Krazy Truth about Swinging #353 Social skills even for newbies

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Speaker1: Hey, kids. The program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey, you crazy motherfuckers. Welcome to the very special. Oh, that's it, cunt. Welcome to the very special season nine. The start of season nine. Starts off calling me a cunt. Goddamn right. Start of season nine. Season 9, wow, holy shit, it's episode number 353. Did you look that up before? I did, I did. And you know what, it's good we started that way, because Season 9 is going to be unlike anything we've had in the past. Season 9 is going to be a fuckin' balls out, no holds barred, no fuckin' nicety bullshit. If you want to go listen to somebody, where they're all going to fucking sunshines and butterflies and how everything's perfect and wonderful. It was great having you for eight years. I was going to say suck your dick, but apparently you'd want them to do that. If they're crazy, sure. You like crazy. We have some huge fucking announcements starting tonight that they're going to make here and then we're going to put them out on other places as well. But this is, as we get going along here, shout out to our sponsors, This is going to be some big announcements coming. We want to take an opportunity to thank some of our long-term sponsors right off the bat. We want to thank ASN has been a long-term sponsor. They're still a sponsor with us. ASNLifestyleMagazine.com. Motor Bunny. ASN's been with us for about six years. Motor Bunny has been with us for about four, almost five years now, I do believe. If I remember correctly. And then, of course, we have Discreet and Dirty CO. They're new. They've been a little under a year with us. But the exciting part of what we're going to announce tonight, obviously we love all our sponsors, but we're super excited to announce our newest sponsor, and a little bit more than that, STD Hero. I would have worn their t-shirt if I didn't talk about it. Well, you've got to do that with the videos. That's coming up. We're going to do a video and some videos and release some stuff. So, STD Hero, and I'm going to do something that we never This is how excited we are. STD Hero is Casbah Inc.'s, not only sponsor the show, they are the official testing company of Casbah Inc. What that means, that includes all of our events, Crazy Winter Nights, which they will be at, as well, and Crazy Summer Nights, but it also includes our subsidiaries, Full Swap Radio. It includes Casbah Studios, so it's our professional testing company, not only for us, but our other talent as well. And, yeah, here's the really unique part. You can find STD Hero. You can get their kits. And for the lifestyle side, kits start as low as $69 at home. I'm going to have you read this in just a second, okay? The official promo. I have to read! But you're also able to get them, get STD Hero, and get your test kits on Kazma Studios, on crazykazma.com, on any of the talents, your website, and the other talents website. Sweet Butterfly, Honey Bee, Mr. Elm Meat and Savory Sunflowers websites as well. And also on Full Swap Shop. You can get the whole line, whether it be the professional kits. Say that again. Full Swap Shop, whether it be the professional ones or the other ones. Cunt. First, I want you to go ahead and read because we're going to start. Hold on. I'm picking on him because he still has Bill's palsy. And she's still a cunt. So it works out well. We're going to see how to. So we're going to do something different because the one thing, the deal that I made, them is where actually, instead of my typical make shit up as we go, I want to, if we can do the... Did you make it out of order? No. Because it starts with oral, anal, and genital single tests. No, it's here. Right there. Did you get it out of order? No. God damn you. I did not. Fucking start down there and just read. Start down... Oh. You're just reading... Bullet points. Oh my God. You're reading about what the tests do, jackass. About how they are. I can... I... You didn't know they were out of order. I thought it was just anal oral. This is going great. Hey, welcome to the club. You have to have some fun. Fuck off. We're not totally down well. They knew when they signed up for us. They've talked to me enough. They already knew. They knew we were dumb. No shit. Okay, go ahead. STD Hero is a S or... You wanted me to read. Go ahead. Try again. I can't say I know all my letters. Apparently I don't. real clinical oral anal genitals, single tests, and full panels all processed through our CLIA certified lab that they own and operate. No clinics, no judgment, just fast private results delivered discreetly. If needed, follow-up care and options are available. From everyday peace of mind to the past certified Ultimate Hero panel trusted by the adult entertainment industry, STD Hero has you covered. STD Hero, science, You Trust, Privacy You Deserve. 30-second read. Number three. Oh. Insert name here. Anyways. No shit. The thing with them is, and I'll tell you the reason why we went with them. We did a lot of research. We wanted a company that was reliable. We wanted a company that was dependable and where they take care of all, they're not sending the stuff out somewhere else. And we wanted one that, a company that, was not just geared to the adult side, that had the adult side, because that's a big part of our life, but also the swinger side. And literally, they have tests that start at $69. Again, it's still shipped to your home, discreet, cost-effective, quick turnaround time, incredible customer service. We're excited they're going to be a crazy winter night. We want you to go on. We're doing a drawing right now. If you get a test between now and January 12th, and uh shoot us the thing that you got bought the test uh off of one of our sites wool swap shop crazy casbah the studio wherever you're entered into winter freak crazy winter night weekend uh because testing is so important these guys are all about it and here's some of the other cool things you'll find when you go to full swap shop they also do tests for lyme disease so we have stuff for the camp camp about stuff food allergies uh they are i'm interested in doing the food allergies they are they are a complete package and the the ownership they've been having it for Pets. Even for the Pets. And the ownership, they're swingers. They're us. And they are reachable. They want to talk. Like