Seven from My Hotwife Confessions

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pinup, the Hot Wife Life podcast. On today's podcast, I speak to Seven from My Hot Wife Confessions, the podcast. It is an in-depth conversation about all sorts of things, and I really hope you give it a listen. Hi, I am Teresa. Welcome to my show. So can you introduce yourself and tell us about your podcast? I can do that. My friends call me Seven. I am the host of How Wife Confessions. It's an educational podcast aimed at hot wives, their husbands, whether you're a stag or a cuck, and bulls. I do a telegram chat group, and that's where I get a lot of my information.

Like today, I just did an episode called The Broken Hot Wife. And I got that title from us. It was a suggestion from one of my hot wives in the group. And then as soon as I posted it, I got quite a few DMs that, hey, that's me or I can relate I, that's how I get a lot of my, a lot of my material. It really does. It comes from talking to couples. It talks, it comes from going to events, talking to bulls. And there's a lot of things like the broken hot wife needs to be talked about, you know, um, go into that a little bit more for me. There are a lot of broken hot wives.

There are a lot of hot wives that are carrying baggage, whether it's from a current relationship or a past relationship or from just been growing up in the church, you know, because they're the church drives you in one direction. They tell you, you know, be a good wife, only want to be with your husband. Don't think about being with other guys and, you know, all that stuff where a lot of hot wives grew up that way and they are battling good versus evil, you know, instead of trying to find the balance is what I said, find the balance.

And just because I say broken, I don't mean like broken, permanently broken. I mean, yeah. Not like irreparable. Exactly. Just damaged. Because the journey you're all on, all the hot wives are on a journey and you need to be repaired from some emotional baggage that's being carried. That's not being talked about. Right. Well, it's funny. Cause I actually just did an, a podcast with Pope from cock my life and he and I discussed the shame wheel. We discussed shame, leads to fear, leads to fetishization. Sorry, I can't say that word right now. Yes. There's a lot of syllables there. Exactly.

And then then and then it just keeps leading you back around until eventually you either quit doing the the thing or you realized that you can you're the one putting yourself on this wheel whether it was outside influences that gave it to you, you're the one putting yourself on this wheel whether it was outside influences that gave it to you you're the one who's putting yourself on that wheel and you've got to forgive yourself you got to be like it's okay it's okay to want things and it's okay to be interested in things that are not your marriage. As long as the consent is there.

So I really appreciate the fact that you're educating people on that, because that's something that I really do also try to put that message out. So how long have you been podcasting? I think we started the same time last January, 24. Oh yeah. That's exactly when I started. Yeah. Yeah. January, 2024. I had, I've, I've been a bull strictly dating hot wives for about 11 years. And it came from, because I used to go to parties. I hosted parties. And I was hosting it just for, because I'm a voyeur. That's the real reason I am a voyeur and I wanted to watch live sex.

So I would host parties, but at one of the parties, um, I was playing with a wife and I realized, well, he started kissing her while I was still playing with her. And I got super hard, super excited. And I realized that that was what really turned me on. Out of all my sexual escapades, it was watching a wife be kissed and held by her husband. And so I just started like gravitating to couples and gravitating.

And then the more I did it, the more I found myself just having conversations and realizing, wow, you go through this too, you know, or a husband may say, you know, man, sometimes I just feel disrespected it's like like, dude, I know. It's part of the process. Exactly. So you date, right? You date these hot, hot wives, like you form a commitment. I do. I, I, I've had long lasting relationships. I don't, I don't like transactional sex. I think you did a episode about that, about several. And so it's just, it's a complete turnoff for me.

I, I, if I'm going to have sex with someone, I've already made up in my mind that if this works out, yes, I would like it again so i don't look to like if i saw you at splash mocha you said you guys are going to go if i saw you there and our chemistry was really good i would want to and i travel you know i do i travel to see how wives i will spend a weekend with them I just came back from Tennessee you know spending the weekend so um I'm currently in a relationship oh nice so so what is it that you get from that relationship because obviously like someone who's in marriage, they get somebody who is a partner and does things with them throughout their life and other things like that.

But you are kind of, um, a coach signing up. I am. I'm coaching them on how to better their marriage marriage how to strengthen it and that's what like last last night i i was with our wife and her husband and we were in the bed and i like when the husband is involved he doesn't always have to participate but i like when he his energy is there. So we were all laying on the bed. I was playing with her. He was kissing her, I believe. And we had gone for a while. And I thought, okay, she needs a break. And she just curled up. And she leaned into him. And just, it was the sexiest thing to me.

To me, watching a woman, as soon as I'm done with her, or if we're in a mission or whatever, watching her gravitate to her husband, and watching him just embrace her and take her back in. That's why I do it. That is the number one reason why I do it because that is the sexiest thing to me in the world. Right. The reclaiming. You like that? Yes. I love that. I talk about it all the time. I talk about reclaiming and I like it when it's done like right there, right at that moment.

