I think it was a FMF threeway

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pinup, the Hot Wife Life podcast. On today's podcast, I take a journey through my mind. I don't I talk a little bit about a three way we had and go off on so many tangents. It's hard to even believe that there was sex involved. I talk about I got a letter from a listener and I go through that. And of course I have more to say. And then I talk about podcast, um, role-playing with toys. So tune in, strap in. It's going to be an adventure. After Andrea and I recorded last week's episode, we invited over a mutual friend of ours.

And that mutual friend of ours came over and we decided that we were going to play. And it was one of those impromptu things that my husband and I like to throw together so that we can do like content and stuff. So we of course ask everybody, are you comfortable with being filmed? Are you comfortable with that film being posted? And for the most part, everybody is. And occasionally you'll get somebody who doesn't want their face. So in this particular case, we got somebody who didn't want his face, um, posted.

So my husband and I, um, we asked the questions so that we can do the thing that we want to do, which is get content. And it's actually not even that we want content. My husband wants to see and relive these moments. He happens to share them with others because he enjoys that as the next phase. But before he puts them online, he savors them for a while. He keeps them as his own private thing for a minute because he wants to Thank you. savors them for a while. He keeps them as his own private thing for a minute because he wants to own it, make it his.

I, it, there's a lot of psychology behind it, but he waits a little bit before he shares it with other people. And there are some videos of me that we'll never see, that no one else will ever see except my husband. That is because those are his. And I personally, I don't have a lot of skin in the game because as I may have mentioned I'm not a big one for watching myself I'm not a big one for watching my body on screen and that's because when I see video of myself, I see the flesh. I see the wobble. I see the stretch marks. I see, I don't see the bliss.

I don't see the body that is made for fucking. I don't see the body that has been honed into a creator of pleasure. I don't see a body that is meant to be shared and explored, which is because of my perceptions. Okay. I can watch anybody else on film and not have a problem with it and not be judgmental of it, unless of course they're being very performative and then I'm just like, what is that noise? But for the most part, I don't have a lot of judgments with other videos. And that's just because of the fact that there's no ego attached to that. There's no, um, id really.

So because of that, I, I understand my limitations and I don't explore them. But this is what I want to say to all of the women out there. You don't see what they're seeing. when a man is ready to fuck you and you're scared that you're not the right size, let me just tell you, size is not the factor. The factor is that you don't need to worry about what he sees when he looks at you. You need to worry about the pleasure that he is going to get from you. You need not, and you don't even need to really worry about that because I got to tell you, ladies, it's probably going to happen for him.

Maybe you worry about your pleasure. Maybe you worry about, am I going to get off? How do I need him to position me so that I can get from A to Z? Because guys are very simple tools, okay? There is enough, usually enough pressure, enough grip, enough movement that they can create to get themselves to a point where they can get off. Guys are not hard to convince when it comes to orgasms. What's hard for a man is knowing that he has done the same thing for you. they like knowing that they can get you off.

So in order to maximize the amount of pleasure that everybody is having, ladies, I know this is going to sound foreign, but we need to focus on ourselves. We need to focus on all of those spots that we like to have manipulated in just the right way to make us come like rivers, to make us come and come, come to the point where our body is like, okay, I surrender. That's what we need to focus on because it's not your body size. It is not your, um, it's not your, uh, what you wore to the event. It's not how you did your makeup. It's not how you walked into the room. It's literally 100%.

Are you there to give and receive as much pleasure as possible? If that's your goal, then that's what you're going to find. And I got to tell you something. You know what men really, really want to hear? Right there. Right there. Oh my God, right there. Oh my God. Just like that right there. Uh, yes. More. Yes. Uh, uh, that's it. They want you to give them a little bit of guidance because I don't know if you know this, but most of our terrain is on, is invisible. It's not something that they're going to be able to see unless they have a speculum.

And God knows if gynecology is your kink, good on you. But guys don't necessarily have a roadmap to the terrain. And when you tell them where the terrain is and what you like and, oh yeah, slap my ass. All of that is pleasure personified. It's vocalized. It is pleasure that begets more pleasure it turns the animal inside him on and he's like, yes, I must give this. And then he does. It is amazing because when they follow your fucking directions and they lead you to the promised land, which is not always promised to us women.

When you tell them what they need to give you to get you to the point where you are going to come, they're ever so grateful. And they are ever so eager. Because almost more important than a man's orgasm is the fact that he can get a woman off. That's what makes a man a man. In some circles. But that's literally the ability to give as much pleasure as they're getting is one of the things that drives people, okay? To be the guy that can do the thing that made her make that noise, that sound, that made her body squeeze down and grip and choke, and all of that is bragging rights.

