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In addition to going over the party I discuss being a brat.
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welcome to the pineapple pinup the hot wave life podcast on today's podcast i'm going to talk about a party that i went to and then i'm going to talk about a bra so we went to a party on over the weekend on saturday and we took my friend scoot with us and she's getting more into the play party scene she's getting more into the active role at the parties she's bringing sexy costumes she's playing with people she's not fully immersed she's not you know doing everybody there but she's getting more into it and we went to this last party and it was unbeknownst to me really i mean i think it was i think i did kind of know it but i didn't like focus on it it was a two-day party because they had a party during the Super Bowl.
And I had told somebody that I was going there. And I think they thought that I was going both days, but I was really only going Saturday. And so we went on Saturday and the vibe was weird. The vibe was a little off. There was one particular gentleman there that was doing a lot of frantic things, doing a lot of frantic energy things. And his shtick, if you will, was to wander around telling everybody it was his first time. And not just his first time at a party, his first time ever. And he used this shtick on at least three women at the party.
And at some point, it's no longer your first time And I don't know that it's, I'm not yucking anybody's yum, but that is, it's odd to throw that kind of energy around. I'm just saying. And the reason that I say that is not because of the fact that I'm judging or yucking anybody's yum or doing anything like that. That's not what I'm doing here. What I'm doing here is I'm trying to figure out how one gentleman can basically take over the energy of the party with his franticness, with his ADD energy.
It was really, really weird and a little bit off-putting that he kept putting people in the position to nurture him. Because if you, I'm not going to say that these parties are free of nurture.
They're not not believe me when i say that they're not free of nurture there's a lot of people who are there to take people in hand and cuddle and do all that good stuff but it's a lot of pressure to put on a woman to make to teach you how to fuck in the middle of a fucking fuck party okay to teach you when you're in and have you experience something while you're not even sure how to use a condom there are times and there are places for that and it for me it just caused this weird vibe throughout the party his frantic energy his constantly talking about his first time and like and I know that this was probably ever present on his mind, but it did a lot to grind the party vibe to a minute.
It did a lot to take the party vibe from this group atmosphere and make it very much about him, make it very much about his journey. And there was so many people involved, like he was telling his story and then he had some girl wandering around trying to get people to play with him. And it was not the vibe that I'm looking for when I go to these parties. The vibe I'm looking for is fun and not frantic. It's passion and lust.
it's not anxiety and anticipation well a little bit of anticipation come on it's fucking but like there was so much energy put into this one individual that a lot of other people just kind of got shifted their focus got shifted away now that does not mean that I did not have a good time because trust me I was in a room full of cock and I was taking it down and as both two holes okay I'm not gonna say as many holes as I could because I could have taken it more but I didn't because like I said I don't do that at a party.
Anyway this party actually met a couple of really awesome, one of whom actually wrote me afterwards and was like, I don't usually enjoy fuck parties. I went because I wanted to kind of meet you and you delivered. You were funny and sexy and you kept the vibe completely chill. And that is 100% what I'm actually there to do. What I'm there to do is I am there to have fun. I'm there to fuck. And I'm there to have it be sexy, good times. And as far as I'm concerned, I was able to accomplish that in one corner of the room.
When I left that corner of the room, that's when things kept getting weird and kept getting like overwhelmed by one particular person and their story and Scoot she really only played with one person and of course the person that she played with was my friend Jeff because Jeff is an amazing an amazing play partner no matter where no matter when no matter what he's an amazing play partner he and I played a couple of times as well and i was like i'm so glad you're here because that is the vibe that i'm going that he is the vibe that i'm going for he's fun and funny and sexy and we have fun funny sexy times and i met a friend of his there who was she she's like, I've heard so much about you.
I'm like, okay, who are you? And she had to explain to me who she was. And then once I knew who she was, I was like, oh, hey, yeah. And it's funny when you have guys that you know that talk about you to women, and then those women feel like they know you and that there's a connection there.
