Welcome the Throat Doctor

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pinup the Hot Wife Life podcast. On today's podcast I am so excited to have the Throat Doctor from Twitter joining us today. It is going to be fun and an interesting ride. Welcome everybody. I have with me a very special guest, the Throat Doctor. He and I have been playing. So don't mind me if I'm on a little bit of an oxytocin. That makes two of us. That makes two of us. Okay. So tell us how you got into the lifestyle. Okay.

So I would say I was about 24 years of age And, you know, I'm pretty sure it's the natural story of how everybody get in it, you know, being a little horny little mother, you know, and exploring, you know, and having questions and things about sexuality and just, you know, just always leaving that door open to explore more so.

so how did you get in how did you like find your way in okay and maybe tell us what your role in the lifestyle is all right well my role is more so preferably like to be like a bull you know a dominant as some say you know i like to i feel like i'm a chameleon i feel like i can see a role that needs to be fit and i can just you know put myself in there yeah we do have our boundaries but for the most part yeah Thank you.

like i'm a chameleon i feel like i can see a role that needs to be fit and i can just you know put myself in there yeah you do have our boundaries but for the most part yeah fantasy fulfillment yeah exactly exactly and um same same team so it was more so uh like uh like again on twitter and i uh connected with one of my good friends that i'm still good friends with today. Her name is Misty Love. She's from Jersey. She's, like, a lifestyle host that throws parties and things of that nature. So me and her connected, and it was just, I felt like I was kind of, like, ushered in.

Like, I don't think I had to go through a lot of the hoops and obstacles that, I guess, single males and single bulls in the lifestyle go through. Yeah. I felt like I got a cheat code anyway. Like when, like I said, when I met her, like I was, I was blind to it, but as a man, you know, I had to, oh yeah, I've done this before. Oh goodness. Lying my ass off. Lying your ass off. Yeah. But I did it with confidence.

So it it was believable it was a very knowledgeable lie yes you go and like i said it was just from there like it just going to her party seeing different types of environments like seeing the parties that are just hotel parties seeing hotel takeovers seeing cat like seeing them it's layers you know oh yeah so many many layers very much so so i was just yeah and that's what and ever since then it's just been like an on and off thing with me because honestly i'm one of those people that once i get into a relationship and the weird thing about me is when i get in relationships it's usually somebody that's not from the lifestyle you do vanilla relationships so yeah so i usually have the why vanilla i I mean, this is a constant thought process for me.

So, like, why do you seek in your, like, day-to-day life the vanilla, but you have so much fun in the lifestyle? Okay. Well, I haven't been in a relationship in about, like, three years. Okay. Three to four years.

So so before that it was more so of a like the best way i can describe it and metaphorically it's like a dr jekyll and i missed it you know it was that complex more so because now in 2025 we understand that the world is so hypersexual so it's like it's more accepted and not saying that's a reason why of people are pushing it to the forefront but that's the truth like it's it we live in a hypersexual so it's like it's more accepted and not saying that's a reason why people are pushing it to the forefront but that's the truth like it's we live in a hypersexual society when 10 15 even 10 15 20 years ago yeah it was like it was a little bit more shameful it was a little bit exactly hidden because of the fact that it wasn't socially acceptable but i think we've been fucking sexual oh yeah yeah for centuries from just like yeah please kind of hiding it exactly so i think that that was more so my search like my my reasoning for it because it was like i don't think at that point i was meeting people that i could share that side with and all the people that i felt like were where we were compatible on that level were on the vanilla side gotcha you know so it was yeah now I'm kind of more open to it okay like what kind of a relationship if okay so let's walk through this one for a second I'm sorry this is that's all right let's go we cooking right now if you could be in a relationship, what would that look like for you?

Do you have like, I don't want her to play with other people? Are you looking for a coldest? I think that I would be very open to my partner playing with other people. More so, I think it would be a communicative thing, a trust thing.

like you know like i think those are in especially in this lifestyle i think those are the two biggest things like you know like if you don't have and people say oh one or the other no no you need both if you don't have both it's it's a recipe for failure absolutely you guys you know but um yeah i would i think i would be open to her playing with other people, playing as couples like it, like it doesn't in the swap side. Yeah. Even, even probably like, you know, like, like I'll give you an example, like, because I've met somebody in the lifestyle that we, you know, we're pretty cool.