All of that is more pleasurable than an orgasm because an orgasm can be ruined. An orgasm can absolutely be ruined for a guy. It can be half-hearted. It can be too quick. And then it's just disappointing. It can be something where it happens and they didn't want it to happen and it is such a disappointment. Okay, so here we are back at square one. So we invited this gentleman over. Now, I'm going to throw something out there that a lot of guys really want and you need to think about what it is you're asking for, okay?

So we had this night after Andrea and I recorded where we invited her friend over and he came. Now, you're a man that has two vaginas that are asking to be pleasured and not just pleasured pleasured well pleasured to the point where they're both exhausted and there's just one cock. And they can do some things themselves. Okay. Absolutely. But yours is the only cock in the room. The only thing that is going to bring body quaking pleasure to two women. Remember that before you ask for a threesome. Okay.

Remember that it is all going to be on your shoulders, but also don't think about it too much because if you think about it too much, you're going to psych yourself out and you're not going to be able to perform anyway. So, but there's a lot to consider. The fact that there are two women there that are eager, they're wet, they're open, they're ready. One of them sits in the sidelines and waits, maybe get some touches and feels in, but you are going to have to be preoccupied with the first vagina in order to get to the second one. Now in this particular instance, it was kind of worth it.

It was a fun time. It was great. Um, it was a lot of give a little, um, get a little. It was not, um, it wasn't like parties because parties, I mean, you want to talk about a time when it is all just hedonistic, Caligula style, just bodies and fucking and touching. And it's a party is so intense. And mind you, there are times when the party is like, mediocre at best. But the number of cocks and the number of vaginas and the back and forth and the playing and the watching and the, it's so much fun. So it's, it's a good time.

And I'm not saying that I didn't have a good time in the threesome, but it was much more focused on one person or two people at a time getting pleasure than it was three people getting pleasure. Because as we may have mentioned, willing to play the bi role, not, I don't have a problem going down on a woman, but it's not something that's going to electrify me. Andrea and I were both like, I need penetration. I need dick. Because it's true. There are certain things that as I get older, I look at and I realize I'm performing so that man will want to fuck me more.

And that's not really, um, a goal of mine. Um, Occasionally I will, um, go down on a woman because it is the path that's before me. Um, but it's not something I'm seeking out early per se. Sometimes it feeds the moment. Sometimes it feeds the energy, and sometimes it makes everything a little squishy. But it's not something that I seek out because it's not the primary thing that I'm interested in. It's not the thing that I'm looking for. It's not the pleasure I want to provide. I get more from a blowjob than I do from going down on a woman. And that's just because of the fact that I'm me.

There is absolutely no judgment here because just like there's no judgment from you, there's no judgment from me if that is your thing, because honestly, we need to know inside ourselves what our things are and why we do the things that we do. But because of the fact that I am flexible that way doesn't mean it's what I'm seeking. So so we had this so they were there and we of course fucked and of course my husband got it on film and he got a lot of things on film that he really enjoyed and he was sitting in the cuck chair, which is a term I found out. Oh, I love that one. I love it so much.

But anyway, so he was in the cock chair and he was filming and he was watching and everything was really fun. And we had a really, really good time. And I had a great time recording with Andrea and playing with Andrea. And the whole thing was just a really great night. Now comes the next part. Now comes the part where that gentleman reaches out to me. And because of the fact that I know that he and Andrea have an understanding, especially with regard to playing bear, um i reach out to her to make sure our relationship is squared up because I think that's important.

If you're playing in this lifestyle, you need to make sure that the people you know that you are trying to create friendship with are not going to be injured in some way by something you're doing. And that's my main goal. I just don't want to injure anyone. So because of that, I'm respectful of the fact that while they're not together, I've known them as a unit more than I've known them individually. So while they may not be dating or something like that, I want to at least be respectful of the fact that I know she plays with him fairly exclusively quite a bit.

And so I want to make sure that I am not injuring anything because in this lifestyle, Dick is easy to find. But friends are a treasure. Friends that you can talk to and tell things to and be open and honest and go, is this, have you ever had something like this happen to you? That's invaluable. And I'm really sorry, ladies, but we need it. We need to be able to cultivate these friendships so that we can talk about the things that we're going through to make sure that what we're doing, what we're feeling, what we need somebody to download with. Now, I download a lot on this podcast.

