Cuddly in the cold

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Welcome to the Pineapple Pinup, the Hot Wife Life podcast. Oh, on this particular episode, I go through a random date night with Mubble. I go through an end of year reflection on what this year has meant to me. I'm going, I got a question about how to approach this with a wife who's only had one partner. And I give you a recommendation from Private Adventures for as you move into the next year, what you need to stock your kits, privateadventures.net. And remember, if you want to support the show, use the promo code PINEAPPLEPINUP10 as you check out.

a lot of the thrill for my husband is anticipation. It is future casting, what is going to happen, and then seeing that fantasy fulfilled. A lot of our play comes with fantasies about what he'd like to see me do the next time that I play. So a lot of times when my husband and I are fooling around, he He tells me things that he wants to hear, or what he'd like to see, or how to get a photo of a certain thing, or a video of a certain position. And he spends a lot of time thinking about what it is that he wants curated. It is for me, super turn on. I love hearing my husband's direction.

I love having him direct a scene before a scene begins. One of the things that my husband really, really likes is he likes me to tell the person that I'm with how I want to be fucked. He wants me to tell them the person that I'm with, how I want to be fucked. He wants me to tell them when they are hitting the right spot, right there. And he wants me to tell them when I need it harder or faster or just keep going. I'm almost there. Or the creme de resistance. You notice I say creme and the... Anyway, is I'm coming. When I tell somebody that I am coming, it is his favorite thing.

Followed closely by, give me your come. He really, really likes the attention to that ending, the attention to that desire, that attention to just all of it. It is for him probably as good as the act itself. The sounds that I'm making, the words that I'm using are part and parcel with making everything just a little bit hotter, everything just a little bit. Now, Now, he also wants me to tell whoever I'm with, how I like it. And it depends on the day. but I am a girl who really, really enjoys things a bit rough, a bit primal, a bit aggressive.

Like that feeling that you get when you want something so badly and you finally have it in your grasp and all you want to do is tear it apart. That's what I'm looking for. That deep primal urge, that deep, like soul exposing, animalistic, like gripping and choking and it's, it's all way hot. One of the things that I also really enjoy is when it is a little bit gentlemanly, a little bit soft, a little bit tucking the hair behind the ear and pulling gently as we slowly slide together. There's something very anticipatory about that.

The problem is, is that as a greedy girl, most of the time I get the gentlemanly thing, and then I just want them to go crazy. I want to push somebody past their limits. I want to push them into that realm, into that space where they are in the moment so hard and so deep that the, there is nothing between them and the animal inside them, that this is pure animal pleasure being evoked from genital the genital impact. And I love a firm grip and I love being put somewhere and being forced to stay somewhere. And it's for me, there's something very primal in the depths of my DNA.

Probably one of the problems that this all stems from is when I was very young, I actually watched Daryl Hannah's Clan of the Cave Bear. Daryl Hannah's Clan of the Cave Bear, when I was very young, and there's this scene where the guy comes and he claps his hands together, and then he turns, and then he pulls them, and it basically is sign language for, we're gonna fuck now. not your choice, not your right, but we're going to fuck now. And because I saw that at such a young age and it was so very, very primal. It was so very, very animal. It was so very base human.

Um, it made an impact on me and I am just probably one of the reasons why doggy style appeals to me so much. I don't know, but it was very formative, I guess. And so the last meeting I had with my bull, it was very cold at my house. Very cold at my house. We had, I'd been baking and we turned on the air conditioner because we're still in that twisty mode between not quite cold enough, not quite hot enough. And then the next day it got very cold. And I didn't realize that the heat was not on.

So when he showed up, we were cold and we went up to the bedroom and literally just crawled under the blankets to get warm with one another. And we were chatting while we were trying to heat up and it was, I was recording it and it was all very awkward and weird. And I was like, okay, I'm turning off the, I'm turning off the recording. But, um, my husband, when he came home, he was, we were talking about what had happened and he said, why are there two videos? Because normally I don't shut it off in the middle. And I was explaining to him that we were just so cold.

And then we ended up having a very short but effective date together. He and I, I was chatty and he was there for it. And it was very good. And when I showed and I told my husband very specifically that all the things that he had requested that I say, I did. I put together the script without it being a script. You know what I mean? I used the words that he had planted in my head at the moments when they were appropriate to use. And it was very steamy. It was nice. It was so good. And, um, my husband has a, okay. So he is the husband of a squirter. And so he understands the mess.

