3 is the magic sum

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welcome to the pineapple pinup the hot wife life podcast on today's podcast i'm going to talk about a threesome all right so we went to we had gone to a party met a bull and decided to bring him home he came to our house and it was getting kind of late and my husband was was like, my husband had gone upstairs, and I was just chatting away, and then all of a sudden, my husband comes downstairs, and he's butt-ass naked, like, what the fuck are you doing? And I was like, so we wandered upstairs, and we played.

Now, threesomes are an interesting dynamic, because threesomes usually have a linchpin and that linchpin is the thing that kind of like guides the ship. And when you have a threesome with a cuck, it's hard to say if I, the hot wife and the linchpin, or if the bull is the linchpin, where there's a lot more ambiguity as to what the dynamic is supposed to be. Is everybody there to make her happy? Is everybody there to sort of, but in this particular case, it was, we were upping the ante for everybody.

It was my cuck doing things for me to him to make, to prove that I was, that he was under my control. It was my cuck doing things to me for the bull. It was, there was some attempted double penetration and my husband and I are just not built for the type of position that we were trying to get into in that particular moment. And so that didn't technically work, but it was, there was a lot of upping the arousal for all three by utilizing the cuck, by utilizing him to turn and create more heat.

And for me, I really enjoy a scene that has a lot of participation, a lot of energy, a lot of do this, do that, a lot of power exchange in that capacity because the power exchange in that capacity makes it so the person giving the order is pleased by the action being done on their behalf.

And the person doing the, like being ordered is is has that joy of being a good girl or a good boy um that when you when you do it when you do something that somebody's asked you to do and you do it and you do it well it's hot oh my god it's so fucking hot when there's these moments where you, I'm a brat by nature. I am not a person who just hands it over unless you earn it. But when in those moments where I feel like I can be obedient and I can be submissive and I can do the thing that you're asking me to do without having to push back, I find that incredibly exhausting.

So when I'm in a situation where I'm playing kind of a switch, I'm giving him orders and taking orders from somebody else and building that double-sided coin. It is fucking hot. Oh my God. And I mean, literally telling my cuck to clean up the cum off of everything is hot making the making him clean my juice off somebody else's dick hot the fact that I get to tell him no go down there and clean me up I'm busy up here chatting with my with my friend you, that's hot. And the fact that he gets to have that pleasure of being involved, but not being the focus is for him very submissively hot.

Now, I can't speak on behalf of the bull. I just can't do that. I wish I could know more about what my husband and I went through because we did a huge download afterwards. And my husband had some, some difficulty because he felt that the way he came downstairs was, um, a little presumptuous and a little overbearing. And he felt bad afterwards. And I was like, I don't think you need to. But of course, you got to check in, you got to check in with the other party and make sure that he didn't feel bad, that he didn't feel pressed into service.

So but he, my husband had some, even if the bull had nothing bad to say or nothing had gone wrong in his mind, my husband had some things that he needed to work through because it didn't feel good the next day that he had done, that he had basically put it out there like that. And that work is part of the process okay it? It's part of the endeavor to do better, to do right by all the parties, to make sure that consent was there. And I mean, obviously, we're not doing anything to pressure anyone, and we're not pushing anybody into doing something that they don't want to do.

But at the same time are sometimes you push an envelope and maybe that person didn't want you to so I mean like there's a lot going on and there and my husband didn't feel super secure with how things had gone down and he's doing the work he's checking in he's making sure he's checking his own and he knows better next time not to do things that make him feel like that the next day so and that's part of what the download is all about the conversation between he and I the next day the conversation between he and I, uh, that night, the conversation that we have that basically, because my husband is working, is moving in new territory.

He's moving into some very bisexual territory. And that is going to take some learning curve. There knows exactly how to act when they're altering something about themselves.

When you're exploring new directions, you're going to make some mistakes, but at the same time, you got to learn from them, download them, work through them so that when you're in the situation again, you know where your boundaries are and how to navigate so you don't have next day regrets because next day regrets are horrible because you can't really fix them at that point so we're going to make mistakes it happens all the time we just have to make sure that we're not injuring anybody else.

And if there was even the possibility that somebody was injured by the behavior, that you're making amends, that you're doing the things you're saying the right yes, no's. So that being said, that night was so incredibly erotic. My husband was so incredibly turned on and he was so eager to be of service in this capacity, to be part of the pleasure cycle that I am in, a part of being somebody who builds that more. And that alone was really defining.