And I'm not entirely 100% sure how they know who I am when they see me, but I'm fucking, like I'm always excited to meet women that share an understanding, share the less competitive edge, the desire to be at a party, to be a group, to be a collaboration, to be different paints that people are painting with.
I'm not, I have learned through the years and believe me, I struggle sometimes, but when you show up at a party and your goal is to have a good time, to fuck and enjoy fucking and play with these guys and be fucked that kind of energy does not translate into every single person's vocabulary okay it doesn't translate like but when you meet somebody who's truly there with the interpret with the intention with the like desire to go and just fuck until my pussy feels like it's gonna fall apart which I haven't gotten there yet but I'd love to um actually that's not true I did after Splash Splash I was like okay you know we've we've done some working out I can feel those muscles for a while but the fact is is that when you go to these parties with that intention when you go to these parties to have that intention of being thoroughly worked out and have just let every piece of you be immersed in this sexual sexy time it is a certain kind of attitude that certain that women come with and that when i when i witness that in somebody, when I see it in somebody else, because we don't often get to watch one another play.
We don't. That's not at all what happens. We are so usually surrounded by men that we can't see past the cock in our nose. I haven't yet had somebody stick their cock in my nose, but I have had somebody push their cock so far into my face that he was like basically molesting me with his balls. But anyway, not the point, not this time. Anyway, so he, we, when you find women like that, when you find women that are very into the scene and want to play and don't have animosity towards other women in a jealousy way and don't have, who aren't critical. It's really cool. It's really fun.
It's really awesome. And there was another lady there who I love to play with. Oh my God, I love her so much. I've talked about her before. Her name is V. I love her. And she was there. And at one point, um, I was, somebody asked me if they could eat me out. And I was like, okay, sure.
That it's not my favorite thing okay it's just not I don't you have to be incredibly you have to be incredibly attentive to what I'm going through to make it interesting for me you have to understand where because apparently according to my husband my clit likes to migrate so for For me, know where it is I know where I know like if it shifts at all I know exactly where it went you know what I mean and so having somebody go down on me is a little bit like it's it's a lot of hope but not a lot of expectation so anyway so he's going down on me and this woman that I love is giving a blowjob right next to me and she leans back from her blowjob and she looks up at the guy and she goes are you gonna come for me are you gonna come for me are you gonna give it to me and then she goes back to gagging on his dick and I am so incredibly entranced by this scene I I kid you not, I am entranced.
And he keeps making the noise like he's gonna give it to her. And he's like, yeah, keep going. And I'm like, give it to her. My God, give it to her. She's such a good little cum slut. You should give that to her. She's earned that cum. Give her that cum. Cum for her. She is so good at this. You should just give it to her.
And she leans back and she looks over at me and she goes oh my god I fucking love you and I said anytime you need a hype man baby because it was and I mean seriously in those moments when you're finding that thing that's making everybody in the room really incredibly hot I love well I love glomming onto it apparently i love putting it into a i love doing the verbal i love that and it was so much fun to just watch everybody in the room sort of like glance between us and like continue to watch her listening to me and it was like it was hot it was really fucking hot and then um a gentleman that i have played with many times walks over to me and he goes, because the other guy, the other gentleman stopped attempting to eat me out because I was so focused on this other thing that was going on.
But this gentleman that I've played with many times, he comes over and he goes, you did not enjoy that, your face. And I was like, I don't have a poker face. You have to really fucking pay attention to me so that, because I will tell you, I will tell you what's working and i will tell you what's not and the reason that i will tell you these things is because i don't have a fucking poker face i am always constantly showing what i'm feeling right here on this billboard of a face i love the fact that he wanted to try and i love the fact that he was into it.
But he did not at any point glance up and see if anything was working for me. He didn't alter his pace. He didn't alter his, went in, la. And that was it. And I don't have a problem letting people try. But the one thing about going down on a woman, you have to pay attention.
you have to pay attention to see if anything you're doing is working occasionally he hit something and he was actually if he had been paying attention would have known let's go there but again I wanted it to be better than it was but at the same time I had a really great time at the party I really did there was one particular guy who I was giving a blowjob to and I was deep throating him. And I was deep throating him in a way that I was like, I have conquered it. I have conquered this deke. And he spent the entire time staring at me like I was some sort of anomaly, some sort of weirdo.
