Krazy Truth about Swinging #359 Find yourself to find the fun

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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth About Swinging. I'm your host with the most, Cole, and I've been scratching myself, and I'm here with the lovely, lovely, and checking for ourselves. on Porn Sites, Miss Amanda. Hey. We're here to tan-late, tit-late, and otherwise just do weird fucking shit. This is, for those of you all along at home, which is like six of you, this is Season 9, Episode 359, almost to 360. It means nothing, but it's a number. Anyways, so, yeah. So, before we get going too far down the road, quick shout-out to our sponsors. Who the fuck are our sponsors? Motorbunny. Motorbunny.com. That's right. If you want to. If you want top quality name and quality sex toys, whether it be handheld, new handheld toys, that'd be a rabbit in the hand, motorbunny.com or the original or the buck, you can also get those on Full Swap Shop. See, everything circles back to Full Swap Shop. Weird. Anyways, and if you click on some of those links, you get our $50 coupon. Get something. Because it's us, so whatever. Anyways, it sounds good. and ASNLifestyleMagazine.com if you want to know what's going on in the adult world, as well as the lifestyle, ASN Lifestyle Magazine, which it's voting time. Actually, right now it's nominating time. And so you need to go to ASNLifestyleMagazineAwards.com. The categories that you need to nominate us in, please, Best Expo Convention, you know, whatever, Trade Show Expo Convention for Crazy Winter Nights, Best Adult Takeover, which we won last year for Crazy Order Nights. And Best Magazine Cover. That would be March. Also, Best Pro slash Amateur. That's how we make our porn. You know, where we fucking put shit up there. Casbah Studios. And Best Social Group. Crazy. Best Adult Social Group. Crazy Casbah. Should be hard and easy to figure that out. Don't worry about podcast shit because I don't stand at Snowball's Chance in Hell. And also... You don't know that. Oh, hold on. Let me think about it. Yeah, I do. Also, her best female porn star, Miss Amanda. You can actually do her for best content creator as well. So there you go. But go on, because here's what happens. You only are nominating through this month. And then next month, they open it up and everybody gets 100 votes. So you can vote one time and go on and vote 100 times. Boom, get it done. So hopefully we can win something. I don't know. We'll have to see. Anyways, check it out. But ASN. Seriously? Uh-huh. ASNLifestyleMagazine.com. Check it out. Get to do it like individual times? No, you can go. and put like all 100 votes on this certain specific person in each category if you want. It's actually, in a way, it's good. I don't fucking know. I think it's good. Whatever. I'm hoping so. You know, if we win something, who knows. We've got, we've only been, we've only been a finalist. We've only won, we're seven time ASN award winner. We are an 18 time finalist with most finals appearance of anybody ever. And second most ASN awards. Interesting. It was only intended in one award. Right. And, And we're sponsoring him this year. They're sponsoring us. We're sponsoring him. And we'll be back again this year because it's Orlando and it's summertime and it's a vacation. And you'll get to shoot content. Yeah. It's a good time to tweet us out. You'll get dick and I'll film it. Also, STD Hero. So, confidence is sexy. Confidence starts with knowing your status. STD Hero puts you in control with discreet at-home STI testing powered by our CF. LIA Certified Laboratories. They do everything for folks who are swingers all the way up to the adult industry with past certified. Here's the thing. Just a side note. You can go on right now and you can get the STD Hero Common Test, which will test for 90% of everything that's out there in the lifestyle. You upgrade it to the two-tier. It's $99. Seriously, to know what the hell is going on. And when you look at it, you can go to their page and they have statistics. Figure this. For every party you go to, Like, four out of every hundred people have something. So, you might want to get tested. Just saying. Anyways, skip the clinic. Skip the awkwardness. STD hero. Science you trust. Privacy you deserve. Check it out. Now, you can actually go on our Crazy Casbah and get it. You can go on the studio page and get it. Any of our talent's websites can get it. Or also on Full Swap Shop. The reality is, 2026, there's no fucking excuse not to get tested. If you can't get tested, You really aren't maturing to be a lifestyle. Just saying. So there's that. There you go. And yes, we have heard of some people that don't get tested and fuck like crazy. Hey, great news. Condoms, that'll stop everything. No, dumbass. Well, no, we even know some that don't even use condoms. It's like, ooh. And here's the cool thing. That's even professional people. They're also a sponsor of Crazy Winter Nights. Again, this coming year, they're very excited about that. So we're excited. We got all kinds of excited. People are jazzed about KWN, the 10th Decade of Decadence. Spunk Lube just signed on as an official lube. They're giving a whole bunch of lube for us. Cassidy is our gift bag sponsors, and they just signed on, and it's really cool. But we've got other stuff coming up, too. We've got Crazy Summer Nights, which we've got to talk about. We've still got some spots available there. We've got all kinds of shit, so just looking. Yeah, just saying. All kinds of shit. Tons and tons of shit. Just that. Tons and tons of shit. