Krazy Truth about Swinging #347 The spooky truth about Halloween parties

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Speaker1: Hey kids, the program you're about to listen to contains some adult situations, adult language, themes, and other adult topics. If you're easily offended, this show's not for you. Hey you crazy motherfuckers, welcome back to another edition of Crazy Truth About Swinging. I'm your host with most goddamn computer, and I'm here with the lovely, lovely, and if you're watching live at home, Blonde Miss Amanda. That's right. Hey. It's a change in trying out the new look tonight. Eh. We just pull it. You can pull it. I'm fucking pulling it, all right. Anyways, so for those of you following at home, I forgot to do this when Honey Bee was filling in with us. I forgot to say any of the normal shit. I was listening. Yeah, you did. Did I say the season shit? I don't remember that part. I didn't. Anyways, it is season eight, Episode 347. Yes. You just looked at it. Wow. You done fucking shit? Fucking beat your ass. Anywho. Yeah, so I don't know. Say something, you fucking loon. Jesus. Making fun of me. I'm all bedazzled. No, I'm not bedazzled. I'm befuddled. Fuck, I'm just old as fuck. Shit, son of a. He made fun of me and he even cracked a blonde joke. No, I did not. I refrained. I was going to crack a blonde joke. I could see it. You called me. Way to go, pumpkin. I'm proud of you. You called me from across the house to find the strainer that was sitting down in front of you. You go, do you know where it's at? And I'm looking at it. It was underneath the pan. Yep. No, because you have to move the pan to pull it out. And you're like, oh, there it is. And I just looked at you and I didn't say a fucking word. And you're like, don't you make a goddamn blonde joke. And I'm like, You made the look of... It doesn't mean, just because I made the look, I could have just been constipated. It doesn't mean I was going to actually say something. I was, but it doesn't... We all know Cole better. The key is, I didn't say anything. Hey, you know the one thing is, here's the problem. There's no pictures of you as a blonde in here. Carpets don't match the drapes. There isn't any carpet. No, there isn't. It's like, you know what, it's... at the moment. What it is, it's kind of like, it's like, we're just like, good old poor white trash. We ain't got, we can't afford a rug. That's the way we're at. No, I'm kidding. Anyways, I like it that way. It's smooth. Right now it's like, bumpity. But it's not rough bumpity. Right after you shave, when you hit that, I understand now why girls don't like whiskers. Because when you, when the girl shaves and she's in between shavings, but it's not to the soft part, but it's not to the smooth part. And it's like, now you understand what it feels like to have a cat son. Yep. Yep. And you're like, I could rub a rib on that and strike the meat right off of it. Anyways. Uh, so we got lots of fun shit to talk about. I don't know what it is, but we got a lot of cool shit to talk about tonight. Uh, probably. So the first thing, God damn it. This computer is going to drive me fucking insane. I bought a computer. It goes live. It pops up some virus-y thingy. Oh, don't start closing shit. I wasn't going to close anything. But he bought some... I bought a virus protector. Virus-y thing. Should we follow the camera as it falls? Will you lean over with your titties and fix that? My titties are covered by a sweatshirt. I know. The whole light went... Jesus, what in the flying... Oh, hell is fucking breaking loose. No adult supervision... It didn't do this once to Honey Bee and I. We had no, all hell breaks loose. My lord, it's hard to believe no adult supervision. See what happens. There's cats and dogs. There's raccoons running everywhere. Anyways, let's do the big cool announcement first. And you could be definitely a friend. Oh, so you didn't think I could do that. Wait a minute, Brad. Okay. I was like, I thought at first I was making sure it wasn't testicles or something. Anyways, so the big announcement, the fun announcement, right? Whatever. A couple fun announcements. A is the calendars. are here. Calendar A, printed incorrectly. It's not printed incorrectly. It's just bound incorrectly. We said we didn't want any binding on it, and they put plastic on this one. So we have a whole bunch of them like that. So we have double the amount that we're supposed to have. But we didn't get charged double, so it's okay. But they're here, and they're really, really cool, and they're really, really hot. I can't show them all. So you can get cheaper ones, but they're more expensive. Exactly. So those are there. For those people that don't know, some do on our page, whatever. So we have not had... Okay, just blocking the microphone. Well, it was like picking that up. Well, you can look through it. I've looked through it. Well, you touch your side boob, too, but you still keep doing it like it's new. Anyways, so the big fun announcement is, obviously, we do three big events a year. Yes. We did a Halloween party. We've done one Halloween party. Yes. That's what we've done. That was like three or four years ago, I think. And so out of, call it frustration, call it whatever, pulled the trigger yesterday and we're doing a Halloween party in 2026. But here's the thing. This is the celebration of the Decade of Chasmus. So our 10, our birthday. it was going to be early, but it'll be crazy when it's 2027. It'll be our birthday. It will be our 10 years. So this whole year is a celebration of a decade of Casbah. And so as a celebration of a decade of Casbah, that's why we went in and was like, okay, we're going to do, we'll do another Halloween party, but we're doing it old school because the reality is not every single event needs to be a fucking hotel takeover. You know, when we first got into it. Lifestyle? Yes, swinging. And we started going, to parties. The thing is, is that it was a one night thing. Usually there was some at a bar, some at hotels, whatever. But it was one night. You go and you have fun and you go home. And it didn't cost a flipping fortune because they were having them like almost every month, every other month. Well, and we all know Halloween is a busy fucking time of year anyways. And I was like, so here's the deal. It's okay to get to go to something, a cool party like a Halloween event. and not have it cost you thousands of fucking dollars. Not a thousand, I mean, that's being smart, but not costing you. It shouldn't have to cost you a couple hundred bucks, just at bare-ass minimum to go to a party. So one