Favorite Positions? What does that even mean?

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pinup, the Hot Wife Life podcast. On today's podcast, I want to talk about positions, all kinds of positions. Okay. I want to talk about positions. I want to talk about how some positions work and some positions just don't work, but it depends on who you're with. It depends on the size, the shape, the whatever. Every position is going to be different Thank you. on the size, the shape, the whatever. Every position is going to be different when you're playing with different people. So let me give you an example.

Jay, he would get me on my side and straddle one of my legs and then wrap his, wrap my other leg around his hip. And then he would fuck me in that position. And every move he made went right across my G spot, right across my G spot, waking it up, making it pay attention and making me come in technicolor showers. He made that position was one of the ones that would be one of the messiest for me. Because he just got me there every single time. Now Jeff is such a pro at waking up my G-spot. Literally getting in there with the hook.

saying, you know, come on out, come play with me so that my G spot is so alive and so ready to go that any position he puts me in, he can make me come. And he has actually made me come so hard and so long that it has like, he's known for the five minute orgasm for a reason. Um, with Josh, that's my new bull. Um, we're still figuring things out. There are some positions that absolutely, absolutely sublime, absolutely work for us, absolutely 100%. But then there's others that don't. Like that position where he's straddling my one leg and then the other one's wrapped around his hip.

That one doesn't work for us. He doesn't have the right angle to get in there and hit everything the way that Jay does. They're different because I don't know if you know this, but every cock and every pussy are different. They're individual. There's no such thing as an identical because everyone had, And it's different at different times, too. Like, it's just every time you have sex, it's kind of all brand new. So, but he is like, he, there is one position that he gets me in that is just fantastic. He lays me on my stomach and then I slightly elevate my ass. He straddles my thighs.

And then because my legs are closed, I am extraordinarily tight. And then he moves that huge dick in and out of my pussy. And there's so much friction and there is so much rubbing and there is so much uh it just like oh it is awesome but there are also positions that my husband really really likes and he wants to see me in he wants to see me in these positions and i do my best to kind of take let's call it direction from my husband so that that way he can see the things that he's anxious to see. And my husband really, really wants to see me do anal.

And I talked to Josh about it because I, we saw, we met up over the weekend and I was talking to him about, um, you know, new things, like let's try some stuff. And he literally, I started talking about anal and he told me, well, I'm not really good at anal. And I asked him, is it because you're so huge? And it is. It's because he is so fucking huge. And mind you, that's an intimidation factor for me. Absolutely intimidated by the size of his cock. Like the idea of sticking his cock in my ass is just, it's a little bit flabbergasting. Okay. I am not a, I'm not like Nikki Glaser. Okay.

I am not all anal all the time. I am more of a, let's experiment with anal, but I am not like find my A spot and let's do this thing. Mind you, I have had anal experiences that have been outrageously awesome. And I've also had anal experiences that have been just downright painful. And the fact is, is that you're dealing with so much. Okay. And for the time being, I don't know when I'm going to be able to give my husband that anal that he's looking for because I won't do it at parties.

Absolutely will not do it at parties, but I have to find somebody that I can do it with at my house that, and I don't, I don't know when or if I've got to really like concentrate and get in to the, the mindset of it before I'm going to be able to do it. And I have to stop being intimidated by girth or whatnot. And just, you know, but it takes time. It takes time to prep and it takes time to get in. And then it takes time to get comfortable. And then it's so much time that I could be orgasming if they were just in my vagina. Let's be honest.

I'm a girl who likes to orgasm and I know I'm going to get there vaginally. I know it. So anyway, so for, I am trying, I'm trying. Um, so I do have a really hard time with people who ask me, what's your favorite position? Cause I'm sorry. I don't know. I don't know what my favorite position is. It really does depend on the cop that I'm with. It depends on who and what And just other, there's so many factors. Like one time you can hold my leg, you can cross my legs and I'll be super tight.

And then other times I can't cross my legs because my hip is like aching or something because I'm fucking old. Is that sad? That's so sad. Anyway. So there are times when certain positions aren't going to work. And for me, it's not about being in crazy positions. It's not about being in, it's about that cock and finding the way that that cock is going to drive up my pleasure and his pleasure. Because the more I'm pleasured, the more he's pleasured. And I know that that sounds selfish, but I'm sorry, guys. I'm a girl. I get to come as many times as I want.

And you guys just get to come the once, maybe twice if we're lucky. And I've been very lucky lately because the last two dates I had, both of them came and then came again. And it was awesome. So I get to go two rounds instead of just one. Actually, technically I get to go three rounds because then my husband fucks me right after and it's fucking awesome.

