Krazy Truth about Swinging #360 The weightloss shot and the lifestyle

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Speaker1: Hey, kids. The program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey, you crazy motherfuckers. Welcome back to another edition of Crazy. I knew you were going to do that. I'm about swinging. I'm the host with the most and quick thinking cold. I'm here with the lovely, lovely, and highly annoyed, Ms. Amanda. Hey. We're at a channel late, too late, and I'm probably going to say something that could probably get me slapped at some point in time during the podcast. Why? Because I've been doing it all day. Look. I yawned today, and you squirted me with water. No. Now, goddammit, I showed some restraint because I had the water bottle, because holding it, I always fuck around with the water bottle. I turn, I'm holding it, and you yawned, and the thought that went through my mind was that clown with the balloon at the circus, or he squirted the water in the mouth, and it fills up the balloon. That was the Reaction and Split Second Time and I shot it but I turned to shoot your arm and not your face. And you got me. And I should sort of get points to that. Just saying. Anyways. Still won't forgive you for that one. This is Season 9, Episode 360. Is it really? Yes, it is. And we're here to tantalize till it. I said that part already. Quick shout out to our sponsors, asnlifestylemagazine.com. 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You can also get it on crazycasmo.com, Casmo Studios, and all the performers' websites. It's the beginning of the show. They do offer Lyme disease testing. So, you know, now you don't have it. You can get tested. You don't get bit by a dirty girl or guy. Or you get bit by a dick. You can make sure that it's that too. And hopefully if they listen to this show, they'll just write it off as cool as drunk. Anyway, whatever. So there you go. Such a long start to a whole hour of this fucking shenanigans. Wow. Yeah. No, actually, you know, here's the thing. I'm so fucking jazzed because today has been, this week, it's Tuesday. And starting on Sunday. Only Tuesday. Starting on Sunday, we have been having fucking, for crazy winter nights, next February, decade of decadence, we are getting bombarded with people reaching out to us that want to do seminars and sessions. And not just like, hey, like I know stuff, can I talk? Like, quality, fucking presenters, award-winning presenters are wanting to add Crazy Winter Nights onto where they have taught. Enough so that we have enough quality people. We're having to do interviews, references, and all that. That's a good thing. And on top of it, we've got vendors. We picked up vendors. You're going to get to the point where you're going to have to put names in a hat of who's going to be a presenter. We're going to have to do it with vendors. We picked up vendors this week from Minnesota, Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, China, Las Vegas, and Canada. Canada. So... A. A. Great White North, A. So, I mean, when you're... And that's the first two days of this week. So, you know, I mean, this is... It's exciting, not to mention we have sold out. We've hit the 40% mark of sold out at the hotel. And, yeah, and we haven't even launched the national shit. The ad hasn't even went in ASN yet. Exotic is not until next month. And so the National hasn't even released. That's when our PR company starts. And, I mean, it's just, it's insane. So, yeah, I'm giddy. I'm giddy. So, and, and, which is, you know, a good place to be. So, then we've got, so other shit. This, this week's show is, is, again, doing a unique show. I was listening to fucking shows this week doing the stations. Everybody else. Here we are. We are all over the place. But you know what? Our shit's real as fuck. So, yeah, our international division, Larry and Brenda, are all excited about Canada. Are they swingers? I don't know. But we know that Larry and Brenda, you're going to buy somebody from Canada and they're going to fuck with you. It is what it is. So, they're the ones to help prevent international incidences. So, just saying. Yeah, so, the last story is that. Anyways, so, it's going to be a weird couple of weeks. Like, we're getting ready to go into a weird couple of weeks. Pretty fucking weird. So, because we'll do a show next week. We will. We will do a show next week. So, and it's a weird couple weeks because, like, you know, so we don't know after next week. Like, I'm going in for all kinds of heart death. So, we're pretty damn. It'll be fine. And it's going to be fine. Shut up. We're going to be pretty sure that, I'm very sure that in the next probably two weeks, there will be heart stents or plus for me, which is interesting. So, that part's. It runs in his family. It does. So, and plus. So, but the interesting part of, and what we're going to talk about this show, is we live in an Ozempic world, right? So you don't know what Ozempic is. Well, technically you can call it a GLP. Okay, so even less people know what that is. So the shot. We live in a world of the shot. It's the newest thing, and it's for a variety of reasons, and I want to talk about it, not just for the shot, the shot. itself, but... And not even necessarily promoting it. No. It's just... Is that, like, the reality is in the lifestyle, you have to look at what's going on because there is a direct cause and effect. And so we're going to talk about it. I started the shop. They put me on it because I'm a chunky monkey and all kinds of other factors. So... And it's like week two? I'm on week two. Today will be... Or Thursday will be week three. Yeah. I'll start week three on Thursday, and what did I tell you? I'm down 13 pounds. Yeah. I think so. So, but I want to talk about it because I want to talk about, well, we talk about all the time in the lifestyle that there's so many factors that involve, that make up the lifestyle