Krazy Truth about Swinging #354 Husbands/boyfriends DO BETTER

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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey, you crazy motherfuckers. Welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth About Swingin. I'm your host with most. I'm Cole. I'm here with the lovely, lovely, and as always, sleepy sloth, Miss Amanda. Hey. We're heading to Tantelate, too late, and otherwise just entertain the living fuck out of you. So as we get going, for those of you following along at home. I've been watching these reels, and it's all about the zoo experience, animal experience at a zoo in Texas. That eye doesn't fucking close all the way. Don't. Anyways, and you get in with the animals, and they have these little monkeys and lemurs and fox things, and the whole thing with the fox things are like a raccoon with a long nose. And they said, be prepared to just be assaulted. And they just peek all over you. So if we're sitting here and you're over here just like picking on me. Well, then you had like an eyebrow hair. And that's what I was trying to mess with. I know, but then. You have one really long one over here. Can we not with that eye? Can I bring any eye drops in? And at least they can count and do a drinking game how many times it tears and just randomly tears. Like that, like the, I'll date myself. The old commercial at Mount Rushmore where the Indian chief was like, what, she's the trash and the tears. I have that. Do you know in Mississippi we didn't have ads for Mount Rushmore? It wasn't for Mount Rushmore pumpkin. It was for polluting. And you, they showed them there too. All across the board. I haven't watched TV much. Okay. They were there. I just remember who don't start forest fires. That's all I know. Well, he was, he was, they were, they hung out at the same place. Anyways, uh, this is season nine episode 354. For those of you who follow along, A.S.N. 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So we got two more. these are two more days. We're actually doing a, because they're going to be crazy winter nights. We're actually doing a prize giveaway. So if you get a test and you send us a screenshot that you got it and what site you got it off of, you're automatically entered into a free crazy winter nights weekend, the one coming up. So you get a hotel, hotel room for two nights, tickets free on us. If you already bought your tickets room, we'd reimburse you obviously, but we won't be able to be tested. So there you go. So, Got all that business stuff. Check. Shit taken care all over the place. Look at you go. Yeah, no shit. Focus, focus. Energy, get it done. So we got all kinds of cool shit. Obviously, you just got back. You'd been on the road. You went down there. You went down to Tampa. It was 80 degrees in Tampa. Of all the things she cares about, it was warm. So any spare time I had, my ass was sitting outside. Your ass was a lot of places while you were in Tampa. Actually, that's funny. You actually shot with desperate amateurs. So you shot with the company. So you're going to be watching. That's going to be coming out. We don't know when. Did a couple of scenes with those. And I love Desperate Amateurs. Long before you got in the porn business, I was watching their clips and jacking off to it. So I'm super excited to see because I haven't seen them, obviously. And you got to shoot with Dakota Marr and Billy Pilgrim and Sergeant Miles. And then you also, while you're down there, you hung out with our good friends Atlas and Venus, who you shot with in the past. you did a couple scenes, girl, girl with you and Venus, you and Atlas did a scene, and then the three you did a scene. And then we went to dinner. And I haven't seen any of those either. Yes, you did. That's a lie. I did see clips. I showed you little clips. You showed me little clips. Yeah. I haven't paid for and bought the tapes yet, so I don't get to see it either. Probably not. So, no. So, that kind of stuff. So, that's cool. You know, it's awesome because, like, Atlas and Venus are a whole bunch of avians because they can't come up this year. But next year, we're already talking about next year coming up. Because further out from AVNs. But they're nominated for a couple of AVNs. We got some cool shit coming out. Because we've got, obviously, shooting people that are AVN-nominated and award winners. And Bridget Daniels is coming up to Crazy Winter Nights. She is up for MILF of the Year, AVN MILF of the Year. Fiona, the flight attendant. The flight attendant Fiona is coming up. We've got West Philly Dungeon. coming in, which I know you're really disappointed about that. It's all for business. I won't have time. You'll have time. Oh, he ain't coming all the way from Philadelphia not to fucking stick his dick in. I mean, you send me a text saying, you know, just save some time so I can pound you. Yeah. It's for work. The camera's just a side note there. That totally it all is. I mean, you sell stuff off of it, but, you know, look. Hey, I haven't made any content for like a year. and a half with the guy. With him, right. But there are times that I watch you and I film you when you're working. And I know it's obviously just working. And there's times I videotaped you and I'm like, yeah, she's having fun with this. And you guys have fun when you guys fuck. So he's coming in. So we got all kinds of cool shit. So neat stuff at Crazy Winter Nights. So hopefully people will come to Crazy Winter Nights because you can still get tickets and all that. I'm totally going to bring this up because then we'll get on with other It is so fucking funny. It amuses the hell out of me. And I use the word amuse in place of other words. And you can try to figure out if you can think and figure out what other words I use them in place of. Okay? You don't have to say it out loud, but just like as you hear the rest of this, think about how I use it amuses me and see if you can think of other words that I might use in normal situation other than amuse. Okay? Okay? These fucking people that take pot shots, because, and questions about hotels, because as an advertising feature, the fact that they, you