Second Date in a Week for new Bull

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pinup, the Hot Wife Life podcast. On today's podcast, I want to talk to you about the date I had on Saturday night. On Saturday night, we had another date with Josh because we're still in the interview process for a bowl. We want to make sure that the chemistry is right and that we have good rapport. So we decided on a second date in the same week. The second date in the same week is one of those tests.

It's one of those things that you do to see if you and this person are creating the same scenario every time you get together, or if you're finding new avenues to explore. I can tell you that the second date went very, very well. Um, he came over and we started with a blowjob because literally I do think that in situations men are faced with awkward, possibly awkward encounters where the husband is there and there might be recording going on that sometimes they can get all up in their head.

But I do find that being throat deep on a woman tends to bring their focus right in line with where I need it to be. I started with a blowjob and I worked to get things down, but it didn't happen. It was too wide for my throat, but I gave it as much as I could. We, I mean, he is very well endowed in both directions, girth and length. And so it was kind of exciting to see what all would happen with that. I don't always realize it, but some guys have a hard time getting all of their equipment inside.

And there were a couple of positions where it was a real struggle for him to get all of himself inside of me. But there are other positions that it worked like gangbusters. I think the most interesting position that we tried this time was me on top and me on top tends to be, okay, first of all, let's get it out of the way. I'm a big girl and that's a lot of effort. Okay. It's a lot of hip shaking. It's a lot of finding the right position for the upper half of your body. It's a lot of huffing and puffing doing, you know, the work that is normally done by the man.

Being a pillow princess, I can lay back and have them do all the work if I want. And you know, you know what their dick is wet. I think they're happy. Okay. I'm not a dead fish. I do move around and that's just a joke, but I have many times been just like, okay, it's me. Pillow Princess International, natural environment. Have at me, do what you want to do. That's all anyone can ask, right? So being on top is one of those things where there's a lot of shaking, a lot of wiggling, a lot of driving down to basically try and break him because that's my go-to.

That's my, where we're going to, I'm going to get mine. I'm going to get this thing from you and you're going, not going to be able to stop me. But he was able to withstand it. He withstood my best moves. He did not break. He did not come for me. Instead, he rolled me over. I mean, my gripping pussy going at any rate I want to go and he just didn't come. It was awe-inspiring. But of course my husband recorded the whole thing and I happened to see some playback. Okay.

This is my, this is why I don't look at video because all I'm seeing is dimples and ripples and everybody else is seeing the actual activity. I, I hope everyone else is seeing the activity. It's all very vain, self-flagellation. It's very narcissistic, but at the same time, whatever, we're not going to get into that. It's highly critical self-evaluation. And I know I'm not supposed to listen to those voices in my head, which is why I don't watch the videos. So I really hope that it doesn't play that way for other people, that they don't look at the video and see what I see.

But the recording of it, my husband has really, really enjoyed it because both he and I are making a great deal of noise, a great deal of grunting, a great deal of, oh, you know, deep, you know, that deep fuck. Oh, how deep can I go apparently it sounded awesome my husband really really enjoys it because of the mirror neuron things all the time with your cock and it's all real time and he's remembering how it felt to be inside of me and you know he's imagining the pleasure while watching that pleasure from the other angle.

It's all very cerebral and primal and it's happening in the deepest part of our animal brain. So it's another layer of pleasure beyond that, which we can actually feel. It's emotional pleasure. It's brain sensor trigger pleasure. If any of you ladies are on the fence about going because you're not sure how your husband or your stag or whatever it is, is going to react to it, remember something. If they are asking for it, they are interested in exploring it.

If you are scared and you need to look them in the eye and tell them, if you change your mind, you have to tell me, because if you don't tell me and I go through with this, you're not allowed to hate me for it. Okay. It's one of those conversations that once the conversation has started, once the imagination starts getting going, once it's all starting to trip through your brain and all of the pleasure sensors are being activated, those fantasy pleasure centers are being activated. All of a sudden it becomes something attainable. It becomes stratospheric.