night only, and here's the thing, it's October 2nd, 2026 is when we're doing the party. That is a Friday night, and the reason we're doing it on a Friday night is, guess what else? You can go to a Halloween party, have a blast, Maybe go fuck if you want to, if you and another kid want to go fuck, whatever. And still have the rest of your fucking weekend. So your entire weekend is not shot. Because you know what? Hey, we live in Nebraska. It's Huskerville around here. So odds are we're going to be playing a fucking game either home or away or other football Saturday or raking leaves or kids activities, going to the pumpkin patch or God knows what. And that was tricky because they don't have the football schedule out. No. But the thing is, is the other thing we did, which made it the first Halloween party of the year, obviously, because then this way, if there's a lot of other groups around our area that still do, that also do hotel parties, you are able to go to multiple ones. The nice thing is, is when ours doesn't cost you 300 bucks to go to, you can still, if you want to go to another one, you can still afford to go to another one as well. So, uh, on a national level, it's, we're actually excited to announce, uh, tickets are $30 a person. And, uh, I mean, obviously, it's a cash bar, whatever, but it's actually not like stripper bar prices. No. It's literally $5 mixed drinks. It's actually affordable, and the entire venue is ours, obviously, because it's the Caswell way, so that's the only way we ever do anything. We don't do the fucking pretend. We're going to pretend it's all us and it's not us. No, it's all us. That's the only way we roll, so you don't have to worry about little kids. Bop it over to see what the dirty swingers are doing. Uh, and, uh, yeah, and they'll have all the markings of the regular Casbah party. So you're going to have safe tables and you're going to have security and you're going to have all the things that we do, uh, to make a great party. But the other thing is you're going to get to have an entire fucking weekend. You're going to get to start your weekend off with a kick-ass party and then go do whatever else, uh, you want to do. Uh, I did say a location, Omaha. And at this point in time, that is... Omaha is not connected to a hotel. Yeah. But there are hotels within a couple of miles of the event. So... But we'll announce that as people get tickets. You can actually go on the website now. CrazyKazba.com. And tickets are on sale. We have haters. We can't announce it. Yeah, we can't announce it. Yeah, so... We have to wait until it gets a little closer. But you can get tickets now. So it is capped out a max of 450 people. So, you know, just keep that FYI. But something to plan for. to start the celebration. Again, this is a decade of CASBA. And it's hard to believe that we've been in the lifestyle 14 plus years. But CASBA itself, this is working up to the 10th birthday. And that's a huge, I mean, that's a pretty exciting thing overall is to have a decade of CASBA. And oh my God, have we grown and... Crazy people have been around a long time. Have we grown and learned some... some shit as we went. But that's okay. So one of the things, you know, one of the things I do want to talk about a little bit real quick about in the lifestyle. You know, we always, we talk about giving advice. Actually, before we do this, I need to do something that I forgot. Quick shout out to our fucking sponsors, ASNLifestyleMagazine.com. They're not fucking sponsors. They could be fucking. We don't know what they're doing. ASNLifestyleMagazine.com. If you want to know what's going on in the adult world as well as the lifestyle, Check it out. Make it a habit each and every month to read asnlifestylemagazine.com. Motorbunny, that's right. You know what? You can find some Motorbunny stuff at our booths and our parties because we're big fans of Motorbunny. They're one of our corporate partners and proud to have them. 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Anyways, so, but one of the things I want to talk about is we talk all the time about, you know, doing things the right way and what if you do and you don't and whatever. And I want to talk about karma just a little bit. Because honestly, you know, we all say in our life, You know, that fucking karma's gonna get that motherfucker, right? But so rarely do you get to actually watch it happen. Yeah. So rarely do you get to watch karma happen. Now, I'm telling you this not in a cheering because somebody got karma. Because that's, you know what, that's, you know, if you do things that are gonna get bad karma, that's on you to deal with it. You know, but it comes to, You know, don't hound us to have a party and then tell people that we stole it from you. Right. And then there's people that refuse to go to a party because we stole it from somebody else. It's like, no, they hounded us to have one. And it worked out well in the end. But the funnier part with it is it's just the reminder that when we go to an event, when you're at an event and grab, touch inappropriately, Oh, it's not a big deal. And you get away with it. You get away with it. Or you get too fucked up. Or you, you know, all the different things that we talk about, that we talk about all the time. And it's always like, Oh, well, it's not a big deal. And we talk about, you know, how you got to change. You got to do better. We need to all work, blah. The thing is, is when you do things in your life that are, and in the lifestyle that are negative, if you lie, if you lie or bullshit to get laid. If you're cheating in a lifestyle, for example. If you're lying and say, oh, I got permission to play. Oh, no, we're a couple where he doesn't play because he just doesn't have sex drive, but you're really lying. You know what I'm saying? What I'm telling you is the shit will come back to you. It really will. And it's one of those things that you, when you see it happen, when you see karma come screaming in, it's really a reminder. And in turn, there's a, at the end of almost every party, this is nothing against party hosts, at the end of almost every party, you hear about couples that have gotten into it. Bad. Because Halloween, for whatever, the party level is just amplified. And in turn, it's very easy to break rules. You would think it was a Mardi Gras in the South. You would, you would. It's very easy to break rules. And here's the other thing. There are people out there that will manipulate situations. Yeah. Look, everybody's in a costume. Hey, I'm going to run back to the room because my costume's getting hot or I'm