don't, you book straight through the hotel so that we don't raise prices. Now, which is a direct pot shot because we're a rarity in that, well, we're not. Other really, really real companies, like big, people that do big events, like splash parties and stuff like that, do it the same way we do. Okay. We don't, you don't get your hotel room through the hotel because instead of, and so the question is, well, why? Because we don't book 20 rooms and then when we show those 20, we book another 20 and keep going like that so that then you have kids and families when you don't book out the hotel and there's, you know, there's three or four floors or six floors or whatever, and you've got three of them, but there's three more that are totally just the nose around. We don't do that. That's what little fucking wannabes do. They book out this one little section, and that's really fucking cute, and that's great, and that's great, and that's wonderful. And in turn, and they charge just as much to get in as Crazy Winter Nights. Actually, they charge fucking more to get in as Crazy Winter Nights. But we give book to us because I stroke a fucking check for the entire hotel. Yeah. Splash Mocha. Splash parties in the South, they stroke a check for the entire hotel. What that means is if you didn't get a hotel, no one who didn't get a, is not supposed to be there is there. There's not kids and families and vacationers. And what it means is if we don't sell all the fucking rooms, They sit empty. We still pay for them, but they sit empty to make sure that non-lifestyle people aren't there. It's the weirdest thing. Okay. Just since you're on the subject, I know he's really pissed off about it, and he just doesn't want to say pissed off. What it was was somebody put a post somewhere that said, you know, we're having this hotel party, but we don't charge more. We go through the hotel, so you don't pay more. Here's the funny thing. There was a person in Omaha that used to have parties all the time. we were there setting up a party when a check was stroked to him for the extra amount of rooms. Yeah. Yeah. So don't think that just because you're going through a hotel that you're not paying extra for the hotel room. But it sounds good. And the really funny part is our hotels actually would cost more to get the room during that time frame than normal. But anyways, so. But who cares? It's just obviously it agitated you this minute. Well, what it is is that I don't mind. When people have questions, I'm happy to answer that question. We're full disclosure. I'm happy to answer that question. But don't try to take a pot shot. I mean, just like, you know, fuck off. Seriously. Take your little fucking party that you're going to get five fucking rooms booked or whatever you're going to get, great news, and fuck off. I don't care. Because when we first started, we did it that way too. We learned. And one time, we learned where the hotel didn't and there were other people and were like, we're never going to do this again because that's how kids get on there. It's the weirdest thing. It's like, do you want to be safe or do you not want to be safe? Do you want discretion or do you not want discretion? That's really the fucking key with this. And understand, whichever way you want to do it as your event, rock the fuck on. But don't take a fucking pot. If you're going to take a pot shot, at least have balls enough to just call it out and take the pot shot and go, unlike those dicks. at Kasbah, at least man up and take the pot shot. Don't fucking do this fucking psycho. This fucking bear doesn't like to be poked. Just saying. Actually, I don't care because the bottom line is, I know, I have the peace of mind that at no point in time of anything that could go wrong at my weekend, at my event, because shit can go wrong. One of the things that's not going to go wrong is when people come up because there's four kids running up and down the elevators looking at the titties and the girls at the glow party with glowing thongs on their asses. I don't have to deal with that. That's a nice thing. So there you go. Obviously that happened not that long ago. God. It's what it is. It's more than just entertaining. And the reality is the lifestyle is about choices and about options. If you don't want to spend the money, okay, I do Santa Claus. We all know that, right? And I'm not cheap. On Christmas Eve, you have a choice in this life. Okay? You can, if you want me on Christmas Eve as Santa, it's 250 bucks for a half hour. Now, there's Santas that'll come in for a half hour for 50 bucks. And you know what the difference is? You know the movie Trading Places when the drunk Santa is shoving the salmon down his shirt or bad Santa's beard? You're gonna get what the fuck you pay for. And events are the exact same. Same way. So, save a dime. Save a dollar. And, yep. Make sure you know where two floors the little kids are running through. And make sure you cover your titties. I mean, you know, not just pasties. If it doesn't bother you, just have pasties on our little kids and rock on. Whatever. Sure. That'll be fun. Anyways. Okay. So. So, the topic for tonight, because we're just going to go. We are fucking going full fucking You don't say Well, here's the thing. I said all the way through that season nine was going to be unlike anything people had ever fucking done before. Right. And if you watch, if she finds a little flea, she'll eat it as she's picking my hair. I'm not picking your hair. I was untangled. Can you do that? Out of my beard. You might be careful. You might get it. I wouldn't actually stick that in my mouth. Remember, we're having a glow party on Friday. Clean your face off. You don't want shit to glow weird. Anyways, so. That could be fun. But what I want to, what we're going to talk about tonight is we're going to talk about respect. Tonight's topic is respect in a lifestyle. I want to break out in song. I'm trying not to. Thank you, Pumpkin. And next we'll play cards and you can sing to that too. But I want to go after a very specific target. And I can tell you half of our listeners are going to love this. Half of our listeners are going to go, fuck. Okay. But