I've had a five-year relationship where I would, as soon as I'm done playing with her, he would just take her right there. And to me, that's hot. Absolutely. Absolutely. So the thing, every single relationship is different, obviously. Yes. And every single relationship has its own set rule ground rules. What are the ground rules that you use when you get into these relationships with these couples? Honesty. That's number one. I'm, I be honest with your intentions, be honest with what you want from me. And then I like an open line of communication. I'm in a three-way chat with a couple.

And I like that he enjoys me flirting with her in the chat. But I like that open line of communication because I don't ever want the husband to feel like I'm trying to take her or, you know, I'm trying to turn her or I'm trying to replace him. So it's honesty and an open line of communication. That's like my ground roofs right there. Gotcha.

So,cha so yeah i mean one of the big things is um one of the big things i struggle with obviously is um i don't really need the connection so i struggle with what it would look like if i did actually have connection because there are several bulls that I play with or have played with that I have really good like communication and friendship with and I'm wondering am I making those connections is that what it looks like or does it look like If's if you're talking there there's two kind of there's two kind of bulls there's a guy that just wants to come over and fuck you and leave right and then there's the guy who talks to you throughout the day days prior to and then stays a little while to make sure that you guys are good.

If the husband is home, if there's anything that you want to talk about, and then to make sure that he checks in the next day. How's everything going? I had a great time last night. Um, that's the, that's me. That's, I'm that guy. Okay. You're probably getting it and not realizing it yeah because here's the problem that i mean i don't reach out to communicate i am very bad about that because you're a bad texter i am here if you need me like it happens with family, it happens with my, like my siblings, my like the I think the only person I text on the regular on the out is my husband.

And that's because of the fact that like, we have to communicate during the day. And so for me, when it comes to actually reaching out, um, it's a lot about my childhood trauma. It's a lot about the fact that you, you don't ever want to be a burden to someone. Okay. And by reaching out to them, I am now adding a responsibility to their plate. I'm putting something on their plate where they now have to nurture me in this way. And so, I mean, it's messed up. I'll give it to you.

It's hard because you're going to end up with guys who see you for, hey, she just wants me to come over and tune her up and then go. And that I I'll be frank with you. I don't mind that. I don't mind that at all because here's the thing. My, my emotional bandwidth, I spend a lot of my emotional bandwidth on my husband because he's the, like, he's literally the only relationship I ever had that lasted longer than three weeks. Okay. And we've been together 26 years now. Is it because you're stopping them? It could be. It could be.

Um, the problem is, is that, um, when I was dating before I met my husband, um, I discovered something where if someone bored me, like I was bored or they had irritated me, it would give me the ick and I would not be able to overcome it. And I would be like, bye. And my husband is the only person who kept me engaged. And as I've gotten older, as I've gotten wiser, I've gotten better able to control my ick factor. But at the same time, it's, I feel very nurtured in my relationship. So I don't seek a lot of nurturing it in the relationship. Do you expect there to be nurturing? Oh, no.

I mean, I'm not husband's relationship. Let's say a relationship with a bull. Yeah, no, I don't expect a bull to be nurturing me, to be feeding me. We have fun. We get silly. We laugh. We have outrageous sex. I make terrible messes. We giggle.

And then I'm okay with them going I'm okay with them leaving I'm okay with them texting me hey I got home and then I'm like okay cool I'll see you soon and that being the extent of it like you know you are are good it will be to, like, attract someone like me because I I mean, I don't give the random like good morning, sweetheart, or, you know, my good morning is I had a dream about you last night. I just can't wait to tell you about it. OK. And that I, I do that because I want you to think about me and have the urge to continue a line of communication. Right. And here's the thing.

If you engage me intellectually, I am also very there. Okay. I'm also very engageable i'm i like i can i give good conversation i give good flirt when i'm engaged in that manner but i am very broken from my childhood and so i need you to cue me in on what we're doing, because otherwise I won't. I won't figure it out on my own. OK. So I'm told there are not a lot of bulls who go down this path of investing the time. And that's what I'm really trying to change that. I am.

I talk to so many guys and it's unfortunate whether they call themselves a bull, a single gentleman, single man, you're a guy. If you're out playing with someone's wife, I don't think it should just be, hey, I'm going to go fuck this guy's wife and I'll see you in a couple hours. You know, I I look at it. I mean, there's a I want it to be a I want it to be a long drawn out for play right where? Where you want seduction. Yeah. I want to ask, are your panties wet?

