What about the back door?

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pinup, the Hot Wife Life podcast. I really don't know where today is going to go. Today is going to be a little bit of a free-for-all. I want to talk a little bit about a date I had. I want to talk a little bit about fantasies. I want to talk a little bit about anal. Let's see where we go. This past week has been a bit of a thing. It has been extreme.

My husband and I have been handling some personal business with finalizing some personal business with my best friend, and it's been a lot of work to get that done, and it's been a lot of physical labor to get that taken care of, so my husband and I have both been a little bit feeling our age. So I was not really capable physically of doing too many activities this week, despite Despite the fact that this week was my anniversary and there was a lot of stuff going on, but I did have a date with Jeff and it was amazing.

Um, originally we had invited him down to jump in the spa with us, relax some of our muscles, and then do a little play. But my area is fraught with traffic issues, and they will pop up just out of nowhere randomly, and it can be a real, a real just disaster. So getting somewhere that you think is going to take you an hour is actually going to take you two hours, that kind of stuff. So Jeff was very stuck in traffic. He ended up getting here over like an hour late. So our timing was very, very off.

Um, so instead of doing all the things that we had set up and planned, we just went straight to fucking. And it was really, really fun. And the, And I told him flat out, I'm a little sore. I'm a little abused by my activities. I am covered in bruises. I have various injuries. Please do not take that as anything other than I have been taking care of this project. So my, we ended up with me being moved in every single direction because I don't even know why we were so much more active in switching positions than I think we'd ever been before.

And it was like, every time I came, we would, we would move. and at one point I noticed that my legs were like the hands of a clock. And every time I had an orgasm, we'd move 15 minutes or so. And it was so funny because it made me laugh hysterically that like, oh, there goes 15 minutes. and it was, it was awesome. It was so great. I came so many times, but in all of my week of overexertion, physical labor, I of course did not do the thing that I am supposed to do, which is hydrate.

I did not hydrate and hydration is muy imperative because if I don't hydrate, there's a drought and like want to come fuck me is not as prevalent. But because Jeff knows so much about what it is that my body needs, oh my God, he came in hot with the finger and the, oh my God, it was amazing. He gave me the hook and made everything wake up and pay attention to him. And then his cock took over and made every ounce of fluid in my body choose him. That's what happened. He got a mess out of me, whether there was a mess to get out of me or not. And that was so good. And it was so healing.

Um, he, he really did take good, very, very good care of me and kept me in various positions that made sure that I wasn't in pain and just made me come, made every single one of my tensions, every single one of my pains just dissolve in dopamine bliss. It was, it was great. It was awesome. And I was so glad that he was able to come. And I was really sad that we didn't get to spend more time together, like talking time, more hanging out time. But it was really, really great of him to A, break the traffic, B, understand what was going on with me, and take such good care of me.

it was really really. Now, several of the positions that we were in, he could, it could, you couldn't tell what was going on because of the way that my legs were blocking the view. And a couple of times my husband actually thought about the fact that he could be in my ass. And that of course sparked my husband's imagination. And now my husband is very interested in seeing me getting anally pleasured. Okay. So I am kind of two sides of that coin. I am a little bit intimidated by the size of the cock.

Um, and I'm a little bit intimidated by the prep, the, um, level of preparation that it's going to take. So I am kind of on the journey, on the road to get to the point where anal sex is an offering. And yes, I have done anal sex in the past. And yes, I have found pleasure from it. And, but at the same time, I have anal, I've had anal sex that has been a lot of pain. Um, there is so much that goes into and so much time that needs to be taken in order to make everything great for everyone.

And there's a level of intimacy that comes with the possible mess that can be made from anal that makes you wonder, like, will this be an issue? Like, when I'm with my husband, anal's not a problem because he and I have so much history together that if there's a mess, we'll figure it out. We'll clean it up. And there's no embarrassment really. Because pegging. With pegging, this goes both ways. Okay. So because of that level of intimacy, because of that level of possibility of, you know, how's everybody going to react? Is everybody going to be grossed out? What's the situation here?

There is so much that goes into it and so much that my female brain is trying to correct before we even get there, that it is becoming a little bit debilitating. It's becoming a little, it's becoming a little bit like, it's easier just not to, but this is something I want to conquer. This is something I want to get over. This is something that I want to move through because it would be next level because when anal sex is awesome, anal sex is fucking awesome. When it's bad, it's not great and you're never getting to a good spot with it. But when it is even slightly good, it is amazing.

And biological reasons for that, same reasons that pegging on guys is kind of a great idea. It's, it's real. And the A spot and all that other stuff is, it's awesome. But you are fighting biology and nature and all these other things that are designed for that to be an exit. That's something that you're going to want to, you want it to be great. You want it to be amazing. And you want to share it with somebody that is going to not really care, not really care about the mess, not really care about the, the potential issues that may come up.