I download a lot lot so I work through all of my stuff in a forum where I can get it outside of me look at it again realize what's complete weirdness and then edit that out not that I do I'll be frank with you, I edit very little. I edit some stuff, but for the most part, I am able to download, but I don't have any of the feedback. I don't have the feedback that says, oh my gosh, yeah, so this one time that something very similar to that happened to me. and be able to compare notes and say, okay, so how did you feel about that?

Because when you have that person to download with, when you have that person that you can talk to about what's going on with you and things that you haven't quite filtered emotionally. It is such a help. And I got to tell you, most of the guys I know are not great at being able to understand where I'm coming from because I'm an innie, not an outie. Okay. Because of the fact that I have a vagina, my experience is different than a man's. It just is.

So having somebody to chat with, to talk to is to me a hundred times more important than a dick because I get dick thrown at me on a fairly regular basis. And if I wanted it, I could go out and get it. And that's not to brag. It's because the dynamic of power in the lifestyle is a lot fucking different than it is in say the gym or in the grocery store. It's a lot different power dynamic. There are more males than females in the lifestyle. I can like, it is not hard. It's like Tinder on crack. Because it's a numbers game for a lot of guys.

It's like the more people that you throw the dick out to, someone's going to scoop it up. And that's not to say anything is wrong with that, because there's nothing wrong with that. If you're in the numbers game, great. Be in the numbers game. Get what you need. But it's easier for me to find dick than it is for gentlemen to find vagina. Just saying it. So because of that, it is, because it's easier to find dick than vagina, when you have vagina, you need to care for it.

You need to, when you have that friend, when you have that person that you can download to girlfriend to girlfriend, you need to foster that relationship. You need to make sure that there's nothing going on that could cause hurt or distrust, okay? I choose honesty in almost everything I do because, first of all, it's the easiest thing to remember. And second of all, I don't actually have to have the approval of anyone other than my husband. And that's a cruel thing to say, but it's true.

And so because of the fact the only person whose approval I need is my husband's, and he's giving that to me full throatedly, I have the ability to be authentically 100% mine, my own person with no fear and no, um, no fear and no regret. I love the fact that because I am with this man who has consented to me, with me, for me, all of that, because we are a consensual couple, because we are consenting together. I don't actually need, I can, I don't need anybody else's judgment. So I don't take it because nobody gets to yuck my yum. And my husband is all for my yum. And I am all for his yum.

And because of that, we are finding a way to be so authentically us. It is mind-blowing. Because when you're going through your 20s and your 30s, you're doing so many things to prevent other people from ostracizing you. I'm a crone now. If you want to ostracize me, please feel free to try. No, I'm just kidding. Don't do that. But I don't know that I have ever been able to live my life so incredibly out loud and so incredibly free from the judgments of other people. So I am savoring this moment in my life.

I am savoring this time that I get to hold my everything I want, everything I desire in my hands. That is just the gift I have right now. And actually it's kind of the gift I wish for everyone to live a life of authenticity, knowing exactly what you want, or knowing that maybe if you don't know exactly what it is, but I don't know exactly what it is, but I don't know exactly what it is. I don't, or knowing that maybe if you don't know exactly what you want, you're free to explore to find it. Because so far the journey, the journey's been amazing.

And as long as you're present in that journey and you're there for that journey and you're consenting to that journey. You all know i love a a an origin story i love to find out how people were brought to the lifestyle um whether it was through their own research whether it was through suggestions others, just what it was that brought them to the lifestyle. So I got a, I got an email from a listener. Hello, my wife and I have been listening to your podcast, me, the husband, even more so. You and my wife sound very similar, which is what I think draws me in.

We haven't done any parties yet, but we have used the apps to meet people, mostly MMFs. We have a similar stag vixen dynamic, except I basically play with her when she calls me over, since her absolute favorite thing is spit roast. But sometimes I just watch, especially when someone is new and they're are, and they're kind of finding their groove. Then she will call me over to play. We have played with couples as well, but not as much fun and they, and typically harder to make work. I have a couple of questions for you.

And then I wanted to share how we got into the lifestyle because I think you'll get a kick out of that. So very, very true. I will. On Spotify, you mentioned the end of your podcast that your socials are in the description, but all we see is your Insta profile, which is locked, but our Instagram profiles are family social, so we can't follow. We'll likely have to create an LS profile, but we haven't yet. Um, wanting to know if you have other socials that we would love to see. Okay. So currently my only socials that I'm truly using are my fat life profile and my Insta.