that's why we're doing it. So the topic I want to talk about is respecting females. I mean, it should be any female, but not just any female. Respecting your other, the person that you came with, your spouse. Okay. through the years, through all the years, is that there is an absolute double standard of what is acceptable, what is expected, what is code of conduct, the whole nine yards, between males and females. And notice that when you have this conversation about the lifestyle, it's like, single males are bad, right? That's usually where this goes off on some tangent. Okay. But you know where through the years, as I look back, I look at ourselves, where the most disrespects come, not from single males. It's married males. Not to other females. Like, most guys know, if I'm not, we're not, it's not you and I, right? Pretend. I'm, you know, you're somebody else's wife. Good luck with that. No, I'm just kidding. If you're somebody else's wife, most guys know, I can't grab your move. Don't touch. Right? It's kind of guys go to strip club. We know you can't touch somebody else's. And so where most of the disrespect happens is and the difference of expectation and all the rest is within the married couple or within that relationship couple. And it's right. So I'm going to give an example. I'm going to give an example of one that we were first in my fuck up in that role, right? All the other girls, we were at a party, all the other girls were taking their tops off, right? And what's interesting? I'm badgering you. We're newer, and we weren't brand new, but pretty close to brand new. And I'm badgering you, come on, everybody else is doing it, and literally badgering you to take your top off. And I think over the course of the thing, you like tried to tell me no a couple times, and I'm like, come on, I want to fit in, be like the cool kids. And eventually you did it, and then we talked about it afterwards, and it Well, you can tell them how it made you feel when I did that to you. Well, sometimes you're not in the mood to do that. So it's like, you know, I'm like pissed at you for making, you didn't make me, but I just wanted you to shut up. So to get you to quit hounding, you know, I just do it. Now. You weren't comfortable at that. I'm trying to think of which instance, because there's like two or three. Two or three, because it took me a couple times to get through my thick fucking skull. No, it was the one time that you and this other girl were peeling my clothes off at a dance. Yeah. And I'm like, why the fuck are both of you taking my clothes off? It's like I was like the center to get everybody drawn in to parties. Yes. You weren't drunk. A lot of times when you're drunk, you're all in on that, but you weren't drunk. But the bottom line is, it did happen two or three times. I think, yeah, like about three times. So I think it was when the fully clothed and y'all were peeling it off that I got pissed. It was, the first time I was like, eh, I wasn't really comfortable with that. I wish you didn't sink through my stupid fucking skull. The next time you're like, don't, and don't do that again, and the third time, totally had forgot and you got pissed, and I think you told us, fucking stop it. I mean, you were artificially pissed, and finally, at that point in time, dawned on me. It finally sunk into my thick brain. So, again, as we go through this, as we often do, I'm fully, you know, look, this is a learning lesson I've learned the hard way ourselves, or me. I had to learn the hard way, and you as the the victim had to learn the hard way. And that is really what it is. There is, it's so easy for there to be this pressure to take and expect. We all joke about it. Any guy, if you have half a fucking brain, you're smart enough to know, most likely you're probably married up and you're probably very fortunate to have your wife or spouse or significant other, whatever, because, you know, they compliment you. And we say it, but then we do things in the lifestyle. that do not reflect that. And it actually makes that statement really more of a joke when it's not really a joke. I mean, I say this joke all the time. Like, I'm married up. Lightning's not going to start twice. And I can say it humorously, but that's really the fucking truth. And the thing is, is that we do this, and it's a very serious problem. There's this degree of chauvinistic, sexist fucking bullshit that goes on lifestyle. It's like, why are there other issues? Well, one, you know what they say, keep your own doorstep clean, right? So if we can't keep our own doorstep clean and be respectful and, you know, how, why are we surprised when somebody is not respectful to somebody they don't know? Yeah. You know, a couple other examples that I want to give them, we'll kind of talk more about it because it's, it's a perfect example. Outfit. Fucking Outfit. And how people dress. You see, now I understand that, you know, let's face it, guys, our give-a-fuck about our appearance a lot of times is not the same. That's just a difference in society, normals, values, norms, whatever. But it's just not. But the reality of it is, we want our wives to, if there's a theme, how many times have you went to an event? and all the women are in the theme and the dudes aren't. Or, you know, the wives show up dressed to the nines in a slutty version and the guys are in a t-shirt. Or the wives are in a slutty version and the guys aren't. It's like, okay, let's try this little game on. Here's the deal. Do you think that could be regional though? No. No? Okay. No, I think the pressure to What is slutty or not is more regional. And I think that there's probably different versions of it. Like, okay, not to be stereotypical, but if you're on the West Coast, the version of a guy dressing just like, eh, is probably a little less than the Midwest. Like the Midwest, jeans and a T-shirt. On the West Coast, their version of a jeans and a T-shirt guy might be dress-flax and a T-shirt. or something. You know, it might be a little different that way. Right. But the expectations, I guess here would be the, here's the thing. Yeah, Jim's right. Guys are less likely to put the effort in. But it's