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. So get your tickets. Get on board and come join in. Okay. You want to talk about it? Mm-hmm. Okay, great show. So, um, oh, so excited. I'm like, what? Can't read in my shit. Awesome. Anyways, so, you know, uh, interestingly enough, let's, uh, I want to talk a little bit about... Sex? It's a song. Sorry. It is. It is. Absolutely good point. No, you know, well, yes, sure. Okay, whatever. No, I'm kidding. What I want to talk about a little bit is, you know, is truly maximizing your experience in the lifestyle. And I'll tell you what triggered all this. I listen to a lot of shows, not necessarily because I want to a lot of times because I'm doing shit with the radio station, so I hear them. Whatever. I'm listening, so it's in the background. It's background noise and I'm hearing it, whatever. It is so amazing to me. People talk about, you know, getting all these experiences in the lifestyle and you got to do all this stuff to maximize the lifestyle. And what has struck me as this is that that's not true. The image that's starting to be put out, in the lifestyle is that there is this perception to maximize the lifestyle, you have to maximize the sexual experiences. And there's a degree of that. I mean, look, if you just want a social club, maybe the lifestyle isn't the most suited for that. And there's a degree of like, if you hate having sex, and you don't want to have sex, then I probably wouldn't say, well, you know, I know, become a swinger. But I think the challenge is becoming we're putting more and more emphasis on sexual experiences versus personalizing the lifestyle into what it can do for you in terms of what it can help you uncover and discover about yourself. Like, maximizing the lifestyle, if you can find a new set of confidence or a stronger belief in yourself or a different love of your own body or a different willingness to have conversations that are, you know, out of your comfort zone or to discuss fantasies or to, yeah, granted, maybe live some of those fantasies out or take chances. that take you out of your comfort zone, then you're maximizing the lifestyle. And yes, the sexual factor is always there. Because let's base it, what is the most adult thing that you can do that's fun? Not like work, but like fun to maximize the adult experience? It's sex. So if there's a, sex creates, sex creates tension, sex creates It's uncertainty. Sex creates extreme passion. Sex can create extreme anxiety. Sex can create extreme joy. Sex can create extreme down. I mean, what it does is you take a sandwich and you take two pieces and you put a piece of bread out and you lay your blah meat on the bread, right? And you get the blah piece of lettuce and you put it on the bread and you take the blah a piece of cheese, American cheese, and you put it on the bread and you pile this up. And then sex is like the spicy mustard, the relish, the unique flavor or taste, whatever. That's what sex is. That's when you throw that on whatever the sandwich is, when you slather that on top, it becomes a whole new ballgame. So if you take in your life and you If you take, like, if you have, if you hate your body, if you hate the way you look, you look in the mirror and you hate, you don't like it, you're not happy with what you see, that's not a feeling you just have at a lifestyle thing. Right? Right. You're getting ready to go to work. Guy or girl doesn't fucking matter. You're getting ready to go to work. You've got a big meeting, whatever. You're trying to get ready. You're trying to look nice, you're trying to whatever. And you look in the mirror and that fucking, I don't like what I see on the other side is just as predominant or work as it is if you're going to go try to buck. We don't make these correlations so many times, which is really silly because it's the fucking truth. And so if you can find a way when it's slathered with that spicy sauce called sex to get over that over here where you can get into, you can look in the mirror and you can find a little bit of happiness. and what you see, that will carry over into your real life. So that didn't involve a dick going in anything or having a dick put in you or putting your dick anywhere, but it's maximizing the lifestyle that spreads over into the real world. Do you get what I'm saying? Right? The problem is, is that if we take and we make that sandwich that we just described, and it's slathered with the sex, whatever, and we put it all together, and we slather that all up so it's going to taste unique and different and wow and whatever, right? But if we go the only way that we're going to eat the sandwich is if we actually get laid, we've missed the whole fucking point of the damn sandwich and building the sandwich. We've missed the whole fucking thing. Because we're going, well, we didn't get laid, so this was worthless. So we take the sandwich with the fresh bread and the piece of ham and the the fresh lettuce and the american cheese slathered with the other and we take it we pick it up we look at it and we throw it in the fucking garbage and we go that fucking this weekend suck we didn't get anything out of it and that's what's happening in the fucking lifestyle because we are putting the emphasis on the wrong area if if you are a shy fucking person right and bless you squared and going to the life going to a lifestyle event, whether it's 1, 10, however many it takes to get you to the point that you have the ability as a shy person to walk in a place where you don't know people and feel comfortable to walk up and say hi to somebody or to start interacting with somebody you don't know or feel comfortable to go to an event all by yourself, right? All by yourself. That didn't require you to not get fucking pussy or dick, but you maximized the fucking lifestyle. because that's going to carry over in your real world. You're going to be able to take that experience and without telling anybody that you like to fuck other people as a hobby, you're going to be able to take that real experience and go and make a difference. I love that. Now I'm hungry for a sandwich. Yeah, basically, it's going to be weird when you go to work and go, I'm just starving for a sandwich. But the reality of it is