I am probably going, I have a YouTube, but I haven't really used it efficiently yet because I haven't really figured out how. Don't judge me. I'm 50. Okay. I haven't really figured out the best optimal way to use YouTube. Um, that doesn't mean that I'm not going to, it just means that I haven't done it yet. Um, then let me see. Similarly to the above question, um, I'm going to skip this one because this was sort of private, um, about the, their apps. Um, you seem generally interested in how people got into the lifestyle. and I think our story is fairly interesting, so I thought I would share.

So some background first. I'm 58, and she is 43. We both met in college. I had gone back to school to finish my degree, and I was in my mid to late 30s, and she was much younger. And finishing hers, we had some study groups together and realized we were both going through divorces and we had to go through and thought we would go through it together. Honestly, we never thought we would stay together because of our age difference. But every time we broke up over the differences, we ended right back with each other.

both of us right back with each other after both of us trying to date other people closer to our age. And now we are here over 21 years later. When we first started talking, I shared stories over drinks after our classes about me and my ex-wife. And we had been swingers for a couple of years. Samantha was very intrigued by the story. It's just... drinks after our classes about me and my ex-wife, and we had been swingers for a couple of years. Samantha was very intrigued by the story, by the stories, and wanted to check out the local club that I told her about.

So we went to a New Year's holiday takeover where she flirted a lot, but we didn't do anything with anyone else. But we did meet a couple, and a few weeks later we went to their place, but unfortunately the other lady was very aggressive with her and she wasn't really even bi-curious at the time. So when that evening was done she told me she didn't think this was for her and I said that was perfectly fine. I would never pressure you to do something you don't want to do and I told her that it was that was it.

We joked about it from time to time but never even considered actually doing something. Now fast forward about 20 years and she's reading an erotic book series by Sarah Kate called The Salacious Players Club. It's all about a group of college friends that started dating apps for kinks, which was very successful, then led them to start a sex club in California. Then each book tells the story of each of the friends. If you like reading a lot erotic stories, you might really enjoy this series. She ended up making me read it.

Well, one day she calls me into the bathroom where she's taking her bath and enjoying her wine and tells me she would like to try the lifestyle again, but she wasn't convinced I would not be jealous despite my having history with the lifestyle because she knew my ex had cheated on me. Yes, while we were in the lifestyle, but she was not cheating with anyone in the lifestyle. That we were in the lifestyle had nothing to do with her cheating and when I found out some other cheating had been going on even before we were in the lifestyle, I was done.

Samantha realized rightfully, that I do have some insecurities as a result of that 19-year relationship, and she said that she cannot be sure that I wouldn't be insanely jealous seeing me with another woman, so she wanted to start with just another male. We had several more conversations ad nauseum before we did anything, and when we finally invited one of our mutual friends over who was in a sexless marriage, who was of course, all in all, we had a blast that led to others.

And eventually another couple where she saw me having sex with another woman thought it was incredibly hot, but our main dynamic is the stag vixen dynamic, no humiliation or anything like that. And we are still more or less learning the ropes. I thought you would get a kick out of hearing how a book series led us to the lifestyle. I mean, hey, whatever gets you there, right? That is a common misconception that there's, if you are living a lifestyle, that there's no such thing as cheating. Your rules are your rules. and adhering to your rules and making your rules very, very clear.

That's the best way. And the thing is, is that anything that you need to lie about is probably not a thing that you should be doing. If in the lifestyle, I mean, I mean, I don't mean, I don't care what your relationship is and how you choose to conduct it. That is 100% obviously up to you. I myself feel that if I have to lie to my husband about a behavior that I'm doing, that it's probably not the behavior that we have agreed to. My problem is I overshare. I am very communicative in all of the wrong ways with my husband.

When I start a story, it takes me about 19 different turns to get to the point I was trying to make with the original story. It's a very, it's a tale of ADD as old as time. So, um, I do find it interesting that you found your way back to lifestyle with baggage like that, especially considering that in some ways people could look at it and say, maybe it was the lifestyle that brought on the need to cheat. That is completely false. The thing is, is that in a lifestyle relationship, the one thing that is, that has to be made clear is communicating with your partner.

If you and your partner have that element of I'm going to go fuck around and not tell him because it makes you feel sneaky but you've set that up in advance good on ya but if you're lying to hide behavior it's something you should really consider I I am not in any way, shape, or form an expert on how everybody does the lifestyle because everybody does the lifestyle their own way.