You know, midday, you know, I want to send you a meme that says, wow, I want to lick that, you know, it, there aren't a lot of guys like that. So I'm, I am trying to change that. Hey man, there's an advantage to the, to the long drawn out because the sex is better. You, you can have better sex than what you're having. If you find that communicator to get you going longer, you'll, and I know you're squirter i I know you will wet the bed. Don't look at me like that. You will be wet long before he even touches you. And the goal really is, I'll tell you a story.

There was a play date set up and someone brought their wife for me. There was a long, drawn out, two hour, just flirtatious type of thing. And then by the time we got on the bed and I actually touched her, she was already squirting. So that's the kind of, that's the kind of, that's why I do it. Cause I don't, I want, I want to just touch you and say, okay, that's the power of seven. Power of seven compels you.

So like, okay, I get, I get what you're talking about because i have in the past obviously um i really do think of myself as a fantasy fulfillment slut so if you give me the fantasy if you give me the thought that you're having if you give if you i can build a world around it it's what i do in erotica so when i'm writing erotica it it very much builds i build a whole world around this thing and that has actually been in the past something i was really really good at and really really enjoyed doing taking someone's fantasy and making it real life and giving it real depth.

It's not just like, and then she was on the bed and then I took her doggy style. It's like, okay, no, I need a little bit more. Where did we come from before we got to the room? That's the kind of stuff that really gets me going. I enjoy playing in people's fantasies and making them bigger, stronger, more tasty. Yeah. Can you, can you incorporate that through text? I can. I have in the past. Okay. And that, it'll make you a better texter for one, but it will also, I think if you engage with, we're trainable. Let me just put that on the record. We, we are still trainable.

If you let the guy know, like I had someone say to me, Seven, tell me what you want. Tell me what to do. And she said it a couple of times. And she's strong. Just as a female, I'd look up to her and I'm like, you are a strong-willed woman, which I'm impressed by. But for her to say, okay, tell me what you want me to do. And then I had to ask her, and I confronted her. Well, not confronted, but I said, hey, look, I know you've asked me to do this, and I've been kind of hesitant because I know how strong you are just in your day-to-day with your husband. I see that. I see you at work.

Are you okay, like, submitting to me? Are you okay, like submitting to me? Are you okay with me telling you how I want you to moan or how I want you to talk to me? And she says, yeah. And so we're trainable. We are. See, that's the thing that a lot of, that's a, a myth that a lot of men don't really seem to understand is that it's not the women who are quiet and demure that are truly submissive. Right. The women who have to be in control all the time. Yep. Making decisions, running this, doing this, the strong, confident women.

Those are the ones who are most likely to be like, just tell me what you want. I will give it to you and it will make me that much hotter. I'm one of those people. I am totally in my life running it like a fucking boss. But you tell me what you want in the bedroom and I am like, Oh, let the waters run. There you go. I learned that secret. I did. It's one of those things though. It's the same thing that when, when a man is out there and he's being a CEO and he's being a boss, he likes to come home and not have to make any fucking decisions. Yeah.

He likes you to say to him, Oh, I'm sorry that you're so tired. Get down there and rub my feet. You know, he wants you to take control so that he doesn't have to for 15 minutes. Yeah. And it's a beautiful fucking thing. But it's also something that you when you delve into the psyche, when you delve into the brain, which is the most erogenous organ we have, when you delve into it and you start to think about, well, what is it that makes all this work? You can start to see the patterns emerge and you can start to see who the people are and what their kink is kind of, um, overcoming.

Everyone has baggage and everyone has, I think in the lifestyle there, there's that one thing that, and I, I try and do this as I get deeper into a relationship, find out, okay, what really turns you on? What do you, do you like getting choked? You like having your hair pulled? You like getting peed on? You know, whatever. No, whatever. Oh, look. I'm sorry, this checklist wasn't for me, right? But I had these conversations that were sometimes they will say, you know, I really want to try this. And that it comes back from like trust.

The more the more you trust me, that I will take care of you, I won't harm you.

And sexually sexually we can do basically whatever you want that's when the real kinks come out of i really like it when you choke me i do or like i'll say i i my big turn on is when i'm playing with a woman and she plays with herself and i have to say that and and one of the wives that I was playing with she's like no I don't touch myself in front of my husband you know and I'm like okay well let's let's try this and as time went on and this is why I like repeat performances as time went on And we had a session where she hadn't done it at all, and she let go.

She went to whatever place she wanted to go, and she did it. And she squirted all over the place. And when we were done, she said, I didn't think I could do that. And I said, well, it's because you trusted me and you relax your whole body and your whole mind. And you went to a place where you felt safe. And sometimes that's what we have to do. Absolutely. And that's what you're doing when you're built, when you're building these relationships, you're building that intimacy. Yes. You're building that safe space. Yes. To be nonjudgmental. Oh, definitely. No.