that's maximizing the lifestyle. We all say this fucking bullshit. We go into it with no expectations. You're fucking lying. We all do. We all go unhopeful. It's human. It's not even necessarily hopeful. You go into every single person as a human, living, breathing person. You either walk into a situation and you're making the expectation that it's going to be awesome, possibly more awesome than ever. is going to be or that it's miserable. I'm going to go in. No one's going to talk to me. It's going to be horrible. It's going to suck. That is still an expectation. That is still an expectation. No one's going to fuck me. No one ever fucks me. That is still an expectation. Right? And the thing is, is that the problem with the expectation is, is that the success is based upon actual sex. And yet the growth, Was it because of how much pussy you were getting? Was the lifestyle successful? Well, if you think about it, when we first joined the lifestyle, and everybody makes these profiles on these webpages, right? And they always put, happily married couple just trying to spice things up. Well... Go ahead. Well, but how do you necessarily... To spice up your marriage, is it to Take sex with somebody else? Slather. Slather on the fucking mayo. Does it take sex to spice up your marriage? No. As soon as we started chatting with other people, we were like fucking horning and let's go fuck. Yeah. Yeah. So it had nothing to do with sex. It had to do with flirting and somebody actually wanted to flirt back. Well, I sucked at it. But, you know, you got a chance to. I was great with it. I had rum and it was amazing. The rum could flirt like a motherfucker. No. just chatting like the very first couple chatting it was like we hadn't even met them yet it was just chatting back and forth of course the guy and i were just massive just conversation you and the girl were like sexting each other back and forth because that's just our personalities and then it was just like we were just all over each other wanting to fuck and it's just like okay did it spice up your marriage fuck yeah it did it the the concept you're exactly right the concept of what it what the The slathering sauce of the sandwich was, was the fact that. Going with Popeye's Mardi Gras. Mardi Gras mustard. There was someone else interested. It was fucking new. It was the, the, a million times, especially early on. There were people that it was so revved up and hot and, and not even sexting, just texting back and forth with somebody, you know, we're sitting. Somebody different. How many times we sat in our living room? In the same room. In the same room, reading each other's texts, we're texting back and forth, and it was hot. And quite honestly, a lot of times the actual act of fucking, if it happened, was a complete downer. Not necessarily. Some of it was pretty fucking hot. No, some of it was. Like the first experience, even though it sucked, it was hot. Okay, from my standpoint, it was hot. I enjoyed watching live porn. It was you and I. It was them. The one time when the girls start speaking, I was not fucking hot. And I only got three pumps and that was it. But the experience of it, the leading up to it, was hot. And it was new. And sitting there, when we're sitting there showing each other's phone, giggling. Okay. That was so long ago. Let me use this as an analogy that's not a sandwich analogy, but one that, well, a lot of Guys, if you're honest, we'll resonate. Guys go through midlife crisis. They start trying to fuck younger girls. I'm 53, almost 54. You know what? I like fucking younger girls. Total daddy issues. You want to know what the reality is? The reality of it is, you know what? A 23-year-old pussy and a 54-year-old pussy feels the same except for the 54-year-old pussy feels better because she knows what the fuck she's doing. Okay, it's not about the fucking the 23-year-old. It's about knowing you still can. Yeah. So again, is the... Now, okay, bagging a 23-year-old, you know what? Rock on. But the degree of it is to go, the part that makes the lifestyle feel good was not the actual dick in the pussy. Because I sat there and I fucked the 23-year-old and you're fucking and I'm going, it's like an out-of-body experience. Like, fuck yeah, I'm still a good 23-year-old. I'm not even focused on what's What's going on in my dick right now? The coolest part of the lifestyle, if we would just allow it. But to a degree, I think it's different for everybody. Because some people, you know, some people that aren't in a couple, granted, you know, to be able to get a girl to talk to you and flirt with you, or, you know, or vice versa with a guy. I agree and I disagree, because you know what? We have, after all these years of doing this, after 10 years of having CASVA, and we have literally had, and this is not an exaggeration, thousands of people come up to us and talk about how the lifestyle has changed their lives. I thought you were going to say the thousands of people we fucked, and I'm like, who the fuck are you talking about? Only in my dream. That was with my hand. Thousands! Anyway, no, that have come up to us and said, how much the lifestyle has changed their life. Not a single person in all the 10 years we've had CASBA and all the four or five years we were doing it before we had CASBA has a single person come up and said, man, because of the pussy that I got or the dick that I got, it's changed my life. Now, we've watched people that have gotten, and here's the other testament to that. We've watched people, I've done weddings for people, people that met in the lifestyle. We know people that are getting married, that met in the lifestyle, that have started relationships, that have overcome divorces, death. But never once was it about the sex. Not really. We all know Cole hates doing the naked walk at crazy summer nights, right? the naked walk at crazy summer nights. Has the lifestyle helped me