Krazy Truth about Swinging #355 The Hypocrisy of the Lifestyle

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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey, you crazy motherfuckers. Welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth About Swinging. I'm your host with the most. I'm Cole. I'm here with the lovely, lovely, and just following my lead, Miss Amanda, because she doesn't really know what's going on, the blonde version. Hey, so that means I get to play Ditsy. Sure, play, whatever. You call, use whatever word you want to use there. Anywho, we're here to tantalize too late and otherwise just entertain you, I think. Yeah, something like that. For those of you who fun along at home, this is Season 9, Episode 355. Making that run for 500. We should hit 400. We should hit that this year, maybe. I don't know. Hard to tell. Anywho, so yep. So we're here. Season 9. All that, what I just said. Fire trucks come by the house. One minute. Hold on. Hold on. They're not going to hear it. Okay, anyways. So, a quick shout out to our sponsors. ASN Lifestyle Magazine. If you want to know what's going on in the adult world as well as the lifestyle, check out ASN Lifestyle Magazine. There'll be new ads running, I don't know, in February, but for sure in March. For sure in March, there'll be new ads we're running. Just saying. Sure. Well, no, because I just don't know if we have time to get them in yet. I don't know. Also, motorbunny.com. Let's write a name that you can trust, a product you can count on. We're giving away some motorbunny stuff at Crazy Weather Nights. Motorbunny.com. Don't forget, you can also now buy all of your motorbunny supplies, including machines and accessories, on bullswapshop.com. So check that out. Hey, guess what? We own that. And finally, STD testing. I'm telling you, it's important. 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You can get all of their testing, as well as on Crazy Casual. you can go and get your tests. Also, Casper Studio and all the talent. I'm telling you right now, there's a lot of knockoffs out there. We're hearing, oh, I'm going to Amazon. Neat. Awesome. If you needed a surgical implement, would you go on Amazon? No. Don't be a dumbass. Go and get an actual product, an actual quality thing you know, testing. You can meet them. If you're at CrazyWater, you have questions, they love to answer questions and to talk about it. So you're going to hear a lot, 2020. 26 and forward. We're going to push testing because you know what? It's part of what we're talking about. Today's hypocrisy in the lifestyle is the importance of testing. It is so important. It's so easy now. There's no reason not to. STD Hero. Okay, so for those of you who don't know, because you're under a fucking rock, Crazy Winter Night is coming up. It's coming up. Well, no, you know what? Wait a minute. I'm sorry. Because I know we don't talk about it enough and people don't know that we're involved with it. Yes, we were told that. Fucking bullshit. We're not really into it. Anyways, Crazy Winter Nights, the ninth year of it. So this is the first time we've heard of it, too. The ninth year of it, it's coming up January 30th, January 30th through February 1st in Kansas City. There are still some rooms available. There is still tickets. There's plenty of tickets available. We also are actually doing the, if you want, can just come to the one night, the Saturday, which is the gala. You can also come and get one night to let us know on that. But I've got to tell you, I'll tell you this now, because we won't have a show. Will we have a show next week? Might. It's hard to tell. We should. We should, but I'm telling you right now, so obviously we're excited for the ninth edition, but I am telling you, everything starts, this is the year of the decade, so the celebration starts because we're in our tenth year. Everything's leading up to the actual ten-year birthday, which is 2027. is a decade of decadence celebration. That is the theme, and it's going to be very badass, and you're not going to want to miss it. Hopefully, we'll talk about it enough so people will know that we're going to fucking be there. Oh, fuck. Oh, fuck this stupid shit. It's unbelievable. Oh, last year, we were ridiculed. He was ridiculed about how many times he was posting about it. No. Every year. You post. That's all you're talking about. That's all you post about. And then people, every year, every fucking year. I was one year, some fucking bitch, one year. Bitch me out. Well, why didn't you send it personally if I teach one of us? I don't know, fucking cuntazilla, because I didn't fucking know who the fuck you were and you joined the page afterwards. Read any of the fucking posts. I don't know. Visit the goddamn event section. What would he do? He's a little grumpy. Every fucking year I hear about this crap. And then people will go, we had somebody say, you do those? No. No. What? I had put a picture on Crazy Lady's page. One Goes, I didn't know if you were still doing Crazy Winter Nights. We did our best to keep it a secret, but fucking A, it got out. Well, that means you left our regular page and only stayed on the Crazy Ladies page and haven't seen anything. Because, you know, I wasn't going to post on there. Because we didn't want to bomb it on people. Because we're such fucking tools. Anyways, I'm full of piss and fucking vinegar tonight on shit. You've got no fucking earthly idea. Hotels, bitch. Oh, my fucking God. The thing is, is that if you want to know what's going on in the events, in any group, not just ours, you know what? Go look at the event section of the page. Now, if they're a group like ours, I know we're kind of new at all, go check out our website. It's amazing. So right now, for