Tropical party

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pinup, the Hot Wife Life podcast. On today's podcast, I am going to talk about a party that I went to, I know, shocking, right? Um, it was a tropical party and let's get into it. Went to a party this weekend and it was so much fun um we went to the same party that we normally go to the one we just had a hundredth party celebration um we went to that one and it was I had been messaging throughout the week with my friend who I had gone to the parties with, Bird, and she was supposed to be there, but she ended up not being there. And I was like, what? Why aren't you here?

And she wasn't feeling well. So she hadn't, didn't come. That being said, um, it was a great party. It was so much fun. Um, so it was in one of the normal locations that we go to. And my, there were some old friends that had shown up. Um, they had been, he had moved away a while back. Thank you. there were some old friends that had shown up. Um, they had been, he had moved away a while back and hadn't been attending. So it was very interesting to see him there. He does a lot of electro play and tends to carry a toy box of, um, BDSM toys with him. I do not play with him.

I have not played with him, but that's because ElectroPlay and I are not friends. The only time I've ever done electric play was with my husband. And I was like, if I wanted to feel like bees were stinging me, I would just step in a bee's nest. So electric play does not really do it for me in the way that, because my, my nerve endings are very, very sensitive and it stings more than anything else. So he and I don't normally play.

Um, and my friend Linda was there and we ended up talking and she had made a cake for the host's birthday because the host's birthday is going to be between last party and the next party. So it was going to fall in the middle. So it was either before or after. So we decided to go before. And so we did end up celebrating his birthday that day. It was so chill. It was so kickback. It was so, there were a lot of new people there for this party scene. And, um, that's kind of an interesting story because there was somebody who got introduced to me and I was like, I know him, but I don't know that.

I don't know that name. Um, so, but I'll get into that. Okay, so the parties begin like they always begin. There's this period of time where everybody's showing up and chatting and talking and introducing themselves to the new faces and getting into it with the old faces and just sort of chatting it up. And then they pull the starting gun, which is giving us the rules of engagement, which is, as I said, my preferred way to do it. So he gives us the, he gives us this, he gives us the speech. Some people go off and smoke. And I hadn't yet really been approached.

I hadn't yet really been approached by anyone. I am giving, I guess I give off resting bitch face. I don't know. I don't know what my problem is. But like, I am finding it harder and harder to find somebody to start a party with. I don't know why, but anyway, so I went in and I was hanging out with my husband because my husband was basically monitoring one room, meaning that he was monitoring the room, but also in charge of the music. So he was sitting there chilling, turning on the music.

And I was like, well, let's just get, and one of the party monitors, the head of security came in and he was like, we don't ever get to play. It's been so long since we played. And I said, yeah, I know. And he goes, um, Ronnie's okay. If I play, he's the host is okay. If I play. And I was like, okay, if the host is okay with you playing, then sure, I'll play with you. So he crawls up on the bed and I start giving him a blowjob. Now I'm lying on my side when this happens. And another gentleman who had just was new to this particular party came in and asked if he could play.

And I said, absolutely. So he's trying to touch me in a position that I, he really can't get to anything because I'm laying on my side and I'm off at an angle and it's, it's just, it's awkward. So I'm like, okay, fine. Everybody pause. And I turned over and I got on all fours so I could suck this man's cock while I was being played with from behind. So he's fingering and doing a little bit of tongue work and that was all great, all good, all gravy. And then the gentleman, the head of security, he's like, let's go. So he pulls me to the side of the bed and then he starts fucking me from behind.

The gentleman who had been playing, you know, fingering me, he moved around to the front and I started sucking his cock while I'm being fucked from behind. And anybody who plays with me at these parties has this expectation that it's going to be a show, a waterwork show. If you don't know the reference, think of the fountains at the Bellagio. and and so because of the fact that there's this expectation that it'll be something grand, it's always kind of a crapshoot for me, especially at the beginning of the night, if I haven't been properly warmed up, that I'll be able to deliver.