overcome? Not completely yet. No, but you're much better. But has it made me move forward? The first year that you did the naked walk, you're like, there's not going to be anybody out there. And I'm like, you might better look outside because there's an ass pile of people out there. And you're like, fuck. And you go out there and you're like, Okay, fine. And then throw it off like with a temper tantrum to walk it. Now you're like, you go out still covered, but then you're like, okay, let's go. And you'll just drop it and you'll just go. And I'm like, wow. The first time when you came up to the pool, the first time I got in the pool, because the fucking pool at Natural Pines, and if Rhonda and Josh are listening, I'm sorry, I'm going to say fuck you with the way you have the pool set up. Because you have it on a ramp, so you have to go up high. So somebody in there was like, hey, Cole's getting in the pool. So everybody turns to the pool to me. It's an above-ground pool, so you have to climb up stairs. It's a nice pool. But the thing is, is when the first time you came up, when I was in the pool, and you leaned up over there, you don't have any swimsuits on. The lifestyle has helped me move forward. Am I completely there where I'm just ready to just parade around naked all the time? Nope, but I'm a hell of a lot closer. But not everybody is going to turn into that. No, but were a hell of a lot closer and had nothing to do with sex. And the thing is, is that naked walk and other things like that, we have seen the number of people that they have absolutely grown and found a new level of confidence. We've had people that the confidence was their life changed because they They were literally outside the gate, almost wanting to not come in, to turn around. And found the courage to come in for Crazy Summer Nights, as an example. And at the end of it, every time it's the same thing. So glad we did. That's truly the best living the best part of the lifestyle. If you really want to look at it, If you want to look at, let's wait, positive and negative on the lifestyle, right? Mm-hmm. You want to know what the most negative parts of the lifestyle are? What causes the most negative bullshit in the lifestyle? What? The sex. Because you know what? It ain't the fucking, the jealousy isn't coming because someone found the courage to show up. The jealousy isn't coming because, because someone found the courage to say, Why? The jealousy... Sometimes some jealousy comes if somebody's flirting with somebody and the other person doesn't like it. It's flirting. But for the most part, when are most of the rules broken? During sex. During sex. When did we make most of our mistakes as we've made through? During sex. During sex. The reality of it is, the part that we're all there to do, sex, is actually causes more negative than the other part of it. That's what's so fucking amazing. I think that's when some people decide that they don't want to be in the lifestyle, so to speak, but they want to stay in the groups because it's people that they like and it's comfort. It's a form of comfort because you can truly be yourself without having to... And doesn't that... I mean, that is truly the best... If you can be in the lifestyle with no desire to play anymore, but still want to be in the lifestyle because of all the other factors. And that's the message that we're missing that's not getting out to the newer kids. Not just kids, the newer people into it. If someone would have fucking said to us, don't worry about the sex. Just find yourself. You'll get laid. Just find yourself. If someone would have fucking said, just find yourself. Because the reality is, if you will fucking find yourself. But I think we were somewhat unique. We would go to the bar or to parties and go, well, at least we have each other. Yes. That we can entertain ourselves, we can dance, we can have fun with just you and I. Yes. Our vanilla marriage became very, very stagnant. Kids were our life. When we entered the lifestyle, it was a shock to have people Flirt with us. We forgot how to flirt with each other. It is one small thing we learned again from the lifestyle. Flirt with each other again and show each other they're sexy. Absolutely. Absolutely. Well, everybody gets into a mundane life. We get into it. And you get comfortable and we know it's there, but it's never spoken in you. I can't say it. But I mean, you forget to say it. You forget what you did that brought you together. in the first place. I know. I'll take that. Sometimes you say it, and you say it, you know, you mean it, but you just say it. You say it because you say it. I'll give her an example. We can use us as an example. How do we kiss? Us. Three kisses. Three kisses. How long have we been doing it? For the last 34 years. Right. I mean, if people look at us, it's like, oh, that's true. Yeah, throw a joke in there and do it for. Right. But that, I mean, but the thing is, is you start to do, now we love doing it and it's not like, okay, it's a work, it's just wrote to do it. But the three kisses is, the standard is like, we have done that for 34 years. And that does happen. I think that happens, I think that happens with everybody. We were unique because we seriously just wanted to enhance our fucking, like, for fun. We didn't want to enhance it, we just wanted to have fun. Right? And it was hot. But, oh my God, like the title of this one is going to be Just Find Yourself. Because as a couple, if you will allow yourself to be in an event and sit at the table, when you're nervous, you don't want to talk to me, and hold each other's hand and just look at each other and do the little squeezes, like look, and just Not worry about getting laid. Just find your fucking self. Part of it is just finding the calm in yourself to be open to what you're seeing. Because it's a shock when you first start. Oh my god. That becomes, the sex will come. But see, the problem