anybody listening, we're having a Halloween event. It's 298 days away. We're actually running a special right now. You can get like discount on the tickets. It's a celebration of the year of a decade. Right. But I don't want anybody to be surprised about the Halloween event. And also, so we all know, don't worry. It's the very first week in October, and we did that. So thank goodness, God forbid, we even vaguely make it so that anybody else's thing would be affected in the least by our stuff. So we're trying to make sure we have stuff. Keep it out of everybody's way. And it's not a hotel takeover. It's one night. It's like old school. You go. You have fun. Maybe you meet people. You go fuck if you want to because you go get a hotel room somewhere and fuck. It's just like old school. Yeah. It costs $30 a person. Anyways. Whatever. Hopefully it covers the room right now. Oh, fuck. Yeah. Yeah. I don't know if people really know what all goes into doing these. No. Don't even go a good one. Don't even fucking go a good one. Don't even go that fancy. Go a shitty, crabby fucking event. What it takes to put on a shitty, crabby event. Step one, find a fucking place. There you go. That's step one. And be honest and tell them what you are. Yeah. Step two, Get out your checky book And write a $4,000 check for a room Because that's what it costs you If you're doing a wedding, if you're doing a graduation If you're doing a jack-off convention That's what it costs you Ooh, jack-off convention And that's just how it starts And then start going from there So that's all you gotta do And that's a shithole And that's just fucking bare-ass minimum Rock on And with that, then you can just run amok And fucking everything is just fucking awesome But ideally, the really great thing to do is lie to places about what you are. So they find out on their own and see how that fucking works out for you. We used to, when you worked in Omaha, we would rent a hotel at, what was it before it was Doubletree? No, it was always Doubletree. It was Doubletree. It was Hilton, but it was Doubletree. Before I was getting to Point Whore. Anyway. So, one guy was having a party there and just said it was exotic. And we're like, yeah, yeah, okay. It was a Halloween party. The next weekend, we went to go stay there because what we would do is go rent a hotel room. Cole would get off work, come to the hotel. We'd spend the weekend, and then we'd go home on Sunday. Yep, go party. Or Saturday night, whatever. Yeah. And we went the next week, and they go, yeah, there was some party they told us. We didn't know it was going to be like that. And there were kids and all kinds of stuff. It was neat. And it's like, oh. And they were pissed. I'm like, yeah, we were here. Yeah. We weren't the guy in the feather duster with the feather duster sticking out of his ass and wearing a collar. But, you know, we were close. Anyways, just all kinds of the fun shit. It's all, you know, it's one of those fucking things. It's just, you know, yeah. God, I got nothing. Anywho, so, but we're going to get, you know, so I'm going to get off that because we're going to get something that's so much gone. Wow. So much. No, you know, the reason why this ties into the topic. The topic is the hypocrisy of the fucking lifestyle. And it actually 100% ties into it. It ties into it. Because, you know, the lifestyle, after 15 years in the lifestyle, the lifestyle can be a lot of fun. The lifestyle can be fucking awesome. But the lifestyle, what's supposed to be built on honesty, ethics, values, truth, is the biggest fucking crumble-ass fucking knick-knack bullshit of white people things are based on. It's so fucking funny. Because here's how you know. Let's use the example of an event to start with. You ask everybody what they want in a fucking event. Asking anybody in the fucking country. Anybody. And I dare anybody to fucking ask this question and see if I'm wrong. If I'm wrong, fucking call my ass out. that we want it to be safe. We don't want it to be shitty and dirty and nasty. We don't want to feel like it's scummy. We want to make sure that people are vetted. We want to make sure that things are nice. We want to make sure we get a maximum bang for our bucks. We want to be able to be safe but run completely amok and do whatever the fuck we want. We want to make sure that nobody gets touched when they're not supposed to be. No one gets taken advantage of if they get too fucking drunk. Okay, great. Awesome. So, get out our handy-dandy notebooks. No, let's do it the right way. Yes, you have one right next to you. Let's see. So, we want it safe. So, we're probably going to need security. So, let's get the free. Oh, there is no free security. Oh, okay. Neat, okay. Oh, some people. We want it. We don't want kids. We want it private, right? Okay, so we'll just hope nobody buys any other rooms. Okay, neat. We want activities and shit going on. So that might take either props or decorations or whatever. We want giveaways. We want all that shit. We'll get those for free. Oh, there's none of those for free. Are you actually licking that pen? It's not out. Look, it's a swinger show. You know what? If this is the worst thing that goes into our mouths, seriously. But here's the hypocrisy of the whole thing. thing. All of those things cost money. Okay, great. I can give you, we can give you all of these items. Awesome. Oh, by the way, wait, before you announce this part, we don't want to pay more than about ten fucking dollars because, you know, you know, budgets and shit. Hey, let me help you out with something. She is a professional fucking hooker. What do you call it? What do you call it when you're at the ranch? A courtesan. A courtesan. Do you know what you don't get when you go to a legal