Grip: Hold on tight

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pinup, the Hot Wife Life podcast. On today's podcast... All right, so today I want to talk about grip. I want to talk about the different interpretations of the word. I want to talk about the varying levels because I think we need a vernacular to explain what it is that we're looking for so that we get it. We get what we want. We get what we desire. Because there are times when somebody grips something fragile with care, a secure hold, but with very little pressure. And then there are times when people grip things like they're going to lose their grip.

They do it with as much force as they possibly can. And the force comes in different directions, right? So if you're gripping with your fingers, it's different than gripping with your palms. It's different than gripping with your whole hand. If your grip is slipping, you know, there's connotations there. The word grip has entirely too many meanings to be able to justify what it is that you're looking for, to be able to give you that medium, to be able to give you that word as a, what it is that you're looking for. Okay. So let's talk about what it is that I'm seeking.

Because when I have spicy over, he grips my ankles and he doesn't grip them harshly with his fingertips where he's leaving bruises. He grips it with his whole hand, but putting enough command and pressure into that grip to tell me that he's in control. And when I say grip my throat, I certainly don't mean grip it like you want to remove it from the rest of my body. I certainly don't mean that. I mean it grip it more like a peach where you just want to hold it to let me know that you have it. But when I say grip my tit, I very much mean something different.

I mean, grip it like you are an animal and this is your prey. So, but I'm not also, but there's also fingertip pressure. What kind of fingertip pressure are we talking about? Or do I want the whole hand engaged? What is it that you want from the grip? And the same thing is true for you guys, okay? When you say grip my balls, are you looking for grip something fragile? Or are you looking for grip something that you're mad at? Are you looking for when somebody, when you say grip my penis, are you looking for someone to gently caress your dick with their whole hand?

Or are you looking for them to hold onto it like it's a rope or a snake that's about to get dangerous? What is it that you're looking for when you say the word grip? And I think that's the kind of thing that we need to come up with a vernacular. We need to come up with something that states, I am looking for X amount of pressure. I am looking for X amount of fingertip action. I am looking for X amount of, so like with my tit, I want you to grip it like you rented it, but got the walkaway insurance. Okay. That's the kind of grip that I'm talking about.

The grip where it's like, just, you just need to use this thing to control me. And I don't really mind fingertip marks. So for me, whatever pressure you want to use is fine, the firmer, the better. But I'm also not looking for you to grip one specific nipple and just hold on to that, even though there are times when I want you to grip my nipple. But if you're gripping me, if you're fucking me from behind, and I say grip my tit, I don't mean gently hold it in your hand. Because that's been a favorite. And it's not what I'm looking for. I'm looking for a little bit more primal grip.

I'm looking for a little bit more prey is trying to get away grip. I'm looking for a little bit more assertion in that grip. If I say grip my throat when you're fucking me from behind or grip my hair. I want that. Put me where you want me and hold me in place so that I cannot move away and stop taking it.

Because I don't know if you know this or not, but girls but girls girls we're slippery we can we can move and we can adjust and we can take your dick in different places we can take your dick differently depending on the angle of our hips the angle of our shoulders the angle of our pelvic floor the we have the ability to alter entirely your experience with one position or another All right. pelvic floor. We have the ability to alter entirely your experience with one position or another.

And that's because of the fact that that whole sheet of ours is muscular and pliable And, you know, it's it's a fun land. OK, so that we're taking you at a tighter opening, but a deeper hole. We can take you, we can sit up a little bit and take you so that you're smooth ride all the way in. We can take you so that we're sitting up and it tightens up and then your dick presses into a tighter pocket at the top. It's amazing the things that we can do with positioning our bodies and what it will do to the sex that we're having, what it will do to the sex that you're having.

We have that ability to manipulate the situation. So because of the fact that I know that I can be manipulative. When you have me in a certain position and you grip me to hold me still, it takes me from mentally assessing placement, positioning, depth, grip, and puts me in your zone, puts me where you want me to be. And the reason that I say that is because of the fact that it is a mental hack. It is something that we develop, okay? We develop the ability to alter and maneuver.

That being said, I love being controlled when you know what it is that you are controlling and how it is you want it controlled. Okay. So if you have found me in a position and you like the grip and the drag and you like the moisture and the sensitive bits that are rubbing over your sensitive bits, if you like that and you want that to remain and you don't want me to get wily, I need you to grip. I don't care if it's my hips. I don't care if it's my throat. I don't care if it's my hair. I don't care if it's my tits. I don't care.