is most of the shows out there, they listen to all these shows and they watch all this stuff and we hear all this stuff all over. Like, you need to try. Have you had a threesome? Have you got dick fucked up the ass yet? Have you fucking sucked dick? How about seven dicks? Have you done a gangbang? Fucking find yourself. Are you a squirter? What are the questions? Are you a squirter? Do you like this? Do you like that? Do you like this? You know what? I like to have fun. Let's start there. If you will do that versus trying to figure out what the fuck. You don't. Here's the deal. You don't know what you like. When we started and And it was right before I was 40. You were just 40. You were young. God, so hot, so sexy. Anyway. I don't know. I don't think so. I don't know. Somewhere in there. The bottom line is, you know what? Neither one of us could have told you what we like. You know why? Because we hadn't had anything different for 20 fucking years. When the time changes for spring, it'll pop up on my Facebook memories. Yeah. I mean, you sit there. You don't know what you like. You know that you're doing this and you can't tell anybody. because this is dirty and wrong. And so we ask these questions we don't have the fucking answer to. Yeah. We don't have a fucking earthly fucking clue. But if you think about it, a lot of the sexual experiences we've had that have been fun as us as a couple has been spontaneous. Yeah. It hasn't been set up, been planned out. Granted, some of them have. I'm not downgrading that. But some of them as a couple, it's been spontaneous. Because of those times, we were just... To me, it's like finding inner peace. It's like finding the zen. Because at that moment in time, you're just... You're just going with the flow of everything. We still go with the flow of everything. Yeah, no, but okay. Alright, let's put it this way. I go with the flow of everything. Okay. Pool. You know what? When you, there are days when you're shooting and you just fucking, you feel it. It was my dad never taking the tip of his pool cue. When my dad was shooting pool and he was fucking in it, that fucking, the tip of his pool cue never left that table. He would shoot and he's walking on that pool cue, never left. And you knew, you knew, you're watching him. It's like, fuck, we're getting waxed. When you watch a basketball play, a game, you know, and they're And man, they could shut their eyes, turn it away. Boom. It's just, it's, it's, they're not thinking. They're just, they're feeling it. They're fucking feeling it. It's, they're in the moment. Everything is like vibe fucking. The funny thing is, is everybody in the lifestyle fucking is trying every chemical way to induce that very fucking feeling. That's, you know what? If you're scared and you need a fucking drink, no, what you need is Zen. What you're trying to find is this flow calm. It's why now it's fucking mushrooms and it's weed and it's booze and it's all this shit because what you're trying to find is the fucking flow. You're trying to find to just get in this thing where you don't think you just do. When I am tongue-fucking-some girl, when it's net, if I think about flirting, I am a giant fucking big dumb fucking animal when I think about flirting. When I try to flirt, I'm like, hey, baby, I sound like fucking Johnny Bravo. But when it's just going, it's just a flow, and you're laughing, and you're talking, and next thing you know, you're up against the wall, and your tongue fucking some chick, and you don't even know what the fuck happened. And that's what everybody is searching for. And when you find it, even if you're not sport fuckers like we were, when you find it, your night is so much better. But I can tell you the one thing that will always prevent you from finding that flow is worried about the fucking where you're Junk is at. Once you start trying to think where your dick or your pussy is at or not at or who's with it or touching it or not touching it, once you start focusing on that, you are fucked. Rap. Call it good. Why the fuck do you guys not be able to get it out? Because they're thinking about where the dick's going to be in the whole night long, been there, lived it, done it. Oh my God, what if something happens? What if my dick doesn't work? What if my dick doesn't work? Oh my God, somebody wants to do something. Fuck my dick doesn't work! That's why. But you know what? What's always been so fucking bizarre because I've fought with my dick from the very first night we've ever fucking did this. Right? But the nights, and it didn't matter how fucking drunk. I don't get whiskey dick. Anyways. But when it was a flow, when it was just all natural, you know what? My fucking dick was hard and I would fucking, could pound my way through a fucking cement wall, cock first all the way through and never had to think once about it and never had any issues because it was all a flow. Okay. Expectations for me anymore is who is going to be there and who do I get to catch up with always looking for friends that I only get to see once or twice a year. You know you're going to go to so many events and if the beginning, it was about sex. Now for me, if sex happens, it's just, I just hope to catch up with the great people that I have met over the years and I have a great fucking time with them. Whether it's sex or not, I have toys, and the toys are pretty darn good. Can't use sex as a deal breaker, you will always have more disappointments than successes. You will. Both of those are so spot on. Yeah. But the challenge is, here's what needs to happen after a show like this, right? Is that... Go fuck? Sure. Is that... this, and then fucking apply it. Here is the reality of the world in which we live. Pollution. Pollution is the word. There is light pollution, regular pollution in the world, right? Light pollution, noise pollution. Noise pollution is, without a doubt, one of the biggest hindrances