We're pretty fly. And she, she asked me, how would I feel about like throwing her like a gangbang? And that was a question that never was really brought to me. And it was interesting because if I'm so open-minded, hey, this is my chance to prove that. Right, right. So it was one of those things that it was like, the fact that I felt like I was even open to it.

I was like, okay, this exactly you know because you know on the flip side if she wants to bring another girl in there you know i'm hell yeah like absolutely so yeah i mean a lot of times it's some people are designed to for one door or the other they're either designed to watch somebody or they're designed to have people watch them. Some people are actually really good at, you know, splitting the difference and being able to do full swaps.

My problem with the full swap lifestyle is how completely like unwilling to allow cucks into their okay because if they're not full swap like there are certain parties where if you're not full swap they don't want you to come yeah i know you trust me i've i've been to those too as well yeah and it's a little difficult because this is my community no matter what anybody says this is my community anybody who's into the lifestyle at any degree or any fashion exactly they're my community so it's it's a little hard to be shunned by one particular group and i mean i bring a lot hey let it cook baby hey let it cook so what let's talk about parties for a second what is your favorite kind of party do you like the hotel takeovers do you like the hotel parties do you like house parties my favorite would have to be now i'll say off i'll give you two off experience and just off overall the overall um would be hotel takeovers i like those because especially okay i'll say this is when they're done right right okay we'll put that out there when they're done right just because you're labeled as a hotel takeover when it's done right so i've been to hotel takeovers where it has been extravagant and i've been to some ways like um do your cousin own this hotel you know yeah but um overall now my favorite party that i've been to it was a it was a weekend retreat in the cabin in the Poconos.

It was one of those that when I think about, again, like I said, I got the cheat code in. You got the backstage pass. I saw that and it was like I went to a hotel party after that and it was like hmm You got the backstage pass. I saw that, and it was like I went to a hotel party after that, and it was like, no, this isn't, no, this isn't, no, no, I know what this can be. But, yeah, the cabin party, it was amazing. Like, the actual party was on a Saturday, but it was a weekend thing. Friday, people came over.

It was about 12 rooms in the cabin upstairs downstairs all outside activities and it was pretty cool like friday it was just games and just everybody just you know vibing meeting each other things of that nature saturday they had um they had male strippers there for the ladies had a little segment for them then then the actual party. Then Sunday we barbecued and everybody went on anyway. That's awesome. It was pretty cool, yeah. Yeah. I mean, I would love to do a retreat like that where bring some of my favorite people. Yeah, that's exactly. And just go and- The real genuine core ones. Right.

Yeah know yeah because i mean it's not that i don't want to meet new people because believe me i do i'm very yes a very sociable person a very social person i love and i mean okay so we should talk about how we met um we actually met at a hotel yes at a hotel party um physically met physically met at yes party physically that party was so bad if if i'm not mistaken i could check the record i think you're the reason i have fed life and i don't wait i really think so oh my gosh that's so i feel like we met somewhere else, like on something else. And then you were like, okay, let me see.

Do you have a profile on SLS? I do. Ding. See, you connect the dots. I swear you connect the dots. So, yes. I was on SLS. And somehow me and you contacted each other. And you was like, you're on FetLife. And I'm like, what is that? I probably still literally have the thread. Like, literally. I don't know. I don that? I probably still literally have the thread. Like literally. So yes. Yeah. Thank you for the introduction. You're very, very welcome. I'm so glad I could be of service. Thank you. Well, it's really funny because I feel like I'm an ambassador for FetLife. Yeah, yeah.

I'm telling you, I've never heard of it before. I was like, FetLife, what is this was like i mean the fact that it's so fucking international and like you can find every kind of kink you can find your tribe there exactly it's the facebook for freaks exactly so my favorite thing though is that you came to the party and we, I kind of got the vibe that you were there to meet me because my husband and I have a very strict rule that we only meet people that we play with at parties. And so, um, I could not for the life of me, like I could not for the life of me get anything going full steam.

And, and I finally just got fed up and like, I'm out. But I ran over to the, where you were, because you were hanging out in the other room, and I ran over to where you were and I was like, let's exchange numbers. I felt like if I didn't exchange numbers with you, that it was going to be this really wasted opportunity. Okay, gotcha, gotcha.

So for me, I was i was like this is not the party vibe was not working for some fucking reason i know you were more comical that day than anything i was literally i was in there doing a full tight 10 it was like okay let's go but because of the fact that like i literally that was the party that was the halloween party right yep and i literally went over to this guy that had i had been told had wanted to play with me at several parties several parties okay and i went up to him specifically and i said hey you want to go play and i go into this room and there's a guy there who i'm waiting for this guy to show up and this guy wants me me to suck his cock.