Because again, I'm a girl, I get to come as many times as i want anyway um so everything is just it's it's dependent on the person that you're with and the physicality of both of you and the situations that you're in and like finding that right. So when it's, so when we talk about positions, it's very likely that if there's a position you hit with one person, it's probably going to hit differently with another one. I am an advocate of trying, experimenting, figuring things out, investigating, investigating what makes that cock fit that pussy perfectly.

I love figuring out who's in control, who's on top, who's on the bottom, what's going on. I love all that. And all of that is amazing to me. And right now I'm kind of in that period with my newest soul where we're finding so many, many things about each other and about how we fit together. Um, I actually got an email from a gentleman who asked me a question, which I will be covering in the question section today.

And he, after I answered his question, we kind of got, we went, we were going back and forth talking and he was explaining to me the way that they do the lifestyle is very, very different from the way that I do the lifestyle. Because I straight up asked, I said, how do you, how do you meet people like that? And, um, that's the best part about this is that the lifestyle is as individual as the people who do it. And we are all, we may be a group, but there are so many different ways to approach this.

And as long as you and your partner are discussing what's right for you and you and your partner are in agreement as to what's right for you, then this lifestyle can be that. As long as you have your boundaries in place and you know what your rules are. Now, that being said, in my next segment, I'm actually going to get into how that can go, how things can kind of go awry. The lifestyle is built to be a place where you have boundaries. It's actually all that you need to be in this lifestyle is to have common boundaries that are agreed to with you and your partner.

And as long as you stay within those boundaries, then this lifestyle can be everything you want it to be. But just like anything that doesn't have boundaries, it's going to get ruined. Your mental health, whatever, boundaries are there for your protection and you need to, you need to use those boundaries, instill them and utilize them because you never want to be in a position where you and your partner have crossed into something that makes this lifestyle no longer what you want it to be. But let's talk about that next. Let's be honest, this is a very dangerous play.

This is a very dangerous lifestyle. And I'm not talking about just mental, physical, whatever. It's dangerous in all aspects. It's dangerous emotionally. It's dangerous physically. It's dangerous health, health wise. It's it's, there's a lot of danger in this. And one of the ways that it is dangerous is I'll see you next time. health, health wise, it's, it's, there's a lot of danger in this. And one of the ways that it is dangerous is emotionally. Okay. So I got, there was a different listener who sent me a message and he wanted to talk about cut cleanup.

He was very, very interested in cut cleanup because he himself fantasized about the submissiveness of cut cleanup, of being basically beta to somebody else's alpha to being forced to clean up the mess that somebody else left just because she wanted it clean. Um, being submissive to her being submissive to someone else, because you let your woman be fucked by that man. That was all very erotic and very mentally arousing to this gentleman. So he convinced his fiance to, that they should experiment with this, that they should try this.

And she went out and found a gentleman in their friend circle that was quite a bit older than her. And I'm not going to get into what was going on in her head because I have no idea. Okay. But, and I'm not going to get into the whole daddy issues and I'm not going to get into the whole, you know, inside of our friend group kind of thing, because when you play very close to home, everything kind of hits a lot closer to home. So, and I'm not talking about, I'm not talking about location wise. I'm talking about when you, it's that old saying, if you shit where you eat, you know?

So when you find your partners within your place, within your, within your friendship circles, that can lead to more drama than you need. And the thing about the gentleman I had spoke, whose question I'm going to answer in a little bit is he loved it to be drama free. He went away from home, at least 60 miles, never played with the same person twice. Those were the rules that he set in place because he wanted his play to be playful, to be drama free. Now, um, this other person who was, who had gotten his fiance to agree to do this. And she went and found somebody in their friendship circle.

So now it's already rife with drama. And now it's already rife with a lot of issues that can't, that lead to other things. Okay. Other feelings, other emotions, because if you already have a fondness or a kinship, you're going to have those, you're going to have more of those feels come up. And so basically their relationship is kind of on the rocks because he decided he wanted to stop and she didn't want to stop. So where do we go at that point? Where do we go if one person wants to stop and one person doesn't? We come back to the fundamentals of this lifestyle. Consent.

You have to have consent within yourself. You have to have consent within your couple. And then you have to have consent from the people that you play with. It's like dropping a pebble in the lake. It's going to ripple outwards. And your consent needs to go every single one of those ripples. Because that's how you do this, like grown adults. That's how you do growed up play with growed up people. Okay? Everybody's on the same page. Everybody's consenting. That is why in this particular scenario where this gentleman said, I want to stop and she kept going, that became cheating.

And now he's in the process of rebuilding that relationship because of that infidelity that he brought on himself is the way he feels now. it sounds to me based on the story that he told me that there needs to be, there needed to be more conversation, more expectation, more definition in what was trying to be accomplished. That being said, it is impossible to know how you're going to react when you're orgasming and your body is being flooded with dopamine and oxytocin and all these love hormones and you're feeling magnificent. And sometimes problems. Yeah.

flooded with dopamine and oxytocin and all these love hormones, and you're feeling magnificent. And sometimes that pleasure and that well-being that comes over you translates itself into some sort of an intimacy, some sort of an emotional, and as you can probably tell, that's not my strong suit. It turns into something emotional.

