After Christmas Party

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welcome to the pineapple pinup the hot wife life podcast on today's podcast i'm going to talk about the party we had after christmas the one my husband and i threw um i'm doing a weird I'll see you next time. podcast. On today's podcast, I'm going to talk about the party we had after Christmas. The one my husband and I threw. I'm doing a weird section on not easy to describe. Hope you enjoy it. I answer a couple questions from the viewer and then I talk about my latest find at privateadventures.net. You can use promo code PINEAPPLEPINUP10 to support the show.

I don't know if it's the holiday season with everybody having a lot of time off or if it's just this is a good time to cuddle up with other people. But we've been to a lot of parties recently. And we had a party before Christmas that I've already told you about. And then right after Christmas, um, because Christmas felt weird this year, middle of the week, Christmas is hard because it's like, am I going to work? Am I not going to work? It's, it's a bunch of half weeks in with, with work sandwiched around it. So it's a lot of like weird weekends.

And Friday after Christmas, my husband decided that he wanted to throw a party, an impromptu party. And the only issue that we were having to do that was the venue. My husband actually had to physically go to the venue and make arrangements so that we could get what we needed to do this right. Then after that, it was just about controlling the guest list and making sure that the people who were coming were people who were going to be coming and that everything was copacetic. It was great. It was a good time. We had a great ratio of, we had four couples there. We had one single lady.

We had a bunch of single men. I'm going to say about eight. It was really, it was a great ratio. Everybody got play everybody was played with it was great it was a lot of really fun atmosphere there was a lot of good conversation flowing there was a lot of it was good vibes i started the night playing with josh because josh came early to help us set up. And Josh is great about that stuff. And he, as soon as somebody showed up, he sort of backed off and was like, you good? And then he kept coming to check on me, which is very sweet. And I adore him. So that was great. And Jeff was there.

And of course, Jeff was the same wonderful person that he always is. And then Red came. And Red was one of the first ones to arrive. And he and I started playing. Josh actually backed off so that Red could play. And Red let me have his soul almost immediately. It was awesome. Red is of an age where he rebounds very quickly. And so he actually comes and gives it up, which is not normal. I mean, normally at these events, you don't get people coming.

They just don't do it because there's so much that they want to save up for and make sure that they're able to perform and not blow it all in one shot. so for that for me to get started almost immediately getting somebody to come is kind of new and exciting. And what's crazy is I actually got, I think, five different times somebody coming. It was crazy. I mean, I don't normally get that. I don't, like normally it's not that way. And so we had such a good time. Oh my goodness. There was a lot a lot of our regulars, um, Jeff, Red, Josh, um, Kill, Kill.

Um, there was a couple of new guys, X, um, we'll call him Fred. There was a couple of new guys that kind of didn't really know their way around. And then there were a couple of people that I hadn't really played with before. So it was a very good mix. It was a very solid party and everybody had a really great time. And the ratios were such that it was, everyone was able to play.

The crazy thing is, is that my husband and I have been leaving parties earlier and earlier because they're just so crowded and I don't do well in a crowd and I know my husband doesn't do well in a crowd my husband you'll see him in a crowd and his elbows will be pinned to his side and his hands will be crossed on his chest because he's just he knows he's gonna hit somebody and it won't be on purpose it's just going to be an accidental my hand went to like i turned around and so my husband is not great in crowds especially crowds where there's not enough room to maneuver he gets very claustrophobic and because of the fact that he's got anxiety about it i I too have anxiety about it.

Don't let me kid you. I never feel really super comfortable in a crowd because I know that if I turn around, I'm going to knock something over because there's not a lot of room to be anywhere. And I'm a big girl and pushing people out of my way is just not my style. So we get very uncomfortable when the ratios get too high, the room to bodies ratio gets too high, and so we end up leaving very early. So my husband, because he knows this about us, limited the guest list, limited the guest list in such a way that there was plenty of space. There was plenty of room.

There were the right number of people to play with. It was not something where I was the only person playing in and doing basically a 16 person gang bang by myself. He, But I still, I mean, I played, I played all night and we never, we never got the urge to leave early. Um, I took a couple of breaks, but other than that, I was playing. Um, there were, there were a couple of funny incidences. Um, I literally, but the fact that I got five loads of cum in a night, and when I say loads of cum, they came into a condom because of course we play party rules.

No, absolutely no intercourse without condoms. Um, so that was a lot of fun. That was a lot of awesome fun. And it was very interesting to be in a party where people felt free to let go and people felt free to, you know, have full moments. And I loved it. I loved everything about it. So I started the evening with Josh and he and I played and he warmed me up and it was really nice. And then he stepped aside because Red showed up. And then Red and I played and Red instantly gave it up.

