Krazy Truth about Swinging #357 Your Ex should not control your Experience

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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey, you crazy motherfuckers. Welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth About Swinging. I'm your host with the most uncool, and I'm here with the lovely, lovely and perfect little angel, except when she's got a dick in her mouth. Hey, no one said that sex was bad, though. I didn't either. Okay. At no point in time... You're making fun of me. No. I was talking about the skill sets that you have. It's like a resume on air. Dick sucker. I've spent the fucking day listening to people going, oh, I just can't wait to fuck your wife again. Okay? So, I don't want to hear it. Apparently, I have an addictive pussy. Apparently so. It's magically delicious. So, anywho, just before I forget all this shit, this is season nine, Episode 357. For those of you following along at home. 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So that makes me feel good about our decision to partner with them. Let's put it that way. Yeah. Okay. So before we get going too much, this has been at one. Crazy Winter Nights was great. Here's the deal. I'm not going to spend a lot of time recapping Crazy Winter Nights. If you're there, it was awesome. If you weren't, dumbass, don't miss the opportunity because Crazy Winter Nights, the decade of decadence is on sale right now. and a week and a half into sales were 25% sold out. So I really wouldn't wait for next everybody to buy tickets. Anywho, but it was a great time and we appreciate everybody being there. But the interesting parts of the last week, in the last week, I've had, we've had a fucking another show. They tried to set us up, basically. They were at least sure enough not to use our name, which is so disappointing. My lawyer was like, damn it. They tried to call us out. They had on the show, they themselves had fucking lied and we turned down for Casual Care at one point in time, so we're the assholes. They had a perpetual fucking Casual Care person that we basically changed the rules to to be on the show to try to talk shit about us. And so we kicked off our page because they were talking shit about our events and telling people that our shit's too expensive and talking shit about our events. about us. That was on one podcast this week. I've had, at Crazy Winter Nights, we had people nearly had to leave in handcuffs because they were fucking idiots. Right? So, a band for life which doesn't have, that makes like number nine since we've ever had total in all the years of it. Unfortunately, you really need to watch your alcohol intake. Yeah, well, and don't be a fucking idiot. I mean, seriously. So, that, but it's why we have security. Rock on. It was actually handled great in the whole nine yards. I had another... Here's what's so funny, what people don't seem to understand. See, they think there's this thing that I'm kind of a big, dumb animal. I hear about everything. So when people call and tell me how, you know, oh my God, there was nobody talking shit about CASBA, it's usually the red flag there's people talking shit about CASBA, and I heard about it. We found out about that. But the other interesting part is In the past couple weeks, we've talked about the hypocrisy of the lifestyle. It blows my fucking mind when you have the track record we do. How we don't boot people for just willy-nilly reasons. Like, it's hardcore, serious reasons. We're going to be more worried about somebody. We're going to make new rules about fat shaming somebody. or saying bad things to somebody, which is wrong. But we're going to take this. Somebody was two seconds away from fucking being put in handcuffs, literally. Like, within two minutes of being in handcuffs. And go, well, I don't know. Here's the nice thing. This is the nice thing about Kazma, and this is the joy of going into ten years with this shit. For ten fucking years, I have played continuously nice. I have continuously kept my mouth shut. I have continuously Given the benefit of the doubt, all that shit. The sad part is, in the midst of all that, we know when people are lying to us. Oh, God, yes. They use us. Oh, God, yes. It's so fucking easy. We've kind of just had our limit on being used lately. I'm going to give an example before Crazy Winter Nights. I'm going to give an example before Crazy Winter Nights. about if they could still come to KWN. I said, yeah, absolutely. And their whole thing was, well, what kind of deal will you give me to come? Let me help you out with this. I don't have to give you a fucking deal to come to Crazy Winter Nights because I don't really give a fuck if you come or not. If you want to have fun, come. If you don't, that's okay. Not a problem. But seriously, the amount of people that have just reached this point where it's like everybody in the lifestyle owes them something. You know what? Here's the reality with the lifestyle. Or because you're a girl, everybody wants to fuck me. So you'll give me a deal because I know deep down you want to fuck me, right? If you have tits, Cole's an idiot. Let me help you out with this. If you're a crazy bitch, I'll probably stick my dick in you. Just saying. I've seen more pussy and more fucking weird sex acts in the last three years since we started doing porn. And it ain't even possible to, wow, amaze me or surprise me at this point in time. You name it, I have fucking seen it. And you know what? Some of it, it made me titillated. Here's what's really funny. I take testosterone shots. That makes me horny. A lot. I can watch her getting railed by a fucking huge cock and it's hot. Or a couple hot chicks. And my dick doesn't even move because I'm worried about the shadow that might be cast on your ass from my lights. You know what? You're not going to wow and amaze me to get me to enamor me with your titties to give you shit. Fuck off. Anyways. The joy of Casbah now is I don't give two fucks. And pretty much the reality of it is that the lifestyle is a choice, right? Nobody owes you anything. This goes to the whiny guy. Nobody talks to me. They want to fuck my wife and they won't fuck me. Fuck you. Get over it. Every