So he likes it when I keep to my side of the bed and do not defile his. so during during the course of this very like very quick but feisty fuck date we had actually gotten onto the wrong side of the bed and left quite a mess on my husband's side of the bed and when my husband came up that night, he was like, what did you do? And I was like, but it was funny because Josh had actually pointed out, he's like, oops, we made it to the wrong side of the bed.

And it was very funny to me that my husband then came and had comments about it because it was, it was one of those moments in time when I'll see you next time. me that my husband then came and had comments about it because it was, it was one of those moments in time when the, when everybody knows what's going to happen and it's kind of funny and it's like, because as a woman sleeping in the wet spot, I know it well. I know it very well. And it's not awesome. I mean, it's not great.

And I do my best to mitigate the wet spots, especially after a date midweek, because there's not a lot of time to do a full bed change. So when stuff like that happens, it makes my heart happy because then I didn't have to sleep in the wet spot that night. And that's part of the reason why my husband is like, keep it to your side of the bed. So, um, that was just a thrill for me. So there were many things, there were many high points in the last date that I had with Josh.

And it was great because he and I were very connected and he was fucking me in a way that he was driving into me and I was taking all of it. And it was very, very, I was, okay. He takes me in this position where he is straddling both my thighs and I am laying face down. And I raise my ass just the tiniest little bit so that every, every morsel of him can get as deep as fucking possible so that I don't have any worry that I am not being stretched to the hilt. He is, and in that position, he is driving so hard and it is taking me to different realms. I love that position with him.

There are positions that I love with each and every one of my bulls. There are positions that I prefer at different times. I really like when I am, when it's been a long day, come on, I'm going to pillow princess the shit out of that missionary with my legs up. Come on, man, let's do this thing. And then there are times when I am feeling very submissive and I want that doggy style. I want that grip in my hair and that grip on my tit and just pulling me back into every forceful motion. There are times when that is everything.

There are certain bulls that when they take me on my side, one leg straight, one leg bent, they're straddling the straight thigh. That is the move that makes my G-spot sing when spray, really. It doesn't do a lot of singing. It just does a lot of waterworks. And then there are times when there are other bulls that the position is me on my back, them curled up under my legs around my side. That one is a very interesting position because it puts pressure on different areas depending on how they tilt their hips. And I don't have much I can do except sort of like grip them with my legs.

It's very, that one's a very interesting position for me. And I find it just kind of, it's weirdly fierce and intimate at the same time because he has access to so much of my upper body that way. And he has access to so much of like, and he's not putting as much strain on his entire body. He's mostly driving from his hips. And it is, I find it really fascinating how a different position with a different, with each individual guy does different things and how one particular move that one person does, it doesn't translate to a different person.

And I know it's all about shape and size and whatever. And, you know, the, the flange and all that good stuff. I understand biology, but I also understand that sometimes it's about how that person feels in that position. What's your power position? What's the position that gives you the most amount of pleasure because you are in control of what you are accomplishing? That's an interesting question for all of you. What is your power position? What is the position you truly enjoy using because Because it gives you that deep sense of everything that you want from sex.

So, we are coming into the last of the year. We are approaching the finish line of 2024. I am also approaching a finish line. In January, I turned 50, which has brought up a lot for me. It's brought up a lot of questions about what my life has kind of boiled out to. And I gotta say, I like it. I like where I am. I like who I am. I like what I'm doing. I like the fact that I am approaching half a century with some wisdom, some creativity, some joy, and the fact that my husband and I have found footing together in the lifestyle has been a blessing. It's been a godsend.

The fact that we have found something together that is giving us new lease on life, new regenerative, it's awesome. And I realized that as we are finishing up the crazy time of the year with all the parties and the cookies and the cooking and the marathons of religion and all this other stuff, that I am grateful to be walking into 2025 from a place of real authenticity. I feel like I am authentically me. I feel like I am telling my truth through this podcast. Thank you all for listening.

I feel like I'm telling my truth through the lifestyle, being honest about my body's needs and wants and feeling no guilt over what it is that I desire and the fantasies that me and my husband share. I love the fact that this year my creative endeavors led me to making pineapple ornaments for my tree and my creativity led me to doing parties and creating the same kind of atmosphere that I'm looking for for other people. I love the fact that this year has brought me to a place in my life where I look around and I see honest-to-God progress, honest-to-God development, true forward motion.

And I love that this experiment into the lifestyle has created an opportunity for my husband and I to be truly honest with one another about so many things. And the fact that it has opened up the communication in all aspects of our relationship is truly gratifying. And I just want to take this moment as we approach the end of the year. And I know that this is a crazy time for all of us. And we're coming up on New Year's Eve. And please be safe out there. I know that there's going to be a lot of parties going on, but there's also going to be a lot of amateur night drinking.