And it's a stress. I mean, it's a real stressor to, um, not be able to give them the thing that, which with that, which they are excited to see and do and have, and that I'm kind of known for the expectation there is pretty, um, extreme for me. It's like, there's a lot going on. There's a lot of buildup. There's a lot of, will I be able to? And it has a lot to do with my hydration. It has a lot to do with, huh? Interesting. with huh interesting you it has a lot to do with my hydration. It has a lot to do with, um, being properly prepared, put into that position the fingering is very important.

So I was able to do the thing and ended up soaking the floor by the bed in addition to a lot of other things. But it's kind of one of those things where in play parties, you never can tell what it is that you're like stepping in, laying in, where it's coming from. Because I'll be honest, it's coming from everywhere. Like I was not the only one creating floor messes. I was not the only one creating bed messes. And for that, it's a successful fucking party when that's what's going on.

So I'm in the middle of getting fucked from behind when the gentleman that I'm giving a blowjob to decides he's going to blow his load. So he comes in my mouth and I reach around past the gentleman fucking me from behind and motion to my husband to come closer. And this of course distracts everyone from the trajectory that they're on. And my husband's like, huh? And my, and so he comes over and I kiss him and then share with him that which was given to me by this gentleman. And it was very distracting for the gentleman, for the head of security, who's fucking me from behind.

He's like, what the fuck is going on? So my husband and I, we have our moment. And then he goes back to doing what he was doing. And then, of the gentleman behind me finishes. Um, then there's a lull. There's a moment where now I look like I'm falling asleep on the bed because I'm laying on the pillow because everybody has magically disappeared. Then this gentleman that I was introduced to that I had not, that I knew that I knew him, but I did not know the name. He comes in and I'm like, I know, I know you. And he goes, well, it's the first time I've been to this party.

And I said, ah, but, and he goes, what other parties have you been to? And so we're kind of going through the list. And then I reached one and he goes, ah, yes, I was at that one. I went to theirs last month. And I said, ah, I was there last month. And then it dawned on me who this was. I had spent a great deal of time talking to this gentleman. Me and my husband had sat there talking to him and had had a whole conversation. And then at some point during the night, he had shown up where I was laying down and I was, I ended up sucking his cock for all of about 32 seconds.

And then he just wandered off into the ether and we never got to play. And I was like, okay, well, I guess he's not interested. So he was at this party and I was again thinking, oh, well, and then he goes, well, can I play with you? And I'm like, yeah, sure. I mean, absolutely. I didn't, you know, because I was interested in playing with him at the last party. And the fact that he wasn't interested was sort of like, huh, interesting, weird, but you know, and you got to start thinking about, well, is it me? What's wrong? What's going on here?

So he and I ended up playing and it was, let's just say it was hurricane season down there. It was so much liquid everywhere. I I don't know. let's just say it was hurricane season down there it was so much liquid everywhere I was coming and coming and he was like oh my god it's so wet and he really likes wet he is like he wanted me to wet kiss him like spit in his mouth basically he he wanted, if it hadn't been in a party situation, he was like, I like a golden shower in my mouth. And I was like, well, I'm not going to, I'm not going to be that person, but okay.

So, but he was very much a fan of wet. So the fact that I can produce a great deal of liquid when I'm fucking and I can squirt everywhere and I can basically drown his balls was for him amazing.

So he had done the thing where he pulled out because I told him to, I said, pull out and he pulled out and it was just like showers and after that moment he was like oh and he goes I can't believe if I had known this we would have played at the last party and I was like oh so I need to have a trick up my sleeve in order for this to work for you I got you so it was very interesting it was very interesting how he interpreted us not playing Thank you. I got you. So it was very interesting.

It was very interesting how he interpreted us not playing versus how I interpreted us not playing and the, the differences between our approach to it. So he was like, I missed out on something and I had been like little, I don't know, a little I don't know, a little, um, I don't know. I don't know the proper word because I wasn't hurt that he didn't want to play with me at the first, at the first party. I was more, huh? Interesting. It wasn't a rejection of me, but it was a rejection of me. So it was kind of like I was teetering on a, on a weird level.

But, um, the fact that he came in, he was like, Oh, I get it now was like, for me, a very validating. And he was so good. Oh my God. He was really good. He was getting me off left, right, center, around the corner, everywhere. Like there was no place I was going that he did not like anticipate and get me there. He fucking got me off so much. It was, I destroyed the bed. I destroyed the towel that I brought. I destroyed, it was basically just I'll see you next time. me off so much. It was, I destroyed the bed. I destroyed the, um, towel that I brought.