And I'm like, okay, I'll suck your cock. And then that other guy literally, like, I'm showing him my ass. Like, two holes. Take your pick. Let's go. And literally just staring at me. And I was like, I don't understand why I have to, like, chase this shit down and explain to people how it works.

And then the other guy couldn't, he couldn't put a condom on because it would deflate everything most guys have that problem that's why you know make sure we get tested you know absolutely we'll we'll leave it as that but um i think with guys actually i don't want to get off i don't want to get off the hobby man topic let's hold on on to one. Because even funnier before that was the Walmart trip. Oh, gosh. I was at Walmart and I'm like, I see the body frame. I see the hair. And I'm like, wait, that might be her. But I'm one of those people. Very specific hairstyle. My brain is like a computer.

And it works works on percentile basis so as i'm scanning you like the terminator it's like 60 match like i'm like i don't move unless it's a 90 yeah exactly so unless you can guarantee it yes when my brain was on 75 i was like you know what i don't want to seem like a creep but maybe you know and i looked at our fat life i said okay we do have a little rapport i'll shoot her a message and see if you know it was so funny because my husband saw that message he was like and he was like why didn't you just why didn't you just say hi like and that's the weird part because i didn't want to walk up to you like hey are you such and such from fat life and she's like no i'm a christian like you Christian.

I'm a devoted Christian. No, that would have been really funny. I did have, I have had that happen to me before, though, where people have approached me and actually said. Well, again, like I said, I'm more sure it's because we all, I'm pretty sure I just worded it like that, but we all have that human computer sense out thing. We see something that looks familiar.

We're wait is that is and because I'm really glad that you at least reached out to me on FET and said hey I saw you because it was really funny I had this one guy who was like why didn't you come over to the paint department at Lowe's and I'm like why did you think I saw you did they because i didn't need paint so it's I think I saw you. Because I didn't need paint. So believe me, I completely get it. There are times when I'm just like, what is happening? I know that guy. Where do I know that guy from? And you don't want to be the person who outs somebody, especially if they're DL. yes.

You never want to be that person. Shout out to the community, you know, we incentivize. I've learned, cause I guess I have had a podcast too, you know, you have to, everybody gets love. Everybody, everybody. So, okay, so then after, but at the party though, we never, we didn't play. No. But we exchanged numbers. And then we had a date. What's really funny is you and I were supposed to go on a date date. You and I were supposed to go to Chili's. Yes. And I was so dreading that. Can I just tell you, I was so dreading that.

Not because of the fact that I didn't want it, but I'm not going to go there and eat. Because if we go back to the house and play after I eat, I'm going to just vomit on you. And then. I had my fair share of that. Well, with a cock your size, I can totally understand why. Um then in addition to that, like I am, I'm not super great at dating. I've never really done it. Interesting.

So for me, when I go out to like sit down with somebody that I don't, we don't have anything and we don't know what we have in common yet i have a really hard time finding the words but when we break the ice i was just about to say yeah that i and you know i think ice breakers should go you know uh 60 40 on a man's part oh well i'd much rather break the ice by having by fucking well well shit that's melting ice if the ice that shit is melted at that point there's no ice left yeah there's water yes there's all sorts of water in lake wanna come fuck me jesus i don't like that lake water come fuck me totally that's your favorite vacation lifeguard but yeah like it uh to well to jump back to to why guys to why I got it.

I got that. I don't, I think it's a, I think it's a, yeah, I'm not about to break guy code on here. I'm not about to do that, but we'll give a little insight.

I think more so when guys do that when it's more so like uh like you said like what you want me to just take it and insert it for you like i'm i'm bent over two goals you choose yeah um i don't want to say ego but i think it's a it's a a confidence thing okay and yes think confidence when i'm at a party when i'm at a party i am looking to experience okay that is all that it is okay when it is when i am looking for that um when i'm at a party all i'm looking for is to sample the goods everywhere okay okay i'm going through the costco exactly get a little cherry a little grape here yeah and just sample because i'm not expecting anybody to be on their game but i know that's interesting that when when I have the opportunity to i can make shit happen because she got motion i got delightful plus i i second that so like and the thing is is we're gonna have a good time because even if it's awkward i'm gonna make a funny joke and it's going to be we're gonna have fun and we're gonna giggle and we're We're going to have a good time because even if it's awkward, I'm going to make a funny joke and it's going to be, we're going to have fun and we're going to giggle and we're going to, you know, have some physical expressions and it'll be, it's all good.

