Physiology of an orgasm

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pinup the Hot Wife Life podcast. On today's podcast, I'm going to talk about what's going on inside of me. Okay, so when I talk, when I say what's going on inside of me, I actually mean I want to talk about internal organs. I want to talk about what happened, what changed between having my uterus, my cervix, my fallopian tubes, and what I have now. Okay. I had a hysterectomy, a partial hysterectomy in, it was 2017. So it's been a few, it's been almost a decade since this all took place. And I got it done because of quality of life issues, not so much a medical need.

It was, there was some medical need because I had been struggling for years and years and years with extraordinarily like heavy crime scene photo arterial spray kind of issues every month. And it was draining. It was draining. It was soul crushing. And after a long period of time, you get to the point where you've lived with it. And now it's just, I didn't need to anymore. And I had done everything, and I mean everything I could to rectify the situation before I got to the extreme. And when I got to my breaking point, I had a gynecologist that listened to me.

I had a gynecologist that heard me when I said, this is terrible. This is affecting my ability to live my everyday life and it sucks and he said okay let's take it and he did what we needed to do and I was able to get my to get my plumbing rearranged I took out the factory put in the playpen and I have not regretted it a single day since. It was the best decision I made for me. I felt better almost instantly. But when you're talking about the fact that I had a super uterus, which meant that it was much larger than the normal uterus, that had a lot to do with what was going on.

The fact that I was producing so much lining every month, that had a lot to do with it. So just having that taken out was, it changed my life, but it also changed my orgasms. So I want you all to think about back in health class when they showed you the picture of what looked like a cow's head with these two swoopy ears that are where your ovaries are.

And then they come down the little tubies and then the cow's head and then the little chin okay so that little chin is your cervix and it sits as the barrier between your vagina and your uterus so when i got my uterus removed they took my cervix they took my fallopian tubes they tubes, they left my ovaries. Because I wasn't facing any medical issues, it was safe to leave my ovaries. So it did not put me into instant menopause or anything like that. And I didn't have to do anything crazy. But what it did was it completely altered how I take cock, how I orgasm.

It changed my ability to stay in longer. So let's talk about the apparatus. All of that is connected to muscles and all of that is connected to various nerves, various and sundry.

It's all sort of interconnected okay so your ovaries they produce hormones and they pop out little eggs that you've been carrying with you since before you were even since you were an egg yourself basically and then the little egg goes down the fallopian tube and then it falls into the uterus and then the uterus sort of like bats it around until it's fertilized and then it attaches and we all kind of know the basic general but the cervix is what keeps the uterus like keeps everything up keeps the baby and the fluid all inside so that it can gestate properly.

And it is connected to the placenta, which adheres to the uterine wall. And if everything goes well, blah. So when they removed my uterus, I went from having these orgasms that took longer to get to, but when they were achieved, they affected a large part of my body. Because every time a woman has an orgasm, it contracts her uterus.

All of that is sort of interconnected and all of that is going, so when have a super uterus it contracts everything and then when it releases it's higher levels of but when i got that removed it took a lot of the overstimulation away from me now mind you my my click can still get overstimulated, but I can orgasm and keep orgasming like I never would have been able to before. The nerve endings and the amount of muscle that contracted down when I had my uterus were it it was overwhelming. It was beyond.

And so the electrical currents that zinged and zanged back and forth made it so that my body was like, oh, no, we need some time. But now I don't have that. I don't have that full body inflated like clamp down before the explosion. Now I get more like a steady stream of mini explosions that build on themselves until I get this like, and usually when that happens, my squirt mechanism breaks and I'm literally just like spraying the bed constantly. I'm slinging it over my shoulders, slapping myself in the face with it, slapping other people in the face with it. It's, it's a lot. It's a lot.

It altered my ability to go longer. It made it so that I could go longer. I could have more fluid orgasms, more building, still having the orgasm, still having an orgasm, going to have another. I am much more multi-orgasmic. I am much more able to stay in the saddle longer. I am not overstimulated nearly as much. It has altered my ability to have orgasms, but I never achieve that crazy clamp. I don't do that anymore.

And because I don't do that anymore, I there's a piece of me that feels like my orgasms are neither one is better than the other okay my orgasms before were a little bit more earth shattering the ones i have now are a little bit more one is hard rock one is jazz okay one is crazy the other is let's get this you know it's and it's all fucking beautiful the thing is is that sex is more enjoyable for me now because I can have it whenever the fuck I want I don't have to worry about the fact that oh no for 10 days it's if you come near me you will beial sprayed.

I don't have to worry about all those things. I don't have to, I can wear white pants. And for those of you who don't know, that is a huge deal, especially for somebody who was in my situation. That part of the learning my body, that part of my body changing, that difference between when all of your organs are kind of working towards this magnificent ending versus now I just have this incredibly hot pocket that's doing all the work, you know, and it also changes the cervix. Being there changes what kind of cock I could take. When I was 19, I dated a guy who had a massive dick and I was young.