I think that's part of the reason why my husband has decided he's going full cuck, is that he wants to explore things that are going to make the arousal greater, the edges edgier, make and be part of the general overall ramping up of energy. And it's not going to happen all the time. Because believe me, I'm entirely too self shit. Take away every bit of the thing that I do. But having this new dynamic with my husband, having another layer that we can add in is really fucking phenomenal.

And at some point, because I am starting to drive for Dick, there may be opportunities for my husband to go and do things a little spicier while I'm playing in my own way. So I don't know, we're going to see, we're going to evolve and we're going to take stock and we're going to work through the hurdles to find out what's actually our boundaries. I love the fact that the conversations spur greater ideas and greater depth. And all of that works towards creating a more intimate relationship, a more intimate collaboration between the two of us. I love that.

I think that's incredibly erotic and incredibly timely. Eventually, there may be more. Eventually, there may be all sorts of things that happen. And that's the greatest part about evolving is not being stagnant, not falling into a rut and expecting that same old thing to keep Thank you.

stagnant not falling into a rut and expecting that same old thing to keep you at the same level because anything that becomes routine is going to create a little bit of a rut feeling it's going to take away some of the excitement it's just going to be a little bit of history rather than any sort of mystery and as we move into more mysterious waters it's we don't know what's going to happen but we're very willing to explore and you can't get to the next level if you stay in your comfort zone some of this has to be about expanding and exploring the angst and exploring the boundaries and exploring the edges because it's so fucking erotic and it's so fucking there's something very exciting about not knowing.

And I am embracing that every single day. I'm embracing that. And my husband is embracing that. And I just, the threesome itself, I really enjoyed it. and if it hadn't been for my husband's doubts the next day about how far he pushed, it would have been fucking perfect. So now we know that we have to communicate more in the front end so that there's not as much cleanup in the back end, not a euphemism on that one.

So it, for me, I feel like that threesome was because as I get more and more comfortable with the new dynamic that we are exploring, when I, as I get more and more comfortable with the bisexual nature of my husband's kinks, because I'm sorry, it's something that it's not something that you're used to seeing from your husband. So it takes a minute to kind of wrap your head around it and find all of the layers. So I'm not apologizing for the fact that it took me a minute to figure out what it was. Because I am a huge believer in doing the fucking work.

You got to do the work, you got to feel the feels, you got to experience it all so that that way you can come to an honest to God belief system.

So with that being said, I love the fact that as we get more involved in the bisexual nature of my husband, it is creating more opportunities for me to feel and experience and develop that energy of arousal to find it erotic taking the time to breathe in the energy more than breathe in the expectation I'm grateful for the fact that I have a husband who is willing to ask himself questions about what it is that he wants and have him tell me and give me the same permission to tell him because the flogging was not like when i went to, I mentioned it on another episode where I met a man and he flogged me.

My husband, that is not his cup of tea. It does not make him feel good. He does not like to watch that. He does not like to experience that, me experiencing that. he does not get compersion from that. He gets the ick from that because his whole identity is wrapped up in protecting me. His whole identity is wrapped up in making sure I'm not hurt or injured and that I'm whole and happy. And for him, the flogging is something that fights with his person and he doesn't enjoy it and he doesn't want to enjoy it. So that is something that I do separate from my husband.

And that's okay because not everybody's kink is your kink.

And just because somebody has a kink, you don't have to be involved with it so my husband chooses not to be involved in the bdsm side of the things that i find interesting he will slap my ass and he will pull my hair and he'll do the edges but he will not go full in because that just is not something he enjoys and i know this about him so I don't have any expectation that that's something I should ask of him knowing where your kinks are as long as you're not yucking somebody else's yum and he's definitely not telling me not to partake but he's just asking that he not be subjected to it he doesn't want to watch he doesn't want to be part of that so that's something that we're coming to find is that there might be things that might be his thing might be my thing and having these conversations having these explorations gives you the opportunity to find out where your lines are so experiment find out because there are going to be some things that you're like no we're never doing that again no and then there's going to be other things we're like oh my god we're going to do that every single weekend you know there's things that you will discover about yourself.

You will discover about your partner. You will discover about the lifestyle itself that will shock and amaze you as long as you're willing to be curious and not judgmental.

So, but you're allowed to call a halt to something that makes you that you're uncomfortable with that's absolutely the same thing you're not yucking their yum but you're also not asking to be a part of their yum and that's okay thank you so much for joining me again on the pineapple pinup the hot wife life podcast i really appreciate it you can hit me up at any one of my socials listed in the show's description you can come to my patreon check out. Go to pineapplepinuppod at gmail.com if you'd like to email me. Believe me, I would like nothing more than to hear from every single one of you.

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