I destroyed, it was basically just moisture palooza. And then he and I finished playing. And then I found out that my friend Jeff was there and I immediately was like, he's here. And my husband's like, yeah, he's been here for a while. And I was like, what? So then I went out and I found him and I was like, oh, you come meet. And so we went and we played and it was fucking amazing. Like it always is with Jeff. And he did this thing that I talked about on my last episode. He did this thing where he reached around and grabbed my neck and he reached around and grabbed my neck.

And I was like, instant cum, instant fucking orgasm. It was phenomenal. I was like, thank you. And he was like, it's funny how a hand to the throat is basically your trigger for coming. He said, yes, more. So he and I played for a while and it was phenomenal. Oh my God, it was so good. And then he wandered off and I sneezed. I sneezed two times. And when I sneezed, I got a little headache. I got a little sinus. Ouch. And my husband was like, I'm going to go downstairs and grab a soda and I'll grab you some Tylenol because we don't have any.

So he went down and he got me some medication and himself a drink. And I was in the, and we were just sitting around chatting. You know, I was sitting in the living room, just chatting with everybody. And then he came back and I took the pills and then I played again with, um, Jeff, I think. And then I was just, we were, I went out and I was talking to everybody and I was just sitting around minding my business and, uh, talking to people and getting the skinny on my friends and what they were up to, then I was like, went over to my husband and it was getting kind of late for us.

Um, not late for us, like, but we get to a certain point and I'm just like, I need to eat. We gotta, I'm already battling this headache and this medicine's not really like cutting the cake. So I was getting ready to leave and I look out and Alex is there. And Alex and I, Alex and I have played so many times, but he is phenomenal. He has, he trains, he trains to be a fuck machine. He trains to be somebody with stamina and strength and cardio. He trains for this.

He trains for this moment when he can be more and it is fucking awesome I mean he's so fucking good and so I see him and I'm like oh well I'm gonna take off and he goes what you're gonna leave and I'm like yeah I'm gonna go it's not my fault that you're lingering around doing anything. I mean, I go, so I look at him and I go, would you like to play before I go? And he said, yeah. So he and I played. And when Alex and I play, it's not like, um, quick. it's like i've just dedicated myself to another half an hour to 45 minutes, possibly an hour of fucking.

And in this particular instance, it was, he, he was marathon man. And we ended up playing for about 45 gloriously soaking wet minutes. And when we finished up, I threw my clothes on and I'm like, let's go. And I said goodbye to my friends. And I was like, and ended up doing something really weird.

I went over to kiss Jeff and I ended up kissing him on the side of his nose by his eyeball and then I ended up kissing my friend Linda on her eyeball and I was like for the entire night dwelling on the fact that in this moment that I was so not cool I was so goofy and lame in this moment and like it haunted me it haunted me like I woke up in the middle of the night and went, I can't believe I did that. And like, it wasn't anything. It wasn't something. It was just weird. And for me, so caught up in the weirdness of it all that I was just like, Oh, man. So it's funny, the things that haunt you.

It's funny the things that come back and like really make you wonder about yourself, about what you're doing. But it was great. And I had a really good time. And I ended up just like, it wasn't a lot of time. A lot of the time that I spent there wasn't spent fucking a good, like I would say about 50, 50 on that because there was something about the party that it was like, it wasn't necessarily focused on just fucking. There was a lot of conversation.

There was a lot of talking, especially considering that this guy who had come back, the electro play guy, he hadn't been there in such a long time that everybody just wanted to talk and chat and find out what was going on. And so there was a lot more element of socialization at this party than there had been in the past. And I don't know, it can be fun. It can be intriguing to sit down and actually talk to people as opposed to just going in and getting, you know, wet. I got an email from a listener. It's kind of long, so bear with me. Just listen to the podcast with Hopeful from CML.