experience, right? And we talk about how, last week we talked about how finding you, right? That was a big, our topic of the week, talking about finding ourselves. and how that sex sometimes is the side note of the lifestyle, right? And the reality is, if you look at the average age of swingers, like statistically, you know, swingers are the average age of like 35 to 55, right? And there's the running joke people always talk about, you know, swingers in midlife crisis. And not saying that it is or isn't, but there's factors that go into it. The reality for a lot of swingers is that we are transitional. We're at that awkward age, like junior high. But we're not having sex at junior high. That's what we're talking about. But we're at that awkward age of transitioning. And the reality is, I put a post today on Facebook from a memory that was, what did I say, eight years, nine years old? I think it was eight or nine years. And besides not having any long hair and no facial hair, right? I also didn't have some of these crevices and wrinkles and the reality of it. And so we're going to talk about this a little bit because things like, you know, we have a healthy CASBA page. There's another whole group that is a healthy lifestyle group about working out because it's the reality a lot of us are dealing with. We're trying to refine our youth. We're trying to get in better shape. Maybe we're starting to deal with health issues from decisions or hereditary decisions we made when we were younger. And so now we're trying to, we have health issues. So getting in shape and it affects and plays into the lifestyle because as we start to get in better shape and it's, well, first let's back up. There is a, the lifestyle is a, an area of contradictions, right? In that we want people to have self-love, love thyself. You should love your body, love who you are, what you are, right? And for everybody, that's different. That's why there's so many different things out there, right? By the same token, I'm a firm believer in you have to be healthy, right? So what that is to everybody is different, obviously. And making that all jive and gel and whatever. And plus, there's just a factor of, let's face it, when you're talking about sex, there's different turn-ons for different people. There are people that absolutely love BBWs. There are people that love BBB? Or BBM? I don't know. I don't think you have a category. Squishy. Yeah. You are sure it's not because we're genetics and we never grew up. There's that too. There is. Dad bods. Yeah. Dad bods. There's people that are. Like the muscular. There's people that like, you know, all different kinds. There are a lot of times this is where a lot of you start talking about mommy makeovers for women. Happen. There's same with guys. You have a lot of. A lot of hair dye. It would be interesting if you could do, like, you know how, like, you can go to a hotel and do the blacklight and see the cum stains all over everything? Can you imagine go to a swinger party and just walking through a crowd where there's a light that showed all the hair dye? Because it ain't just women. I mean, there's a lot of guys that are washing that gray right out of their beard and hair pieces and procedures and, you know, there's all this stuff. And it creates a really And a lot of times people don't understand the dynamic that it creates. I'm going to give a couple examples. I'm going to give a couple examples extremes on both directions. Okay. Okay. We had somebody, this was years ago on our page. They had been a bigger gal and they got in tremendous shape. They fucking worked out. They like changed their diet. They worked out. She busted her out. She busted her ass. And she got in some hellacious shape. She did it. There were things in her family that helped things she and other people went through and she made that decision. She wanted to change that. And what was so funny was that her friends, all of her friends were bigger girls. And, you know, we all have the 80s movie stereotype of the pretty girls making fun of the big girl and the big girl then goes, you know, the 80s movie then does this whole makeover and changes. It was the exact opposite. All of her bigger girlfriends started treating her like shit. They harassed her when they would go out. They made fun of her. They would quit going out. They didn't want to be with her. They hassled her saying, well, she was just trying to get all the attention. Enough so. And she loved how she had looked. She was going to the gym a minimum once a day. She flat out told me, it wasn't worth it. it anymore. They made her miserable. She had never been as unhappy when she was big as she was then. That she literally went extreme the other direction again. Bullied into bulking up. We've seen that. We've seen the other degree. We've seen people that have, whether it was by And a lot of the medical thing, lap band makeover type procedures, went from being very big to getting in to a size that they really liked. They were all about it. But something happened along the way. They went from being a very nice person to being a fucking cunt. And they had become basically better than everybody else. It was. It changed their personality. It was. It went from initially the excitement of their new look, which everybody was supportive because congratulations rock on, to being better than everybody else and being in their face and snotty and just a fucking cunt. about it. It's like, what, what happened to where in that, where in that, that your journey was part of the procedure of the weight loss, losing your personality. It's kind of like the joke. One of my friends told me right after they got divorced, I said, how are you doing? He goes, great. I lost 150 pounds of ugly fat. He was talking about his wife. Okay. So it was, it was kind of that, it was, it was like that. It's like, oh, wow. And Not having body dysmorphia is awesome. Because every time