other guy, you're a swinging dick. Great news. Congratulations. I'm single and nobody's nice to me. Fuck you. Get over it. Be personable. Don't be an idiot. You know? Oh, people treat me wrong. You're a psycho bitch. Deal with it. What the fuck? Nobody owes you shit. Like, there is no fucking magic wand when you sign up in the fucking lifestyle that says, now, oh, I signed up so I get this lovely parting gift or this lovely gift that comes with it. It doesn't fucking work that way. You want to get laid in an event? Don't be a fucking idiot. Ta-da. You want to make friends in the lifestyle? Don't be a fucking idiot. Ta-da. like you, talk, don't be a fucking idiot. It's really fucking simple. And it's not easy. If you're shy, you know what? It's going to be hard. It's going to take some work. If you're a nervous Nelly that when you get nervous, you say stupid shit and you're like, hi, I'm, ah! Okay? You know what? You can't do that. It's going to be hard. It's going to take work to get over that. And that's okay. And you're going to fuck it up sometimes. And there's going to be times you're going to walk out going, What did I do? I just walked up and yelled at that girl's face. I was trying to say I like you. It happens. But it's going to take work. But if you think there's some magic fucking thing that comes to the lifestyle, you're wrong. I'm so aggravated. I sit, I'm doing the radio station, I'm listening to all these shows, and I'm listening to all this shit, and there's a couple shows on there that's like, everything's about, oh, this bliss cruise, and that bliss cruise, and this fucking resort, whatever, and it's all magical. No, it's not. No, it's fucking not. The lifestyle is not magical. Lifestyle can be a fucking blast. The Lifestyle is going to have some unforgettable experiences. And guess what? Here's the magic key. They're not all sexual. Some of the best, some of the best nights we've ever had in the 15 years of being in the Lifestyle. There was sex involved, but the sex wasn't the hottest part or the fun part. It was sitting there in between times, just sitting there and we're all cracking jokes and laughing and having fun. I have sat on a fucking trampoline and completely clothed with 20 other people on a trampoline completely clothed laughing our asses off having a great time that was an incredible night. Amanda's tried to sneak and pee on a rock and it sounded like a cow pissing on a flat rock and we laughed. I was drunk. Give me a little bit of slack. I lost my cowboy boots. I mean. You've lost underwear a lot of underwear. I mean the thing That's what makes the lifestyle so fucking incredibly awesome. That's really what it is. And it is so incredibly disheartening to see this degree of entitlement that continues to creep in more and more and more in the lifestyle. Because the bottom line is, nobody owes you shit. They don't owe you a goddamn thing. When you pay money to come to my party, here's what I owe you. I owe you an environment that's safe. I owe you an environment that you can be comfortable and that you'll be respected. And whatever, if I say there's going to be snacks, there's snacks. That's what I owe you. That's what every event planner owes you. Other than that, they don't owe you shit. They don't owe you getting laid. They don't owe you to have fun. That's the part that no one's getting. Nobody owes anybody else to have fun. You have to make it your own fun. It's not hard. It's not difficult to understand. And yet we make it that way. And so we put these weird expectations on shit and it's like, okay, whatever. So that's my little tirade for the day. It's just been an odd, has it been a week, a week and a half? And it's not so much that it's like, it's a big deal. Like, oh, poor people. No, we're used to it. We really don't care. No. It's more just like, no one will say, there's some things that no one wants to say out loud. And it's like, why not? Somebody needs to fucking say it. Like, it is what it is. Yeah. You know, it's no different than drama. If you want to know where most drama comes from, the fucking person who says they hate drama. Like, you create it yourself. Don't create it. You don't want drama. Don't fucking create it. It's not that fucking hard. Don't create the drama. See how this works? It's easy. Easy fucking peasy. It's really not difficult. Just saying. Whatever. I don't know. I think it's complicated. It's just one of those fucking things. I don't know. This week I was told I was a dude. Yeah. Okay. So here's what's funny. So she got told on one of her videos that she looked like a dude. Looks like a dude. Well, there is. And I responded. I usually don't respond to any comments. But I responded, well, there is a man and a woman. I can tell you this. The money I spent says it's not a dude. Dudes can buy tits. Come on. But in the same fucking week, this shows just how all over the board the world is. It's just weird. In the same week, literally, I was on the phone today and I had three different people that were like, can't wait to shoot with you again because they just love fucking you. We had somebody that we wanted to do a picture on Full Swap 101 and it said how nice she looked and how they don't like guys with beards. Okay. You didn't have to respond at all. It's just like, all right, whatever. So it's just been funny, but it's like. And they're in a different country, so it's not like we're ever going to hook up. The funny thing with all of it is, is that it's more the only reason I bring it up is that in a world running rampant with keyboard warriors and the fact that no one will say the truth, I will. I just, I don't care. You know what? I'll absolutely fucking say it. I have no problem saying it. I'm still too nice. And the best part is that I love when people lie to me and try to act like, No. And I guarantee I will have people call me after this and be like, you know what we're talking about? He hangs up the phone and I go, why didn't you say this? Because I'm not going to. We're not going to do that. It's not worth it. And I'm like, my God, you should throw it right back in their faces. Same thing they said to you. Well, you know, I'm not going to stoop to that level. I wait and stoop until I