And so that's like, I really appreciate. I really appreciate that aspect of it. Believe me when I tell you. But my big thing is that I spend a lot of my time making sure that the one opinion that I really care about, the one opinion that I really am cognizant of is my husband's. Yeah. And as long as my husband is on board with my behavior, my actions, my whatever, I'm okay. Like everybody else, um, they get a say, but they don't get to control me if that makes sense. And that's kind of one of those things that I have, um, had to develop and it comes with age.

It is, it is where you're, yes, it is when your fuck buck bank is all cashed out. You have no fucks left to give. And you're just like, I have to make sure that I am staying in line with my morals and in line with my, with what I truly believe. And that's what my husband gives me. He gives me the backstops.

He gives me the boundaries so that when I'm out there in the life and I'm doing things that are whatever the fuck they are um he and i have this touchstone this place to come back to and i love that i love that we have that does the boundaries ever shift they have um i i could I see the evolving part of most relationships. So how does yours shift? When we first started, um, he would never, I could never go and be alone with someone.

and now that has evolved as long as i am as long as he's met them and as long as he's been present in the past i can do a one-on-one meetup without him but i do need to send him like videos or pictures or something so that he's included in it because ultimately, whatever it is that I'm doing, whatever it is that I'm out there playing around at, my main thing is he and I are the root of where it's coming from. I am not out there to fuck Joe. I am out there to let Joe play in our marriage.

You know, it's about this relationship, which is why I think that that's another thing that's kind of holding me back from truly getting intimate with someone else is because of the fact that my husband, he, I need him to know in all things. Thank you.

from truly getting intimate with someone else is because of the fact that my husband he i need him to know in all things he is my priority you you can still do that though and i i realized that i realized that and as i grow and as i learn as and as i get more Like having conversations with, conversations with Poe and Ozzy from Cuck My Life really brought into focus what these relationships that their wives had built outside of their marriage had given to them. Yeah. And I'm starting to see that there is more to, there's more to those relationships than just delicious sex, okay?

And I need, that's why I'm on this journey of discovery, because I'm 50 years old, but I'm still not done being or creating the person I'm going to be. Right. Because we're always evolving, whether we like it or not well you should you should I do I really I really do want this evolution I really do want to learn more and get better but at my I think the things that are holding me back are fear of what, of damaging my husband or damaging my relationship.

And I've got to keep communicating with my husband to figure out where he is on my journey, because whether I like it or not, my journey has, like, I have a co-ilot in this journey. And between the two of us, we have to figure out the best way forward. So whether or not I understand intimacy or I understand relationships, it doesn't really matter if he's like, I don't need that. You know what I mean? Yeah.

Have you talked about like being in like a long-term relationshipterm relationship have you you and your husband have you sat down and say hey you know what if this came along how would you feel or I don't think he's ever had that thought because he's met me he knows that you're not going to be able to pull it off he knows he knows that my track record like he was fine with me he's absolutely fine with me finding connection um we actually had a whole big long discussion when i recently met somebody who was really ticking a lot of boxes for me. Okay. And I was really like jazzed about it.

And then all of a sudden I did a podcast post-toidal. I'd spent hours fucking this guy. And I got on and I did a podcast and I was still dopamine and oxytocin. Right. Yeah. And it kind of came off that I was cheating on my husband in that capacity because that wasn't part of our relationship before. And my husband was like, yeah, I mean, I listened to the podcast and it gave me pause but then I know you and he like he had half a minute of like and then he went yeah but it's her so yeah and we had and believe me he came home and we discussed the whole thing and we went deep into it.

And we talked about what about that upset him and what about that gave him like joy. What about that, you know, what it did for me. And we broke it all down. And he said, there were things about it that upset me. The fact that I wasn't because it was kind of the first time I'd really been with him and I didn't do the same things that I would normally do, like videos and stuff for my husband. Oh, yeah. And so my husband felt like he wasn't part of it. Got it. And so he and I went back over the rules and he was very specific. This is how I'm involved. This is how I'm there.

Even when I'm not there. This is how you know that at the end of the day, we are we. And he is an additive. So it took some time. It like a couple hours for us to knock down all of the things that had been triggered by this oxytocin dump that I did verbally out loud and then put out in the public world. Was it before you talked to your husband about it? Um, yeah, no, I mean, literally it was post coital I'm recording and then I'm putting out the podcast and the podcast came out, I think the very next day. And so we hadn't really had a Thank you.

And then I'm putting out the podcast and the podcast came out, I think, the very next day. And so we hadn't really had a chance to go through and break it all down. And then he heard the podcast and then he went. Well, OK, I haven't listened to it. So tell me the name of it so I can go back and listen to it. Crap. I don't know.