If you are in the zone, and this is where I need to know, I need to know that you are taking control of this position and you are leading the charge towards whatever. So, and here's the thing. If we're asking for grip, we need to be able to define it. We need to be able to define what we're looking for because obviously I want my neck gripped differently than I want my tit gripped and finger pressure and all that other good shit comes into play.

It's the same thing that you guys feel when we, I don't know if you've ever gotten a loose hand job from a girl because she's afraid of damaging your dick and you're looking for more of a kung fu. And you're looking for more of a kung fu grip, or you're looking for more of a don't let that snake escape grip. The thing is, is that being able to define what it is that you're looking for is going to define your ability to get pleasure. And your ability to say, I want you to grip my balls delicately. Or I want you to grip my balls like a baseball that you're getting ready to throw.

Or somewhere in between. Do you want me to grip one of your balls? Do you want me to grip both of your balls? What is it that you're looking for? And give it some, give it some nuance, give it some articulation, give it some variation on the theme. Because when we constantly use the same word to talk about the different areas of our body or the different erogenous or how it's going to make you feel Like spicy tends to grip my ankle and I fucking love it. Okay. I love the way he just takes control with that one little action. And it's not that it's my ankle. It could be my wrist.

It could be my throat. It could be, but it's a moment where he has given me the signal that he is taking control of this position. This is where he wants me and I'd better stay put. Not that there will be consequences, but this is where he wants me and right now he's in charge. So I can't help it, but I can't help, but love somebody who takes the initiative to go that step to say, this is what I want. And then take it.

It delightful now as people do because we all do it as we get to the point where we're in this relationship and we're in this and no matter how temporary it is it's still a relationship it's we're trying to relate person, okay? So no matter how transactionally it gets, you need to be able to describe the pressure you're looking for when you say, grip my blank. So let's work on it, shall we? Let's work on some vernacular.

Let's work on some descriptors.'s work on some descriptors let's do some variation on the theme because there's nothing more frustrating to somebody who's trying to give you the thing that you want because believe me I've been in this situation where I will say grip my blank and I will not get the grip that I'm looking for. Sometimes I get a grip on my throat that's like, okay, do I need to call 911? You know, like then there's other times, you've got to be really, really careful doing this. Okay, so having some vernacular, having some descriptors, having some things to think about Thank you.

careful doing this, okay? So having some vernacular, having some descriptors, having some things to think about the level and intensity of the grip and how you want the hand used. Because gripping with your palm, gripping with your whole hand, gripping with your fingers, they're all different. And it's going to put different pressure points on your whole entire person. When you ask for, because there are times when people like pinch, you're like, that's not gripping. Not gripping as I know it. So I think that it's important.

I think that it's important for us to start using a wider vocabulary when it comes to the description of what we're looking for, because there are not a lot of different words for grip, hold, clench. But do those have, are those the right connotation? Grip pressure needs to be a descriptor that we're adding to our play so that we get the thing that we're looking for and the person we're asking for it from can give it to us the way we want me in, he threw my first gangbang. There was a bunch of stuff that he and I kind of go way back. He is part of my origin story in the party scene.

He's part of my origin story in a lot of aspects of the hot wife life. He has been really instrumental in my ability to see myself through another lens. He has been a really, really good friend. Also, he is a fantastic fuck. He and I have very good chemistry and he is been sorely missing in my life. I'm going to be frank with you. He he's been. And the thing is, is that he and I have never often played, but he does fulfill something when he comes around. He is, he's got this grip thing, this grip thing that just makes me a little bit wild. He wraps his hand, like, especially around my ankle.

He'll wrap wrap my hand he'll wrap his hand around my ankle and he will move me where he wants me to be and there is something really powerful in that really like yes um that I I really enjoy and he it's almost like he's putting me in he's binding me without bondage and I and I love it I mean it's really really hot and so the fact that he and I have not been able to hook up and we have been trying to get together for a long time and just my house has been extraordinarily. Now that my life is a little bit more on track, I have more opportunity to reach out and make these play dates happen.