get to the podcast. So we're nice, but then yet it's like, well, why didn't you say it to him then? It's not worth it. It's just silly. Okay. Usually we take a week off after KWN. No, Cole has not. No, it's not a bad thing. We get back Sunday and I think I slept for three days. I mean, I got up and moved to the couch, but I'd fall asleep, get up, fall asleep, get up for three days. It wasn't until Wednesday. I took Amanda to KWN and I brought a cat home with me and she just can't sleep. And that's okay. And that's what she should have done. I left the house Monday because I had to go to the doctor. And then I didn't leave the house again until Friday. When I went to the grocery store. Yep. Yep. I mean, no, you're fine. But the thing is, part of that is because we're excited. We're excited for what's coming up. Look, there's so many, the lifestyle is at a place right now that, like, we've always prided ourselves on trying to be pushing the boundaries moving forward with the lifestyle. Like, pushing it forward. And I truly believe that, like, right now, it is at a place that it hasn't been at for a long time. That people, and we're seeing it from the responses we're getting from KWN. And look, it was a small KWN. I mean, there's no if, and, or, or what about it. But the push and the excitement for the 10-year. It was so much fun. My feet are still hurting. I think they just stopped hurting. And you know why I didn't take a week off? It is so, we have some special shit planned for hours. for the 10-year. Because it's an anniversary year. And it's been so fun to go through and think about all those things, all those memories, all those times, all those, you know. It's a lot of work, but it's a blast. And you go on a high. But right now, I truly feel like the lifestyle is at this point where it's ready. It can either go backwards or it can leap forwards. And we're going to push it forward. And we're excited about that. And part of that goes along with the whole concept of 2026 is a renewed push for honesty. A renewed push to not be the status quo. You know, I mean, there's shit that we've done shows on multiple times through the years that we could do shows on again. But, like, no. I don't want to do that oh let's let's push it forward even if it's not what people are expecting even if it's not mainstream even if you're not going to hear any other shows I don't care I I mean I honest got good we don't want we don't we're not part of the clutter and that's not a rip on other shows or other things out there but we're not part of the clutter because that's you get a whole bunch of noise it's clutter and it's like no no no we're we're not that and we're not gonna going to be that we're if we're gonna if we're If we're going to settle to be that, then we're just not going to do this anymore because that's just not the way we go down. It just doesn't happen that way. So more with that way. So I do actually want to talk on a complete and total tear. I want to talk about messy breakups is really kind of what I want to talk about. in the lifestyle today. Okay. Okay? And I want to talk about it because, look, and I'm going to tie this in the KWN just because it fits. When you put on events, whether it be a house party, a meet and greet, it doesn't matter what it is, you're always aware of potential. I call them hotspots. Situations that could be, you know, maybe tense. Exes in the same rooms together, you know, whatever. or previous play partners, a lot of things. And like anybody else out there, we've had haters and we've walked into events where our haters were there and that would be a hotspot or potentially could be. But I want to talk about it because the problem is, and we're guilty of this too, is that a lot of times if you know that there is a hotspot or potentially could be a hotspot, you're it's an avoidance method. It's like, you know what, we're just not going to go. We're not going to put ourselves in that situation or put everybody in that situation or we alter our behaviors. And I think a lot of people do that. And the reason that's such a bad deal is what happens, the lifestyle is not going to solve whatever the reason there's an issue there. If you're exes or a play situation, the lifestyle in and of itself is not going to magically like smooth out. it over and make it better. There's no fix-it-berry in the lifestyle. Right? But the lifestyle can actually continue to pick the wound off and add salt to the wound. And I truly believe that. And the way that it does that is by people altering what they would do. Not going to an event because somebody else is going to be there. You know, altering where they're going to go out in during the event. And the animosity that you feel on the inside leading up to an event if that situation's going to happen. It's kind of like the fear of the first time knowing that somebody's going to be there that you work with or a family member or someone else is like, fuck, I think I'm going to throw up. This will be fun. You know, type feeling. At KWN, we had a couple of what could be what I done. in my own way, as hotspots to watch. And Jessica can tell us because I'm like, hey, we're going to make sure here. But what we saw at KWN, and this is the reason why I bring it up, is an incredible people doing, who's giving us all the angry faces? I don't know who that is. I can't make out who the face is. Anyways, that was the incredible number of people that absolutely took to knock it the fuck off. Absolutely took the high road. And that did exactly what you're supposed to do in the lifestyle, which is be super mature. And that's what they did. So let me tell you a little bit how this went. They were able to, without actively having to massively go out each other's way, they were able to go about their activities. And they're able to go about their activities. And go do their own things. And basically keep distance. There were a couple times that I know that they were in close proximity. And everybody just stayed in their lane. Nobody went up to try to fix anything. Nobody wanted to try to start anything. Everybody just stayed in their lane. is. Once they got through the initial, everybody's here. And you could watch it. I was going