It's all gravy. It's all, nobody's expecting you to be Picasso. And I think that hits it right there. But now that I think that I know that that hits it right there, actually. Because we come we we come in with this expectation.

expectation of yourself um because i guess yeah in a sense but no like in in a general realm of expectation what i mean it's mostly and i'm just speaking for the single male in the lifestyle most of us come in with in a sense but no like in in a general realm of expectation what i mean it's mostly and i'm just speaking for the single male in the lifestyle most of us come in with this and that's when i said i can't say ego but it's just it's balling right back to you right as much as i'm trying to i'm trying to find it like out and it just keeps balling back to it but yeah we have this this um um this ego about us more so like like we're here the women are here for us so um you it's like it it's a weird thing like i like i and this is my first time actually trying to describe this so bear with me like it's almost a thing i can't even it's just we it's just we do it like it's like a like a yeah out it's the alpha around other alphas mentality that's really what it is and you're what's really funny is most of the time you're trying to prove yourself to other men more than you're trying to prove yourself to the women that's exactly what it is that's exactly what it is i love you guys but seriously like you don't need to put that much work into us we're like oh you like me you like my pussy okay cool let's go like we're we're there and we're um like for me the thing i love the most about um a hotel party is that it is very hot wife centric it is very i'm here to get my nut and these are the women that i'm gonna go and ravage and that for me like i love being i love being the other part of that equation i can i can definitely see that I can definitely see that and because of the fact that I'm definitely like I know what a mental game it is to maintain an erection for you guys it is like it is like jump roping it's like playing chess it's a lot of concentration it's a lot of physical it's a lot it's a lot and like the more dicks that are in there the more double dutching you're doing yeah so for me when you got when a man has a has like a an erection problem at a party it's completely fucking normal the it's more about let me say it again thank you you said one more time when a man has an erection problem at a party it is completely fucking normal i'm speaking for the guys that do have erection problems that's all like i said we here for everybody yeah and the thing is is that it's not uncommon to be in a place where you are comparing yourself to other men and then you have confidence issues and then that gets inside your head and makes everything sort of short circuit and go the wrong direction okay you know what another thing it could be too i just thought about it it's the reality versus fantasy complex oh hell yeah it very much so because we most of the time most most humans never get to live out their wildest fantasies absolutely so when we we mostly live out we mostly live through our fantasies in our head in that little privacy of where no one sees us aka the realm the real you you know so when you take somebody out of that fantasy that's so used to being all by their self and you put them into it in reality it doesn't correspond the same no because that because again the expectations of this in my fantasy i could have you standing over there jumping on one leg i can you know and when you get there it's like wait it's it's here like everything you're fantasizing is here but it's like okay I'm freezing up now like you know so I think that's a major part in it too oh absolutely I mean for me I I understand that the male like the erection is very much tied to the mental the physical very much so very much so like there's so many factors and you're a little bit nervous and i literally there was this one party i went to and it was this guy's first time and i'm giving him a blow job and he's like oh my god and i'm like dude cut yourself some slack this is not the environment this is your first time in the environment go get you into the environment it's like like you feel like you're and see that's where that's where a good a good woman comes into play because obviously like you just said you got a coaching method baby this happens this happens to everybody this happens to everybody just just don't let it happen every time you know that that's where it's like okay and to be completely honest you never anybody who ever goes to a party never has to play if you don't play you're not it's not a requirement yeah it's consent baby so as far as i'm concerned if a man shows up at a party and he doesn't want to play.

I didn't find that out until later on the other side. Oh, really? Yeah, I didn't find out that we didn't have to play. So by the time I realized we didn't have to play, I was already getting played. I was like, wait, when I come to your parties, I don't have to do this? She's like, no, darn it, they just want you. I'm like, oh. Yeah. Well, oh, sorry. Sorry about your plentitude of riches. You must suck to be a bull. Sorry. No. Wait, no. It's like, it's the truth. Like you said, like nobody has to play. Like you can come in.

Okay, so I'll give you, I'll ask you this, and I'm pretty sure you're going to attest to this. Have you met a guy at a party, like you said, in the same scenario? Whatever was going on between the mental connection between his erection and his brain just wasn't clicking. But when you got him on solo play, he was a whole different person. Have you ever experienced that? I've had people at parties that I've played with. Like almost the- What's really funny is I think I had the exact opposite happen. I had a guy that I played with at a party and it was awesome and we were right there.