house of prostitution? Do you know what you don't get to do and get laid? Not pay shit. If somebody walks in and goes, I want to give you 20 bucks to fuck you, what are you going to tell them? Try somebody else. What about sucking dick? I'll give you 20 bucks to give me a blowjob. No. Is there places they can go get a blowjob for 20 bucks that's not in one of the actual houses? A street corner? A street corner. Which instantly changes the ballgame because guess what? She's tested. She's safe. Now the chick on the corner that climbs into your car just shot up a fucking rock is tweaking on God knows what and has used seven dirty needles and you're the 16th Dixie's head in her mouth today, unprotected. Well, you know what? Congratulations. At the ranch, you have to have a condom on, just so you know. It just, the thing is, it's like in the lifestyle, we don't get it. Now, that's one avenue of the hypocrisy of the lifestyle. That one just fell into my lap, so I thought, well, we're just not that one right out of the park. I'm like, when we talked about this a couple of days ago, that wasn't even what we were talking about. It was something else that got it ranted. So it's like, okay, let's talk about sex, baby. No, you can't do that until after you've had dinner six times. Okay? So the thing is, let's talk about that. Let's talk about... Let's talk about... Again, it ties in with events because people go, do you have playrooms? No. We don't. And let me ask you this question for all of you listening around. Why the flying fuck would you want a fucking playroom at a party or an event? Seriously. Why is there a single swingers club anywhere in the country that people pay money to go to? Why? It makes zero sense. Because on your profiles and in your conversations and on your pages and posts and everywhere else, you will not sport fuck. We have to know people. This is not just about sex. This is not about just getting your dick wet. This is not about getting fucked. There's a relationship. We need to know you. You know what? It's amazing how many motherfuckers need to know you Monday through fucking Thursday, but come Friday at a swingers club, we'll go bang whatever we'll walk in a room. Now, Natasha has a great point. Sometimes the playroom is fun to watch. Absolutely. Totally get that part. Okay, think about this. There's a difference between a playroom at a club and a playroom at a hotel. Because a playroom at a club, they change the sheets afterwards, or at least they should. At a hotel, it's just one person after another fucking on the same bed. Crunchy. Well, I know, and I get that, but my thing is this, it's like... Yes, it's fun to watch. I'd put on a show on one. And the thing is, absolutely, there's... My thing is, there's nothing wrong with wanting to... I'm not saying there's anything wrong with going to a swingers club. doing that. I'm not saying there's any, we're all the fuck in. I like you, you like me, you know what? I don't have to like you past the 20 minutes it's going to take to fuck you and then we can move on with our lives. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it. All I'm saying is the hypocrisy of saying that this, this, we have this holier than thou image in the, in our profile and what we say, but our actions don't match. Like how many people say condoms only and then you're going, you didn't even, do you even carry them? Here's the deal. I'm going to use us as an example, because this is funny shit. How are we going to use for a hypocrisy? There's tons of people. There are tons of people that have initially, the first time we played with them, used a condom, because we didn't know each other. And as we became a friend and built a relationship, didn't need a condom with us anymore. If you know us, we have never been anything but sport fuckers. Now, do we believe in testing on it? We sure do. But the point that we're trying to make with this kind of stuff is, again, is that saying one thing doing something else. It's a huge problem in the lifestyle. The hypocrisy of the lifestyle. It's like we are so afraid in the lifestyle of being honest. What's wrong with sane in the lifestyle? What's wrong with sane in the lifestyle? Sometimes we like to sport fuck. I'd like to get to know you a little bit better. Why is that so hard? And now what some of you are probably going to ask yourself is, what difference does it make? The reason it makes a difference is this. If you can't fucking be honest about something as simple as like, sometimes I just want to fuck whatever moves, and sometimes I want to fuck something that I know, then how the fuck are you going to be honest with me if you're tested or not? How the fuck are you going to be honest with me when you say that your spouse is it's okay for you to play alone? And how Do I Know? And that becomes the question of the lifestyle. We talked last week about husbands and stuff doing better. We were going to do the women's side. I totally forgot about that. About the bisexuality and about really being bi or not being bi. Think about this for a minute. Why, honestly, is it such a big deal? Why do you see a constant topic of conversation about Can you not see the fucking problem we have here? Let me use this as an analogy. A demolition derby. The goal of a demolition derby is to hit each other's cars so you knock cars out so they don't move. Okay? If you go to a demolition derby and put your car in the demolition derby, but the whole time all you do is drive in circles like it's a racetrack and void so nobody can hit you and you don't hit anybody, Do it right? No! No, you fucked her up. No! Uh, Dean's the one you have to say show me. Yeah. Dean, it's a great example. That's another great example of it. It's, oh, the part that becomes