you look in the mirror, you don't see what is really there. Right. And there's a lot of people that suffer with that. But to change completely, I don't know. You're not moody. You're hungry, Leah. There's a difference. No. And here's the thing. There are challenges. In whatever your. Goal is. And one of the things I think gets lost in the translation sometimes, or it's easy to get lost in the translation. Is that. Oh. You losing. Losing weight or getting in shape or reaching whatever goal you're looking for. Doesn't always. that what the body is physically different, it doesn't necessarily change the mental part of it that goes with it. What I mean by that is that, one, I know when I was in high school, and people will say this if you think back to it all the time, I would kill because I thought I looked horrible without a shirt on. I thought I was so fat in high school when I was 185. I would kill to be that fat. We all had those moments. We all have that. And the thing is, is those moments still happen as an adult. And I think that, and the reason I bring this up is that I think it's easy for those of us that maybe, maybe we're struggling in our journey or, or we've just started our journey. We're not totally decided to start our journey or whatever the case may be. Sometimes we can look at people when they're excited about reaching certain goals and we can get pissy. We can get bitter. We can get jealous. We can get angry. And it's like, whoa. That's not, that's not okay. Like that's not an acceptable part of this. Megan, the mental part sucks at 157 pounds about 10 years ago. I still saw the 250 pound girl. Exactly. And that, it's about being kind and understanding the mental aspect. Sometimes it's slower to catch up with the physical aspect. That's part of it. There's part of it to understand and, well, I want to see how it is. Okay, so let's start with the concept of the magic of the shot. I think that I swore, I was adamant, because you were adamant, you did not do the shot forever. You did get the last 20 pounds you wanted to reach. And I said, to me, I was like, well, that's the dumbest thing in the world. Why do you take something to make sex so you don't eat? I swore I would never do it. And I was a little hesitant. The reason I did it is my doctor was like, hey, look, you need to do this. Before I found out I had all this fucking hard shit, because one of my friends, just had a massive fucking heart attack. And it's like, what's in on this? So. And he fought it for a bit. I did. And I was very hesitant about it because it just seemed like this is, I don't know. I think there's part of it understanding that it's not cheating. It's no different than anything else. I mean, it's what you make of it. Still doesn't come off easy. And no, it's, it's still about choices that you have to make. But the, The challenges with it are fucking, just even as things drop, it doesn't drop quick. And she beat me to it. God damn it. Good job. The people on the radio can't hear. Oh yeah. Or can't see it. Read. With significant weight loss also comes with issues of sagging skin, wrinkles, and so on. I always said the worst part about losing weight was getting wrinkles. Because all your wrinkles are filled in with fat. And the thing is, That's part of why I wanted to bring this up. A lot of times we like to say to people, well, show off your new body. Maybe they're not ready to show off their new body yet. Because, again, maybe they're not happy with all parts of it. I literally just said today, what is one of my concerns with the shop? It's good. It's good. Because look, I have a big belly and if I drop and there's no big belly there, like it's going to take away. I said, how much is it going to, how much more will age me in the face? How much more? There's still a journey with this whole thing. And that's the part of this that sometimes I think people don't understand when they, when we, when there is the magic of, of medicines out there to do this, right? I'm kind of all over the place. I know what I want to get to. You kind of are, but that's okay. I know what I kind of want to get. I guess, all right, how do I want to start this? Let's, God, help me out here. Jump in. Let's start, let's start with if you're on the journey. A couple of things that having done this, having lost 80 pounds on Body by Vi before my 40th birthday, and I look good. on my 40th birthday to have it back to be actually the same weight that I was at when I said goodbye to my mind over again. Number one, mentally learn to stick to your guns when you go out. As you have this new you, stick to your guns. Stick to your guns if part of that new you is not drinking, If I knew you is what you are and are not eating, whatever, stick to your guns. And don't let somebody else define your journey. That's so huge. The counterpoint with that is stay in your fucking lane if one of your friends or people is on that journey. and says, no, thank you. You look so good. You can have a piece of cake. No, thank you. But just have one piece. It goes the same with drinking. It goes the same with all of it. It does. And that, that's just it. Food is just like booze, like drugs or anything else. When the person says no, let it go. If the, if the person is, you go, oh man, let's see it. Stop. Drop it. Let it go. I have someone that I say, you know, gosh, I've been having a lot of muscle aches. I've been having a lot of back pain. Well, you need to try THC this. You should try THC that. No, I don't want to. That doesn't work for me. It won't do it. Well, you need this product then. Well, have you tried mushrooms? Who said I wanted to do drugs? I don't. Is there not anything natural? Well, okay. And in all reality, it somewhat is, even though it's processed. But I don't want that. And that's the key is that it's your journey. And the thing is, understanding, accepting, no. I can't believe it fits you how much harder it is to lose