going to change out of my costume or whatever. Oh, hey, I'll walk that way with you. Yeah. You know, and it's not that anybody's, I'm not saying somebody's trying to force, physically force somebody, but there's mental manipulation that can happen and go along with that. And when you couple a mega party environment and thought process, a lot of booze, a lot of gummies, a lot of whatever, and situations like that, it's just, it's amazing after Halloween, the funnest time of the year for most swingers can turn into a really fucking nightmare after a party. And you see it consistently. Right. At all different types of parties. We've seen it at great big hotel takeovers. We've seen it at smaller or mid-size events. Some that have been like just, you know, one day, one night thing. We've seen it. We've heard about it after house parties. I mean, it's just amazing. And we've experienced things where people, we experienced where I used to call it you getting cut away from the herd. You know, we'd be in an event if you went to the bathroom all of a sudden to take you forever to come back. Well, because all these guys, that wouldn't come up and talk to you when I was standing there. All of a sudden, they looked like fucking raptors in the field. You saw the grass just moving there, all like fucking zooming in to try to talk to you. So the reality of it is understanding what you do, it's not harmless. I think that's a big part of it is, well, I got a little drunk, and yeah, well, she kind of didn't want to. She was hesitant, but we were making it out in the hall. There's a consequence that goes with that. Yeah. That comes with that. The other thing you see when you see these parties like this is the old ban list starts to really re-show up. Especially like for us. We get, because when you're part of lots of groups, people that are banned from different groups. Oh, yeah. And what you start to see in an area, same name. Group after group. And it's really... It is a big deal because the other challenge with Halloween, and the other reason to talk about this, is Halloween, it seems like there is a huge amount of swingers that their first event they go to, their first big party they go to, is a Halloween party. And think about it. If you're kind of unsure, you can be in a costume. You can kind of hide a little bit. You can whatever. And I bring that up because it makes it easy. It makes it easy to be manipulated or to forget what's going on. There's something just weird about that, the concept of a Halloween party. Like, we, when we first started, were pretty much attached to the hip. Yeah. But even with us, you're a little freer with the whole thing. Yeah. And it's a huge time to fucking, if you're not careful, to, you know, forget rules and whatever. And I know right now you're going, how does this relate to karma? You know, if you think, well, it's okay, I can bend the rules that you have in your relationship, karma will come screaming back on Monday morning. Remember, the Halloween party ends. And reality does come back, does come back in. And I think that's huge. I don't know. I just think, I always feel like Halloween, this time of year, you, it's like there's a different set of messages. I'm sure if you go back through the years, our Halloween shows are all like the fucking same thing. Well, actually, but if you think about it, every Halloween, I feel like we almost have to go on and give people, not necessarily a heads up, because most of them, But it's almost a reminder of the things that can happen because it is such a crazy party. I haven't been to a Halloween party that wasn't just nuts. Yeah. And not in a bad way. Not out of control. But I think dressing up a lot of people, you don't know who they are or you don't recognize them initially. And so it gives them a false sense of something. It kind of gives... Think of it this way. If you remember back to when you were a kid, Halloween fucking rock. Like all day of school. Because I got candy because I'm a sugar addict. Well, no shit. Every day at school, and you're still small, if you go trick-or-treating now. Every day... I don't think my face... Well, I guess if I put a mask over my face, I can hide as a little kid. Every day. Who wants to take me trick-or-treating? Oh, shit. Oh, candy. You're bringing it home, man. I can't wait to go through it. The dad in me, go through what I want. I'll share. I'm more apt to share now as an adult than I was as a kid, just saying. But if you think about it, all day at school was like, ah, you couldn't wait for like the ghost walk. It was like, you, it couldn't get dark fast enough so you could go out. I mean, it was just like, ah, if your parents would have said to you. As an adult, it goes down so fast. You're like, oh my God, it's dark. Yeah. I mean, but as a, if you, if your parents would have said, come on, we're going to walk to every house. She'd be like, Mom! But you're giving free shit away. They will run their fucking asses. Well, here's the thing. The exact same level of excitement, what you find is in the swing community, it's the exact same level of excitement. It's this huge buildup. It's Halloween. And in turn, boom! It gets fucking crazy. And that same kind of out-of-control twist applies to Halloween parties. All of a sudden, you have people fucking running through lobbies with tits hanging out. It's like, no, they would never do that normally. You know, you have people, I've seen more people puking ass drunk that are not normally puking ass drunk on Halloween. One of the first ones, it was like one of the guys was passed out in the hallway. Like early. It was early and he was dressed as like a blow up unicorn thing and he was passed out. He was fucking. Too much to drink, did we? Yeah, I mean, and seriously, it just ramps everything up. So when you're new, it's also exciting because A, it's Halloween, so it's still exciting. And you can, people are animals. We can sense the excitement in the room. We can feel it. And you're doing something new. There's something dirty, there's something, whatever this is, there's potential. And it is an incredible time for, rules to get broken. It's also generally, there's more eye candy to look at than Halloween. Well, I was going to say, Halloween gives more people, if you hit the bottom X, it doesn't pop up a page. Neat. But I think the wearing costumes, people are more apt to go a little bit more risque than they would at any other type of party because it's a costume. You're allowed to dress up and be naughty. I will be completely honest. The one part of having been in a lifestyle as long as we have, and