so fucking frustrating in the lifestyle as you go along is not so much, look, at this point in time, we've been doing this 15 fucking years. We shoot porn. I mean, if you do this long enough, the chase isn't as big a deal. Right? There's still times. There's still times. Don't get me wrong. There's still times. But the frustrating part of the hypocrisy of the lifestyle is what it is doing and the message it's sending to the younger people coming in or other new people coming in. I look now at the confusion of so many of this, of the bullshit of the lifestyle. If you're new coming in, why do you want to stay? Seriously. Okay. Well, my wife is mine. She wants you to get this chance. Girl and girl. Okay, great. And then that was a lie in the meetup. Okay. Well, they believe in being safe too in condoms. and stuff like that. And you get there and that's a lot. Well, everybody's saved from the lifestyle. So, you know, so it's going to be a safe thing. So don't have to worry about it. And then you're getting an STD scare. Why would you want to stay? Why would you want to stay? It doesn't. And the reality of it is the bigger problem is the new people and newbies, all they're going to do is continue to emulate, other people do when in Rome, right? So we joke about, I've joked about this for years. You can't be surprised if a guy, if a new couple standing there and 10 guys walk up and slap her on the ass, the new guy doesn't know what to do when in Rome. He's like, eh, pops her on the ass. No, they don't understand. Okay. So the same type of thing, if all we see is, look, honey, I know you don't really want pussy. We just had to say you do because everybody does or we won't get laid. Because when you're new, you don't know. When you're new, you don't know how to say no because you're afraid if you say no to something, you don't understand that other opportunities will come up. You're sure we did it. I fucked a woman who was yammering in tongues. Because we were new. We didn't know that we could say no. She's getting fucked with three pumps by the guy under the wall of family pictures. I'm fucking the woman on tongues. We get in the car and we're both like, what in the fuck? Because we didn't know we could say no. So if you're new and all this other stuff comes up, and it's happening. You don't know that you can say no. You don't know. So then you start giving in. And then you come home and instead of the experience being this incredible high, this incredible hot thing that you sit there and you guys talk about and you fuck because, you know, you're so damn excited because it was so hot and so exciting. It becomes a stressor. And that's not fun. That's not fun. Natasha's talking about the difference between relationships, absolutely. Relationships and chasing everything. Look, the degree of thirsty, that is a great example of hypocrisy in the lifestyle. Is what? The thirsty motherfuckers. Yeah. You know, we just like to go out and have a good time. Let me help you out with something. You see this all the time. You see this all the fucking time. Pretend this is my phone. Notebook for those who can only hear. Okay? You're out at the bar, and the entire time, he's sitting on his phone. Scoping. Looking. Scoping. Looking. You can't even live in the fucking moment because you're scoping. You know what? You're not out to have a good time. You're on the prowl. Again, we're sport fuckers. All right? Just an FYI, if you still want to fuck us, we still would sport fuck. We're a little more choosy than we used to be, but we still sport fuck. And it depends on the day. But there's a difference between sport fucking and the ones that are exactly like the Tasha segment that are absolutely just on the prowl. Look, you don't need to put on your profile, I'm a horny motherfucker and the whole weekend sucks if I didn't get laid. Don't put that. That's stupid. But by the same token- But everybody kind of knows that or else you wouldn't be out. When you're walking around going... Like fucking... Like the hunchback in Notre Dame, like she gave me water. People kind of figured it out. But at least don't lie on your profile and put, oh, we just like to go out and have fun. No, you don't. You go out looking at your score. There was a time on our profile where we put... Because when we first started, we told people we don't want to be fucking friends. You always said that. I'm like... We don't want to make friends. We just want to have sex. Yeah. We literally, they're like, so what got you in the last show? We want to fuck other people. Well, but we like to get to know people. That's great. We can become friends later. We used to crack jokes, but everybody goes, I want to spice up my life. Well, we don't really need to spice up our relationship. It's already spicy enough, but you know, let's. We were a one night stand. We're going on 34 fucking years. You know what? If the pussy's right, the dick's right, you'll keep coming back. Maybe you'll get to know each other. ever rock the fuck on. Now, I'm not saying, but there's a degree of being honest, but you're not fooling anybody. That's the really, we yammer about honesty and we yammer about ethics and we yammer about truth. And the reality is you're fucking high. I don't know how fucking stupid we have this problem in the lifestyle. We fucking believe that everybody else in the lifestyle is a dumbass. You know what? When I'm on the fucking prowl, and it's been a long time since I've been on the prowl. When I'm on the fucking prowl, you ask any motherfucker that knew us when I was doing that, when I'd be on the prowl, it's goddamn obvious when I'm on the prowl. And when I find what I want, I zero in like a motherfucker. I'm attached. Guess what? I'm not going to hide and go, no. Oh, this