weight. Absolutely. And that's the joy of a lot of the other stuff out there. But that's where the rest of us as a community come in. To be supportive and understand that if someone is comfortable showing X amount of skin after they lose weight, reward them. or being positive, but don't push for more. That's part of it. Let people, it's their fucking journey, stay in your fucking lane. As Jeannie put about excess skin, you know what? If someone is comfortable and they have excess skin, they have whatever, you know what? Appreciate their bravery. Appreciate their self-courage Their self-love and their self-confidence. And in turn, a little common sense goes a long way. If you want to fucking twist me, if I, if I, you actually get without my shirt on somewhere, and then you turn around and go, wow, for a big guy, that took a lot of courage. I'm done. You just, you just fucking toasted me. You just fucking toasted me. And understand that words have consequences with that. This is not with health-wise. There's somebody that we know that is a breast cancer survivor. Look, my mom had breast cancer. My mom had a double-sectomy. My mom, until the end of her life, was obsessed with her boobs. With her tits. With her tits. She was. They're not right. They're crooked. They're lopsided. They're like, who cares? This person has 100% embraced, has not had, has not done fake ones like my mom did or anything else. No. And totally embraced it. Gosh, at KSN, she has the shirt open and there's nothing there and it's beautiful. And it is. And that's just it. It's beautiful. And the journey is beautiful for everybody, whatever that is. And if the journey includes not being completely naked because you're not comfortable yet, that's beautiful because you're still taking the journey. Larry, the biggest thing to realize is it is not an overnight fix. It will take time and it will not come easy. Mentally Prepare Yourself to Be Committed to a Program. Absolutely. And we all have to be mentally prepared to be a community and supportive. That's to be supportive. People don't realize that they can say something they feel is very innocent and it can be very hurtful to the person you're saying it to. Very much so. Very much so. Sometimes, sometimes in everything we do, the best compliment you can honestly give somebody is, I'm really happy for you. Or, great job. Stop. Less is more because we don't know what else is there. A lot of times, we don't know why somebody took that journey. I quit smoking because, well, I had cancer. You know what? I think I'm going to quit smoking. Just like. You quit. Technically, you quit smoking on Tuesday and you didn't find out you had cancer until Wednesday. Because I was sick until Wednesday. Okay. But I didn't start back up. Technically, you didn't know when you had your last cigarette. You just went, no, I'm not in the mood. You may see me eat nothing but salads and totally do. You know, I pretty much quit drinking. You may see me never drink again because after Wednesday, I don't know. It's not because I don't ever want to drink again. It might be because, well, my heart needs me to. I don't know. We don't know. So you don't know the reason why. Somebody, you also don't know the reason why somebody has gotten off the wagon. That's the other part of the world of Ozempic and everything else that I think we have to be prepared for. As far as people out there is, you know the worst thing to say to somebody who's lost a lot of weight, and then all of a sudden you see them, eating habits, drinking, whatever, doing whatever that's like, you know, it's like, that's going to go the exact opposite way. It's go, well, why are you doing that to yourself? You look so good. Why would you do that to yourself? Stay in your lane. Gosh, if somebody said that to me, I probably wouldn't talk to you. Sometimes the best thing to say to somebody is if you see something like that is, how are you doing? How are things going? Because you never know. I've been amazed with my little shot thing, because honestly, I'm a stress eater. And there ain't a fucking, there's not a fucking drug in the world that's going to stop me. And you know what? Is my heart thing a big deal? Probably not. Is it on my mind? Yes. In a normal situation, would I be like a bear roaming through the, every time I go past the refrigerator? Yep. So maybe you see, you see Cole, he's lost all his weight. It's not like you've seen Cole eating. You don't know why the fuck. You never know what that is. It might not just be that they're making a bad choice. It could be there's other influences in their life because there's other issues, the reason why they eat. It's one of the dangers with the magic of pills and stuff like that and the shots is that some of the work that you need to do to lose weight. I can tell you why I gained so much weight after Body by Body. Santa Claus. Yes. I never made any of the changes in my lifestyle habits because I could eat anything. I know, because we both ended up gaining weight back. But it was, for me it was slower, because I was still running. I wasn't. I was running to the fridge. We started off like every Sunday going out to eat for lunch, and then it ended up being a little bit more and a little bit more. But it was, we didn't learn and change our eating habits accordingly. And so the thing is, is when you're going to see people in this new age with this, in the course of, especially people who you don't see it, but every couple of months for events, seesaw. And that's okay too. Again, the best thing sometimes we can do is just be supportive. And just, you know, that people are going to learn. There are going to be some people that are going to learn the hard way as people went through with things like lap band surgeries and, and the sleeve and everything else. Guess what? There's ways to get around the sleeve on your stomach. There's ways to get around it, but it's a learning curve, and it's