And that's not something that I really struggle with because for me, intimacy comes from doing the dishes together and it comes from doing the laundry together and it comes from cooking dinners together and it comes from building a life together that's intimacy someone is just procreation if i'm if i'm honest it's literally exercise it's it's an exercise exercise in its cardio, it's physical, and it is divine. And I love my workouts. So that's where my mind is. Okay. My mind is definitely not in the realm of this person completes me because I know where I'm sleeping tonight.

I know where I'm sleeping tomorrow night. I know where I'm sleeping every single night by him because we're in this together. does that mean that there will be no drama and there will be no emotion? Probably not. But my, I know in my heart of hearts that this is the man that I want to be with. So for me, making the choice between this lifestyle and him is very, very simple because that's basically what this, this individual's relationship is coming to.

Do you, you need to choose, you need to choose whether it's more important to have this person that you're fucking or or whether it's more important to keep the relationship that you guys have been building together. So in that mindset, in that thought process, what's the most important thing, the lifestyle or the life? And I can't answer that for anyone other than myself. I can't answer that for anyone other than other than myself because of the fact that it is an individual decision for each person.

And if you have found something in the lifestyle that's more important to you than the life you've built, then you need to redefine with your partner. And that's, that's the basis. That's, that's the thing. Defining with your partner, what the boundaries are, what the parameters are, where we're going to stop and start. Now, one thing I cannot stand is when I break a rule that I was never told was a rule. Okay. I can't stand that. You can't set up rules after I've broken them unless we presented as this was, I, this was more of a problem for me than I had anticipated.

So we need to, this is something that can't happen in the future. Okay. Because I did not deal with it well. That's perfect. That's exactly how you should approach that. But if you have resentments towards me because I did something that I didn't know was causing you discomfort, then that's not on me. That's on you. So just remember, you have to be fair because you can't be an emotional landmine. You can't have anger for something that people didn't know was going to be angering to you. Okay. So be fair, be nice, be fair.

When you communicate with one another, make sure that you're not doing it to be emotionally manipulative. communicate with each other because you need to know, you have to know where the other person is coming from. You have to know because it doesn't work unless we're, unless we're both on the same page. It's a meeting of the minds. It's a, basically a contract. And that's where it all comes into play. So in this particular instance, this man's desire for cuckolding, for cleanup, for just that submissive moment became the instigation for his ultimate strife right now.

And he feels like he brought this on himself. And that feels unfair to him because it may have been poorly defined parameters. It may have been poorly defined boundaries, and it may have been something that she wanted from the beginning. there's no way to know because we're not in their relationship, but these are pitfalls that are out there that you need to try to avoid by expressing yourselves and making sure that you're not, that your partner is not somebody who is overly committed to the emotion behind the sexual act.

Because when you're very committed to sex being an emotional connection, an emotional thing, you're going to find a lot more of these pitfalls out there. You're going to find that if you're not looking at it like exercise, if you're not looking at it, if you're looking at it as intimacy, which is fine, and that's absolutely, but if you're looking at it as intimacy and creating intimacy with someone, that's probably going to lead you down some roads that are a little bit more drama filled than if you're looking at it like exercise.

So just know who you are and be able to articulate that to your partner so that they're not blindsided by feels that pop up, by emotions that come up It's, it's only fair if you're expecting them to be emotionally honest and you're expecting, then you have to do the same. If you have to know who you are enough to say, I get very emotional when I have sex, or you could be like me. I do not get very emotional when I have sex. If for me, sex is not an emotion. It is, it is a, it's exercise and it's hand fucking tastic. So I think that's why this lifestyle works especially well for me.

And sometimes things will happen that are not within our control. And this lifestyle has killed more than one relationship. Okay. It can be the death of a relationship. It can also be the bonus to any relationship. It can also be a lot of different things. And it depends on the health and strength of the couple doing it and what they can handle and where the respect for each other starts and ends. So if you respect someone and you respect your relationship and there's conflict between one of you wanting to stop and one of you not wanting to stop, you have to decide what's more important.

And where do you want to sleep at the end of the day? Who do you want to sleep with at the end of the day? Who do you want to make dinner with? Who do you want to do the laundry with? And who do you want to do the dishes with? This is all super fucking important because if you can answer those questions, and it's that person, then that brief moment of ecstatic hormonal bliss is not going to sway you from doing the dishes, doing the laundry and making dinner.