Put hold on it is uh sorry i know it it was oh um you know what i don't know it might have been tale of two it might have been tale of two sundays no that wasn't it but i don't know but i'll figure it out and i'll tell you which one it was but i'd like to hear that yeah because the thing is is that i kind of went in on a bunch of and after that it took me on a journey of figuring out what connection was and what that looked like and did I had had I found it actually that's probably the name of it um the date okay um connection versus fantasy I think no I didn't get to that one I saw that one because I was i listened to like four of them uh and then i didn't get to listen to the last one but let me ask when how did it go for the guy it was great i mean did you don't see him anymore no i saw him again i saw him again he he's um i have a new schedule and his schedule sort of meets up with my schedule so he can come and spend hours with me where like i mean literally it'll be he'll get there we'll do some fucking we'll jump in the hot tub we'll do some more fucking we'll sit down and watch tv yeah I remember that yeah and like that's the kind of thing that we're like he's i've he's got time to dedicate to that kind of thing and then my husband will come home and we'll do some you know more fucking and more chatting and it's good i mean it's a good date but the thing is that the first time he came over, he came over and he spent like five hours here.

And then he went home before my husband got here. And then I went on and did this podcast and it sounded like I was a teenage girl and I was writing hearts in my diary. it was that good, huh? Well, yeah, because it was, I mean, it really, it was post-coital.

It was five hours of just fun, and he and I had been texting before that, and we'd kind of come up with some scenarios, and we'd done some legwork to it and we were both very excited about this whole thing and then when it all came to fruition i started talking about it and how i was so excited post or so excited pre and then during and then after yeah and then that was kind of something that my head my husband really hadn't seen from me okay and he was like Thank you. And then that was kind of something that my head, my husband really hadn't seen from me. Okay.

And he was like, let's take a minute and figure out where we are. Because that's the most important thing at the end of the day. Yeah. Yeah. But so, and I mean, that's kind of one of those things that you're working to build though, is that pre and that during and that post so that there's a level of excitement that is woven through the fabric of your meats. Right. Before the sex comes there, I'd like for there to be a build up. And I like, not that I have to live up to anything, but I like for her to know that, okay, this is going to be fun.

This isn't just going to be some guy coming over, pounding me away, and then just leaving. You want the anticipation. Yeah. Yeah. And I love the fact that I can check in the day after and say, did you have any quakes, you know, thinking about last night? Because it, I think the hot wife lifestyle should be more than just the sex part. I think it should be more. Well, I think mental should be included into it. You should be able to befriend someone. I said it today, a lot of my best experiences happen outside of the bed.

They've been in a car on the ride where I'm driving, she's in the passenger seat, her husband's in the back know, or her husband's driving and we're in the backseat, you know, on our way somewhere. That's that's a good, pretty good buildup, you know, right, including the husband in the chat and asking him, hey, would you like to see me just bent her over in front of you? You know, and she's thinking about it like, whoa, he just said that, you know, and one of the biggest things that I like doing when we're out, I like to introduce them as my girlfriend. And I was my girlfriend and her husband.

And it's, it's from what I hear and I, I, yeah, I get a big kick out of it. But from what I hear, like the wives are, I've gotten a few texts. Oh, that was so hot. You introduced me as your girlfriend and my husband, you know, that it's more than sex. You, I want them to feel good. I want, I want it. I want you to carry it through the day. And then if possible, the next day and the third day, if we can get that far, that far. Because we need that. We have regular jobs I'm dealing with.

And like you said, I'm dealing with women who are in charge at work, who have real jobs and real responsibilities. Some of them have kids and definitely a husband. Some may have dogs you know so there's a lot of time that's that they have where if i can just make them feel good along the way you know prior to or a day after it's like let me just take a minute and just think about him you know right that's take them out of that take them out of their day- day to day and put them back into that fantasy world. Yeah. Back into that. That juicy anticipation that through the week. Exactly.

So, yeah, I mean, I can really appreciate that. I can appreciate the fact that you are trying to build desire yeah and you're trying to build need and want and make it so that it's a culmination when you actually see them yes and the unfortunate part it's not for everyone because Because there are a lot of wives that are, will not take the time out, because they don't want, some don't want to offend their husbands. Some really don't have the time. And they just say, hey, I'll, when I need you, I'll call you. Right.

It's you have, well, I have to, I, I think I've done a pretty good job of finding who needs what and how much of me. Yeah. It's because some people, some people look at it like, look at it like a Zumba class. It's something I can slot into my schedule. Yes. That's cardiovascular and fun. Yes. And then I go home and shower. And you tell your husband all about it. Yeah. I mean, most of the time my husband's there to see it. But, you know, but we go back and we revisit it for sure. I had a couple that I met 2019 in New Orleans, Nadia in New Orleans.

And I played with her briefly, maybe half an hour at the event. I saw her again last year for the first time. And she says, you know, and we had stayed in contact. We, we would text randomly. Um, but she says, and her husband, he's the one that told me as we were walking up the elevator, he says, you know, we use that experience with you for a good three years.