I said, their big thing was they can't wait to come to Crazy Winter Nights. They don't give a shit about selling tests. They want to, guys, because safety. But they're excited to meet people and talk with people and they're lifestyle people. So please support them. We are very committed. And I want to put this out here. Season 9, they say they talk about And ethics that we do. So we're excited about that. Yes. So another, and the pets don't need STD tests. No. I'll tell you what, the joke is, uh, pets need STD tests. Part of the, another selling feature when I was having meetings with them were dog people, basically animal people in general. We've had cats. We love animals. Uh, it's a big deal to me when you have somebody that's an animal lover. Yeah. Cause that's a certain, to me, that's a certain, uh, There's a certain degree of humanity there, and that's important to me. And one of the things you're going to see over this, as we're getting ready to celebrate, we're coming on this next year. After Crazy Winter Nights, we're starting the year of the decade, which is our 10th year of everything. And part of the year of the decade is that we are streamlining, we are focused on everything about CASBA, Inc. being with companies that have values and ethics like we do, and that work and do the same things we do. Why is that saying that? And it totally throws up. Anyways, doesn't matter. That's still going. It's like the computer did something. The thing is that's going to be something you're going to see as we move forward with this and we're super excited about that. Another exciting announcement with our sponsors. You can now find Motor Bunny on Full Swap Shop. Go on Full Swap Shop and you are able to purchase Motor Bunnies. There's only two places you can do that. Motorbunny.com and now Full Swap Shop. So we apologize if you're watching live on Facebook because our internet connection in this room is kind of spotty. Yeah. So it's cutting in and out and we're like, fuck. But as long as it's still recording, that's all that matters. I think it's still, but it's recording. It's still going up there. It was just here. It's cut out, right? Or did it stall up there too? That's when it would go offline. We'd freeze up. It's when that pauses. All right. Awesome. Okay. Great. Anyways. Okay. So that's the first thing. Hi, Tracy. We've got some new people listening again. Haven't seen for a while. Rock on. So other big announcements. Obviously, we're within a fucking... Did you ever do your actual intro? Yeah. Okay. We are actually... Actually, I changed it up because we started calling each other names. We're actually... You called me a kind. You deserved it. So we are with... them up for me. We're actually within 30 days or within 25 days of Crazy Winter Nights, the ninth edition. We are so fucking excited. It's our second year in Kansas City. We do social spots available. We have got an incredible lineup of activities. We have speed dating. We have a, well, one, we've got just a plethora of seminars in which a schedule is going to be going out very, very soon. We've got some world-renowned educators again coming in, which is awesome. Different seminars. than we've had in the past. Well, you have to do that to change it up. We do. Keep it fresh. Keep it fresh. And one of the big focuses this year has been to make sure that we have lots of meet and greets. So speed dating. It's Friday night before CASBA's first ever glow party. We've never done glow party before. Before our first ever glow party. And we have speed dating. So we want to make sure if you don't know anybody else there, before the first party starts. Let's not scare it with It's not necessarily dating. It's like a speed meet and greet. It's a speed meet and greet. But if you don't know anybody there, before the first dance starts, we're going to make sure you meet people. You're going to know people. We've got a special Saturday morning. I think we call it morning wood. We've got a special meet and greet going on there. We've got a pool party Friday if you're there checking on Thursday. We've got a lot of people coming Thursday night. We are going to have some options for Saturday so you don't have to leave. There's some lunch options available you can take advantage of. We're going to have some, you know, after party. Nothing better than drinking food. Drunk food. We're going to have pizza that's going to be available for folks on Friday and Saturday night. The black tie optional event. We're going to have the, this year again, we will have the clothing exchange, which is always super popular. So bring, bring your clothes that you want. And take some home. Take some home. Absolutely. Completely free. It is, We've got our vendor fair, which is exciting. We've got some adult stars coming. Obviously, you're going to be there. And so is Sweet Butterfly, Honey Bee, Savory Sunflower, and Mr. I'll Meet. We also have Fiona, the flight attendant. Flight attendant Fiona is going to be there to meet people and sign her autographs, as well as Bridget Daniels. Bridget Daniels is actually up for AVN Porn Star of the Year. Did she say Snow Angel? Oh, yeah. Snow Angel's going to be there. That's right. I forgot Snow Angel's going to be there. Bridget's coming straight up from AVN's, right, too. We're going to have a content creator workshop that is all the ladies to talk about their experiences. Because, you know, in a world, sometimes it's always about the guy is yammering. And it's like, you know what? Yeah, no. We're going to have the ladies because the ladies control the lifestyle. Yeah, Jessica, we're going to have the get ready with us meet and greet before the globe party. So if you need help with some ideas, whatever. We got that as well going on. We're going to be doing the raffles. Big raffles. Can you make that go away? The big raffles. And this year, the raffle prizes. I don't know if it's touchscreen. It is touchscreen. I got a new computer. I don't even know. It's touchscreen. The top prizes. Now, we're going to have a lot of little stuff, too. Top prizes, of course, we're going to have a Motor Bunny buck away, which is about $1,500. We're giving a sling swing away, which is about $600 value. We're also giving some handheld, new handheld motorbunny toys away. And we're also going to give away, because 2027 is the decade party for KWN, we're going to give away a decade KWN party pass, which will be two tickets, hotel room for 2027. So, and