And then got him we were at a hotel and he came to the hotel and this was like weeks later and when i got him to the hotel he just because it was my husband was there it was just my husband and i and this guy and i think having my husband there sort of threw him for a loop if it had been completely much more many more people it would have been more anonymous it would have been more less focused on him and I think that that was so I had the exact opposite husband interesting and to be completely honest at a, I don't tend to – okay. That's very interesting.

Like I'm thinking about what you just said in this scenario because like what is it because of the security of that being your person, I'm guessing? Well – Like you said, more so it being just anonymous.

Just completely fucking focused on him had to have changed the game because when there's so many other people in the room you can pretend like people aren't focused on you okay but when it's just you in the room you know that all of that attention is on you it's kind of like the difference between singing solo got you and singing in a choir got you so they gonna hear you solo you can hide between everybody else's exactly okay okay i never never really looked at it like that so sometimes and it depends on the it depends on a lot of stuff obviously it could have been anything from he wasn't feeling well it could have been anything but that to me was sort of like the reasoning behind it for me that made more sense because when I played with him at a party, and I mean, I played with this guy three, four or five times, never had a problem, but he showed up at this hotel and it was just me and him and, and I had to spend so much time talking to him just to kind of get him okay and so i think a lot of it has to do with how how the scenario is set up and if and a lot of times people think that my husband is there for something other than what he's there for my husband that's interesting i'm the exact opposite i'm the exact opposite like you're less likely to perform at a party um no as far as uh about like um the more people there like you said drowning it out versus just the focal point being on you like i like i don't you prefer yeah i don't feel like yeah that bothered you know it I don't feel like that ever bothered me because I at the end of the day once you understand y'all not even understand but once you know y'all y'all two relationship it it kind of to me for me it kind of makes it better you know like when you can yeah yeah hold her leg hold her hair like yeah you know like it's a yeah somebody there's like extra people there doing the directing i don't see you there like you're drilling a hole at my back like you know i mean like hey hey john hold the head like you know like i'm hey be some assistance let's make this let's make this fun you know and i mean that's a that's a big part of it because the relationship between my husband and I is obviously, for me, the most crucial part of it.

Because without my husband, I'm literally just someone who really likes sex and goes to parties. But with my husband, I'm a hot wife and it puts it into a whole different perspective. Perspective and puts it on a you would it change me probably not but but it's good to have that mental exactly and so because of the fact that my and my relationship with my husband is there's so many questions as for a bull to walk in for a bull to walk in he's going to have so many questions about, well, what is expected of me with the husband?

And as far as I'm concerned, you needn't be worried about what my husband is going to do, because everything starts with consent. And if my husband were going to pop up in the scene, we would have to make sure that that was okay before it before it even happened it's not going to be a spontaneous thing we're just throwing it on yeah so like you're never going to be blindsided by a cock it's just not going to happen yeah i didn't see that coming around the corner so it's um because basic rules still fucking apply.

i'm not allowed to touch you without your permission i'm certainly not gonna let my husband touch you without me without your permission so yeah and i think that that's um something that is woefully misunderstood from a lot of um a lot of people when it comes to the lifestyle. We're not grabby. We're not trying to fuck anything that walks. We're about consent and permission. And yes, we are about fucking anything that walks, but- In the rounds of consent, permission, comfortability know, all of those things are key components to making the lifestyle, the lifestyle. Absolutely.

Because without that, I mean, we're a frat house. Basically. Yeah. Essentially. Yes. Essentially. A whole frat house. F.U.F. University. Exactly is so for me i'm i'm i always want people to understand how safe they are with my husband and myself because my husband is there because of me not because of you exactly and he is there to enhance my experience and enhance his own through because he's I'll see you next time. Exactly. And he is there to enhance my experience and enhance his own through.

Because he's really, my husband's really big at compersion, which is basically he sees somebody going through some things, pleasure or something, and he can feel that in himself. That's fire. Yeah. And and so for him pleasure doesn't need to be a physical act for him it can be a visual mental act and that's why we're really really good at being in a yes exactly the more he's the more he sees you pleasured is going to increase his stimulus to. Exactly. Exactly. And make, and it makes him fucking crazy. It's like, he's at an 11 before I've even finished, you know?