then coupled with the stuff we do in the adult world, I wish I could figure out a way to go back a little bit. Do you remember the first time Teresa, I won't say the last name, had her tits out at the bar we always used to go to? Yeah. Oh, he got fucking excited. And you knew, you were like, you knew you were like, cool, look. Tits. A pair of tits. And I was like, because honestly, really had never seen a pair of tits out in public that wasn't at a fucking strip club, you know, on a stage. And it was just like, holy shit. Or the first party, the first Halloween party we went to, we didn't even know we were allowed to watch people fuck. So we were like trying to side-eye watching this couple fuck in public because we didn't know. If people that have been in a while can relate to the farm party. Yeah. We ended up, we ended up. That was our first Halloween party. And we're like, what can we do? We were, yeah, we wanted to, we were like, we're, we were in. And we were so horny, but we didn't know what to do or how to ask anybody. So there was a bed over downstairs, a whole bunch of other people in other areas. And we started fucking each other. We're like, we don't know what to do. So we'll just start having sex. And then other people come up and start watching. We're like, oh, you can watch. And then we're like, we could have said, hey, do you want to join? Oh, fuck. You know, because we didn't know. But it's that. It's that. I wish I could go back to that. That was a good one. and they're sitting next to you and they're sitting across the table and both of their eyes just go we just like about the size of of dinner plates right and and i'm i hear them sounds and i'm like is she stuck in somebody's dick he's like yeah yeah i don't know who it was somebody was like whatever and you're like you're just like to be able to have that again so i know for new people you know now uh Yeah, well, that's nice or whatever. Even at Exotica, usually every Exotica the first hour, I'm like, oh. You'll hear me just make a little grunt every now and then. That means somebody just walked by with an acid cold. Where he goes, wow. Yeah. And after like the 5.50, wow, I go, never mind, I'm not even turning to look. But then you get past it and it just becomes, okay. I mean. Gosh, what was it last year? Someone came running up to me. It's so great to see you. I'm like, who are you? He had a mask on. He goes, it's lucky. I'm like, I can't tell because you have this mask on. He goes, oh, I'm so sorry. The thing is, is it's not what we don't want to do with these Halloween shows. It's take people's fun away. You have, because look, at some point in time, not last weekend, two weekends ago, I went and filmed two people fucking for the studio. Right. And it was a good text. It was like, whatever. And I was more worried about lightning and all the rest of the shit. And it was good. It's like, yeah, okay. You're going to get there at some point in time. So we don't want to take away the enjoyment of it. But there still has to be the cautionary tale with it. For some reason, guys are big, dumb animals. And you start seeing girls with their asses hanging out. The temptation to touch is strong. You can't. It doesn't work. I mean, there's just so much sexually charged energy, and you have to be that, be ready for that. That was probably the last time I was blonde. I went as Marilyn Monroe. Uh-huh. Yeah. Yeah, and that was the one we hooked up, and she got up and she went screaming out of the room. She didn't scream. She was crying. She was crying. Cole made the girl cry. I don't know. I was done. Whatever. She was getting over medical issues, and that was the first time. They hadn't communicated. So the biggest thing, first part of the show is communicate. Number two, hey, if you're newbies, and if you're experienced people, I have a mission for you that are experienced out here. If you're experienced, watch out for the newbies a little bit. Yeah. Even if you don't know them, newbies, husband or wife, either one, Make it in stride when your significant other is just fucking oogling over the people there. Yeah. Don't, don't take it personal. No. Don't get, don't get butthurt about it. If you're the one oogling, try to rein in, remember a little bit. But here's the deal. Look, we've had this. this before, it's like, you know, boy, I don't look like her. And you, when you're new and it brought you down, it's like, you know, all right, see a guy and like, you look at this guy and he's all fine. I don't look like that. You can't, you can't let it do that. So one, cause Halloween is a huge part of time. Remember, remind each other before you go in, remind each other how much you love each other first. and that, you know what, you're going to be enamored with some things that you don't have. You know what, it always, for the longest time, and you still make fun of me, half of it this time is, I like tall girls. A girl with legs. Blonde with long legs. I'm fucking falling on. I don't have that. I'm falling on. And for, there was a time it was like. I will never have that. And the thing was is, but that's the joy of swinging is you're sampling something new. Right. Right. You have to remember that. So, one, have that conversation. Make sure you understand that you're both, that you're excited to see this other cool shit that's new, different, and whatever. And if you start to get twisted, this is why how much booze and shit like that is a huge thing. If you start to get twisted, grab your partner and say, hey, well, let's go outside for a little bit. And if you're the partner getting grabbed, don't worry. It'll all still be there when you get back. Go outside for a little bit. Another thing you have to keep in mind, though, is some people's costumes are pretty amazing. And it's not necessarily you're staring at them as a body shape or a certain look, but more of, oh, my God, can you imagine that costume? That's amazing. Or can you believe they're wearing that? That is what she's thinking. What I thought of was it was a walking piece of meat. Have to go with the strip club mindset. Don't touch without consent. Absolutely, Shannon. If you think someone is passing boundaries or et cetera, you said no, start screaming no over and over again. I think my life is lagging, so my comments might seem a bit behind. Consent is key. Remember, if you don't have that, then don't even try. I think she's talking about touching people. It's all right. I must be in the minority. Don't remember Halloween being fun when I was a kid, making up for a now laugh out loud. Okay, so... I was always anxious