on cameras all over. But if you could, it would have been really cool to watch it. Because you can see people, like once they realize that it's all good, actually take and go, hey, wait a minute. Nobody died here. This is like, okay, we can. Everybody's going to stay in their lane. And then everybody was able to relax, do their own thing, and have a good time. And this is such a key part because if you really want to go to an event, I mean, and there's a million events. So let's say it's like during the summer. You know, there's one group that does a fun ride and that has a little party. It's a smaller event. Or you have one like KWN that's a big hotel takeover. Or you have one, a meet and greet. If there's something that you really want to go to, If you don't go Because of Whatever it is, right You sit there And you go No, I'm not gonna go You don't go show up You don't go And then you sit there And You get angry You get frustrated Because you're not going To something you wanted to go to Because of somebody else There's where the lifestyle adds the salt. And what makes it worse is then when you see pictures on your groups and wherever, and there you see the people, other people, not even the person you have an issue with, other people having fun, it pisses you off even more. So my thing is this. Obviously, it's a challenge. Like for us, we've never had where we weren't dating each other. We've always been married, just been us. Wait, we have? Right. So it's like, okay, so I don't even under, can't honestly say that I totally can understand and comprehend how difficult it would be to be dealing with a divorce or a relationship ending in the lifestyle. Because obviously, especially if people are flirty, people are whatever, I can't even imagine how do you do that. I guess my question I would pose, I pose to you and to other people is, do you think you can legitimately have fun at another lifestyle, at a lifestyle event when you start to see maybe that your ex has found somebody new and you haven't? Do you think you can have fun? What are you doing? You're doing something. Okay, so. I'm looking up people. Okay. So, do you think you can have fun? You have to repeat that now. Oh. It was a great show, folks. It was all a lot of fun. Do you think you can actually, do you think you can ever totally get over the animosity on an event? If you see an ex, they've owned somebody new. Oh, I could. And you haven't yet. I could. Yeah, but you're a heartless bitch. Oh, I wouldn't go that far. There can be one. I mean, if we want to push it there. Let's wind out, shall we? I mean, would I necessarily want to see them having fun and I'm sitting there floundering? No. Like, if we were to get divorced, hint. And you're like, found some girl to be your side bitch, and y'all show up at the party, and I'm over there, and y'all are just making out, and y'all are dancing and having fun. How would that be any different than when I was drinking a lot before? Because it depended. It would be a heartbreak. We'd be separating. Oh, gotcha. Okay. Wait a minute. There would be jealousy that I'm not having that fun. This is a horrible example because one, statistically the odds are 100% it would be flipped the other way around. 100%. No. No. Oh, fucking bullshit. Bullshit. You'd have a fucking line out your fucking door and be like, hi, can I console you with my penis? You have someone you call your STD. Yes, but... Touche. She would come running a heartbeat. But that's one. That's one compared to you to have a line. You would have a fucking line out the door. Okay, we totally got off topic here. That doesn't mean I'd act upon it. You sure? I mean, if I really wanted to rub it in, it would make you feel really jealous. See, there's the heartless heart. Yes, I can do that. If I really wanted to go because I really needed to get out of the house, I'd probably... Yeah, probably. Okay, so the point that, which totally got butterfly in this whole thing, I don't even know. This show is so off the rails. It doesn't matter. It always is off the rails. I know, but this is more so than other. Oh, it's supposed to be fun. Live a little. You said the key magic word, which is jealousy. See, to me, the point I'm getting at is I think if people understand why things most of the time are hot. I mean, I understand that there's, can, be a lot of anger in a relationship, breakups, whatever. Which, part of that to me goes, if you are in a point where it's something super emotionally charged, maybe going to a lifestyle that isn't the right answer. Like, just saying. Because, obviously, if there's a really, you know, not everybody wants an angry fuck, you know, type shit. So, I mean, it's like, that might not be, I guess, one, that can be a situation in general. But overall, having that non-bucking understanding of why, what it is, that it's a hurt and that it's, you know, you can do things without flaunting. You can do things without rubbing it in. If you both want to choose to be mature. Okay, see, this show is just totally, this is like, I don't, we shouldn't even publish this show because this one still went so off the rails. Oh, stop it. Have fun with it. What? Out here giving bad advice. Absolutely. Just show up. No. If you are going to an event, you owe it to the host to be on your best behavior and to leave all your emotions at the, you know. It's not so much the host. I think that's it. I think you owe it to yourself. Well, okay. I think you owe it to yourself. Like, the reality of it is you owe it to yourself to allow yourself to have fun, which means to do that, You have to take, and even if it's just for a brief moment in time, let go of the anger, let go of the whatever, let it go. It's, if you go out, if you, like after mom died, trash to go out, like it was one of those things that I had to make a choice. I was going to let myself go and have fun or not. And which meant you had to leave all those emotions with that whole situation at the door. Don't worry, they'll be there for you when you come back. But you have to owe it to yourself to have a good time. Because you might as well, if you're going to go to the event and be miserable, you might as well stay home and be miserable. Yeah. I