And I'm okay with that. I'm okay with letting my freak flag fly in any capacity that my freak flag wants to come out. And if I want to go in there and do crazy accents and do, you know, characters who are proud of themselves for sucking a dick, that's what I'm going to do. Now, there was a gentleman there who tried to pull the same shit he always tries to pull. But I made it very, very clear wasn't going to play his game. And he got the hint this time. There's a gentleman who is in the past stuck.
He will come over where I'm playing and just flop his dick in front of me and expect me to suck his dick. And I won't do it because he is extraordinarily pushy and extraordinarily, like, he'll set it right on your lips and be like suck this and I'm like no not happening and I push him away I do it all the time because the guy first of all he doesn't learn where his where his boundaries are and I understand that he's not going to learn so I but I also don't want to necessarily play in his realm play in his his arena, play in his la-la land. So that was one of those things that the vibe was off.
It was, this guy hadn't been there in a very long time. So when I saw him, I was like, oh man, this guy. And then this other guy was wandering around like he could not sit still.
Like he was on, like he was amped and because of the fact that he had so much nervous energy because as he may have mentioned a time or two it was his first time and he's going around and trying to convince women to take his virginity at this party in the most awkward of ways and I know that being a virgin is awkward but it was it it kind of sucked focus and then of course when we first got there they were playing monster movies on the on the tv creepy monster movies that in no way shape or form ever gave anyone a boner like and caused lady parts to shrivel up because what the fuck are we watching you know and for me that's a that's a thing that's what you do and the there's one particular gentleman who kind of um has glommed on to the regular host and become the secondary guy and he has a lot of a lot of things to prove when he's in these situations and he tends to overcompensate for the fact that he's got things to prove and i don't necessarily read that energy well i don't because anybody who's trying too hard doesn't that energy sort of like irritates me and again i don't judge him for his position I don't judge him for the fact that he's just that energy doesn't mesh well with my energy especially in those moments when I'm trying to make so that was part of the vibe that was part of the reason why the vibe didn't feel like the vibe should have felt but vibe or no vibe I found a way power through my friends power through Thank you.
have felt. But vibe or no vibe, I found a way. Power through, my friends. Power through. I have continued to correspond with the couple that sent the email that I ended season two with. The email where he was soaking. Anyway, I've continued to email with them and correspond. And recently, we have gotten kind of into this brat play thing. And I want to talk about being a brat for a little bit. I want to talk about what that means. What is it that you're trying to accomplish when you're acting like a brat? And I will be honest with you, a lot. You're trying to accomplish so many, many things.
Not the least of which is you want to, you want to be called on it. You want to be called on it. I mean, I guess every brat is different and every reason for bratting, it could possibly be different, but let's, let's focus up here. When I am a brat, when I want to push your boundaries, when I want to push you over an edge, it is because I want something that mimics something I'll see you next time. your boundaries, when I want to push you over an edge, it is because I want something that mimics something dangerous. I want to force a reaction out of you.
And forcing a reaction out of someone is cornering an animal, okay? You never know what's going to come back at you. It's a dangerous game, okay? But at the same time, played with the right partner can be extraordinarily fun. Played with the right partner can be the difference between and, I mean, it's huge. The difference is, okay, so a brat wants to get under your skin, wants to get you a little irritated, wants to get you a little revved up.
And in doing so, hopefully that will create a little angst in you, a little passion, a little fire, a little need to control and stop the bratting for me. Now, mind you, a lot of people brat for a lot of different reasons. But for me, that edge, that place that I want i want you to go primal place that i don't know if you're gonna want to punish me or you're going to want to fuck the sass out of me i'm not 100 sure what i'm after even because a lot of bratting is about pushing it's about pushing those boundaries. It's about finding new places to go.