of course, as usual, the money goes to Casbah Cares. So, we got some exciting stuff going on overall, and then the year really gets going. So, still tickets if you have questions. reach out to us. And again, we've got people coming from all over the place, so it's going to be a good time, I do believe. A little earlier than normal January 30th through February 1st, but it's going to be a good time. So we've got that going on. I've got my dancing shoes and ready to party it up. You do. I've got my tux. I'm waiting for my glow outfit to show up. Is my tux going to fit? I don't know, is it? I don't know. I might need to bulk up to fill it. No, I'm basically the other way around. I hope. Here's hoping. That long ago, like three months ago. Just remember with the glow party, you might want to wipe your face off before you go in the blacklight because it's going to show. Oh, gross. Cole, what's that in your beard? Nothing. I didn't even think of that. Yeah. Oh, gross. A little cum dribble goes a long way. Just saying. Really? Yeah. You can do that again. Lower. She can't touch me. She's actually going on a shoot this week. Yeah. It's going to be a lot of fun. So we got all that going on. And you talk about a way to kick off the year. This next year for CASBA being the decade of decadence. That's kind of what I'm calling this year. That's really exciting to us because it's hard to believe that we got here. It's hard to believe we're in the ninth year of Crazy Truth About Swinging. It's hard to believe that we're going into this year of of CASBA and where we're at and where we're going and what we're doing. And it's just super fucking exciting. And we're excited that a lot of people are along for the ride that have been along for all 10 years. And a lot of people that are new that are coming along. So it's going to be a great time. So let's get on with the show a little bit. Do you feel winded? Winded for yapping. It's how he talks at home, too. As fast as can be and go, huh? Huh? Yeah. Then he gets mad and he has to repeat and I go, no, I didn't hear the beginning of that. I caught the tail in because I didn't realize you were talking to me. You should know anytime I'm in the room, you should stop what you're doing and listen intently in case they say something's really valuable. I was doing something on the computer and I'm looking at it and it wasn't making sense and he comes in and starts to hear him and I said, shush. Yeah. Yeah. Okay, guess how that went over? They sat quietly and pouted. You come in all the time and start talking. It's okay. Look, here's how we know this year's gonna be good. I got a new computer for Christmas. I got a new chair in my office. Either out of my mouth or mine. So we've got all this new stuff, so we're ready to fucking roll incredible. My ass is happy. My ass is happy and my eyes are happy. What more do I need? Wow. It's easy to make you happy. Simple fucking mind, pretty much. Just buy them. My new frickin chair. Like my nut. Okay. So, yeah. A new chair every year. Yeah, I can't afford that. Anyways, so let's talk a little bit. Let's get the show started off and start this new season off with a bang and a half. Okay. What kind of bang? Bang! So, you know, we talk about one of my goals this year is to try to have, you know, new areas of discussion and chatting a little bit. But I wanted to go, I thought, well, we just announced the whole thing with SDHero. So I'm going to kind of go a little bit and talk a little bit about it, about not just testing, but responsibility of the lifestyle. Okay. Okay. Because, you know, a lot of things we do in life, when you're new, it's okay to not know because you're new. The lifestyle is kind of unique. Obviously, there's learning, growth, and everything. But there are some things that just playing the I'm new card doesn't make it okay to not do or not know. Right? And we're talking about things like, you know, obviously, there's things that can happen in the lifestyle that it can be your very first time hooking up with somebody. And if you're not smart and safe about it, testing becomes is an issue or can be disease. We've known people that first took up. They got something. Ta-da. We know that the first issue, you know, you can have if you don't have conversation rules and hurt. And there's just, there's a lot of things that you have to do and what the responsibilities are in the lifestyle. The challenge is now, if you look at the world, and if you listen to my rant, you know that a lot of my rants, I talk about how things tie into the real world and the lifestyle tie together. And that's a lot what this season is going to be like, because you look at the world in general, and there's a lot of like, not my circus, not my monkeys. There's a lot of hands off. There's a lot of no accountability, no responsibility for stuff. And what's really funny is it doesn't matter the age. So what I mean by that is, it's not something as old people. Well, it's the young people, they just don't give a or it's the old people that don't give a fuck. No, it's across the fucking board, right? And there's certain things that we, if you're in the lifestyle, you are accountable for from the very get-go. And that's one of the things we want to talk about. So if I said, if I was saying to you, Amanda, what are, you know, what's one thing you think is absolutely that everybody's responsible for, even if it's your first time going or doing a part of it, What's something that you think of that people should be responsible for? Themselves? Well, are you asking me or are you saying it? Where am I going? There's a lot of things you're responsible for. Well, right. And that's just it. But I mean, for you, what I want to know is what, in your opinion, what's something that takes a priority that you're responsible for? And you're saying yourself. Yeah, sure. Awesome. Neat. What do you mean by that? Well, it's very, a large umbrella, so to speak, because, you know, you're responsible for your own actions, your behavior. Let it go with actions, wouldn't it? I don't know. You're not being put on the spot. It's your opinion. There's not a right or wrong thing. If I ask you how many ships were when George Washington crossed to Delaware, there'd be a right or wrong situation that'd be putting you on the spot and i wouldn't know the right this is just your opinion so what you're saying is is your own how you how your your behavior really is okay and and what