mean, seriously. But if you go and you do you and you stay in your lane and you allow yourself to have fun, which means you're not worried about what that other group of people are doing, you're going to have a great time. The example I used when we walked in, I guess it was just You weren't there. When? One of the meet and greets I went to in Bellevue. And our favorite people were there. I was not with you. And the thing was, is, like, there's a level of fucking hate that is an anger there that's second to none. But the reality of it is that what we did was, I saw that they were there they saw that I was there and I made sure that I still was talking to people people saying hi whatever and just doing my own thing not not paying any attention to them they left and the thing is is you know what as long as they left me alone I wasn't going to go interfere because you know what I was talking to people having a good time not having to worry about it I didn't even I actually know when they got up and left. But they left. And that was the choice. And the thing is, it's like, you know what? No, I didn't walk in. I'm usually pretty loud. I can be pretty loud and noxious. I was very conscious of my alcohol intake. So that, so to make sure. Well, you were driving. I was driving. But I mean, I could have been there for several hours. But knowing, one, I was making sure that I didn't put myself in a bad situation. There were people sitting at their table that I knew that I was all I didn't walk out to that table to say hi to those people. I was talking to other people and they, those people eventually came over and said hi to me. It wasn't, it was a respect thing. Like there's no reason to do that. And so, but I didn't waste my time just worried about them. I just took care of me and stayed in my lane. And that's really, I think I know it's harder when it's people that, you know, you had an intimate relationship with, But I think that's the key, is you have to be willing to let yourself have fun, which means you have to let whatever is bothering you, if it's your job or relationship or your kids or your dog or whatever the fuck it is, that's not going to allow you to have fun. So you have to block out, and we do. Like, how many times have we went out and your kids suck, and you're just like, you know, all the way to the bar, you're like, fucking kids, I want to kill them. And then when you get there, the kids are no longer part of the thought process because you're having fun. It's the same thing. It's just disappointing when having put on events for so many years, we hear all the time. People go, well, I didn't go. My ex was going to be there. Well, that's a horrible reason not to go. Now, I had one person say, well, I don't know how they're going to act. Okay? And I can respect that not wanting to cause a sin. We understand that because we have turned places down. We've been there. But, you know, when we did, when we did, the seminar at KTVN on How to Say No. We talked about the concept of what people are most afraid of is the reaction. The thing is, is that if we don't, if you don't put yourself in the situation to have a reaction being given, that's the key. And you can do that by it's little things. It's a, stand in your lane is part of the challenge is little, little, skill sets like not making an icon, not looking at them, not acing them, not... I mean, it's like a fucking animal, right? If a dog's enough to you and you're like right in their fucking face, you're going to have an issue, right? Don't do that. Don't stare at them. Don't do the shit that's going to create animosity, you know? Just don't. Larry, it could be difficult if you're accompanied by friends who will insane things even if you don't want to. Yes, those assholes suck. No, but you're exactly right. And Larry, you have a great point. And at that point in time, to me, I think one of the challenges is, is that you have to be willing to say to your friends, that's not okay. I'm not okay with this. And walk away. And it sucks. Look, it may take a couple of times. If the wound is really fresh, especially, It may take a couple times If you're going to be in a situation that could be an intimate setting, I don't mean sex intimate, but like, you know, hey, great news. There's going to be a group of four type thing. Okay. Yeah. A little common sense goes a long ways. Two to go. Yeah. You know what? I appreciate it. You know, being respectful of everybody in the group. Or if you know that you can't keep yourself See, to me, we always talk about what reaction other people will give, but the reality of it is, are we afraid of their reaction or our reaction to their reaction? I mean, and then, who's on first? But you get my point. Yeah. I don't know. I think... Yeah. Well, yeah. I mean, I don't know. I guess it depends, for me anyway, it would depend on how things ended as to... You beat me. Once I got out of the hospital, I wanted to go to a swing event. Then you should still be afraid of me. I am. Whatever, shut up. Shut up. But I mean, I don't know. It depends on how things broke up, how... angry they were as if I want to put myself in a situation to be around them. I mean, if they were screaming at me, I'm not going to put myself into that situation where I can be screamed at again. Right. Because I'm not going to deal with that. Right. I mean, that's that's a weird example. No, but it's legitimate. It's legitimate. And look, every one of our haters that's going to come up to our face and go, you stupid motherfucker and punch you. Well, I'm going to try to avoid going to anything that they're at because I don't want to. I don't want them to do that. I don't want to go to jail. Uh, yeah, no. And you're exactly right. And, and mind you. Okay. So here's the caveat with this is obviously in theory, this isn't in theory because there are going to be some situations that are just somebody is not everybody. It takes a degree of everybody wanting to somewhat get along or one, not so much wanting to get along, willing to tolerate each other. See, and I think there's the key. There's, if you have two people that are willing to want to get along, generally no problem at all. If you have two people that are willing to