Being a brat is for me about pushing you to the point where you have to do something. It is chaos theory in sex form. It is finding that last grain of sand that is going to cause something to shift. And it is, is it going to shift into sexy or is it going to shift into punishment? And mind you, all of it is sexy and all of it is, but is it, that's where we have to make sure that we're not over stimulating and over pushing because we certainly don't want it to snap into violence.
That's not at all what we're trying to accomplish what we're trying to accomplish and mind you this is from my standpoint not anyone else's i'm sure there are people out there who are trying to get it a little bit more violent than i am i'm trying to get to a point where you feel the need to gag me where you feel the need to shove something in my mouth to shut me the fuck up or maybe bend me over and slap my ass a little bit I'm looking for just a little bit of that's too far giving me boundaries and that's what any brat is trying to do find the boundaries find the boundaries of where you go from she's funny and cute to this brat this brat and take her in your hand i know that violence against women is a is a terrible terrible thing and i'm never recommending or suggesting or anything like that okay violence against women is wrong but being a brat and in a safe environment where a sexy punishment is a possibility is for me not violence against women.
That is consensual, mutual. And here's the thing. My cuck likes to brat. My cuck likes to brat because he knows that I'm getting to the point where I am going to correct that, where I am going to either move into sexy time or move into punishment time. And he got his ass slapped pretty good when he went full brat on me the other day. For us, it was fun and sexy and elevated what it was we were doing? Being a brat is by definition an innocent thing to do, okay? When we push things too far, of course, that's not great. But being a brat and causing reaction, that's what we want.
It's what anybody who ever has pulled a brat, who has ever pulled a brat in any context is trying to do.'re trying to cause a reaction they're trying to change the status quo they're trying to change the homeostasis that's why they brat okay so if that's the if that's what we're aiming for do we want you to just instantly change over no no we want you no, no. We want you to play along. Okay. We want you to let the brat get truly, truly irritating. We want when you give us a command and we disobey it for there to be consequences for that.
For example, my friend who I was emailing with was told by her husband not to play with her pussy because she was dripping wet and really crazed by all of the back and forth between not only her and I, but he and her. And she was going a little nuts and she really needed it. And she disobeyed him. And I told her flat out that I really hoped that he punished her for it.
Whether it was forcing extra orgasms on her to the point where she was incoherent or whether it was a spanking something like that now I again as long as we are playing safe sane and consensually will not yuck anyone else's yum and I beg of you not to yuck mine because I am not promoting violence against women that That is not at all what I am. I, what I am exploring is kinks. What I am exploring is things that make me hot. I am not in any way, shape or form trying to advocate beating women. That is not what I'm here for. What I'm here for is pain, pleasure line.
That when you heat somebody's bottom up to the point that it causes all of the blood to flow down to their to their pussy or their cock and balls and you bring all that heat down there and you bring all that blood and it starts to pulse and it starts to pulse in all of the areas down there and all of the sudden it is like magic it is another layer of arousal that cannot be without that extra extraneous blood flow okay a spanking is a kink for a reason because in that in that context in that sexy context it will actually bring all of that blood flow down to all the places that you want blood flow and will actually create a reaction naturally.
It is, I don't even understand why we're not spanking each other all the time. I mean, seriously, in a good spanking with the performative elements, the explaining what you did wrong, apologizing for what you did wrong, making amends for what you did wrong, having somebody tell you how much punishment you're going to get for the things that you did wrong in order to make amends for the things that you did wrong. Oh my God, I mean, come on, tell me that's not fucking hot. Having somebody stand there and explain to you what you did wrong and how you are going to make that right.
How we are going to alleviate you of your guilt for the things that you've done poorly. I'm sorry, but that to me, I don't understand why, but it's hot, it's hot to me. It's one of those things that I truly enjoy when there are consequences for my behavior in those moments when I choose willingly, noticeably to be that brat. So what is it that maybe before your brat comes out to play, we explain to each other, we have the conversation of what our brat's intentions are. Because like I said, a brat is the impetus of chaos theory. Okay.