My husband has oftentimes told me that he's almost exploded in his pants because of something that I'm doing or something that me or my partner are doing together. He, if I say something out loud, he will instantly get like really close to coming. When I know that my husband says that he's on board, I know that I didn't believe him for a very long time because I know that one of his triggers for a very long time was being cheated on. So I reached, researched and I learned and I did things that were like, why is this a fantasy?

And because of that fact, I'm actually able to break it down logically and have these conversations with my husband and really start to believe him when he says words out loud in English that I can understand. I was able to actually grasp onto him watching me slide down that thick, long dick was in the same part, was in the same ballpark as me sliding down his own cock. For him, it's a different kind of pleasure, but the same pleasure coin. It's a different side of it, but it's all still right there because of the fact that he can watch it and relive it.

It gives him that opportunity to find that pleasure again and again and again. It's something where, I don't know, it works for us and it's awesome. Needless to say, Josh and I ended up having a very good time. He had to go to a party for like a football game. So it ended, it ended up working out just absolutely perfect. He stayed for like an hour and a half. We had a gusher of a good time. There was a lot of pleasure being had all the way around the room. And it gave my husband and I the opportunity to reclaim and revisit.

He got to talk about where he wants my bull to come on me next time, what parts of my body he wants painted and what I'm supposed to tell him to get him to paint me because that's a big part of the reclamation is talking about the next time and what it is that I want and what it is I want you to come home to me looking like and this is that I want you to come home to me tasting like And it's, it is, yeah, it's hot. It's hot as fuck. And I'm extraordinarily grateful to get to share this with him. And I'm a little bit grateful to get to share it with you too. Okay. That's a lie.

I'm very grateful to get to share this with you as well. And I'm really glad you're here to listen to it. Okay. So I get a lot of questions, um, about, I know we're just getting into the life and we don't really know where to start. Should we start on the apps? Should we go to a bar? what should we do? I'm going to be very frank with you. What works in my area may not work in your area. What works in my relationship may not work in your relationship.

But I can tell you that one way that you should always get started is through investigation, thorough investigation, researching, because the only way you're going to stay safe is if you do some research, some background, find some ways into the life that are going to give you something, give you some sort of security. I know that I tout a lot FetLife and I know that I speak about it all the time, but FetLife is the one place where I have been able to cultivate a kink life and content, share that content, communicate with people. I know there are certain layers to FetLife.

Like for example, FetLife is free. If you log into FetLife, you create a profile, you create a password and maybe throw up a picture, whatever. There's no set standard. There's no set rules. Each individual that you come across will have rules about how, who they interact with on there. So for that reason, and that reason alone, having some sort of picture might be a good start. if you can't really put your face on the thing, then you need to adjust.

You have to have some sort of picture, something like a picture of, I don't know, a curve of your hip or a picture of your foot, whatever it is, it's going to be something to your audience. You don't have to do it. You don't have to do anything. There's no set requirement. Okay. That being said, FetLife is the one place where I've been able to explore all sorts of kinks. I've been able to connect with groups that are interested in all sorts of things. It's allowed my husband and I to create a very active social life. My bull Josh, he's one of the ones I found through FET.

My friend Jeff, I found him through FET. All these parties that I go to, I found them on FET. Now there are people who do some other apps, which is freaking awesome. And if those work for you in your area, area I'm all about it whatever it is that opens you up to a community that you can then explore and do it safely I'm able to get feedback from other people and you can build a rapport and start to trust I'm in I love it whatever it is whatever it is that you need to do.

I find that living online just for a minute before you take the step into real life can give you space to really think about what it is, what this would actually be. You can have a conversation about like what most of these apps do is come with messaging and some of them come with where you have to pay to message or whatever. FetLife isn't like that. FetLife is like everything is free unless you want to see videos. And then you, if you want to see the videos, you have to support FetLife. In this instance, you don't have to pay to message.