That, that moment that you took out to be with my wife wife we played on that energy for a good three years nice just of what happened and that's what i'm shooting for that because not not for me though not to to build my ego because it means that i helped a couple come together during sex. And that's what's really most important. Exactly. I say this a lot. There is something about a commonality of language. and that experience gave them something that gave them a reference point to create commonality of language so that they are not so that they don't have to wonder, is this what you meant?

They know they were both there. They both experienced it. They can talk about that and how what that that did to them and how, what it did to her made him feel. And then, and then they are able to interchange that energy and create that commonality of language and build that fantasy from that base. Yes. And it becomes what you want it to be.

Because when you're with your husband some people call it fiddle pillow talk i call it fuck talk because when you're when you're with him and you're being intimate and he may have his hand around your throat and bringing up hey wouldn't you have liked to have him do this you know or wasn't it hot it hot? And because he's got his hand around your neck, and because he was there with you watching, and he's replaying it in his head to you. A lot of women say, okay, see, that's what turns me on about it, that it excites you. Oh, yeah, no, absolutely.

Whoever, like, there about, um, there's an old saying in BDSM, whoever controls the arousal controls the scene. So when you're building that arousal and you're built and you're watching it build in the other person and it's feeding your arousal. It's that, that whole philosophy to me is just brilliant because even if somebody's not in control of the scene, when you're feeding off one another's energy, when you're building that, that connection and that need and that want together, it's it's really hot. It's it's a post hot life after effect.

You're you had a good session and then you take it with you. You and your husband, you take it with you and you ride as long as you want or as long as you can. Exactly. You can build it to be whatever you want it to be. You can take that fantasy on a vacation with you, you know, or you can mentally take yourself to the beach with her and include that moment. Right. Exactly. Anyway, that was, um, I, I really appreciate that aspect, um, exactly. That was, I really appreciate that aspect of the, of the connection.

I really appreciate that aspect of that build, that anticipation, that delayed gratification, because I don't do a lot of delayed gratification in my world. I am too busy for that. It's like, I need to get the thing that I need to get. And then I go on. But I think that there's something to be said about honing in on that ache and letting that ache build a little bit, build a bit more. It's like edging. That's exactly what it is. It's mentally edging, yes. And I feel like that would build you to something more explosive. The problem is that I might be a little bit too impatient.

I got to start. You're the one that would call me over and say, here's seven. Let's just get it on and then get out. And there's no extra. But that's where you miss out of, though, because that that extra can get you through tomorrow. Right. It can get you through like I've had women that said, hey, you know, today was hell. But last night kept my mind occupied to get me through today. See, that's another something. That's another thing that I like. I spend so much time compartmentalizing. I put things in their boxes and then so that I can focus on this thing.

And I know that all sorts of women tell you about how they're great multitaskers. I am not. I am one of those people who's like, I'm going to put that in a box until I can deal with it. But right now I need to deal with this. And then as soon as this is dealt with, then I can deal with this. But, and I'm one of those people who, when I get an email in, I got to go take care of it right now because if I set it aside, I will forget about it. And because of that, and then it will wake me up at three o'clock in the morning. That's not cool either.

So because of the fact that I don't know if I can mentally break those habits, but I'd like to try. I'd like to experiment with that. Your first step is trying. Your first step is saying, OK, I'm going to do this today. Or let's say when you go to Splash, have you guys decided if you're going to go? Actually, me and my husband were supposed to talk about that tonight. We were going to take a friend. Okay. And we were waiting on his schedule to be cleared to make sure he was going to be able to go before we bought the tickets.

But I'm afraid that we're going to miss out on the tickets if we don't get started right away but my why i ask is let's say you go to splash mocha and you meet someone maybe somebody who's kind of local or someone who you just click with even if they're not local use it as like a test and say hey you know what let me see if I can use this guy to practice doing the thing that I'm not good at doing right because you're going to meet you're going to or even at like your next party your next event that you go to just find someone that you connected with and say, okay, let me try with you. Yeah.

And maybe I could open some, maybe I could open some doors that I haven't really experimented with before. And you have to use someone to get it started.

And you just have to know where do I find that person right and yeah how do I alter the every fiber of my being just kidding well and that's the other part of it force yourself because you you do if you want to let's say a relationship you do have to I got to send this text but at some point it's got to be oh I can't wait to text him again you know and I and it's a mental thing where you think about okay I'm gonna text him in two hours and I'm gonna say this and then because i want to get his response and if he with a really good response you don't have to text right away but you could maybe a few hours later and go and just it really comes to kind of plan to our ego i was yeah i was just thinking about you and i just wanted you to know before this moment passed and see what the response is right exactly yeah because I mean it's there's something about playing just play be playful yeah and the problem is um when you do a lot of fantas, when you do a lot of fantasizing, when you do a lot of, um, you're putting a lot of pressure on a moment because you're kind of building into this whole thing, a preconceived notion and reality is nothing but a fantasy crusher sometimes you know what I mean okay so the thing is is that a lot of times what I'm trying for is something very organic I'm trying for something that it's just really authentic.