I had not been having sex for long at that point, but he was too much for me. And I ended up breaking up with him because I was like, I can't, it hurts too much. It's like, like, I feel like all you're doing is pounding on my cervix all the time. And now I'm not intimidated by cock because I know everything down there is designed to stretch. The thing is, is that that barrier, thick barrier that holds everything where it's supposed to be, once that's been removed, now I have nothing but stretch. I have nothing but ability to grow.

And I've got all this extra room because the super uterus is gone. So my, my sex life has altered because now I am able to take more for longer and do more with it for longer periods of time. And that is not to say that everybody should race out and get themselves a, that's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that there's the physiology, the physical aspect of what's going on in there changes significantly.

And that's something that they don't really tell you about because doctors don't talk about what's going to happen if, if you go through this, if you, because there are people out there who are like, I still want to have sex. I want to have, and the thing is, is that it's not, I'm not going to say it's better sex. It's not. But it alters how you can have sex. It alters like before when everything was all like, it was like, it was an explosion. And now it's sort of like rolling.

And that is an important distinction because if you don't know, especially if you've recently had or are thinking about having, you should know how much it changes your orgasms because you lose touch with the fact that you're like, I actually had to ask my doctor questions after my surgery. like, why does it feel this different? Why is it so, and he literally didn't answer any of my questions. I don't think he could answer any of my questions.

I don't think he understood what was going on with my body before, because unless you're a woman having the orgasms and like, unless you're a woman who's been through all this stuff, nobody really knows. And nobody really teaches you what's happening inside of your body.

But anybody who's ever had sex while they're pregnant and had an orgasm knows that you're definitely your uterus is clamping down because that especially as they get as the fetus gets larger they fight back they fight back when you're having an orgasm they're like punching and kicking and looking for room because all of those contractions are like wait a second why is everything squishing so it's definitely when you don't have that whole set of muscles involved, it's going to change. It's going to change what's going on.

And if they take out your cervix, now that's a plus side that I can take any fucking cock I want. Here's the problem though. It's more likely that my vagina is going to prolapse at some point because it is your cervix that holds it in place. It is your cervix that keeps it from falling out to begin with. So now that that's gone, if anything happens to whatever they ticky tacked it to, then my, my literal kitty will fall out. It's not great, but a prolapsed vagina is obviously something that medical professionals can help you with because they can help you with a prolapsed bladder.

They can help you with prolapsed everything. What you've got to talk to your doctors about, what you've got to talk to each other about is how is this going to change your ability to enjoy sex? Because I think that's vitally fucking important. And I don't know that we're putting enough emphasis on it when we walk into our gynecologist. When I walk into my gynecologist, I look at her and say, I tell her every truth I can. I tell her everything about my lifestyle. I tell her that I do a podcast. I tell her that I tell her everything.

Not because she's a therapist, but because of the fact that she can't properly treat me if she doesn't know the truth. She knows that every time I come in, I'm going to want to get screened. Not because of the fact that I think I have anything, but because of the fact that I'm a responsible fucking adult and I am living a high risk lifestyle and I don't want anything to happen to me or my husband. So I do the responsible fucking thing and I try my very level best to nip anything in the bud before it becomes a big deal.

now we are without doubt, talking about an area that a lot of men are squeamish about. And I get that. I understand. But here's the thing. It's nice to know what is happening with your partner. Okay? It's nice to know when she's going through something, what it is that happening to her what it is that she's feeling what it is and having conversations where you can contribute and talk to her about so what happens if this and being able to bounce ideas off one another it really helps having information about each other is very vitally important.

So I am sharing this with you because of the fact that I actually got into a conversation at a party with like three women and a couple of guys. And I explained the difference between having an orgasm when you have a uterus versus having an orgasm when you do not have a uterus. Why not having a cervix is good. I have pros. I have cons. Everybody does. I have, but here's the thing. I made a choice to live a better life and everything about it has been an improvement for me. Now, mind you, do I miss those crazy raging orgasms? Abso-fucking-lutely.

But the kind of orgasms I have now are fucking phenomenal. So I'm not, I'm, I'm trading high volume explosion for long lasting fuse. And that's what is for me the trade-off, the benefit. And trust me when I tell you everybody's losing and everybody's winning. Because if you can only have one orgasm per night, I've got you beat when I'm on my 30th want. You know what I'm saying? And they're not terrible orgasms. They're good orgasms. But they're not taking me out.

So just understand that the physiology of what is going on inside of your body makes a difference as to what kind of outcome you're getting, what kind of play you can embark on. I know that I have a friend who cannot, like she has to warm up for a long time in order to have any sort of large cock in her. And that's not something, that's not something I need. Is it better? I don't know. If you're transactional like me, because I can get in, get it on, get it out, get it done. Okay.

But if you're like her and she needs the warm-up that becomes she's more interested in intimacy than transactions it's a trade-off it's what makes each one of us unique it's what makes what we need makes us individual so um that um, that, that helped a little bit. I did get a message from a listener. I know, right? Crazy. Let me see. First, let me say thank you so much for your podcast and sharing your experiences. I have found them to be really helpful and clarifying.