Amateur night drinking usually leads to a lot of amateur night driving and amateur night driving is dangerous for everyone. So please do everything you can to be safe. Um, but as we approach this new year, as we approach this, it's kind of a milestone guys, 2025, come on, it's quarter of the way through the 2000s. Let's take a minute and breathe that all in. Um, we are looking at the future in such a way that it gives me such hope. It gives me such hope for my relationship, for my life with my husband.

Now there's some scary stuff, but at the same time, I'm trying to live right here in the present. I'm trying to realize that what I have right here is the gift. It is the gift of my relationship blossoming, the gift of my social life blossoming, the gift of so many things in my world blossoming. And I'd like to thank all of you in this moment of reflection for coming along for the ride, for finding something in this that you find valuable because this is something that I really, really enjoy.

And I am, what I'm trying to say is that I'm very grateful for every one of the listeners who have come along on this journey with me, who have decided that they'd like to spend half an hour to 45 minutes a week with me to listen to my stories, to listen to my jumble of thoughts. And I am taking this moment to thank every single one of you for listening and every single one of you who've reached out to me for reaching out to me to let me know what it means to you, to give me the courage to keep going. And I really want to take this into the new year and create even more.

So I know that this is a little maltsy, whatever, but I thank you all for coming along on this journey. so so let me tell talk to you about an email I got I'm going to kind of condense it down to the highlights um there's a man a man who has, um, particular fetishes. His three fetishes are, um, seeing girls smoking cigarettes, uh, cum swall, and threesomes. He and his wife are the only partners that they've ever had. And the main issues that he has is... Okay, so here are his questions.

The main issue I have with it is, if she gives into my desire to fuck another guy is one, how traumatized would she be due to never having been with another, anyone other than me? And two, how do you get a guy that's not absolutely creepy? um, he's gone to various places for potential bulls. Um, and then he asked me how many guys had I been with before my husband? Okay. So let me start with the last question first. I don't know. I am not a body count kind of girl. I have never been a body count kind of girl. Um, I am not that kind of, like, I've never needed a scorecard.

I've never needed to make an individual into a number. Um, that is to say quite a few actually. Um, but I honestly, I wouldn't know. I wouldn't know how many men that I had been with before my husband. And it was probably a lot. I mean, I was very promiscuous. I enjoyed fucking. I did not enjoy relationships. I hated most of the guys that I was in a relationship with. The longest relationship I had before my husband was approximately three weeks. I mean, I am crap at relationships until I met my husband. My husband is the one person who I've ever been able to tolerate for longer Here we go.

crap at relationships until I met my husband. My husband is the one person who I've ever been able to tolerate for longer than three weeks. And that says something that says something about our chemistry, about who we are together. Um, because he never, he never gave me that sickly feeling that I sometimes got. So I had been with a lot of men and experimenting with a lot of men and experimenting in a lot of different ways with men. And that has always been something that I did. Um, so it's kind of, I think why I've never really associated emotions and sex in the same category.

So that's, that's more about me than about anybody else. Okay. So I'm not going to be able to tell you how traumatized someone else is going to be because each individual's trauma is their own. But you need to, if this is something that you're seeking, if this is something that you desire, then you need to start a conversation and find out. And guess what? A lot of times people will tell you, like with their mouths, the words that come out of their mouth, what they feel. What? No.

Sometimes if you broach a subject and you talk to somebody about like, Hey, I kind of find, I kind of think the idea of this is sexy. What do you think of this idea? And be vulnerable. Because I get, I got to tell you not a single conversation about having like more people in your marriage has ever started with no one being vulnerable. You need to be vulnerable. You need to voice your desires, your fantasies.

You need to say it out loud in a way that is going to let her understand that this is not something that is just a passing fleeting, oh, I saw a porn and I was kind of, you can't broach it like it's a joke because it's probably not a joke. It's probably not something funny. This has to be emotional and it has to be raw and it has to be real. And you have to tell the truth. And that's the part that I think stumbles most of us because that kind of vulnerability, that kind of opening up to your own desires is very, very tricky. It's very, very tough.

And I don't, and I'm not denying anyone's experience here. Okay. But I can't speak to somebody else's trauma level because I'm not that person. And that has to be something where you give her the opportunity to be honest back. Give her the opportunity to be honest and do not, and I mean this as much as I can possibly mean anything. Do not ever lay emotional guilt on someone else because that is highly manipulative. If you make it an ultimatum, it's not going to go well. But if you talk about, hey, have you ever had a fantasy? Because I have a fantasy that I'd really like to talk about.