Um, and so I need that level of trust and intimacy in order to get to the point where I am feeling comfortable enough to say, let's do that. So that's my, that's my, that's where I am right now. So I want to talk about pegging. I want to talk about steps and tips and tricks for starting the journey into that. The reason why that is something that I am interested in talking about is because of the fact that bisexual play is something that I get a lot of questions about.

And if it's something where you're not sure where your boundaries are, a marriage is a good safe space, or at least it should be a good safe space to investigate our bodies. And I have done, I have pegged my husband and I have, um, given prostate massages the whole deal, the whole gamut. Okay. This is something that is incredibly pleasurable for men. the prostate is your G-spot. It is this thing that can literally make you feel like you are coming continuously. It is a little bit mind altering. It can make men talk in tongues. It's awesome.

So usually the best way to start any of this is a blowjob with a digital exploration into the darkness until you find the prostate, which is like a walnut size spot between the cock and balls assembly and the colon. Okay. So basically right above the peritoneum inside of the body and finding it is really not hard. Um, it, it is the one thing in the body that is like, I'm right here. Come get me.

And it is so insanely fun to have that kind of puppetry control over a man because his dick is in your mouth, his prostate is under your fingers, and you do the tippy, tappy with your fingers and they're going mindless. It is the most amazing I want a new car moment. They, like, they will babble and say whatever they, whatever they have to, to get you to keep on doing what you're doing. So I understand that this is territory that not a lot of men really explore and that's okay.

Everybody has to work at their own pace and everybody has to do their own, but I can tell you that for me, it is a fun exploration, a fun role reversal, a fun power exchange, and I believe in the exploration of sexual adventurism within my marriage. I think that that is what has kept us together and us so strong and communicative throughout our marriage. Because even when things were rough, we were connected sexually. And when we connected physically, it helped break down all of those miscommunication barriers that we were having.

And as things improved with my husband and I, and as we got through the rough patches, we were able to find one another and find that intimacy that brought us so close together every single time. And so for that reason, my husband and I are very, very, we're very, very experimental. And that has led us to a lot of very fun things. Now, a lot of people have come to me and said, well, not come to me, but they have messaged me and said, um, your husband doesn't play. And that's, sorry, your husband doesn't play. And that is the definition of you being jealous. No, not really.

In this particular instance, my husband has a lot of health issues and that is the reason that he does not play. He does not play because health issues are very much a part of his constant thought processes. And that is why he does not play outside of our marriage. How would I react if he did? I would be all for it if he did. I would be all for him exploring with another woman and then coming back to me and telling me all about it. Thank you. exploring with another woman and then coming back to me and telling me all about it. But that's not the dynamic that we have.

So while it would be fun, it's not really something I experiment with or fantasize about a whole lot. But if he ever wanted to, I'm in, I'm down. So I just wanted to clear that up while I was talking about this. But experimentation with my husband has been something that we have, we have, okay. I have a toy box that is rival to Toys R Us. Okay. It is, I have so many things in my collection of adult toys that it would, it would be intimidating if you, and there are some things that we have, that we bought thinking that we might be interested in it and then really didn't chase down.

Um, there have been things that we bought, we played with one time. they weren't, we just never really got into the groove of it. Now, my husband is very, very open-minded sexually. And he is, he brings a lot of things to the table when it comes to, let's try this. And I love that about him. And the fact that pegging was on the list of things that we actually tried, enjoyed, and did for a very long time until health issues made it a little bit dangerous. We really enjoyed that. We really enjoyed the power exchange of it. We really enjoyed the feeling of the role reversal.

And it was, we had so much fun with it. but anal is one of those, it's a very intimate thing. It's a very, you know, as a woman, I'm always considering the mess. Men, not so much. And I understand that. I understand that men and women are different, but as a female, we are very, very much told from the beginning of our lives I'll see you next time. But as a female, we are very, very much told from the beginning of our lives that we need to look pretty, be clean, smell nice. We are not to be, we're not to let our bodily fluids escape.

So it's something that as a female, as a woman, I have to really work through the idea that I could be making that much of a mess. And considering the fact that I am like, want to come fuck me fucking come falls that, that I am literally giving my bodily fluids away all the time. It's a little weird that I don't want to make a mess in that capacity. But at the same time, there's something so dangerous about that, that I'm a little intimidated. So, but I, it's not like I haven't seen the mess, been privy to it. So I understand what's involved and I just gotta, gotta get over myself.

But prostate play, to get back on topic, is something that is so intimate and so next level pleasurable that if you haven't explored it, you might want to consider exploring it. You might want to consider finding out what your body can do. So I had a longtime listener reach out to me with a topic that he wanted explored a little bit. And it is the danger of fantasizing too much. The danger of going too far in your fantasy and being disappointed by the real world. Fantasy, when you go too far, becomes obsession.