girl that I just tongue fucked six ways to Tuesday and licked the bottom of her fucking throat. No, I don't want to fuck her. No. Because you know what? Everybody knew. Look, there's a girl that's going to be at Crazy Winter Nights. When her and I see each other, and if you're coming to Crazy Winter Nights, I don't know how to say her name. You'll know it when you see it. When her and I see each other. Any event that they go to. Any event. If we were at a parent-teacher conference, we would walk up, and we are going to tongue fuck the shit out of each other right then and there. Surprise. It's their thing. and her husband just stand there and giggle. No, last Crazy Winter Nights after he went up and y'all were like tongue-fucking each other, he came over there and shoved his tongue out my throat. We also got really fucking drunk and tried to recreate at the end of one Crazy Winter Nights Dirty Dancing and we, surprisingly, neither one of us died. Anyways, but the thing is, is that, look, going back to my point, say it butterfly, but the reality is, if you're somebody that's on the prowl, we all know it. We all fucking know it. We can all see what you're fucking doing. It ain't fucking hard. You're not sneaking it by anybody. It could be hard. It could be hard. It probably is, and we'll probably notice that too. It ends up being a little arrow. It goes where it wants. The truth is, folks, quit fucking. If you're not, we have always, on our profile, since day one, when it comes to condoms. No, not at all. Okay. It's a partner's choice. Why do we do it? A lot of people right now are like, oh my god. You know what? Fuck off. We get tested. That's why we haven't asked you to do it. That's not true. That's not true because there's more people that fuck without condoms than they do. Yeah, but we never gave into the bullshit pressure to just say that. Yeah, no. Now, we got tested because of that accordingly. And we lived our lives accordingly. But you know what? And then we followed through with it. So if we hooked up with a couple and they were like, hey, we have condoms. You know what? Rock on. Now, if we hooked up with a couple, or tried to hook up with a couple, and they're like, I have to wear a condom, but he doesn't have to wear a condom with her, guess what happened? Nothing. We didn't hook up with them. It was like, okay, if we're all wearing condoms, we're all wearing condoms, or we're not. And guess what? I, just like every other guy, hate condoms. But we put it out there, and then we're honest. We never, to get in so many pants, we never lied to, oh, yeah. Oh, we, we only don't, we won't even, I use a dental dam, my tongue won't get anywhere, I'm wrapped in saran wrap 17 times. I have never seen anybody use a dental dam at a swinger thing. Do you know what? 53 years old? I have never used one. Do you want to know what happened if I tried to use a dental dam right now? I'd choke on the motherfucker. You'd have to do the Heimlich maneuver because I would swallow it wrong and feel stupid. I've used one because I use them at the ranch. The reality of it is, and we're not saying it's bad to use it, but what we are saying is that we absolutely were honest. So what we did, what we were able to do, was if couples were looking at what were possibly interested in us, they had true information to make their decision on. You know, it's funny. I'll tell you, I'll go this way too. And here's part of the other hypocrisy of the lifestyle now. You know, to this day, Bisexuality amongst them is still a problem people deal with. And you know what? When we first got in the lifestyle, we were one of those people, if they were bisexual, if it was a bisexual male, bisexual curious, we wouldn't play with them. Because we were uneducated. It had nothing to do with we were afraid that they'd play with us. It was just uneducated. Uneducated. And the reason why we're having this show right now is because what happened was a lot of people felt that way. wouldn't put that on there. Because they were ostracized accordingly. Okay. So I feel like the difference between old school swingers like us versus newer always been the relationship aspect. People now like to build relationships first. Now, I'm going to step in and go yes and no. Because some people feel the need to say that they want to develop relationships so they don't feel as dirty. We've had this conversation before. But you know what I love? We got another old school swinger on here. But I mean, it's more of an insecurity. And the thing is, is insecurity versus it makes them feel better about doing it. Which is perfect, which is absolutely falls into the journey. They can do whatever the fuck they want. But exactly what that absolutely was exactly of why we have to tackle this issue with the hypocrisy. You know what? You want to know what will make the lifestyle better? Honesty. Being willing to say, I don't know. I'm nervous. We don't know if we're going to wear condoms. Yes. We don't know. We don't know if we need to have a relationship first or if we're okay with sport bucking. It's okay to say after if you tried sport bucking and afterwards you go, you know what? I need to get to know you before because I wasn't comfortable with it. That's okay. But think about it. Some of it also... God, I'm going to lose my fucking mind again. Damn it. I hate that. It's a wand. No, it's menopause. But that's beside the point. Where was I going with that? Fuck. When you think of it, just jump in. Whatever I'm saying, jump in. I just don't remember the last time I did. The title of the bisexual thing, is it because people are saying they are, but they're really not? Yes. Yes. What it is, is because a lot of women are not making, they're being, they feel like, whether it's their