Chaos theory, for those of you who don't know what that is, is the theory of when a system goes from being to becoming. Okay. So imagine that you're dropping one grain of sand at a time on a pile of sand. And chaos theory is that one grain of sand that is going to land and cause an avalanche to either the left or the right, the front or the back. It's going to cause We'll be the back. It's going to cause a shift, a movement, something to disassemble the homeostasis. That is chaos theory, sort of.
I am not a professor in any way, shape, or form, and I may have some of that that wrong but it is that moment when things go from being to becoming to shifting to changing to creating chaos but even in its chaos it is a pattern okay so when you're trying to maybe when you're trying to create that chaos maybe explaining to your partner before everything gets started where you want the chaos to take you Thank you.
maybe when you're trying to create that chaos maybe explaining to your partner before everything gets started where you want the chaos to take you whether and give them options because there's chaos there's a pattern to the chaos okay so if you're looking for a spanking you can be honest about that if you're looking for some primal sexy to just get me to shut up whatever like just explain some of the outcomes you would really like to see when your brat comes out because as me and my husband may have mentioned having these conversations is fucking insanely hot and you can maybe get two three sessions out of one bratting I'm not trying to say that everybody's brat is same, but if you have a brat on your hands, if you have a brat who wants to act out and is obviously looking for a reaction from you, find out what that reaction they're looking for is.
Okay. So apparently in order for you to understand the context of my listener being a brat I have to kind of give you some backstory now I don't think that I was doing nearly as much as she thinks I was doing but she was getting a lot of instruction from both sides okay she was getting a lot of instruction from her husband and then she was getting instruction from me and in that there was it was narrowly defining what she was getting a lot of instruction from her husband. And then she was getting instruction from me. And in that there was it was narrowly defining what she was allowed to do.
And because it was narrowly defining what she was allowed to do, she began to do all the things that make a brat a brat. She was pouting, she was threatening to disobey, she was doing all the things because that's kind of the push and pull of the brat right that's kind of the push and pull of that desire that what we're trying to accomplish with being a brat we want to obey but at the same time we want what we are being denied And it is so fun to watch that frustration manifest itself in such a blatantly adorable way.
For me, for me, like, and mind you, this is, this is something I'm, I love being a brat. I love being a brat and I love watching other people be brats. I think brats are seriously one of the cutest ways to create fun, funny energy. I think I spend a lot of time in my endeavors being a brat, doing that, because it is phenomenally fun.
It is so much fun to be in that mindset, to be that push and pull, to not just let somebody dominate you and go and get along, it is pushback and it is, but usually it's done with such humor and such poetic pouting that you can't help but giggle and smile at the complete irreverence. And there's something so charming about a brat. There's something so charming about somebody who wants to play and wants to say things like no and disobey a little bit so that there's a little bit of forced correction. There's a little bit of, I don't want to do it your way. I want to do it my way.
It's to me, one of the purest forms of just playful energy with kernels of truth. Because every brat is telling you something that they want or they don't want. Every brat is giving you something to work with. Every brat is giving you some sort of energy that you can come back to and you can either push them to their limits or you can give into their tantrums or you can, there's all sorts of ways that you can deal with a brat and not any single one is not going to be appreciated because for a brat, it's a lot about that give and take.
It's a lot about that pushing boundaries and getting them pushed back on you. It's a lot about defining what our roles are going to be. And you can choose any role you fucking want, because that's the beauty. Being a brat is 100% about staking some identity, staking some place within yourself that you're allowed to be not as submissive as someone wants you to be, or not as submissive as the scene would seem to allow. Like my, one of my dear friends, Scoot, she has often remarked on the, on my brat. She's often remarked on, well, of course you're a brat.
And it's one of her favorite things to say about me because she's not wrong. I mean, I love bratty behavior. I love being in this position where I can push everybody's buttons and be silly and be funny and make jokes and be a little bit irreverent and not do exactly as I'm told because I'm feeling spicy and that's good. Having a woman who's feeling herself, having a woman who, having anybody who's feeling themselves and saying what they, you know, and being quirky and funny about it is, I think it just adds to the excitement. Thank you so much for joining me today on the podcast.
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