And I feel like putting too much pressure on the pre-fantasy, putting too much pressure on, sometimes that puts too much pressure on the moment and it never quite lives up to the expectations that you have. And I think another part of me really doesn't want to ruin the moment with my illusions of how it was supposed to go. Does that ever come into play for you? Yes. It does.

Because I can have i have i i fuck women before i actually fuck them i do i mentally fuck them i mentally take myself through the process of okay i'm gonna go and we're gonna do this and i'm gonna do this and we're gonna do this and i get that out of the way because that is my fantasy of what I want to happen. Now, when I get there, if that doesn't happen, it's because she went a different route and I have to be okay with, okay, that's what she wanted. That's what turned her on. Let's do that. Has it ever been a disappointment? Not many. Not many.

See, I think there's a fundamental difference between females and males when it comes to this. Yes. No, don't say fundamental, say big. Yeah, I mean, I think there's a big difference because i mean we're all grown growing up on the cinderella the rapunzel the like white knight thing okay and so when our when we fantasize there's a lot of times that nobody could fucking live up to the expectations that we were fed as children. You are absolutely right. So for me, I like the spontaneity of it. I like the, I had no expectations.

I had no, I had nothing riding on this going any differently than it did. And that to me is sort of a relief. But the thing is, is that when you start these conversations and you talk about these things, there's, first of all, we're not in person, right? Because this is via via text. So there's a tonal shift that may be going on where you're saying something and you're saying it like, I can't wait to fuck you. And I'm hearing it. I can't wait to fuck you. And there's a fundamental difference there. There is.

And I'm feeling primal energy and you're feeling romantic you know oh we're gonna build this slow this is like a bonfire that we're gonna start from a campfire so i understand but the thing is is that because of the fact that language is very subjective. Tone is super subjective. a lot of my fear is that i am going to create sand castles out of you will and i and the disappointment is just i don't want i don't want any interaction i have to be a disappointment and so that's kind of something that I'm trying to figure out the balance of. And it's nice to know that you have had those.

It's a two-way street where as a woman, the hot wife, your needs, and this is just me giving my impression as a bull, your needs should come first. Your orgasm should be first. Your feelings and all of the extra fantasizing, yours should be like priority. The problem is a lot of guys don't think like that. Exactly. Yeah. They don't think, okay, what does she need from me? And that should be first. If I come to your house and your husband sits there and watch us play, what do you need me to do for you to have a good time? And that's, that has to be answered like all the time.

And we as women have to know how to vocalize what it is that we need. Well, not just that, but you have to say it in a guy's way yeah we we have two different languages i i it's it's true you you say one thing and we hear something else we say one thing you hear something else i i've told wives this a lot you have to talk to him different because he's a man He doesn't understand your feelings and your emotion and your think pattern. Because we think different. We think with our dicks. And we are, hey, let's go do this. I'm going to get out of the way. Short version, that's it.

Where the woman wants to say, well, hold on a second, because I want my hair pulled along the way here. So can you incorporate that? And you have to start telling him, okay, that your plan sounds good, but can we, can you get down there and lick it for a little bit? And you just have to say it in a different way than what you're saying it like in your head.

guys will get the hand yeah because i mean there's something like i need you to finger me um i know this is i what i need is i need you to stick your fingers in curl them up and press against my g-spot that's what i need from you i call it the hook that's what i'm looking for that come hither motion i've gotten to the point where i will literally stop everything and say to a guy this is what i need from you yeah because i have learned that that is that is truly the way to get the thing that's going to give you the experience that you're hoping for.

And my thing is, is that a lot of times they're hoping for that. They're hoping that they have, because just because you spit on it and rubbed it with your thumb a little bit does not mean you primed the fountain. You want me to squirt? You're going to have to do things my way. And because of the fact that I kind of have this reputation for being a squirter, there's a lot of expectation there that I will, I will dazzle you like the Bellagio fountain. That's, that's a, that's a guy. And if you want that, I'm more than willing to give it to you, but you're going to have to do some legwork.

And that's what I've come to realize, that in order to not be disappointing in this atmosphere, that I have to speak up and say, okay, this is how the thing works. I understand that it's a mystery machine. Some are not as experienced with fountains as others. Exactly. That's where the text comes from. There's physics involved. This is where the pregame starts. Because you want to say, and part of the text is like fact-finding, informational. And that's why I do it.

