Getting it in before the weekend...

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pin of the Hot Wife Life. On today's episode, I'm going to talk about my Thursday night date. And then I'm going to talk about the importance of your health. And then I'm going to answer a question from Fitz. Enjoy. I knew that I was not going to be able to play over the weekend. I had family coming into town and I knew that if I wanted to get something done, get something in, smash something, I needed to make it happen before. So I sent out the text and asked if Josh would be available on Thursday.

thursday's a great day because it's not too distantly far from the weekend and we can get in there play for an hour or so and work out all of the emotions from the week so far. We really did quite a bit of playing on Thursday. He was actually close by and then drove all the way home and then drove all the way back, which was quite a waste of time and probably not going to happen in the future.

But in this particular case, he ended up getting there just after or just before my husband because my husband was coming home and I was trying to get him there so that, you know, my husband would be like, oh, hey. So we ended up playing Thursday night, and it was fantastic. Now, I am really, really not sure how much you want to hear about each and every second of what happened But here goes He is very good at coming in ready to go. He and I do a little bit of swallow and suck, and then we pretty much head straight to the main event.

He understands the need for me to have a towel and will oftentimes rearrange things as needed. He is very helpful in my scenarios. he reminds me to set a recording sometimes. He is very, very engaged in our play, engaged in what my husband and I are trying to accomplish with our play, because each individual moment probably has 16 like ulterior motives going on. Yes, I want to have an orgasm. Yes, I want to have sex. Yes, I want to play. Yes, I want all of these things. But in addition to that, we're making content. We're doing things so that I have things to talk about on my Thank you.

addition to that, we're making content. We're doing things so that I have things to talk about on my pod. We're doing things so that my husband has things to post on our FetLife. My husband and I are very much a team in this, and it's not like we're building anything for profit. That's not what we're doing here. Um, I don't know if you can tell that from the way that I'm putting this together, but we are doing this because this is excitement. This is sex positive. This is being out there in the world and being brave about it. I want people to want to see my videos.

I want people to want to see the photos. I want people to want to come and read my writings. I want people to want to listen to me talk about this. And I don't know what it is feeding inside of me, but I feel better knowing that I am putting this out there for people to de-stigmatize the lifestyle that I am embracing. This is not something that I need be ashamed of. This is not something, my body is not something that I need to hide away from the world. My body is not perfect. Nobody's body is. Despite the fact That every time you get to know what's going on, that every time. Nobody's body is.

Despite the fact that everybody is constantly like, where my body is doing what it's supposed to do. It's getting me from one point to another and it is doing it with like all this trauma baggage. And I'm giving my body some grace for that. My body has made it through a crap ton of stuff. And now I am letting my body speak for itself. I am doing all the things that make my body feel good and strong and healthy.

And that's why I'm putting out content because no matter what my size, no matter what my, what I look like, no matter how many stretch marks I have, no matter how many weird folds I have, I am a tea that someone is going to drink. And I fully believe that. I fully believe that because I know that to be true. So I have my tea drinker and he is fucking magnificent. I mean, he has a great cock and I, and he has such a, like a giving personality. he is so sweet and just such a nice dude.

So he comes over and he is so adept at getting me off, getting me where I need to go, getting me to that place where my body is like releasing every moment of tension that has piled on for the last four days of the week. He is so good at pulling me from my thoughts and putting me into my body and giving me that opportunity to let it go it is fantastic and i love it i love how connected when he is, falls deep, stretching me as far as I will go. And maybe that's not true. Maybe it's as far as I need to go. I don't know because my body's a fucking miracle. Every woman's is.

The amount of stretch and give that we can give to another person cannot be matched. Like the amount of ability that we have to go just a little bit further, there's no description for it. A woman's body was built to give, was built to stretch, was built to embrace. And we have muscles upon muscles upon muscles that are moving around and doing everything you guys want it to do. So be grateful for the women in your life because we are built for this. We are built to be stretched and fucked and taken to new heights because that's what we're designed to do. Anyway, back to the subject.