And when you're answering the question between stop or go, if the one person wants to stop and the other one wants to go, then that's why you guys have to come together to make the decision. And that's what's the most important part of this. By now it's so clear, but this is a very, very risky, risky game. It's a very risky lifestyle. It's risky in a lot of different ways. Risky health-wise, it's risky emotionally, heart-wise. It's risky. It's just a risky life.

You put your life on the line when you're meeting strangers and you're doing, you know, you have to, and a lot of people have to hide that relationship or that, that lifestyle choice because it's frowned upon by all of their peers or whatnot. It's a risky life being outed, being, being found out. Like there are so many risks involved that it's hard, especially when you're the kind of, like if you're anything like me and you want to live your life out loud, being in the lifestyle with my husband, it's awesome for us. It doesn't mean it's going to be awesome for everyone.

I come back to it again and again and again. I can't help harping on the same freaking issues because you have to have consent within the couple before you can have consent with others. It starts from within you and then it goes into the couple and see, this is, this is why I keep harping on it because finding that person that you can go and play with that, finding that person who you can go and build this fantastic lifestyle with, it's awesome.

And the people who are doing it with all of the safety barriers in mind, like that other couple who go away from, who drive away from town and like meet up and meet only once. They're so drama adverse that they're not, that they're playing very, very safely. And it's kind of like, where is your safety? Where's your comfort level? All right. Today's question is from his and hers and they, he wanted to know how often I get tested medically. Um, and if I get medically cleared before every interaction now, no, I do not get medically cleared between every interaction.

I try to get tested every three to six months. And it depends on how risky I've been. If I will go closer to three months, but really technically I play very, very safely. I only use condoms when I play. Well, I use condoms when I play exclusively. Unless I have decided that this one person is going to be allowed to go condom free, and then we get tested beforehand, and then we both agree that we're not playing with anyone else without a condom, except for my, me with my husband.

And so because of the fact that we define that and there's a lot of trust there, but I still get tested because you never can tell when somebody's going to lie to you, but I try to do everything as safely as I possibly can. Okay. I try to do everything as safely as I possibly can. I meet people in public. I blah. You know, the things that I do. Um, what's really funny is that my, I go to the doctor and I am very honest with my doctor because I'm honest with you. Why wouldn't I be honest with my doctor? And I told her very specifically that I was leading a very risky lifestyle.

But the funny thing about it is I'm not really doing a whole lot of risk to like catching something. My problem is I usually get UTIs because of the, because of using the condos. So I do struggle with a lot of UTIs, um, in this particular realm because of the fact that I am engaged in a risky lifestyle and you need to do what's right for you to protect yourself in any way that you can. And that is not a judgment against people who like to play, who like to breed, who like to play breed and breed and all the breeding. That's not a diss against that.

If that is your kink and you are doing it with all of the consent that you, then good on you. But for me, my home, my relationship, it requires that I take more precaution, that I don't just play willy nilly. I don't ever let anyone come in me unless we've gone through the whole, had the whole conversation, done the whole testing, blah. Only one time did I fault on that. And it was because this guy misinterpreted what I said, and then he ripped off the condom and came inside of me. And that was a while back. I've been tested since.

And that same gentleman has come to several functions that I've been at since then. And he is always asking me if he can cream pie me. And I tell him no, because here's the thing. We are living in a very litigious society. So when a party host states that there's no intercourse without condoms. They mean it because you're not going to be able to say that they said that it was fine because that's not true. In a party scene, you need to be as safe as you possibly can and that just needs to be the rule and nobody's should be allowed to break it.

And nobody should be allowed to do anything outside of that realm because that is the rule of the party. So this gentleman asking to be asking constantly, um, many times over that to me is so disrespectful because I've told you my answer. You didn't like my answer. And so you keep asking and my answer is not going to change in this particular instance. Now I understand people who say, who ask for permission and then ask for permission again, and then ask for permission again, because when people stop asking for permission and just start doing things that also leads to its own discomfort.

So we, I don't like to be put in a position where I have to keep giving you the same no over and over again. You should just understand that that's not in the cards, especially because he keeps asking me in party situations. And that to me is just very uncomfortable because there are rules and I can't do this lifestyle. I cannot do this lifestyle without boundaries. Okay. Because when you don't have the boundaries, when you don't know where your limits are, that's when things go badly. That's when emotions get involved and hearts get broken and health is at stake.

And I need rules and I need those rules to protect me and what's important. And that I think is what this is all about. Thank you so much for listening to today's or this week's episode of Pineapple Pinup The Hot Wife Life. You can always reach me at my email, pineapple pinup pod at gmail.com. You can also check out my socials. I had some difficulty with the, there, there was an update going on with where I post my podcast. And so I wasn't sure if I was going to be able to get my recording up this week. And I was able to tell everybody on my socials that, Hey, I'm not sure.

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