So he came over and my husband is at work and i am basically alone at home alone. And he comes in. And of course, I show him around because I've had a lot of work done at my house. And then I take him upstairs. And it is on. It is so much fun to be silly and safe and like have this history that puts us both in this exact same spot and just know. and he so, what's really funny is in social interactions, he is so charming and kind and almost shy, but that blood rushes to his cock and all bets are off. He is very animalistic and driven and likes to very much be in control in that situation.

And I find it incredibly erotic. Now, he and I played, and of course, I recorded it for my husband. And lately, I have been doing a lot of pillow princess stuff, okay? Like, I'm on my back, moving from my back to my side. But not really like, but, but here, here's the thing.

Even when a woman is on her back and there are things that she is probably doing with her pelvis that are creating that grip and release, that pleasure center center that like drawing you in pulling you out like pushing and pulling and doing all these things with the pelvic muscles because that is that sometimes is the best way for us to participate because the positioning can can be 100% yours. But once you're there, it's like a Venus flytrap. You're just gonna... And I love that part.

I love that part where I am changing the angle of my pelvis ever so slightly and creating that drag over my G-spot with the glannis of the penis and just creating that slide, that rough entry, that slight tightness. I love that shit. And it feels so good.

It feels so good that it is interesting how every cock is different and every vagina is different, but there are some things about them that are just so across the board amazing um so he and I played and we played rough and hard for about 45 minutes and then I hugged him goodbye and he left and that was the extent of it and it was so it was really good it was it made a mess on my bed which I have gotten a waterproof blanket so the mess on my bed was very limited to this area but it was really funny because you roll out of the wet spot and then you roll back into the wet spot and you can feel the wet spot.

It's so cold. And it's really funny because when it happens, it's very startling, very startling. But it was so much fun to see Spicy, to have him come over on this random Thursday. And basically he, when I was like, okay, I sucked his dick because I am a good hostess. I invited him in and I, you know, I sucked his dick because I really do want that feeling of warming up, that feeling of getting everybody ready for the moments. And it works on me too. I mean, there's something about having a dick sliding between my lips that really does turn me on and it really does wake everybody up.

And then of course, he returned the favor. He went down there and he of course gave me some hooks so that that way everything was operational and the fountain was fully charged and we had so much fun. And it was quick and we chatted and then he went home and it was really just one of those perfect afternoon delights. One of those perfect afternoon fuck sessions where it is down, dirty, done. And then you're moving on with the next steps. And it's glorious. Oh my God. I love it for so many reasons. I love it for the no place to be kind of atmosphere.

But at the same time, let's just get this done so we can get on to other things. Now, recently, I started reading this book about the fact that orgasm, like that people are having a lot of bad sex, even though there's a sex recession going on and there's fewer people actually having sex. A lot of the sex that they're having is not good sex. It's just bad sex. It's boring or whatever. And I was really cognizant of the fact that she, this author was going on about the fact that there were so many other things she could be doing other than having this boring sex.

She could be learning to French braid hair. And I thought about that. And I was like, there are times when I am grateful that I am not having that kind of bad sex, especially when I invite people over. When I invite people over, it is because our chemistry is good. Our chemistry is solid. We understand, we have some rhythm and that's why I meet people at parties. Okay. When I meet people at parties, it gives me that understanding of who they are and what our chemistry is together. Because believe me, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter who you are.

You're going to at times have sex that just, you know, I mean, even bad sex is good, but like it wasn't as good as other things that I had done. And so that's kind of why I have these dates come to my house is that because we have developed chemistry and shorthand and knowledge of each other. And we have the, and we know that the sex is good. We know that the sex is worth the time that we're going to put into it.

And I, I'm just, I'm cannot praise highly enough, the fact that the lifestyle has given me access to so much good sex, especially considering that I could be, and now the cool, the cool thing is, is that I don't have bad sex with my husband. Like, I have good sex with my husband. This is just something that, like, stratospherically changes our arousal. So, this is, it's hot. I think you can tell from the beginning of this episode that my head is really in my erotica right now. My head is really in building the stories and weaving the language and creating the scene from words.

Because of the fact that this erotica is back, I kind of, I think I'm going to start adding it to my Patreon. I think I'm going to start adding that along with some photos and some videos. I think I'm going to add that stuff to my Patreon because I just want it there to create value. I am 100% in love with the idea of what Patreon can do. And I want to add value. If that is something that you're interested in, please go take a look, read all you want, all that other stuff. It is a work in progress. It is something that I'm trying to build on the daily, on the weekly.

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