choice or somebody else's choice or whatever, because you hear it all the time with straight women going, I feel ostracized if I'm not bisexual because so many women are bisexual. And the need to fit in is a human need. I mean, it is what it is. But if you're not true to yourself, especially in the lifestyle, it's going to be horrible for you. Not immediately. Some people might be immediately. Not immediately. We've been in this long enough. You've done this as long as we have. You'll see it. You'll see the couples, and every couple starts off like a fucking rocket ship. Right? And then you watch them burn, and you can see it becomes the tension and whatever, and you can watch marriages and relationships dissolve. And part of the key to making this work in the lifestyle is being honest with yourselves, which starts with being honest in what you put out there as a product. What's a product is you. Because here's the deal. Living a lie. Walking into a meet and greet. Knowing. It's like the motherfuckers that put old pictures on. You're living a fucking lie. Guess what? Or massively filtered. Guess what? I looked good 20 years ago. And I could put pictures on. And then I walk in. Guess what I still am when I walk in now? I'm still. I'm not 225 pounds. I'm 285 pounds. It's fucking gray. It's thinning off the mother. It's thinning like a motherfucker. But you know what? What good does it do to lie to get you there? So that then I know I'm going to feel that I'm walking in with a lie and I'm going to be uncomfortable and I'm going to try to explain it. Why? And that goes with bisexuality. That goes with age. That goes with what you will or will not do, what you are or are not comfortable doing. Look, I'm living that whole concept of who you really are. I'm the master of putting on a show. It's what I do. I've done it. I've built a fucking business off of it. The reality of it is, is that people see, they see what you want them to see, but the truth will always come out. I'm as insecure as you get. That's being honest, because now what you're doing is you're giving other people the option to choose. You know what? I don't want a motherfucker to like me or be around me or fuck me because of some bullshit lie. I don't want to lay there afterwards and get up and go and have him, when I walk out, go, well, who the fuck was that, dude? Because that wasn't anything like what I thought I was going to fuck. I don't want it. I don't need it. And you know what? I don't want to fuck you and then walk out and go, what the flying fuck? What was that? Because when I was younger, I would just say, fucking fuck you. Now I'm older, and I'm going to stop and go, yeah, I know I'm out. Because now I finally reached the realization of, I don't have to be a hypocrite anymore. If you don't like me, join the, there's pages of people that hate my fucking ass. Okay? But at least you can hate me all you want, but you will know that I am who I am. You'll know that I am what I say I am, and that it's the truth. And I'm telling you, that the reason marriages get in this lifestyle and fucking implode is because they start off the journey of the lifestyle. The most important thing, you need the ultimate trust. You need to believe in each other. You need to be okay. And it starts off with a lie. Now I understand, look, I'm going to, here's a little part. You know, every woman is going to fucking hate my guts, including Blondie sitting next to me here. Okay. It's even like pictures. Come on, ladies. We all know what you say. What's in the world of pictures? Come on, say it. How do you make pictures look good? It's all about what? Angles. Let me decode what that actually means. I take a picture this way so it made my ass look smaller. It's. Or I always take a picture leaning over my desk because it made my bottom half look smaller than my top half. Here's the thing. The truth of it. And look, I've taken pictures that make my dick look better. I'm not going to fucking lie. I'm in porn, but it ain't because I got a fucking giant cock. I wish. Okay, that's why I run the camera. But I've taken, even as a guy, I know, look, if you fucking make sure I suck in right so you can't see when my belly gets the right angle, my dick looks bigger. I'm not fucking dumb. But the reality of it is, is you know what that actually is? It's a little white lie. Truthfully, it's a little white lie. And here's the thing, if we're in a lifestyle that we believe that it's about being, it's about being fun, about being honest, about personal growth, discover new things, exciting, whatever, why does it have to be based on a lie? It's bad enough that we have to keep everything on the down low. I get it. That's part of the hot part of everything. The fact that we can't tell people where we're at. Every worry second, there's going to be a shit ton of people that are going to tell a whole bunch of people that they had a family gathering when they were at Crazy Winter Nights. And I get that. But why do we have to lie everywhere else? And understand, like every other show that I do, I talk about how I'm just as guilty. But I'm not going to say it again. I said it on the show a while back. Things that I'm struggling with. We'll see who is listening. Okay? Discover myself. There's shit we've talked about in other shows. The first time I told her that, you know what? Consent and non-consent is hot as fuck to me. Swinging is what allowed me to get to the point to be comfortable to try that. And swinging caused us to grow, as we are good communicators anyways and always have been, to grow in our communication. But, fuck. The really frustrating part of all of it is I started CASMA. We started CASMA, not I. We started CASMA. Oh, you started it. Started CASMA because the bullshit of