He is so, he can be very forceful, and then he can be very, very gentle. And when he's very, very gentle, it is maddening for me. It is like, like I can feel the build happening and I can feel it and it's coming too slowly. And I'm such a greedy girl that when he slows everything down, it makes my whole body quiver with anticipation for him to go past, go get it, go find it, go build it, go create it, go let it go. And sometimes that's not what he wants to do sometimes what he wants to do. Sometimes what he wants to do is make me crazy, make me insane, make me crave it.

And I think that is very important. I think that is very important i think that is very good because when you give somebody everything that they want the moment that they want it it tends to take away some of the anticipation. My husband is very good at anticipation. My husband loves anticipation. My husband loves it. He sets up whole scenarios with what we're doing. He plays them out in his mind. He then has a ritual to build up every encounter that we're about to have.

He thrives on knowing that that text or that video is going to come or he like, that is where his sweet spot is that anticipation, that ache before the pleasure. I am not good at the anticipation. I am not good at the build. I am not good at the crave. Because I'm so greedy. I just want to come. I just want to come and I want to spray everything in my path and I want everyone to know with a firework of liquid that I have accomplished, that I have hit the mark. But the problem is, is that as soon as you hit that mark, you want another one. You want another explosion.

And so because I'm a greedy girl, I can, I can go and get that next explosion. I think the difference for women and men is that because we're built to have multiple orgasms and obviously every girl's body is different. Some girls can orgasm only one time before everything becomes too sensitive. But there are women like me who can orgasm and orgasm. I can accomplish, I can orgasm as many times as you can get me there. There's nothing, occasionally my clit will get too sensitive for you to touch, but that has nothing to do with what's going on inside.

You just don't touch the oversensitive outside parts because it will cause electric bolts to run down my spine. And I'm not a huge fan of being hit by lightning like that. It's, it's a little bit too much. So in those moments when I can orgasm and I know that I can have another one and I can have another one and I'm like building my bushel of orgasms and When somebody slows me down and makes me dwell in the anticipation, it makes me truly nutty. And it's good. It is so good.

But at the same time, it is so incredibly frustrating because I don't have, I don't have to live in the anticipation because there, if you give me one, more's coming. It's not like this factory is going to shut down at a certain point. Actually, it might shut down at a certain point. We're not really sure. We've never reached the point of no more orgasm production. But I have tapped out for various and sundry reasons. I've tapped out because I can get orgasm migraines.

There's a whole lot of reasons why I can tap out, but it's usually not because my body's like, no more orgasm migraines and I like, there's a whole lot of reasons why I can tap out, but it's usually not because my body's like no more orgasms. Sometimes it's just, okay, I need food. I'm going to pass out. You know, there's, there's other things that my body is going to do, but I swear if you kept at it, I would probably still be orgasming. But there are other things that stop me from being able to continue playing. But Josh, when he came over, was really keyed up and really ready to go.

And he fucked me so good. And that was the first night that week that I slept like the dead. It is so, anybody who suffers from insomnia or has had insomnia in the past knows that when you have had restless night after restless night after restless night, it feels like it's never going to end. So when you're given that gift, that sleep of just out, no tossing, no turning, just out, it is such an incredible gift. And it is such a gift that that's just one more thing that Josh was able to give me. And I cannot tell you how grateful I was for that.

And then of course, my husband was very excited to reclaim me that evening after Josh left because it was very, very hot and very, very intense. And he... after Josh left, because it was very, very hot and very, very intense. And my husband is very into the dirty talk when he's into reclaiming me. And his thoughts suck. I'm sorry. I like words. I don't know if you've noticed that, but I like words. I like to hear the words. I like to hear him call me his good little whore. I love that. And I love it so much when he is telling me his fantasies while he's balls deep in sloppy seconds.

It is so hot when he's telling me I can't wait until Josh can fill you with his comp. I love that. It is so hot for me. It is so hot for him. And we are so in that moment together. We are so in that moment, like eye to eye, like achieving the same fucking thing. Like the mental play that happens with my husband after I play with Josh or Jeff or whomever, the mental play that goes on between me and my husband is incredibly arousing. It is incredibly hot. Anyway, I'm in the mode right now where I'm trying to take care of myself.