to go get candy, and it didn't matter how many houses I went to. One, if you need a break, have something figured out that if you need a break, go take a break. If you're the experienced couple and you're starting to see, you know, one, you should be trying to talk to some of the new couple because it's meeting new people. Right. But if you start to see a couple, look, we've been there. If you've been there, you'd recognize the signs. And I'm not saying go get involved in a marital dispute, but if you're starting to see stuff, you know, ladies. Break the tension by going and introducing yourself. Exactly. Ladies, if you see a guy, because if you know me, when I get focused on something, and there's a girl on a page that's going to test this, when I get focused, I'm focused. Beeline focused. You know what can break that? If you're with a cow and you start to see that, another girl coming over and starting to talk to me. Yeah. Because then that diverts. Same thing with a gal for a guy. Or like Amanda said, Ms. Amanda said, going over and introducing yourself. Help a new couple out. Because sometimes just having a couple to talk to can help kind of zone in everything in. Yes, you may run the risk as an experienced couple to have a newer couple kind of get clutchy a little bit. Yeah. And you just have to go, well, we'll be back. Nice to meet you. Or introduce them, drag them over to somebody else and pawn them up. I'm just saying. But the reality of it is that when you see that shit, two, have a plan for after the event. Especially, and I think this isn't so much just for new people. I think that we forget this in the lifestyles we've been in a while. There was a time when we were in the lifestyle, when we knew we always came home and had reconnection sex. my dick could work worth a shit at the fucking event or not. It was near the secondary. We still had reconnection sex. Yeah, no. I mean, at time, sometimes it's still good to have that plan. And that can be something whether you're new people or you're experienced people. Because Halloween, if it can be super hot, just overall with the whole overall tension. But if you're new people, make a plan. You know what? If you can fuck till 5 in the morning, we know, we've been there, we've done it, okay? And drive home, we still had enough energy to fuck one more time to fuck each other. Don't put, don't, don't not do that. Especially if you're new. Or if you, if, or if it's one of those things where, hey, we're morning people, okay, great. But have a plan with it because, again, it can get pretty, it can get pretty intense. And not in a bad way, but sexual tension, just the overall thing, can get pretty intense. I mean, if you're listening to this show, any Halloween parties you go to, watch the first dance of the night. Just take mental note of what you see. The first time they've got a lot of people on the dance floor, right? And then take a mental note of what you look like at the end of the night. Because it's a whole different ballgame. It went from people dancing and bopping to fucking people are grinding and humping all over on the floor. I mean, It's just a lot of times that's liquid. It's liquid. But the thing is, is know that that's going to, excuse me, be there. Whenever I was shy to get up and dance, I know it's hard to believe. I'd wait till everybody started drinking a lot and then I'd go up and start dancing because everybody's too drunk. And she also shows food in people's random mouth when she runs off and does it. I don't know what we're talking about. Shannon put, take a moment to talk to the new couple to break the view. Absolutely. And just to break the fucking, you may meet somebody really, Really cool. Fresh meat. No, I'm just kidding. Don't help anyone, anyone new out, couple or single. Yeah. Okay. And that's a great, that was going to be my other point. My next point was, you know, there are, it takes a tremendous amount of courage to go to a swinger party. Whether you're first time as a couple, single, poly, it doesn't matter what it is. We've heard the story about us, the first meet and greet, sitting outside smoking a pack of cigarettes, figuring out if we're going in. Because we were too nervous. And we had each other. And as a couple, you have each other for support and to basically cling to. So you know you have somebody to talk to. So take somebody you like, or otherwise you're stuck with that fucker. No. But it takes a tremendous amount of courage for a single male, or a single female to go to an event. Yeah, we were just talking about this on the way back from Nevada. Yep. About that if something were to happen, he goes, you'd go out. I'm like, probably not. Because I'm not one to go alone anywhere. The first thing, the biggest part with it is, take the stereotypes out. If you want to be successful, especially around Halloween, take the stereotypes. You know what? Every single male is not a dick. Every single female is not a fucking cunt. And every couple isn't just a fucking, you know, aren't assholes, whatever. Meet the people and judge the person on the person. If you meet a single male and he's a handsy dick, then guess what? He is a handsy dick. If you meet a single female and she's a raging cunt, She is a raging cunt. If you meet a couple and they're clickier and whatever, they are. Not overall whole groups of people. So, look, some of our best experiences have been with singles. Some of the fucking hottest times we had singles. There was a party we went to in Des Moines would have been, oh, fuck, before we started CASBA. and there was a single dude there and he was an ex-guy and it was a halloween party and it was like you know what my god that was 12 13 years ago yeah yeah and it was fucking and actually that was almost more that was hot water thing because i didn't i just watched i just watched and it was fucking incredibly hot And it was a great time. Because you know what we did? We didn't... We just wanted to talk to him. He's a person. That's it. It's a person. We've had some great hookups with single females at events. We've had some great hookups with single males at events. And I'm telling you that... Have we had negative ones? Of course. We all do. Have we met up with couples that were fucking complete fucking lunatic nut job pieces of shit? Yeah. We've had some fucking stories. How did we get naked with them? Let me read some of these things real quick. As a single, it's super hard, Jessica. Shannon, before we go to any event, we discuss the boundaries we have and discuss as many aspects as we can of the event. Absolutely. Oops. Scott, I've been