot. Yeah. Like it is 100 yards from the main hotel. Yeah. And somebody, just real quick, somebody had texted, on our Tuesday Talk line about wondering if, like, the Overflow Hotel would be a good place if they're, like, kind of tippy-toeing into the lifestyle or maybe. Yes, absolutely. I will say, though, because this is not a true traditional swinger party, I think you'll be okay even if you did book at the regular hotel because, you know, it's pasties only. There is a playroom, but it's behind closed doors, so it's not like people are going to be fucking at the pool. or anything like that. Like it's, it's music festival first and swinger party second. So I think regardless, you're probably going to be fine. But yeah, if for a little bit more, like if you're just a little bit like want to introductory step in the overflow hotels. Somebody actually messaged in discord and they said they were thinking about going to electric pleasures, um, Atlanta, which is coming up in, um, March. Yeah. And they said, but we've never been to an event. Would this be an okay event? And actually one of the things that's great about electric pleasures is because it is kind of music festival, First and Alternative Lifestyle Party Second, I think it's a great event for somebody that is interested in the lifestyle. I think it's a great event for somebody that's not interested in the lifestyle. I think it's a great event for somebody that just is sex positive and wants to, you know, I always say, like, I wish vanilla people could experience a swinger party. And in this case, there's no reason if you're a vanilla person not to come to these parties. Because like Lacey said, the only nudity that happens is going to be in the desire space and in people's personal rooms, right? Now, if people might leave their windows open, so you could possibly walk by a room and maybe see something. But you'd have to like look. You could easily not look at it. You know what I mean? So it's going to be a sex positive environment, but it's not going to be like secrets where girls are squirting on the side of the pool and like, which I love that. And please come to secrets because that's amazing. But if you're somebody that's looking to dip a toe, I think the Electric Pleasures series of hotel takeovers, I think any one of those would be great for you. So the one that we're talking about is next weekend. So it's the January 23rd and 24th. It's in Gulf Breeze, Florida. So it's like 10 minutes away from Pensacola. We have enough day passes to go around. So even though it's sold out, if you would like to come, there's still time. You got a week. I would predict that the overflow hotel is probably going to sell out. Yeah. So I would book sooner rather than later. Yeah. Hell, if you want to. Probably no. We don't have the information for the overflow hotel as far as how much capacity they're at. I just know how many day passes we've sold. So. Yeah. I would book that sooner than later. Yeah. So anyway, we will be there. We don't know where the weather's going to be. It could be hot. It could be cold. We have heaters if it's cold. And dressing layers. And we'll just figure it out as we go. Yeah, I did want to touch on that. So there is an outdoor stage and dance area. We've gotten, it's covered. So it's the DJ booth, you know, the DJ stage is covered. But we also got a second tent to cover part of the pool deck where the, you know, where the dancing is going to happen. And then we have heaters if we need them. Yeah. If it is in the 50s, then we'll turn those heaters on. If it's in the 60s, 70s, you're not going to need them. The night portion is primarily indoors, like a traditional hotel takeover. It's going to be hot in there. It'll be hot in there. Come check it out. It's going to be a great party either way. We have a glow show. There's a fire show. We're doing a polar plunge. We're all going to jump in the pool. There's a restaurant on site. They're gonna be doing pizzas till like after midnight. Um, there's all kinds of stuff going on. It really is. It's gonna be quite the event. Yeah. Uh, so go check that out. Swinner society.net. You can find all the links to that. And then we're doing the same thing in Atlanta in March. So if you can't make it to the January electric pleasures, go, go book that March one. That one's actually selling a lot of rooms too. So, uh, you know that if you want to get in the host hotel for that party book sooner rather than later. And, um, just like a little, Let's see, what do I call it? Plug? You could eat Olive Garden in the parking lot too. Oh. Because it's pretty much the same hotel. So if you love Olive Garden like I do and you want the best one that you can see. Maybe don't go to the Hooters though. Don't go to the Hooters down the road. But yeah, it's the same hotel as the one, as Open Instincts that we just went to. So. Check it out. It's going to be different though. Yeah, it's very different than, We're going to set it up different. We're going to have two stages. It's going to be. Just like Swinger Stoddy and Oven Instincts and Swinger Stoddy and Electrophys is different. They're all going to have their own place here. Just separate. Yep. All right. Anything else for the Swing Nation listeners? That's it. All right, guys. I think with that in a world full of apples. Be the pineapple. Be the pineapple, guys. Bye. Bye. If you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us, leave a five-star review wherever you're listening. If you want to see more of our content, you can find links to Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, OnlyFans, and more in the show notes. Come join the conversation with us and other Swinger content creators on our Swinger Society Discord server. If you have questions or feedback, email them to us at theswingnation at gmail.com. 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