in all social situations and social settings. And in the lifestyle, it is probably the biggest clusterfucker of things out there. You have to have, make your voice penetrate the noise. It's a Jedi thing, right? You have to, your voice has to penetrate the noise. What I mean by that. People, you're listening to this. Fifteen years of experience with this shit, right? The new people they meet, the people the first time they're at KWN or KSN or iCandy or Island Riders or some meet and greet or some other fucking jack-off convention, whatever the fuck it is, it doesn't matter. The first time they're there, all they hear is the noise. Mm-hmm. That's it. You have to use your voice and cut through the fucking noise and be the person that says, just relax, find yourself, have fun, everything else will come. Mm-hmm. We had that. We had that with two fucking people the very first time. We had that. We didn't even realize it, but we had two people the very first time that cut through the fucking noise. And the first one was Junior. When he grabbed us, he grabbed us. It was all noise. It was mass confusion. He grabbed us and said, come and introduce us. We were sitting up against the wall going, oh, my God. Way out of our comfort zone. He grabbed us. Did eventually, we ended up hooking up with him? Yes. Like a year and a half later. I don't know if it was quite that long. A year maybe. It wasn't. There was no. What it was, was he cut through the noise. Mm-hmm. The other person was the guy that I worked with, Jeff, who talked to us and talked to us when I ran into him, like, because our first event, find out somebody I work with, great. Right? But they cut through the noise. Yeah. And the thing is, is that, damn it, we've all been the new fucking people. Mm-hmm. Just because we've learned to block out the noise-ish, Take a second. The next time you go somewhere, shh, let the noise flood your fucking head and watch your head explode. That is what the new people feel. And even if they're an experienced person, but they're new to that event and they don't know anybody, it's all this noise. It's all, what the, what is the noise? The noise is all of their fears, all of their uncertainties, all of the things that are going, No one's going to talk to us. People are going to think we're too old. People are going to think we're too fat. People are going to think we're too skinny. People aren't going to like my tits. People are going to think that I've got too big of a gut. I'm ugly. I'm ugly. My hair's too gray. No one wants to hit me. No one wants to fuck Santa Claus. All this shit. You have a lot of people that want to fuck Santa Claus. That is all. The noise is in your fucking head. Right? But the problem is, We have forgotten about it, or we don't care, or we don't want to help, or whatever the case may be, and so we pull this fucking shit up, and then wander the fuck off, because that's easier. Be the fucking voice that gets through the noise. I'm telling you right now, that couple that you think is super hot, you know, and you want to fuck him, some point in time, be the couple that cuts through the noise. Not to fuck them that night, but be the person, be the couple that fucking is cool with them and helps them feel more comfortable to shut the fucking noise off. If you will fucking do that, you'll be surprised what that relationship will be. Whether it be, maybe it will be sexual, maybe it'll just be a friendship, whatever, but you'll be amazed at the difference that it will make. You know, and this is going to be arrogant. And I really don't give two fucks. People go, oh, I want to be like cool. I want to be like cool. Yeah, you know how you get to be norm at the fucking bar in the swinger world? Cut through the fucking noise. It's not hard. Do you know why it's so easy for me to cut through the noise? Because the noise in my fucking head, I promise you, is a million times louder than 99% of the people. the louder it becomes. The voices in your head. I'm 15 years into this motherfucker and they scream. They scream. I have to work to shut off the noise. And so it's very easy for me to try to be the voice for someone else because you know what? You don't want to be here. It sucks. And when I look at somebody, you can look at them in the face and you don't need any special skill set. But he's fucked up and twisted. So we as people can, when you look at somebody, you can see the deer in the headlight look. You can see the confusion. You can hear the fucking noise and watch their brains fucking vibrate because it's overwhelming. Do something about it. Be willing to be that fucking voice. I promise you, when you give someone that advice to just be yourself, to just realize, to just... Come on, people. We all fucking know. Everybody who walks in, half the people there are fucking slobbering over them like a bunch of fucking starving hyenas because it's fresh fucking meat. You don't think that creates more noise? That creates pressure? We have had sex with people because we did not know when we were new that it was okay to say no because we thought if you said no, then no one would ever talk to you again. You were never going to get the fuck again. And next thing you know, you're banging some chick who's going... Why is it your wife is getting fucked three times looking at you like what in the fuck is this and you're doing it under these fucking people you don't know's house with their family pictures and their grandparents and kids pictures and living and you're just like this is fucked up and weird and the only couple you liked left because she lied and said she had a period to get the fuck out so she didn't have to fuck the chick speaking tongues. So true. Because we didn't know it was okay to say no. We didn't know it was okay just to be ourself because we were thought you had we the focus was about our shit our junk you got to do this just it's whatever we we each took