Cuck My Life, for those of you who don't know. The conversation you both had was fascinating. My wife and I have been talking more openly about cuckolding since the ice break last week. I'm giving her space and she thinks she's, I think she likes the idea. However, she thinks it would be cheating on me. And the only way she would consider this, if it would be a full couple swap, she feels guilty that I would be on the sideline watching. And I tried to explain to her that's exactly what I want. Do you have any advice or suggestions on to help her overcome this?

Also, she asked what my favorite cuckolding podcast episode, and I would told her that all the episodes from your podcast are my favorite, as you are also a plus size hot wife. I shared your podcast with her and I think she's going to start listening to cuckolding hot wifing podcast as well. We have been watching cuckolding vizios together and she likes to edge me. So I will take that as a good sign. Okay.

So my advice on how to get into this, um, I don't have any, I don't really, because what worked for me and what worked for my husband may not be the same thing that works in your relationship. So just, I can give you examples of what we did and have, and how we started those conversations. But I mean, you've heard them all. You've heard everything I've ever said about it. So anybody who has a story that they would like to share about how they started the conversation, please feel free to reach out to me. I'm just going to put that out there so that you know I am very interested.

As far as getting the conversation started, it sounds like the conversation has started. The thing that most guys don't seem to understand is there is much more emotional fear going on with a woman. And I'm not going to take this to, I don't want to take this to a dark place, but I'm going to be frank with you. There, there is a darkness to this. Okay. There is a darkness to how we feel. Most men are afraid that a woman is going to laugh at them or make fun of them or something like that. Most women are afraid that a man is going to kill her. That's the difference. Okay.

we are in a position where we want to make sure that we feel safe. And the last thing that we want to do when we are approaching, and I mean, mind you, there's probably no fear in that for her that in this particular situation that you're going to kill her. But the thing is, is that we do a lot of stuff to mitigate people being mad because mad people are dangerous people. Okay. Jealous people are dangerous people. Okay. when you approach your spouse, your partner, whatever, about cuckolding, it needs to come from a place of vulnerability from you, from the cuckold side, okay?

It needs to very much be a bearing of your fucking soul. Every little detail that you are thinking about, man, like wondering about, fantasizing about, all of that needs to be given to her, gifted to her so that when she makes her decision, she understands what it is that you are trying to get out of it. Because, I'm sorry, there is a long history of women. And I mean, as women, there's a stereotype that we collect a lot of true crime and we listen to a lot of true crime. There is a reason for that. There's a reason for why we try to collect a lot of true crime.

It's because we're trying to figure out how to keep ourselves from being victim to it. We're learning. We're gathering information so that we can... So when you put us in a position where we are triggering something, triggering something from a past, triggering something of jealousy, triggering something, it is very important that you give us all of the information so that when we put our emotional, physical, and mental well-being on the line in this particular way, we know that it is going to be well-received. Because being well-received in this arena is vital.

Being well-intentioned is great, but knowing the dangers that are in a woman's mind all of the time, because it's not like we walk around facing the fact that we at any moment could be a victim. I'm sorry, it's just the truth and I'm not trying to be a downer. But if you think about it from that mindset, from the mindset of a woman who is being given something that could ultimately be a trap, could ultimately be something that causes harm, mental, physical, emotional, whatever.

We're basically, we need all of the facts and all of the facts have to come from your emotional state, what you're looking for. And even after you've given us that, you have to give it to us a couple more times in order for us to truly comprehend that you know what you're asking for and that you will not have a negative reaction to us giving it to you. this is not feminism or empowerment or anything like that this is giving it to you. This is not feminism or empowerment or anything like that. This is just facts.

This is just biological facts that women are going through a great deal of mitigation of anger, disappointment, because of the fact that we have historically been victimized by people whose emotions are not properly regulated in these moments. How many, I mean, it's a thing. It's a real thing that we, that we as women calculate, take into consideration. I never had a thought in my mind that anything was going to happen with my husband, um, as far as him hurting me or as far as my concern was more emotional. Okay.

My concern was that I was going to hurt him so emotionally, so deeply doing this that he would not be able to be with me again that he would not be able to be with me in this relationship and that was terrifying for me it was scary because emotionally he is my guidepost he is my person he is the other half of what it is that we are that of what it is we're building okay so for me the thought of causing him any kind of harm that would keep him from being with me, keep him from being my partner, causing him any sort of emotional pain or mental pain that would cause a rift between us to the point that we could no longer be together was my biggest fear.