He's like, I am ready to fuck you now. The school is broke. Exactly. So that's my, that's my, that's the one thing I do want to put out there is that nobody should be, you shouldn't be afraid of the husband and performing in front of the husband because most of the time the husband is just there for the compersion of it all. That is correct. And if anybody does anything that you're not comfortable with, then you tell them no.

And if that doesn't work, you can put on your pants, get the fuck out fuck out it's that simple and if you think like me if you do a good enough job they'll want you back they'll want you back you know you might have some perks to come with that you know hell yeah oh my god but no you're allowed back anytime jesus thank you thank you i'll always accept the invites always i'm still very very rumbly right now. Oh my God. It's, I like this. I might have to, I might have to come up on it. I might have to come up on here a little more with you. That's awesome. It's definitely, definitely.

I, um, so what is your, um, current situation with regards to what do you like do you just do like single dates do you still go to parties um yeah i attend parties you know um the parties i usually attend are parties that people i'm really familiar with people i know that um people i know their standard of party more so you know like that's where like i said i'm not into and like i said i'm not shunning the people that throw them at hotels do what you got do what you got to do we all have to start somewhere we all but i really like the i i always tell people i like the experience it's not more so the just putting 20 people in the room to fuck like yeah that's you got to curate it a little bit yeah as long as you have uh the right amount of money to get the hotel room the client anybody can do that but when you serve somebody an experience to say damn i went to a couple of king's party and it was amazing like you know that's the parties that I try to attend.

Yeah. We're actually doing a party with, okay, so we throw parties occasionally down here as well because we really enjoy throwing parties.

But because of the fact that we have a lot of invites okay sometimes it's a little difficult to get a party that we're throwing scheduled trying to fit it in between yeah this month like i had the hotel takeover in last like last weekend okay and then i have another hotel takeover that i'm going to in florida at the end of the month nice splash mark i'm so fucking excited no idea but it's um and then we have another party that we're going to on saturday so we're and then nothing but fucking family between now, between like Saturday and. Yeah, New Year's. Yeah, you have to pack it up, yeah.

So we're going on this mandatory hiatus. But at the same time, my schedule all around that mandatory hiatus is fucking packed. I'm like, I'm living out of a fucking suitcase. Literally. Literally. The way you're going to be moving, literally.

And and my suitcase is with nothing but lube and condoms the essentials the essentials oh and my wand don't don't forget my wand that you know what that just reminded me of um the movie me myself and i rain when he went into the store and he came back out fast as hell because he said he was going to get some food or whatever so she's like where's the food he was like i got everything we need in his bag and it was whiskey and the dildos that's so funny that's yeah well but so um so you do a lot of like house parties then um well like i said the most of the parties yeah most of the parties that i do go to like the last party i went to it was actually the party we we were at but before that it was a hotel takeover okay like yeah i don't like i said i just were you at the one in Maryland?

I think that was the one, yes. Oh, okay. The one that had originally been scheduled for February? Yes. Oh my God, we were there too. See, didn't even know it. Didn't even know it. Okay, God. Had I known. Had I known. Trust me, that whole party would have worked out much fucking different had I known.

um i didn't like i'm not great at hotel takeovers yet because i don't know how to basically um venus flytrap a cock into my region so i don't know i don't know the etiquette of like approaching people and say hey do you want to fuck so and there's no like open play space so you got to find somebody with a hotel room that you can get into or go back to your own hotel room and it's a little for me i'm i wasn't on the party floor so i had no idea how like how to how to maneuver how to maneuver and bring and get people to and people at those parties tend to be very coupley so they're looking for full swaps and that wasn't something that i was but this upcoming one this one at the end of the month that is a hot wife party specifically it is a splash mocha hot wife party and it is all about and okay so this party that this hotel takeover we just went to had the coolest fucking thing they had a they had an entire fuck room set up in the conference room at this hotel where they brought in beds and they brought in bean bags and they brought in like sex swings and they brought in like a stripper pole like it was crazy the amount of stuff that they brought into this particular location and there were like three beds and it was fucking cool and that's the kind of atmosphere that I think i'd really like to see at splash mocha but i don't know if it's there okay okay yeah okay that that definitely sounds like like a um one of the hotel takeover venues i've been to as well too they had it set up i think they had like two floors the one floor was the party floor um then they had like different rooms set up like they had like a glory hole room they had like all different themed rooms and the second floor was basically like you said if people wanted to spend a night they could just basically rent the rooms from the person that actually paid for the whole thing um but the interesting thing like you said so downstairs in the they had, like, this makeshift dungeon of, like, everything you could, like, they had a guy over there doing fire play, they had a guy over there doing cupping, they had the BDSM with the, like you said, I guess whatever the cross is, the flogging, it was just room it was just um what is it i was just overstimulated walking and that's the part that's the part that like those this party that we just went to this past weekend there was a dungeon room and my husband because he's got such compersion like he goes into that room and it's way too much stimulation.