one for the team that neither one of us wanted to take that neither one of us knew we didn't have to take it wasn't that I wanted to like the girl or she wanted to like the guy we just thought you had to fuck or else and I'm telling you there are people doing that We're the first couple. We didn't end up hooking up with them. God. Legitimate period. Thank God. But I'm like going, okay, my period's right. And I tried everything to get it to stop, but whatever. Tears. Tears because we were afraid we were going to ruin it. We had this date. Yeah. So we go meet in Omaha, go on this date, dinner date. He's shoveling food. Oh, wait. I'm going to demonstrate. that aren't watching live. I just spent water all over. Food and shit flying everywhere in a restaurant. And he ate like he was... I don't know. Starving. Eating out of a trough. He was just shoveling in. His teeth were rotten. Now, the girl, she was okay. But I'm just looking... And I'm just looking at him. I'm like, oh, fuck no. She goes to the bathroom. I go to the bathroom. I take my phone and I go, no way. I'm fucking telling them. She's texting 911. We had stupidly set up... To each to go back to their house. Neither one knowing. The girl's going to ride with me. And she's going to ride with the guy. And the girl and I. And we did that. And the girl and I had been texting. Like it was like fucking. Y'all were texting. That was like the. It was hot. We were sitting there reading each other's text. Leading up to it. And we get in the car to drive to their house. And she acted terrified. And she was fucking. She. I have seen cats. Ride more comfortably. in a fucking car than she did. Because she was pressed up. If she could have got out and rode on the roof of the fucking car, she would have. And I'm just like, this is going smashing. And then there was like, we get to their house. She's chasing crickets. That's a whole different story. But then we're like, she talks about these, getting these sexy outfits. And Nicole's like, well, why don't you try them on? She, uh-uh. And then we're sitting there looking at it. They're showing me all these sex outfits. He likes these underwear with chains. and mesh and it's showing me all this underwear. And I'm like, okay. So I tease it a little bit. I lean over and touch his arm. I'm like, I don't have a disease. I have a period. But whatever. We had no earthly... We got in the car to leave. Because nothing was going to happen. For hours. And it was just like... That was the longest car ride home. Until it put the car in the ditch. We fucking... We didn't even know what to say. No. There was no... There was no... There was... We were all new, and I think that was part of the problem. We were new, and nobody knew, and no one... That was the very first couple that we were going to attempt to do something with, so we arranged going out to dinner. And it was all... But the whole premise was they were going to go to dinner, and then go back to their room, And fuck, it was all predicated on sex. And none of us knew to just go... Nobody just relaxed at dinner. There was no relaxation because it was so... It was so... Stiff. It was so stiff. And we've never... If you listen to most new people or most people talk about their worst experiences in the lifestyle, and if you do this one, everybody's going to have someone. Right. Our first. It's a lot of it's very similar because there, the stories when you listen to the worst experiences have certain very similar traits to them. Stories of the best experience have very similar traits to them. You know, you hear the stories of the best ones. It was, it was, we were all so relaxed and it was just so natural and it was just, you know, so laid back and easy going and it just kind of happened. It was just like, it made sense to naturally progressed to that. I would go, I would happily say 90 to 95% of stories when you hear about people, their best experience, they use that type of way to describe that experience. And when you listen to 90 to 95% of bad experience, it was forced. It was awkward. It was just, there was no, no, we were never comfortable and no one ever got to. It's not rocket science. We make it rocket science. At least the first couple, I interrupt you. Sorry. No, fuck you. I'm going to forget. At least the first couple was like, we'll go into the kitchen and y'all talk about it and see if you want to do it. We could have easily opted out and go, you know what, we're not feeding it. Not after two hours and I was thirsty. It was more than two hours. I know, it's four hours and I was still thirsty. But the thing is, is that we, it's our jobs in as as people that aren't brand new, to try to help people and to try to spread the message out there. Because we have to counter what is being spewed that's so incorrect. Folks, if you're our age, 50s, mid-40s, I'm telling you this message and getting this message out there, if you want, if you legitimately want to go to events where you see 20s and 30s at and early 40s, you better start getting this message out there. Because they think differently. And if you don't get it out there, they're going to be terrified. Like, seriously. If you want a great opportunity, if you, if maybe younger is your thing, and you want to meet some great, younger, either singles or couples and have a great opportunity maybe to have sex, I'm telling you, this is the avenue to do it. Because you're talking about generations coming up that have less communication skills than Generation X by a mile. And if you can do things to help them be comfortable, because here's the deal, you know what, again, not everybody's the beautiful people, and I don't care how hot you are, I don't care how much you paid for your fucking body, I don't care, you have the same fears, and insecurities. And guess what? You had them when you were fucking 20. That's why you didn't start swinging until you were 50. Just