Like not instantly instantly but like he gave it up to me very early in the evening and i was very like impressed because normally guys don't like to come because they have so many other things that they need to be able to do later in the evening. Um, and then I got kill gave me a couple of different loads at a couple of different times and it was great. And what's really, I'll get to it, but what's really sad is we were, he was the last person I played with for the night and I had to tap out because something had happened, but I'll get into it.

But I felt bad because it was like the third time we had played and I basically just sort of left him high and dry. And that was not cool. Um, but, but I'm going to be frank with you. When something's hurting me, I'm not great at not saying something. I am not great at gritting my teeth and suffering through. If I'm hurting, I'm going to tell you I'm hurting, which is actually kind of one of the things that happened in the evening. There's this new guy, Fred, and he didn't really know a lot about the party etiquette.

And so Josh was teaching him and telling him, you know, you got to ask because the ratios are such the women have options and they're not just going to approach you. Rarely does a woman approach in these party situations because she's already being approached. So if you want to get your number, you know, if you want to take a number, step up to the deli counter and take your freaking number. Say you want to play and then we will definitely leave room in the queue for you if you know what I mean. So Fred mustered up and then he came over and he was playing and he had me in doggy style.

And I had Jeff in front of me and I was giving Jeff a blow job while he was fucking me from behind. And there was something about the way that he was fucking me that was causing me a great deal of discomfort. And so I said to him, we need to change positions because this is uncomfortable. And he said, Thank you. comfort. And so I said to him, we need to change positions because this is uncomfortable. And he said, this tiny little boy, this child basically told me that what I should do is put a pillow under my stomach to help support my back. Junior. under my stomach to help support my back.

Junior, that is not what's happening. And so I had to explain to him that his dick was entering me at such an angle that it was hitting my ovary and causing my ovary to bruise. And I'm not down with that. So I rolled over and then I had to explain, I don't know. my ovary and causing my ovary to bruise. And I'm not down with that. So I rolled over and then I had to explain, like, I did not like the way that he decided what was wrong with me and how to fix it. It was irritating.

And the more I think about it, the more I talk about it, the more I, the more I realized that this is something that happens with, because I, I believe me, I understand where it's coming from. I understand that he's trying to help, but in his help, he's making a lot of assumptions and not asking a lot of questions and not being curious as to, okay, what's wrong? What's going on? What's happening? Because if he'd asked me, what's wrong? What's going on? What's happening?

I could tell him you're bru bruising my ovary but instead he took it upon himself to just diagnose the problem because he kept trying to arch me which was causing him to hit me harder and i was like i'm not doing this so that's why i needed to roll over and we're complicated beasts we're complicated beings And when we're trying to meld two complicated beasts into one thing, into one moment, it is ratios and degrees. And it's trichinometry. And the fact that he didn't have any sort of awareness as to how to approach the situation, but still wanted to fix it, was to me a little off-putting.

Because I don't actually in that moment need to be fixed. What I need is to be listened to. Okay. So anyway, so Jeff and I went back to like playing and he, and Fred ended up being somebody who I played with many many times that night and then i gave jeff gave me his soul which was just beautiful lovely and then like and it was crazy because it wasn't until jeff gave it up for me that I realized how many people had done that in the evening, how many people had given me their come. And it was, I know that it seems normal that somebody would come, but it's really not.

You wait until the very last night, the very last of the night, and then somebody will get to come. And a lot of times men leave without ever having come because it gets just to the point where it's like, we've done a lot of work here today and it's just too painful. So I love the fact that my party was something where people were able to finish and do a lot of finishing, and it was it was so much fun. I can't even begin to describe how much fun we ended up having. And the fact that Jeff came all the way down and loved it.

And then, um, so what happened was, what happened was, um, I was playing with this one particular gentleman who I hadn't played with yet and he was trying to get an angle that would work and was trying to get an angle that would work, and he was straddling my left leg while my right leg was on his shoulder. And he needed to shift, so he sort of lifted with his arms around my leg. So he basically lifted me by my leg and ended up pulling my hip into such a position that it was like, no, we're done.

So when I tried to play with kill again, my hip was in so much discomfort that I was like, I can't. And so I ended up having to call it a night. But what's crazy is the party was actually wrapping up at that particular time. So it ended up being just perfect. So then my husband and I did a quick 30-minute cleanup of the room, gathered up all our stuff and then headed for the doors. It was an interesting evening. It was great. Josh was very helpful. He was, he's such a good guy.