okay if we don't want to put the effort in, but we shouldn't expect that in turn that our female with us does. Like, here's what it should be. Dress accordingly to the equal levels of what your partner dresses as. So it's like, and ladies, I say call your guys out on this, right? Here's the deal. If your guy goes, it's summer, I'm just going to wear a shirt. I don't want to do it. I'm just going to put on just what I normally wear. I don't wear shorts, but some people do. Shorts and a t-shirt. Then you know what you put on? What are you comfortable in? If that's sweatpants and like a paint and a baggy shirt, put it on. And your ratty tennies or whatever, put it on and go, let's go. And watch, if you don't believe, guys, if you don't believe, well, that doesn't happen in our house, let your wife film your reaction as you're walking out the door, because she'll be like, what the fuck are you wearing? Because that's not going to get you added attention. Oh, it's going to get you added attention, but it's like, that's not going to get you added attention. You know? If your husband or the guy in your life is going, you need to dress super slutty. I was guilty of this, too. You know, well, can you show Okay, you want... If your guy wants you to be super slutty, dress super slutty, don't agree to go unless his fucking ass is wearing tight boy shorts, you know, with his package. Because here's the deal. Most guys are growers, not showers. And most guys, even if they've got a bigger dig, aren't real apt to show their fucking package. Go, here's the deal. You want me to wear something so tight that you can see camel toe on my tits popping out. You wear a pair of pants that are so tight that your little wiener can fucking show. And then we'll do this. And your ass is sucked in, so you can't fucking bend over without shit ripping. Then just watch how much that changes, how much that's going to go over, right? Because that's the reality. That's the equal part. You know what? Here's the deal. Okay, Mr. Manmeat, you show us some fucking tits. You wear a sleeveless shirt. Because guys are going to go, well, a classic coin. You know what I like to wear, because you know what I'm comfortable in. Right. Okay? Okay. Well, and that's okay. But the deal is this. Just because you have tits and a vagina doesn't mean you're not allowed to wear what you're comfortable in. So the thing is, if my expectations for you are, I don't give a fuck if you're comfortable as long as you look hot for eye candy, then you know what? It really doesn't fucking matter whether I am comfortable either. You know what? Guess what? Get your belly shirt on, fat boy, and let's fucking roll. You know? I mean, it's the same type of thing. Now, the other example I'm going to give with this, and this one's huge, we'll get back to this part in a second. One of the most disrespectful things, in my opinion, that men in the lifestyle do to their significant other's spouse, is whatever the case may be, is when it comes to actual sex. Okay? Okay. Ladies, let me, you know, a little secret, if you haven't already figured this out. Every fucking guy, every one of them, wants to watch you fuck another girl. They want to watch you eat her pussy. They want to watch you get your pussy eaten. And they don't want you to watch you going, eh. They don't want to watch you going, eh, eh. And going, t-t-t-t. They want to watch you fucking porn star going in. And just flying everywhere. and lips and fucking clit being slapping her in the face and and sucking titties and fucking sitting on each other's face that's what they all want to see and so so and and you know the conversation the polite way the other shows and other people talk about this lifestyle is by comfortable in the in the in your in your uh profile putting by comfortable if you're not really by comfortable or by tolerant you know we consider a line saying you're by what you're really saying is my husband wants to watch you eat fucking Pussy and get your pussy eaten and enjoy it. Because he's going to think about that and jack off in the shower, in the car, at work for the next fucking six months every time he thinks about it the first time he sees it. He doesn't even have to think the other chick is hot. I mean, look, you could have the other chick dressed in a fucking banana costume with fucking ratty hair and raccoons riding on her fucking shoulders. But if that's the first time you're watching your old lady with another chick, you're going to jack off to that like it owes you fucking money. Your dick is going to fall off. you're going to jack off so much. I need a raccoon costume. And that's the truth. And so many times, you know, the polite way that we talk about it is, again, well, you know, I'm just getting comfortable with it. No, you're fucking not. You're doing it. And any bi girl knows instantly whether or not you're bi or, by God, you're trying to make him happy. There's a fucking difference. And every husband or boyfriend or whatever that's with a bi girl knows it too. Because on the way fucking home, the conversation goes to them like, she's no more fucking bi than a fucking man on the moon. This happens in the adult world. This happens everywhere. So here is Cole's tip to how to prevent this. Ladies, even if you don't want to see it, even if you have no desire to see it, Make this deal. Before you agree to put a bi-curious or bi or anything else, or before you get your face anywhere close to another pussy or anything, if you're not into it, put this stipulation on. Once he sucks a dick, you'll eat a pussy. Because I promise you, what's going to happen is, to your fucking guns, which includes if you're in the middle of an event, and it's like, hey, do it now, do it now. Suck his dick, and I will. Stop fucking everything and go suck his dick, and I will. Well, no. Suck his dick. No, don't just lick it like you're pretending. No, fucking go to town. Like, you want me to do like what he wants you to do. I promise you that will fucking stop everything. just like that. Because the reality of it is, all of a sudden the game changes, but really, why should it? Why fucking is it that she should have to be, or your