i mean do you want to stick with that opinion for today we'll stick with that well and i think that's a great place to start because the truth is that's a huge part of this, right? Look, when you go to a restaurant and you sit down to eat at a restaurant, right? How you choose to react with the staff is your control, okay? We all agree that. So it's the same thing with lifestyle. Hold on. Larry just put, consent is your own responsibility to ask. Absolutely. Actually, I'm going to skip yours, and we're going to go there first. Okay? That's fine. Because they actually kind of tie together. No, that's fine. Like, we haven't talked enough about consent today. Oh, no shit. But here's one of the things. It doesn't matter whether you're new, whether it's your very first time going to a single event, or if you've been there a million times, ask you before you touch. So if you go back to the life, how it coincides with life, how it coincides with life, We learned in kindergarten, keep your fucking hands to yourself. Now, they didn't say fucking hands. They said, keep your hands to yourself. Don't touch. Right? But we learned that in kindergarten. I love how you say kindergarten. I just love that. I'm always loving how you say it. Okay. Because you say it funny. Well, my kindergarten teachers, they taught me how. Okay. So the thing is, is that now as adults, What's changed from when we were in kindergarten to when we're adults to think that all of a sudden it's okay to lead with our fucking hands? I mean, seriously. And you don't have to know anything else about the lifestyle to know I shouldn't walk up and touch someone that I don't know. Because when you go to your, if you start a new job, and I walk up, you're going to turn and face me. I walk up, and they introduce me, like, Hi, Cole, this is your coworker. This is Amanda. It's not appropriate, well, no, to not just go, hi, Amanda, and grab your tits. That's not an acceptable way to greet people, right? In any country, there's not a single country in the world where grabbing the tits is the appropriate thing or touching your butt. So why would it be that way at a lifestyle event? Folks, you don't have to be here a long time to know that's not okay. Now, you may not know the nuances of, you know, should I talk to this spouse first? You may not know some of the nuances, and that's okay. But we know that it's not okay to just randomly touch. We know if you go to a meeting, okay, again, in the real world, and you're having a negotiation with another company, right? Here's the thing. The lifestyle in getting pussy or dick is just like sales. Okay. You're selling yourself and what you're trying to, what the payment is to get laid. That's the reality of it. You're trying to, you're trying to, if there were a country that allowed that, I would be moving there. Absolutely. There is, there is, you're selling yourself, right? Putting your best foot forward the whole nine yards. So the thing is, is that would it be acceptable to go into a meeting, and let's say it's going to be a lunch meeting. Being from sales, I just had meetings all the time. Would it be okay at a lunch meeting to just keep going? Oh, hey, shot. Hey, shot. Oh, so do I. I'd have sold so many. I mean, or would it be okay to go, well, I'll just give you a little, you know, here, just take this to get the edge off. Would that be an okay way to make a sale? Could you take the person sitting across from you, get them train wreck fucking drunk, grab their hand, and go, okay, you're signing it. Yep, see, you really wanted this. So the next day they're calling you, they don't remember who the fuck you are, and you signed it. Would that work? No. So if the product you're selling is yourself, and the payment is them, why would it change? Why would that make it okay? It wouldn't. You don't have to know anything else about the Now, you may not know if it's okay to offer them a drink or not. Or if they do drink or you may be an awkward kind of like how that works. Okay. So in all honesty, when we started in this, I never would have asked anybody for consent. But I'm not a touchy. I can be touchy-feely, but I'm not gropey. So I wouldn't have walked up to somebody and grabbed their dick or I wouldn't have walked up to somebody and grabbed their tits, especially if I didn't know them. And actually, I'm glad you brought that up. Because there's a lot of shit. You're exactly right. Because it's like my initial thought is, well, everybody's there for sex, so everybody's okay with it. When they're not. But that was newbie shit. But the other factor of that was that's your personality type. It is not to do that. And that's the challenge with the lifestyle. Even when I was drunk, I didn't do that. No, you didn't. And that's because that's not something you would have liked. you have a different set of value and norms. And so that's where, as somebody new being, have to be in control of yourself, you have to understand maybe you're a touchy-feely person, but as an adult, you should know by the time you're 21, which is how old you have to be to be in one of my events, you should know the concept, not everybody is a touchy-feely person. So what that means is you have a responsibility to alter your behavior to fit the scenario. What I mean by that, I, all the time, I'm a hugger, right? And I'll say, hey, you know what? I'm like, well, hey, I'm a hugger. I'll say that. I'm not saying that as I'm hugging them. I'm saying that before we go in for a hug. A lot of people do, yeah. But you say that head of time so that they can go, I'm not. Right? Don't worry. And I'm not saying that you, if you are someone who doesn't, we have a friend that hates me, he does not like, he doesn't know you, don't touch him. Don't walk out, put you on his back. We have a kid. Yeah. That even being his parents does not like to be hugged. Yeah, doesn't like that. I'm not saying that you have to alter your behavior and go, everybody else's hugger is okay, hug me, fuck. No, but you have to, if everybody else's hugger, you have to understand that if you're not, you have to alter your behavior in terms of verbalizing And not just assuming. Because when you just assume, it's like when you shoot porn. If you don't like something that a guy does, and you never told them not to do that. The example is the guy that strummed your pussy like a guitar. If you were to shoot with him again, and you didn't say don't do that, whose fault is