If you start a conversation with someone, you've started a conversation with someone who's called themselves a bull and you read through their profile and they seem like a good fit for you and you start having the conversation about, I imagine what it would feel like for you to take me on a bed while my husband is across the room watching, unable to participate, just having to watch, having to watch you take into me, becoming one with me. That sound I make in the back of my throat when he fills me, I'm going to make that sound for you. And then of course, me and my husband share profiles.

So he gets to read all the horrible and all the wonderful and all the crazy that I say to other people. That's going to lead me to my next segment, which today I'm going to talk to you about messaging. I'm going to talk to you guys about messaging and I'm going to, all right, so messaging is important and we're going to get into it and we're going to get a little deep. But in the scenario, when you're starting out in the lifestyle, this is the thing where you're looking for your community and you're looking for your place to go.

You're looking for your place I'll see you, you're going to find a community on one of the apps and you need to explore it a little while on the apps before necessarily going out into the world. You've got to make sure you listen. Nothing is a hundred percent. Nothing is foolproof and nothing is 100% safe ever. Do some research, talk to other people who are their friends. You're like, you know, message them, say, Hey, I see your friends with so-and-so. What's your opinion? You know, like, see what it is. See what's going on out there.

Uh, if you see if they are connecting with someone and then do public stuff, do public stuff first. I'm sorry. I don't want to make this as, I want to make this as safe as possible for this as, I want to make this as safe as possible for everyone. And I want to make this, uh, I want to make my point, but it sounds a little ABC afterschool special right now. Um, but the only way to stay safe is to put in the legwork. And even that's not a hundred percent. And I'm never going to lie to you about that.

There's no such thing as a hundred percent in this, but you can get some layers of comfort, some layers of anxiety relief if you do that research and you find out as much as you can. And then, I mean, there's a reason that my husband and I started doing the parties, because it gave me the opportunity at a party with a crowd of people to sample the goods, explore the person, the personality, the conversation, and see if there was chemistry. See if there was anything there that could lead to something fun, lead to something long-term, lead to something regularly scheduled.

I cannot tell you how many times I have window shopped at the play party and come away with a Jeff or a Josh or a Jay or, you know, somebody who I can meet up with again and have fun with. It's been incredible. And if this is the path that you're on, sometimes you're never going to be completely safe and you're never going to be completely anxiety free. But when you get as close as you can possibly be to that, to that state, then you just need to jump. You just need to take the step and figure out if this is what, if this is everything it's cracked up to be. But embrace your feelings.

If something feels off, make sure you're paying attention because we all have that little radar inside of us that says, this is not safe. So, you know, pay attention. Is it a little voice or is it a loud shouting voice? Is it a red flag or is it merely a flag in the distance we can't tell the color of. I'm just saying there are two sides to this coin and sometimes you have to dance on the edge. Find your way. That's the only advice I really have. Okay, guys, pay attention. Pay attention real hard right now, because I'm going to teach you something about messaging.

If you're the type of person that sends somebody that message, this is hey, with two whys, and expect to be some sort call. Um, I'm going to tell you, I'm not on Tinder for a reason. Um, I'm not into two in the morning booty calls. I am a wife and a mother and I have a full-time job and I have a podcast and I have a lot of things going on in my actual life. So somebody who's like hitting me up at midnight to see if he can get his dick wet is really not something that's going to fit into the lifestyle I'm currently leading.

But that's what that message, when you send a message, Hey, it's going to sound every bit like you up booty call. Okay. I don't expect you to be Shakespeare, but I do expect you to have something that you want to talk about, something that you'd like to get into. And if the only thing you want to get into I'll see you to have something that you want to talk about, something that you'd like to get into. And if the only thing you want to get into is my pussy, then that's what you're going to say. You're going to get the very briefest thank you response back from me. Okay.

If you want to explore who I am or where I'm going or possible avenues for us to meet, we're going to start a conversation. I'm going to message back, either myself or my husband is going to message you back with something, with content, with connection. But I can't always see into the message what you're trying to convey. If you're not sure what you're trying to convey, if somebody is responding to you and you're not getting very much response back, think about opening up what it is that you're looking for and see if they're searching for something similar.