But I do know this, it is possible for you to hurt your partner if you are not honest, if you are not putting everything on the table, if there is betrayal happening, and that is the thing about the lifestyle, there is we are walking a very fine line, we are walking a fine line of jealousy, we are walking a fine line of anticipation, and the mixture of those feelings that make us human, that bubbling in our belly that like, what if she doesn't come home this time? What if, you know, we're constantly walking the line. We're walking the line.

And the one thing I will say is that I am grateful that I choose my husband. I'm grateful that I get to choose my husband because every day is a choice. Every day is a choice as to how we are going to proceed and in my particular case I love being able to choose my husband every single day, even when there are, you know, rough patches, and he does something that's unbelievably irritating, or insensitive, or rude, and I'm boiling in all my little petty emotions, I still look at him and choose him because he is mine. He is my one. He is my person. And I'm grateful to have that.

I am also grateful that we have found the lifestyle so that we can walk this road. And I also love our dynamic within the lifestyle. I love the fact that he is there for me. And I am there for him. We are there for each other. Now, people often ask why I don't let my husband play. And let is a strong word. my thing, is my dynamic with my husband is this is how he wants it. And I give him that, I give him that grace, that honest to God, yes, if this is how you want to play the game, then let's do it this way. Because his happiness is most important to me.

And my happiness is most important to him. Well, my pleasure might be a step above my happiness, but whatever. Um, but he and I have made our deal together. And he knows that if he found somebody that he wanted to experiment with, male, female, whatever, I would not be opposed. I would want to have a conversation to make sure what he was doing, why he was doing it. But I would never impede him from doing it. So I know I've probably made that clear before, but my, my husband and I work through our lifestyle and our real life as a team. Okay. We discuss it. We talk about it.

We have the conversations. We have the hard conversations. We have the vague and ineffective conversations. But eventually we get to the real deep, honest to God conversation, because ladies, I need you to understand that my husband communicates like a man. Okay. Even when he is in the lifestyle, his communication, which has improved immensely from this lifestyle conversating, he still communicates like a man, a little bit less vulnerable, a little bit more vague than a female would.

The female is going to tell you, you have hurt the feeling that I keep in my middle toe at the very tip that I try to hide in closed-toed shoes, but you heard it on the 3rd of March when you said this thing, okay? We're very specific about the thing that we are feeling, okay? And that is not a bad thing, but men are not. Most of the men that we are dealing with right now, okay? And I being a Gen X woman, and I am married to a Gen X man, we grew up in the same time period. We grew up in the same playgrounds, okay? I myself understand that my husband is going to have Thank you. playgrounds.

Okay. I myself understand that my husband is going to have a lot of the access to his emotions, basically buried under layers and layers of layer and layers of be a man. Don't cry. What's wrong with you? Why aren't you? And that is layers and layers and layers of spending his life growing up in a time where men did not show any emotion at any time. Stoic was the name of the game, baby. And so filtering through, like a goddamn archaeologist, filtering through the layers and layers and layers of protection that they have put onto their emotions takes time and it takes effort.

And literally I have to hand my husband words and explain to him what they mean so that he will know the difference between what this is and what that is, even to talk to his doctor. Okay. And that is not a failing of his. That is the standpoint from which he started. And together we have chipped away at some of the bullshit that childhood has laid upon him. And masculinity In the 80s has laid upon him. And he is not a bad guy. And toxic masculinity is something that we're all striving to get past. But guess what? We have to do the work.

And sometimes if you feed them words, explain to them what they mean and how that relates to how you are comprehending what they're trying to get to is ever so helpful. Okay. He may, you have no idea how many times my husband was like, you always do that thing. And you know what thing I'm talking about? Because you always do it. And I'm literally standing there going, I have no idea what we're talking about right now. And he's like, you know, the thing that you do that's like all the time and literally nothing. I've got no idea whether, I don't know what he's talking about one way or another.

And that's basically where conversations have started with us. and through many, many conversations where we're listening to podcasts and talking to other people and getting more vocabulary and expanding our understanding of the human male-female connection, we are starting to really blossom into something and blossom into people who truly know, respect, and understand one another. and it is, I got to tell you, miraculous. This is all a very much a tangent from the story that my listener gave. And I understand that my ability to, now you understand how confusing it must be to be my husband.

To follow every single tangent I go down to its very bitter end. But let's get back to this story that was shared with us. This is so understandable. The fact that she was worried about how he was going to react in that moment is the exact same fear that every woman has. Because be careful what you wish for. It's a phrase that has recently come up on a couple of podcasts that I listened to. And be careful what you wish for. Because here's the thing.