I'm trying to make sure that I am doing everything I need to do, um, that I'm seeing all the people. I went to the dentist yesterday. I got my, um, I'm going to be getting my STD results in a couple of days. There's a bunch of things that I am working on to make sure that I am fully capable of handling next steps, that I am fully able to play with one particular person, bareback. I am doing all the things that I have to do to make sure that I am healthy, fit, that everything is, that I'm getting the right nutrients, that I'm doing all that stuff.

It is very important that we take care of ourselves and that we take care of each other by taking care of ourselves. If you have not been tested, I have, there are many, many online medical test kits you can get that will come to your home and you can do them in the comfort of your own home. That's, I mean, they have cancer screenings that way they have, and now they have STD screenings that way. It's a matter of opening the box, reading all of the directions that always helps. Like activating your kit and then sending it back to them. That's all it takes.

Um, I got a text message yesterday that they had received my package and that I would have my results in two to five days. Um, this is important. Okay. We are a community. And when we take care of ourselves, we take care of all of us. Okay. Making sure that you don't have anything that you can spread to someone else. Or if you do, taking precautions and letting people know that this is the risk. Because I got to tell you, a lot of times people are okay with it. People are okay with taking the precautions that they need to take in certain circumstances. Okay?

there are certain places where, you know, you just kind of got to be upfront. And I personally am a huge advocate for making sure that everybody stays safe by you yourself, staying safe, staying healthy, getting, making sure that you're going and getting regular checkups to make sure that your heart's sound enough, because there would be nothing worse. I'm sorry. There would be nothing worse than having a huge medical incident happen at a party. Can you imagine? like it's not, you've got to take care of yourself, especially when you are involved in group lifestyle events.

It is so important that we monitor and control everything that we can because there's so much out there that we can't control. And we have to know what it is that we can control. So you got to make sure that you're staying healthy, that you are getting regular checkups, that you're doing all those things because having an incident can affect so many other people. So many other people. It's not kind of, it's not really worth it at that point. So this is my plea to everyone. Make sure you're getting checked.

Make sure you're doing regular visits to your doctor, because without that, we don't have our ability to be free and do everything that we want to do. Um, and if, but it, if you know what's going on, if you know the truth, if you know, like, for example, if you know that you have something going on with your heart, you'll know when you're overdoing it and you can kind of slow down and you can know what the risks are if you don't slow down.

These are all very, very important things to be able to monitor what's happening within you, because if you can't monitor what's happening within you, then you're basically leaving it up to other people. And you're leaving it up to fate. And fate, fate is a fickle bitch. Okay. Fate is, fate is going to take us all one day, but make sure that you're doing everything you can because every nightmare I have is that I'm going to kill somebody with my vagina.

and I know that's probably not ever going to happen, but it is something that like is such a trope in movies and such a trope in life, like in stories. I've actually written a story about a woman who accidentally kills her husband during sex. And it's a twisted tale and it's really perverted, but it's a trope for a reason because it does happen. So being that it is something I have thought about, I like knowing that we're all taking precautions and knowing what's going on and knowing what could happen because I feel like that's a burden that nobody else should have to bear.

So test, see the doctor, see the dentist, see all the specialists you need to see. And there are clinics out there that will help you. So that's my PSA for today. I got a question from, we'll call him Fitz. I had a question from Fitz. He said, how long did it take? You're happy to talk you into it. And how nervous were you the very first time? Okay. My husband and I, um, decided to swing, um, without truly understanding what the other person was after without truly understanding what we were going to face.

Um, probably let me see, it was 2007, I think when we first started, when we first forayed a couple of times into hotel party life. Um, that being said, that one did not last long. We were probably at it maybe four months before we went to like four events. And then it was like, um, no, we're going to call a halt to this. Our kids were too young. We were too naive. We hadn't had any of the conversation that we needed to have. So 2007, we started the conversation. And then 2021, we started having the conversation again.

We started having the conversation again because of life events that had happened for us, things that had changed within our lives. And I think it took him about nine months to fully convince me that this was something that he wanted me to do. Um, was that it? Yeah, because I believe that the first time I did anything was June of 2022. I met a friend at a hotel and I was not nervous about fucking him. None of my nervousness was caused by that man or that encounter. 100% of my nervousness was for my husband and my marriage. I am not emotionally attached to sex.