it? Mine. Right. It's the same thing. You don't have to alter and alter and become a hugger, but you need to go, But if you are a touchy-feely person, it's your responsibility to alter your behavior accordingly. Because you know what? Not everybody likes that. And again, I'm going to keep going back to this is so simplistic because it's all shit that we have learned all the way in our lives as people. You don't just randomly at your job, rock up and hug somebody. You don't. If I don't know you and we just meet, I don't hug you. No. Now, I will tell this story because it's funny and we were talking about this a while back. Every now and then we do forget lines blur. I'll give you an example. A couple of years ago, we were doing a wedding. I don't know what you're talking about. Yeah, you do. We were doing a wedding. I was officiating a wedding. It was for a gal that she worked with, her sister. Sister-in-law. Soon to be sister-in-law. I did the wedding and gave her a hug. We were getting ready to go to a swing. and did not think about it and planted a kiss on her. And we both looked at each other. I'm like, gotta go. Amanda's like, bye. I'm like, get in the fucking car. We gotta go. We gotta go. Do mistakes happen? Sure. But I laughed for the next four hours or two hours. So we got there going, oh my God, what did I do? But I'm just saying we, you generally know this stuff. Like what it kind of goes down to is I think we get in the, people get in the lifestyle situation. and then they either overthink it or they shut their brain completely off. The swinger world, nothing has changed from your outside life. Not really. The change can happen in a bedroom, in a playroom, in something like that, in a dungeon, but it doesn't just change. Let me give you another example. Okay. If you were at the bar with a group of your work friends, Most people would say no. So if you're at a bar. Does a brothel count? No, shit. If you're at a bar with a group of vanilla people, what's the common denominator? The bar. Not at a bar or a swingers event. The bar. You wouldn't do it. So the behavior, it's like the same all the way through. And that's the part of the life that people don't talk about. Okay, so yeah, there's going to be new shit. If you're new and you're listening to this, you've got a million and one things to be nervous about. And I understand that. You can be nervous about, you don't have to be nervous about how is this going to feel. You can be nervous about making sure you and your spouse are together on the same page, talking about rules. But you don't have to be nervous about the basics. Let your natural human adult Instincts kick in. That's super important. It's super easy. Now, next thing that comes along with this, we talk about behavior. Again, we're going to go back to the, we're going to go to a work scenario. I was going to use family reunions, but you can't use family reunions because I know how some of my family reunions get. A work environment. If you're going to your first time going to a work environment and there's cocktails served, Do you get train wrecked drunk so you don't even know your own name? Can't ask me if the last place I worked at was. Not the first time you went out with anybody. What do you mean? The brothel? No, I was talking about the car line. Right, but even then, you were with me and everybody already knew me, so it was all right. But it's the very first time a lot of businesses will have lunches for special occasions. You wouldn't go out and get train wrecked, just stupid drunk. It's the same thing. And now in this day and age, it goes the same with drugs. A gummy and a shot, it's the same difference. A lot of people can have a shot at lunch and still function the rest of the day at work. A lot of people can have a gummy and function the rest of the day at work. I stay at work. Okay? We know people. But it's about limits. You wouldn't sit there and just fucking go ape shit crazy and eat a bag of gummies like they were a fucking bag of Cheerios. Right? Don't do it at a swinger event. A swinger event, just like the first time you start a job or a family environment, the first time you're going to meet your spouse's parents. Spouses or a significant other, There's family you want to make a good impression on. Yeah, not me. I didn't do it. Your dad got me drunk. I was nervous about the first time I met your dad. I met your dad a couple times, a couple hours before we went drinking, and then he got me drunk. There was a difference. But you think about people that you want to make a good impression on. Is that, if you want to make a good impression upon somebody, would that be a great time for the first time ever to try LSD? No, it isn't. That would be a fucking horrible Terrible fucking decision. Because you don't know what it's going to do. I wouldn't do it now. Because I would of 25 years ago. But I haven't done it for that one. The last event that we were at. Oh, God. He goes to, oh, God. I don't even think he realizes what the last event was. We were sitting next to a girl that wanted to take the edge off. And she thought she was getting something. And she took a hit of weed. But it was like in a pen. She didn't know it. And she goes, it had weed in it. And we're like, okay. And she goes, I turn into a bitch. We're like, well, we'll watch it. Make sure you don't turn into a bitch. You just stick next to us. And I giggled going, this is going to be fun. Take another hit. She stayed quiet. She did. But the thing is, is like, there's a time. It's okay. And Brian put, we can't rock out with our cocks out at a company party normally. So use your judgment and know your boundaries. It's exactly. It's. It's not about not having fun. It's not being a fun hater. It's about control. And the control, here's what's so funny about rules and lifestyle events. The rules are only in place for one reason. The rules are there to protect you from yourself. If every single person could operate within the rules at all times without them being told, You'd never have to sign a sheet. You'd never have people talk about rules. But in life, not just swinger things, there's a reason there's a company manual. There's a reason in the company manual they have to tell you you can't go fucking get train wreck drunk and come into work because somebody did it. Because somebody will if they won't. There's a reason they put don't make toast in the tub because somebody won't follow through. It's the same thing