in the lifestyle for years, and the first few times I went as a single after being part of a couple were very hard. Heather, it's definitely hard as a single going to events. I take extra courage every time. It takes extra courage every time I go. Rachel Heck, even with one-on-one, means I've had guys try to break boundaries and have... Stopped and left over it because they can't respect limits. Okay, so is it even still hard if you know the people are going to be there? I would imagine. I mean, I would think so because I'd be terrified of walking in and not... I'd be afraid of not knowing anybody even though I know I'm going to know people. Well, here's my thing on the singles. One, there's a couple of really good friends of ours. They generally played with just single males. Scott put yes. They generally played with just single males. And, you know, the challenges is these events that try to limit or price out single males and all that shit. You know, there are couples that that's what they're looking for. That's what they want to meet. And I'm going to put this out there both for single males and a single female. The safety factor, they don't have a wing person. And the safety factor is huge. And a lot of people go, oh, for single females. No, for single males as well. Because as a single male, you know what, here's the deal. Looking at us, I'm not the biggest guy, but apparently rumor happens that I'm intimidating. I don't get it, but whatever. People say that about me and look at me. The reality is, is that if somebody walks up to you and I'm, you know, they don't know and I get pissed off, And so it could, as a guy, if I was a single male, I would be terrified to come up and talk to you for fear that I would create an issue. Single females, obviously, just the overall safety factor in general. I mean, it is an issue. So we have a responsibility to make sure that those folks at the parties and feel welcome to. And you know what? Guess what? You're going to meet, you're going to be incredibly surprised if you've never spent some time talking to a single, how refreshing it is at a party. So a lot of them have commented. Scott, I've made a lot of friends over the years, but I wasn't sure people would accept me as a single guy. Single guys have a little less acceptance in lifestyle, so I wasn't sure what would happen. Jessica, whoop, where we go? Yes, exactly. Society still takes over even if I know people. I don't want the limited people. I do know. I feel like they have to. Stay with me all night. Yeah, I feel like a third wheel. Karen, I got to meet some great people last year at Halloween because a friend I met at another event introduced me to them. Definitely helped me feel more comfortable. Patrick agreed. Even Shannon, even being partner now after the most recent split, I feel like that. Absolutely. Larry, you're going to a party with different people and 200 different personalities. One person does not speak for everyone. New people are not going to know the difference between the good and the bad. That's exactly it. And that's, it's a huge, it's a huge, I'm telling you, we as individuals fuck ourselves more at lifestyle events than anybody else can fuck up our shit. That's the truth. We make decisions based upon Rumors, things we've heard, things we don't know, stereotypes. As people, we fucking kill more of our own events ourselves than anybody else ever will. So that brings me to another group of people that I want to talk about. So we're talking about singles at parties, and I'm telling you, you want to have some fun, give a single a try. Just saying. Just saying. Not to mention, and if you're somebody and you know somebody is uncomfortable as a single, you know what? Do the right fucking thing and include them. Don't make them fucking feel like they have to fucking stand. Don't let a single stand off in the corner. At least make an attempt. Now, if that's what they want to do, rock on. But just like a couple, don't make them just stand over in the corner. Fucking whatever. Okay, but I want to talk about the next group because this is a group that is more and more of a thing, an event, and I think it's 100% important to talk about. I want to talk about the folks that Don't drink. Don't do drugs. Don't do anything. Because here again, and this is kind of a new world because I cut my drinking close. I mean, I'm not totally not drinking, but pretty, pretty compared to what I've been, pretty fucking close to it. Is there something to read first? If you think so, read it. Well, you keep going with your thought. I'll catch up with that. So for when you're in an environment where the party mode is so fucking high, you know, again, I'm going to use the example. Think back to when you were a kid. Before you ever had a drink. Before you ever had a drink. Think about, and actually swinging, this is the greatest analogy of what swinging should be. When you were kids in the neighborhood, when a new kid moved in, Basically, you gave them a chance. If they were assholes, whatever. But most of the time, it didn't take much to make a new friend and be a new kid and including them in their shit. It's the same fucking thing, right? But if you think back to when you were a kid, you could have fun before you ever had booze. You could have fun, a group of you, without ever taking a drop of booze. You could have a fucking blast. Some of the best nights, you know, that's like Bruce Springsteen, Glory Days, think about it. Best night of your life type shit. You know what? That is possible now. Believe it or not, there are people in this world, and it's the fucking truth, that being drunk does not make for a fun night for them. For some reason, oh man, that was so much fun. That's not the way that their body works. But I think a lot of society, though, is turning less towards alcohol and more towards gummies and shit. Other substances. But even like that, you know what? This is part of what I've found in my own personal experience with this as I started going around, which is really funny. And I will take shit for this and I'll own it. Super drunk people, when you're not drinking, yep, and here it is, I'm owning this, are annoying as fuck. Okay? I am... And I know a lot of people are like, I fucking... that dickhead are annoying as fuck. I've had to babysit a few times. And I actually have thought many a night sit back and went, wow. And I was the one that was like, you weren't going to not have a drink with me type thing. And I made it fun. But how many people were, how many people don't come to CASBA events because the K and CASBA It'd be pretty