tolerate each other, basically live and let live, stay in our lane, not a problem. If you have one person that's okay with it, one person that's not, then you have a different ballgame. I think that, and you have to know what that is, and I think you have to know whether or not who the crazy person is in the relationship. Yeah, well, I mean, there's a degree to know. Like, you've got to know. And then the other part of it is, I think, even if you do all the other things that are, we've talked about it, again, accountability, and it's things like you need to be conscious of how much booze you're taking in and some other things like that that can alter that perception. And like Larry said, you've got to be conscious of the people you're going to go, If you know your ex is going to be there and the people you're supposed to go hang out with are going to be a problem for you, you got to know that or you got to separate yourself from that because obviously that's a little bit different ballgame. Or talk ahead of time going, do not confront them. Yeah, do not. Yeah, and you got to hope. Put me in a situation or you are not my friend. And if they start to do that, you have to be willing to walk away. In a perfect world, you would hope. Again, the lifestyle is not going to cure and heal wounds. And the basketball game is going on there. Nebraska is doing better. It's not going to take and cure and heal wounds. It's just not. It can show you that there is a way to move on with it still at least being positive. You don't have to change everything. Now, here's the other caveat with that whole thing is, you know, if the reason a breakup or whatever occurred is because of the lifestyle, you have to be honest with yourself and examine what caused you to get where this is at. Not saying one person's right or wrong, but just here's how we got here. Because if the road to getting to that situation is the lifestyle, then the lifestyle, it may be the right thing to do to step away from the lifestyle. Because you're in a different mindset at that point in time about the lifestyle overall. You just really, really are. And the worst thing you can do is drag other people, and most of the time it's subconsciously, Most of the time people are drugging subconsciously into that situation. You mentioned the word jealousy. You know what? There's a fucking bitch. I'll show her. And all of a sudden. Exactly. And all of a sudden. Here's this other person who's having a wonderful evening thinking, you know, also now is part of something that they didn't sign up for. Yeah. Like, and you have to, you have to know. that you can't... Nothing makes that okay. Even if they're doing it. Even if the other side is doing it. If I flick you off, you flick me off. Great. But if I drag somebody else in, it doesn't mean you can drag somebody else in too. You have to know and not do that. And you have to be accountable for yourself. You notice the theme through 2026? Honesty and accountability. There you go. It keeps coming back. It keeps circling full circle. Back to that. All the way across the board. It's weird how that fucking works out. Right? Not necessarily. Kind of. I don't know. Maybe we should break up and see what happens. That would be a disaster. That would be so fucking bad. Do you have much fun that we could have fucking with everybody? Yeah, I couldn't afford it. You know what we need to do? We're just going to have separate rooms or what? Shit. Yeah. I'm sleeping in the studio. Neat. No, you always do what would be funny as hell. What? We should have like a total meltdown show. where we just, like, fucking go ahead and fucking, like, do this whole thing. Like, we fucking break up and fuck this and fuck you, you know, the whole nine yards. And then go to an event. And when people, like, reach out to you, it's okay. It's like, we're not talking about it. And just fucking, and then just, and then just watch the shit show when we go in somewhere. That would be fucking hilarious. We'll eat, we'll eat to bring somebody else in with us. That would be fucking funny. Oh, my God. You're part of this scam. And it's like, oh, my God. Oh, you guys are back together? I ain't talking to that fucking bitch. I ain't talking to that. That guy's a dick. I don't want to fucking talk to him ever again. Fuck him. Do you know what he fucking did to me? Oh, what ho is he with tonight? Oh, what? She can't fucking slaughter him over there or whatever. I mean, that'd be funny as hell. Angel's like, not funny. It would be kind of funny. It would be kind of funny. What would be funny is to watch, I'm telling you, I've maintained this and I still believe this completely. If I were to drop dead, because I tell you this every year before Crazy Winter Nights, If I die, don't cancel Crazy Winter Nights. Up the prices for the memorial because you'll make a fucking fortune. The thing is... Not funny. All of our fucking haters are like, I'm paying for that shit. Is the number of people that would be lined up to console you. Right. You know, hey, if you need a shoulder to cry on a dick to put in your mouth, you know, I'm telling you, and you say it wouldn't end up, and I'm telling you there would be a line a fucking mile long. Like, my brother would be like, who are Where are all these guys? And you're like, well. Just like, yeah. You would make a fucking fortune. Not happening. 50 bucks. 