the lifestyle being just for the beautiful people. The bullshit that the lifestyle was just for young or just for rich or just for whatever. We started CASMA. Because I said, fuck all that, that's bullshit. And so when I see that shit still go on, it drives me nuts. It drives me insane. Yes, when it comes to events, it drives me nuts. I'll tell you what drives me nuts. To say all the shit you want and need and think you need to have for an event, as long as you don't have to stay in front of certain people because you're afraid that they're going to, make fun of you. Do you know that we had people. Just this week. Tell another couple. To absolutely not come. To our event. Because. Everybody at our events are stuck up. And. They just try to rape and pillage you. You'll be broke and be treated. And you won't even, don't want to give you any attention. The one thing that I have based 10 fucking years on is honesty. Honesty of who the fuck we are. Honesty of what we are and what we're not. What did you used to say? Because you always have to look at yourself in the mirror. and how many times I've went through and fucking... And they've been to events before. That's what I don't get. The sad part of it is the hypocrisy of this lifestyle is that there are motherfuckers that are telling, not just with our events, but other events are telling people, don't go to an event because of some bullshit experience they had at one time or what they thought they had. You know why most of our fucking haters hate us? Most of them were super fans at one point in time. And then we didn't let him get away with extra shit because we hold everybody the same accountability standards. And so now they'll tell people not to come. And it's not just my event. The problem is it's not just my events. It's other good events too. And so somebody that's new, you get in with a fucking moron that doesn't know or has their own fucking issues or whatever the case may be, and they will take and cause somebody new not to go to an event and plant a seed of beer for no fucking reason. And here's the thing. We've never believed people when they told. Well, it's not that we didn't believe them. But we wanted to find out for ourselves. But we believe in our own experiences take priority. And you know what? Some people have told us that something sucked. And we went to it. And when we got done, we turned and looked at each other and went. That was a lot of fun. That was a lot of fun. There's other times we went and looked at each other and went, they're right, that sucked. But we knew it was because of we experienced it. Yeah. The reality of it is, it is so fucking funny. The Lifestyle is the fucking whisper game on crack. It's the whisper game on fucking crack. And, you know, we're close to this time of the year, so events are love-hate thing, and as you get close, you hate it. That's where we're at. But the number of fucking people that run their fucking mouths about shit they have no fucking earthly idea in The Lifestyle, the open-minded group. Really? Seriously? Hmm. Excellent. Shit costs money. We have been transparent and pushed transparency. And you know what? In everything you do in the lifestyle, you should be transparent. If you don't get tested, you should be transparent. If you do get tested, be transparent. If you fucking like pussy and you're a girl, be transparent. If you don't, be transparent. If you like dick and you're a guy, be transparent. If you don't be transparent, it's not fucking hard. But for the love of luck, quit lying about shit and quit believing other fucking idiots' lies. Holy shit. If you are old enough and mature enough and able to make the decision to stick your dick in somebody that's not your spouse or to have a dick that's not your spouse stuck in you, then you should be old enough to fucking make your own choices in life. I have one gal go, oh, I'm going to hook up with this guy. I'm like, oh, rock on. She knew I'd hooked up with him before. And I'm like, rock on, have fun. I'm not going to say shit. The next weekend, she goes, oh, my God, Amanda, how come you didn't tell me he was that way? I'm like, I don't know what you like. You might have liked some of the dirty talk and shit. You might like that. I mean, it wasn't my cup of tea, but you might like it. And she goes, oh, my God, that was just so weird. I'm like, you know, everybody has their own opinion, so you can't take everybody's word for it. Some people need to learn to keep their mouth shut. But, you know, I'm not going to bash somebody because you might like it. It's not anybody's right to tell you concepts or thoughts or opinions. Facts are a different story. Look, if there is, if you know for a fact that, hey, my wife hooked up with this guy and she fucking hit it and he fucking hit her. Okay, that's a fact. There's facts, right? Same with events. Like, there's facts. If you know a fact, you know what? Here's the fact. This is why, you know, we are not whatever. It's a fact. But conjecture? Figure out how to be honest. Figure out how to be honest first. Do you know that what Crazy Winter Nights, and I'm very excited to do this, we are going to take and having a seminar. I'm very excited because it's a cold creation. And it is how to say no. And I'm so jazzed Let's do this. Because this is a complete cold creation. Because. We all need to learn it. Because we all need to learn how to not be nice and how to say no. And the thing is, is that, and that's what we're going to talk about. Because, you know what, that's the, what, it's really a class in the lifestyle of is how to be your own advocate. How to stand up for yourself. You know what, when someone starts to share gossip with you. Because in a lifestyle that runs amok. It runs amok