Friendsgiving party!

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pinup, the Hot Wife Life podcast. On today's podcast, I'm going to talk about a party that I went to that I was unexpectedly surprised by. I'm going to also talk about just one of those things where you're in a situation and you don't know how to get yourself out of it, how to address people when they have a kink that you're not into. I don't know if I'm going to be any good at handling that, but let's, let's. This party that I went to Saturday night was actually really, it was really fun. It was something I wasn't expecting to be fun.

I had a lot of misgivings about this particular party because at one point I thought that the party thrower was the same as this one particular gentleman that had thrown a party that we went to that had ended up causing me a great deal of stress he was a groper kind of thing so I thought that this was the groper throwing this party that he changed his name and turns out it was not him he was somebody completely different and it wasn't until a friend of mine who I have partied with many times reached out to me and said hey I can't wait to see you at this party this weekend.

And she and I got to talking and that became kind of like my relax, like she quelled my anxiety about going to this party. So we ended up going to a party. Now it's a party that is the opposite direction of where we normally go. It was down south. We met a guy. We had actually met the host at a party that we'd gone to with Evening Endeavors. And we had, I don't know that we'd played. He had reached out because he knew the rules. And so we basically went down there and he was throwing a Friendsgiving, which meant that he had turkey and dressing and all this stuff laid out.

And of course, I don't eat at parties. So that to me wasn't like a major draw. And my husband doesn't eat Thanksgiving food, which for him wasn't a major draw. So we went and we were, of course, one of the first people there. And being one of the first people there puts you in a position where the hosts are usually running around still doing things. They're not really super prepared for you to be there. They're, you know, getting their ducks in the row for the night. And then slowly but surely the place started to fill up.

And at first it didn't seem like it was going to be very much luck because the vibe was very subdued. The vibe was very sedate, very calm, and there were a lot of women. Now, here's the thing about the ratio of men to women at a party. Women can come so many fucking times that having more women than men just means that more women aren't getting to come as much as they would like to. The whole reason they got dressed and came out was because they wanted to go out and have a few fucking orgasms and get a few fucks in.

When your ratio of man to woman is lower, it tends to go a little bit like competitive. And so because of that, it's good to have a nice, generous mix of men to women because men might take them longer. They can, there's other things that they can be doing. And women, if you have too many women, you run out of space for everybody to play. And I know for certain that I am one of those people who is going to make it uncomfortable for other women to fuck behind me because I'm going to leave a wet spot. I'm going to leave a wet spot. It doesn't matter what I do.

It doesn't matter what I, how I try. I'm going to leave a fucking wet spot. And I'm a grownup and I know the best ways to prevent them, but that still doesn't prevent it.

So especially this particular party where the, the host didn't do anything to protect the beds they didn't do anything to remove the comforters or position the beds in any way that so it was basically like here we go and my husband and I because of the fact that this party started very fucking late it was very fucking late for us and we didn't have to leave until like an hour and an hour and a half like we didn't have to technically leave until like an hour before the party but we ended up leaving like an hour and a half before the party but it was still late like late to the point that this is the time of night that we're leaving and i would normally be on my back fucking at this point.

So it's late. My husband and I are a little disoriented because we're going and we forgot our play bag, which in our world is tantamount to forgetting that you have children, forgetting that you have dogs. It's just like, it is so ingrained. It is so part of us. It is so part of us going to a party that it is a little bit crazy that we fucking forgot our play bag. So because we had to, we didn't have our play bag, we did not have certain essential supplies. So we were super fucking early to this very late starting party.

So my husband and I actually stopped at a CVS and picked up some, picked up some stuff, picked up some supplies, lube, condoms, breath mints, things that are going to make me feel more comfortable. I didn't have a robe. So we had to pick up this weird wearable blanket, which was super fucking cozy.

I'm not going to lie gonna lie it was kind of nice to have it but it was fun to go and have this experience that we'd never really had before where we were unprepared for where we were headed and had to go and make adjustments but my husband and I are very good at making adjustments making decisions to go and remedy the thing that we have broken and I think that's the thing that keeps us together because our ability to say, let's remedy the thing that we have broken is kind of essential because if you're not willing to fix what you broke or willing to take responsibility for the fact that you broke it, it makes it harder for everyone around you.

So my husband and I both looked at each other and said, yeah, no, no me a copa I don't we don't know who forgot the bag but it got forgotten and together we're going to go and fix this so we stopped at the CVS and we went in and we gathered up our stuff and took our got what we needed and then we continued on to the party when we arrived like I said there wasn't a lot of people there yet. And as they started coming in, I didn't know how successful this party was going to be because it was a lot of women. It was a few men. It was a lot of women. And so then my friend showed up.

My friend, we invited one gentleman that we have partied with many times before and have exchanged multiple party recommendations. And he showed up because we invited him because the host had difficulty because he advertised this party a month in advance. And as the date got closer, other people started putting in their bids for the same weekend.

And when you are up against somebody who has a massive following, and I'm talking about massive, like she's viral, if you will, and she's throwing a party that's like maybe 60 miles from the party you're throwing, you're going to get a lot of people who are going to veer off and go to that party. So he had a lot of people that veered off and went to other parties. And so he was kind of worried about his own ratio. So we invited some gentlemen to join us because that's what we have on hand.