Because I have a lot of content on my FetLife profile and I am not going to lie to you about that. I have a lot of content on my Fat Life profile. If you want to know my Fat Life profile name, all you have to do is send me an email or DM me on my Instagram and I'll give it to you. My email, pineapplepinuppod at gmail.com or hit me up at the Insta, which is, you'll see that on the description of the show. I don't have a problem with the fact that I have a lot of content and I don't have a problem speaking to people about the content that's up there.

My issue really comes down to some of the messages that I've gotten in the past, the way, and the ways that I've, I've responded to them. I'm not always the kindest person when you come at me in a weird way. So I got a message out of the blue from a guy and he literally said, you should come over to my house. And my response was, why do you have a pit and a bottle of lotion that you're trying to test out? For me, when you come across with something like that, like just an action with absolutely no intention behind it. It comes off very true crime serial killer vibe.

So if you have some intent behind it, like I am looking for a couple that wants to share their wife. I want to be somebody who fucks a woman in front of her husband. I find that very hot. All of a sudden, I understand your intention. And then when you say, I would love to meet up with you, I can say, let's find a party that we can both attend. That's how that works. If I know your intention, my intention is fairly clear because I put it right out there in my profile, but I'm not the one messaging you. You're the one messaging me.

So if you read my profile and you want to talk to me or you saw my content and you want to talk to me, then a little bit of intention as to who you are and what you're looking for goes a long way to make me feel comfortable that we are both on a path, that we are both heading towards something. And I can get more detailed in what it is that my husband and I are searching for. I can talk about fantasies that we've created. I can talk about places we want to go, places we want to explore, maybe trips we're going to be taking.

So then that way we can start to find out if any of this is going to cross over and create opportunity for me to come over to your house and not end up in a pit with a bottle of lotion. The truth is true crime is all the rage right now. And there is a lot of focus on the dangers of the world. And while you yourself may not have any dangerous Thank you. to focus on the dangers of the world. And while you yourself may not have any dangerous intent, sometimes that's not what we as women hear, because we as women are the reason that true crime is the rage.

We as women have been living our entire life looking for, looking out for pitfalls that could put us into danger. It's what we as women do. Um, and I know that that I'm not making any sort of statement about that. I'm literally just saying we hear things when we don't understand your intention. We fill in the blanks because we don't understand your intention. And if we don't understand your intention, we're going to give you an intention and it's probably going to be nefarious. So state your state, what it is that you're actually looking for and let's see if we can make opportunities happen.

But if you are somebody who texts, Hey, it's probably going to get a high back. It's, I'm not going to engage a conversation with somebody who doesn't give me something to engage with. And I don't know about other people. Maybe hay works with other people, but I just know from my standpoint, what I'm looking for would be an opportunity to explore who it is that you are, what it is that you're looking for, and how it is I can incorporate what you're looking for into my own fantasies.

How I can build those, build what you've started into something that could include maybe both of us or all three of us. There's no telling this. It's exciting to think about though. And that's all I'm looking for is something to spark, something to spark an imagination, something to spark an opportunity. So bear that in mind when you sit down to send a message. But there is something I need to kind of point out. Don't, if you don't sound like a serial killer and you don't sound like a Tinder profile, you might actually get somewhere, okay?

And it's really important because a lot of what people are doing, especially in these apps, is trying to find someone that they can bring into an already established relationship. Because you're going to be a third wheel, are you going to be a comfortable third wheel and make it a tricycle? Or are you going to be an awkward third wheel that sort of hangs out to the side and doesn't really do very much to keep the balance of the situation going? That's what we're trying to figure out. Will you fit in to something that is pre-existing? So think about that when you go out there to type a message.

Thank you so much for joining me today on the Pineapple Pinup, the Hot Wife Life podcast. I may not have, I may not say this enough. I am so grateful that you listen. If you have any questions, comments, content you'd like to hear more about, content you'd like to share, hit me up at pineapplepinuppod at gmail.com or you can check out my Insta. It's in the description of this. My Insta handle is in the description of the show. I am so grateful that you're listening and I hope you enjoyed it.