fucked up. And look, for folks, if you drink, occasionally get in fucking train wreck. Amanda can't remember the last Halloween party. She was fucking blasted off her ass. I can remember it, some of it. Look, shit happens, but everything was every time I was drinking. And I look back now, and I go, okay. very good friends of ours that don't drink. And I respect the hell of them because honestly, for me, it's intimidating as hell now. It's a new learning curve to be at events without having that. And I understand the frustration for them and for other folks that aren't drinking of you're trying to stay within consent. You want to make sure you're dealing with things in consent. You want to have a conversation, you want to have fun, you want to fuck, but you don't want a slobber and fucking to fuck. So it's about being respectful of their boundaries and appreciating it. You're giggling. Raises his hand and admits he gets too chatty drunk. It is what it is. I'm giving myself to lighten minimum alcohol because some jobs will want to try to deal with it, will not want to deal with it, and you're out of a job. Better to be more level-headed in your big setting with people you don't know well enough. Very true. That's very true. Very true. And what happens is, the problem is that in the lifestyle, again, you may need a shot for liquid courage. that's fine but don't just because someone else says no or is drinking water or whatever don't they shouldn't feel not a part of the party i mean that's really the thing and you'll find hanging out with people like that and you're not trying to drink you will have some incredible fucking fun you will have a fucking blast and the challenge and at events and parties is making sure that it's a place that everybody, whether you're new, whether you're, you know, your experience, whether you are single or whether you drink or don't drink, everybody should feel welcome to part of the party. So that's the... I'm trying not to sneeze. What the fuck is going on around? Okay, so the... I'm trying not to sneeze. The next biggest thing I want to talk about on overall with... So the most disappointing thing to hear about any event I don't give a fuck whose event it is let me back up when you have basically made the lifestyle your career there's a degree of There's a huge degree of because it's a passion of ours. It's important to us. It's a passion of ours enough that we want to, in a world that doesn't necessarily celebrate swinging, this is what we do and we don't care. There's nothing more frustrating and disappointing and upsetting than when you hear people talk about an event and they say this magic frame. I didn't feel safe it is without a doubt one of the most frustrating things to hear in the lifestyle because you get it I understand it if you if you if here's what you do if you don't feel safe in an event you don't alter your habits. You don't alter what you do. Well, I don't feel safe, so I'm just going to stand over here. I'm just going to do this different. I'm going to do that different. No. That's the wrong answer. That's the absolutely wrong answer. Have you ever went and bought something and you couldn't return it? Bought it at a garage sale or bought it online and you couldn't return it and you got it home? And it absolutely just was like, fuck. It didn't fit. It didn't work. It was the wrong size. What about everything I buy online? But there's nothing you can do about it. No. You can't return it. You're just stuck with it. And it's just a learning curve. That's what you consider an event if you don't feel safe. If you're in an event and you don't feel safe, whether you are a single female, male, couple, whatever, You're not going to feel safer altering the rest of how you move around and do things the rest of the night. Leave. Fucking walk the fuck out. If it's a hotel takeover, check out. I mean, we would like for you to tell us. Well, here's the thing. Because there's something we could do about it. Here's the thing. Absolutely. Number one, the first thing you should do, if there's something you don't feel safe or comfortable with, you need to go to the event host. If you can find them. And right there, and there's a key phrase, if you can find them. If you can't find somebody to go to, you know what? Step two is leave, and you need to leave. Because if you can't find them, I mean, I don't just mean this. We've been to some parties where it was like, well, where's the event host? And they're like, well, they're gone. When people come up to you because they know that your events are safe because they don't feel safe. And I'm telling you this. Look, if you come up to my event. We've had people at a different event come up to us. to be their safety thing and to complain about something. And it's like, it's not our party. Go complain to this person. If you came up to me or my staff at one of our events and you had a problem with something that wasn't safe and we weren't able to fix that problem and you said, and you walked out, I would have no, I would expect nothing lost. And I'm telling you this, Because it is the truth We listen to events That people go Well I don't feel safe When I go there So I bring people with me Or I do this differently For their event Damn it That's not the fucking answer Because all that does Is perpetuates The fucking bullshit If you want to fucking Go to events that are safe If an event isn't safe Walk The fuck Out It's only money It's only fuckin' money. You know what? Check out of the fuckin' hotel and walk out. It doesn't matter what it costs you. Your safety is more important than that. Walk the fuck out. And go, that's a learning experience. And then the next part of it is, when the next year comes up, or when the next time, if it's the same event, or whatever, don't assume that it's gonna be different and better. Seeking volumes with your wallet is huge. Nobody wants to lose 40 bucks, 60 bucks, 100 bucks, whatever it costs for the event. No one wants to lose that. But what is your safety worth? Oh, great. I didn't lose the $250, but I sat there miserable and nervous the entire time, terrified that something was going to happen to me, not feeling safe or getting harassed, touched, whatever the case may be. To continue to do that, seriously, would you go? So pay somebody that much money to do that to you? The last thing you want is to hear after an event is the topic conversation is the negatives that happen. You would hope people would want to talk positives. Unfortunately, though, society, we were talking about this earlier about something completely different, not even