significant other should have to be, uncomfortable if you're not willing to be uncomfortable? And no, it doesn't work to go, oh, I'm right there with you, I'm being supportive. No, that's not the fucking same. If you don't want to eat pussy and you've got a pussy in your face being supportive and going you can do it is not the fucking same as the one that's got to lick the clit Just saying And I've been fortunate because here's the deal Just like every other guy I so wanted her to fucking want you to grow out I couldn't fucking say it But I never asked you to did I No, and the first time well, the first couple we ever hooked up with And I was like, by curious, but I hadn't acted upon it. And it was like, the guy goes, do you want to eat her pussy? I'm like, not really. And Todd, I don't see this as an issue, but. Surprise, buddy. But I never ask you to. Because. No. And in fact, this is one time for once, Cole didn't fuck it up first. No. Because when it, even before we started swinging, I always said, I really, like every other guy in the world, I wanted a threesome. And so this is true. I've always said that. You should get a guy before. And we did that. That we had a threesome with another guy before. We had a couple attempts. Attempted. They were all failures, but attempted. But they were attempted. But we did that because my philosophy was, at least that one I got right, was why should, if we're doing this for the first time, why should she be uncomfortable? To me, the first time we had a threesome with her and another girl, I had no guilt because we had followed through it that way. So that was important. But seriously, to sit and have this belief that you would go into a club, into a strict club, and treat a sex worker, which a sex worker should be treated with respect. Don't get me wrong. Don't misinterpret this. But you would treat a girl dancing in a club with more respect than your significant other or your girlfriend or your spouse or whatever the relationship is. Do you see what the fucking problem is? I mean, that's the part of this that is so fucking huge to me. As guys, we have to be honest and go, there's absolutely going to be times, especially when you're new, you're caught up in the moment. It's exciting. It's new. And you're just like, holy fucking shit. Cause you're seeing shit that you had no fucking earthly idea you were ever going to see other than through a computer screen or a TV or something. By the way, we're cleaning class behind our first old porn that we bought. VHS tape. Okay. And so when you, first time when you see it live, you're going to get excited. You're going to get like caught up in the moment. And there's going to be mistakes made. Understandable. And which in turn, the key with that is after the mistakes made is to have the conversation. Which sometimes, guys, means being willing to say, I'm really sorry. That was wrong. I shouldn't have done that. And actually mean it. And then try not to do it again. Sometimes you'll have to make that apology a couple of times. And hopefully if you say no, you should be like, start to think and go, no. You know the whole outfit thing talked about? There was almost a fourth time of that. But I started to say something. I got it all the way out and said, why don't you take your shirt off? And then it registered. I went, no, I'm sorry. You do what you want. That's not right. That's how you get the most out of the lifestyle. Now, a lot of guys right now are going to be listening. My spouse doesn't, you know, girls have to be nice to guys too. Yes, and we'll do a separate show on that. Absolutely. But what I don't see a whole lot of is I don't see a whole lot of gals walking in in sweatpants and grubby shirts and the guys dressed to the nine. But I see a lot of fucking fat fuckers like me walking in with a fucking t-shirt and shorts on and some flip-flops while she's in fucking stilettos and her cooter halfway hanging out with sparkles on. Oh, I don't have anything like that. Not you. Not you. But I mean, I'm just saying. I see a lot of guys coming in a fucking Halloween costume that's fully clothed. And the girl is wearing fucking half a leaf to try to cover her cooter. And she's got meat curtains. And they're flapping out. And two fucking Q-tips on her tits. Do you remember the one time we were at the bar? That narrows it down. Right. Do you realize how much I look like? Wait a minute. Go ahead. Go ahead. No, I'll go. Say it. No, because you'll forget. There was another couple that we used to hang out with quite often, unfortunately. And the guy goes, Well, if you were just a little sluttier like her. Yeah. And I'm like going, she wears nothing but tank tops. Yeah. Yeah. I don't, I don't want to, I don't want to dress like that. That's not my personality. Why should I change how I am for somebody else that I don't care about? Exactly. Larry, my first, my, no, not my first experience. Not at all. My wife's first, my experience was in a separate room, door closed. Since no man allowed, so there's no pressure from anyone. That's awesome. She was always curious but wanted it on her own terms, which is, and you know what? There's one of those tears. It is one of those tears. Don't pollute. So that's, old people get that joke. You wouldn't because you didn't have that down there. Don't throw six-pack containers so the turtles get hurt. Anyway, so, that was for you for the ocean. Okay. Anyways, and that's what it should be. There shouldn't be any pressure. It should be on anything sexual. You have, as a couple, you have agreements, whatever, but it's still a solo sport. We used to only play as a couple together. But even with that being said, it's my dick that I'm sticking somewhere. It's your vag that's having a dick stuck in it. That makes it, to a degree, it's still a solo sport. And it still has to be comfortable. Yes, ladies, if you're telling, If you're telling a fucking guy that he has to take this, put his dick in something, that's not right, okay? If it's me, if it's crazy, I'm probably going to fuck it all on my own. But I'm just saying. But I mean, there's so many times you see the guys driving it. Now, real quick, I had to say this