I'd really like to explore. And you know what? I'd really like to talk about and explore yours. Now, that is coming from a female. That's coming from a female who thinks that talking about emotions and fantasies is something that you can do. It's like a reality. It's something that when I open my mouth, I can tell all kinds of people my fantasy. I can tell, I talk about it with my girlfriends. I talk about it with, Like, I can talk about a fantasy without a problem because I understand that emotional vulnerability is not something that's going to get used against me in every single scenario.

If you're, okay, so there is something that I would like to say. If your marriage is in trouble, if your marriage is already contentious, this may not be the best subject to broach. So you have to gauge the time, the place, the energy of your relationship all by yourself. You have to know where you stand when you start peeling back the top on this particular can of worms. There's no, but there's nothing that's going to keep you a hundred percent safe. And I don't think I've ever, I don't know if I've ever mentioned that before. Oh wait, yes I have.

There's no such thing as a hundred percent safety. And if you're looking for a hundred percent safety, wrap yourself in bubble wrap and sit on the couch and don't ever talk to anyone ever. That's kind of the, that's kind of the thought process Let's get started. safety, wrap yourself in bubble wrap and sit on the couch and don't ever talk to anyone ever. That's kind of the thought process. You're never 100% safe. You mitigate the dangers as much as you can. But then you actually have to make yourself a little bit vulnerable.

You have to make yourself a little bit emotionally vulnerable to have this conversation. And you need to know what's going on in yourself and what's going on in your relationship so that you can have this conversation without creating animosity. Anyway, that's just my thought process on that one. Now, as far as the other one goes, how do you find a guy that's not absolutely creepy? I may have mentioned this a time or two. I like going to events. I like meeting human people. I cannot tell from a message or from a response if a guy is creepy, because here's the thing.

I have on numerous occasions gotten messages from people I'm sure were absolutely lovely, but the way that they worded it was like, okay, so I'll give you a very good example of this. I had a message from somebody who lived in the same region as I do. And he wrote me, hey, come over to my place. And that was his opening line. That was his opening segue. And my response to that was, because you have some lotion that you'd like me to put on my skin in the bottom of the pit in your basement. What are you talking about? Because there's a way to approach people that just sounds creepy.

It sounds like, come over to my place. I'd like to murder you. And I know that he's, that's not what he meant. I know that's not what he was going for. And his response back was like, Oh my God, no. That's like, I'm totally, that's not at all. What? And he had a hard time processing the fact that he sounded like a serial killer. And the thing is, you need to approach people in a way that is, um, not overly aggressive, not overly, you know, not overly like, but at the same time, you need to state what it is that you're looking for.

There's, but it's really hard to do that from an app from, because I know that when, and guys are much more visible than women. Okay. And I, and I'm not saying that in a sexist way. I'm not saying that I don't get the vibe of a person from the picture or a video. I don't get the, because I'm the kind of, I'm a female, so I'm looking for the intent behind the picture. And in one picture, a cocky smile looks like I'm a really good time and I know it. And in other pictures, a cocky smile looks like, I can't wait to bury your bones under my crawl space.

It is not the kind of thing that you can really get visually. You can't get it from a 2D picture. You can't even really get it from, I don't know if any of you have ever gotten into a fight over a text message because the tone that you sent the text message in was very clear in your head, but they heard it a completely different way. Believe me when I tell you, there's nothing in a message or a picture that should be giving you all green lights. Okay. If anything, they're giving you, okay, caution, yellow lights.

Now some might be giving you full red lights, but you, a yellow light is, you need, that means you need more information. You need more information. You need to slow down and get more information. Okay. That being said, how do you find somebody who's not creepy? you have to do some homework you have to go to some events especially the vanilla ones you have to go to a munch you have to go to a meet and greet you have to go to a I mean near me they actually have an open mic, which is actually where I met my current bull.

He went there specifically to meet up with me, which I didn't know at the time, but that's what he did. And it was, he, he was like, he came over to talk to me and it was too loud for us to talk. So I had him follow me out to the, we were getting ready to leave and I had him follow me out to the parking lot and we talked and we exchanged numbers. And from there, you can actually get to the next step. You can get to the point where you can have conversations. You can get to the point where you can have a lunch. You can get to a point where you can vet these people all the way through.

Now, I'm not going to tell you that you're not going to find creeps because you are. You're going to find creeps and you're going to find some people that you think are creeps, but they're probably not creeps. They're probably just a little awkward in the written word. So take all of it with a grain of salt. Take all of it with that momentary grace, that period of, okay, all right, I need more information.

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