Swinger related, is that if something negative happens to something, they're going to talk about that more than they are. We were talking about your hand surgery, that you're going to hear all the negatives that people have with it versus the positive experiences. is because it was positive and people were happy. They're not going to go rant and rave about it. The negatives, people are going to spat off about it. Here's the thing with the other experienced people. If you see something as an experienced person and you know that, well, I just don't feel safe if this happened, and you know that that's not the norm for this type of event, and you know who to go to, new people don't want to create a problem, then... So you can come up to you. Then you say, come with me. Or you go get the fucking person and say, hey, we have a problem. This is going on. Because ultimately, we were all there once. So maybe sometimes somebody doesn't feel safe because there's something that is actually not out of the ordinary, but they're new and they just perceived it different. You know what? That happens. But help them. Because the reality of it is, you know, the lifestyle is fun. The lifestyle is fun when it's fun. And the lifestyle can be fucking horrible. When shit goes south, it can be bad. Very, very bad. But don't... Hiding in the corner, painting and going, hiding in your room, that just isn't the answer. And I think that we live in a world where it's like, well, you need to change and just... suggest, no, you don't. That's not how this works. And any event people, if they're putting on an event, I don't care if you're having a house party at your house or doing a huge multi-hotel takeover like we do at times. Everybody has the same responsibility to make sure your guests feel safe. That's first and foremost. Safe. And I want to point that out because it's not just touching. It's physically badgering, hounding, hovering is one. Look, if you come to one of our events, you're going to see people that are cross-dusters, you're going to see people that are trans, you're going to see people that are all races, all sizes. That means any type of shaming or any of that bullshit, that's not, that's all things that make people not feel safe. Being treated shitty if you don't give in and do something that you don't want to do. to have a drink with somebody. All these things. So, you know, that's the key because seriously, and you hear it, we hear it after every Halloween season. Party after party. Something shit happens somewhere. And look, so it doesn't get misconstrued. Are our parties perfect? Nope. But what we do is we have the people there to figure out, To solve the problem. Our goal is to solve a problem immediately. And when we go places, we are expectation when we go to places and go to things, and a lot of things that we're going to is way more nudity and way more sex. That's part of it. That we expect that same level of give a fuck. And you should too. The thing is, have fun over Halloween, but for the love of God, think just as coach. Be smart about it. Okay, so next week, I'm going to be in a fucking, some sort of fucking weird hand wrap thing, and I'll be jacking off my other hand, and it'll be like a stranger, and I'll be like punching myself in the face, so I don't even know. Anyways, so. I'll help you as much as I can. Yeah, here we go, with your wing on. Stretch your legs out. You blonde. Ugh. Will you wear scrubs? Do you want me to wear scrubs? Maybe. I probably have some somewhere from the scrubs party. Man, that'd be awesome, because your tits will fucking fill up. Mmm. Nurse-y. Okay. Thanks, Scott. I appreciate it. I guess you do more for safety than other parties do. I appreciate that. I mean, that's important to us. I want people to treat her. Everybody should be treated the same way I expect her to be treated. We all know that if you treat her like shit, I'll probably kill you. So, I mean, as a general rule. So, you know, unless she's getting lippy, then you never know at that point. I'm just kidding. If I know who she is, sometimes her personality changes with her. Okay, so go to crazycasma.com, get your crazy winter night tickets, because we are selling on those. That's coming up in soon, fucking soon. January 30th, February 1st. And now you can obviously get crazy Vegas tickets, crazy summer nights, and the Halloween party, it's called the Witch's Brew Ball. Thank you very much. I came up with that. Is it like a blue ball? No, brew. You're a witch. You should fucking know. Write your broom over and figure it out. No, it was supposed to be funny. Witches, blue ball, witches, brew ball. Could have been, witches, blue ball. That's what I said, blue ball. Blue. Blue as in blue. Oh. Okay, we'll talk about this later. See what happens here? No, I'm just kidding. Fuck you. I'm going to have to. I won't be able to do it. I'm going to be all gummed up. Anyways, so yeah, so check all those things out. Definitely. Yeah, this one she doesn't wear a bra anymore either. I ain't stopped. Well, I do when I go out in public. Sometimes if I don't take it out of you first. Now, anyways, get her calendars too. You can order Miss Amanda's calendars. They are on her website now, missamanda.net. If you're going to be in New Jersey, you can come see us, booth 518 at Exotica. Santa will be there and so will Honey Bee and Savory Sunflower. Sweet Butterfly and Mr. Elmeet. And me. And Miss Amanda. And we're also going to have Fiona, the flight attendant, is going to stop over and sign some monographs as well. So there's all kinds of stuff going on. Leanne from Hustlers to Housewives will be there also. Yes. Yes, she will. Maybe I'll wear the blonde wig to mimic her. There you go. I told her I was trying to look like her. Can't talk about that on the air. Anyways, so yeah, so we'll be there. So get your pictures like this. Yeah. Get your tickets. Damn, I should have sent that to her. Oh, shit. God, what was I thinking? Get your tickets. Come visit. Get your calendar. She'll sign them. Pick a date and sign them. Actually, also, if you're coming to our meet and greet, which we won't be at, but Jessica's putting on, she will also have some of the calendars there. She can pick up a calendar there also. And otherwise, orders are going out. So, shout out again. Thank you, asnlifestylemagazine.com, motorbunny.com, discreet, discreet, dirty, We appreciate very much all of you guys as sponsors, and we look forward to it soon. With that being said, kids, doing it the only way I know how, the only way I want to, and the only way I ever fucking will, Casbah Style, out. Bye!