And obsession becomes something that can take over your life, take over and really put way too much pressure on something that may or may not come to fruition, okay? When you fantasize about something, it needs to have its compartment. It needs to be this thing, okay? It does not need to be something that you drag into every aspect of your life. Now, the thing is, is that when we fantasize about something to the point that it becomes an obsession, we start chasing things in our obsession that lack consent of other people. Okay.

So if you are so busy chasing down that you start to neglect other people and how they might feel about what you're doing in your fantasy life, because whether we know it or not, we are going to find a way to live with our fantasies one way or the other. They either become something... okay let me try to get this accurate. I had a lot of fantasies, um, throughout the years. And I was able to take my fantasies and expel them through a creative outlet, writing. I was able to take writing and make my fantasies take full shape.

This was how I dealt with my years and years of fantasy obsession, but I never quite got to obsession period, but how I dealt with them to get them to not become obsessions was I found an outlet for them. I found a way to get creative with them. I found a way to give them a life of their own without harming anyone else. When you live in the fantasy, there are a couple different things that can really happen. You can go into obsession and then obsession can actually become something that ruins your life. It can become an addiction.

And an addiction is, by definition, something that has more control over you than you do over it. That's what obsession can become. It can become an addiction. It can become you trying to find a way to manifest this thing that's inside of your head that you can't shake. So the dangers of fantasizing too much is that is you tumble down the rabbit hole and then you tumble into a life that you're not able to recognize.

Now, another way that a fantasy can really, really mess with you is that you can put so much effort and time into building this fantasy that you forget something fundamental, something so fundamental, the other people. Okay. And then the fantasy, because of the fact that there are other people with free will involved in the execution of your fantasy, it can fall short and it can be so different than the thing that you've built up in your head that you're not able to actually attain it.

And that's actually the reason why I chose to write my fantasies into existence because there was no such thing as somebody who was going to fulfill the fantasies that I had the way I needed them fulfilled. I had these very specific domination fantasies, but they had to work out the way I needed them to work out, which is why I got to write the story. I got to imagine it from start to finish. And that became how I dealt with my fantasies. So I have exercised so many of those demons just by writing about them and giving them a fully realized body embodiment.

I was able to live vicariously through the words on the page. And that became, they became so healing. They became so healing. And I was able to take the fear to the fantasy to the kink, but I never had to experience them in real life because real life was kind of going to be a disappointment based on the level of fantasy that I was having. I was never going to be able to attain the thing and nobody was ever going to be able to give me the level of what I needed because of the fact that I had already given it so much life. And that is how I personally dealt with over fantasization.

And it is really, really important that we make sure that before we engage in any of this, before we, that we set realistic expectations about what's actually going to happen if this actually goes, comes to fruition. Okay. You do not know how you're going to react in the moment when things are starting to unfold. And because of the fact that we actually don't know the emotional triggers we're about to set off, we have to communicate with our partner.

If you are feeling that emotional trigger, if you're feeling like this fantasy has gotten, this fantasy was so much better in my head and I don't know that I can deal with it in real life, you have to be able to say that to your partner. Because the one thing that you're going to find is that the lifestyle is something that brings many, many couples closer together and something that brings many, many couples to a new level of pleasure and bonding and all of that stuff. But it also drives a wedge between other couples. It becomes something Thank you.

but it also drives a wedge between other couples. It becomes something that tears people apart rather than bringing them closer together. So you need to be able to communicate that real time. If things are going sideways for you and you are feeling some kind of way, it's better to walk away. And believe me, the first couple of times me and my husband ventured into this, neither one of us were emotionally ready for what that entailed. And we walked away. We walked away, we let it lie and then we came back to it.

And when we came back to it, we came back to it with more understanding, a little bit more reality, a little bit more, what would this mean? And it became a lifestyle we were both able to live. And that's the point here. Okay. The, the, when you fantasize about something that doesn't make it reality, that doesn't mean that's actually how you're going to react in the moment. And if you're reacting poorly in the moment, find, get out, find your center. And if you're still wanting to revisit it, make small baby steps back into it. Make big conversations about what happened when we were there.

Have the big conversations. Talk about what you were experiencing, what you were feeling, how seeing that person touch your significant other made you feel. and how did it, and then figure out how it made them feel. Because so many people are interested in something and they never take the steps to figure out if it's something that they want to do because there's that fear barrier. Okay. Risk is a part of life that is growth. Okay. Growth can't not happen unless you take that step forward. And I am not advocating that this lifestyle is for everybody because it is not.

But if it is part of your journey, If this is where you're heading, you can misstep and still find your way there, but acknowledge the actual feelings apart from the fantasies that you have about what's happening real time, because it's probably not going to live up to your fantasies, at least not right away, because you have to get through a lot of emotional triggers in order to find a moment where you can give your fantasy some reality. okay so the danger of over, it's, it's real and it's something that couples need to consider.

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