Overstimulation. Trust me, I'm with him. It's way too much. It's too much. Like he can feel all the energy and he's like, I got to go. Yeah. So for him, when it's all pleasure-based and stuff like that, that's different. But some of it's like a little, like he was not comfortable in the dungeon area. Okay.

I wouldn't't say i wasn't comfortable but it was one of those things like uh i'm really not into the fireplay bdsm stuff so again but again i can be open to seeing and like okay that that looks cool or that looks cool but like you said it was one of those things where i was in it for like seven minutes and i'm like i think it's time for you to go like yeah like okay i seen the cupping why you're leaving marks on her like that like it was just my brain was just it was just too much like it's so funny as the as the weekend goes on the more and more people who end up with perfect circles purple circles somebody went to cupping because that is a perfect perfect circle Yes.

Then they had the fire play, the electroshock. It was things that I didn't even know that were in the kink dictionary. Like that's what, that's, I was like, whoa. Yeah, no, it was, that's how it was. Like when we went to like this place we just went, they had, there were a bunch of people who were wrestling.

And I did not realize that wrestling was a kink i'd been approached to wrestle somebody in the past but i didn't know that it was like a okay now it makes sense now it makes sense i was so weirded out when i would see like like probably like this was back in the day but i would see like and it's crazy it's been a while it's been around a while i didn't know that was a kink either because as i'm scrolling through porn i would always see like these like a black guy and white girl like in this ufc ring setting and i'm like but they're ass naked like they're ass naked and i'm like i never bothered to click on it because i was just like okay this must be like a parody or something like and one day scrolling on twitter twitter has like these little feed videos where they actually put like the whole video and i'm just like okay i'm watching and i'm like wait he starts right they they literally start wrestling like this girl can out-wrestle you and then after three minutes of wrestling his cock and thumbs in in her mouth somehow they literally start wrestling like this girl can out wrestle you and then after three minutes of wrestling his cock in her mouth somehow yeah that's actually how it went like if you if somebody got pinned then the other person had to suck their dick yeah like it was i mean one of those things where i'm truly fascinated but it's that it's a kink it's not for you.

But it's not my cup of tea. Yeah, like even when you said the diaper thing, I was like, hmm. Don't know if I would have been able to sit around that one. Yeah.

I mean, the thing is, is that just because somebody has a kink and you're not shaming it doesn't necessarily mean you're comfortable being around it exactly exactly so if somebody is lighting somebody on fire or poking someone with needles that is that is their kink and good on you that you found somebody to play with but that's not my kink and i'm gonna walk away because watching you set something on fire makes me a little yeah it makes me a little uneasy you know yeah so and it's not shaming them it's more appreciating the fact that this isn't mine and i'm going to walk away so that i'm not uncomfortable yes and i feel like if we if we carry that model a lot in life it'll be all right we we could really be all right because you don't have to to to disagree with something doesn't mean that like you don't like right it doesn't mean that i'm don't want it for you you like yeah like i'm just against it like no i'm not against it it's just you know not mine everything isn't for everybody and if we if we can figure out how to convey that over seven billion people we'll be all right be all right because i'm really like, I really like it that people are living and let living.

Yes. That's the, that's the most important part of it. Absolutely. That they're living in what they want to live in, what they're comfortable with. We don't, we don't have to hide in so per se that metaphoric closet anymore.

Like you can just be who you are and find your community that accepts you embraces you that that loves what you do that that takes a liking to what you do and you know it's because before it was like you if the masses didn't accept it yeah it was shunned now like they literally have okay like you like doing things it's it's all communities all over Exactly exactly and the thing is is that i can be part of your tribe and not be i can support from the nosebleeds like i can be part of your tribe but not necessarily be into you can support from the nosebleeds i bought a ticket i bought a ticket i'm sorry i didn't get the floor seats but i'm you should be looking at the fact that i'm here exactly and the thing is is i support anybody who finds their consensual kink play i can i'm all about that and i it is taking me because i am old i'm old as fuck i'm as old as you feel but it takes me like but there's moments when i have to police myself to say okay this is not for you but it's also not for you to judge it this is not for you that's the fine line right there like you say so just so i i mean i loved the fact that i went to this kent conference okay i was a little sad that i didn't get to participate in certain things more because there was a bunch of classes that i wanted to go to okay but because we were in an off-site hotel getting there was yeah that very much so for me it wasn't like you was on the third floor and the conference the classes were in the lobby exactly because i would have i think i would have had more um interaction okay had i been at the hotel now i would have had to leave for food anyway because it was impossible to get food there because it took hours hours and hours but um Oh, God.