If you get the thing that you wish for, if you get the thing that you asked for and it doesn't live up to the fantasy and instead it bubbles up all of the baggage that you've been carrying, do you, the person who asked or the person who had their wish fulfilled, do you have the right to be angry or upset or hurt by the thing that you were given, by the wish that you were given by the wish that you had fulfilled but how do you avoid it okay so I understand that story so well because I myself had had those conversations so many times because for the longest time I did not know if my husband was giving me the full truth of his emotional desire for this, for me to sleep with another man, it's full weight.

If he would be able to look at me the same way when I had finished, if he would be able to still love me and not be full of betrayal and hatred and hurt and heartbreak and all of the baggage. Okay. Was he going to find the elation that he thought he was going to, that was a mixture of the jealousy and the and the angst and the anticipation and the desire. Was he going, which one of these roads were we going to find ourselves on when it was done? And it took me a long time to believe him. It took me a long time to believe that he knew his own mind. He knew his own heart.

He knew his own emotional baggage. Because any woman, and I'm going to tell this to you straight, guys, any woman who has had a conversation about emotional issues with a man has trouble believing that you understand. and that is not a fault of theirs. And it is not a fault of yours. It is just the packaging that we're all wrapped in.

Because women are intrinsically more um in tune because we have to have the empathy because we are designed to be mothers and not all of us are not saying that what I'm saying is because of the way that our hormones go through our body we are designed to know what other people are feeling so that when we do have a tiny child that we are supposed to care for, we can kind of figure out what it is that they need. This is not the same hormone makeup that men get.

Biologically, we are more in tune with our emotions and therefore, because you are not as in tune as we are we have more subtleties to base our reactions on we have more body language and more facials and more everything else to to basically say I don't even know if you know what you're talking about right now. And that's not a bad thing because getting to the point where you can truly believe that gets them to the point where they have fully explored it. Because it is not something that is a single conversation.

There are many, many conversations that need to be had in this journey to pull back the layers, to make sure that everybody understands exactly what is going to take place and exactly what the expectation is when it does take place and running through the scenarios and talking about. So when I take his dick and I slide it into my throat and I gag a little bit and you're watching from the other side of the room and you can understand what it is that he's feeling and you could know that I am giving it to him instead of giving it to you. Are you going to be okay with that?

And if you run through scenarios like that, when his big dick slides open, slides me open when his big dick pushes me open and he slides that dick so deep inside of me deep inside of me to a point you've never reached. Are you going to be okay with that? And that is how, that's how you get women to understand that you are fully, you are fully thought through. And here's the thing, here's the trick, here's the thing. Thank you. women to understand that you are fully thought through. And here's the thing, here's the trick, here's the thing.

Just because you've thought it through, just because you think you're going to be okay, just because it doesn't mean that you are. But you have to know where it came from. you have to know where it came from. You have to know where that wish fulfillment came from. It came from a desire to give you a great way to start. Okay. It's a great way to see if it's something that you could even possibly attempt.

Um, whether it's going to a bar and pretending to be strangers and picking each other up, um, talking about the fact that, oh yes, I have a husband at home and I'm pretty sure he'd enjoy hearing about this, you know, that kind of thought process, whether it's toys, um, being able to fantasize that this particular dildo is another man's cock, giving her vast amounts of pleasure, watching her have that pleasure.

The thing is, is toys can always enhance whether it's, um, toys for her pleasure or whether it's toys for his pleasure or whether it's a cuck cage or whether it's something in the bondage realm, something that takes away, because women, I know this, something like bondage takes away that layer of questioning ourselves as to whether or not we are doing the right thing and having no option, but to do the thing that we are being, that's being done, such a relief sometimes, right? Okay. So here's the thing.

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click everything and start the wheels turning, then maybe that's not your, your thing. But educating yourself, learning how to explore your own fantasies before you, I don't know, break the mountain to the daylight is never a bad thing because you can feel like something is something you want. You can feel that deep down in your bones. You can say, this is what I want. And then you get it. And it's not exactly the thing you thought it was going to be. So for me, I feel like role play for me and my husband was a great launching point.

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If you have any questions or would like to share your story, please don't hesitate to hit me up at pineapplepinuppod at gmail.com. You can also hit me up on all of my socials. They are listed in the show description, hopefully more to come. Um, but thank you so much for listening and reach out if there's anything you want to talk about. I'll see you next time.