everybody else's own journey. So that's part of it, is to understand how those things are and how we can be more supportive as a community. Well, here, we can relate it to this. Yeah. This being a wig. Yeah. Why is Amanda trying wigs? Go ahead. Because my hair's falling out. I've lost a lot of hair. And I've had a couple of people comment on videos. The last one was Hair Club for Women. It doesn't exist, but that's okay. But thanks. Not like I'm not trying, because I'm technically trying everything that's possible. That's good. I wear a red laser cap whenever I think about it. I'm on Rogaine. I'm on pumpkin seed oil with... Palmetto. That's it. Palmetto. And I'm on biotin and I'm on collagen. I'm on trying all these things. You don't know what struggle the person is going through. And then for some dumbass to make a comment like that makes me more self-conscious going, okay, so I need to find a wig I can wear so I don't look like I have a receding hairline like an old man. Because the first comment was, my gosh, she has a hairline that's worse than my 53-year-old dad. Well, hey, guess what? I'm older than your 53-year-old dad, so fuck off. And you're looking at porn, you fucking lose it. Did I comment that? No. I just scrolled by. But it eats at your brain. And it's not easy to control. It's a challenge. It is a challenge. Yeah, this one, I kind of like this one. I mean, I've been buying real hair wigs. I'll be banging her in it. This one's not glued on. I had it glued on yesterday trying it out. It's a learning curve. I'm trying to find one that can get to stay on while you're fucking... Oh, shit. It's just getting the courage to wear them out in public. The blonde one I've worn out. in public. This one I haven't had very long. It's funny. You're understanding. So I had a gal that her and I have friends and we flirt all the time. She's a really, really hot black girl. And I said one time we're dirty talking. I'm like, oh, I can't wait to fuck you in behind and pull your hair. And she goes, hey, remember, you need to ask black girls before you do that because my hair is real but not all they are. Not all black girls. I know. And she started laughing. She's still giving me shit about that. But anyways. Okay, so. I was watching a drag queens video today on how to glue them on. But that's just weight and everything and health and what we look like is such a very real struggle. And as we get older, it is a huge part of what we deal with in the lifestyle. Because here's the reality. As a guy, it's guys, girls, if I feel fat one day, I'm not going to feel sexy to try to fuck. That's just not... mean it in a derogatory way it can hit them wrong and then it can kill a weekend it can kill a week it can kill months uh um excuse me the comment about a grower not a show or how long did that kill you for yeah yeah oh yeah long time and that that's and that's part of the challenge okay so but let's talk about the other extreme i want to talk about the other way There's nothing wrong with celebrating your victories in life. You should celebrate your victories in life. All of them. All of them. Mm-hmm. But you have to understand whose victories they are. They're yours. Mm-hmm. And although people generally will be nice and supportive and happy for you, there reaches a fucking point where, one, One, it's not their victory. So they don't fucking care. And two, it goes from celebrating their victory to being an attention whore. And you see this a lot in the lifestyle. This is something you're going to see even more again with things like the shot. And it's just the reality of it is that people discover their new body. And their new self-confidence that maybe comes with it, the ability to wear different clothes that they didn't have. This is male or female. This is not just one gender by any stretch. And they, it becomes a flaunting thing. Well, look, remember when I used to be like this? Remember when I used to be like that? Remember when I used to be like that? There's one. That's ugly. Yes, but then there's like, you're not comparing it to reflection, though. Right. Because I just sent Larry a picture earlier. the really big picture of me that I found? No. It's not the reflection of yourself. I'm like, oh shit, does that make me sound bad? No. Because I was like, look at this picture I just found? No, that's a picture of yourself comparing yourself to yourself now. It's different than pointing to somebody else and go, I used to be like that. Oh, gotcha. That becomes, that becomes, well, it's rude, it's hurtful, and I put this challenge back to people. Whatever you changed from and for whatever reason you changed to what you are now, there was probably a reason. There was probably experience somewhere that you didn't like how you were treated as a person you were before. Don't become that fucking person. Don't become that person that all of a sudden is your newfound confidence becomes your newfound arrogance. There is a difference. If anything, it should give you a whole new level of empathy to people that are starting or struggling. I'm going to use Larry as a great example because Larry is very encouraging to me all the time. We'll reach out because he works out like a fucking crazy guy, right? I'm not there by any stretch. But instead of being like, well, Is that all you fucking did? It's, hey, great job. Keep it up. I missed a couple days. Hey, way to get back on it. You know, encouraging. He's been where I was at one point in time when he first started working out, I'm sure, to where he's at now. And it's, if you have made some sort of transformation in your life, whatever that is, you should be able to appreciate the journey that someone else is on. And you have an opportunity to be really supportive, to be really positive, to be really, If nothing more than inclusive, you know, you don't have to walk up and go, great job, keep up the good work, you know, but just inclusive. It's