He's such a good guy guy and he helped us get everything out to the car and was just it was super awesome um I had intended to play with him the next day because I didn't get a lot of time to play with him at the party and so because I didn't get a lot of time to play with him at the party I had intended to play with him the next day but unfortunately the hip thing took me out for a couple of days and I literally was like um so it was both awesome and uncomfortable um but I but it ended up being a really great party and we had a really really great time and then I ended up seeing Josh I'll see you next time.

and uncomfortable. Um, but I, but it ended up being a really great party and we had a really, really great time. And then I ended up seeing Josh later in the week, which because the holiday season, there was a lot of weird days off. So we got, we were able to catch up with one another. So that was awesome. And I'll talk to you more about that. It was that moment, that moment right before his cock pushed inside me, His hand gripping my hip, I could feel the energy building to that moment when he took ownership of my body. I could feel it in the tension in his fingers.

I could feel it in the way he breathed me in. And then it was there. that feeling, that stretched, full feeling of being occupied, the drag, the push, the deep, pressing, soft, wet, melting, dragging along every nerve ending I have. Sliding forcefully across that one particular spot that makes my toes curl. Pulling my legs wide. Pushing my legs closed. Changing the angle at which he takes my space. Finding a way to create one from two. That deep pushing, thrusting, Thank you. Deep pushing, thrusting, withdrawing, light tease before you fully remove, before you Press back in.

That incredible tightening, clenching of all of my muscles as you build me towards that inevitable crest Thank you. As you build me towards that inevitable crest, that moment when I'm going to be skyrocketed over the edge. And my body is going to reward you with a shower of moisture. that time when my body is clutching tightly trying to maintain a grip on your person trying to maintain control and position and you just drag and draw right through that clenching, seekingoms while playing, which is great. I'm a safety nerd um Sorry, this is a question from a listener.

How does that work with oral sex? Literally just curious. Okay. I'm going to be frank with you. Oral sex is one of those things that everybody's different. I personally cannot stuck on a condom. It feels like I am dying. It literally feels like the condom is in my throat and taking up my airway. I can't do it. So I don't do oral sex with condoms. That is, and everybody has the right to their own personal preference. Is mine the safest way to do it? No. Everybody has to do what they're comfortable with. And mentally, I can't get past choking on a condom. I just can't get past it.

Um, something happened to me a long, long time ago and I can't get over that phobia. So I won't suck a dick with a condom on it. Um, um, that is my thing, my part, and I am not advocating for anyone else. Okay. If you can't do oral sex without a condom, then don't be safe, be safe. And also you have to be able to, you're the one in the moment. So what I do is definitely not what I'd advocate for everyone because it has to be your level of comfort and your level of, it has to be about you. And that's the only way I can, that's the only way I can break it down.

Um, condoms for me in my mouth are very, very, um, I can't really, I can't really describe it. It's very fear inducing. It's very anxiety, um, inducing. So it's not something that I do. Occasionally, I will have somebody that comes in my mouth. And that is something that my husband and I have agreed beforehand is okay. We set those parameters before we started because of the fact that that is our comfort zone. That is where we're comfortable. Intercourse without a condom is not acceptable. So that's our parameters. That's our box of rules. Everybody needs to make that decision on their own.

How I do things, um, how I live my life is not something that I advocate for everyone. Um, and the only reason why I put out there is because I have to live my truth. If I'm telling you to be safe, and you should definitely be safe, and you should live, be safe in a way that makes you feel comfortable being safe. Because I'll be honest with you, there are some people who love breeding, and they're never going to want to play with condoms. And that is a personal choice.

And if they're doing the testing beforehand, and they're doing all of those things to make sure that they're keeping themselves and their community safe, whatever, whatever you're comfortable with, you have to live in your box, not me. Okay, So I am never, ever going to yuck someone else's yum on that. Okay. My silly little phobia about choking on a condom is more prevalent than catching something. 100% more prevalent than catching something.

Because if you look at the statistics, I'm not going to get into them, but look at the statistics, figure out where you're safe and where you're not safe and what you feel comfortable doing. Another question from the same listener. I have a question about cameras. What type of cameras do you guys use for recording your sessions? I just use my phone. I have some podcast equipment, like a little tripod that I set it up on, and then that's what I use. I have a very, phones have come such a long way that they record great. They record great audio. They record great video.