everywhere. No, it's not just a lifestyle. But you know what? It's titillating. But it's about standing up and remembering having this thought go through your brain. At some point in time, the story is going to be about me. And it's about that point in time having the courage to go, I'm sorry, I'm not interested. That's being an advocate for yourself. Saying, you know what? I'm not interested. Thank you, that's very nice. I'm not interested. That's being an advocate for yourself. When someone wants to bash any type of event or whatever to say, well, I think we'll check it out ourselves. Thank you. That's being an advocate for yourself. It takes courage to be an advocate for yourself. It's damn scary to do. It's terrifying to do. Because there's a chance that when you're willing to stand strong, and go, ha-ha, or try to tell you you're wrong. The lifestyle, golf, little kids play golf. Anybody can play golf. The lifestyle is a big boy activity, a big girl activity. It's not for everybody, but you have to be honest. If you're new in the lifestyle, keep an open mind. You'll meet people in groups. Ah, it's going fast. That will have a complete dislike for someone and try to convince everyone they're right. That person might be your cup of tea. Exactly. Exactly. Good advice. I've always lived by the rule of anyone that actually talks to me and knows me can make up their own opinion. Absolutely. And you know what? And Larry put it there too. You know what? I know I'm not everybody's cup of tea and that's 100% okay. And trust me, I'm a people pleaser. That's why I have a therapist. But understanding that it's in learning to be okay with not being everybody's cup of tea. That's okay. And in turn, everybody doesn't have to be your cup of tea. That's okay. But you know what? I like to stick my dick in crazy. It's a proven fact. But so the thing with the exception of her, but the reality of it is it's still my dick to stick places. It's not anybody else's to tell me where I can or can't put it other than two people involved, me and the person I want to put it in and some houses. I mean, he doesn't listen to me. I'll say, I don't know if I would do that. And then he goes, oh my gosh, I should have listened. Flip that switch. Hey, there it is. By the way, the crazy switch you're looking for, it's a little into the vagina and to the left. But the reality of it is that it's not my right to determine what your cup of tea is. It's not. And it's actually, it's not my right or anybody's right to try to influence what your cup of tea is. a cup of tea is. At Crazy Woman Instagram, there's these big banners about consent. And one of the things that's a violation of consent is badgering. Not taking no. Badgering and hounding. Well, you know what? It's trying to manipulate. Trying to manipulate who is the right cup of tea for you and who's not, that's a problem. And it's not fucking okay. It's just not. The reality is, If we can find a way, and we meaning this is each and every one of us on yourself, it's as a couple, you have to, but even as a couple within yourself, each one, this is like, there's some parts of it. It's like, we're playing doubles, but we still got each play our own game a little bit too. We all have to be accountable for the honesty within ourselves. Because if you miss me and I, we are honest when we're together, but when we're apart, I'm over here going and baking shit. up, it doesn't work. The reality of it is you have to look inside yourself and go, am I being honest? And I will tell you this. I built a business. I built my entire career, not just Kazma, my entire career on this concept. If you have balls enough or guts enough to be who the fuck you are, for every motherfucker that hates you and tries to take you out, Tries to hold you down, tries to cheap shot you. There's 10 fucking people that will love you for who you fucking are. But you gotta fucking be willing to take the hits to find the people that will. Because I'm telling you, 50 people standing around you going, you're great, and they don't know who you fucking are. It's hollow as fuck. Just saying. Just saying. You don't even talk anymore. He did a song. He did a song. Apparently, I had opinions on that. Wow. And we wonder why he has a podcast called Casper Rants. Watch the cancellation. It's just coming in. Ting. Oh, whatever. It is what it is. No one knows. I don't fucking care. No one cares. No. So, anyways, again, shout out. Well, it's time to go. Hard to believe. God, because he gets on it. It went fast. I'm thirsty. Who'd have thunk? Oh, no. Touch under my hair and my neck. No, that's gross. Anyway, it's not like a behind ball sack gross. Anyways. It can be. Shout out to our sponsors again. Please. No more excuses. Go get tested. STD Hero, there's different testing. Price ranges for everybody. It's convenient. It's quick. Please, stdhero.com. I don't know. It's stdhero, but go to fullswapshop.com. Look at stdhero. You can go to Crazy Casbah..com, Kazma Rants, or no, that's my podcast, Kazma Studios, whatever, check it out. 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Coming up 10 fucking days. Don't miss the opportunity. We still got some one-day passes available as well. We would love to have you all there. I'll be dressed up and just my normal calm self. So, definitely come check us out. And get ready. FYI, I'm letting you in on a little secret. The decade, the decade shit starts January 31st is when everything goes on sale for the decade of decadence. So, I'm having it tattooed on our titties. Anyways, probably not. Maybe. We'll see. Can I sell one of your titties for sponsorship? Anyways, with that being said, kids, doing it the only way I know how, the only way I want to, the only way I ever fucking will. Chasma Style, out. Bye.