We have the ability to, you know, chat people up and say, Hey, we're going to this party if you're at all interested. So one of the gentlemen that we chatted up, he actually showed up and he came in and we were talking and then my friend who had recommended the party she and i she showed up and we started talking and i love having women in the lifestyle i love having women friends in the lifestyle because i'm going to say something and it's going to read in a negative connotation okay we sat there when we gossiped. And here's the thing about gossip.

Gossip has kept our species alive for hundreds of thousands of years, okay? Gossip is actually what gets us to the right bush so we don't eat poisonous berries. It gets us to stay away from this one particular cave because there's a dangerous animal in there. It gets us to keep away from one particularly dangerous person because other people have crossed their path and now they no longer exist. The thing is, is gossip has been essential. And one of the things I love about having a woman in the lifestyle who goes to parties on her own, she has a read.

She has a read on these parties and she can tell you what's messed up, what's good, who to stay away from, who to be cautious of, parties that have a good atmosphere, parties that leave you a little scared. She has a read on it. She has a read on the people who are throwing the parties and the things that have created drama in the party scene that we're all in. She knows some, she spilled some tea and it was fucking delightful because here's the thing.

a person in the lifestyle I want to promote a drama free party atmosphere I want to have a no bullshit exchange where everybody feels safe and everybody feels comfortable and nobody's being ostracized and I want everybody to get along okay and because of the fact that I live in this desire for a drama-free existence and I will leave any party that doesn't feel drama-free, it's interesting to know backstories because this major incident happened around here and it kept happening over and over again because of one particular person that was upset with a breakup.

And she ended up causing a lot of havoc around our area.

And because of that, I was unaware that some of the stuff that was going on, I was contributing to that bad behavior, not directly, but indirectly and allowing it to flourish so it helped me to understand and know hey this is why the party scene is like this right now and gives us more of a general understanding of the of basically the piles of shit that are sitting around waiting for us to get stepped in you know so I had a great time talking to her going over the party scene the people that we knew in common you know the stuff and where everybody was located and what parties were what and how strange things had happened and it was just a lot of fucking fun to have the conversation but that was now it's getting real late okay now it's getting super late and I haven't even started playing yet because we haven't gone over the rules because he's still waiting for more people to show up and finally he we've been there about an hour and a half almost two hours and finally he goes over the rules over the rules.

Finally, he goes over the starting gun. So I go and immediately start playing with the guy that I invited to the party. We played for a while. And then I had another gentleman come in. And I played with him while I was sucking another gentleman's dick. And my deep throat's not broken, okay?

I really just think that there are certain dicks you're not going to be able to swallow because round peg square hole you know just doesn't sometimes they just don't fit and so I but I was able to deep throat and I was really really proud of myself I was like I thought this was broken and of course I made kind of a big deal about it but whatever and then there was another gentleman and I mean I like, I think I slept with I think I fucked like five guys that night, sucked their dicks. And then, you know, I think it was my body count that night was about five guys. And it was it was a good time.

But it was just starting to get really rolling. When I looked at my husband and said, we've got to go. I'm starting to get a headache. I need to eat. And I tried to eat the food that was there. And the first bite, like there was a bone. And I'm like, I just, I can't. So we ended up leaving so that we could go get a single one and then head home. Because as it was, we didn't get home until two o'clock in the morning, which when your husband got up at four o'clock in the morning to go to work, that's a very long span of time for him to be awake and behind a wheel.

I'm bummed that the party started so late that we didn't actually get to really truly participate a lot. And I'm also grateful that we went and we had a really good time. It was a much smaller period of fun than I would have wanted. But at the same time, it was still a lot of fun. And it was great times. And it was dick swallowing and pussy licking. And it was all the things. It was orgasms and, you know, spray everywhere. It was a lot of fucking fun. Short-lived, but fun.

And I oftentimes feel guilty for boning out early, but I'm also one of those people who's like, I understand that there's always a next party and it's going to be okay if I leave this one early. We left that one early and my husband and I went home and we had a really great time. And then, but the party overall was kind of like, it was a good time. I had, I had a great, I'm glad that we went.

okay so it is fucking uncomfortable to get to not yuck somebody's yum okay it's really hard to be in that non-judgmental state when something is thrown at you in a certain way and the thing is is that this is not really my story. This happened to my friend Scoot. She was approached by somebody in her messages to do something she was really not interested in. But the way that they, because of the fact that they knew that this was a very hard ask, they offered her a great deal of money in the initial ask. Instead of softening the ground, they literally went to this weird place.

And it was awkward that there was money presented as part of this ask. I've been offered money to fuck people or to play with people or to do all sorts of things. And I'm weirded out by it. I'm not sure what you're trying. And if it's a kink, that's fine. Just own the kink. Own the kink before you basically tell somebody you think that they're a sex worker. Because here's the deal. I'm not. I'm not a sex worker. I don't make money off of having sex. Because you know what they say, when you make money doing what you love, you never work a day in your life.