50 bucks. I'm just saying. You never fucking know. It's something we could try. Just something we could be funny as hell. Look, you know it's true. Just saying. Anyways. So, yeah. So, but again, a big shout out, I guess, to the folks. Yeah, that's exactly what I need. Wow, all the girls have tried to skate by me. They'd come out of fucking woodwork. I wish I had a husband just like Cole. He's not like this all the time, you know. There are times when he throws shit. There are times when he yells. There's times when you're walking on eggshells because you know he's pissed off. Shut up. I am never like that. I'm not. I'm not. I mean, not very often anymore. Hey, I don't want to hear this shit because normally you'd have like the lead up to KWN there that way and you don't have that this time. Which I'm going to go back and put this little plug in whilst we're talking about fucking divorcing each other. These chairs hurt my butt. It's because of my big dick that was up there. Just kidding. Anyways. Noah's from falling on my tailbone, but that's beside the point. On my big dick. Anyways. Chef, they don't even know. So I'm trying to make things up sound silly. You fell on your butt. See? We were having a problem. Well, Half the people at Crazy Winter Nights knows I fell on my ass when I passed out. When I fainted. I don't say passed out because I wasn't drunk. I passed out. I fainted. And I'm going to try it next year and see what gets me out of shit. That's why I went to the doctor on Monday. So what the fuck was I going to say? I had this really good point now. I'm guessing somebody traveled is all I heard. Currently we're down. Come back. No, I was going to say Crazy Winter Nights We're going to go back to this, because we're talking about spouses being a dick. I only got riled up at KWN once. It was kind of an extended one, but it was like, I had a mild version, then it ramped up at the end, but I was really tired. Ramped at the end. But most of the things, with everything else. Most everything was smooth, and the things that should have been set you off, you're just like, yeah. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Other things just like fucking asshole. The funny thing is, is Derica, my therapist, now books for the next seven years because she was like, you're a fucking crazy guy. But no, because there is just a different, it's, it shows the overall thing of like, life's too short. Like it just is. Life's too short not to go to something you want to go to because somebody else is there. Like, it's just, it's not worth it. It's not worth missing out on something that you might enjoy, that you're going to let somebody else take that joy from you. So, you know those words can come back to haunt you. Oh, I know they won't, I'm sure. What are you thinking of? Like, as in? I don't know. If we're invited to some event and I'm going to go, you know, there's going to be people that hate you there. Yeah. And look, Some of it is, it's a decision factor anymore with me that I go, do I want to deal with it? And the thing is, is that for so many years I did deal with it. I was always nice. And now my thing is, it's not so much that I couldn't, I don't want to. Like, I don't feel like I'm missing out. Okay, so when we get invited, you know, there's one event that I guarantee 50% of the people there hate my guts. Okay. Surprise. I'm at a point now where it's like, I'm not bummed out that I wasn't there. I'm not bummed out that I don't go. You know, it's like, okay. But it's not worth it to me to go pretend to have fun. I'd rather stay in my lane and I'm okay with that. You know, now there's other things that come up that it's like, hey, you know what? I would hate to miss, you know, I can't think Right off the top of my head. But, you know, I don't know. Insert really cool event here. Crazy Winter Nights. Like, I can get out of that. But, you know. No, you can't get out of that. No, but, you know, going to, I don't know. I don't know. Whatever it is. A party somewhere. That was going to be a lot of fun. Haters wouldn't stop me. No. Because it's just like, yeah, whatever. And I would actually kind of get off on it. You know, because I'm kind of sick fucked that way. And that, there's a part of that that's entertaining to me now, or it's like, you know, when I don't show any reaction, that just fucking drives me insane. And to me, and it's not that I'm working not to, I don't, I just literally reach the point I don't care. That's why I wanted to do this show, because it's like, look, to me, swinging is still a window. There's a finite amount of time. Like, you're going to hit this point where you're like, I don't want to be, you know, where it's all of a sudden are wheelchairs at this park. Yay! You know, I mean, seriously. It'd be entertaining. It'd be entertaining to say, hey, baby, you want to ride my cane? No, no, really, my cane. You'd use it to go up somebody's skirt. No. Tickle your clit with a little pointer. But, like, there's a limited time. We're all going to get there. So, to miss something you really want to do? Yeah, no. I mean, look, we have that shit coming up with the exotic. You know, it's like the days of being able to... You're not going to get me to not show up. You're not going to intimidate me to not show up. It just isn't going to happen. There's no way. If anything, what will happen is for me, it's the exact opposite. I go bigger and louder. I add an additional 10-footer booth face. It's a big, fuck you, type thing. And, you know, and the thing is... Is that why you did that? That entertains the hell out of me. I mean, you know, To me, it's just like, oh, hey, look, we're the biggest fucking booth over here. Ooh, suck a dick. So, I mean, you won't be on film. Is that why you did it? It added to it. Actually, you want to know the reason why I did it? Okay, this has nothing to do with anything. These guys are going to hate this part of the show. Don't care. Nobody listens to our show anyways. There's seven cool people right now. The final straw to add the extra 10-footed booth space was when I was embarrassed by the wifey people. Yeah. Because like, you know what? Well, I mean, here's the thing. I'm just saying right now, if, you know, like you fix my vest. I did already. Yeah. You fix my vest. But it's like, I probably won't wear it. Just, just out of, I'll still be as uncomfortable as fuck just being shirtless because that's just not me. You're going to do shirtless? Mm-hmm. But just out of principle to go, yeah, you didn't want. And, and yeah, now, We're the biggest fucking booth. Yeah. I mean, there's a huge thing of, like, you won't intimidate me. For an extra $700, you can go, fuck you. But, I mean, that's part of it. It's like, you're not, you have to choose. Like, just like I said earlier in this whole fucking chaos, for anybody who remembers the early part of the show, like, you're not owed anything. You have to make it happen. choose. You have to choose if you're going to let somebody else fucking dictate if you're going to let somebody else dictate who you are