I also want to put into practice one of the things that you suggested, talking to a member of the community and getting recommendations. My wife and I are brand new and we have yet to have an experience. That being said, we would love to find a good-looking, engaging by bull. We live in an area and are more interested in individual MMF experiences versus parties. I know you and your husband have been on your own journey with MMF experiences. And I wonder if you have connected with any on FET or other profile sites that you would recommend.

I'm not, I would not share it with anyone, but my wife. So we are totally understand your recommendation does not mean we would vibe. But as you mentioned on some of your podcasts, finding a Bible that can make newbies feel comfortable can be difficult. Any thoughts? The last thing, thank you again for all that you do. And we appreciate any advice and insight that you have.

Okay, I appreciate the fact that i appreciate it that you are first of all listening thank you second of all i appreciate the fact that you're reaching out looking for answers to the questions from people who are living in the lifestyle because every every individual area within the country every area within the country within the globe they all have different apps that work for them. They all have different connectors that are all the different apps. They are more prevalent in certain areas because they tend to be the go-to for everybody in that area.

And that's how you go about finding people. In our area, I find that I love FetLife and I am not going to lie about that. I love it. I love everything that FetLife offers me and offers me a platform to make all of my different kinks. It allows me a platform to write and share photos and share videos and do all of that stuff. I love being on FetLife for that reason. Other people are, have not had the same experience with FetLife that I have. Other people have not dedicated as much time to FetLife as I have. I know this because I spend a lot of fucking time on FetLife.

Now, other, other things in my area that tend to work are SLS. SLS is very large in my area. And that's fucking awesome. Now, there are other websites and other apps that are trying to get into our area, and they always are. They're always and I mean, here's the thing. You have to decide where you want to put your capital. Okay, because this lifestyle can be expensive, for sure. So you have to decide where you want to put your capital. Okay. Because this lifestyle can be expensive for sure.

So you have to understand where it is you want to put your capital to get the best return on your investment. FetLife has a very user-friendly free platform that allows you to message whomever you want, that allows you to look at whatever pictures you you want the only thing that they don't give you is access to the videos okay you can read whatever you want you can join whatever groups you want it's all free but if you support FetLife they give you access to videos which is you know really good um you can't put up videos unless you're a paid member. You can't. But anyway, not the point.

The point is, FetLife is great about being able to invest very, very little and getting a lot. Being able to message whomever you want and not have to worry about tokens or whatever the fuck they do on other websites. I don't know. SLS is no longer a free platform. You pay for that platform. Every single, you pay for it. Every person who goes on there pays for their subscription. I don't know. I don't, I haven't really been able to work Field. I haven't been able to work Cassidy. I haven't been able to work SDC. I have friends that I will obviously reach out to and ask them those questions.

But for the most part where I am, those are the two main sources. And the thing that I love about it is the fact that I can find events near me, whether they are fuck parties, whether they are meetups, whether they are comedy nights, whether they are game nights with kinksters, it doesn't matter. There's events near me all the time and I can be part of it. And I don't have to get naked for a lot of it.

And that's something that if you're new to the lifestyle and you want to meet people who have a common interest with you, that is a good way to go about doing it where there's absolutely no fear, absolutely no expectation. You're just going there to share time with people who have similar interests, similar hobbies, if you will. And it's interesting to put yourself in a position where you can talk to people and develop friendships that will guide you through how to do the next steps. I think that is very important. This is about community more than it is about fucking.

This is about finding your tribe more than it is about finding your orgasm. Not 100% true, but I'd like to believe in some small sphere that it is a little bit true. The fact is, I love hanging out with people in the lifestyle. I love hanging out with people who have similar interests as I do. People who understand when I talk about, and his cock was huge. And like they understand what it was that I, that what we were doing, how exciting it was, how that affected my husband and how like all of it interconnects. And that's what I love. I love that.

And I think that if you are trying to navigate the lifestyle, going to the vanilla things where you meet people with similar interests is fucking amazing. And what's really funny is I've actually run into people I've worked with and it's so, it's not nearly as bad as you think it's going to be. I personally can't say enough about it. I think it's fucking awesome. All right. I hope that helped. And like I said, do find somebody who you can chat with, who can guide you a little bit and point the way.

I think it's important that we as a community support one another and tell people the truth, tell people honestly how certain things made you feel and you know honest i think that's the most important thing thank you so much for joining me today on the pineapple pin up the hot wife life podcast i really appreciate you tuning in i hope that my physiology lessons have taught you a thing or two remember that you can always support the show by going to love honey and letting them know that i sent you or you can use and while you're there use my promo code pineapple 15 to get 15 off of whatever you order my socials are listed in the show description and you can always reach me at pineapple pinup pod gmail.com i love to hear from listeners and i love answering questions so hit me up I'll see you next time.

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