with life set of rules. Or don't put a curling iron in private places. And Jason, I need rules. If you're new, that's actually true. Here's something. Everybody, especially coming to KDOM, if you're somebody that's experienced, new people love rules because it gives them, okay, go to a bowling alley if you're not a regular bowler. A bowl and you're not a regular bowler and you bowl and it's like, okay, that sucked. And then go out and put bumpers. the bumpers and the gutters. I do great with those. It fucking rocks. And you know what? That's way more fun because it keeps you in the lanes. So if you're new, the cool part about those rules that are like, God, they're such assholes about shit. It actually is helping the new person feel like that they can venture away from the corner or they're trying to blend in like the wallflower where they can actually venture away because they know the rules are there to keep them from going. You want to talk about rules. Okay. So we don't allow nudity in public areas. You shouldn't. This isn't a frat party. There are some groups that do that. Just the other day, I'm like watching this one group and they go, hurry, put your clothes back on. There's staff on site. Well, you should have them on all the time in case there's, you know, it's not necessarily for us. I don't give two shits if you're walking around naked. But it's for the people that work there and it's respectful. That are just doing their job. Right. They're just there to watch after you and take care of you. Here's a good way to put it. All of us have our regular jobs that we do. Mm-hmm. So if someone went into your regular job, whatever it is, and did everything possible that could be offensive. Awkward. could just make your time with them shitty. You would be pissed. Well, when you sign up to become a part of the hospitality staff, right, that didn't mean you signed up to be a swinger. They don't, they don't, when we have a hotel takeover, they don't go, oh, quick, let's call the swinger staff. I mean, they're afraid of us because of some other people's parties. Exactly. those rules. And we want them. Do you know the biggest reason why a hotel will not let people come back? Don't let any of these fucking event planners bullshit you about any other reason. The number one reason a hotel will not let you come back. The staff hated you. Meaning you trashed the rooms. You were rude to them. You were disrespectful. You made their life hell. Uncomfortable. I'm a manager. And I've got 30 people instead. and every one of those motherfuckers comes up to me and bitches about these pieces of shit, we are not going to do it again. That's the number one reason. Jason, Brian, the rules keep you from sticking your dick in the light socket. Absolutely. I wish I did the same thing for crazy. It doesn't for me. Jason, we have so many amazing people in the group that help out the newbies. Navigate her first journey. Yep. And you're exactly And we are so fortunate to have that. Because... I think that's why a lot of people are afraid their first time. You know, it's just like us going our first time over, you know. This first time to a party, we thought we were going to walk into an orgy, you know. Still around that motherfucker. These people on their first visits are going to go, oh my gosh, is it just a bunch of people running naked around the hotel or what? And we went to a hotel with an owner of a hotel that goes, okay, so... what exactly is going to happen? And I had to stop him and go, if you think there's going to be people having sex in the hallway or running around naked, that doesn't happen at our party. No. Yeah. And he goes, okay, good. Well, we're not going to make you feel uncomfortable or awkward. And it's the same for newbies. If some people aren't comfortable running around naked, it's going to be uncomfortable for them to be around other people who are running around naked. It really is. It's easy to forget. And I think, Jason, We have some great people in our group to remember. But you guys have heard me talk about it before. When you go through the sore arm stage of the lifestyle. You know, look at that. And I still giggle. I still giggle thinking about where we're at Forbidden in Omaha. And we're sitting there, I'm talking to a new couple, and their eyes just got the size of saucer plates. And I just like, is she sucking somebody's dick? They're like, yeah, because you were stuck in somebody's dick sitting right next to me. Yeah, you know, cluck. And it's like, and the thing is, and it's like, oh, okay. We forget that we weren't all there because when you're new, the rules help you know that when you walk in, a bunch of guys aren't going to grab your wife and go throw her on a table and fuck her while you just stand there and do nothing. It's so important. And if we can help, if you can relate to why we have those things in place, Me and Juby face, my one eye just leaks like a fucking soap. So the thing is, is that we have to help protect each other and protect ourselves from getting carried away. But if we put it in the context of real life, thinking of the lifestyle as real life, people go, oh, well, that's going to take all the fun out of it. Really? Other than her, most people can't say, I went to work and fuck. And I haven't asked me before, she was a porn star. So, I mean, really, does it really take away from it? I don't think so. I just don't believe. A couple other really good things. Larry, never assume. If you don't know, ask. Absolutely. You know what? When we were in sales, again, real life, if I'm going to train people in sales, the number one thing that I teach people is stay stupid. Stay dumb. Quit knowing all. Once a car salesperson thinks they know what they're doing, their numbers will drop. Stay stupid. And so in turn, that means is there's nothing wrong with going, hey, how does this work? What are we doing here? And what's cool about our group, again, back to Jason's point and others, is that it's really cool when people see that other, that you can walk up to an experience and go, Jason, Jason and Blair are a great example. You can walk up to them. I've seen people that they don't know. Walk up to them and ask them a question because they're welcoming. That's cool. That's why we have staff. That's what it's all about to ask questions. And you know what? We can't forget. Even if you've been at your job for 20 years, every now and then doesn't sound the code that