about, you know, when you see somebody else that maybe doesn't have the confidence or kind of on that outside looking in to include them in. That is a great, that is really maximizing what you've done. But when you take your journey and your success and turn it into arrogance, that's a really different ballgame. And the reality is that happens a lot. The other challenge that happens a lot, and we have seen this a lot. We have seen this a lot. This is going to sound horrible, and I don't really care because it's true. You can, don't you tell me. See how your Wednesdays don't look, goddammit. you can always tell someone in the lifestyle, especially if they're new in the lifestyle, that has a new confidence in their body. Usually they've lost, maybe they've lost weight, whatever, either procedure, exercise, whatever, they've lost weight. You can always spot it, especially in new people. They are the biggest fucking sluts you will meet. in the lifestyle. And people can go, Cole, you're a dick. It's fucking true. Because what it is, is that they have found this new confidence. And a lot of times it's a new confidence in their life that they've ever had in their life. Well, no, it brings self-confidence. Because when we started off in the lifestyle, it was that way. Because we had just come off the big weight loss. And it was like, then you felt more comfortable in your body to be able to show it to other people. So, yeah, we were like that. And you can see it, which is great for the confidence, but a lot of times you'll see it. There's danger zone there, exactly. And some of their behavior becomes completely reckless accordingly, sexually, because of it, which is whatever. You're going to start to see that more and more through what you even have been in the lifestyle as they find that new look. And that's something to have to be conscious of and aware of. Because... I don't know if it's necessarily a new look as much as it's just a newfound confidence in whatever they're dealing with or going through. Whatever they're going through. Whatever changes they're making, whether it's physical or mental. And that's okay. But you can't lose sight on reality, on safety and common sense in the lifestyle with other activities because of it. And that's required. Megan, I got lots of compliments. at KWN, and I've only lost around 20 pounds, and it was so great to hear, and yes, the confidence definitely showed more. And that's awesome, and it should. The thing is, is that the really big challenge when you find the new you, and we have seen this a lot, a lot of times, just like a lot of things in life, even though, especially if you're married or whatever, you go through things as a couple, but there's still avenues of your life that is individual. It's still solo sport in a lot of things. A lot of times, maybe as a couple, you're both working on health fitness goals together, but how fast I can drop weight versus how fast you can drop weight. And it's been this way ever our whole lives. I can drop weight super fast, which is not always necessarily a good thing, but that's I could. The challenge becomes, and we've seen this, maybe both Parties aren't even doing it. One party has all new confidence and starts leaving the other one behind. Did I do that to you? No. I just... I'm just checking. I'd hoard you out into porn. No, but we've seen that where it's like it wasn't a guy and girl both doing it. The gal was doing it. And then all of a sudden she's getting all this new attention. She's getting all this stuff. And it's easy to get wrapped up in... our own things in turn and go, you okay? Yeah. Right, yeah, right. But you're distracted. And we have watched it create issues with couples. You should be elated with the successes you have, but you should never be so elated that your feet come off the ground and you forget everybody around you. is starting to get all kinds of attention, and the other side isn't. Even within a relationship thing, that excitement for your spouse, that encouragement for your spouse, that happiness can turn to anger, bitterness, and hurt. Really fucking quick if it's like, well, remember, I used to like you before you did all that. Remember, I was okay then, but I'm not now. That's a reality. And it's one of those things that people, you have to look at this shit, and you have to, it's about having constant check about where you're at with your spouse. It's having, granted, if you can do things together, that works great. It's about, I guess the biggest thing all the way through this whole podcast is about not losing who the fuck you are. You can lose the insecure, you can lose the The person you don't like in the mirror, you can lose a lot of those things. It's okay to lose those things. But the core person of who you are, empathy, your personality, your relationships, how you interact with people, no amount of fitness, no amount of whatever, whether it be success in your job, success in relations, in anything, no amount should ever counter or overpower that. Because here's the thing. What good does it do to be in incredible shape, to look great, to feel great, and have nobody? Your friends all think you're a fucking raging dick or a cunt. You don't have anybody who want to be around you because you're an arrogant piece of shit. And so great. Now you get to be all that by yourself. What's the value in that? And that becomes a huge thing. It becomes a huge thing. Jeff has felt that many times the past four or five years, I've been on a healing journey too. There's been a lot of conversations so we don't lose who we are, that we grow together. And that's the key. It's okay, which I'm not saying if you're on a health kick, I don't care if you're the husband, the wife, boyfriend, girl, gender, It doesn't matter. If you're on a health cake, it doesn't mean you have to drag your significant other or the other people with you, drag them with them kicking and screaming. You