And I don't know if I've told you that a hundred times or not, but I'm not emotionally attached to sex. Sex is merely a physical activity like seeing my trainer. It is not something that, especially somebody who's not playing with my brain, is ever going to get to anything inside of me. They're not going to ever reach the emotional depths of me just by fucking me. Intimacy is so much different than sex. And so I was very worried about my husband.

I was very worried that my husband was not going to be able to handle this, despite the fact that he had told me he would, told me he could, told me he would do all of these things, that this was something that he really wanted. It took me a very, very long time to believe him. Not because of the fact that he's not a trustworthy guy, but because of the fact that I didn't know. Okay. This is a man who does not have a vocabulary to explain to me what's going on with him. He either feels well or he does not feel well.

and it is very frustrating for me as a person to try to get him to tell me what is wrong with him. And he has had some health concerns and that is very important to me that I understand what's going on with him so that I can explain it to the doctors if anything happens. This is important to me And because of the fact that he doesn't have the vocabulary to describe that, that seems to be something that he struggles with, being able to name things, name them correctly.

So when he tells me he wants this, I have a little bit of distrust that he doesn't actually mean it that he means he likes the idea of it but the actual participation in it is going to be too much that is where my brain is okay my brain is processing the fact that he says it but does he has he truly defined it has he because i know for me this is not a big deal this is exercise this is going to the gym this is like a transaction i'm not going my husband he's my guy he my husband, he's my guy. He's my partner. He's my one. And I know I'm going to go home and sleep in his bed.

And the only thing that's going to prevent that is him not wanting me to be there. And that's the thought that keeps rumbling around in my brain. That's the part that made me nervous. I wanted to make sure that he was fully defining the emotion that he was going to face in this activity. And the first time we played, we played separately. Thank you. in this activity. And the first time we played, we played separately. And that was probably the greatest cross we had to bear.

The fact that we were not together, the fact that we could not make eye contact, the fact that we could not check in with one another. When my husband and I started playing together, when we started going to the glory holes together, and he was able to see me in that moment, giving pleasure, getting pleasure, doing those things. he was so much more secure in his feelings that this is what he wanted. He was able to connect with me during those moments and see that this was exercise. This was a trainer.

This was pleasure for the sake of pleasure with absolutely no emotional entanglement on my behalf. He was able to see that and it solidified our commitment to one another. And it gave us the opportunity to truly explore the lifestyle. This is, it may have taken him a very long time to talk me into it because I could not get myself to trust the things that he was saying. But every single person is different. Every single person is different. And there are some couples that can't watch each other play, that can't be in the same room, that have to play separately.

Like I told you on the last show that I'd met several couples where they had started out doing things together and then realized that yes, they enjoyed the activity, but they did not enjoy necessarily seeing the activity. My relationship with my husband and our relationship with the lifestyle is different from theirs because there is no one single way to do this. There is no one single way to play. So whatever works for you, whatever rules that you set up. That's how you define how you play. I am very sure that my husband and I, like I have played without my husband since then.

Like for example, um, I've had people come over while he's still at work and I've texted him while he's at work to let him know, Hey, so-and-so is coming over. And, but that is me, including him. It's not like somebody comes over and he doesn't know anything about it. Unless I set it up as a surprise where he comes home and finds me in my bed with a man and he is shocked by it. That hasn't happened yet. I'm sure it will at some point because right now I'm still very much in the, you'll never guess what I did, you know, kind of mentality. Um, like there's, I am very bad at surprises.

I'm very, very bad at, um, uh, gift giving because as soon as I get a gift and I just want to show it to you, I just want to, I just want you to love it. I just want you to see how, how well I did. I may, I may not have mentioned this, but I am not one for anticipation. I love that eureka moment. I love that in all things in my life. So Thank you. love that eureka moment. I love that in all things in my life. So for me to answer this question, honestly, we started the discussion in 2007. We'd never ended up doing anything until June of 2022. So, but our conversation was not ongoing.

It was not steady. I think technically it probably only took him six to nine months to convince me that he meant what he said. And then we began, it took him about six months to convince me he meant what he said. And then about three months for me to get the courage up to actually put the feelers out and get the whole thing done. So that was, that was how that all went down. I hope that answers your question. Thank you for listening to today's episode. I really hope you enjoyed it. If you'd like, you can find my Insta in the description of the show.

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