But, and so the thing is, is that I've learned a lot of lessons from going to this thing, from going to this kink conference that I'm going to take with me to the next one, which is, you know, I've got to be open. I've got to be trying to engage. And I'm really about going because that one is really that one's all about the thing that really sparks me right now gotcha because being a hot wife is fucking awesome i'll never be one so i'll take your it looks like it looks like looks like, it looks like it's awesome. It looks like it's awesome.

Don't you like being, don't you like being a bull in the hot wife scene? Yes, of course. Of course. You know, and I, and I like to be the bull to, you know, change the narrative. That's what I, that's what I pride myself on because I hear so many, you know, I talk to different women and I, you know, I'm a listener. So I like to hear, okay, this is the, these, excuse me, these are the negative connotations. These are, you know, all those things. And I try to, okay, that's why even at parties, like I've been to parties where I see guys be so aggressive and don't get me wrong.

Your personality is your personality.

I'm never telling you to hide who you are but i found out that being this mellow laid-back guy works a lot better for me oh yeah it it it's shrouded in mystery because when i think it's a women thing too i think when when you go to these situations and you see all the like you know guys you know just being primal and just being who you know who they are and then you see this little then you see this little just slim fella in the corner just he doesn't look scared he doesn't look timid he just it's just a what's going on with him over here why are you why are you over here and then they find out why i'm over here yeah well i will say that while you may be laid back at the parties you fuck like you're a primal animal you that's the chameleon in me exactly so i'm all about i'm all about how how you approach but like god damn day and night switch day and night switch there you go but yeah you can't you can't be like i i figure like i said you got to be you got to be the perfect blend and not saying i'm perfect but you i try to you know like one of the more than one thing yes and one of the things that my father told me like this is something that he told me when i was like 11 years old and it just like it made so much sense to me at 11 years old I don't know.

And one of the things that my father told me, like, this is something that he told me when I was like 11 years old. And it just like it made so much sense to me at 11 years old that I kind of applied it to my life still to this day. He basically was like, you have friends for scenarios. And once you learn how to compartmentalize those, you'll be better off. And I was like, OK, like, go deep with that. Like, no pun intended. We're like, elaborate, you know? And he was like, some friends you go, y'all go play games with. Some friends you go play basketball with.

Some friends you go to the club with. Some friends you can take to a social gathering, and they are the most educated people.

and some friends you go play basketball with some friends you go to the club with some friends you can take to a social gathering and they are the most educated people and some friends you know will never it's just you just have to know what friends are for what and it made so much sense because like i said i'll never bring my loud friends that i know that i'm going to go to the club with i'm not bringing you to the white house to sit with me no yeah exactly no listen i'll go get timmy for that yeah exactly so yeah and i mean it makes sense because being able to fit into any scenario and being able to know how that how you should behave in that scenario exactly makes a huge difference in your ability to go through life and your ability to fit in wherever.

So I feel like I have some of that. I feel like I have some of that ability to compartmentalize. This is who I need to be in this scenario and this is who I need to be in this scenario. We all wear masks yeah but at the same time i also don't have a filter and i can't play poker it's written on my face oh you're one of those people that wear everything on your face everything on my face it is not it's my husband is like all the time fix your fucking face fix your fucking face what is wrong with you right now so thank you so much for coming on here. No, it was a pleasure.

Thank you for having me. Thank you for having me. I need to get back into the space some more. I almost forgot my voice sounds. Yeah, it's very nice. Thank you, thank you. Okay, so this was The Throat Doctor.

You can follow him on X yes you may yes you may all the links are there there you go all right thank you thank you so much for joining me today on pineapple pinup the hot wife life podcast and as always you can reach me at pineapple pinup pod at gmail.com if you have any questions concerns topics or if you just want to chat um feel free to reach out to me um and stay tuned because And my next event that's coming up is, uh, Splash Mocha and I am really, really excited because I'm going to be there with a bunch of people and hopefully some of them will talk to me. That will be super exciting.

Um, uh, but that is coming up.