know, I mean, that's not the answer. Because look, here's the deal. You want to fucking have a shitty workout? Make me go when I don't want to go. I've always said you'll do it when you want to. Right. Right. But there's nothing wrong with going. Have I said, hey, do you want to go for a walk with me? And you're like, ah, fine. Hey, you have a new test result. I do. Absolutely. Awesome. But that's just it. It's like, hey, it's always an attempt to include, but it's never been a force. It's never been, have to, because you have to let people live their own journey. I mean, that's part of it, but you just can't. Megan hits it right on the head. You have to still communicate. As you find new shit that you, like, one, your partner, if you're finding it so new, that you really like should have an interest to want to know and learn about it, whatever, to understand what your likes are and understand how these are changing. And maybe they'll find something that will pique their interest. But I'm telling you, there are people, the magic of the pill doesn't make your relationship automatically move at the same pace. The magic of the shot or the pill or a medical procedure doesn't make all your all of a sudden have to, you know, just worship the ground you walk on. You want to know what people don't want? People enjoy, like, updates. That's okay. And you're trying to get used updates for attention. Whose fucking weight loss, whose journey is it? I mean, the thing with everything, it's just like in the lifestyle. You know, what is too much sex? How much is too much? Well, I don't know. There's a flying line there. you have to determine it, but are you putting shit out because you're excited or are you putting shit out because you want to fucking go look at me, and you're looking for attention? Because then what you don't need, it's not a diet you're looking for, it's a therapist. I mean, there's a difference. And the thing is, is what it does is it takes and turns people away from wanting to do a similar journey because they're like, is that what you become when you become that? Fuck that. And we have people, we see it all the time. I'll say it and I don't care. No names. I'm not going to use names. I'm not even going to use the sex of a person. Some people will know who it is. It doesn't really matter. There was a person that would go on and give pound for pound, weigh in for weigh in every time on every freaking page that she was on and then send you a message and send me a message. And it's like, I read it when you post it on this page and this page. You're looking for attention. Great job. You know, I put a thumbs up. Great job. Yep, I saw it. That's a good job. At some point, though, when it's just attention-seeking, I get to the point of, I don't care. Because it got to the point every time of, I don't care. I don't want to see a weekly picture of your frickin' scale. I don't care. Because all you're wanting is affirmation or I don't know what you're looking for. You're just looking for attention. You want people to notice. Well, they notice when they see you. And they look at you and they go, oh my gosh, you look amazing. Great job. I'd rather that than get a weekly countdown because by the time I see you, I go, yep, you sent me pictures of that already. Yeah, and that's it. And it might sound mean, but there's too much. Sometimes it's an overdoing. Everything, it can be that way. With medical shit, it can be that way. I mean, just take the lifestyle out of it. There are some people, my mom and dad used to always talk about it. Certain old people, when they were our age, would get... Oh, when your parents were our age? Yeah, when our parents were our age. Okay. And be like, I can remember getting in the car, and be like, Jesus Christ, every time we're there, got to go through the death watch. because this one guy would always go through. Everybody that was dead in the family. Great. You know, and there was another person, I can remember, you know, it's like every fucking medical thing that they had happened to him that no one wants to fucking know about. You know what? No one wants to know about your fucking wart on your ass. No one cares. And they would run, you know, it's like, yeah, big shit, whatever. But it's having that, there's limits. Everything has a limit. It's so funny, because now I'm really good friends with one of my cousins and everything else. But there was a time, and we've joked about it since, how they would get so fucking sick when my grandparents would go down there. All they heard about the entire time was all the great shit that my brother and I were doing. Oh, my God. And when they'd come home, all we'd hear about, all the great shit. It's like, yes, we understand. They walk underwater. Yes, we got that. And that's just the way it is. Larry, in a healthy community, the greatest gift to each other is a positive atmosphere. Everyone has the same struggles with the same goals. A positive atmosphere will help someone mentally more than you know to keep going. That is so fucking true. A word of encouragement, especially when maybe you don't feel like you did a as much as you could have or you have fallen off the wagon. You wouldn't hit the snack one more time. Look. Saturday night. Saturday night. Yeah. Saturday night. Our youngest son comes out. He's like. Saturday night. He's like. Do we have any of the snack on? We're all up there. And somehow this digressed really fucking quickly. That was my fault. Really dig. Real quickly. Because I'm like, well, surely there's something in the cupboard. There's not. I don't have a lot of snacks. And Cole says, well, there's oyster crackers. I can just have some oyster crackers. That'd be fine. And then we kept talking. He said, Taco Bell sounds really good. No, he said, well, maybe we should just go get something. And I go, how about Popeye's laughing? Cracking jokes out of Popeye's. And he goes, how about Taco