So they're, I mean, not great because obviously it's still static. But there's a lot of, it's the easiest thing cause it's always on hand and it is the best way for my husband and I to share them. So that is, I just use my phone and I know that's ridiculous, but that's what I, um, there was something else that this particular listener sent me about jealousy and about where jealousy comes from. Um, jealousy, he found that, And his jealousy came from a fear of loss and inadequacy because he'd had an incident in his past. Um, and it created quite a monster. And that's the thing about jealousy.

Jealousy in the right proportion can be an additive. Nobody should discount any emotion that you're having because kind of that's the whole point of all of these experiences is the emotions that they evoke. But when jealousy becomes something that takes control, I'll see you next time. Um, but when jealousy becomes something that takes control, that's when you've got to really take a step back and try to figure out how to disempower the beast, how to get yourself back to even keel. Um, I'm not great at discussing how to dismantle jealousy because I don't really have a lot of jealousy.

Um, that's something that I just don't have. Um, I don't, I, I, I mean, I'm sure I have it, but it's not something that I've struggled with. It's not something that it's, it's become its own beast. So for me, jealousy is one of those things that is hard to decipher for other people, how to dismantle it. I don't know how to tell you how to do that, but I do know that jealousy does come from fear. And because jealousy comes from fear, sometimes you have to confront your fears so that you can dismantle. It's the same thing that kink does. It's the same thing that fetishes do.

You are predicting your future with jealousy. You're predicting that this man who's flirting with your woman is going to somehow remove you from the picture and take your place. But that is all future casting. That is all coming from a place of anxiety. Okay? When you're in the present, when you're in the now, you're not future casting. They say that anxiety is looking into the future. They say that depression and regret is looking into the past. And the only cure for either one of those is living in the present.

For me, I don't tend to future cast my husband, anything happening that's going to take my husband away from me because of the fact that time and time again, it has been proven to me that he sleeps in my bed with me every night. So I have nothing to fear over someone coming and taking him from me. We choose every day where we're going to be. And he and I choose to go back into our bed together. That is how I get through that. And I feel very secure in my relationship with my husband. I feel very secure. I feel very loved and seen and heard.

And because of the fact that I feel very seen and loved and heard, I don't have a lot of anxiety. My anxiety comes from losing him in a more permanent way. My anxiety comes from, because he's had health issues, my anxiety comes from the fact that he's probably not going to be with me to the end of my life. So that's where my anxiety is. So as far as the jealousy thing goes, I don't know enough about it to be able to give you tools to cope with it.

But I do know that you've got to address the fears you've got to confront them you've got to look at them and figure out how to disempower the majority of female orgasms do not come from penetration Thank you. The majority of female orgasms do not come from penetration. That's just science. That's just facts. Because basically, everybody starts as the same bundle of cells until some of your genes decide to tell your body or tell the little bundle of whatever to start producing more testosterone or more whatever. But we start with the same bundle of nerves.

So what becomes a man's penis is the same thing that becomes a woman's vagina and clitoris. The penis is basically the same bundle of nerves. So when you're stimulating that entire bundle of nerves with penetration it is very good and very sexually pleasing but a woman's clitoris is on the outside and doesn't get really stimulated in the same way that the male penis is getting stimulated through penetration. so a lot of time and energy is given to oral because that's a great way to warm a woman up.

And over at my friend, privateadventures.net, they have this cyanus sucking and licking clitoral stimulator in pink. Oh, how cute. And it is kind of one of those things that... Come on. Yes. Thank you. Sucking and licking. Yes. So this clitoral stimulator is really kind of a great thing to give as a gift because I mean, Valentine's Day is coming up. So it's a great thing to give as a gift to your lady because there are times when you're not going to be able to be present and she's going to need to get off. So why not give her the tools? You know what I'm saying?

And ladies, go get yourself one. Yes, the fact, a lot of the times, like some people feel very awkward touching themselves while they're having sex with someone else. And sometimes women just, they don't get all of the stimulation that they need to fully be able to embrace an orgasm. I can tell you that I, I'm in pursuit of the orgasm all the time. So I don't really care. I'm, if I need to get my clit stimulated, I'm going to get it stimulated. So, so anyway, what I'm saying is this is a great fun tool to put into your arsenal, to give your, it's something that you can play with together.

And it's something that she can play with on her own. And it gives that more fully developed orgasm and then just penetration. So really you should think about it, look into it. Um, because so much of sex is about penetration when actually there's so much more to sex than penetration. And we are so good at the penetration that sometimes we forget that there are other things that we can be doing. So go take a look at this. It is amazing. And honestly, let me know what you think. Thank you for joining me today on the Pineapple Pinup, the Hot Wife Life podcast. I hope that you enjoyed it.

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