But if you turn your passions into your job, you burn out on your passions. And I'd rather never burn out on having sex. I'd rather never burn out on fucking. That is my take on this whole situation. I would rather that never fucking happen. So we went, so the fact that this approach came with this wrapping paper of an offer to pay didn't help. Now all of a sudden you're trying very hard not to be judgmental, but at the same time you're having a lot of feelings about being monetized like that. And what are they trying to say? What are they trying? Because here's the thing.

Throughout the ages, money has been used as a weapon to get people to do things that they do not want to do. And it is a type of coercion. And as a type of coercion, it is not something that I think gives full consent. So if you're offering money, if it's a kink, state it up front. Okay. If, if you're a sugar daddy, if you like to give women money, if you like to give people money, that's fine. But I am not able to view it as anything other than a judgment of me if you do not tell me what it's doing for you.

I'm not able to see it as anything other than some sort of a dispersion of my character, that kind of thing. And I like, I'm going to take offense to it because of the fact that I don't like being coerced. It is not something that is going to do it for me. But if we're playing in the realm of somebody's kink, and we're playing in the realm of somebody's arousal, then I can play along in certain aspects. I don't think I'd ever take your money, but I can play along.

So how you're approaching people with your kinks is just as important as being approached with a kink and not yucking someone's yum, not being judgmental about their particular fetish, because nobody wants to feel judged by something that they're into but at the same time a lot of times people will throw their kinks out there like they want to disgust you like they want to turn you off like they want to shock you and some of that might be defense mechanism.

And some of it might be that they really are into this and they are just shooting their best shot because they know that they're not going to get a lot of opportunity to do it again. It's very hard to navigate the scene if you have very specific desires. And if you have very specific desires that do not get a lot of respect, it's hard. And I understand that. And we kind of got to do our best not to yuck somebody's yum, not to be judgmental, not to be rushing. But the fact is, sometimes you have a kink that just is not something that other people take kindly to.

And I'm doing my best to try I'll see you next time. a kink that just is not something that other people take kindly to. And I'm doing my best to try to give people the advice that take a deep breath before you respond. Take a deep breath before you, but also you have to come, you have to have a kink and be respectful of it. You have to be respectful of the fact that this is something that you want and this is something that you would like to participate with other people. And in order to do that, you have to respect your kink. You cannot use it for shock and awe.

This is not something that you are trying to be the kinkiest person on the planet, okay? This is not something where you're like, oh yeah, I like this because this isn't a bragging moment. If this is something you're truly fucking into, then be fucking into it and handle it with respect. Handle it with gentleness and don't try to throw it like a fucking grenade at other people. It's not okay. I mean, if, and that's kind of, sometimes when I get these messages, when I get these messages of people who are like, they want something like two girls in a cup. Okay.

I think that they want me to berate them. They want me to be disgusted and blow up at them. They want me to be judgmental of them. And that is actually their kink. They're not actually into this thing that is, you know, that I'm not into. They just want me to break my rules and be judgmental of them and be harsh in my judgment of them. That is abuse of your, of a kink. I'm sorry. It just is. If you're trying to do it for shock and awe, it's not okay. And you need to be honest and direct and say, I really want you to yell at me.

I really want you to get disgusted by me and pissed off at me and berate me. And that's okay. People, there's a pot for every cup of tea, okay? There's everybody, there's somebody out there who wants to play the same game you do. And whether you know it or not, you're not alone. So instead of approaching people with, by weaponizing kinks, maybe we approach people with honesty. We approach people with the thing that we're truly looking for. And I just, I don't know.

Because anybody who wants to weaponize a kink, who doesn't want to treat it kindly, who doesn't want to, because when you weaponize a kink like that, when you weaponize two girls in a cup, when you weaponize that kind of play, it makes it that much harder for the person who honestly has that desire to be able to talk to people about it. It's not, it's not kind and we need to be kind because even if something is not your cup of tea, nobody, you don't have to participate. You can use your words. You can say no.

And them saying that they want you to do something with them, kind of a compliment, but I appreciate it. Thank you. But no, that's not my cup of tea at all. So I appreciate it. I really hope you find what you're looking for. But if you are looking for me to berate you, that's a kink I could be into. Sure. Thank you. I appreciate it. I really hope you find what you're looking for. But if you are looking for me to berate you, that's a kink I could be into. Sure, why not? I could totally tell you that I find you gross and disgusting. If that's your kink, if that's going to amp up your desire.

But throwing a grenade at me and weaponizing something that you don't actually have any affinity towards is unkind to other people who do. I don't know if that helped. I don't know if that was a good or bad, but it's the truth. And it's kind of the thing that I want us all to lead with is a little bit of kindness, a little less judgment.

And those of you who are weaponizing something to get a reaction let's not do that because it's gonna cause damage to somebody else thank you so much for joining me today on the pineapple pinup the hot wife life if you have any questions if you have any comments if you have anything you want to share hit me up at pineapple pinup pod at gmail.com or on any of my dms on my socials they're listed in the show description and again if you find yourself in the mood to shop for a loved one this holiday season head on over to privateadventures.net and let them know that I sent you with the promo code PINEAPPLEPINUP.

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