sometimes you have to ask somebody a question. It's real life. Swinger in real life. So that means you can be at a party. Something, call it menopause brain if you're a girl, call it brain part if you're a guy, call it just you're not thinking, and all of a sudden you can go, okay, how are we supposed to do that the right way? There's never anything wrong, no matter how long you've been there, to ask a question. It's okay. Respect the rules of the weekend, your own rules and others. It comes down to respecting the situation. Absolutely. Absolutely. Respect. R-A-S-B-S. I'm sorry. Thank you. Go, Aretha, go. When I ask you what was the number one thing, basically control of yourself, the lifestyle is about respect. It's really funny. The outside world looks at the swinging community, the ethical non-monogamy community, and they go, But these women don't respect themselves. Really? Because that's a perception. But the truth is, if you do things in a way that you are respectful of consent, you communicate, you follow your rules, everything's above board, it's transparent, that is respect. That is having respect for yourself and for everybody else in the community. That's getting tested is about respect. The lifestyle ultimately is about respect. If you want to be successful at your job, you have to be respectful even with the dickheads. If you want to be respectful at your job, Hilton. Hilton points. Cole got 28,000 extra points this weekend because the rent desk clerk told me, oh, no, you didn't say that. I'm sure you're wrong. No, I did say that. No, I'm pretty sure you're wrong. Fuck you. You need to respect me regardless. It is what it is. Respect. And putting, respect is putting your best foot forward in everything you do. And that's such a big part of it. So if you're new, and here's the thing, if you sit, just like in your job, just like as a parent, a lot of us are parents. If you're a parent, what's the most effective tool that we have to teach our kids? It's not lectures. It's not yelling. It's not yelling. It's not books. It's example. Let's face it. If what my kids see every day, if my three boys would have grown up and they would have seen her and I get in arguments and me hit her, that's what they saw. What would my boys probably do? Beat girls. Beat girls. If they saw that every time we got in a fight, she degraded me, What would they do? I mean, you know, this is the type of this is the type of thing. Now, we're not saying it, you know, based off co-inventage relationship only. Yeah, because it's perfect. But no, but it's the same thing. The thing is, is that you see if you're new and you see experienced people being having fun, being nice and respectful with each other. You learn by example. You see it in that. And that's really. So my kids learn to be a smart from their fucking mother. Jesus Christ. It's really the whole thing. Look, and because Cole always, you know, if you listen to the last eight seasons, you know I always throw myself under the bus on stuff. There are things that I have changed about my behavior because as I look back, as the one supposedly supposed to be in the leader, I go, okay, wait a minute. Did I really set the, did I set the Now look, I'm going to be real honest before we get too carried away with any of this. We all know, if you know me, if you come up and want to kiss on Friday night at Crazy Winter Nights, I'm probably going to, you know, if you go like, tongue fuck me, I'm going to be like, whatever. But, and I say that obviously, you know, again, respectfully, whatever, but. If you want to kiss, most of you have to do is ask. You just got to ask. Last. But the thing is, is there are things that over the last, from like, like a man, Mr. Amanda said, I never thought about consent. Well, there are a lot of things we looked at from when we were younger and newer and when we didn't know that we looked at. And there's a lot of things that as we have went on as we're getting on a decade of doing this, you know what, there are things that I've looked at and went, hey, did I set the right example? You know, how can I say one thing if I'm doing something totally different? Does it mean we're perfect? No. Does it mean we can't learn more? No, we can. But we have to continue to work and to try and improve. I'm going to circle back around because I really want to hit on this part of it leading into with Crazy Wonder Nights coming up. And ties in with the testing part. Okay. And I'll tell you part of what this came from. I saw this come up on Full Swap 101, which is our page. I saw this come up on two other pages, which I'm not going to mention their pages. that people were talking about not getting tested because of cost and other factors. And here is the truth. Not getting tested is not a fucking option. You can't justify it. you can't rationalize it you can't um accept it or be okay with it and still fuck other people in the lifestyle you can still go to events look here's the deal if for whatever reason if you don't believe in testing you don't want to get tested you can't afford to get testing you don't think there's options to get tested or you're afraid to get tested you can still come to the event but don't you dare stick your dick in somebody And don't you dare let somebody stick their dick in you. You do not have that right. It is a part of the lifestyle. Now, we understand. You know what? We're lucky. We have a doctor that has known us for years. I've smoked weed with my doctor before he was a doctor. We understand not everybody has that. And that's why when we were looking at things like STD Hero, we wanted stuff. There are options out there that could be sent to your home. There are cost-effective options like health clinics. There are... The health department. Health department. There's all kinds of stuff out there. But you... I'm telling you right now, if you do this long enough, and after 10 years of... Well, no. We've been in the lifestyle almost 15 years. We've been doing CASBA for 10. In that time frame, we have seen a lot of fucking people that ended up with If you do this long enough and you don't, aren't tested and you don't play smartly, it's not if. It's not if. And the thing is, is that you can't then be pissed off if you get something. If you don't get tested, you can't be pissed off. You also have to keep in mind that some STDs, STIs are now, can't be tested in men, but then a woman can get it and then it's like, well, shit. You