before, and I'll get back on topic. Looking at myself in the camera, right now I feel like, and I realize exactly who I look like, because my eyes are kind of buggy and everything else. Do you know who I look like? No. Dr. Feelgood. That would be the Muppet on the Muppets in the band. The guy that plays the keyboard. Look at me right now. Okay. Thank you. You're welcome. Now you're going to want to see that image. Anyways. Well, somebody, Todd, somebody, Larry, Google that and the Muppets and put that on there with the top hat right now so everybody else can see. I don't know if you, like, can you put pictures in there? Yeah, somebody can put it in the chat. Somebody can see that. Scott, it's not hard to dress casual. Nice. I'm a jeans and t-shirt guy. I don't have enough sense to throw on, but now when I go to Lifestone, yeah. Oh, that's right, Scott. Dr. T's. Yes. If you can put a picture of Dr. T's on there so people can see it, because they'll never be able to unsee that. Only I can see it. And the thing is, is that you do have to dress with what you're comfortable. Look, I'm always— If you don't dress with the way you're comfortable, then it's going to portray that. I'm always going to feel most comfortable, especially— I'll tell you right now, if you come to Crazy Wonder Nights at the glow party, do you want to know what you're going to see me in? Jeans, white shirt, and a jacket. I know him by now. Because, you know what? My face is fucked up, and I'm kind of fat, and that's what I feel comfortable in. And you know what? What does the outfit have to do with your face? Is it going to hide it? No, but it is a security blanket. Yeah, okay. The coat's a security blanket. Which the thing with it is, is like, all we're saying with that is, is that, What she is most comfortable in, because as Miss Amanda always said, I don't want to dress slutty. I want to dress sexy. There's a difference between sexy and slutty. And you know what? Everybody's definition of that is different, and that's okay. I mean, but... No, I start laughing, because it's like, you know, I get new boobs. I want a low-cut shirt. I don't have one. And so do fucking I. I don't have one. I have offered, every time I go to any store, I'm like, see anything you want? See anything you want? I know. The last time I went shopping, I did get one that shows cleavage. It was up to me at this point in time. Seriously, this shows how fucked up guys are. Are you fucked up? Yeah. I stick my dick in crazy with exceptions. Are you sure I'm not crazy? Not really. Because I'm pretty out there. If it was up to me, your getting ready to go to the store outfit would be a bikini top. Okay? Oh, fuck you. No. Exactly. Now, guys, it's okay to envision and want to see your wife, girlfriend, whatever, that way. Envision it. here, in your head, quietly. Shh. Don't say it out loud. Or you can say it out loud as a joke, but don't actually be like, aren't you going to put that on? Jack off to it in your brain, but don't do it outside. It's... The reason this is such a big deal is that let's take an honest look at the lifestyle. The lifestyle, the actual lifestyle is driven by females. because you ultimately have the say, fuck or not. But all the other aspects of lifestyle, think about it. If you've been in lifestyle longer than 10 fucking minutes, you know damn good well when you meet a couple, who's doing all the social media shit? It ain't the fucking lady. Who's fucking scouring up and down on the thing, finding people to talk to? It ain't the fucking chick. No, it's the fucking dudes. Majority of the time. I'm going to go a minimum of 75% of the time. Because what happens most of the time, and people Oh, no. In our relationship, oh, bullshit. That's a fucking lie. In every fucking relationship. Because guys, it's not that men are hornier than women. It's that women control it better than guys. So whatever fantasy land people want to believe in, whatever. But the reality is, what happens most of the time is, oh, hey, check out this couple. Hey, they want to meet up. Hey. And the reason I know this is true is because we've been in this. He used to do that constantly. I did it all the time. We've been in this almost 15 fucking years. And you know what? If you get a group of guys together, we'll all admit to each other that's exactly what the fuck we're doing. Because we're bitching. Because it's like, this chick's really hot. She wants nothing to do with him. Fuck! And everything, the other mistake every guy tries to do is we try to figure out what the fuck you want to fuck, which none of us get it right. The thing is, with all of that being driven, it's so funny because guys are driving all this. And what we're trying to do, the reality is, is we're trying to manipulate and control the environment to get what we want. What's this? Controlling the environment. It's like the voice. Toggling nuts? No, it's time and universe. The thing is, is that the reality of it is, look, every relationship is different. But a lot of the time, I would love to take a poll because I'll bet you I'd be pretty fucking close to say it's not an equal 50-50 split. to use them as such. And you know if you've been in a lifestyle, you've seen it, you've watched it. Larry, my issue is I can see sexy in women of any body type. I have a big issue in seeing sexy in myself, so I dress accordingly most of the time. And that's just me. That's not just you. No, it's not. And you're exactly right. And the thing is, that's okay. It's the equality factor. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. If what's good for the gander, and this is, like in our situation, is I need to dress in what I feel safe and comfortable, which is jeans, cowboy boots, white t-shirt, black jacket, I, in turn, I do not. Have the right. I'm going to say it fucking again. I do not. Have the right. To expect. To force. To hound. To badger. Her. To do something completely out of her comfort zone. The reality of it is. We talk about consent. Consent violations include hounding, badgering, not taking no for a fucking answer. You know what? It doesn't just apply to somebody else's wife or girlfriend or whatever. It includes your fucking own. And that's the truth. And I'm telling you guys I promise you a thousand percent over. If you want to get more fucking pussy at lifestyle events. Treat your wife, significant other spouse, whatever. The exact same way that you would treat somebody you're trying to pick up. With the same rules, consent, be respectful. Appreciate and understand their fucking boundaries. I appreciate and understand their comfort zones. I'm telling you because here's the deal. When you walk out the fucking door, when you get out of the fucking car, when you get there, if the whole time leading up to leaving has been done with you hounding and driving and making her get into something she doesn't want to wear, she doesn't feel comfortable, she doesn't feel sexy, she ate a burrito so she feels kind of bloated, whatever the case may be, but she did it for you, by the time you get there, she doesn't give a fuck anymore. She doesn't really want to be there. And she is now just humoring. And the one thing about it, let's face it, guys, we might not be able to sense it, but our fucking wives will. And I'm going to tell you what happens when I'm trying to move in because I'm like, oh, God, I want to fuck this girl. She's going to pull me aside and go, she has no more desire to do this than the man on the fucking moon. And that's going to be the ultimate. Stop right there. That is the truth. Think of it this way. Because I can relate to this. We can relate to this. Fellas, if your parents are overbearing and demanding and expect all of your time, and you make your wife deal with their in-laws continuously, their desire to go to whatever holiday it is, that holiday is fucking ruined before you ever walk out the fucking door. You already fucking know, justifiably so, you already fucking know what the conversation car ride home is going to be because you know what? She's already rightly so aggravated before you even walk through the fucking door. So you think it's going to be different to get laid? I mean, over 15 years, we have seen people that are like, We have seen women go, I don't want to do this. We have not played with kids. I was like, I really don't want to fuck. The guy's all in, it's like, hurt? And that's the reality. I think some people, and I'm not pointing out man versus woman, but in a couple, no, in a couple, if one sees something they want, the other one sees something they want, it doesn't matter. But once they see something they want and they need to have it, then the other person is kind of Just background noise. And they're more focused on that. And the other person doesn't matter. Yeah. And that gets very disrespectful that you're not listening to the other person to know what they want, what they don't want. If they don't feel comfortable with this, if they feel comfortable, you know, there's some of those things that, you know, I really don't care for these people. Guilty. And hounded me to do it and went along with it and went, we were never doing that fucking again. And the shit. The reality of it is, is the experience then, if you realize what you've done, then there's much fun. You're sitting there going, and you feel bad, and you feel guilty, and you fucking should. There's the other key part of this whole The lifestyle is an enhancer. And everybody puts in their profile, we're just looking for added fun in our relationship. Yeah, looking for more chemistry or what was it? What it used to be. It was looking to spice up our marriage. Spice up our marriage. That means your marriage is still top priority. If at any point in time, and again, when your new shit happens. You get blinders on and you only see what's directly in front of you. And you should feel bad afterwards. If you don't, you should feel like a, as a guy, man to man right now, if you don't feel like a piece of shit that the most important person supposedly in your life, all of a sudden that you have no fucking earthly, you don't even know they exist anymore because you're so focused. You should feel like a piece of shit. If you don't, let me help you out with this. Now you know who the piece of shit is. Just saying. And, and we We've all been there. I'm notorious. You want to know a huge one? Huge one. And I'm hoping this show will be better because I won't be drinking as much. I'm probably going to drink. I think I'm going to drink. Is that when I get to talking and I get my hands moving and the circle starts to grow and she's going to be standing right next to me because Amanda doesn't push her way in. Because we have an incredible relationship. We're equal. So she doesn't try to push her way in. But the problem is as I start talking and I start talking, I start moving. And next thing I know, I've got a group of people and I'm talking to everybody and we're telling stories and I'm laughing and doing all this shit. And I'm back behind and I turn around and I walk off. And that's something I try to keep in my mind and it still fucking happens. And you know what? It's something, it's understanding something that I continually have to work on. Which means, when there's something you have to work on, it means you're going to fuck it up. better. You got to make an effort. Just go, well, fuck it. It's not the right answer. It's just not. And I'm telling you, if you don't think other people can sense what your relationship really is, you have no earthly understanding. And then Amanda's not on the camera anymore. You have no earthly understanding of what a relationship really is. And, you know, As a guy, I'm naturally a protector. And as a big guy, I've had women through the years, because I am protective if we've been at bars and whatever else, will come to me if their husband's not paying attention. Or I'll notice it first because I'm protective. There's nothing that annoys me more than watching a husband, especially having learned those lessons. all those years ago and still in my mind to this day, watching a husband, there's no other way to say it, force. If you badger, hound, whatever, it's still force them to do something they don't want. When I do, when we would, going after the bar, my biggest thing was I wanted people to have fun. If people