Bell? And the adult supervision goes, that sounds good. I'm like, there's an amigo's down the street. Yeah. So before it's over, it's now nine o'clock at night. And I don't eat after like six. And him and I run into Amigos, which is closed, which should have been, let's just go home. What are we doing? Instead. To me, in a right mind would have gone, see, that's a sign that we shouldn't have it. Let's go back home. We'll find something to eat. There's oranges, there's apples, there's all this stuff. He calls his mother and goes, hey, they're closed. So we're just, we had already, we'd already decided before we were pulling because it looked dark. It's like, well, I guess we'd have to go to Taco Bell. And where she normally would be, she goes, this is what I want. I wanted Taco Bell. And then she got what she didn't want to get for a fucking meal. So it's... No, I didn't. It's 9.30 at night. I minus the taco. It's 9.30 at night. We're in the Taco Bell drive-thru getting dinner again. And just like, and we're laughing. And we came home. And all of us have wolfed on our face. I never ate all mine. She usually only needs half. She hammered all of hers. I hammered all mine. He hammered all his. And it's like, we're sitting there. It took us like, you know, half hour also they were eating and we're just and we look at each other and all we do is laugh you we didn't ball off the fucking health wagon we ran and cannonballed off that motherfucker right into taco bell but if you have a craving or you have you shouldn't deny yourself because that's how you end up putting it on later right anyways we shouldn't have done that and what the thing was and then we all said yeah you got up the next morning and lost how much a pound yeah but then we're all like oh It's the guilt afterwards. Look, those moments... I didn't have any guilt. It tasted fucking wonderful. I don't know that anybody's going to have a Taco Bell moment of falling off. That's really not falling off the truck. That's running to the Taco Bell. It tasted so good. But it was just like... You can't be wanting it again. No shit. But it's just like... How dare you? You just have... You're going to have those things. You're going to have that time where it's like, shit happens. And an encouraging word when you're like, I feel like shit. An encouraging word from somebody is so important to go. Okay, did life end that we fucking ate Taco Bell? Isn't that what I said to you? Yes. I felt like I almost wanted to go for a walk again. He did. He goes, okay, do you think the dogs would go for a walk with me? Okay. Elvis will not go for a walk for shit. Jack will go for a walk. Well, Elvis would just drag me. Elvis is a kangaroo walking. He should be walking a kangaroo. But the guilt factor is like, what did we do? And I'm like, why? And he goes, well, I feel like I need to go for a walk because I said, you know what? Just let it go. We all ate. It'll be no big deal. Move on. Just go back with it tomorrow. Yeah. Yep. So, Saturday nights is our Taco Bell night. I'm not going to make that up. Anyways, the point of that was that it's just the fact of encouraging how much different that encouraging work to make. Look, as we're getting ready to wrap up. Sorry. I guess the biggest reason why I wanted to do this show was You know, there's a lot of magic out there now with medicines and pills and whatever. But we just can't forget. We can't forget. There's some things that no shot or no pill is going to solve. And we have to know that. We have to, whether it be, whether we're the one taking it, whether we're the one, it's a friend doing it, whether, whatever. There's still common sense factor that has to go with it. And, you know, if you're looking at getting into shape or whatever your goals might be, rock on. I encourage you to do it. Find a fucking, if you're in a group like ours that has a healthy page, join it, whatever. Find people in the lifestyle. Trust me, there's somebody else in your group of friends in the lifestyle that wants to do the same thing. And absolutely find your little group. Find, it's an online walkthrough. partner, so to speak, or whatever. Find one. It's awesome. And hopefully you will kick ass and reach your goals. But just don't get healthy. Get whatever you want. Get your goals. But don't give up who you are to get there. That's the message for today. There you go. All right. With that being said, there we go. Another fucking show that no other show will be doing anything like. ASNLifestyleMagazine.com. Check them out. Don't forget to treat them each and every month. Go on to ASNAwards.com and get us registered because here's the deal. We only do that through this month and then next month it's voting. Motorbunny.com. Treat your special vagina the way only you can with Motorbunny.com. And STD Hero, again, testing. We cracked some jokes. I had some fun with that earlier. STD Hero, you can literally, for as low as $99, it's going to cover it. That's going to test for 90% of things in the lifestyle. So please make it a part of your lifestyle experience to go to STD Hero. And get your test. You can get those on full swap shop, as well as Crazy Casbah and Casbah Studios. Get yours today. With that being said, kids, also don't forget to look at her shit on whatever, buy her stuff. That's how we pay her for stuff. I need followers on X. Wait, yeah, wait, yeah. And we need her to buy stuff. Her vagina is my only way to eat. Just saying. Here you go. It's taco night. It's taco. It's taco Tuesday again. Are we going to Taco Bell again? No. I have a free taco. You do. You do. Well, I mean. Is there lettuce in there? That's weird. Ew, that's disgusting. I swear to God, it's guacamole. With that being said. And on that note, I'm going to go get my ass kicked. With that being said, kids, do it the only way I know how, the only way I want to, and the only way I ever fucking will. Casbah style. El Taco. Out. Bye. Good grief.