Now, I understand that most women in these relationships are not going to have that fear of being killed, but that is the general philosophy. That is the general philosophy of women, that we are constantly mitigating other people's emotional reactions because of the fact that we know how dangerous those reactions can be. So if you take that biologically speaking, and you take that into account when you approach her, you have to be more vulnerable than she is.

And you have to tell her all of your truths in order for her to be able to process it and put it together in a way that is going to give her mental and emotional permission to move forward. Because we are always I'll see you next time. mental and emotional permission to move forward. Because we are always looking to ensure our safety and our status quo and all of the things that make us happy and safe. And we're constantly clinging to that safety. So you need to give her room and information and energy that tells her, if you do this, you will be safe. It will not change our status quo.

It will not affect how I look at you the next morning. All of that is very vital information. And the only person who can give her those reassurances are ultimately you by being as vulnerable as you possibly can and share that information with her so that she can process it fully and make sure that everything that is going on between the start and the finish is exactly within the parameters of what is acceptable. And that means that's really dangerous though.

I mean, for me, um, like there is such a high bar when it comes to this, because the line of slut shaming or the line of whatever it is can get really, really complicated. Okay. The slightest thing can be internalized as shameful. so you have to make sure that whatever it is that you are seeking, whatever it is you're looking for, that you have to know where her actions are coming from.

And if there's something that is going to trigger something in you, you have to know that that's, you either have to give that to her, that trigger, you have to tell her what that is so that she knows not to play with it, or you have to realize that it's yours to deal with and not her fault. Now that we have more time, me more than my husband, now that I have more time, I'm really seriously considering um talking to people about the vanilla build, building it in a vanilla setting until it becomes something bigger, um, something with connection.

I am actually interviewing, um, a wife who is, she's coming on and it's going to be one of those things where talking to her, I'm hoping to gain some insight because what is it about having a glass of wine and a meal with someone changes your perspective on fucking them. What is it that having conversation does to either enhance or imbue the attraction deeper. Um, what I don't understand what that is.

And that's what I'm trying to get to the root of because when I guess I'm just too logical and literal for that, because when you have a meal with somebody and you talk to somebody and you share more details with people, I'm kind of pretty sure that that's just lessening your shame, right? But I don't know. I mean, I honestly, I cannot wait to get into it a little bit further, a little bit more. Talk to somebody who has battled this. And I might actually reach out to my friends out at Cuck My Life and see if any of them would like to come on and discuss what this means.

Because I know that Ozzy is kind of in a throuple now. And I'd like to know, I'd like to know from his perspective what it felt like when his wife went out and found that connection and created something, um, boyfriendy from it. Because for me, I think that's the part that scares me more than anything else. I don't, I don't want to connect to someone. I want it to be very clean cut and clear that my relationship with my husband is my relationship. And everything else is just sprinkles. Everything else is just topping. It's just, um, cardio.

So yes, I understand that sometimes understanding people more fully and having conversations and talking about what you like and what you don't like can lead to better, more intense sex. But does it matter that we talk about our childhoods and how we grew up? Is that going to make things better? Is it going to make things more intriguing? For me, I don't know if I have the emotional bandwidth to be more than that, to be more than just a fuck buddy for anyone, because I just don't know. I don't have, I don't know if I have the space emotionally.

And it's something that seriously, I don't know if you guys can tell, but I am deeply invested in getting to the bottom of this question. I'm deeply invested in finding out more and talking to the people who have experience in this realm to give me the kind of insight that I can pass on to you and kind of figure out if I am A, shortchanging myself, B, protecting myself, or C, just completely fucking clueless. And let's be honest, it's probably C. But I'd like to know, I'd like to find out what's making it tick, what's making that connection versus non-connection, what's making the world spin?

And how I do things, is it maybe lacking something the way other people do things? And just kind of come along the journey with me because trust me, we're going to talk to more and pineapple pinup pod at gmail.com. You can reach me at any of my socials. I am always down for a chat. We'll see you next time.