weren't having fun, I would do anything to make them have fun. Not just my events, but just out at the bar. Just at the bar. When I see people and I see either spouse absolutely not having any fun, not wanting to fucking be there, hating every moment, I hate it for them. I hate it for them. And you know what? And again, because I'm full ownership here of my own shit, there's many a night that I've had to apologize because I get to talking and yammering and all the fucking shit that I do and get lost in the moment and didn't pick up on the signs. She was ready to go home. We've gotten better now when she'll come over and say, I'm ready to go home. But by the same token, again, it's something, part of the reason I don't drink as much anymore. Because you know what? I can be a little more in tune if I'm not fucking train wrecked. Not a lot. Don't get carried away. I'm still going to stick my dick in crazy. But I can be a little more in tune. That's just the, that's just the, the reality of the whole thing. And it's a simple fix. The fix is easy. Just give a fuck and put at the top of your priority list the person that's supposedly supposed to be at the top of your priority list. That right there. Solved. It's easy. Todd, as my wonderful wife points out, this would be the The opposed side of taking one for the team discussion. Yeah. The thing is, that's a great statement because I think that that's what gets cover all the time is not taking one for the team. It starts. It doesn't just pertain to, you know, having sex with a person you don't want to. It starts way before that because honestly, forcing someone to dress or act or do something they don't want to do, is forcing them right off the bat to take one for the team. But we don't think of it that way. That's why we wanted to do this show. Because it's like, no, this is huge. And it's a big thing coming up on this event. Because you know what? With a glow party, we've never done a glow party with Caswell. I've never been to a glow party. No. Well, we don't get invited to anybody. Whatever. Anyways, the thing is, is that as with any theme, there's always a lot of mega slutty ways to do it. And what I hope is, and obviously we have rules for a reason, but what I hope is that whatever anybody's choosing to wear is because that's what they wanted to wear. Just like I hope with all the outfits on Saturday at the gala, I hope that they're choosing to wear it because that's what they wanted to wear. It wasn't the dress that my husband wanted because the slit was high enough, my tits were hanging out enough. It wasn't the glow thing, so it's just basically, so my, no. That's, it's what you want to wear. And seriously, I, you know, I said things earlier about things that Sarah do to, you know, to turn the table. I'm not kidding. Fucking do it. Fucking do it. I promise you things just like that. No, I'm not doing anything until you suck a fucking dick. We'll stop everything. That will hammer home that fucking point. But I mean, it will. And same with outfits and everything else. You get all dolled up in your fucking best sweatpants. I mean. I need to go buy some. No makeup, don't do your hair. My pajamas. Yeah, get your pajamas slippers. I'm ready to go. It just is what it is. Hopefully, This is the type of, and the sad things about show existence will not get to most people that need to hear it and whatever, but you keep reaching and hoping that someone listens to it. This is the kind of shit that we talked last week about how life and the lifestyle marry each other. This is that same thing. If you don't treat your wife or spouse, whatever it was expected, in real life, this is going to be a really hard concept for you. If you do, in real life, like when you're and public treat her with respect and like that. It's very easy to carry this over into the other part. I promise you, if your wife, when she gets out of the car, feels good, looks like she feels like she looks good, she's comfortable. She's going to walk with an ass pile of confidence. And you know what? Oh, yeah. You'll then have to have conversations about you being jealous because she's getting too much attention. And you know what? That's exactly what it is. And the other thing that will happen, tell this quick, really quick before we go. When Amanda danced, when she said to me to come, I wanted to strip, and I got her on the stage in Courtney, wherever it was. Elm Creek. Elm Creek. Or something like that. I'm telling you, we've been through, you name it, we've been through it. And I've seen her fucking do a lot of shit, and I've been damn proud of her a lot of times. I sat at the back of that room, and when she was waiting to dance, and the confidence, and the I was scared as shit. But it looked like the confidence and that whole thing. And I was so blown away. I was just amazed and so proud. And when we were on our way home, I couldn't even put it into words. It literally had me in tears because it was such an incredible thing to watch. And I'm telling you right now, if you will take that attitude for the next event, the next whatever with your significant other, and just watch her walk in with a shit ton of confidence. Watch her flirt and mingle and talk and feel good. You will be like, wow. And it will feel good. You'll be glad you did it. So there you go. Great show, Cole. Glad you were here. Thanks for talking to me. Hey, I interjected here and there. So again, shout out to our sponsors. When I could. I mean, you were kind of breathy. I know, I'm fucking bound always... So check that out. So check that out. But again, STD Hero, Crazy Casbah, Casbah Studios, whatever. And check out all Miss Amanda's stuff. You can go on her website. Go on all of our talent's website. So go on the Casbah Studio website. You can go then click to Sweet Butterfly, Save Every Sunflower, Honey Bee, and Mr. Elmeet, as well as Miss Amanda's site. Check out the site. You can go to the links. You can see all the different stuff. Their X, where their videos are. Check it out as well. So with that being said, kids, I'll do it the only way I know how, the only way I want to, and the only way I ever fucking will. Casper style. Out. Bye.