know, there's all kinds of situations out there, but it happens. And that's the other part of it. That was the other part. Go ahead. Is that if you get something, is it the end of the world? No. It might feel like it at the time. At the time. But you know what? One, if you take all the steps possible for preventative testing, things like that. If you went and played in New Year's before you're going to another event, you should get tested. You should want to for your own peace of mind so you just know. In case the person you played with wasn't. The joy is most things are out there can, a pill will cure them. Not everything, obviously. But you have to know, just like here's the deal, it's not just a blood test won't tell you everything. Folks, let me hit it out there. Gonorrhea of the throat, chlamydia of the throat. I mean, that's why they do swabs. In the porn world, you got to do a throat swab, a throat, general anal swab, blood, urine. Every time. Because you can get any of those things. So the thing is, is respect yourself enough. and respect the lifestyle enough to do your part, to be tested. Or if you don't know or you're unsure, then respect the lifestyle in yourself enough not to play. Remember, the lifestyle is a hobby. So if an event is coming up and you weren't able to get tested, you know what? It's not the end of the world to not play that weekend. It really isn't. Do you know what's worse than that? Do you? Do you? What? Playing and then having to make a phone call to let somebody know, oh, hey, you need to get checked because I came down with this and I probably gave it to you. Just saying. So, you know, it's testing is kind of one of those things that puts you in the best possible position. Or we knew a guy that was contacted, by a spouse that said, hey, you gave my wife, I don't know if it was gonorrhea or chlamydia or something. And he's like, well, how did I do that? And it happened to be from the throat. And he was never tested by throat. He was never tested. They were actually adamant about testing, but they just went to the doctor and just had the regular blood swab. And they started, in their group, started an epidemic of gonorrhea. Didn't mean to. Because the information's not out there. Now, did we know him from like our parties or anything? No, he was on the East Coast, West Coast. We didn't even know him. He just told us a story about it. And look, again, this is the honesty factor. Getting tested, having those conversations, and I so wish there had been things like STD Hero when we first started. I wish we had the freaking knowledge when we started. I didn't even have the knowledge. I'm going to be honest. The first time we got tested, we were new in the lifestyle, was because I got accused of giving somebody an STD. I got a fucking call at work. We are new. I'd begged for 20 years. Finally got her to do this. I get a fucking call at work that this guy was saying that I gave her gonorrhea. I don't remember which one. Gonorrhea. I'm going to call her at work and go, hey. Now what the funny thing was, I hadn't. They went to Vegas. We played with them. They went to Vegas. The next day they flew out to Vegas. And they got it in Vegas. But before that point in time, It was like, we hadn't played very much, but testing was like, well, use condoms, you're not going to be up, but we really didn't think about it. And that was a huge wake-up call for us. That was a fun discussion with the doctor. And luckily the doctor, because she went in first, because I'm old school. I had STD tests back in college when they took a fucking Q-tip and fucking rammed it down your dick. Okay? So she went in first, like, we don't do that anymore, and then we all got tested, and now we have an honest conversation. The thing is, avoid that. Don't let that be your reality. There's options out there. I would have killed that we could have got online, got a test, got at home, not had to have the conversation. There are so many affordable options for testing. You change your car's oil regularly. Why not? Why can't you test regularly? That is fucking... Honestly... I love that. You know what? Here's the deal. That is awesome because a protest for us, which most people don't need the protest, costs $228. When I went to change the oil on the the last time I changed the oil. Was $200. To change the oil in the car. Okay. And I was feeling guilty because I was like a thousand miles over. Life. Real life. It happens. Take control of yourself. And you're going to find. If you will take that concept to heart. For 2026. If you'll take the information that we just talked about today. and build on it and review. The thing is that if you're married, y'all can stagger it because you'd be giving it to each other. If you don't fuck each other, then no. But if you will take the information and think about it and make a pledge right now, it's early in the year. Make a pledge that in 2026, your goal in the lifestyle is going to be to keep it simple. You're going to keep it just like it's real life and keep that philosophy all the way through. and have respect for yourself and be in control of yourself. I promise you, you're going to come out at the end of 2026 and you're going to have the best year in the lifestyle you've ever had. Guaranteed. So there you go. All right. Well, thank you so much for tuning in. Get ready. There's going to be all kinds of more stuff coming out. Again, we're super excited about check out fullswapshop.com. Check out all the stuff with Motorbunny. We've got fullswapshop.com. Pop Shop is now just our affiliate, so Naughty Pops. DVD-8, you can get Glory Holes, all kinds of stuff like that. STD testing, I mean, look, it's totally revamped. You've got to check it out. We're excited, STD Hero, to be part of the Kazma family. Again, we're excited to sell ASN and Motor Bunny and Discreet and Dirty CO.com. We've got all kinds of vendors coming to KWN. We hope to see you there. CrazyKazma.com. You can still get tickets. You don't have to have a room. There are still rooms available. You don't have to have a room, but you do have to have a ticket. Check us out. We're going to be getting ready on the road. All kinds of cool stuff. Definitely check out Miss Rising Star over here. Our videos are selling all over the place, so we're ramping up. So check all this out. Thank you so much. Doing it the only way I know how. The only way I want to. Nine years and still fucking kicking. Kazma Style out. Bye.