Prior to meeting, like, not every every girl is into anal so you have to find a way to say you know can i lick that or you know something like that in order to find out like what do you like you know what where are your limits yeah tell me and And it's okay. It's okay to have that conversation. It is. Because here's the thing you're asking someone to have sex and consent is a huge part of that so finding out where your borders of consent lay yes is vitally important to making sure that the whole thing goes according to plan and there is no trauma left over when you're gone.

Because one of the huge things that people don't seem to understand is that when you say yes with your mouth, but you don't mean it from within, it's going to cause you trauma. Don't just say yes because somebody is expecting you to say yes. Say yes because you want to say yes. That's where consent starts. You have to know.

But if you're not figuring out what's yes and what's no with somebody before you go into it, there is a moment where you could be causing some kind of, if they agree to do something they didn't really want to do because it's in the moment, then all of a sudden there's bad feelings. That's not fair to anybody, especially not to themselves because then they have to live with that. It's, and that's why we, well, I try and do, I will text, I will do a good amount of text. I like to do a phone call. Um, sometimes even a video chat.

Um, if like, if I'm at Splash Mocha or an event where I just meet you, I'm going to be able to meet you at Splash Mocha or an event where I just meet you, I, I'm not in a rush to go play. Let's sit down and let's, you know, let's talk just a little bit and see if where the energy is first. Can I ask a dumb question about that? There's no dumb questions when it's sort of totally off topic, but okay. So you're at Splash Mocha. Yeah. Thank you. Can I ask a dumb question about that? There's no dumb questions when it's coming. Yeah, it's sort of totally off topic, but okay.

So you're at Splash Mocha. Yeah. What is your thought process on drinking? I don't. As a guy, I don't. Okay. My dick will not work. I would be the first to say it. My shit will, nah, it will be big and fat and long and limp. So me personally, no. I do notice a lot of, well, husbands too, but a lot of wives will drink prior to plan. I see. And that's part of my problem with going to these events type thing is that there's a limit to how, like, if you legally can't consent. Oh, I've gone through that traffic cone quite a few times. I mean, I had a party.

I was in California, and I had a party, and the husband wanted me to play with his wife. She was laying on one of the beds. He came and got me, and I went in there. She was inebriated, just basically passed out. And he's encouraging me. I encourage me. He's like i encourage me he's like come on seven you know you always like fucking her she likes fucking you i'm like dude we can't do this and because i was a host i went to all the guys hey so-and-so's off limits she's been drinking i do not want you to touch her don't't care what her husband says.

And then I've, I've seen even at other events where a husband, a husband will push it more, which I find is unfair. I just, yeah, that's just. And I mean, I understand needing a little social lubrication to get over some anxiety but good yeah but there's got to be a limit to it because i recently went to a i went to a hotel takeover and i mean stumbling drunk yeah and like and i'm literally like i i don't feel safe in that environment. I don't feel safe with people who are stumbling just because of the fact that it for me, there's a lot of baggage there. Yeah, it's not safe. I like.

I like for you to remember it tomorrow. Hell yeah. I do. Hell yeah. And I've, I've seen women that. How are you going to do the reclaiming if there's no memory of it? Well, it's the husband is his get off and that's all it really turns into. But I can't, I don't like doing, like if I see you've had too many of the drink, I'll just walk by myself like you. You won't have to tell me to leave. I'll just turn around and go away because it's not fair. It's not for it's not fun. Exactly. It's not. I want you to know that. Wow, that was OK. You know, instead of we did what?

You you know right if if i have to help you recreate the memory tomorrow yeah yeah then that was basically me doing what i wanted to do yeah me taking advantage of you and that exactly yeah well i have really appreciated you coming on and giving me your time. This was super awesome. I really appreciate it. For inviting me. You're very welcome. And if you ever want me to do your podcast, you just let me know. I am going to be contacting you. I'm actually, I did the broken hot wife and I think I'm going to do a a follow up on it. So I will definitely call you and get some conversation on that.

Because it's right up your alley. It's right there. Yeah. It's right for that conversation. Yeah, I will. When I finished, I scripted. And I will call you and say, hey, why don't you jump on with me? I would love that. Perfect. All right. Well, I really appreciate you doing this with me and I will, I really just thank you. You're welcome. I do want to run into you somewhere. I'll let you know if we're going to splash for sure. We should know like in the next day or so. All right. I will definitely do that. All right. Thanks a lot. It was good. You're welcome. All right. Thank you. somewhere.

I'll let you know if we're going to splash for sure. We should know like in the next day or so. All right. I will definitely do that. All right. Thanks a lot. It was good. You're welcome. All right. I would like to take a minute to remind you to head over to privateadventures.net. Privateadventures.net is a site for adults where they sell toys and they sell things that will take you on an adventure of privacy.

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