and what you're going to be. You've got to choose if you're going to let somebody else make it so you can or can't get laid. You've got to choose. And you have to choose if you're going to let somebody else do that. And you have to choose inside if you're going to allow yourself to do that to you. Like, you know, that last day at Exotica in Jersey, when that happened, like, I wanted to die, right? I became a 13-year-old kid again. But so what are you going to do? So the choice is very fucking simple. You know, do I go back into my safe and comfort zone, which is what? Jeans, T-shirt, suit coat, right? Or even on the Sienna thing, do I go in the full Sienna suit? And, you know, do I totally just, do I give in? Or do I go, yeah, suck it. And that's the choice. And the thing is, ultimately, if I choose to cave, then they didn't beat me, I chose to quit. And you just can't do that. And that's... Nobody owes you anything, but no one's going to take anything from me. And that's what I want people to understand in the lifestyle. It's like, if you want to have fun, go make it happen. If you want to meet somebody, go make it happen. If you want to talk to that pretty girl, if you want a chance with that pretty girl or that hot guy, go make it happen. Because standing on the wall ain't going to fucking make it happen. Like, dig deep, dig inside, Find some strength. Find some courage. Take a chance. You know what? They're not going to walk up and go, no, fuck you and shoot you. So you may take some bruises and get bruised a little bit. But you know what? I promise no matter how much you get kicked in the balls or kicked in the twat, it isn't going to hurt as much as kicking yourself all the fucking way home because you didn't try. And that's deep and wide. But that's a totally different story. I know. I don't know what her name was. Anyways. Santa's awesome. Just ask all the little people. Well, and that's just it. You know what? Look, there is a whole bunch of religious hot trannies that are at Exotica that will be totally disappointed if Santa's not there. And plus the plethora of gay guys that are excited about Santa the bear. What's the maiden? What is a little miniature something maiden? They don't call them midget maidens. What do they call themselves? Something maiden. Yeah, something. Yeah, miniature maidens. I think miniature. No, it's not miniature. Well, maybe. Smurfettes. I don't fucking know. The little people. The little people. Lollipop guild. Oh, it's not the one. Oh, my God. Could be. It could be. I'm just... I could have a bunch of them hanging on my arms and stuff. Kind of fun. But no, I mean, so yeah. Micro maidens. Micro maidens. Yep, the micro maidens. I'm like, it's going to come to me. It just comes in little bits at a time. Going to hell. There you go. Yep. So yeah, there you go. So this show had absolutely zero redeeming value, but that's all right. Oh, it did too. Shut up. Probably. You just got a piece of all the bullshit crap to get there. It's fun. Okay, so with that being said, buy tickets. What do we got coming up? We got Crazy Summer Nights is next coming up. We got Crazy Summer Nights. We got the Halloween party. And we're selling. Don't wait until the next year to get your crazy winter night shit. Just saying. You'll be sadly disappointed if you do. The rate is going along there. So check out all our stuff. Check out your stuff. Almost out of suites. Or are you out of suites? We are completely out of suites. We're running super relaxing. Over 25% of the hotel is sold out in a week and a half. So go online and get your tickets and rooms. Yeah, and check out all this stuff. And make sure, hey, if you get a chance to go on to, if you go on to our Kazma Studios, they can then click links to your website, all of our talents websites, as far as that goes, with all you guys' links, because there's going to be a whole bunch of new hot content for all of you guys, because I know, because I've helped set it up, and I can tell you, in April, there's going to be a bunch of sore vagges and a couple sore dicks from all the fucking fucking they got going on. So they're going to have a plethora of new shit to show you. I mean, it won't be new, but I mean, it'll be different angles. and different people. Different people. That's what matters. Oh, yeah. Absolutely. Yeah. We knew and exciting adventures. Oh, fucking. Nope. Just saying. Anyways. All right. Uh, motorbunny.com. Don't forget to check them out. Full swap shop, uh, as well. And you use our, you, you click on our links, you get a $50 code. All right. Discount as well. ASN lifestyle magazine.com. Check it out. Uh, make it your habit to read it each and every month. We're there. And obviously again, STD hero. And again, We make a lot of jokes about stuff. Please, make 2026 the year that you are getting tested regularly. Do it for yourself. Do it for your partner. Do it for your spouse, your play partner, your whole nine yards. Go to Full Swap Shop, and you can go to the STD Hero section by your kit. Go to crazychasm.com. In the shop, you can get your STD Hero kit, or go to Kazza Studios and get your STD Hero kit. So please, let's all work to be... He just yelled, fuck. Anyways, so with that being said, I'm like, whoa. I said, do it the only way I know how, the only way I want to, and the only way I ever fucking will. We'll see you next week. Oh, yeah, because next is Valentine's week this week? It's Saturday. Saturday. Make sure you fucking do something sweet for your Valentine's. It's Saturday. I've got big plans for it. You don't. Get your test. Don't make it Valentine's Day. Give her hearts. Give her candy. Don't give her an STD. Okay, I'd take candy. Would you? Well, I like candy. Okay. Seriously? Would you like a candy cock? I've gone through a giant bag of jelly balls in my 40s. Do you know how much my penis hurts? Because every year I have to melt hot chocolate rubbing on my cock. Anyways, with all that being said, what a great way to end the show. Right after we've done our sponsors. It's hard to believe I have trouble keeping sponsors. Do you want to do it anymore? I'm doing it the only way I know how, the only way I want to, and the only way I ever fucking will. Kazma Style, out. Bye.