saying. Anyways, that 30-year-old couple that's sitting there, they have the same insecurities. You know what the difference they have compared to us? We had 20-plus years up together. We knew what our relationship was. Right now, we have 34, almost 35 years together. We got a real advantage over the 25-year-old, 27, 28-year-old, 30-year-old couple that's been together for 10 whole fucking years. They have no earthly fucking clue. But if you can help them, if you can go, hey, look, don't worry about it. Just, you know, and help them be able to feel comfortable. You know what? They're going to keep coming back to the events and the parties because they're going to feel comfortable. And they're going to bring other friends, which guess what age group their other friends probably are. Younger. Here's the really neat thing about that. It's not just for the sex part. You know what? younger people bring to the fucking party. Think what you brought to the party when you were younger. Because when we were fucking younger, I'm telling you what we brought to the party. We brought the fucking party. We were the fucking party. And we would go as long as the fucking party would go, and generally a little bit longer than that. So many times I was getting back at 5, 6 o'clock in the morning. And it was a new freshness. It's a new set of energy. It's so much fun to to fuck around and talk with younger couples because their world is different than ours. Their perspective is different. They're not as, you know, I'm like, get out of my fucking yard, you fucking squirrels. You know, they're not there yet. It's a different perspective. Larry, Larry and I crack jokes all the time about fucking, you know, people with daddy issues and whatever. It's fun to joke around with those type of issues of saying that when you're dealing with 20 and 30 somethings. because they think it's fucking hilarious. And it's fun as hell when you can give the guy shit and go, come on, you know you want to fuck mommy. Yeah, I mean, but it's new, different. It brings a different set of energy and perspective to the lifestyle all the way through, which is accurate. The lifestyle is a community. Communities help each other. Unfortunately, there are too many newcomers who become instant experts in the lifestyle. It is. It does. And when 99% of the time, when people are left to their own fucking devices, that's what happens. Look, you're going to have the people. They put on a meet and greet, and next thing you know, they're pretty sure they can take on the world. Okay. Neat. Whatever. They're ready to do it in. Great. Most people, when they're left to their own devices, because they don't have guidance. Like, if you don't have Yoda, like, telling you how to use the thing, you're going to turn the lightsaber. Look right at it. Turn around and fucking zap yourself in the head. You need guidance. Because honestly, if you don't know what to do to fit in, you're going to try to make your own rules. We would have. We did. You try to make your own fucking rules because you're just trying to fit in somewhere for some sort of comfort. Because people like structure. People are pack. We're pack animals. We want that. There's safety in that concept. And the lifestyle is no different. But we just, we have to go back to embracing the other positives that the lifestyle does. We have to go back to taking the focus off of bucking so that more bucking will happen. It's really, it is so bucking true. If you don't focus on bucking, you'll get laid. It's the weirdest damn thing in the world. It's not, look, when I was in college, And I liked to party when I was in college. But the difference was, my friends and I would go out every fucking Tuesday through Saturday night. We'd go out. I didn't graduate, but I had a lot of fun. All my friends were going out, and they were like, I'm going to get laid. I'm going to get laid. I'm going to lay. They were all on a mission from God to get laid. I, on the other hand, was on a mission to get drunk. And here's why. Because I watched my friends. And myself, when I was on a mission to go out and get laid, here's what happened. I still got drunk, but I came home alone, jacked off, felt pathetic and went to sleep and had a hangover the next day. But when I went out with the mission to get drunk, I was successful. There's a win. See, positive. Look at me, enhancing. And that's when I usually end up getting laid or get a blowjob or something in the process of going through because the focus was just on having fun. When I'm playing Kegmaster and I'm cracking jokes and just having fun, I'm getting my dick sucked in the bathroom, waiting in line fucking in the house party. And my friends are like, they're not getting shit. And I'm taking some chick home and fucking, you know, trying to buy, run down to the vending machine to figure out how to buy fucking condoms out of the vending machine. Ended with Reese's peanut butter cups. But that's another story. But the reality of it is because I wasn't on a mission to go get laid. And the other thing is if I didn't get laid and I was going out to get drunk and I got drunk, mission accomplished. Like, then I achieved my goal. I felt good about myself. hungover the next day, but you get the idea. I mean, that's the whole point with it. So, I don't know. There you go. Wow, we're actually up on time. What the fuck? That went fast. Sure did. I don't know if you learned anything, but sure was a lot of fun. May the force be with you. Shout out again to our sponsors, STD Hero. You can get on full swap shop. Don't delay. If you were at our event, Here's the deal. You got St. Paddy's parties are coming up. Get your test. Get tested before the party or order your test now so that after the party you can get tested. Be responsible. stdhero.com. ASM Lifestyle Magazine. Don't forget to go to asmlifestylemagazineawards.com. 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